what are you doing right now?

[stillmovingforward]

Jul 28, 2022 10:11:38 GMT -5 NomoreDramaQ1015 said:

Jul 28, 2022 9:59:03 GMT -5 TheOtherMe said:

When mom was hospitalized the last time, dad didn't want to leave.  He needed to sleep.  Mom intervened and told him to get out of there.  

On New Year's Eve, DN2 and DN3 spent the night with Grandma in her room at the hospital so grandpa could sleep.  DN2 was in college at the time and DN3 was at his first real job.  Yes, they were home for Christmas but I know they each had New Year's Eve plans that didn't involved sitting in a hospital room all night.

We're a little family so don't have familial support. I reached out to my dad's oldest friend, the one relative who has anything to do with us and lives in state, mom's best friend and Bob's best friend. IDK if any of them will take my hint but I told them Bob and I are exhausted. Dad won't leave the hospital. If any of the four of them are willing to visit or call it would be a HUGE help right now.

Can't think of anyone who can help with the business at the moment.  I suppose Bob could try one of our old coworkers but he works A LOT so it might not be feasible.

That's sad but I get it. Our family is quite little as well and has no one outside we can turn to.
I really hope their friends get the hint and can help!

[bean29]

Jul 28, 2022 11:22:51 GMT -5 andi9899 said:

Trying to figure out who would get their CDL at age 82. Also wondering why someone thought it was ok to put them behind the wheel of a semi. Now we have a claim that is getting denied because the driver doesn’t fit the guidelines. What?!

I am thinking Sounds like Phil.  I am pretty sure he was driving big equipment like that and he was pretty up in years.

[countrygirl2]

I know when I go to a hospital or for tests it's going to take f o r e v e r. The reason is the hospitals are so short staffed the ones working are likely stressed to the limits.

Sure, all kinds of people want those jobs but don't want to have to do the school or training they have to get. Since the pandemic many have died, have long covid, or retired.  I get frustrated but I take a book and read. I also am kind to the providers. Saying thank you and asking what happened and please keep me informed so something like that doesn't happen again will go a long way.

You take an equally, tired, stressed professional and they can get aggravated too. I try to think both ways.

And no there is no excuse, but I just try to deal with it.

[chiver78]

Jul 28, 2022 9:02:25 GMT -5 Knee Deep in Water Chloe said:

Jul 28, 2022 8:28:28 GMT -5 chiver78 said:

I made it, and the office is really empty. I've counted 10 people so far on this floor, none of whom look even remotely familiar to me. tell me again why I had to come in?     at least my one teammate (B) will be coming in. he texted me to say he had mixed up the bus times and that he would actually make it here first. so that's good. he and I are the sort of pair that shouldn't be allowed to sit together in quiet meetings.     

I missed like 30 pages. Why did you have to go in?

I'm currently sitting on a harbor cruise boat. it's a "team building" thing. come on, I live at the beach. I can't skip this? I don't know 3/4 of the boat anyway.

[The Walk of the Penguin Mich]

Jul 27, 2022 19:57:38 GMT -5 NomoreDramaQ1015 said:

Jul 27, 2022 19:47:42 GMT -5 @pinkcshmere said:

I’m so sorry they let this happen. I don’t know what else to say.

He's off the ledge he texted me a little bit ago.  I told him I am supportive if he wants to move her and she is capable of being moved Nebraska Medicine is a good hospital.  BUT I told him you're never going to forgive yourself if something happens in transit so sit on it.  Patient Services showed up to do damage control.

I asked him how long he has slept.  11 hours total.  I told him you're not doing mom or yourself any good.  I am willing to come up on Friday and I'll spend the night.  He probably won't be willing to leave and I am not sure mom would be okay with it.  I said I can come up and YOU sleep.  I'll stay up with mom.   I said you won't do mom any good crashing, she's going to start focusing on you.  I can help.

It's not like I can run the resturant Bob and J have that covered.  I want to help.

When I was in the hospital, there was a sofa in my room that TD slept on more than one night.  The nurses brought him a sheet, blanket and pillow so he could sleep, and didn’t need to drive 100 miles home only to turn around and drive back.  Is something like this available?

I am sorry you are dealing with this.  Maybe someone can give him something so he can get a decent nights sleep so he can be there for his wife in a better condition?  

