what are you doing right now?

[Pink Cashmere]

Dec 10, 2023 14:27:58 GMT -5 Opti said:

My new stronger med is doing things however my left sinus is not draining and that's a big problem. So I'm going to neti pot as soon as the boiled water gets cool enough to do so. I also made some tea, so that should help too.

More later, but today's to do list is set up telehealth visit since its obvious I am not better enough to work.

What happened with you getting FMLA a while back? Was it approved?

[chiver78]

we came home when it started drizzling, so I could pull my patio umbrella and tie up my deck chairs for yhe expected high winds. and it's been just blah ever since. Punk is moping, but LD won't go outside unless he hears something he needs to go bark at. 🙄 like, just start raining already 🤬

my background noise since coming home has been Bones reruns. for anyone that was a fan, this current stretch is a squint getting killed-> Booth and Bones finally hooking up->Angela giving birth->Bones disclosing she's preggo. I vaguely remember watching these when they originally aired, but it's been forever. this was a go-to until its last 2 or 3 seasons.

I'm about to empty the dishwasher while I wait on the round of pup food prep to cool enough to handle and pack up. then I'll start on the piccata for myself.

[soupandstew]

Spent solid book time this morning, went to lunch and then to Home Depot for odds and ends like light bulbs, drain treatment, shower cleaner, and Command hooks.  Of course, forgot the Home Depot gift cards I need 

[Opti]

Dec 10, 2023 14:52:20 GMT -5 Pink Cashmere said:

Dec 10, 2023 14:27:58 GMT -5 Opti said:

My new stronger med is doing things however my left sinus is not draining and that's a big problem. So I'm going to neti pot as soon as the boiled water gets cool enough to do so. I also made some tea, so that should help too.

More later, but today's to do list is set up telehealth visit since its obvious I am not better enough to work.

What happened with you getting FMLA a while back? Was it approved?

I got FMLA for my spring crash and burn. I went back to work in June/late May?

[Pink Cashmere]

I can’t seem to find my good mood today, even though I keep trying. I did not get much sleep last night, again. A lot of things would be better if I could just get some fucking sleep. I am still struggling with my stroke sinuses making me feel like crap again, and I feel like imma lose it if I don’t get some sleep soon.

As soon as my vacation time hits the books next year, and I can afford to, I am running away for a couple of days. Thanks to you all encouraging me when I was so nervous about going to New Orleans by myself last year for my side gig, I know now that I can travel by myself and only be okay, but actually enjoy it. I don’t have to go far when I run away, I just want to get away from my stupid life and get somewhere and by myself. 

That gives me something to plan for and look forward to. 

The way I feel right now, if anybody is looking for me tonight, I might be in the backyard howling at the moon. Or in jail. I’d rather howl at the moon like a crazy person, than go to jail, so just leave me tf alone please.

[countrygirl2]

I let grandson stay up as late as he wanted last night was 1:30. He got in bed and I think fell asleep when he hit the bed, I had to move him to cover him up, LOL!

This morning the kids had cookies and milk for breakfast, no not acceptable, but just did. He had ham and cheese for lunch and DD and I split a tuna sandwich from Subway. Grandson does not like tuna salad yet likes fish.

We are going to the base shopping one day this week and to the ballet, probably some other things as little guy will be in school this week. I need to wrap presents

It's nice to be here. Good to have people to talk to and a good area, if only a bigger house would be great, oh and a garage for hubs. I will keep watching, once here it may take awhile but bet we find something.

[Opti]

Apparently now is the time a stink bug enters my home. Not surprised as I saw my first fly squeeze its way in the other day. It is warm today and rain pretty much most of the day. 

We've had our hard freezing crash one or more times so all the bugs are looking for shelter, I guess. 

[Opti]

Dec 10, 2023 15:35:10 GMT -5 Pink Cashmere said:

I can’t seem to find my good mood today, even though I keep trying. I did not get much sleep last night, again. A lot of things would be better if I could just get some fucking sleep. I am still struggling with my stroke sinuses making me feel like crap again, and I feel like imma lose it if I don’t get some sleep soon.

