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Post by bean29 on Jul 22, 2024 11:51:27 GMT -5
So, my DD works for one of the airlines affected by the CrowdStrike software issue. Their Crew Scheduling app is down. She was delayed on Saturday and in Minneapolis. She asked them to put her in a hotel room close to the airport at $350/night so she would be "legal" to work her on call hours Mon/Tues. They refused to do it, and it took another 3.5 hours for her to get to the room they found her and checked into her room. This meant that she was not "legal" to work her scheduled on call hours on Monday b/c you have to have something like 9 hours from the time the door closes on your hotel room till the pickup the next day to take you to the airport. DD took a flight home yesterday morning (They told her she would not be legal to work at all on Monday). So she arrives at her home airport only to find out in 30 minutes they have her scheduled to work a flight. She gets on the phone and says I can't work this flight, I am not legal to work. They told her that it was her flight b/c once she got on the flight back home it was like saying she was legal to work and the only way she could get out of working was to refuse to work. She would not do that b/c she would get fired for that. They made her call out fatigued, but that made her not legal to work for two days, so she lost her work for today and tomorrow. On top of everything else, they are now paying double time, and she can't work. DD said there was another girl on her same fight that they did the same thing to. She said they fixed her issue with less trouble b/c she cried, dd said she refused to do that. Idk if the other girl can't work for two days either or not. DD said it was really dumb that they had her scheduled to work that flight anyways b/c when she got to her home airport, there was a guy sitting in the lounge on call waiting for an assignment and he did not have one. She said she was on hold with Crew Scheduling to fix issues for 8 hours on Saturday and 8 hours on Sunday and they were telling her why didn't you contact crew scheduling?
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Post by NastyWoman on Jul 22, 2024 11:56:41 GMT -5
My best friend’s other friend called me about an hour ago. I knew it was bad when I saw her name on my phone, calling me in the morning, and I was afraid to answer. My friend P’s husband died early yesterday morning. They were in Alabama celebrating something with his family. Had a great time Saturday and Saturday night. In the middle of the night she woke up to him making gurgling noises, then he was gone. They’ve been together 15 years. He was a fun, outgoing guy, and he loved him some P. This is my same friend whose 14yo Grandson died suddenly in Nov of 22, and her Mom died in 2020. I am sitting at the table in my breakfast nook crying into my coffee.
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Post by lurkyloo on Jul 22, 2024 12:06:54 GMT -5
I hate everything today. My mother fell in the bathroom and has a broken hip, otherwise stable. My brother in Europe raised the alarm last night and the police had to break in for the very necessary welfare check. She’s stable in hospital, YB now wants to go for guardianship and I’m not sure how to feel about that. OB was already flying over late this week to stay maybe a month so at least medium term care needs should be covered. I might need to fly out to cover the interim. My subcontractor is misbehaving themselves pretty mildly and coworker is being an asshole, again, after first being an asshole on Friday. I want to go back to bed. I'm sorry to here about your mother. I don't understand the family dynamics but it seems odd that if your brother lives in Europe that he would be an effective guardian. I wish I didn’t… OB lives in Europe. He’s the one who raised the alarm. YB lives close to her. But she has developed an irrational hate and paranoia that he’s breaking into her house. This and the short term memory issues are the biggest problems…fingers crossed that they can do a neural exam while she’s in the hospital. Anyway. YB is the one who wants to go for guardianship. I already hold her financial POA at her investment firm, and I’m not convinced she’s doing badly enough day to day to justify a guardianship, so it’s not clear how a court would rule there. I don’t really speak to either brother outside of business or elder care and I’m not overly fond of my mother, but I will do what needs to be done to ensure she’s cared for. It’s delusional the hate she has for YB but not actually out of character…she’s still holding a grudge against my grade school Girl Scout troop leader for perceived financial mismanagement It’s a bit of a shame bc not only is he the logical choice geographically, but he’s also been blatantly favored over me, up to the point he wasn’t and she started b!tching to me about him and his wife.
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Post by lurkyloo on Jul 22, 2024 12:08:21 GMT -5
My best friend’s other friend called me about an hour ago. I knew it was bad when I saw her name on my phone, calling me in the morning, and I was afraid to answer. My friend P’s husband died early yesterday morning. They were in Alabama celebrating something with his family. Had a great time Saturday and Saturday night. In the middle of the night she woke up to him making gurgling noises, then he was gone. They’ve been together 15 years. He was a fun, outgoing guy, and he loved him some P. This is my same friend whose 14yo Grandson died suddenly in Nov of 22, and her Mom died in 2020. I am sitting at the table in my breakfast nook crying into my coffee. How awful. I'm so sorry for your friend, and for you. I’m so sorry, pink.
