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Post by Knee Deep in Water Chloe on Apr 26, 2024 11:02:44 GMT -5
L will be moving in with my dad in June. Her rent I'd getting too high. Dad's house is paid off so it makes sense. Not sure how I feel about it. I told him I know it's not my place but is he sure HE is ready because he was talking about cleaning the house and was getting upset. I said I know he asked her but doing what is going to be the final clean out is a huge step. Yeah it's been two years but if you're not ready you're not ready. He said yes and no. I will be taking mom's cookie jars. He doesn't think L would mind but he doesn't know and doesn't want to get rid of them or stick them in the basement. This is going to be hard. I said of course I'll help. It's a welcoming gesture and no way would I expect dad to handle all that alone. It's too much. Hell the idea of it is overwhelming me and it's not my house. But it's my mom. It's going to be weird for awhile. I appreciate he gave me a decent heads up.
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Post by giramomma on Apr 26, 2024 11:36:20 GMT -5
Of course on the day i need to be decent, the wind is blowing.
I don't even know why I bother trying folks.
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Post by toomuchreality on Apr 26, 2024 11:41:19 GMT -5
Of course on the day i need to be decent, the wind is blowing. I don't even know why I bother trying folks. Hugs ♡
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Post by lurkyloo on Apr 26, 2024 12:09:46 GMT -5
Holy sh!t, the #relationshipgoals neighbors are divorcing. I‘m sad for them…had been thinking I hadn’t talked to either of them in a while. What people display in public is almost certainly not representative on what goes on behind closed doors. I am about to be 49YO, and the "company face" was indoctrinated in me at birth. I don’t have any reason to think there was anything particularly nefarious going on. I think they just grew apart after 20+ years. I will say that he has always struck me as someone driven towards bigger better faster more, and she made a comment at one point that he’s never held an office job bc it’s not consistent with his personality. Not a deadbeat; he grew and sold a company, consulted for the buyers for years after and has done other high-powered stuff, just not someone whose personality/mentality necessarily fits into the standard box. His dad (who was awesome and is missed) died suddenly maybe a year ago as well, and they’ve had other challenges. I also think that some things are just personal and not required disclosure to the nosy neighbor As long as we’re waxing philosophical, pretty sure the reason I‘m still married is that DH is a truly exceptional human being with incredible amounts of patience definitely not my fault!
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Post by bean29 on Apr 26, 2024 12:33:59 GMT -5
Well, I was almost done typing up a post, and our power went out at work for a minute. My Post is gone. So, basically: Pink & Daisylu and Giramomma - I am sorry your Mom's and other relatives are such narcissists. You deserve better. I think your kids are better at shutting down this type of behavior and cutting people off it they need to. NMD-I hope you can come up with a meaningful way to display your mom's beloved cookie jar collection. to everyone that needs one. Cocktail hour begins at 6pm!
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Post by countrygirl2 on Apr 26, 2024 12:39:47 GMT -5
Sometimes I don't know how hubs and I ever stayed married. The first 13 years were awful but neither of us came from divorced families. Mom's brother was the only one I knew of divorce in her family. He didn't want it, his wife did, but I think it might have been his fault. So 11 brothers and sisters, one divorce, they were a Catholic family.
Dads family a brother never married, a sister married 4 times, LOL! The last one finally took. And far as I know she was the only one.
Maybe we were just encouraged to stick it out, I don't know, but at this point I'm happy we did.
Went to doc, she could hear the noise in my breathing and gave me an antibiotic shot on top of the oral ones. She said she would write me a scrip of antibiotics to take in case I get sick. I really like her, she knows her patients. She is Indian and today had a very pretty blouse on and the color suited her. I complimented her and I swear she is like a kid that you say good job. She looked very nice. Her husband is a doctor too a pulmonologist and I have been to him when I had sleep apnea. I like them both.
