Cheesy FL-Vol
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Post by Cheesy FL-Vol on Sept 21, 2024 5:38:43 GMT -5
Soc worker finally texted back at 8 pm saying nut agreed to meet us at teens therapy tomorrow. Meanwhile I had done the right thing and cancelled therapy at before close of business as I agreed to for the therapist who was already agreeing to waive $50 24 cancelation as we had a long talk about teens mess. Soc worker knew this deadline. So I sent a desperate text to therapist asking if she had filled the spot as nut was on board. No word but appt not til 11. Soc also said to tell nut appt details. Um, already did in email a couple days ago that resulted in nut threatening me. Will text details to soc worker at 8 that she can fwd. I'm firmly in no contact mode with nut. Meanwhile will have to face her at 11. DH is coming with me and she will be getting the silent treatment. That will be part of my text to new therapist. Hope it's a really public busy office. Therapist already agreed that teen gets 100% of appt and she won't give nut any air time. Going to fill out the six pages of intake paperwork except consent and hide it in big purse that teen can take with her into appt. Betting nut waits til she's at appt to start it and also it includes background history of why therapy is needed so at least therapist can get full, right story. I'd decided not to tell teen that appt might be on bc it isn't official yet and I was hoping she could actually sleep tonight. Fucking nut called her at 10, she didn't answer. Then there were multiple texts and teen wouldn't tell me any of it but it clearly upset her. So wish she had the courage to block. Will text therapist to encourage that. Lil bro texted teen that soc worker showed up at middle school and said something happened to teen and he thought she was dead. Unclear what he knows about the seizures but geez soc get a clue on how to have hard convos. And just like the other 2 times I've hotlined medical neglect, seems like nut is going to eek thru and nothing changes except all of us stressed and more ill will everywhere. No word on nut and oral surgeon. School involved district head of soc work yesterday and she offered to assign teen an advocate to which we said hell yes. She also listed advice and I'm to back way off so I don't look like a vendetta against nut rights. I've been trying to be very factual with everyone but mama bear emotions do creep in. Principal called me mid morning and caught me in the midst of ugly cry so we cried together on the phone. A teacher also called and cried too. Teen walked in as I was mopping myself up. Hated that but also good she immediately went to I caused all this trouble for you that you didn't need and I was like hush, the system and you moms poor choicest did, you've been nothing but lovely with moments of teen angst. Also transparently told her that crying prob curbed my anxiety enough so I didn't start barfing...she should try it which resulted in teen jokingly throwing the tissue box at me and saying too soon. Love her! 🥰🥰🥰 You are one of a kind!
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Post by andi9899 on Sept 21, 2024 6:47:11 GMT -5
Having a beer. We discovered a room we didn't see originally when we looked at the house. We went back to get it inspected since we couldn't open the door the other day. It's a pretty nice storage space. It has an old riding mower in it now. I told them if it works, leave it. If not, take it. Same with some junk appliances they have there. A secret room? More like we just overlooked one. It's an exterior storage space. Get this. It had a riding mower from Montgomery Ward in it. It had to be older than me.
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Post by andi9899 on Sept 21, 2024 6:49:48 GMT -5
A friend needs a place to stay when her lease is up in January. I may tell her she can room with me. I have this big house to myself. Plus, the rent she would pay would help with replenishing my savings so I could make some changes I want. I know the twins mean a lot to you so is your friend going to be responsible about not letting them get out? If so, the extra $$ would be really cool. Yes. We'll be in the house a few months before her lease is up. The novelty will have worn off by then and they'll behave. Plus, it's not near any busy streets for them to get to.
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Post by The Walk of the Penguin Mich on Sept 21, 2024 7:00:43 GMT -5
In Bordeaux. Slept like crap last night because we had a 3 am wake up call and I always sleep like crap before an early morning flight. We were flying Aer Lingus and tried to use the kiosk to check a bag. My bag checked ok, for some reason the scanner didn’t like TD’s boarding pass and we had to go stand in another very long line to get it fixed. We tried a second kiosk with the same boarding pass and got the same problem. He was getting testy about it and I wanted to tell him to have them reprint his boarding pass, but he was so testy that I didn’t want my head bitten off. As we are standing in the long line, he said ‘maybe I should have reprinted my boarding pass’. Ya think? In his defense, and mine lack of sleep and no caffeine is not a great combo for either of us.
Found an airport cafe once we got to Bordeaux to kill some time. Had a decent ham sandwich on a baguette for breakfast along with coffee (ahhhhh, land of good bread), then got a taxi to our hotel. Room not ready, dropped luggage and did a HOHO bus tour. We did pass the river and saw our ship docked. Boarding is 11 tomorrow morning.
Sitting in a cafe across the street from hotel still waiting on a room. Might be able to get in now, just need to finish my tea.
