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Post by geenamercile on Jul 3, 2024 15:44:26 GMT -5
If she can get the BC, then it will be a lot easier to get the SS card. She will just need some kind of picture ID to go along with it and they take school IDs if she has one. She does have school id. We're under a time crunch for job starting Monday. Anyone know what their leeway might be? Do they absolutely have to have soc sec card or just number? It's just part time retail at Plato's closet. I just sent her mom a text requesting medicaid card, soc sec no and birth cert and reasons for each. Same text every two weeks repeated 3x. Offered to meet her anywhere tomorrow to pick them up. Pretty sure mom and rest of fam got evicted again as they are suddenly moving to a 'better' place which teen learned from older bro. They were in this rental house for 18 months which teen said is the longest she would have ever lived anywhere. Seems like a 6-12 month eviction pattern as long as she can remember. I don't know if you need the SS card for the I-9 anymore if you have the number. Now the B.C for citizenship maybe the bigger need.
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Post by NastyWoman on Jul 3, 2024 16:35:44 GMT -5
I really don't understand the lack of planning some people display. In my long and slow preparations for a move to Europe I have been giving away quite a few items on the local buy nothing forum on FB. Because of this I see what is offered/asked for. Now for at least a week the forecast has been for triple digit heat this week. At first the extreme heat warnings were from yesterday until Saturday but that has now been extended through next Tuesday. Starting today I am seeing people "desperately searching" for a fan or portable A/C as it is so hot. No kidding... It has been in the forecast for over a week. Why not look for/ask for them a week ago? Now, not surprisingly, there are none to be had.
I feel for the people who are looking but not too much - I mean really, is it too much to expect that you prepare with that much lead time? It is not like this is an EQ which will strike without warning (and even then water, food, batteries, etc. should be on hand).
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Jul 3, 2024 16:45:30 GMT -5
Argh I found one of my vintage white whales a midi patchwork pattern dress with a Peter pan collar.
My ribs are too wide!!! I couldn't get more than the first button closed.
Son of a bitch!
But all was not lost. It looks like someone donated their mom/grandma's entire closet.
I found a hand made super cute midi dress in another pattern.
There were two more I am seriously debating going back for tomorrow if they are still there. Everything will be half off.
I don't need them but God I want them and I want to rescue them someone put time into these.
I could bankrupt us today the vintage racks are on fire.
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Post by Cheesy FL-Vol on Jul 3, 2024 16:59:54 GMT -5
Bawling all over again. The vet sent us a sympathy card.
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Post by weltz on Jul 3, 2024 17:13:30 GMT -5
Bawling all over again. The vet sent us a sympathy card. Oh no! I'm so sorry. What happened? Right now I'm trying to explain to my 18 year old cat why he has to take his thyroid medicine and not to spit his pills out. I'm finding pills all over the house. He's not listening.
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Post by soupandstew on Jul 3, 2024 17:14:36 GMT -5
I took a 30-minute nap this afternoon as I stayed up later than usual last night, and it was delightful. Tomorrow morning I'm going to whack on the neighbor's encroaching grape vines before it gets too hot and then we'll go out for a late breakfast at our taqueria. I think we'll run by Target after that for miscellaneous stuff like batteries, shower poufs, dish rags, rubbing alcohol, and other necessities of life. Right now it looks like we may get very, very lucky if Beryl goes in south of us-might get soaking rains next week but that's okay by me.
I'm still waiting to see if we are having a board meeting Monday night; I had a good chat with the president last night.
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Post by andi9899 on Jul 3, 2024 17:42:59 GMT -5
a fly just landed in my coffee. I hope that's not indicative of how the rest of the day is going to be. it's far too early to pour some wine. lol... one landed on my head at the office today. It met an untimely demise a few minutes later. Same with the junebug that landed on my neck the other day.
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Post by giramomma on Jul 3, 2024 17:44:15 GMT -5
OK. This will be long. I appreciate feedback.