Ran into my chiropractor that left the other office here, he is opening an office locally. I'm very happy to see that, he is very good and has really helped DD and I. I told him we will definitely come in. He said he doesn't have all his insurance in place yet but will reduce for cash until he does. Fine with me.
I did my civic duty today and voted, it was a very very skimpy ticket locally so I only voted for Biden. He is a good and honorable man, yes, he is too old, but the alternative would be a vote against democracy.
Got my tile mopped going to vac quickly and clean litter boxes. DD and I are ready to go at 4 to pick up hubs. We had Subway for lunch. So all is well.
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Post by chiver78 on Apr 26, 2024 12:47:59 GMT -5
well, the hammer dropped a little yesterday, re: RTO. my boss heard back from the HR rep that was travelling when his first flare went out. apparently, I'll have until X date (still TBD) to comply or I'll get a written warning. boss confirmed this is internal and wouldn't affect any future reference checks, that's nice. that said, I also told him I'd figure it out if push comes to shove and I have to, but to be on notice that my productivity is going to take a hit as I'll be sitting on the fucking highway during my most productive time of day. I can request a meeting with HR, which I will be, and where I'll be politely and professionally blunt as I ask what the end goal is of RTO. b/c X, Y, Z that I've already explained here show that there is zero need for me to be in person for the job I perform. guess I'll be applying for everything that sounds good this weekend, and see what sticks. that's how I ended up here this time, trying to GTFO of that train wreck place. could be a good thing?
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Post by bean29 on Apr 26, 2024 12:56:16 GMT -5
well, the hammer dropped a little yesterday, re: RTO. my boss heard back from the HR rep that was travelling when his first flare went out. apparently, I'll have until X date (still TBD) to comply or I'll get a written warning. boss confirmed this is internal and wouldn't affect any future reference checks, that's nice. that said, I also told him I'd figure it out if push comes to shove and I have to, but to be on notice that my productivity is going to take a hit as I'll be sitting on the fucking highway during my most productive time of day. I can request a meeting with HR, which I will be, and where I'll be politely and professionally blunt as I ask what the end goal is of RTO. b/c X, Y, Z that I've already explained here show that there is zero need for me to be in person for the job I perform. guess I'll be applying for everything that sounds good this weekend, and see what sticks. that's how I ended up here this time, trying to GTFO of that train wreck place. could be a good thing? I'm sorry. Like I said before, it seems like a good day for a virtual cocktail hour.
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Post by Cookies Galore on Apr 26, 2024 13:01:30 GMT -5
L will be moving in with my dad in June. Her rent I'd getting too high. Dad's house is paid off so it makes sense. Not sure how I feel about it. I told him I know it's not my place but is he sure HE is ready because he was talking about cleaning the house and was getting upset. I said I know he asked her but doing what is going to be the final clean out is a huge step. Yeah it's been two years but if you're not ready you're not ready. He said yes and no. I will be taking mom's cookie jars. He doesn't think L would mind but he doesn't know and doesn't want to get rid of them or stick them in the basement. This is going to be hard. I said of course I'll help. It's a welcoming gesture and no way would I expect dad to handle all that alone. It's too much. Hell the idea of it is overwhelming me and it's not my house. But it's my mom. It's going to be weird for awhile. I appreciate he gave me a decent heads up. You're a good egg. ❤️
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Post by daisylu on Apr 26, 2024 13:05:45 GMT -5
L will be moving in with my dad in June. Her rent I'd getting too high. Dad's house is paid off so it makes sense. Not sure how I feel about it. I told him I know it's not my place but is he sure HE is ready because he was talking about cleaning the house and was getting upset. I said I know he asked her but doing what is going to be the final clean out is a huge step. Yeah it's been two years but if you're not ready you're not ready. He said yes and no. I will be taking mom's cookie jars. He doesn't think L would mind but he doesn't know and doesn't want to get rid of them or stick them in the basement. This is going to be hard. I said of course I'll help. It's a welcoming gesture and no way would I expect dad to handle all that alone. It's too much. Hell the idea of it is overwhelming me and it's not my house. But it's my mom. It's going to be weird for awhile. I appreciate he gave me a decent heads up.