[NomoreDramaQ1015]

Jul 28, 2022 12:46:49 GMT -5 The Walk of the Penguin Mich said:

Jul 27, 2022 19:57:38 GMT -5 NomoreDramaQ1015 said:

He's off the ledge he texted me a little bit ago.  I told him I am supportive if he wants to move her and she is capable of being moved Nebraska Medicine is a good hospital.  BUT I told him you're never going to forgive yourself if something happens in transit so sit on it.  Patient Services showed up to do damage control.

I asked him how long he has slept.  11 hours total.  I told him you're not doing mom or yourself any good.  I am willing to come up on Friday and I'll spend the night.  He probably won't be willing to leave and I am not sure mom would be okay with it.  I said I can come up and YOU sleep.  I'll stay up with mom.   I said you won't do mom any good crashing, she's going to start focusing on you.  I can help.

It's not like I can run the resturant Bob and J have that covered.  I want to help.

When I was in the hospital, there was a sofa in my room that TD slept on more than one night.  The nurses brought him a sheet, blanket and pillow so he could sleep, and didn’t need to drive 100 miles home only to turn around and drive back.  Is something like this available?

I am sorry you are dealing with this.  Maybe someone can give him something so he can get a decent nights sleep so he can be there for his wife in a better condition?  

There is.  Bob and I were just talking about it and agreed he's not sleeping because he is terrified something is going to happen.   I know we need to know when she had the actual heart attack so we can make decisions but that has spiraled my dad into a wormhole of guilt and anxiety.  He's terrified if he goes to sleep something will happen again and this time she dies.

Which is why I am going out there.  I told him you don't have to go home if you and mom don't want you to.  BUT you will sleep.  *I* will keep watch and reassure mom you are still in the room.  I get she has anxiety too but he's going to end up in the bed next to her.   She'll hopefully be more cooperative if it is me sitting with her as opposed to a nurse.

And I'm sure some of if is the medication and disorientation after being under for a week.  Hopefully she gets better with that as time goes on.

I'm thinking of taking some Zquill with me.  He may not take it but I can offer it.  Shit knocked me out for almost 12 hours.

[The Walk of the Penguin Mich]

Jul 28, 2022 13:15:22 GMT -5 NomoreDramaQ1015 said:

Jul 28, 2022 12:46:49 GMT -5 The Walk of the Penguin Mich said:

When I was in the hospital, there was a sofa in my room that TD slept on more than one night.  The nurses brought him a sheet, blanket and pillow so he could sleep, and didn’t need to drive 100 miles home only to turn around and drive back.  Is something like this available?

I am sorry you are dealing with this.  Maybe someone can give him something so he can get a decent nights sleep so he can be there for his wife in a better condition?  

There is.  Bob and I were just talking about it and agreed he's not sleeping because he is terrified something is going to happen.   I know we need to know when she had the actual heart attack so we can make decisions but that has spiraled my dad into a wormhole of guilt and anxiety.  He's terrified if he goes to sleep something will happen again and this time she dies.

Which is why I am going out there.  I told him you don't have to go home if you and mom don't want you to.  BUT you will sleep.  *I* will keep watch and reassure mom you are still in the room.  I get she has anxiety too but he's going to end up in the bed next to her.   She'll hopefully be more cooperative if it is me sitting with her as opposed to a nurse.

And I'm sure some of if is the medication and disorientation after being under for a week.  Hopefully she gets better with that as time goes on.

I'm thinking of taking some Zquill with me.  He may not take it but I can offer it.  Shit knocked me out for almost 12 hours.

This sounds like a plan.  NyQuil knocks me out, but you might see if you can’t get a doctor to prescribe something.  

[NomoreDramaQ1015]

Jul 28, 2022 13:19:10 GMT -5 The Walk of the Penguin Mich said:

Jul 28, 2022 13:15:22 GMT -5 NomoreDramaQ1015 said:

There is.  Bob and I were just talking about it and agreed he's not sleeping because he is terrified something is going to happen.   I know we need to know when she had the actual heart attack so we can make decisions but that has spiraled my dad into a wormhole of guilt and anxiety.  He's terrified if he goes to sleep something will happen again and this time she dies.