Here's the details:
The job pays about 10K less a year than I currently make. That is more than a 10% pay cut.
There is possibility for pay increase down the road. Raises are generally 2% a year.
Benefits all stay the same.
My pension is based on my 3 highest years of pay, not the last three years I work. I've confirmed that 3 times.
I have no way to move in my unit. There is no moving up. There is no lateral. I have tried since Fall of 2021 to figure out a way to move laterally, and it's not happening. In the next level of my organization, there is no where to move to.
There is no change in leadership in my unit in the foreseeable future. Which means, no vision, no direction. Just watching products be run into the ground (one has lost almost a half mil of profit in the past 3ish years) without any changes.
I do not know what this new job will bring in terms of mobility within the unit and within the organization.
They want me. And I want them.
I don't know how exactly my paycheck will shake out. With a lower income, we'll get more in our tax refund. It also could look better for DD1 in terms of scholarships.
Here are the menu of options for bridging the income gap:
1. I'm working on a consulting opportunity. I can't do it now, because of my current work situation. I am having a chat with folks involved on friday.
Note: I will have to give the OK to check references before I know if the consulting gig is official. I may not get the consulting job. If this contact does fall through, I could have other options down the line.
2. We ask for scholarship money for tuition for the kids's 4k-8 school
We won't get the full bill covered, but it would help.
3. We use some of leftover 529 money to cover tuition for the kids'.
Note: tuition is 10K a year, total. This is only for 2 years, before the peanut goes to high school.
Also, note, we might be able to use some combination of 2 and 3.
4. My second job could be enough to fill most of the gap. Especially if I continue to stay full.
5. We can pay off our mortgage. We almost have enough Roth contributions to cover it all. We could try to scrape up the cash. We could ask to borrow the rest from family. This would free up about $400 a month. Probably half of what we would need to cover the gap.
6. DH has already signaled that he's willing to find some additional part time work to fill in the gap.
7. We can ask DS to start contributing to the household. Even if we ask for $500 a month, he'd still be saving 1.5K a month. I know it's not his 2K a month clip.
If you had all of these options, would you go ahead and take the job?
I already know what my answer is.
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Post by andi9899 on Jul 3, 2024 17:48:34 GMT -5
Even though I mostly hate my job, one of the perks is making decent money while not having any responsibility besides doing my job when I am there. Early in my career, I use to worry about things getting done if I’m not there to do my job, but years of being told how expendable I am and having that beat into my head, made me realize that it was true. Years ago, after a coworker with over 30 years of service DIED on the clock, in a stall in a restroom where he’d gone to try to get himself together because he wasn’t feeling well a manager said, in reference to his death, that the job is going to go on, even if we die. That was SO fucked up to me and made me SO mad, because how could you even say something like that, even if that’s how you think?! But it was indeed said, and I will never forget that that is how us peons are viewed. So if I take some scheduled time off or am too sick to go to work (or my children were really sick when they were minors), it stopped being a concern years ago, about how me taking off work when I schedule it or really need to even if it’s not scheduled ahead of time, affects my workplace. Even if I die, they won’t skip a beat, so why would I not choose to keep myself ALIVE and HEALTHY, over my damn job? But there is also the thing where I am so expendable that I can be off work for legitimate reasons and whenever I do go back, whether it’s after days, weeks, or even months, there are not mountains of work piled up, waiting for me to deal with. So me being so easily replaced because I am so unimportant and have so little value, works both ways as far as I am concerned, and makes my decisions to take care of me first when I need to choose, not even really be a question, or a decision to wrestle with. RIGHT?! Like, please keep me unimportant!!! I do NOT want to be the sole expert in anything!!!! While I'd like help, I do also like that I'm pretty valuable. I'm not untouchable obviously, but I do make a lot of money.