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Post by The Walk of the Penguin Mich on Jul 22, 2024 12:08:31 GMT -5
Is there any reason he cannot take an Uber? Too far away from town. ILs are right next door and willing to help, he just does not want them to. Too bad for him I am calling the shots now. Good for you. You need to do it a bit more too.
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Post by lurkyloo on Jul 22, 2024 12:17:39 GMT -5
TheOtherMe Thanks for updating us! I am so very glad everything went well.
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Post by Pink Cashmere on Jul 22, 2024 12:19:22 GMT -5
My best friend’s other friend called me about an hour ago. I knew it was bad when I saw her name on my phone, calling me in the morning, and I was afraid to answer. My friend P’s husband died early yesterday morning. They were in Alabama celebrating something with his family. Had a great time Saturday and Saturday night. In the middle of the night she woke up to him making gurgling noises, then he was gone. They’ve been together 15 years. He was a fun, outgoing guy, and he loved him some P. This is my same friend whose 14yo Grandson died suddenly in Nov of 22, and her Mom died in 2020. I am sitting at the table in my breakfast nook crying into my coffee. How awful. I'm so sorry for your friend, and for you. Thank you. The other friend that called me to tell me, went and spent the night with P last night and called me on her way to work this morning. I called P and asked if she alone, she said yeah, she needed some time by herself. I told her I understand, I was going to give her a few hours and check on her, today is my day off work and I’m ready to roll at moment’s notice if she needs anything or some company. I know how to just be there and be quiet, or talk about whatever she wants to, if she wants to, whatever she needs. But I also have to let her do things her way, because I understand not wanting to be bothered with anybody when you are not okay. So I’m just sitting here looking crazy.
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Post by countrygirl2 on Jul 22, 2024 12:27:52 GMT -5
Hubs is going back for his hormone shot and PSA test in Aug or Sept, he will be back for it. He wants to check in here one more time. I wish I could say for sure they got all his margins. And I'm so worried his PSA still won't be to zero. He seems to look good and is doing good, but who knows? Just have to be hopeful and wait and see.
We are packing things that need padding like my computer and some items like that, so doing good.
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Post by Opti on Jul 22, 2024 12:35:24 GMT -5
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Post by toomuchreality on Jul 22, 2024 12:38:18 GMT -5
I’ve been at work for 3 hours and it doesn’t feel like it. Today is my birthday and I’m taking off Friday instead. We are going to visit my ILs and go to the beach!!! HAPPY BIRTHDAY!
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Post by Opti on Jul 22, 2024 12:38:21 GMT -5
My best friend’s other friend called me about an hour ago. I knew it was bad when I saw her name on my phone, calling me in the morning, and I was afraid to answer. My friend P’s husband died early yesterday morning. They were in Alabama celebrating something with his family. Had a great time Saturday and Saturday night. In the middle of the night she woke up to him making gurgling noises, then he was gone. They’ve been together 15 years. He was a fun, outgoing guy, and he loved him some P. This is my same friend whose 14yo Grandson died suddenly in Nov of 22, and her Mom died in 2020. I am sitting at the table in my breakfast nook crying into my coffee. How awful. I'm so sorry for your friend, and for you. Crap. Hugs and peace for both of you, i.e. Pink and friend P.
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Post by Opti on Jul 22, 2024 12:42:25 GMT -5
Too much death lately. I've been looking up peeps in prior lives given the drama at work. Discovered a man I knew died probably in the same timeframe as dad. I am wondering why. He was in Indiana so probably subject to the same storm. IDK. He was only a few years older than me at most. I am in shock.