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Post by lurkyloo on Apr 26, 2024 13:10:04 GMT -5
Hugs Drama.
Change is necessary, change is good, change totally sucks.
I love that you’re taking your mom‘s cookie jars.
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Post by lurkyloo on Apr 26, 2024 13:15:04 GMT -5
My friend’s younger brother is showing signs of something that’s consistent with stage 4 cancer. You know it’s bad when you hope the imaging results are only cysts from meningeal TB
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Post by chiver78 on Apr 26, 2024 13:18:18 GMT -5
well, the hammer dropped a little yesterday, re: RTO. my boss heard back from the HR rep that was travelling when his first flare went out. apparently, I'll have until X date (still TBD) to comply or I'll get a written warning. boss confirmed this is internal and wouldn't affect any future reference checks, that's nice. that said, I also told him I'd figure it out if push comes to shove and I have to, but to be on notice that my productivity is going to take a hit as I'll be sitting on the fucking highway during my most productive time of day. I can request a meeting with HR, which I will be, and where I'll be politely and professionally blunt as I ask what the end goal is of RTO. b/c X, Y, Z that I've already explained here show that there is zero need for me to be in person for the job I perform. guess I'll be applying for everything that sounds good this weekend, and see what sticks. that's how I ended up here this time, trying to GTFO of that train wreck place. could be a good thing? I'm sorry. Like I said before, it seems like a good day for a virtual cocktail hour. oh, I poured one when I got back home from a walk with the goobers - the first in probably a month. I busted my ankle, then the landscapers were here all days, and then vacation. today's walk was all about sniffing ALL of the sniffs more so than walking, but that's okay. we're gonna be walking again now that I'm home. oh look, it's time for a refill! lol...
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Post by Cookies Galore on Apr 26, 2024 13:19:13 GMT -5
It's my 15 year anniversary at work. Only 20 more years until my retire at 62 goal hopefully becomes reality. I'm glad I like it here.
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Post by giramomma on Apr 26, 2024 13:32:30 GMT -5
As long as we’re waxing philosophical, pretty sure the reason I‘m still married is that DH is a truly exceptional human being with incredible amounts of patience definitely not my fault! I don't know that my DH is truly exceptional. I think he does have a high tolerance of just ignoring stuff. I think I do to, actually. I mean, i suppose I should get worked up about things like a trail of clothes (though DH doesn't do that), or TP going the wrong way (I don't give a crap), or the fact that he likes to re-load the dishwasher after I do it. (He likes playing dish tetris more than I do.) There's just not enough hours in the day to devote to things that really don't matter. That, and he is my favorite person, besides my kids. I really can't imagine my life without him, and I do hope i go first. One day I was like "don't I do things that drive you nuts." Dh was like "yay, and I just ignore it."
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Post by soupandstew on Apr 26, 2024 13:46:18 GMT -5
Stayed up late but slept great. Did some Quicken stuff and cleaned the bathrooms. I'm on the second load of laundry now, and just poured some nice cold wine.
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Post by countrygirl2 on Apr 26, 2024 13:49:55 GMT -5
Hubs and I were so used to living alone, these breaks we get from each other are likely very welcome to both of us. I'm bad but I was excited for him to go, not that daily cooking thing. DD and I have had a lot of fish this week, catfish, and cod, both so good. I just put a couple of fillets in the microwave to thaw. It's not on, I just have to put them in there to keep the cats from playing bat a steak. Don't really want them with claw marks through the wrapping, with the same claws they scratch the potty with, yuck.
Hubs just called and so far the plane is a half hour late, the toilet wasn't working.