As soon as my vacation time hits the books next year, and I can afford to, I am running away for a couple of days. Thanks to you all encouraging me when I was so nervous about going to New Orleans by myself last year for my side gig, I know now that I can travel by myself and only be okay, but actually enjoy it. I don’t have to go far when I run away, I just want to get away from my stupid life and get somewhere and by myself. 

That gives me something to plan for and look forward to. 

The way I feel right now, if anybody is looking for me tonight, I might be in the backyard howling at the moon. Or in jail. I’d rather howl at the moon like a crazy person, than go to jail, so just leave me tf alone please.

Well if you can wait until after January, you can come up here but will have to crash somewhere else. I live in a one bdrm place with still too much stuff and the floors are hardwood. 

But there is lots to do here. We can hang a bit, go out to eat and I can give you many ideas of things to do. Best time here is April through October if I ignore holiday stuff. And driving is easier if you avoid winter and late fall. Lots of historic homes too. My dad used to like to come in June when he came out because the weather is good and its the month of Father's Day.

[Pink Cashmere]

Dec 10, 2023 15:23:02 GMT -5 Opti said:

Dec 10, 2023 14:52:20 GMT -5 Pink Cashmere said:

What happened with you getting FMLA a while back? Was it approved?

I got FMLA for my spring crash and burn. I went back to work in June/late May?

But your sinus issues are a chronic condition, right? That is how your FMLA paperwork should’ve been written, for a chronic condition to cover you when your sinus issues get so bad that you can’t work, not just for that one instance of a recurring serious health issue. 

If it wasn’t written that way, you should look into having it done. I know it’s possible, because I’ve had FMLA for my sinus issues for years. IIRC, you’ve been off work now for several days, but even if you exceed the number of days your Doctor puts in your FMLA paperwork, all you need is a note from your Doctor saying you’ve had an office visit while you were out. Your employer can require you to get the paperwork filled out again if you go past the number of days your Doctor put in the original paperwork that you might be out due to your issues, but that’s a small hoop to jump through to protect your job. 

I am not an expert on FMLA, but I do know quite a bit about it. The best thing employees need to know, is that it is LAW, and not subject to employer discretion when everything is above board and done correctly. 

I empathize with you because I struggle with sinus issues myself, and I know that it can make you feel like SHIT sometimes. I feel like SHIT myself right now. I am only advising you about FMLA because I know from experience that having FMLA to protect your job is one less thing to concern yourself with when you are truly sick, while you try to help your body heal. 

[empress of self-improvement]

Just finally remembered to tíe mt Christmas Tree upright. It's not a huge one and I forgot I don't have a tree stand so I'm using a giant kitty litter bucket full of water. No fire hazard here. Unfortunately my tree topper, a rather heavy resin/wood Pooh angel tilts it over. Tiene it to a wall stud and now have to finish decorating it. Probably on Christmas😝 Good news is Bretta can't reach it and Hera doesn't seem to care.

[empress of self-improvement]

Pink knows she's going to Boston. She's got 2 places to crash up here and whichever she choose, the other will show up.

[Pink Cashmere]

Dec 10, 2023 15:48:38 GMT -5 Opti said:

Dec 10, 2023 15:35:10 GMT -5 Pink Cashmere said:

I can’t seem to find my good mood today, even though I keep trying. I did not get much sleep last night, again. A lot of things would be better if I could just get some fucking sleep. I am still struggling with my stroke sinuses making me feel like crap again, and I feel like imma lose it if I don’t get some sleep soon.

As soon as my vacation time hits the books next year, and I can afford to, I am running away for a couple of days. Thanks to you all encouraging me when I was so nervous about going to New Orleans by myself last year for my side gig, I know now that I can travel by myself and only be okay, but actually enjoy it. I don’t have to go far when I run away, I just want to get away from my stupid life and get somewhere and by myself. 

That gives me something to plan for and look forward to. 