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Post by toomuchreality on Jul 22, 2024 12:51:00 GMT -5
How awful. I'm so sorry for your friend, and for you. Thank you. The other friend that called me to tell me, went and spent the night with P last night and called me on her way to work this morning. I called P and asked if she alone, she said yeah, she needed some time by herself. I told her I understand, I was going to give her a few hours and check on her, today is my day off work and I’m ready to roll at moment’s notice if she needs anything or some company. I know how to just be there and be quiet, or talk about whatever she wants to, if she wants to, whatever she needs. But I also have to let her do things her way, because I understand not wanting to be bothered with anybody when you are not okay. So I’m just sitting here looking crazy. You're a good friend.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Jul 22, 2024 12:57:57 GMT -5
I'm sorry to here about your mother. I don't understand the family dynamics but it seems odd that if your brother lives in Europe that he would be an effective guardian. I wish I didn’t… OB lives in Europe. He’s the one who raised the alarm. YB lives close to her. But she has developed an irrational hate and paranoia that he’s breaking into her house. This and the short term memory issues are the biggest problems…fi ngers crossed that they can do a neural exam while she’s in the hospital. Anyway. YB is the one who wants to go for guardianship. I already hold her financial POA at her investment firm, and I’m not convinced she’s doing badly enough day to day to justify a guardianship, so it’s not clear how a court would rule there. I don’t really speak to either brother outside of business or elder care and I’m not overly fond of my mother, but I will do what needs to be done to ensure she’s cared for. It’s delusional the hate she has for YB but not actually out of character…she’s still holding a grudge against my grade school Girl Scout troop leader for perceived financial mismanagement It’s a bit of a shame bc not only is he the logical choice geographically, but he’s also been blatantly favored over me, up to the point he wasn’t and she started b!tching to me about him and his wife. They probably won't. My dad was begging/demanding for a neural test while they had her in the hospital. The doctor seeing her overrode him and said she was fine. I think we did finally get them to concede but she managed to pass the tests because the tests measure spatial reasoning and she still had that in spades. Not taking care of herself physically was apparently her "right" to antonomy not a massive sign she shouldn't be living alone. Whether she would pass one now IDK. Supposedly according to the home she can't make decisions for herself now. As far as guardianship that is very hard to obtain, as it should be. In Iowa my grandmother would have to see at least two (three?) independent doctors not appointed by us or the nursing home and have them both agree that she can't take care of herself. It requires umpteen medical documents. Then it has to go through the court system. It is extremely convoluted. You MIGHT get them to push her into being admitted to a rehab center since she fell in the bathroom but it would require that you, your brothers and anyone else the hospital thinks they can con into taking her home refuse to. Legally the hospital cannot discharge if they have accepted responsibility for her until they find someone else to take it. You could sue their asses if she falls again. That's what we had to do. We also had the EMTs and nurses who admitted grandma backing us up to testify grandma was in no condition to be returned home. If we hadn't had them backing us up I have a feeling she would have been sent back to Treynor and probably died in that house. GU was harder. He was put in a rehab center because the hospital didn't want him since Medicare stopped paying. The rehab facility kept trying to get my dad to take GU home and he refused. Medicare stopped paying so they were forced to apply for Medicaid. They got stuck with him until they could put him in their assisted living facility.
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Post by swamp on Jul 22, 2024 13:15:32 GMT -5
I hate everything today. My mother fell in the bathroom and has a broken hip, otherwise stable. My brother in Europe raised the alarm last night and the police had to break in for the very necessary welfare check. She’s stable in hospital, YB now wants to go for guardianship and I’m not sure how to feel about that. OB was already flying over late this week to stay maybe a month so at least medium term care needs should be covered. I might need to fly out to cover the interim. My subcontractor is misbehaving themselves pretty mildly and coworker is being an asshole, again, after first being an asshole on Friday. I want to go back to bed. I'm sorry to hear about your mother. I don't understand the family dynamics but it seems odd that if your brother lives in Europe that he would be an effective guardian. and why a broken hip would warrant a guardian.............
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Post by swamp on Jul 22, 2024 13:21:24 GMT -5
My dear friend's ex husband was found dead over the weekend. We met during my semester abroad and we've remained closed despite the fact we live on opposite coasts. We were each other's MOH.
She had been married to him a little over 20 years, but he quit working and developed a drinking problem. About 2 years ago, she told him if she came home from work one more time and he was drunk, she was leaving. She kept to her word.
Their 19 year old son found him at home. They do not yet know the cause of death.
She feels responsible and very guilty. I wish i could be there for her.