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Post by chiver78 on Jul 3, 2024 17:52:16 GMT -5
one landed on my head at the office today. It met an untimely demise a few minutes later. Same with the junebug that landed on my neck the other day. a junebug?! gah. luckily the ones that bother me are mostly sand gnats, or other stuff around the same size. the wasps have mostly left me alone since I hung the fake nest under the Blackstone on the deck, and the other bee that flies around like it's high seems to have moved on as well.
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Post by minnesotapaintlady on Jul 3, 2024 17:52:21 GMT -5
RIGHT?! Like, please keep me unimportant!!! I do NOT want to be the sole expert in anything!!!! While I'd like help, I do also like that I'm pretty valuable. I'm not untouchable obviously, but I do make a lot of money. So.... should I up the house prices I'm searching under?
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Post by minnesotapaintlady on Jul 3, 2024 17:54:20 GMT -5
I was going to mow and be productive tonight, but screw it, I'm tired and the weather is supposed to be nice tomorrow. I got McDonalds for dinner and going to have ice cream for dessert. (I'll be healthy tomorrow too).
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Post by flamingo on Jul 3, 2024 17:55:33 GMT -5
giramomma, I’d say yes to that! I know the salary is not perfect but you sound excited about the job and I know you’ve wanted out of your current gig for a long time. This seems like a good move!
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Post by TheOtherMe on Jul 3, 2024 18:00:05 GMT -5
giramomma YESYou have been miserable at the current job for a very long time. It sounds like this is a job you need for your mental health and you have figured out the $$$
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Post by andi9899 on Jul 3, 2024 18:00:27 GMT -5
While I'd like help, I do also like that I'm pretty valuable. I'm not untouchable obviously, but I do make a lot of money. So.... should I up the house prices I'm searching under? No! I like disposable income. I'm already insurance poor, I don't need to be house poor too. I do plan to become less makeup poor also. I'm going to be doubling my rent as it is.
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Post by andi9899 on Jul 3, 2024 18:02:20 GMT -5
I was going to mow and be productive tonight, but screw it, I'm tired and the weather is supposed to be nice tomorrow. I got McDonalds for dinner and going to have ice cream for dessert. (I'll be healthy tomorrow too). I'm getting Chipotle for dinner tonight. Slightly healthier than fast food. I'm going to be eating like crap tomorrow, so I should behave myself. At least a little.
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Post by NastyWoman on Jul 3, 2024 18:11:28 GMT -5
OK. This will be long. I appreciate feedback. Here's the details: The job pays about 10K less a year than I currently make. That is more than a 10% pay cut. There is possibility for pay increase down the road. Raises are generally 2% a year. Benefits all stay the same. My pension is based on my 3 highest years of pay, not the last three years I work. I've confirmed that 3 times. I have no way to move in my unit. There is no moving up. There is no lateral. I have tried since Fall of 2021 to figure out a way to move laterally, and it's not happening. In the next level of my organization, there is no where to move to. There is no change in leadership in my unit in the foreseeable future. Which means, no vision, no direction. Just watching products be run into the ground (one has lost almost a half mil of profit in the past 3ish years) without any changes. I do not know what this new job will bring in terms of mobility within the unit and within the organization. They want me. And I want them. I don't know how exactly my paycheck will shake out. With a lower income, we'll get more in our tax refund. It also could look better for DD1 in terms of scholarships. Here are the menu of options for bridging the income gap: 1. I'm working on a consulting opportunity. I can't do it now, because of my current work situation. I am having a chat with folks involved on friday. Note: I will have to give the OK to check references before I know if the consulting gig is official. I may not get the consulting job. If this contact does fall through, I could have other options down the line. 2. We ask for scholarship money for tuition for the kids's 4k-8 school We won't get the full bill covered, but it would help. 3. We use some of leftover 529 money to cover tuition for the kids'. Note: tuition is 10K a year, total. This is only for 2 years, before the peanut goes to high school. Also, note, we might be able to use some combination of 2 and 3. 4. My second job could be enough to fill most of the gap. Especially if I continue to stay full. 5. We can pay off our mortgage. We almost have enough Roth contributions to cover it all. We could try to scrape up the cash. We could ask to borrow the rest from family. This would free up about $400 a month. Probably half of what we would need to cover the gap. 6. DH has already signaled that he's willing to find some additional part time work to fill in the gap. 7. We can ask DS to start contributing to the household. Even if we ask for $500 a month, he'd still be saving 1.5K a month. I know it's not his 2K a month clip. If you had all of these options, would you go ahead and take the job? I already know what my answer is. I would. You have been too unhappy in your current job for too long! You can and will figure out the money gap. Benefits, especially health care and pension would be my concerns but they stay the same. So go and be happy. There are too many working years left to stay in this toxic environment!