Which is why I am going out there.  I told him you don't have to go home if you and mom don't want you to.  BUT you will sleep.  *I* will keep watch and reassure mom you are still in the room.  I get she has anxiety too but he's going to end up in the bed next to her.   She'll hopefully be more cooperative if it is me sitting with her as opposed to a nurse.

And I'm sure some of if is the medication and disorientation after being under for a week.  Hopefully she gets better with that as time goes on.

I'm thinking of taking some Zquill with me.  He may not take it but I can offer it.  Shit knocked me out for almost 12 hours.

This sounds like a plan.  NyQuil knocks me out, but you might see if you can’t get a doctor to prescribe something.  

I asked the nurse to shoot him with a tranq dart and I would claim I saw nothing but he said that's not how it works. 

[NomoreDramaQ1015]

Jul 28, 2022 12:26:19 GMT -5 countrygirl2 said:

I know when I got to a hospital or tests its going to take f o r e v e r. The reason is the hospitals are so short staffed the ones working are likely stressed to the limits.

Sure all kinds of people want those jobs but don't want to have to do the school or training they have to get. Since the pandemic many have died, have long covid, or retired.  I get frustrated but I take a book and read. I also am kind to the providers. Saying thank you and  asking what happened and please keep me informed so something like that doesn't happen again will go a long way.

You take an equally, tired, stressed professional and they can get aggravated too. I try to think both ways.

And no there is no excuse, but I just try to deal with it.

I am going to disagree with this one.  This isn't like waiting on your car or an appliance repair.  Those things are annoying and can make life difficult but it tends to not be life/death situations.

You are dealing with people and people's lives.  You are dealing with loved ones.  If my vet can be way under staffed and still take the time to sit with me and have his front desk lady call my husband when Charlotte came up positive for heartworms then a fucking medical clinic can take the time to sweep the waiting room to make sure nobody is left behind.

 Heads should roll for crap like that.   Health care is never going to get better if we just shrug our shoulders and deal.  They've conditioned us to believe that this behavior is acceptable.  I get better respect and consideration for my DOG.  Don't get me wrong I love my pets but that's messed up.

He lodged a formal complaint with the hospital.  I am thinking of adding one too over that night nurse.

[andi9899]

Jul 28, 2022 11:36:50 GMT -5 bean29 said:

Jul 28, 2022 11:22:51 GMT -5 andi9899 said:

Trying to figure out who would get their CDL at age 82. Also wondering why someone thought it was ok to put them behind the wheel of a semi. Now we have a claim that is getting denied because the driver doesn’t fit the guidelines. What?!

I am thinking Sounds like Phil.  I am pretty sure he was driving big equipment like that and he was pretty up in years.

At 82?! Usually our max driver age is around 70ish, depending on the carrier. 82 is way over that.

[bean29]

Jul 28, 2022 16:17:24 GMT -5 andi9899 said:

Jul 28, 2022 11:36:50 GMT -5 bean29 said:

I am thinking Sounds like Phil.  I am pretty sure he was driving big equipment like that and he was pretty up in years.

At 82?! Usually our max driver age is around 70ish, depending on the carrier. 82 is way over that.

So your policy states a maximum age for drivers?  Do individual drivers get added to the policy, or is it just issued to the company?

[chiver78]

I discovered that there's still a Bertucci's near my hotel, whose cable package carries NESN for the Sox game. I'll be parked here for a little while, since the hotel does not have NESN. I already told the bartender I am in zero rush, she looks really frazzled and said she's on a double today. I am nursing a glass of chianti while I wait on my salad and roasted chicken and broccoli pizza. that sounded interesting, with a lemon pepper cream sauce base.

[NomoreDramaQ1015]

Gwen's been taking over dinner. Not sure where the enthusiasm came from but it couldn't have been better timing.

She's one out of two so far. Her Mac and Cheese broke. I explained why.

Her tomato soup and grilled cheese were awesome.

She's attempting honey garlic wings in the air fryer tonight.

I lost a lot of produce this week. Not super impressed with how fast it went. Especially for the cost.

