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Post by andi9899 on Jul 22, 2024 10:01:28 GMT -5
Ugh, my sister in law is now refusing to go to the 50th anniversary party next week, which means that one of their sons and all of their grandchildren will miss it. She literally had six months to object to us holding it in a catholic church hall, but of course waited until less than a week out with everything scheduled there. DH is going to talk to his brother about it tomorrow and try to talk him into coming and bringing the kids without his wife, but it is unlikely. Will she be smited if she enters a Catholic church? This. What's the big deal. I go to stuff at church knowing that I run the risk of bursting into flames.
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Post by bean29 on Jul 22, 2024 10:06:35 GMT -5
I hate everything today. My mother fell in the bathroom and has a broken hip, otherwise stable. My brother in Europe raised the alarm last night and the police had to break in for the very necessary welfare check. She’s stable in hospital, YB now wants to go for guardianship and I’m not sure how to feel about that. OB was already flying over late this week to stay maybe a month so at least medium term care needs should be covered. I might need to fly out to cover the interim. My subcontractor is misbehaving themselves pretty mildly and coworker is being an asshole, again, after first being an asshole on Friday. I want to go back to bed. I am so sorry about this. How long was your mother laying on the floor in the bathroom? So glad he realized something was wrong. Empress, I am thinking of you today. Mom has a Dr. Appointment today to be admitted to the Assisted Living Facility. I was going to take her but as I have Covid, Db plans to take her...but I was at her house on Friday, so she might have it anyways. My Sister's Son is having a 1st birthday party for her Grandson who will be 1 year old on Saturday. I had RSVP'd, but apparently the mom heard I have Covid, and she posted on FB asking, "If you are recovering for recently being ill, we ask with an abundance of caution that you distance yourself from the birthday boy." I tested myself Saturday b/c I did not want to give it to DS and he wanted a ride. I was also concerned about my mom, but I went to her house on my lunch hour to pay her CC bill (1) she would never remember even if she told me she would do it, and 2) I don't think I can log in from a different computer. I went back after work intending to pop in and out and hopefully not see much of my mom, but got cornered by one of her friends that was there. Anyways, I told DD on Saturday eve when I talked to her that I had COVID. She was stranded in Minneapolis due to Delta's crew scheduling issues. She had apparently texted with one of her cousins that lives in MN. that she was in town, and He told her he could not meet up with her b/c he has COVID. She said my Mom does too, and his response was Who Doesn't after last weekend. I saw him and his dad on Friday at my In-laws and ate dinner with them, and then spent Saturday with the whole family at his Nephew's 4th birthday party. Apparently, there were quite a few who got COVID who attended the party. So, the mom is a Public Health Nurse - Idk why she is having a big party for her immunocompromised son...seems like not such a good idea. Just change my response from going to can't go. I hadn't registered when I RSVP'd that the party was at her Parent's house and DH does not like the way her dad treats him. Her dad was friends with my Ex DH. There is no reason for him to treat my husband badly - my ex was having an affair, which I did not find out for sure until after my divorce was final, but DH and I got married several years after my divorce and we are married 31 years already. One less stress in my life. I think I will still send a gift (I should be fine, but now my DH is sick). But, the other thing that stresses me out, is now if DB takes mom to the Dr. today, he may be exposed, and they are planning to go. I pulled a bag of clothing from my closet yesterday, but I think I need to try to get another bag of clothing out of there. I also did the dishes, cleaned the countertop, stovetop, microwave and swept & mopped the floor and did 2.5 loads of laundry. I wanted to go to bed early, but I think it was still 9pm by the time I went to bed. Resolution - I am sorry your SIL is being such a jerk.
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Post by bean29 on Jul 22, 2024 10:09:53 GMT -5
My best friend’s other friend called me about an hour ago. I knew it was bad when I saw her name on my phone, calling me in the morning, and I was afraid to answer. My friend P’s husband died early yesterday morning. They were in Alabama celebrating something with his family. Had a great time Saturday and Saturday night. In the middle of the night she woke up to him making gurgling noises, then he was gone. They’ve been together 15 years. He was a fun, outgoing guy, and he loved him some P. This is my same friend whose 14yo Grandson died suddenly in Nov of 22, and her Mom died in 2020. I am sitting at the table in my breakfast nook crying into my coffee. I am so sorry Pink.
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Post by soupandstew on Jul 22, 2024 10:13:21 GMT -5
Okay, it's 10:15 here and I'm pooped. I got a wild hair this morning and deep cleaned and reorganized one large pantry shelf before we went to get a kolache. Then we went to Aldi and spent a lot of $$, mostly on restocking of regular stuff. I just paid all the utility bills.