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Post by minnesotapaintlady on Jul 3, 2024 18:13:31 GMT -5
I was going to mow and be productive tonight, but screw it, I'm tired and the weather is supposed to be nice tomorrow. I got McDonalds for dinner and going to have ice cream for dessert. (I'll be healthy tomorrow too). I'm getting Chipotle for dinner tonight. Slightly healthier than fast food. I'm going to be eating like crap tomorrow, so I should behave myself. At least a little. I wish we had one close by. My town does not have much for chains. We do have a lot of pizza places (3 colleges in a town of 26K people).
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Post by minnesotapaintlady on Jul 3, 2024 18:16:42 GMT -5
OK. This will be long. I appreciate feedback. Here's the details: The job pays about 10K less a year than I currently make. That is more than a 10% pay cut. There is possibility for pay increase down the road. Raises are generally 2% a year. Benefits all stay the same. My pension is based on my 3 highest years of pay, not the last three years I work. I've confirmed that 3 times. I have no way to move in my unit. There is no moving up. There is no lateral. I have tried since Fall of 2021 to figure out a way to move laterally, and it's not happening. In the next level of my organization, there is no where to move to. There is no change in leadership in my unit in the foreseeable future. Which means, no vision, no direction. Just watching products be run into the ground (one has lost almost a half mil of profit in the past 3ish years) without any changes. I do not know what this new job will bring in terms of mobility within the unit and within the organization. They want me. And I want them. I don't know how exactly my paycheck will shake out. With a lower income, we'll get more in our tax refund. It also could look better for DD1 in terms of scholarships. Here are the menu of options for bridging the income gap: 1. I'm working on a consulting opportunity. I can't do it now, because of my current work situation. I am having a chat with folks involved on friday. Note: I will have to give the OK to check references before I know if the consulting gig is official. I may not get the consulting job. If this contact does fall through, I could have other options down the line. 2. We ask for scholarship money for tuition for the kids's 4k-8 school We won't get the full bill covered, but it would help. 3. We use some of leftover 529 money to cover tuition for the kids'. Note: tuition is 10K a year, total. This is only for 2 years, before the peanut goes to high school. Also, note, we might be able to use some combination of 2 and 3. 4. My second job could be enough to fill most of the gap. Especially if I continue to stay full. 5. We can pay off our mortgage. We almost have enough Roth contributions to cover it all. We could try to scrape up the cash. We could ask to borrow the rest from family. This would free up about $400 a month. Probably half of what we would need to cover the gap. 6. DH has already signaled that he's willing to find some additional part time work to fill in the gap. 7. We can ask DS to start contributing to the household. Even if we ask for $500 a month, he'd still be saving 1.5K a month. I know it's not his 2K a month clip. If you had all of these options, would you go ahead and take the job? I already know what my answer is. I committed myself to a bigger paycut just for a deck, so yeah, I wouldn't think twice to $800/month to not be miserable all the time.
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Post by weltz on Jul 3, 2024 18:18:10 GMT -5
Gira...go for it!
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Post by soupandstew on Jul 3, 2024 18:21:17 GMT -5
giramomma For what little my opinion is worth, I think you should go for it. As you detailed, there are options to bridge the $$ gap and you will have a better work life quality in the near term, and potential in the longer term. Do it.