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Post by toomuchreality on Apr 26, 2024 13:59:55 GMT -5
Well, I was almost done typing up a post, and our power went out at work for a minute. My Post is gone. So, basically: Pink & Daisylu and Giramomma - I am sorry your Mom's and other relatives are such narcissists. You deserve better. I think your kids are better at shutting down this type of behavior and cutting people off it they need to. NMD-I hope you can come up with a meaningful way to display your mom's beloved cookie jar collection. to everyone that needs one. Cocktail hour begins at 6pm! I need to stop at the liquor store after my doctor appointment! 😊
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Post by soupandstew on Apr 26, 2024 14:07:06 GMT -5
I think part of the reason I live in Houston is my fellow citizens make me appear semi-normal. I just looked at headlines on one of our TV stations and found "Woman takes Houston ambulance for joyride after being denied a ride" and "Houston restaurant employee accused of putting his genitals in food items, possessing child pornography"
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Post by chiver78 on Apr 26, 2024 14:10:05 GMT -5
Hubs and I were so used to living alone, these breaks we get from each other are likely very welcome to both of us. I'm bad but I was excited for him to go, not that daily cooking thing. DD and I have had a lot of fish this week, catfish, and cod, both so good. I just put a couple of fillets in the microwave to thaw. It's not on, I just have to put them in there to keep the cats from playing bat a steak. Don't really want them with claw marks through the wrapping, with the same claws they scratch the potty with, yuck. Hubs just called and so far the plane is a half hour late, the toilet wasn't working. that's a delay worth waiting for, better than figuring it out in the air.
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Post by NoNamePerson on Apr 26, 2024 14:38:18 GMT -5
Well, I was almost done typing up a post, and our power went out at work for a minute. My Post is gone. So, basically: Pink & Daisylu and Giramomma - I am sorry your Mom's and other relatives are such narcissists. You deserve better. I think your kids are better at shutting down this type of behavior and cutting people off it they need to. NMD-I hope you can come up with a meaningful way to display your mom's beloved cookie jar collection. to everyone that needs one. Cocktail hour begins at 6pm! What time zone are you in?
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Post by TheOtherMe on Apr 26, 2024 14:42:31 GMT -5
L will be moving in with my dad in June. Her rent I'd getting too high. Dad's house is paid off so it makes sense. Not sure how I feel about it. I told him I know it's not my place but is he sure HE is ready because he was talking about cleaning the house and was getting upset. I said I know he asked her but doing what is going to be the final clean out is a huge step. Yeah it's been two years but if you're not ready you're not ready. He said yes and no. I will be taking mom's cookie jars. He doesn't think L would mind but he doesn't know and doesn't want to get rid of them or stick them in the basement. This is going to be hard. I said of course I'll help. It's a welcoming gesture and no way would I expect dad to handle all that alone. It's too much. Hell the idea of it is overwhelming me and it's not my house. But it's my mom. It's going to be weird for awhile. I appreciate he gave me a decent heads up. This has to be hard and weird for you. I don't know how I would feel if my dad had moved someone in. He accused us of trying to set him up with a fellow church member and we were not. Your dad is much younger than mine was. Hopefully, he has a long life ahead of him and he deserves to be as happy as he can be. My uncle inherited his daughter's house when she died without a will. It meant he could not longer stay in his low income senior apartment. His lady friend lived there. He moved her with him. Financially it did not make sense for them to marry. His two sisters both thought they were friends and had separate bedrooms. They don't have separate bedrooms. I have not asked his daughter and son how they feel about it. His daughter does go places with them and has said to me how nice Betty is. My guess is she approves because she knows her dad was lonely. I have had the impression the son doesn't like it, but there isn't anything he can do about it. They appear to be happy and have been together over 15 years now. Betty had back surgery and is so happy she did as her pain is gone. One of the two kids used to drive them up here to see mom and dad and then dad after mom died. Betty was the one who comforted me at the graveside part of mom's funeral.