Think.I may stick with the Farmers market this year instead of the stand

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I never really had a problem with hospitals until my Grandmother had a heart attack and was hospitalized. I went to see her every single day, most days 2 or 3 times/day, but I could NOT stay. After about 20 minutes I’d start panicking or something. Fortunately, between my Mom, Aunt and my Aunt’s daughters, someone was always there without it having to be me. So when I’d start feeling crazy, I’d leave and come back later. I volunteered to go get them food all the time, to try to do something constructive or helpful, since I just couldn’t sit there for hours.

My Mom had a heart attack a couple years later. I couldn’t stay with her either.  My brother stayed, so she wasn’t alone. My Mom didn’t even tell me anything had happened, she waited to call me as I was leaving work that day. She wouldn’t let my brother call me either. I was like “woman, are you CRAZY?! How could y’all NOT tell me?!”

DGD2 was born in the summer of 2020. There was still a lot of confusion about COVID and DD was terrified of being in the hospital by herself when the baby was born and practically begged me to stay with her, even though I immediately agreed when she told me she was terrified. As she got closer to her due date, she kept constantly asking me was I going to be there with her, even though I’d already assured her I would, a million times. DS happened to be here when she went into labor, so he took her to the hospital and I was already there waiting so I could go in with her. Due to COVID restrictions, once I went in with her, I was the only person allowed during her stay. I kept my word and spent the night with her after the baby was born. It was difficult for me, but I knew she was very afraid, so I stayed with her. If I’d left, she would’ve been all alone, because no one else would’ve been allowed in.

I just really have a hard time with hospitals after my Grandmother. A few years after she was hospitalized, I was at the same hospital she’d been airlifted to, my job had sent me there because I’d gotten hurt at work. I was already feeling crazy, just being back in that same hospital. When I was outside waiting for my ride to pick me up, a helicopter landed at the hospital and I had a small meltdown hearing that sound again. I was at the first hospital, and we’d gone outside when they loaded my Grandmother into the helicopter and waited until it it took off. That sound does something to me now. By the time my coworker arrived to pick me up, after me hearing that sound again, I was a crying, hot mess. So I don’t do well with the sounds of helicopters either. 

Drama, I don’t know how old your Mom is, but my Mom survived her heart attack and has not had any heart issues since, just regular monitoring. She was 64yo at the time. I went to the hospital when I was told she was going to surgery, and by the time I got there, I was shocked to see she was back in her room, sitting up in the bed, eating a sandwich.  I have left work to go make her go to the ER since then, because she was complaining about her chest hurting and saying it was probably gas. Which is exactly what she had been complaining about before my brother said “no ma’am, I’m calling an ambulance”, and thank God he did. So she doesn’t get to tell me about chest pains and “gas” without me insisting on getting it checked out lol.

Your Mother’s situation sounds like it’s more serious or complicated than my Mom’s was, I’m just trying to say that there is always hope that she will recover. I am sending all the good vibes I have in me y’all’s way.

And yes, please insist your Dad gets some sleep and try to get him to feel like it’s ok for him to rest because you will be there, I think you said tomorrow. We don’t want him to get sick!

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Sewer tap restoration is done and I'll give them a solid 9 out of 10. Our landscaper needs to add some good soil on top of the backfill, throw in some Mondo grass, and redo a small flagstone area with fabric and crushed gravel. One of my giant liriope is sad, but will make it. When it dries out a bit we'll check the sprinkler system and the landscape lighting. I'm totally freaking amazed at the skill of the guys driving what I call "Bob Kitties", little treaded BobCat machines that worked in our small yards. Those kitties are only 43" wide, have a rotating cab/claw thing that can pick up a dime and not touch the nickel next to it! I watched them change a broken tread on one kitty by having another kitty tilt him over and remove the bad tread like I pluck an eyebrow.

Overall, I think I've taken the modern miracle of running water and flush toilets for granted. My mother only had kerosene lanterns and a privy so it hasn't been that long really

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Jul 28, 2022 18:08:39 GMT -5 soupandstew said:

Sewer tap restoration is done and I'll give them a solid 9 out of 10. Our landscaper needs to add some good soil on top of the backfill, throw in some Mondo grass, and redo a small flagstone area with fabric and crushed gravel. One of my giant liriope is sad, but will make it. When it dries out a bit we'll check the sprinkler system and the landscape lighting. I'm totally freaking amazed at the skill of the guys driving what I call "Bob Kitties", little treaded BobCat machines that worked in our small yards. Those kitties are only 43" wide, have a rotating cab/claw thing that can pick up a dime and not touch the nickel next to it! I watched them change a broken tread on one kitty by having another kitty tilt him over and remove the bad tread like I pluck an eyebrow.

