what are you doing right now?

[TheOtherMe]

A catnip filled rainbow cat toy arrived today.  I have two stoned cats.  The tissue paper that it was wrapped in smells wonderful, too, and so does the outside wrapping.  

They are having a big old time tonight.

[NomoreDramaQ1015]

I'm home. Mom is doing good all things considered. She is terrified of hospitals though so she needs either me or my dad there.

We're going to do the same thing tomorrow. I'll stay so he can take a nap then we'll rotate out again.

I do not get the night crew at this place. I didn't like this one either.

Her day nurse though is FANTASTIC. I said we need to figure out how to file a compliment for him.

[countrygirl2]

Smokey was not nice this evening. He swatted at little guy, but he is wise and backs off. But he swatted at hubs and tried to bite him. Hubs gets mad and says who wants a damn cat like that? I don't know what his problem is. I go over and lovie dovey. Hubs said one day he will bite you too and that will be the end of it. He will reach out his paw and grab me, but nothing mean by it. Right now, he is curled up beside my legs and going to sleep, earlier he wanted his loving. Got on my lap, gave me that love look and purred like crazy, I petted and he snuggled with me, then got on the back of the recliner with me. He just talks to me, meows and goes on. For me the best cat ever, what can I say. Guess they just need to leave him be. Smokey will likely sleep on my feet tonight. He just flopped over for me to rub his tummy.

I treated both with flea treatment earlier today. I'm going to wait a couple of days to treat with the wormer, they didn't know if you could do both at once. They both hate topical applications, but I can hold them and get it on.  They are such beautiful cats. They were out in the far corner of the lawn when I called them in tonight. Smokey runs as hard as he can to the house, Tig tonight was just ambling along. I love these 2 guys.

Little guy had such a good time today, he played hard at the pool. He kind of played with some kids but none of them seem to play together like they used to. Have they all got sucked into electronics where they don't know how to play with each other?  I intend to take him back at least 2 to 3 more times before he leaves, but likely not tomorrow. And hope to get in a fishing day.

If I let him stay up 15 minutes or so past his bedtime, no arguing, he thinks he really gets to do something. I can't say enough about how good he has been this time, a total joy to have around.

He isn't going to tan I don't think, his skin is so white, his face was kind of red tonight. I did spray some sunscreen but it wasn't bad today. Boy some of the kids at the pool were totally brown. What tans they had, wow! DD got a bit of a tan, she enjoyed laying in one of the nice lounges they have there. They have tons of them they have bought for the pool area. The upper deck isn't open yet. And they are working on the slides, they said they let the kids go down too fast and were trying to slow it up. Maybe some got hurt or something? If I go each day for a week or so I will be really dark. My arms and such are now just from working in the garden. But I wear pants so my legs don't get a tan like that.

Well, going downstairs, taking my kitty down, and a book, and reading while I dry my hair. I did wash it tonight. This was a really good day today.

I also got grandma's bank recs todate done and on a spreadsheet. Got the number to report her death to VA also. Already have to insurance and the funeral home did to SS. I have to dig out the info for her small $50 a month pension, but I still need the death certificates before I can do much else. Have to go back in her file and dig out the pension stuff, should have kept a copy out. Will file info with medicaid too.

Next need to update our LLC info, bank statements way behind.  First few months will be easy, after that lots of receipts for the house he is working on. After he comes back from taking little guy home, need to get busy and clean and help him get ready to sell. If we can't will rent again, but I hate to.

[finnime]

Good morning, invisible royalty among pets and the world of Y Ma'am. I hope your Saturday is the proverbial picnic in the park, leaving you relaxed and happy.

Today I'll continue the very slow process of unpacking the multitude of boxes. And, get ready for tomorrow's journey to Maryland and then to Virginia.

We adopted Franklin the Dog from a rescue that took dogs from high-kill shelters in South Carolina. A woman in our neighborhood volunteered with them, taking puppies and fostering them until homes could be found. The rescue did do the home visit and confirm there was a veterinarian ready to see the dog. They also had a many-page contract that I signed, agreeing to spay/neuter by 6 months among many other things. I appreciate that they vetted adopters. Having a dog returned as a bad fit is a real problem for some organizations. We are really happy with Franklin. He was our 10th anniversary present to ourselves.