The way I feel right now, if anybody is looking for me tonight, I might be in the backyard howling at the moon. Or in jail. I’d rather howl at the moon like a crazy person, than go to jail, so just leave me tf alone please.

Well if you can wait until after January, you can come up here but will have to crash somewhere else. I live in a one bdrm place with still too much stuff and the floors are hardwood. 

But there is lots to do here. We can hang a bit, go out to eat and I can give you many ideas of things to do. Best time here is April through October if I ignore holiday stuff. And driving is easier if you avoid winter and late fall. Lots of historic homes too. My dad used to like to come in June when he came out because the weather is good and it’s the month of Father's Day.

What I am picturing in my mind, does not involve me dealing with anyone, even friends. Just me, doing whatever I want, when I want, without having to consider anyone else, their schedule, or what they’d like to do.

So I hope it’s understandable that this won’t be a chance to visit and hang out with anybody. I will have to save that for later, when I’m in a better place. 

 l will have to make my way to NJ and hang out with you at a later date, when I’m not a crazy person.

[Pink Cashmere]

Dec 10, 2023 15:57:20 GMT -5 empress of self-improvement said:

Pink knows she's going to Boston. She's got 2 places to crash up here and whichever she choose, the other will show up.

 

[Pink Cashmere]

Now I am being difficult because, while I don’t mind having hamburgers for dinner, I do mind eating old ass bread on said hamburgers. I may also be laughing like a manic at how absurd some of this shit is, while I’m outside howling at the moon. 

[busymom]

I am saddened to hear of all of the tornado damage in Clarksville, TN & surrounding areas.  We've stayed there, and driven through a number of times when traveling.  Hope that all of our gang that posts here are o.k.  

[Pink Cashmere]

Dec 10, 2023 16:11:46 GMT -5 busymom said:

I am saddened to hear of all of the tornado damage in Clarksville, TN & surrounding areas.  We've stayed there, and driven through a number of times when traveling.  Hope that all of our gang that posts here are o.k.  

Mrs. T text me yesterday to ask about the girls, because that is where they go to college. They are at home, so they are fine. Mrs. T is from there, and her family still lives there. I asked about them and she said they are okay. She said there is horrible damage in the area, but I haven’t looked at any news or seen it for myself. It was very kind of her to think about the girls and ask about them.

[NastyWoman]

I think Pink Cashmere knows she has a lot of places where she can crash if she chooses to do so. Now if she waits more than 3 years before coming to visit me she needs to remember to fly east instead of west -> destination Munich   but anytime, anywhere...

[chiver78]

hallelujah, it finally started raining! 

and yes, come to Boston. I have space to share. I've got some shit going on with my pup care that I'm not okay to air here just yet. I found out yesterday, actually. so I might not be able to travel to Empress for the near future, idk yet. 

[chiver78]

Dec 10, 2023 16:29:39 GMT -5 NastyWoman said:

I think Pink Cashmere knows she has a lot of places where she can crash if she chooses to do so. Now if she waits more than 3 years before coming to visit me she needs to remember to fly east instead of west -> destination Munich   but anytime, anywhere...

*cough* I'm gonna come visit you in Munich when you get there. I've been in that airport many, many times to clear US Customs. I've never set foot on actual German ground. it's on my list. 

[Pink Cashmere]

Dec 10, 2023 16:29:39 GMT -5 NastyWoman said:

I think Pink Cashmere knows she has a lot of places where she can crash if she chooses to do so. Now if she waits more than 3 years before coming to visit me she needs to remember to fly east instead of west -> destination Munich   but anytime, anywhere...

Thanks for giving me a timeframe to visit you before I’d have to fly overseas. Not That I won’t venture to Munich too.

Seriously though, unless Mister was talking out of his ass or I decide by then that I’m not willing to travel with him, there’s a chance that I will be in what I think is called the DMV area (please feel free to correct me if I got that wrong lol) in February. He wants to visit relatives in Virginia and Maryland. I can’t go that way without visiting an IRL friend that lives in Fredericksburg, Virginia, where one of Mister’s relatives that he wants to visit, also happens to live. I know that a lot of places in that part of the country are fairly close together, but I’d have to look at a map to make it all make sense to me. People that live in the area, know better than me, what’s feasible or not. I ASSume the Maryland part of the potential trip is not far from the Virginia part, but idk exactly in Maryland his relative lives. 