Overall, I think I've taken the modern miracle of running water and flush toilets for granted. My mother only had kerosene lanterns and a privy so it hasn't been that long really

The first time I went to Jamaica was a reality check for me that I still think about sometimes, about all the comforts of home that I take for granted.

Seeing little shacks that looked pretty much like the shed in my backyard at the time, with a dirt yard, and realizing it was someone’s home, was sobering. Learning that people still live in the mountains without running water or electricity was very sobering. 

The first 7 years of my life, my Mom and I lived in a shotgun house with my Great Grandmother. Many of my peers don’t even really know what a shotgun house is. But even that was nothing compared to how some other people live. We had indoor plumbing and electricity.

Anyway, I’m happy for you that they got you reconnected, and with minimal damage to your property.

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Jul 28, 2022 18:21:11 GMT -5 @pinkcshmere said:

Jul 28, 2022 18:08:39 GMT -5 soupandstew said:

Sewer tap restoration is done and I'll give them a solid 9 out of 10. Our landscaper needs to add some good soil on top of the backfill, throw in some Mondo grass, and redo a small flagstone area with fabric and crushed gravel. One of my giant liriope is sad, but will make it. When it dries out a bit we'll check the sprinkler system and the landscape lighting. I'm totally freaking amazed at the skill of the guys driving what I call "Bob Kitties", little treaded BobCat machines that worked in our small yards. Those kitties are only 43" wide, have a rotating cab/claw thing that can pick up a dime and not touch the nickel next to it! I watched them change a broken tread on one kitty by having another kitty tilt him over and remove the bad tread like I pluck an eyebrow.

Overall, I think I've taken the modern miracle of running water and flush toilets for granted. My mother only had kerosene lanterns and a privy so it hasn't been that long really

The first time I went to Jamaica was a reality check for me that I still think about sometimes, about all the comforts of home that I take for granted.

Seeing little shacks that looked pretty much like the shed in my backyard at the time, with a dirt yard, and realizing it was someone’s home, was sobering. Learning that people still live in the mountains without running water or electricity was very sobering. 

The first 7 years of my life, my Mom and I lived in a shotgun house with my Great Grandmother. Many of my peers don’t even really know what a shotgun house is. But even that was nothing compared to how some other people live. We had indoor plumbing and electricity.

Anyway, I’m happy for you that they got you reconnected, and with minimal damage to your property.

DH's grandfather's shotgun house still stands and is occupied in Crowley, LA.  He spent some summers there.  Jamaica was a reality check for me as well.  When I went to Mexico with a church youth group - canvas tent, pit privy, 5 gal water daily per person for EVERYTHING, it was interesting to hear one teen comment that the home we were building for a family was smaller than his bedroom.  Definitely an awakening moment for him.  

[Artemis Windsong]

My GrGrS1 passed his driver's test.  He is 6'5" at 15 y.o.  Maybe he's 14.  His sister is equally as tall.  What is in the water, anyhow?  Three other GrSs are in the low 6' range.  Babies once - I am amazed by them.

We are watching Mecum auctions on.  The cars are going for less than they would on the lots!

I don't know where I got the idea to watch 500 Days of Summer.  It was romantic but sad.  No one I know has conversations like that.  Usually the person just goes with no explanation or closure.  So much is left unsaid.

[NoNamePerson]

Jul 28, 2022 19:05:14 GMT -5 soupandstew said:

Jul 28, 2022 18:21:11 GMT -5 @pinkcshmere said:

The first time I went to Jamaica was a reality check for me that I still think about sometimes, about all the comforts of home that I take for granted.

Seeing little shacks that looked pretty much like the shed in my backyard at the time, with a dirt yard, and realizing it was someone’s home, was sobering. Learning that people still live in the mountains without running water or electricity was very sobering. 

The first 7 years of my life, my Mom and I lived in a shotgun house with my Great Grandmother. Many of my peers don’t even really know what a shotgun house is. But even that was nothing compared to how some other people live. We had indoor plumbing and electricity.