[giramomma]

I'm so tired.

I am up.

In that order.

[Opti]

Did Quordle for the first time prompted by a post. Very interesting. 

[chiver78]

Jul 30, 2022 6:56:28 GMT -5 Opti said:

Did Quordle for the first time prompted by a post. Very interesting. 

there's also octordle, worldle, and heardle. a poster here does a bunch more that she posts daily on FB. I need to remember her screen name here. if I do, I'll tag her.

[NoNamePerson]

Jul 30, 2022 7:39:24 GMT -5 chiver78 said:

Jul 30, 2022 6:56:28 GMT -5 Opti said:

Did Quordle for the first time prompted by a post. Very interesting. 

there's also octordle, worldle, and heardle. a poster here does a bunch more that she posts daily on FB. I need to remember her screen name here. if I do, I'll tag her.

I tried the bolded a few times but decided I spent way to much time on Wordle, Quordle and Worldle as it was so I dropped it. I'll have to check out Heardle - that one is new to me! Thanks for probably introducing me to my next addiction. I have way to much time on my hands  

ETA: I just found it. If I don't show up here for a month it will be your fault. Shame shame on you for leading me to a music game    

[NomoreDramaQ1015]

Got freaked out and took a Covid test. Between allergies, the super cold air in the hospital and the constant talking my throat was sore.

We've had a few people at work get it recently and who knows at a hospital.

The last thing I want is my mom getting it like MIL did.

Control line is developed and no test line so.I think I'm good.

Good thing I have 8 of these to use as my heart desires.

I'm negative and it's going away as I force myself to hydrate. It's been long enough from calculated possible exposure that if I was positive it should pop up.

I'll probably take another one if she gets to come home Monday or Tuesday just to be safe.

[The Walk of the Penguin Mich]

Jul 30, 2022 7:39:24 GMT -5 chiver78 said:

Jul 30, 2022 6:56:28 GMT -5 Opti said:

Did Quordle for the first time prompted by a post. Very interesting. 

there's also octordle, worldle, and heardle. a poster here does a bunch more that she posts daily on FB. I need to remember her screen name here. if I do, I'll tag her.

I do Wordle, Quortle and both daily regular and sequence Octordle.  I consider i5 a good day when I’ve gotten all 4.  I get all 4 on the same day about 60% of the time.

[chiver78]

shanendoah - can you share links to the various -ordles you play?

Mich, I used to do octordle daily as well, until they changed the interface most recently. so now it's quordle to get the brain moving, and then the original. anything else is a one-off now.

[The Walk of the Penguin Mich]

Jul 30, 2022 9:01:20 GMT -5 chiver78 said:

shanendoah - can you share links to the various -ordles you play?

Mich, I used to do octordle daily as well, until they changed the interface most recently. so now it's quordle to get the brain moving, and then the original. anything else is a one-off now.

I was chatting online with a friend of mine and we think that there is a difference in words between the eastern and western time zones.  On 7/28, he got the word elope and my word was stomp.  I had gotten elope on 7/25.  The last 2 days he has gotten the word in 1 try, trying to figure out the pattern they’re using from words I had gotten.  

So when you are comparing scores, it seems that you’re not comparing apples to apples.b I have a friend in Australia who plays, now I’m wondering about what word she gets.

[NomoreDramaQ1015]

Going back out to the hospital this afternoon.  That worked really well all things considered.   I told DH I am doing "better" mentally now that I have found my place and where I can help. Mom wants me there so I am going to skip working tonight.  The 15 year old is there and the rest of them can do fine without me.  Mom needs me more.

They both know I am terrified out of my wits when I am in a hospital, they said they were both impressed with how well I did.  I am so happy I could finally be useful.  I know I've been there emotionally for dad when is HUGE but I wanted to help mom specifically.

I am not overly impressed with the night shift at this hospital.  Nighttime shift has been like a box of chocolates you never know what you're going to get. 

Her day nurse is FANTASTIC.  I need to figure out how to give him a glowing review.  Mom blew me away when she told him she has complete faith in him.  My parents HATE doctors and nurses so for her to say that is something.  I really like him too.  I've told him that but I want to figure out how to give him a professional boost too.   Wish he could be her all day nurse but I know that's not how it works. 