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Post by bean29 on Jul 22, 2024 13:26:27 GMT -5
My dear friend's ex husband was found dead over the weekend. We met during my semester abroad and we've remained closed despite the fact we live on opposite coasts. We were each other's MOH. She had been married to him a little over 20 years, but he quit working and developed a drinking problem. About 2 years ago, she told him if she came home from work one more time and he was drunk, she was leaving. She kept to her word. Their 19 year old son found him at home. They do not yet know the cause of death. She feels responsible and very guilty. I wish i could be there for her. So sorry for your loss. Everyone seems to be having bad news today.
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Post by ners on Jul 22, 2024 13:28:19 GMT -5
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Post by chiver78 on Jul 22, 2024 13:46:55 GMT -5
I'm sorry to hear about your mother. I don't understand the family dynamics but it seems odd that if your brother lives in Europe that he would be an effective guardian. and why a broken hip would warrant a guardian............. there's been some other posts about cognitive decline, so it's not just the hip. lurky is already a limited POA (I can't remember which function) and her brother is another. this is a rough couple of pages to read this afternoon, now that I'm back online. hugs to all of you that need them.
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Post by soupandstew on Jul 22, 2024 13:58:59 GMT -5
My beloved "Piss Off" key fob broke today so I ordered a replacement, "Let's keep the dumbfuckery to a minimum today" DH is thrilled that the new one is stainless steel because he's terrified of what I might get next
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Post by chiver78 on Jul 22, 2024 14:01:44 GMT -5
My beloved "Piss Off" key fob broke today so I ordered a replacement, "Let's keep the dumbfuckery to a minimum today" DH is thrilled that the new one is stainless steel because he's terrified of what I might get next you know how you can instantly recognize specific sounds, and be transported back to wherever you first heard it? my mother still has this oval metal keychain thing. it's not engraved, but the painted (?) letters are definitely imprinted onto the metal. anyway, huge letters - SSDD. smaller letters - same shit, different day. as an adult, we all know the acronym. but she's had that keychain since the mid-80s when I was about 6 or 7. lol...
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Post by lurkyloo on Jul 22, 2024 14:10:19 GMT -5
I wish I didn’t… OB lives in Europe. He’s the one who raised the alarm. YB lives close to her. But she has developed an irrational hate and paranoia that he’s breaking into her house. This and the short term memory issues are the biggest problems…fi ngers crossed that they can do a neural exam while she’s in the hospital. Anyway. YB is the one who wants to go for guardianship. I already hold her financial POA at her investment firm, and I’m not convinced she’s doing badly enough day to day to justify a guardianship, so it’s not clear how a court would rule there. I don’t really speak to either brother outside of business or elder care and I’m not overly fond of my mother, but I will do what needs to be done to ensure she’s cared for. It’s delusional the hate she has for YB but not actually out of character…she’s still holding a grudge against my grade school Girl Scout troop leader for perceived financial mismanagement It’s a bit of a shame bc not only is he the logical choice geographically, but he’s also been blatantly favored over me, up to the point he wasn’t and she started b!tching to me about him and his wife. They probably won't. My dad was begging/demanding for a neural test while they had her in the hospital. The doctor seeing her overrode him and said she was fine. I think we did finally get them to concede but she managed to pass the tests because the tests measure spatial reasoning and she still had that in spades. Not taking care of herself physically was apparently her "right" to antonomy not a massive sign she shouldn't be living alone. Whether she would pass one now IDK. Supposedly according to the home she can't make decisions for herself now. As far as guardianship that is very hard to obtain, as it should be. In Iowa my grandmother would have to see at least two (three?) independent doctors not appointed by us or the nursing home and have them both agree that she can't take care of herself. It requires umpteen medical documents. Then it has to go through the court system. It is extremely convoluted. You MIGHT get them to push her into being admitted to a rehab center since she fell in the bathroom but it would require that you, your brothers and anyone else the hospital thinks they can con into taking her home refuse to. Legally the hospital cannot discharge if they have accepted responsibility for her until they find someone else to take it. You could sue their asses if she falls again. That's what we had to do. We also had the EMTs and nurses who admitted grandma backing us up to testify grandma was in no condition to be returned home. If we hadn't had them backing us up I have a feeling she would have been sent back to Treynor and probably died in that house. GU was harder. He was put in a rehab center because the hospital didn't want him since Medicare stopped paying. The rehab facility kept trying to get my dad to take GU home and he refused. Medicare stopped paying so they were forced to apply for Medicaid. They got stuck with him until they could put him in their assisted living facility. Yes, my impression is that guardianship is pretty hard to obtain and I don’t think she’d meet the criteria. But then you have localized horror stories of corporations targeting people for profit and having them declared incompetent without much basis too... So I suppose there’s likely some dependence on what judge you get. They are sufficiently concerned about her mental status at the hospital that they are calling OB for consent to perform the surgery. But it sounds like she was on the floor for a while which probably wasn’t any good for mental status I understand it’s rare for guardianship to be granted with a POA already in place too, but who knows. Nurse mentioned rehab as a likelihood. I don’t love it, I think you really need to check these places out carefully, and she’ll hate the idea. She wants to stay in her home, and she has sufficient assets that she could pay for aides pretty easily. The hard part is getting her to accept the necessity If it comes to that I or my brothers could also cover the cost. I have to say, my ILs are in an assisted living facility and MIL is constantly annoyed by the level of service they’re getting relative to what they’re paying. She wound up hiring full time aides that hang out in their apartment with them bc they weren’t getting prompt responses from the staff.