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Post by andi9899 on Sept 21, 2024 8:00:32 GMT -5
Fed the twins and took them outside before it rains. When I took Macy out, there was poop on the tie out that I hadn't seen. So I had poop hand at 7 am. Lovely. Luckily Jackson had already gone out. So I only had the be grossed out for a few minutes before we came in and I profusely washed my hands.
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Post by azucena on Sept 21, 2024 8:11:15 GMT -5
Therapist is staying late to see us at 2. I'm attempting to make soc worker update nut as I'm determined to go no contact unless absolutely required. Said exceptions will include things like sitting across from her in therapist's waiting room while nut attempts to stare me down.
Meanwhile this means I'm missing another of dd12s volleyball games due to this mess. And DH will miss too to support me and teen. Grandma will take her.
I'm also assistant coach which has been a form of self care as I'm such a sport girl. But hey who needs self care when you're getting night after night of sleep interrupted by helping teen through seizures.
But yippee let's make sure we all bend over backwards so we don't violate nut's parental rights as she pretends to be a parent at the 11th hour AND inflicts more trauma on teen.
Oh fuck just realized that nut has the right to tell therapist not to talk to me. I hate life right now.
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Post by giramomma on Sept 21, 2024 8:16:42 GMT -5
Planning hats. I have a goal to try to knit 13 hats in october. I will hopefully get like 7 or 8 done.
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Post by azucena on Sept 21, 2024 8:19:01 GMT -5
Fwiw snark and dark humor help me cope.
Teen and I skipped school and work yesterday to shop for hoco suit and lucked out finding one at lane Bryant on coworkers recommendation. Cute young lady helped us pick it all out and doted on teen. Store isn't exactly teen's current style but she said she can see future teacher clothes there.
Bonus I found the quirkiest skeleton earrings and said dd12 would love them but too heavy. Teen actually bought them for gf bday next week so now I'm totally lording it over her that I helped find perfect present. She'd been so stressed that bday is so soon after starting dating.
We keep joking about how we can't let gf spending much time with dd12 bc they'd get along great and gf is singleton who craves a younger sis. It'd be just like my junior yr when dh used to come hang at my house and spend more time playing Legos and games with my 11 yo bro than seeing me rofl. There are worse things.
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Post by chiver78 on Sept 21, 2024 8:31:53 GMT -5
Can’t you email these files to yourself? As of about two years ago any attachment I email anywhere has to be justified for a business use. Somehow it knows when I attach something personal either from the way I downloaded it or the place I'm sending it (Hotmail, Gmail, etc). It's a total pain in the ass with no workaround.If I want to download kids shot records to send to school, I have to flip to dh computer and dig thru all his crap to find the download back and remember my Hotmail password etc. this was always our setup, and that functionality is now locked out like the USB ports. one of the questions I need to ask on Tuesday is how to unlock it so that I can still do my job for the time being. I sign/scan a TON of paperwork, and right now I'm having to send it internally to a team lead so that they can forward to my sites. such a pain in the ass.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Sept 21, 2024 8:45:47 GMT -5
How much snot can a freaking head hold?!
Good grief I am miserable. If this goes on much longer I'm going to have to suck it up and see a doctor.
I got stuff I want to do but my body wants to stay on the couch and grow roots into it.
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Post by TheOtherMe on Sept 21, 2024 8:46:50 GMT -5
Fwiw snark and dark humor help me cope. Teen and I skipped school and work yesterday to shop for hoco suit and lucked out finding one at lane Bryant on coworkers recommendation. Cute young lady helped us pick it all out and doted on teen. Store isn't exactly teen's current style but she said she can see future teacher clothes there. Bonus I found the quirkiest skeleton earrings and said dd12 would love them but too heavy. Teen actually bought them for gf bday next week so now I'm totally lording it over her that I helped find perfect present. She'd been so stressed that bday is so soon after starting dating. We keep joking about how we can't let gf spending much time with dd12 bc they'd get along great and gf is singleton who craves a younger sis. It'd be just like my junior yr when dh used to come hang at my house and spend more time playing Legos and games with my 11 yo bro than seeing me rofl. There are worse things. Again I hope teen gets the entire time with the therapist. She needs to get her trauma out of her system and figure out how to best handle it. She knows you and your DH are on her side. She knows how much you care about her and that's a good thing. I doubt she has ever felt loved before.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Sept 21, 2024 9:05:29 GMT -5
Ordered some UV lights that attach to the pot for my funeral plants. I noticed a few leaves on my mom's are yellow I don't think they are getting enough sun after we rearranged things for the new couch.
I also have one from FIL funeral.
The fact I've kept my mom's alive for two years is amazing to me.
I need to up my game though to keep them both long term.
I should probably research replanting here soon too they are both in the original containers.
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