DH and I have been in a disagreement about my dad going Hulk.  DH is the type that the doctor/nurses are always right and you just do what they say which worked SO WELL for MIL right?   I said I am neutral on the subject.  I have more backstory and have been around the hospital more than he has.  I also take into consideration my experience and MIL's experiences with CHI.    I'm cool with the administrators and other staff thinking my dad is a Karen.  He works with and cooperates with her actual team of doctors that is all I care about.

Gwen wants to come with me tonight.  That would be nice for me but I warned her we'll be there at least four hours and I cannot leave mom gets anxious so you aren't getting a dozen trips downstairs to play in the gift shop or go to the coffee shop or walk outside.  I am waiting for Abby to wake up after her sleepover I need to talk to her.  She has been wanting to see mom and mom is now awake to converse with no scary machines.  I want to respect her wishes but also recognize she is 8.  I think if I bring my phone and charger she'll be fine.

I need to get a get well card.  Gwen got a polaroid for her birthday.  Since we can't smuggle Phoebe into the hospital my mom suggested a picture.  Gwen ended up taking six of them because she said she was going to make grandma happy by stuffing a card full of photos.  

Hopefully she comes home in the following week.  The catheter is supposed to come out Monday at the latest.  

[Deleted]

DH fixed a great breakfast sandwich - eggs scrambled with fresh mozzarella and onions. I've got a 3rd load of laundry going, toilets and kitchen sink are scrubbed.

[skeeter]

I cannot tell you enough just how happy I am that your mom has improved enough to be able to come home next week NomoreDramaQ1015.

p.s.

Also, hope someone is able to tell Dr. Doom what a complete jerk/A-Hole he was for scaring the crap out of your entire family!

[busymom]

I think you guys jinxed me.  For the first time in ages, I lost my car keys yesterday.  I finally found them on the seat of my car in the garage.  Oh well, at least I found them.  

[cooper88]

Got a late start this morning and didn't get to the farmer's market until about eight. My favorite stand sells out of her good stuff by 7:30. The family that sells local beef did have beef short ribs buy two, get one and I took advantage of that deal. Also got dried dill weed since the caterpillars stripped all of mine this year, banana bread and honeysuckle tea. I'm home for the day now and just planning on kicking around the house and yard.

[chiver78]

I'm waiting on the party bus (aka mooch's full truck) to get here so we can go have a fun day with friends in RI. it's mooch, M, the pups, and some snacks and drinks. a friend of M's has a big campsite reserved at a place with pond/lake access. I've got a bunch of towels packed for the pups, my swimsuit in case I feel like going in, and I made a big batch of strawberry pico de gallo to add to the food spread. 

[NomoreDramaQ1015]

Jul 30, 2022 9:46:47 GMT -5 skeeter said:

I cannot tell you enough just how happy I am that your mom has improved enough to be able to come home next week NomoreDramaQ1015.

p.s.

Also, hope someone is able to tell Dr. Doom what a complete jerk/A-Hole he was for scaring the crap out of your entire family!

Unfortunately I didn't get a name with that guy.

But if like Nebraska Medicine they send out surveys I'm mentioning their weekend doctors are scaring the shit out of people without any input from the actual care team and openly admitting they don't know much about what is going on.

Sometimes hospitals actually do listen to those so I fill them out honestly.

[busymom]

That'd be great if your Mom can get back home soon NomoreDramaQ1015!     My relative has been in 2 different hospitals, and there is a "Doctor Doom" in each one, that emphasizes the worst possible outcome.  It's not that I don't want to hear the truth, but could you at least include the best outcome at the same time that you're telling me about the bad news?  Not sure when my relative is getting out of the hospital just yet.  Some days I get more information out of the nurses than I do the doctors.  At the very least he'll continue to stay in the hospital over the weekend.  It's been a long wait.

[NomoreDramaQ1015]

Jul 30, 2022 10:31:00 GMT -5 busymom said:

That'd be great if your Mom can get back home soon NomoreDramaQ1015!     My relative has been in 2 different hospitals, and there is a "Doctor Doom" in each one, that emphasizes the worst possible outcome.  It's not that I don't want to hear the truth, but could you at least include the best outcome at the same time that you're telling me about the bad news?  Not sure when my relative is getting out of the hospital just yet.  Some days I get more information out of the nurses than I do the doctors.  At the very least he'll continue to stay in the hospital over the weekend.  It's been a long wait.

