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Post by toomuchreality on Sept 6, 2024 20:31:45 GMT -5
I feel downright surly and I still have to drive for two days, and then spend another week down there before I come back and feel like I have my house back. DH commented that he feels like a guest in our own home. I’ll just leave it there and try jamming my ugly feelings back down. Hugs. ♡
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Post by Cookies Galore on Sept 6, 2024 20:37:38 GMT -5
Watching the Eagles, drinking wine, realized too late I should have gotten likes to make caipirinhas since the game is on Brazil, making Pearl Jam bracelets for the concert tomorrow. Registered myself and husband for a campaign volunteer event with Doug Emhoff on Sunday. Nice Friday night at home.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Sept 6, 2024 20:48:22 GMT -5
My dad always acknowledges my birthday but sometimes he's forgotten the date.
I gave him shit for it pointing out he was there when I popped out!
Karma sucks because he couldn't remember how old I was either so I said I'm one year younger than you've been married.
He couldn't remember what anniversary it was either and my mom goes "Yes honey how long exactly have we been married?
The panic that ensued. Especially as I bragged I knew and if he'd remembered what year I was born this wouldn't have happened.
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Post by Pink Cashmere on Sept 6, 2024 21:09:09 GMT -5
I feel downright surly and I still have to drive for two days, and then spend another week down there before I come back and feel like I have my house back. DH commented that he feels like a guest in our own home. I’ll just leave it there and try jamming my ugly feelings back down. I really, really understand what it is like to feel like your home isn’t really your home, like you describe you and your DH feeling. I just want to say that I understand your desire to just get through what needs to happen in the near future to get your Mom settled and out of your house, but your feelings and your DH’s feelings about the situation are valid. It might serve you well right now, to try to ignore your ugly feelings, just so that you can get things done, but please believe me when I say that at some point, you need to acknowledge your feelings and and know that it is okay to feel however you feel/felt about the situation, ugly feelings and all. I am the Queen of stuffing feelings and emotions, to the point that most of the time I don’t even know what I am feeling, unless I am angry. I know that that is not healthy, and I don’t advise anyone to start down that path of stuffing their feelings, because imo it is a bad coping skill that can lead to even more problems. So allow yourself to feel whatever you feel. Feelings are different from actions. You can feel however you feel, and still act in ways that align with what you believe you should do in a certain situation. Meaning that you can feel however about having your Mom in your house not being ideal for you and your DH, and still act in ways to try to do what you feel you need to do to see about your Mom, and get her settled in her own home again as soon as possible. Idk if I am explaining that well. I’m trying to say that you get to feel how you feel, even as you try to see about your Mom and try to make sure she is okay to go back to her own home.
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Post by Pink Cashmere on Sept 6, 2024 21:26:59 GMT -5
My dad always acknowledges my birthday but sometimes he's forgotten the date. I gave him shit for it pointing out he was there when I popped out! Karma sucks because he couldn't remember how old I was either so I said I'm one year younger than you've been married. He couldn't remember what anniversary it was either and my mom goes "Yes honey how long exactly have we been married? The panic that ensued. Especially as I bragged I knew and if he'd remembered what year I was born this wouldn't have happened. 😂 I know my children’s birth dates, but honestly, it has gotten to where I have to calculate the years to know exactly how old they are. DS’s birthday was recent, and I did remember the date and told him Happy Birthday, but even as I type this, I’d have to calculate the years to say exactly how old he is now. That is embarrassing to admit, and it makes me wonder WTF is wrong with my brain these days. Earlier today, idk what thought process led me to it, but I had to go from Mister’s birthdate and year to figure out his age. I know how old I am, and I know how old my Mom is, because the year she was born makes it easy for my brain to figure it out immediately. This whole idea of knowing the ages of the people I love, is kind of stressing me out, because who doesn’t know exactly how old their children are and their SO, without having to add shit up in their minds. I know how old my grandchildren are, without having to think about it. So I guess that’s good? I may be overthinking things like that because I worry about me having dementia at some point, because it is family history on my Mom’s side.