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Post by andi9899 on Apr 26, 2024 15:03:33 GMT -5
I try to stay away from my sister to maintain my sanity. She is a bully and tries to bully me in to doing what she wants me to do. I have my friend Jerry to thank for this clarity. Back to the eye doctor for the test for peripheral vision. I had misunderstood and thought all I was doing was that test for 30 minutes and I though I would be crazy after it. I hate that test with a passion. I was only in the office for 20 minutes and that was not the only test I did. So all of that worrying for nothing. Honestly, I'm glad you stay away from her most of the time. From the stuff you post about her I want to throat punch her sometimes.
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Post by resolution on Apr 26, 2024 15:05:27 GMT -5
My front porch was in a car accident this afternoon. All the drivers are ok, but the porch not so much. The police just gave me a copy of the report so I have all the insurance information for the drivers involved. I think I'm going to wait until my husband gets home so he can figure out how serious the damage is before we call the insurance company. No clue if we would be better off just fixing it ourselves to avoid getting our premiums raised.
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Post by snapdragon on Apr 26, 2024 15:17:44 GMT -5
That photo is scary and I am thankful only the porch seems to be damaged and people were not hurt. Hugs resolution
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Post by soupandstew on Apr 26, 2024 15:28:05 GMT -5
My front porch was in a car accident this afternoon. All the drivers are ok, but the porch not so much. The police just gave me a copy of the report so I have all the insurance information for the drivers involved. I think I'm going to wait until my husband gets home so he can figure out how serious the damage is before we call the insurance company. No clue if we would be better off just fixing it ourselves to avoid getting our premiums raised. Since I'm 100% sure your porch did NOT jump out in front of that car, this should not impact your premiums. When you report this to your insurance company, they will go after the responsible driver(s). It may take a bit but this should not be on your nickel
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Post by minnesotapaintlady on Apr 26, 2024 15:34:34 GMT -5
My front porch was in a car accident this afternoon. All the drivers are ok, but the porch not so much. The police just gave me a copy of the report so I have all the insurance information for the drivers involved. I think I'm going to wait until my husband gets home so he can figure out how serious the damage is before we call the insurance company. No clue if we would be better off just fixing it ourselves to avoid getting our premiums raised. The driver responsible for the accident has to pay this, not you. That's what the personal property damage part of their insurance is for.
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Post by Anne_in_VA on Apr 26, 2024 15:35:40 GMT -5
DH retired today and I’m not sure how I feel about it. He’s going to be home all the time and I don’t really want him underfoot all the time. Remains to be seen how it goes.
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Post by toomuchreality on Apr 26, 2024 15:35:55 GMT -5
I think part of the reason I live in Houston is my fellow citizens make me appear semi-normal. I just looked at headlines on one of our TV stations and found "Woman takes Houston ambulance for joyride after being denied a ride" and "Houston restaurant employee accused of putting his genitals in food items, possessing child pornography" Compared to these examples, I'd say you are VERY normal! Thank you for that.
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Post by andi9899 on Apr 26, 2024 16:22:02 GMT -5
L will be moving in with my dad in June. Her rent I'd getting too high. Dad's house is paid off so it makes sense. Not sure how I feel about it. I told him I know it's not my place but is he sure HE is ready because he was talking about cleaning the house and was getting upset. I said I know he asked her but doing what is going to be the final clean out is a huge step. Yeah it's been two years but if you're not ready you're not ready. He said yes and no. I will be taking mom's cookie jars. He doesn't think L would mind but he doesn't know and doesn't want to get rid of them or stick them in the basement. This is going to be hard. I said of course I'll help. It's a welcoming gesture and no way would I expect dad to handle all that alone. It's too much. Hell the idea of it is overwhelming me and it's not my house. But it's my mom. It's going to be weird for awhile. I appreciate he gave me a decent heads up. Does she not have kids she can move in with or a friend she can roommate with? You're handling it well. I don't know if I could. My parents have been married forever like yours so I imagine you have a lot of feelings going on.
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