Right? We've had issues with nurses too. Day is fantastic but I think that's in part they benefit from the doctors being there in person for constant feedback.

Then here comes random night nurse and starts undoing everything and has his or her own opinions.

Thinking maybe hospitals. Should go back to more written word because things get lost like mom allowed to sit up more if Erecords aren't updated in real time.

I'm fine with being realistic but do so with the whole picture and ALL the information. The head cardiologist has been fantastic in that regard and I told him.how much I valued being talked to like an adult.

Weekend doctor saw my mom for five minutes and even admitted he's not a part of her team he was just there to pop in.

Those doctors and the residents and students can keep their statistics and shit to themselves and I think that should be a part of training. If we ask sure. Otherwise those conversations are handled by the care team.

[wvugurl26]

We slept in this morning. DH is cleaning up the backyard. I need to get laundry going. And finish picking up inside. We are keeping his sister's dog tonight. He is pretty good but no need to leave unnecessary temptation around.

[The Walk of the Penguin Mich]

Jul 30, 2022 9:29:12 GMT -5 NomoreDramaQ1015 said:

Going back out to the hospital this afternoon.  That worked really well all things considered.   I told DH I am doing "better" mentally now that I have found my place and where I can help. Mom wants me there so I am going to skip working tonight.  The 15 year old is there and the rest of them can do fine without me.  Mom needs me more.

They both know I am terrified out of my wits when I am in a hospital, they said they were both impressed with how well I did.  I am so happy I could finally be useful.  I know I've been there emotionally for dad when is HUGE but I wanted to help mom specifically.

I am not overly impressed with the night shift at this hospital.  Nighttime shift has been like a box of chocolates you never know what you're going to get. 

Her day nurse is FANTASTIC.  I need to figure out how to give him a glowing review.  Mom blew me away when she told him she has complete faith in him.  My parents HATE doctors and nurses so for her to say that is something.  I really like him too.  I've told him that but I want to figure out how to give him a professional boost too.   Wish he could be her all day nurse but I know that's not how it works. 

DH and I have been in a disagreement about my dad going Hulk.  DH is the type that the doctor/nurses are always right and you just do what they say which worked SO WELL for MIL right?   I said I am neutral on the subject.  I have more backstory and have been around the hospital more than he has.  I also take into consideration my experience and MIL's experiences with CHI.    I'm cool with the administrators and other staff thinking my dad is a Karen.  He works with and cooperates with her actual team of doctors that is all I care about.

Gwen wants to come with me tonight.  That would be nice for me but I warned her we'll be there at least four hours and I cannot leave mom gets anxious so you aren't getting a dozen trips downstairs to play in the gift shop or go to the coffee shop or walk outside.  I am waiting for Abby to wake up after her sleepover I need to talk to her.  She has been wanting to see mom and mom is now awake to converse with no scary machines.  I want to respect her wishes but also recognize she is 8.  I think if I bring my phone and charger she'll be fine.

I need to get a get well card.  Gwen got a polaroid for her birthday.  Since we can't smuggle Phoebe into the hospital my mom suggested a picture.  Gwen ended up taking six of them because she said she was going to make grandma happy by stuffing a card full of photos.  

Hopefully she comes home in the following week.  The catheter is supposed to come out Monday at the latest.  

You'd think that since you have more experience that he'd understand.  I have dealt with more than my share of BS from doctors and nurses and they are not always right.  Not only that, when they are wrong and you call them on it they rarely admit that they goofed.  The most important thing you can do is advocate for yourself (or have someone advocate for you if you cannot) and educate yourself to the point where you understand your condition as well as possible.  My dad and his wife (and my mom) were of the same line of thought and trying to explain this to them was impossible.  I gave up.

Has your mom seen any PT?  Even with a catheter, they can get her up and moving - and they should.  

Glad she's doing better.

[The Walk of the Penguin Mich]

TD was up at 6 this morning and has now gone back to bed.  He's out like a light.  His sleeping patterns really suck and I'm not sure how much of this has to do with the heat or his RLS.  I suspect the heat is exacerbating his RLS, which makes sleeping difficult.  I'll just let him sleep awhile.