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Post by minnesotapaintlady on Sept 6, 2024 21:36:56 GMT -5
This whole idea of knowing the ages of the people I love, is kind of stressing me out, because who doesn’t know exactly how old their children are and their SO, without having to add shit up in their minds. I know how old my grandchildren are, without having to think about it. So I guess that’s good? I think it's normal to have to do the math. My step brothers. I have to start with how old we all were when our parents married 38 years ago. I was 17, D was 10 and M was 8, so that means D must be 48 now. My mom is 22 years older than me. My dad is one year older than my mom (have to start by figuring out how old my mom is). I swear I have to do this with everyone.
It's also a lot easier to remember exact ages when they're young because they change so much and there are so many milestones to help jog your memory. Once they get past the able to drink 21, they start to blend.
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Post by Knee Deep in Water Chloe on Sept 6, 2024 21:47:28 GMT -5
watching tennis; working on the next party I'm hosting. I brought in more flowers from my cutting beds today. I have 15 sun flowers in the house right now, four pink and purple dahlias, and two white irisis.
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Post by tallguy on Sept 6, 2024 21:57:15 GMT -5
My dad always acknowledges my birthday but sometimes he's forgotten the date. I gave him shit for it pointing out he was there when I popped out! Karma sucks because he couldn't remember how old I was either so I said I'm one year younger than you've been married. He couldn't remember what anniversary it was either and my mom goes "Yes honey how long exactly have we been married? The panic that ensued. Especially as I bragged I knew and if he'd remembered what year I was born this wouldn't have happened. 😂 I know my children’s birth dates, but honestly, it has gotten to where I have to calculate the years to know exactly how old they are. DS’s birthday was recent, and I did remember the date and told him Happy Birthday, but even as I type this, I’d have to calculate the years to say exactly how old he is now. That is embarrassing to admit, and it makes me wonder WTF is wrong with my brain these days. Earlier today, idk what thought process led me to it, but I had to go from Mister’s birthdate and year to figure out his age. I know how old I am, and I know how old my Mom is, because the year she was born makes it easy for my brain to figure it out immediately. This whole idea of knowing the ages of the people I love, is kind of stressing me out, because who doesn’t know exactly how old their children are and their SO, without having to add shit up in their minds. I know how old my grandchildren are, without having to think about it. So I guess that’s good? I may be overthinking things like that because I worry about me having dementia at some point, because it is family history on my Mom’s side. Up until this year I would calculate the years to figure out how old I am. So what? I don't care, and I don't pay attention. After you hit 21 do years really matter anyway? Out of the ten billion things that it actually helps my life to remember, why should I be concerned about remembering something that really isn't important, and that keeps changing anyway. Screw that. Remembering the base dates is all you need so you can figure out everything else. And I can assure you that I am as far from being "prone to dementia" as anyone you may ever meet.
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Post by msventoux on Sept 6, 2024 22:37:32 GMT -5
I’ve never known exactly how old I am. Some years I think I’m a year or two older and others I think I’m younger. I always have to quickly do the math if I need to say how old I am.
Birthdays were never a big deal growing up and still are not. My father never remembered my birthday. My mother usually did, but after I became an adult she would randomly forget my birthday and would call me up crying within a few days, very apologetic. The first time she forgot it stung a bit as she never forgot any one else’s birthday. After that I didn’t care and would tease her about it. Which pissed her off and she would get mad at me for not reminding her that it was my birthday, which was a weird concept to me. I’m not self centered enough to announce that it’s my birthday in order to receive birthday wishes.
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Post by countrygirl2 on Sept 6, 2024 22:42:47 GMT -5
I was awful, I knew my parents birthdays were in the first part of September, I rarely hit it right. But I made sure dad and mom got something even if I were a few days off. Right now I'm having trouble remembering grandsons, I'm bad. I have them written down. I do know sons birthday,and grandsons is in June and hubs and DIL are in the same month, and that leaves DD and I we are in the same month too.