Anyway, I’m happy for you that they got you reconnected, and with minimal damage to your property.

DH's grandfather's shotgun house still stands and is occupied in Crowley, LA.  He spent some summers there.  Jamaica was a reality check for me as well.  When I went to Mexico with a church youth group - canvas tent, pit privy, 5 gal water daily per person for EVERYTHING, it was interesting to hear one teen comment that the home we were building for a family was smaller than his bedroom.  Definitely an awakening moment for him.  

The first house we rented when moving to Gulf coast back in 64 was a shot gun house. Loved that little house. I admit I had to have someone explain why it was called “shotgun”   

[weltschmerz]

Jul 28, 2022 18:21:11 GMT -5 @pinkcshmere said:

Jul 28, 2022 18:08:39 GMT -5 soupandstew said:

Sewer tap restoration is done and I'll give them a solid 9 out of 10. Our landscaper needs to add some good soil on top of the backfill, throw in some Mondo grass, and redo a small flagstone area with fabric and crushed gravel. One of my giant liriope is sad, but will make it. When it dries out a bit we'll check the sprinkler system and the landscape lighting. I'm totally freaking amazed at the skill of the guys driving what I call "Bob Kitties", little treaded BobCat machines that worked in our small yards. Those kitties are only 43" wide, have a rotating cab/claw thing that can pick up a dime and not touch the nickel next to it! I watched them change a broken tread on one kitty by having another kitty tilt him over and remove the bad tread like I pluck an eyebrow.

Overall, I think I've taken the modern miracle of running water and flush toilets for granted. My mother only had kerosene lanterns and a privy so it hasn't been that long really

The first time I went to Jamaica was a reality check for me that I still think about sometimes, about all the comforts of home that I take for granted.

Seeing little shacks that looked pretty much like the shed in my backyard at the time, with a dirt yard, and realizing it was someone’s home, was sobering. Learning that people still live in the mountains without running water or electricity was very sobering. 

The first 7 years of my life, my Mom and I lived in a shotgun house with my Great Grandmother. Many of my peers don’t even really know what a shotgun house is. But even that was nothing compared to how some other people live. We had indoor plumbing and electricity.

Anyway, I’m happy for you that they got you reconnected, and with minimal damage to your property.

Just about everyone who lives in the mountains in Jamaica has no running water, rich and poor alike. I had friends with a villa in the mountains, in Westmoreland, and they had to buy their water in town.

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Jul 28, 2022 19:05:14 GMT -5 soupandstew said:

Jul 28, 2022 18:21:11 GMT -5 @pinkcshmere said:

The first time I went to Jamaica was a reality check for me that I still think about sometimes, about all the comforts of home that I take for granted.

Seeing little shacks that looked pretty much like the shed in my backyard at the time, with a dirt yard, and realizing it was someone’s home, was sobering. Learning that people still live in the mountains without running water or electricity was very sobering. 

The first 7 years of my life, my Mom and I lived in a shotgun house with my Great Grandmother. Many of my peers don’t even really know what a shotgun house is. But even that was nothing compared to how some other people live. We had indoor plumbing and electricity.

Anyway, I’m happy for you that they got you reconnected, and with minimal damage to your property.

DH's grandfather's shotgun house still stands and is occupied in Crowley, LA.  He spent some summers there.  Jamaica was a reality check for me as well.  When I went to Mexico with a church youth group - canvas tent, pit privy, 5 gal water daily per person for EVERYTHING, it was interesting to hear one teen comment that the home we were building for a family was smaller than his bedroom.  Definitely an awakening moment for him.  

I have a relative that was married to a Doctor. He went with other Doctors to provide medical care to people in Haiti. They went up in the mountains and could only take what they could carry. He didn’t really like to talk about the experience, but from the little he did speak on, he performed surgeries and such, without most of the tools and any of the aid that can be found in most hospitals in the US. 

This same relative went to the Dominican Republic on vacation. She and her friends used a particular car service during their stay, because they liked the driver. At some point while he was showing them around, he took them to meet his Mother. She was obviously poor and when they arrived, she was cooking dinner. There were children running around, but she shooed them away when dinner was done, because etiquette demanded that she feed her guests first. Of course my relative and her friends were uncomfortable, feeling like they were taking food out of the children’s mouths, but they didn’t want to be disrespectful and turn down the food she was offering them. So they ate a little, to not be disrespectful and then tried to make up for what they ate by tipping the driver handsomely. My cynical side says maybe it was a racket, but even if it was, I would have done the same thing.