Tonight we have reservations here for my birthday last week.  www.silverreefcasino.com/steak-house-menu

I'm most excited about their tableside Caesar's salad!  Not sure what I'll be getting tonight.  I think we'll bring our own bottle of wine, they do have a corkage fee though.

[azucena]

Jul 30, 2022 10:40:00 GMT -5 NomoreDramaQ1015 said:

Jul 30, 2022 10:31:00 GMT -5 busymom said:

That'd be great if your Mom can get back home soon NomoreDramaQ1015!     My relative has been in 2 different hospitals, and there is a "Doctor Doom" in each one, that emphasizes the worst possible outcome.  It's not that I don't want to hear the truth, but could you at least include the best outcome at the same time that you're telling me about the bad news?  Not sure when my relative is getting out of the hospital just yet.  Some days I get more information out of the nurses than I do the doctors.  At the very least he'll continue to stay in the hospital over the weekend.  It's been a long wait.

Right? We've had issues with nurses too. Day is fantastic but I think that's in part they benefit from the doctors being there in person for constant feedback.

Then here comes random night nurse and starts undoing everything and has his or her own opinions.

Thinking maybe hospitals. Should go back to more written word because things get lost like mom allowed to sit up more if Erecords aren't updated in real time.

I'm fine with being realistic but do so with the whole picture and ALL the information. The head cardiologist has been fantastic in that regard and I told him.how much I valued being talked to like an adult.

Weekend doctor saw my mom for five minutes and even admitted he's not a part of her team he was just there to pop in.

Those doctors and the residents and students can keep their statistics and shit to themselves and I think that should be a part of training. If we ask sure. Otherwise those conversations are handled by the care team.

Drama - do find a way to file a compliment for the good nurses. It always brightened my day to do that. Great nurses are a godsend! Sometimes they get little treats or bonuses based on comment cards.

[stillmovingforward]

Wandering off in search of dinner. It's an experience. No written English here so it's by picture.

[NomoreDramaQ1015]

Jul 30, 2022 10:53:00 GMT -5 The Walk of the Penguin Mich said:

Jul 30, 2022 9:29:12 GMT -5 NomoreDramaQ1015 said:

Going back out to the hospital this afternoon.  That worked really well all things considered.   I told DH I am doing "better" mentally now that I have found my place and where I can help. Mom wants me there so I am going to skip working tonight.  The 15 year old is there and the rest of them can do fine without me.  Mom needs me more.

They both know I am terrified out of my wits when I am in a hospital, they said they were both impressed with how well I did.  I am so happy I could finally be useful.  I know I've been there emotionally for dad when is HUGE but I wanted to help mom specifically.

I am not overly impressed with the night shift at this hospital.  Nighttime shift has been like a box of chocolates you never know what you're going to get. 

Her day nurse is FANTASTIC.  I need to figure out how to give him a glowing review.  Mom blew me away when she told him she has complete faith in him.  My parents HATE doctors and nurses so for her to say that is something.  I really like him too.  I've told him that but I want to figure out how to give him a professional boost too.   Wish he could be her all day nurse but I know that's not how it works. 

DH and I have been in a disagreement about my dad going Hulk.  DH is the type that the doctor/nurses are always right and you just do what they say which worked SO WELL for MIL right?   I said I am neutral on the subject.  I have more backstory and have been around the hospital more than he has.  I also take into consideration my experience and MIL's experiences with CHI.    I'm cool with the administrators and other staff thinking my dad is a Karen.  He works with and cooperates with her actual team of doctors that is all I care about.

Gwen wants to come with me tonight.  That would be nice for me but I warned her we'll be there at least four hours and I cannot leave mom gets anxious so you aren't getting a dozen trips downstairs to play in the gift shop or go to the coffee shop or walk outside.  I am waiting for Abby to wake up after her sleepover I need to talk to her.  She has been wanting to see mom and mom is now awake to converse with no scary machines.  I want to respect her wishes but also recognize she is 8.  I think if I bring my phone and charger she'll be fine.

I need to get a get well card.  Gwen got a polaroid for her birthday.  Since we can't smuggle Phoebe into the hospital my mom suggested a picture.  Gwen ended up taking six of them because she said she was going to make grandma happy by stuffing a card full of photos.  