I have been moving all autopays up here. Hubs is still giving me grief over getting his done. He keeps going I need to do that then when I start he's like I will get to it. Grrr, I need to get all this finished, damn.
And the postal service sent us info that you have to go through online or they won't change your forwarding address. I almost didn't do anything as it said, Family of------- and I thought it was just junk mail, it never ends.
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Post by Pink Cashmere on Sept 6, 2024 23:08:35 GMT -5
Yesterday, the young lady that I met and hung out with when I went to Pittsburgh for my side gig, text me and asked if she’d see me next month. Next month is the annual seminar for people work my side gig.
I told her YES she would see me. I asked if she was bringing the guy she was involved with the last time we met, and she said no, she was coming alone. That worked for me, because Mister doesn’t seem to be interested in going with me. She and I got a good understanding about each other and hanging out with each other, when we were in Pittsburgh, so I am looking forward to hanging out with her some more in San Antonio.
We leave in a little more than a month, and that gives me something to look forward to.
God knows I need positive stuff to look forward to, because so often lately , it is a real struggle for me to even get out of bed, because in mind getting out of bed means having to deal with a bunch of bullshit, and I’d really just rather not.
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Post by finnime on Sept 7, 2024 3:21:36 GMT -5
Good morning, Y Ma'am invisipeeps of age and aging like the finest wine, whisky and cheeses. Welcome to Saturday. I hope your day is prosperous and meets all your hopes for a Saturday in early September. If it is or will be your birthday, happy day! Got to get moving in about an hour to Chatham. Hoping today will go well with lots of eager customers, fine weather and ease. I did not get to the beach yesterday. It was foggy, and this photo I took on another foggy morning, July 28:
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Post by saveinla on Sept 7, 2024 4:35:16 GMT -5
I am supposed to be on PTO. Had an ortho appt followed by an unexpected PT appt. Now I am answering questions on a report that was flawless at 6AM this AM, but the person who I gave edit access to has somehow mucked it up. Lesson learned - keep an original copy. If its google, you can see the version history
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Post by taz157 on Sept 7, 2024 6:32:50 GMT -5
I am supposed to be on PTO. Had an ortho appt followed by an unexpected PT appt. Now I am answering questions on a report that was flawless at 6AM this AM, but the person who I gave edit access to has somehow mucked it up. Lesson learned - keep an original copy. If its google, you can see the version history If used Microsoft 365, you can look at Version History too.
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Post by daisylu on Sept 7, 2024 7:04:38 GMT -5
My dad always acknowledges my birthday but sometimes he's forgotten the date. I gave him shit for it pointing out he was there when I popped out! Karma sucks because he couldn't remember how old I was either so I said I'm one year younger than you've been married. He couldn't remember what anniversary it was either and my mom goes "Yes honey how long exactly have we been married? The panic that ensued. Especially as I bragged I knew and if he'd remembered what year I was born this wouldn't have happened. 😂 I know my children’s birth dates, but honestly, it has gotten to where I have to calculate the years to know exactly how old they are. DS’s birthday was recent, and I did remember the date and told him Happy Birthday, but even as I type this, I’d have to calculate the years to say exactly how old he is now. That is embarrassing to admit, and it makes me wonder WTF is wrong with my brain these days. Earlier today, idk what thought process led me to it, but I had to go from Mister’s birthdate and year to figure out his age. I know how old I am, and I know how old my Mom is, because the year she was born makes it easy for my brain to figure it out immediately. This whole idea of knowing the ages of the people I love, is kind of stressing me out, because who doesn’t know exactly how old their children are and their SO, without having to add shit up in their minds. I know how old my grandchildren are, without having to think about it. So I guess that’s good? I may be overthinking things like that because I worry about me having dementia at some point, because it is family history on my Mom’s side. I often do the math with my kids' ages. Hell, I often do with math with my own age - age numbers just aren't something that occupy my head space. To me the number isn't important, how you feel is. I often forget my wedding anniversary until the day off, along with the number of years. I only know the number of years of my parents marriage because I was born 8 months later. Age is more to me than a number - a number which is not important in my mind so I don't think about it. Dementia is not prevalent in my family, but selective memory is - that's a whole nother topic.