A few years ago, Mister and I spent an afternoon driving around the city here, showing each other the places we grew up in and lived in as young adults. My Great Grandmother’s shot gun house was long gone, which wasn’t a surprise. But my Grandmother’s other house that I lived in for a few years until I bought my own house, was gone too, which WAS a surprise. I knew she’d sold it to one of my cousins by marriage several years after I’d moved out, but I didn’t know it had been bulldozed.

What my Grandmother intended to leave as her legacy, real estate in the form of houses, is completely gone now. She’d bought both houses brand new, and it was important to her that her family always have a place to lay their heads if they were having hard times…… the houses were paid for, and very important to her. She only had a 4th grade education, but she was not a dummy.

She ended up selling the other house because my brother moved in after I moved out, and tore it up to the point that my Grandmother just wanted to get rid of it. The house she lived in, my Aunt did a quick deed to just give it to my Mom after my Grandmother died. My Mom didn’t even try to take care of it, and ended up selling it for just a few thousand dollars after she bamboozled her way into my house. $6k, to be exact. The whole family is angry about that. She didn’t even tell my Aunt she was considering or had sold it. I told my Aunt my Mom sold it. And when my Aunt asked how I felt about her saying something to my Mom about it, I told her I was okay with it. I didn’t care about my Mom knowing I’d told my Aunt she sold the house (even though my Aunt never told her how she knew), because right is right and wrong is wrong, I don’t care who does it. And I felt like my Mom was wrong for how she did it. My Mom ended up splitting the money from the sale with my Aunt, but I believe that was NOT my Mom’s intention, since she didn’t even tell her she’d sold it. My Aunt didn’t even “need” the money, it was just the principle of things, which I totally understood and agreed with.

I don’t even know how I went on that tangent, so Imma just hush now.

[cooper88]

When I lived in Memphis, there was a whole row of shotgun houses across the street. They were supposedly originally build for the railroad workers and they didn't have driveways. They were painted all kinds of colors and were way bigger inside than they appeared to be outside. I guess the no hallways thing allowed the rooms to be pretty big. Anyway, I've always since then wanted a shotgun house.

@pinkcshmere It was the 900 block of Blythe Street in Cooper Young.

[NomoreDramaQ1015]

Speaking of anger I swear my parents will be the death of me.

I suppose it's a good sign my mom is well enough they could argue with each other.

He stormed off home. Then came straight here. I guess he promised himself he'd never argue again and that didn't last.

I said you need to come home and get space. She probably needs space even though she doesn't want it.

You've both been through some major trauma. I said if you're going to snap come home or text me/Bob.

DH and I disagree. I said dad's facing caretaker burn out. It's a real thing.

Leaving was smart even if was only for a little while. He went back up.

So IDK if I will stay on Friday now. He may take my advice and come home instead. I'd be willing to stay regardless if it made them feel better.

I'd like to cancel my subscription to adulthood please.

[minnesotapaintlady]

Jul 28, 2022 16:17:24 GMT -5 andi9899 said:

Jul 28, 2022 11:36:50 GMT -5 bean29 said:

I am thinking Sounds like Phil.  I am pretty sure he was driving big equipment like that and he was pretty up in years.

At 82?! Usually our max driver age is around 70ish, depending on the carrier. 82 is way over that.

According to the Googles there are somewhere between 1000 and 3000 licensed CDL drivers over the age of 85 (seems like a broad range, you'd think they would have more exact numbers). 

[finnime]

Jul 28, 2022 13:42:32 GMT -5 NomoreDramaQ1015 said:

Jul 28, 2022 12:26:19 GMT -5 countrygirl2 said:

I know when I got to a hospital or tests its going to take f o r e v e r. The reason is the hospitals are so short staffed the ones working are likely stressed to the limits.

Sure all kinds of people want those jobs but don't want to have to do the school or training they have to get. Since the pandemic many have died, have long covid, or retired.  I get frustrated but I take a book and read. I also am kind to the providers. Saying thank you and  asking what happened and please keep me informed so something like that doesn't happen again will go a long way.