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Post by jerseygirl on Jul 22, 2024 10:16:54 GMT -5
DD has covid , taking paxlovid. Praying she won’t have reoccurrence of Long Covid like year ago. She is very healthy and athletic but long covid made her an invalid and couldn’t walk even 50 ft . She recovered after about 6 months and back to skiing running and mountain biking
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Post by daisylu on Jul 22, 2024 10:17:37 GMT -5
Texted MIL yesterday to see if one of them could do DH's PT appt Wednesday. I have today, and until a few minutes ago a doctor appt tomorrow - that got moved by doctor to next week. Did not tell DH until after I heard back from MIL. I just can not do it all.
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Post by andi9899 on Jul 22, 2024 10:24:08 GMT -5
For some reason I have been given a bunch of cement mixers and nobody wants them. Randomly a producer calls me and says he has a contact for someone with a cement mixer program. Huh! I think I may have a solution to my problem. Yay!
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Post by NoNamePerson on Jul 22, 2024 10:26:27 GMT -5
Will she be smited if she enters a Catholic church? This. What's the big deal. I go to stuff at church knowing that I run the risk of bursting into flames. Anytime we have something that calls for entering a church all my family members walk behind me and wait till I get in the church a good 50 ft before they will enter!! My take on person not wanting to enter Catholic church is that HER faith in her own beliefs aren't strong enough to resist temptation so she avoids any other religious structures/exposure just in case maybe ?
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Post by The Walk of the Penguin Mich on Jul 22, 2024 10:29:30 GMT -5
Texted MIL yesterday to see if one of them could do DH's PT appt Wednesday. I have today, and until a few minutes ago a doctor appt tomorrow - that got moved by doctor to next week. Did not tell DH until after I heard back from MIL. I just can not do it all. Is there any reason he cannot take an Uber?
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Post by Cheesy FL-Vol on Jul 22, 2024 10:36:42 GMT -5
Texted MIL yesterday to see if one of them could do DH's PT appt Wednesday. I have today, and until a few minutes ago a doctor appt tomorrow - that got moved by doctor to next week. Did not tell DH until after I heard back from MIL. I just can not do it all. Is there any reason he cannot take an Uber? If I remember correctly daisy doesn't live close enough to town for that convenience. We are in the same boat. Even getting AAA to come out here is a PITA.
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Post by swamp on Jul 22, 2024 10:41:06 GMT -5
Will she be smited if she enters a Catholic church? It is one of the two: 1. She can't stand the thought of anything that isn't all about her. AND/OR 2. We are all going to hell for being catholic and she is trying to save her kids from being contaminated by setting foot in the church reception hall. It would have been nice if she had objected back when we were planning things, as we were totally flexile for the location and would have changed it if she had spoken up. It is so irritating because she won't set foot in my house (cat allergy) so we keep changing plans so that our house guests get a chance to see her and the kids. I would really like to just make a nice dinner for my guests instead of carting them all into Hagerstown to see her. she does this because people cater to her. stop catering to her. make sure you tell the kids about the awesome party they missed.
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Post by taz157 on Jul 22, 2024 10:42:32 GMT -5
I’ve been at work for 3 hours and it doesn’t feel like it.
Today is my birthday and I’m taking off Friday instead. We are going to visit my ILs and go to the beach!!!
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Post by Opti on Jul 22, 2024 10:46:41 GMT -5
Is there any reason he cannot take an Uber? If I remember correctly daisy doesn't live close enough to town for that convenience. We are in the same boat. Even getting AAA to come out here is a PITA. Do you have county transport for the disabled and people of a certain age? I am in the process of learning about mine. It is complicated and an adventure.
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Post by Cheesy FL-Vol on Jul 22, 2024 10:48:17 GMT -5
If I remember correctly daisy doesn't live close enough to town for that convenience. We are in the same boat. Even getting AAA to come out here is a PITA. Do you have county transport for the disabled and people of a certain age? I am in the process of learning about mine. It is complicated and an adventure. No idea. We are not in that population bracket.
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Post by Opti on Jul 22, 2024 10:48:30 GMT -5
This. What's the big deal. I go to stuff at church knowing that I run the risk of bursting into flames. Anytime we have something that calls for entering a church all my family members walk behind me and wait till I get in the church a good 50 ft before they will enter!! My take on person not wanting to enter Catholic church is that HER faith in her own beliefs aren't strong enough to resist temptation so she avoids any other religious structures/exposure just in case maybe ? Hey now, if that bursting into flames actually worked in the present age, we would be on Trump clone #767 at least.
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Post by TheOtherMe on Jul 22, 2024 10:49:50 GMT -5
I am home. I do look like I got in to a fight and lost. I have a paper with what will be happening this week. Dr. said by next Monday, when I get the sutures removed, the swelling will be significantly less but there will still be lots of bruising as it's slower to heal. I have always been a slow healer on bruises, so I expected that.