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Post by daisylu on Sept 7, 2024 7:10:19 GMT -5
Woke at 6, loaded the crockpot, and laid back down. I don't see me getting back to sleep, but I'm comfy.
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Post by NoNamePerson on Sept 7, 2024 7:58:21 GMT -5
My best friend of 54 yrs. passed away last night. She was 92 and lived a good life. I’m going to have a good cry and then kick back and remember all the good crazy times we had thru the years.
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Post by raeoflyte on Sept 7, 2024 8:02:38 GMT -5
My best friend of 54 yrs. passed away last night. She was 92 and lived a good life. I’m going to have a good cry and then kick back and remember all the good crazy times we had thru the years. I'm sorry.
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Post by debthaven on Sept 7, 2024 8:08:28 GMT -5
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Post by chiver78 on Sept 7, 2024 8:09:34 GMT -5
hugs, NNP. 🥀
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Post by seriousthistime on Sept 7, 2024 8:18:22 GMT -5
It's tough to lose a good friend. Somehow when condolences are passed around, they go to family and rarely to friends. A few years back I would ask good friends of the deceased who were clearly mourning, if they would like to designate a charity they knew their friend would like I would send in a donation. I think it's important to acknowledge this kind of loss. All this to say, NoNamePerson, I'm very sorry for your loss.
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Post by taz157 on Sept 7, 2024 8:19:53 GMT -5
My best friend of 54 yrs. passed away last night. She was 92 and lived a good life. I’m going to have a good cry and then kick back and remember all the good crazy times we had thru the years. I’m sorry. ((((Hugs))))
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Post by catsareme on Sept 7, 2024 8:23:31 GMT -5
Losing a friend is so hard. Hugs NNP.
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Post by andi9899 on Sept 7, 2024 8:25:30 GMT -5
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Post by cooper88 on Sept 7, 2024 8:32:18 GMT -5
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Post by daisylu on Sept 7, 2024 8:32:19 GMT -5
My best friend of 54 yrs. passed away last night. She was 92 and lived a good life. I’m going to have a good cry and then kick back and remember all the good crazy times we had thru the years.
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Post by azucena on Sept 7, 2024 8:35:50 GMT -5
One episode overnight and none yesterday or last night. We even made it to theater social which she led ice breaker games and likley overdid it but she is craving normal.
Girl thought she was going on first date today...that she just scheduled a few days ago. She said it twice in front of best friend who tried to talk her out of it and then I said I couldn't allow it. She started to cry and argue and I affirmed that it's unfair that she's going thru this. Best friend said look, azucena is setting the rules bc she loves you and you're lucky to have two parents who care and chose you (bestie lives with gma after her mom passed yrs ago, dad isn't involved). Then she goes look I bet I can call white dad right now and order us up some pizza bagels. Lmao, so they had pizza bagels and watched some b level horror show which always makes them laugh. Dh and I got to sit on the deck and catch up from the week.
Plans are tentatively coming together for school Tues. And we are going to brave going to Hamilton on Sun night if things stay at this level.
Just need to get her to pay attn to her light headedness as a leading sign plus fainting risk. Teen keeps trying to power thru. This last time I said she's risking ending up with a fall scar on her beautiful face and more time in hospital. Maybe that sinks in.
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Post by azucena on Sept 7, 2024 8:36:39 GMT -5
54 years of friendship is beautiful!
My condolences.
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Post by giramomma on Sept 7, 2024 8:49:09 GMT -5
My best friend of 54 yrs. passed away last night. She was 92 and lived a good life. I’m going to have a good cry and then kick back and remember all the good crazy times we had thru the years. I'm so sorry for your loss.
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Post by jerseygirl on Sept 7, 2024 8:53:57 GMT -5
NNP sad to lose a long time friend but lovely to have had this long friendship
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