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Post by lurkyloo on Jul 22, 2024 14:20:08 GMT -5
I'm sorry to hear about your mother. I don't understand the family dynamics but it seems odd that if your brother lives in Europe that he would be an effective guardian. and why a broken hip would warrant a guardian............. YB, who is local, has been “waiting for her to get bad enough to go for guardianship”. She has specific cognitive issues and the question is whether she would meet whatever criteria the locality applies.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Jul 22, 2024 14:21:00 GMT -5
They probably won't. My dad was begging/demanding for a neural test while they had her in the hospital. The doctor seeing her overrode him and said she was fine. I think we did finally get them to concede but she managed to pass the tests because the tests measure spatial reasoning and she still had that in spades. Not taking care of herself physically was apparently her "right" to antonomy not a massive sign she shouldn't be living alone. Whether she would pass one now IDK. Supposedly according to the home she can't make decisions for herself now. As far as guardianship that is very hard to obtain, as it should be. In Iowa my grandmother would have to see at least two (three?) independent doctors not appointed by us or the nursing home and have them both agree that she can't take care of herself. It requires umpteen medical documents. Then it has to go through the court system. It is extremely convoluted. You MIGHT get them to push her into being admitted to a rehab center since she fell in the bathroom but it would require that you, your brothers and anyone else the hospital thinks they can con into taking her home refuse to. Legally the hospital cannot discharge if they have accepted responsibility for her until they find someone else to take it. You could sue their asses if she falls again. That's what we had to do. We also had the EMTs and nurses who admitted grandma backing us up to testify grandma was in no condition to be returned home. If we hadn't had them backing us up I have a feeling she would have been sent back to Treynor and probably died in that house. GU was harder. He was put in a rehab center because the hospital didn't want him since Medicare stopped paying. The rehab facility kept trying to get my dad to take GU home and he refused. Medicare stopped paying so they were forced to apply for Medicaid. They got stuck with him until they could put him in their assisted living facility. Yes, my impression is that guardianship is pretty hard to obtain and I don’t think she’d meet the criteria. But then you have localized horror stories of corporations targeting people for profit and having them declared incompetent without much basis too... So I suppose there’s likely some dependence on what judge you get. They are sufficiently concerned about her mental status at the hospital that they are calling OB for consent to perform the surgery. But it sounds like she was on the floor for a while which probably wasn’t any good for mental status I understand it’s rare for guardianship to be granted with a POA already in place too, but who knows. Nurse mentioned rehab as a likelihood. I don’t love it, I think you really need to check these places out carefully, and she’ll hate the idea.She wants to stay in her home, and she has sufficient assets that she could pay for aides pretty easily. The hard part is getting her to accept the necessity If it comes to that I or my brothers could also cover the cost. I have to say, my ILs are in an assisted living facility and MIL is constantly annoyed by the level of service they’re getting relative to what they’re paying. She wound up hiring full time aides that hang out in their apartment with them bc they weren’t getting prompt responses from the staff. Mostly likely but she isn't going to be given the option unfortunately. Once you fall a lot of stuff starts being taken out of your hands as we tried to warn my grandmother. If you know a place that has openings and accepts Medicaid you can push to have her sent to that one. If not she will go to whichever rehab center has an opening and will take her from the hospital. We had to fight to keep her from being sent to Gretna which is even further away than Treynor. What I have found is there is the court system regarding elder care for relatives and there is the court system for the elder care industry who has endless amounts of time, money and lawyers to bend things to their will. Unless you have equal amounts of all three you aren't going to win. We are questioning how the nursing home got to decide and petition that my grandmother needs a guardian but we know we have no recourse. It would cost me a shit load of money just to get a lawyer let alone taking her all over to get our own independent doctor evaluations. I am too tired emotionally and mentally to fight it anymore. It's not like they get anything all her money is gone. All this is why I am going to try to make sure to set up things as much as I can and be cooperative so I can go out on MY terms. I know I cannot control everything in life but not acting like GU and my grandmother is pretty low bar to clear. My grandmother got lucky she had $$$ so more homes were willing to take her. GU did not have even that much control. My dad said the place was a shit hole and he actually managed to get charges pressed against them for letting GU fall out of bed. I don't want to end up like either of them. I'm going to the nice rent controlled senior apartments as soon as it starts to become evident I can't handle caring for the house or I risk falling down the basement stairs trying to do laundry.