You take an equally, tired, stressed professional and they can get aggravated too. I try to think both ways.

And no there is no excuse, but I just try to deal with it.

I am going to disagree with this one.  This isn't like waiting on your car or an appliance repair.  Those things are annoying and can make life difficult but it tends to not be life/death situations.

You are dealing with people and people's lives.  You are dealing with loved ones.  If my vet can be way under staffed and still take the time to sit with me and have his front desk lady call my husband when Charlotte came up positive for heartworms then a fucking medical clinic can take the time to sweep the waiting room to make sure nobody is left behind.

 Heads should roll for crap like that.   Health care is never going to get better if we just shrug our shoulders and deal.  They've conditioned us to believe that this behavior is acceptable.  I get better respect and consideration for my DOG.  Don't get me wrong I love my pets but that's messed up.

He lodged a formal complaint with the hospital.  I am thinking of adding one too over that night nurse.

When DH's extensive foot and ankle surgery became infected and he had sepsis, we were in the ER waiting for the surgeon's orders. I was giving him a hug. The ER nurse came in and said, "Aaw, is the baby needing a hug now?" I was too shocked to follow her out and give her a reality check. DH was facing a possible below the knee amputation. He was too out of it to really notice. I've never forgotten or forgiven.

[finnime]

Good morning, erudite and compassionate invisipeeps weaving stories of other people and their ways on my trusty laptop. Welcome to Friday. I hope your day portends good to come in your life, including indoor plumbing.

Yesterday the Pod was finally delivered at 5:00 after we'd waited pretty much all day. We emptied it. I hired our handyman and his friend to help with the really heavy stuff. Good that they were available. One of my nephews who had been slated to help could not; he's a medic and was required to stay at work due to staff shortages.

Now we are surrounded by boxes filled with Stuff and actually have furniture! in every room. It's going to take a good while to unpack and sort everything out.

One thing I've been waiting on is my filing cabinet, with birth certificates and other vital records. Now we'll be able to get the car registered and our drivers' licenses transferred to this state. We've been out of compliance for a month now. It will have to wait, though, until the end of next week, after we retrieve the rest of our Stuff from Virginia.

And the great migration north continues.

[ners]

Morning all. 

So happy it is Friday.

Hoping for a productive day at work.

[Opti]

Jul 29, 2022 2:44:39 GMT -5 finnime said:

Jul 28, 2022 13:42:32 GMT -5 NomoreDramaQ1015 said:

I am going to disagree with this one.  This isn't like waiting on your car or an appliance repair.  Those things are annoying and can make life difficult but it tends to not be life/death situations.

You are dealing with people and people's lives.  You are dealing with loved ones.  If my vet can be way under staffed and still take the time to sit with me and have his front desk lady call my husband when Charlotte came up positive for heartworms then a fucking medical clinic can take the time to sweep the waiting room to make sure nobody is left behind.

 Heads should roll for crap like that.   Health care is never going to get better if we just shrug our shoulders and deal.  They've conditioned us to believe that this behavior is acceptable.  I get better respect and consideration for my DOG.  Don't get me wrong I love my pets but that's messed up.

He lodged a formal complaint with the hospital.  I am thinking of adding one too over that night nurse.

When DH's extensive foot and ankle surgery became infected and he had sepsis, we were in the ER waiting for the surgeon's orders. I was giving him a hug. The ER nurse came in and said, "Aaw, is the baby needing a hug now?" I was too shocked to follow her out and give her a reality check. DH was facing a possible below the knee amputation. He was too out of it to really notice. I've never forgotten or forgiven.

She should have been reported to the nursing director. That is an awful thing to say.

[Opti]

Pink, thanks for the mention of Shotgun house. I learned something new.


en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Shotgun_house

[chiver78]

I'm being lazy. I really don't want to deal with today, but I know I have to. I need to return the current rental car, call AAA and have mine towed to the dealership, and the pick up the other rental I have reserved for a week (since that's a cheaper rate) while my car gets worked on in between other appointments. but I'm waiting out am rush hour traffic before I hit the road. my hotel is smack in the middle of the inner highway loop. I'm all set with that.

I should get up and go get coffee. maybe do some work before I pack up. this bed isn't all that comfortable.