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Post by countrygirl2 on Jul 3, 2024 18:22:01 GMT -5
All DIL is getting is 1 bankers box of african dolls and statues. Hubs brought them home and now I will have nowhere to display them. They have masks from all over the world so will look nice displayed together.
Our couch is going and we are giving it to them to go with the half chair we gave them. There couch is awful and we are using the one we have up there at the other house. Later we will buy a new one, can't afford to right now. That is all we are taking to her. Hubs wants to keep a bunch of tools and son wants them too. His last load will be on the big trailer and tarped down for up there. When son gets his garage done he and hubs will put them in there. He is only keeping the good, useful stuff. Everything else is going. The lot has to have brush cleared before a garage goes in. Son is working on it now. He said he has gotten a lot of stumps out on his own so far. The lot has never had anything done to it, just growth and a mess. Behind it their land in the power line easement they can use, just permanent structures at your own risk. So they are scrapping up the sod and smoothing it out where DIL is going to move her green houses.
Hubs had to get batteries for the old truck and it kicked right off. I helped him get the big bolt in to hold the batteries in. He is doing a few other things to get it ready for sale. I need to clean the inside, its set for awhile and is really dirty. We will get it up for sale in the next few days.
He will be here longer than me to purge his stuff. He can stay in his folks house. I want to move most of the stuff into the main living area after I clean it and then I can clean the rest of the house here. Hubs will clean the windows.
I left the darn water on outside again for hours, that will cost us.
We saw the county fair in the city, and thankfully DD said she did not want to go. I took a nap this afternoon, can't say it helped but have done little today. I may pack more of DD's clothes and just put a few things in her dresser drawers to wear while she is here and clear out her closet. Also pack her shoes. She is happy with crocs in the summer.
DD had 3 shots in her jaw for the filling so she skipped lunch today, I was afraid she would chew her jaw. The dentist showed me 2 places I have decay under caps, both need replaced quick. He said he just didn't have any openings before I leave so need to find a dentist up there quickl.
Someone else said about Medicaid paying for dental. I took DD there twice in Texas and no more. It was not clean and I wondered about things being sterilized properly. We just save enough money out of hers to pay for dental care, hair, clothing, and glasses. Same with the awful glasses they get.
I'm making barbeque tonight. The meat is done in the ninja pot. I need to add seasonings and fix. I already packed the food processor. But I have a hand shredder I can use, old style, but need to watch the fingers. Later
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Post by soupandstew on Jul 3, 2024 18:24:20 GMT -5
We were just finishing supper when the power went out and I used up all my profanities in 60 seconds. Genny kicked in and then the power came back in under 5 minutes so I just had to reset the microwave etc. Heard the closest transformer growl right after we went dark so it got a load shift for sure.
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Post by giramomma on Jul 3, 2024 18:29:36 GMT -5
Just so we can talk about something else.
There is one small detail I've asked them about. Assuming that goes Ok, my plan is to give the green light to move on to check references.
I just don't know that there is any other option other than for me to say yes.
I will also say, right now, the title/grade that I have now. It's a liability. They put me in too high, anticipating that I would have further career growth, about 5-6 years ago. I'd rather take the short term pain now, to get out from underneath it, than stay and have it it continue to be an issue.
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Post by countrygirl2 on Jul 3, 2024 18:38:32 GMT -5
That's why we had so much, I was prepared for anything and everything, we won't be now and that makes me nervous. But we just can't take it all.
Clothes are purged down to 3 suitcases for me, 3 boxes for DD, and probably less for hubs. We had tons of clothing. And everything else is going in the same direction. All my candles, both battery and real are going as they will just melt in shipping.
I am visualizing in my mind where things will be in the rooms up there and we don't have enough corners.
Have my barbecue made and I'm packing spices and cooking seasonings I'm not going to be using for awhile and pitching old items.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Jul 3, 2024 18:42:27 GMT -5
Gira take it! Take it or I'm gonna come up there...😤
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Post by cooper88 on Jul 3, 2024 18:43:19 GMT -5
giramomma It's worth it just to look forward to going to work again.