Idk who all here lives within a reasonable distance, but if I do end up going, I would be happy to meet my online friends while I’m there. And I want to be clear that that trip depends on Mister.

I will also be in San Antonio next fall. I seem to recall that at least one person here lives in San Antonio, but I’m not sure who, or even I that I’m not mistaken in thinking that. I will be there for my side gig, and the schedule is always pretty tight, with only one evening not accounted for, but I can figure it out to meet a friend, even if I have to go early or stay an extra day. That trip has nothing to do with Mister, and will happen with or without him.

Anyway, I do have lots of places in the US that I’d like to visit, and being able to meet some of my friends here is an incentive, and would be a huge bonus.

And because I’d also like to travel the world, knowing I’d have a friend in Munich in a few years, and one in France today, to help guide me, is awesome!

[NastyWoman]

Dec 10, 2023 16:39:59 GMT -5 chiver78 said:

Dec 10, 2023 16:29:39 GMT -5 NastyWoman said:

I think Pink Cashmere knows she has a lot of places where she can crash if she chooses to do so. Now if she waits more than 3 years before coming to visit me she needs to remember to fly east instead of west -> destination Munich   but anytime, anywhere...

*cough* I'm gonna come visit you in Munich when you get there. I've been in that airport many, many times to clear US Customs. I've never set foot on actual German ground. it's on my list. 

Sure thing. I will get a 2bdr place and friends are always welcome. It may not be luxurious but it will be clean, have a cosy bed, and the door will be open for you

[chiver78]

Dec 10, 2023 17:02:52 GMT -5 NastyWoman said:

Dec 10, 2023 16:39:59 GMT -5 chiver78 said:

*cough* I'm gonna come visit you in Munich when you get there. I've been in that airport many, many times to clear US Customs. I've never set foot on actual German ground. it's on my list. 

Sure thing. I will get a 2bdr place and friends are always welcome. It may not be luxurious but it will be clean, have a cosy bed, and the door will be open for you

also, as I was so uncouth in the first place, I would actually like to meet you in person but I think you knew that already. 

[Pink Cashmere]

Dec 10, 2023 17:02:52 GMT -5 NastyWoman said:

Dec 10, 2023 16:39:59 GMT -5 chiver78 said:

*cough* I'm gonna come visit you in Munich when you get there. I've been in that airport many, many times to clear US Customs. I've never set foot on actual German ground. it's on my list. 

Sure thing. I will get a 2bdr place and friends are always welcome. It may not be luxurious but it will be clean, have a cosy bed, and the door will be open for you

Good company is far more valuable to me than luxury. If I have my way, we will meet in person, whether it is in the US or abroad. I mean that!

[Opti]

Dec 10, 2023 15:52:33 GMT -5 Pink Cashmere said:

Dec 10, 2023 15:23:02 GMT -5 Opti said:

I got FMLA for my spring crash and burn. I went back to work in June/late May?

But your sinus issues are a chronic condition, right? That is how your FMLA paperwork should’ve been written, for a chronic condition to cover you when your sinus issues get so bad that you can’t work, not just for that one instance of a recurring serious health issue. 

If it wasn’t written that way, you should look into having it done. I know it’s possible, because I’ve had FMLA for my sinus issues for years. IIRC, you’ve been off work now for several days, but even if you exceed the number of days your Doctor puts in your FMLA paperwork, all you need is a note from your Doctor saying you’ve had an office visit while you were out. Your employer can require you to get the paperwork filled out again if you go past the number of days your Doctor put in the original paperwork that you might be out due to your issues, but that’s a small hoop to jump through to protect your job. 

I am not an expert on FMLA, but I do know quite a bit about it. The best thing employees need to know, is that it is LAW, and not subject to employer discretion when everything is above board and done correctly. 