Hopefully she comes home in the following week.  The catheter is supposed to come out Monday at the latest.  

You'd think that since you have more experience that he'd understand.  I have dealt with more than my share of BS from doctors and nurses and they are not always right.  Not only that, when they are wrong and you call them on it they rarely admit that they goofed.  The most important thing you can do is advocate for yourself (or have someone advocate for you if you cannot) and educate yourself to the point where you understand your condition as well as possible.  My dad and his wife (and my mom) were of the same line of thought and trying to explain this to them was impossible.  I gave up.

Has your mom seen any PT?  Even with a catheter, they can get her up and moving - and they should.  

Glad she's doing better.

Not yet I don't think.  She still has the balloon catheter in and she had to keep her leg straight so she doesn't dislodge it.  Her team is okay with her sitting up for very short periods and they can adjust the bed so she is not completely prone.  Her day nurse said they will be getting her to sitting in the chair here soon and get her moving around before she goes home.

My dad fiercely advocates for my mother.  My dad uses extremely strong language sometimes but IMO there is absolutely no one else you would want in your corner in these situations because he will fight to the death for his loved ones.   

I am not going to lie sometimes I resent DH and his siblings for not fighting for his mom harder.  While in the end there was nothing they could do and yeah she could make her own decisions for fuck's sake there were so many times IMHO they should have pushed back on some of those quacks she was seeing.   I had a temper tantrum when she announced the surgery I told DH you three need to take a stand against her AND the doctors.  I said they keep doing this your mom is going to die.  WHY is nobody asking questions over why they are so eager to keep hacking up an 84 year old woman?!

And WHY are they so eager to do not critical surgery during a pandemic!?

Sure as shit I was right.  She caught COVID and died. 

If it had been us in the situation my brother, dad and I would have made ourselves VERY loudly known to her and everyone else involved.  She may have still decided to do but you better believe we would have questioned EVERYTHING.  

And yes doctors absolutely can be wrong.  They were horribly wrong with my grandmother and MIL.  We had a malpractice suit with the doctors in regards to my grandmother.  They fucked up with me when I was pregnant, fortunately they didn't get as far as doing invasive tests and Gwen disappeared FOR FIVE HOURS because the pediatrician never bothered to tell anyone she admitted her to the NICU and apparently the NICU staff didn't question a baby showing up without the perinatologist's signature.   

Oh and let's not forget Dr. Pill Pusher who was my husband and my MIL's dealer.

So I'm fine with my dad telling Peacock nurse to get out she's stressing my mom and insisting a different night nurse be assigned to the room instead.   I fired a doctor at Nebraska Medicine after she got DH convinced we were having a mutant baby with her shit bedside manner.  I said I wasn't coming for the second unless they assigned someone different.  He was fantastic and got DH peeled off the ceiling. I made sure to thank him for it.

[raeoflyte]

I thought we'd have a sickie weekend of projects. Instead we're having a sickie weekend of being sick. I should have a week or more of no work that I can find the house back.

[The Walk of the Penguin Mich]

Jul 30, 2022 11:09:59 GMT -5 NomoreDramaQ1015 said:

Jul 30, 2022 10:53:00 GMT -5 The Walk of the Penguin Mich said:

You'd think that since you have more experience that he'd understand.  I have dealt with more than my share of BS from doctors and nurses and they are not always right.  Not only that, when they are wrong and you call them on it they rarely admit that they goofed.  The most important thing you can do is advocate for yourself (or have someone advocate for you if you cannot) and educate yourself to the point where you understand your condition as well as possible.  My dad and his wife (and my mom) were of the same line of thought and trying to explain this to them was impossible.  I gave up.

Has your mom seen any PT?  Even with a catheter, they can get her up and moving - and they should.  

Glad she's doing better.

Not yet I don't think.  She still has the balloon catheter in and she had to keep her leg straight so she doesn't dislodge it.  Her team is okay with her sitting up for very short periods and they can adjust the bed so she is not completely prone.  Her day nurse said they will be getting her to sitting in the chair here soon and get her moving around before she goes home.

My dad fiercely advocates for my mother.  My dad uses extremely strong language sometimes but IMO there is absolutely no one else you would want in your corner in these situations because he will fight to the death for his loved ones.   