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Post by Pink Cashmere on Jul 3, 2024 18:48:57 GMT -5
OK. This will be long. I appreciate feedback. Here's the details: The job pays about 10K less a year than I currently make. That is more than a 10% pay cut. There is possibility for pay increase down the road. Raises are generally 2% a year. Benefits all stay the same. My pension is based on my 3 highest years of pay, not the last three years I work. I've confirmed that 3 times. I have no way to move in my unit. There is no moving up. There is no lateral. I have tried since Fall of 2021 to figure out a way to move laterally, and it's not happening. In the next level of my organization, there is no where to move to. There is no change in leadership in my unit in the foreseeable future. Which means, no vision, no direction. Just watching products be run into the ground (one has lost almost a half mil of profit in the past 3ish years) without any changes. I do not know what this new job will bring in terms of mobility within the unit and within the organization. They want me. And I want them. I don't know how exactly my paycheck will shake out. With a lower income, we'll get more in our tax refund. It also could look better for DD1 in terms of scholarships. Here are the menu of options for bridging the income gap: 1. I'm working on a consulting opportunity. I can't do it now, because of my current work situation. I am having a chat with folks involved on friday. Note: I will have to give the OK to check references before I know if the consulting gig is official. I may not get the consulting job. If this contact does fall through, I could have other options down the line. 2. We ask for scholarship money for tuition for the kids's 4k-8 school We won't get the full bill covered, but it would help. 3. We use some of leftover 529 money to cover tuition for the kids'. Note: tuition is 10K a year, total. This is only for 2 years, before the peanut goes to high school. Also, note, we might be able to use some combination of 2 and 3. 4. My second job could be enough to fill most of the gap. Especially if I continue to stay full. 5. We can pay off our mortgage. We almost have enough Roth contributions to cover it all. We could try to scrape up the cash. We could ask to borrow the rest from family. This would free up about $400 a month. Probably half of what we would need to cover the gap. 6. DH has already signaled that he's willing to find some additional part time work to fill in the gap. 7. We can ask DS to start contributing to the household. Even if we ask for $500 a month, he'd still be saving 1.5K a month. I know it's not his 2K a month clip. If you had all of these options, would you go ahead and take the job? I already know what my answer is. I can’t even figure out the details of my own life, so I apologize for not having the capacity to try to help you figure out the details you mention here. I just want to say that while I do understand that there would be a reduction in salary, and how that matters, if the benefits are comparable and most importantly (to my old ass), it won’t affect your pension, I say go for it. I don’t want to make this a long ass post, explaining why I said what I said, so imma just say that if you can make it make sense and work for you, DO IT! Get out of the misery at your current job, if you have an opportunity that you can work with.
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Post by busymom on Jul 3, 2024 18:59:55 GMT -5
I'd say go for the new job giramomma. If finances get ugly, you could always do what we did (we took DD out of private school several years earlier than we'd planned. We had hoped to introduce her to the "real world" around the age of junior high, but our financial situation took a huge hit, and we did it 3 year earlier. No regrets, except the junior high kids were total brats, but then we heard back from the parents of kids in the private school, and kids there weren't behaving much better.) I would suggest you NOT pay off your house. When DD was in college, we spoke with one of those financial aid experts, and we were told if our house was paid off, we'd get less aid. Life is short. Take the leap of faith to a different job that will hopefully make you happier than where you are now.
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Post by chiver78 on Jul 3, 2024 19:07:37 GMT -5
I'd say go for it as well, gira! I took what I thought was a ~12k pay cut to be 10mi from home. I was naive enough to miss a ton of red flags and not ask a bunch of questions that would have revealed that I was being sold waterfront property in AZ. that long post of yours says you've looked at this from all possible angles and have ways to absorb the salary hit. and it gets you out of a place where you've been miserable for a long time? I'm not really seeing a down side.
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