Can't shower for 48 hours. Don't remove bandages until morning.
He got it all the first try. A sample was sent out to check the margins for any more cancerous cells. There were none so he didn't have to cut more out.
He said because of my skin type, it will heal with a redness to the skin, then pink and then to my regular skin tone. That process is about a year. If I don't like it, I can have plastic surgery, but insurance won't cover it.
Had to pick up an antibiotic and happened to run into the newest great niece. She was sleeping but it was the first time I have seen her.
My sister bought flowers while I was getting surgery. When I thanked her she said that's what sisters are for. Rolls eyes.
So she is out of my hair and I'm going to be taking it easy.
As the numbness goes away and the swelling starts, it may bleed so I have to stay somewhat aware.
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Post by minnesotapaintlady on Jul 22, 2024 10:50:45 GMT -5
It is one of the two: 1. She can't stand the thought of anything that isn't all about her. AND/OR 2. We are all going to hell for being catholic and she is trying to save her kids from being contaminated by setting foot in the church reception hall. It would have been nice if she had objected back when we were planning things, as we were totally flexile for the location and would have changed it if she had spoken up. It is so irritating because she won't set foot in my house (cat allergy) so we keep changing plans so that our house guests get a chance to see her and the kids. I would really like to just make a nice dinner for my guests instead of carting them all into Hagerstown to see her. she does this because people cater to her. stop catering to her. make sure you tell the kids about the awesome party they missed. Exactly. I have zero tolerance for people like this and wouldn't spend a minute trying to talk her into coming. I would just make sure I posted lots of pictures on Facebook of the great time it was.
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Post by daisylu on Jul 22, 2024 10:51:38 GMT -5
Texted MIL yesterday to see if one of them could do DH's PT appt Wednesday. I have today, and until a few minutes ago a doctor appt tomorrow - that got moved by doctor to next week. Did not tell DH until after I heard back from MIL. I just can not do it all. Is there any reason he cannot take an Uber? Too far away from town. ILs are right next door and willing to help, he just does not want them to. Too bad for him I am calling the shots now.
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Post by Opti on Jul 22, 2024 10:52:18 GMT -5
Do you have county transport for the disabled and people of a certain age? I am in the process of learning about mine. It is complicated and an adventure. No idea. We are not in that population bracket. The disability can be temporary, as I am hoping it is in my case. NJ Transit counts 62 and over as Seniors so I do fall into that bracket. I actually have a home intake that will happen sometime in the future to verify my underfunded income etc. Should be interesting as I am not sure how I am going to print out the info in the cloud etc. that they need. #Lifeunderfunded #Lifewithoutcar
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Post by Opti on Jul 22, 2024 10:53:08 GMT -5
I am home. I do look like I got in to a fight and lost. I have a paper with what will be happening this week. Dr. said by next Monday, when I get the sutures removed, the swelling will be significantly less but there will still be lots of bruising as it's slower to heal. I have always been a slow healer on bruises, so I expected that. Can't shower for 48 hours. Don't remove bandages until morning. He got it all the first try. A sample was sent out to check the margins for any more cancerous cells. There were none so he didn't have to cut more out.He said because of my skin type, it will heal with a redness to the skin, then pink and then to my regular skin tone. That process is about a year. If I don't like it, I can have plastic surgery, but insurance won't cover it. Had to pick up an antibiotic and happened to run into the newest great niece. She was sleeping but it was the first time I have seen her. My sister bought flowers while I was getting surgery. When I thanked her she said that's what sisters are for. Rolls eyes. So she is out of my hair and I'm going to be taking it easy. As the numbness goes away and the swelling starts, it may bleed so I have to stay somewhat aware.
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Post by countrygirl2 on Jul 22, 2024 10:57:58 GMT -5
We found a place for the treadmill, 2 exercycles and a big desk to go. Noone bought them. So the old college that has summer programs will take them, YES!! Also the lady that has the restaurant is taking our big freezer, hers is really ragged. And I'm giving her the stuff in it. She can use some to cook with and donate the rest if she wants. She does so much for the community, we have no problem with that.
We also are getting a second truck so we can take most everything we have up there. Still have to pull the boat and tool trailer, but this will help. So moving along. I am still purging some odds and ends, but there is a light at the end of the tunnel finally and its not an oncoming train, LOL!
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Post by finnime on Jul 22, 2024 10:58:55 GMT -5
Glad it went well, TheOtherMe. Now take it very easy for good healing.
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Post by finnime on Jul 22, 2024 11:04:23 GMT -5
Hope your day goes better than it threatens, lurkyloo.