I empathize with you because I struggle with sinus issues myself, and I know that it can make you feel like SHIT sometimes. I feel like SHIT myself right now. I am only advising you about FMLA because I know from experience that having FMLA to protect your job is one less thing to concern yourself with when you are truly sick, while you try to help your body heal. 

True, but I sometimes have months of time they aren't bothering me. Its been worse since I've been underfunded, and I've moved more south because of cheaper rent. I'll read up on what you posted. Maybe its the way to go.

Going to cry in the corner briefly because I am tired.
Found a Opti type vehicle which G may talk me out of. Neighbor in the next building with a Blue nose named M, told me about a county website where rich folks sell their vehicles. One was a gorgeous Audi SUV. Looked it up, that particular car I wouldn't want because it's the premium 3.2 version. But the 2.0 4-inline version would have slightly better mileage than my old BMW, be in the right size class and be less old than the 2009 CRV. Audi Q5 2012 with fewer miles than the 2009 CRVs. Would probably not make 300,000 but do OK if I drive in the middle of its capabilities and hopefully last a few years or more with me if OK'd by the garage.

Feels like a good choice too as in the Kelly Blue Book description it places if between the BMW X3 and the Lexus RX of that time.
For the 2.0, price range from private seller roughly between 6000 and 8999.

[daisylu]

Dec 10, 2023 15:38:26 GMT -5 countrygirl2 said:

I let grandson stay up as late as he wanted last night was 1:30. He got in bed and I think fell asleep when he hit the bed, I had to move him to cover him up, LOL!

This morning the kids had cookies and milk for breakfast, no not acceptable, but just did. He had ham and cheese for lunch and DD and I split a tuna sandwich from Subway. Grandson does not like tuna salad yet likes fish.

We are going to the base shopping one day this week and to the ballet, probably some other things as little guy will be in school this week. I need to wrap presents

It's nice to be here. Good to have people to talk to and a good area, if only a bigger house would be great, oh and a garage for hubs. I will keep watching, once here it may take awhile but bet we find something.

I love that you are loving it there! But letting GS stay up until 1:30?

[Opti]

Also to remind Pink and everyone, I have been underfunded so long that my regular doctor was the doctor at the clinic who is at least 73 years old. I have not had a regular doctor or dentist in a very long time. I still owe my PCP things like the mammogram and the human fecal to check for colon cancer. I have not completed my intake paperwork yet with him. He works just a couple days a week as he is over 65 years old and frankly could retire if he wanted to.

The doctor who did my doctor's note I hope to make my secondary doctor if things work out. Also I got my first teeth cleaning since I think 2017 or so. I have to get one tooth extracted and its higher on the list than the FMLA paperwork which was done in spring by my PCP. I don't have any guaranteed car rides to anywhere. It's a lot of luck and praying and sometimes it pans out. The dentist and my partial grocery shops are done on the bus line. It's a very long exhausting day even when things go right. I do not have the right outwear or anything for late fall into winter waiting at bus stops. 

The doctor is not on the NJ Transit bus line. I need to sign up for the County Bus to get that kind of service. It will be $2 one way versus .75, and that is a big deal for my current rate of pay, rent, etc. And I wanted to work on 2022 taxes which I will need to apply for help with my heating bill. 

[toomuchreality]

Dec 10, 2023 10:38:54 GMT -5 raeoflyte said:

Dec 10, 2023 2:12:08 GMT -5 toomuchreality said:

I text with DD2 today. Told her what happened last night. She was shocked.
Before they left, I seemed/was okay, just had a cough for a few weeks. Until a few days before they left, none of us had any idea how sick I was, or would become. Even then, the doctor I saw, didn't think is was anything that serious yet and that the antibiotic she prescribed would clear it up in a few days.
It wasn't until about 10 days later, when I wasn't getting better, but getting worse, that I found out I really did have pneumonia. By then, everyone was on the cruise and out of the country. There wasn't really anything they could do for me, at that point.
And to be honest, I didn't say much about feeling worse, because I didn't want to worry them. Although I did tell them that pneumonia, had been confirmed.