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Post by lurkyloo on Jul 22, 2024 14:22:57 GMT -5
Ew ew ew ew. Linkedin just had a video of eye surgery that I scrolled past. #cantunseeit
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MJ2.0
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Post by MJ2.0 on Jul 22, 2024 14:31:20 GMT -5
Ew ew ew ew. Linkedin just had a video of eye surgery that I scrolled past. #cantunseeit not sure when exactly LinkedIn became as unhinged as it is today, but I can't stand to be on it for any significant period of time.
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lurkyloo
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Post by lurkyloo on Jul 22, 2024 14:32:29 GMT -5
Yes, my impression is that guardianship is pretty hard to obtain and I don’t think she’d meet the criteria. But then you have localized horror stories of corporations targeting people for profit and having them declared incompetent without much basis too... So I suppose there’s likely some dependence on what judge you get. They are sufficiently concerned about her mental status at the hospital that they are calling OB for consent to perform the surgery. But it sounds like she was on the floor for a while which probably wasn’t any good for mental status I understand it’s rare for guardianship to be granted with a POA already in place too, but who knows. Nurse mentioned rehab as a likelihood. I don’t love it, I think you really need to check these places out carefully, and she’ll hate the idea.She wants to stay in her home, and she has sufficient assets that she could pay for aides pretty easily. The hard part is getting her to accept the necessity If it comes to that I or my brothers could also cover the cost. I have to say, my ILs are in an assisted living facility and MIL is constantly annoyed by the level of service they’re getting relative to what they’re paying. She wound up hiring full time aides that hang out in their apartment with them bc they weren’t getting prompt responses from the staff. Mostly likely but she isn't going to be given the option unfortunately. Once you fall a lot of stuff starts being taken out of your hands as we tried to warn my grandmother. If you know a place that has openings and accepts Medicaid you can push to have her sent to that one. If not she will go to whichever rehab center has an opening and will take her from the hospital. We had to fight to keep her from being sent to Gretna which is even further away than Treynor. What I have found is there is the court system regarding elder care for relatives and there is the court system for the elder care industry who has endless amounts of time, money and lawyers to bend things to their will. Unless you have equal amounts of all three you aren't going to win. We are questioning how the nursing home got to decide and petition that my grandmother needs a guardian but we know we have no recourse. It would cost me a shit load of money just to get a lawyer let alone taking her all over to get our own independent doctor evaluations. I am too tired emotionally and mentally to fight it anymore. It's not like they get anything all her money is gone. All this is why I am going to try to make sure to set up things as much as I can and be cooperative so I can go out on MY terms. I know I cannot control everything in life but not acting like GU and my grandmother is pretty low bar to clear. My grandmother got lucky she had $$$ so more homes were willing to take her. GU did not have even that much control. My dad said the place was a shit hole and he actually managed to get charges pressed against them for letting GU fall out of bed. I don't want to end up like either of them. I'm going to the nice rent controlled senior apartments as soon as it starts to become evident I can't handle caring for the house or I risk falling down the basement stairs trying to do laundry. She’s got over 7 figures in liquid assets and probably close to that in real estate equity, plus 3K monthly annuity and Dad’s SS, which should be the maximum. All three kids also just inherited close to $2M each from Dad’s side and we’re willing to make sure she’s taken care of (and ornery enough to fight). She’s got options, if she can be persuaded to cooperate.
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