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Post by gs11rmb on Jul 22, 2024 11:36:40 GMT -5
I hate everything today. My mother fell in the bathroom and has a broken hip, otherwise stable. My brother in Europe raised the alarm last night and the police had to break in for the very necessary welfare check. She’s stable in hospital, YB now wants to go for guardianship and I’m not sure how to feel about that. OB was already flying over late this week to stay maybe a month so at least medium term care needs should be covered. I might need to fly out to cover the interim. My subcontractor is misbehaving themselves pretty mildly and coworker is being an asshole, again, after first being an asshole on Friday. I want to go back to bed. I'm sorry to hear about your mother. I don't understand the family dynamics but it seems odd that if your brother lives in Europe that he would be an effective guardian.
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Post by gs11rmb on Jul 22, 2024 11:38:01 GMT -5
My best friend’s other friend called me about an hour ago. I knew it was bad when I saw her name on my phone, calling me in the morning, and I was afraid to answer. My friend P’s husband died early yesterday morning. They were in Alabama celebrating something with his family. Had a great time Saturday and Saturday night. In the middle of the night she woke up to him making gurgling noises, then he was gone. They’ve been together 15 years. He was a fun, outgoing guy, and he loved him some P. This is my same friend whose 14yo Grandson died suddenly in Nov of 22, and her Mom died in 2020. I am sitting at the table in my breakfast nook crying into my coffee. How awful. I'm so sorry for your friend, and for you.
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Post by lurkyloo on Jul 22, 2024 11:40:54 GMT -5
I hate everything today. My mother fell in the bathroom and has a broken hip, otherwise stable. My brother in Europe raised the alarm last night and the police had to break in for the very necessary welfare check. She’s stable in hospital, YB now wants to go for guardianship and I’m not sure how to feel about that. OB was already flying over late this week to stay maybe a month so at least medium term care needs should be covered. I might need to fly out to cover the interim. My subcontractor is misbehaving themselves pretty mildly and coworker is being an asshole, again, after first being an asshole on Friday. I want to go back to bed. I am so sorry about this. How long was your mother laying on the floor in the bathroom? So glad he realized something was wrong.Empress, I am thinking of you today. Mom has a Dr. Appointment today to be admitted to the Assisted Living Facility. I was going to take her but as I have Covid, Db plans to take her...but I was at her house on Friday, so she might have it anyways. My Sister's Son is having a 1st birthday party for her Grandson who will be 1 year old on Saturday. I had RSVP'd, but apparently the mom heard I have Covid, and she posted on FB asking, "If you are recovering for recently being ill, we ask with an abundance of caution that you distance yourself from the birthday boy." I tested myself Saturday b/c I did not want to give it to DS and he wanted a ride. I was also concerned about my mom, but I went to her house on my lunch hour to pay her CC bill (1) she would never remember even if she told me she would do it, and 2) I don't think I can log in from a different computer. I went back after work intending to pop in and out and hopefully not see much of my mom, but got cornered by one of her friends that was there. Anyways, I told DD on Saturday eve when I talked to her that I had COVID. She was stranded in Minneapolis due to Delta's crew scheduling issues. She had apparently texted with one of her cousins that lives in MN. that she was in town, and He told her he could not meet up with her b/c he has COVID. She said my Mom does too, and his response was Who Doesn't after last weekend. I saw him and his dad on Friday at my In-laws and ate dinner with them, and then spent Saturday with the whole family at his Nephew's 4th birthday party. Apparently, there were quite a few who got COVID who attended the party. So, the mom is a Public Health Nurse - Idk why she is having a big party for her immunocompromised son...seems like not such a good idea. Just change my response from going to can't go. I hadn't registered when I RSVP'd that the party was at her Parent's house and DH does not like the way her dad treats him. Her dad was friends with my Ex DH. There is no reason for him to treat my husband badly - my ex was having an affair, which I did not find out for sure until after my divorce was final, but DH and I got married several years after my divorce and we are married 31 years already. One less stress in my life. I think I will still send a gift (I should be fine, but now my DH is sick). But, the other thing that stresses me out, is now if DB takes mom to the Dr. today, he may be exposed, and they are planning to go. I pulled a bag of clothing from my closet yesterday, but I think I need to try to get another bag of clothing out of there. I also did the dishes, cleaned the countertop, stovetop, microwave and swept & mopped the floor and did 2.5 loads of laundry. I wanted to go to bed early, but I think it was still 9pm by the time I went to bed. Resolution - I am sorry your SIL is being such a jerk. We don’t know for sure. She was responding to email Friday and my BFF went over to visit Wed. Thanks for asking.
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Post by Pink Cashmere on Jul 22, 2024 11:41:16 GMT -5
TheOtherMe Thank you for checking in. I am glad that that part is done, and now you just have to heal. Get some rest and take care of yourself please ma’am.
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