I wont be cleaning their bedding, before I leave, tomorrow. I told her and She was fine with that. She asked if there is anything they can do for me. No. Not from FL.
I also told her that I will be gone, before they get home. Which she was also okay with.

I'm past my anger now and she understands better now, how sick I am/have been. So I think we're back in a good place of our relationship , again.
I'm happy about that.

They'll be home tomorrow, after 11PM. I'm glad they've had a good time and been able to relax, without thinking about work issues, for awhile.

I've missed my grands, their parents, and DD1 and her wife. It will be nice to see them again. Hopefully, I'll get to see them all soon (before Christmas eve, when we traditionally get together, to exchange gifts.)

Maybe I'll give DGDs gift cards, for manny/paddies, for Christmas. And I'll go with them. I might invite their mom dad and Aunts (on my side), since DD2 doesn't allow kids to ride in a car, when I'm driving. So we may as well all go.


But I'm not inviting his family to join us. So if DD2 can't do it without his family, we won't do it. I get tired of his family always being included in everything I want to do with my side of the family.
I'd rather not do it, if they're coming.
I should be allowed to spend time with my family, occasionally, without having his family there.
That hasn't happened once, since they got married. Because his family doesn't want to miss out. And it's a LOT of people! So my side is overwhelmed by them, every time we get together. I resent that. A LOT. And I hate that EX2 is also invited, to everything. Although Dd1 and I are not invited to all the get togethers, of his side of the family.

Being an introvert, I don't much enjoy large gatherings, like that. Even among my own family.

We'll see what happens! At least I've thought of a gift. Or maybe I'll arrange for just me and the kids to go together. If DD2 doesn't want them riding in my car, she can drop us off and pick us up, afterward. I like that idea even better!

You've done so much for them. I would think your dd2 would want time with just her family sometimes too, but it sounds like her husband can be an ogre (if I'm remembering right) and we all make our choices. I think the mani/pedi just the 3 of you sounds best. And hopefully you get in some time with dd1 too.

She and DH always have each other's backs.
Years ago, I invited DD1 and DD2 over to my apt, to carve /decorate pumpkins. We had done this for years. They both said, yes. The next thing I knew, DD2 had invited his whole family to join us, without talking to me about it first. And it was no longer being held at my place (which would have been too small, for that many people). It was being held at his mom's condo!
I was hurt and angry, so I didn't go.
DD2 and I had a private conversation at my place, later. She couldn't believe I was upset.
She told me flat out, that in the future, I should know, she was now part of his family too and anytime I invite her, that includes his family too. Always.

I have never invited her to do anything again.

We have talked once, or twice about how they go visit his mom, his dad and her dad. But they don't visit me, which makes me feel bad. She said, it's because you never invite us. At the time, I felt very judged about my place being good enough to invite them over. I still do. But I have since realized, it's because she made the comment about his family being invited too.
I don't think I will ever invite them over again.
My apt is 400 sq ft. There is barely room for DD, H and 2 little girls to visit.

Although on Thanksgiving, this year, they did come, with his mother, to drop off a TV. And DD2 finished baking food she was taking to her dad's, for dinner, while her H hooked up the tv.

She did just tell me, I can spend the night tonight, because I haven't felt well enough to even get dressed yet. Much less get my stuff in my car and drive home.

However, I just got a strange text from her, so I'm going to try and get home, rather than stay.

[Anne_in_VA]

Pink,  if you’re ever in Virginia Beach area, please stop by for a visit.  I’d love to meet you IRL.

[Anne_in_VA]

Double post

[toomuchreality]

Something weird is going on in FL, that has to do with me being sick, at DD2's. (They're not being honest about what it is) Suddenly there seems to be a lot of interest in how sick I am. I get the feeling that it's her husband's family, or her dad bringing up questions. Because they all have to come here, to pick up their cars etc, to go home. I think they don't want to catch anything. It's not out of concern about me.
Typical.
I'm going to try to leave soon.
I don't need this crap.