I am not going to lie sometimes I resent DH and his siblings for not fighting for his mom harder.  While in the end there was nothing they could do and yeah she could make her own decisions for fuck's sake there were so many times IMHO they should have pushed back on some of those quacks she was seeing.   I had a temper tantrum when she announced the surgery I told DH you three need to take a stand against her AND the doctors.  I said they keep doing this your mom is going to die.  WHY is nobody asking questions over why they are so eager to keep hacking up an 84 year old woman?!

And WHY are they so eager to do not critical surgery during a pandemic!?

Sure as shit I was right.  She caught COVID and died. 

If it had been us in the situation my brother, dad and I would have made ourselves VERY loudly known to her and everyone else involved.  She may have still decided to do but you better believe we would have questioned EVERYTHING.  

And yes doctors absolutely can be wrong.  They were horribly wrong with my grandmother and MIL.  We had a malpractice suit with the doctors in regards to my grandmother.  They fucked up with me when I was pregnant, fortunately they didn't get as far as doing invasive tests and Gwen disappeared FOR FIVE HOURS because the pediatrician never bothered to tell anyone she admitted her to the NICU and apparently the NICU staff didn't question a baby showing up without the perinatologist's signature.   

Oh and let's not forget Dr. Pill Pusher who was my husband and my MIL's dealer.

So I'm fine with my dad telling Peacock nurse to get out she's stressing my mom and insisting a different night nurse be assigned to the room instead.   I fired a doctor at Nebraska Medicine after she got DH convinced we were having a mutant baby with her shit bedside manner.  I said I wasn't coming for the second unless they assigned someone different.  He was fantastic.

I think a lot of people aren't aware of their rights in a hospital and we have been conditioned to think the way we and our loved ones get treated sometimes is the price we pay for "excellent" care.  American Health Care is so broken.

I'm going to push back a little here because I was in this situation myself.  I pushed BOTH of my parents as much as a could (despite being 1500 miles away) and there was a time where regardless of what I said, the doctor was right.  I had to let them make their own choices, it was either that or lose my mind.  You have absolutely no idea how frustrated I was watching what my dad went through following his bypass surgery - where the fluid was collecting and the doctor's kept saying that they'd lasix it off.  Only problem was that the fluid was collecting faster than the lasix was working and his O2 requirements were increasing because he couldn't breathe.  It only took them 7 days (in a ward where there were MRSA warnings on a good 50% of the room doors) for them to finally tap his chest and I forgot how many liters of fluid they got out of him.  I got pissed, I wanted him gone before he picked up MRSA in that gaping incision on his chest.  I finally threw a temper tantrum - and my stepmom said "how do you know there was so MRSA on the ward?".  EVERY FREAKING DOOR leading up to dad's room had a notice on it!  After they tapped his chest, he was able to walk, fluid stopped collecting and he was released 24 hours later.  I was soooo pissed off.  I was supposed to be off a week, I was gone nearly 3 weeks.  Luckily I had an understanding boss.  

I'm not even going to start on the nightmare I dealt with in KY when I got infected.  I had to get out of there, or I was afraid they'd kill me.  I wound up checking out against medical advice.  They thought I was a pain in the ass - and I was because I demanded that I receive my antibiotics and pain meds on time.  I demanded that they stop sticking me after they failed to get a vein 5x (I should have stopped them sooner).  I called a gaggle of orthopedic residents f^&*ing liars when they tried to force me into surgery by telling me I was infected with MRSA (actually, that was fun because they were arrogant as shit and I called them on why I did NOT have MRSA .  The lone female resident couldn't look at me because I think she was trying to avoid laughing at them getting called an idiot).  I dealt with so much crap those 9 days.  It was exhausting - especially when you are alone and feel like crap.

It's not just America.  There are nightmares like this world wide.  

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Got a lot done this morning -- pool closed so I kickboxed instead. Went to the bank, pet store for litter, craft store for a new frame, fancy food store for DH's favorite bananas and macaroni salad and then home. Showered and cleaned the shower stall at the same time, and then fixed lunch.

I need to clean all the fancy stuff from the sideboard so I can put it all back when the artwork is hung up (that is what the frame is for). Eventually, that sideboard will be our coffee station.

Also continuing to work on my retirement -- nine months away now.

Making the last of the shrimp tonight from a five-pound bag I bought a few weeks back.