what are you doing right now?

[Knee Deep in Water Chloe]

We hosted DH’s family’s Christmas party tonight. DH has seven siblings. One of them let us know a Couple weeks ago that he was attending and bringing his new girlfriend. That particular brother and DH are not close. They are adjacent in birth order, and they did not get along as children or young adults. DH has never severed contact, but he keeps his distance.

The brother texted DH this morning asking for our address. DH texted him back with it.

It turns out the brother and the girlfriend had driven to the town we moved from in summer 2022 to move back to where most of our family lives.

So he drove right past our current house and then another two hours.

He’s not sure why he didn’t remember we’d moved a year and half ago. 🤦🏻‍♀️

[chiver78]

Dec 9, 2023 18:31:10 GMT -5 soupandstew said:

The chicken thigh thing for dinner is simmering on the stove-just need to stir in the spinach when the chicken is tender.  

um, tell me more about this please? 🤤

[toomuchreality]

Dec 9, 2023 23:18:17 GMT -5 Tennesseer said:

Dec 9, 2023 20:49:40 GMT -5 toomuchreality said:

Pink Cashmere and Tennesseer, as well as anyone else in the path, or area of the tornado I heard is coming through your area, please stay safe!

Maybe I'm wrong and it's not your area, but the thought of losing someone I care about, is deeply upsetting to me.

Take care.


Happy birthday, all month long, Pink! I hope you enjoy it.

Thanks. All okay in metro Memphis area. While we had a tornado watch for a good chunk of the day, nothing happened. We had a pretty good t'storm around 0430 this a.m., no tornado.

Glad to hear it! Thanks for letting us know.

[toomuchreality]

Dec 9, 2023 11:39:43 GMT -5 jerseygirl said:

Dec 9, 2023 11:19:15 GMT -5 toomuchreality said:

Thanks. I'm doing pretty well today. I still have the pneumonia stuff and some indigestion, but the lightheaded, sick part, seems to be gone. Thank goodness.
I'm going to pack up today and get ready to go home. I'll leave in the morning, I think.
I should wash the sheets and remake her bed. But I don't think I have that much energy. We'll see.

Leave the sheets on or just strip them off. Don’t remake bed!
You are SICK!!

I text with DD2 today. Told her what happened last night. She was shocked.
Before they left, I seemed/was okay, just had a cough for a few weeks. Until a few days before they left, none of us had any idea how sick I was, or would become. Even then, the doctor I saw, didn't think is was anything that serious yet and that the antibiotic she prescribed would clear it up in a few days.
It wasn't until about 10 days later, when I wasn't getting better, but getting worse, that I found out I really did have pneumonia. By then, everyone was on the cruise and out of the country. There wasn't really anything they could do for me, at that point.
And to be honest, I didn't say much about feeling worse, because I didn't want to worry them. Although I did tell them that pneumonia, had been confirmed.


I wont be cleaning their bedding, before I leave, tomorrow. I told her and She was fine with that. She asked if there is anything they can do for me. No. Not from FL.
I also told her that I will be gone, before they get home. Which she was also okay with.

I'm past my anger now and she understands better now, how sick I am/have been. So I think we're back in a good place of our relationship , again.
I'm happy about that.

They'll be home tomorrow, after 11PM. I'm glad they've had a good time and been able to relax, without thinking about work issues, for awhile.

I've missed my grands, their parents, and DD1 and her wife. It will be nice to see them again. Hopefully, I'll get to see them all soon (before Christmas eve, when we traditionally get together, to exchange gifts.)

Maybe I'll give DGDs gift cards, for manny/paddies, for Christmas. And I'll go with them. I might invite their mom dad and Aunts (on my side), since DD2 doesn't allow kids to ride in a car, when I'm driving. So we may as well all go.


But I'm not inviting his family to join us. So if DD2 can't do it without his family, we won't do it. I get tired of his family always being included in everything I want to do with my side of the family.
I'd rather not do it, if they're coming.
I should be allowed to spend time with my family, occasionally, without having his family there.
That hasn't happened once, since they got married. Because his family doesn't want to miss out. And it's a LOT of people! So my side is overwhelmed by them, every time we get together. I resent that. A LOT. And I hate that EX2 is also invited, to everything. Although Dd1 and I are not invited to all the get togethers, of his side of the family.

Being an introvert, I don't much enjoy large gatherings, like that. Even among my own family.

We'll see what happens! At least I've thought of a gift. Or maybe I'll arrange for just me and the kids to go together. If DD2 doesn't want them riding in my car, she can drop us off and pick us up, afterward. I like that idea even better!

[daisylu]

I'm glad you are feeling slightly better, TMR. And more glad to see that you are not going to push yourself.

I hope the mani/pedi idea works out for you and the grands, and I hope it ends up being just you and the grands. I am doing something similar for my small niece and nephew. Time is something you can never get back and those memories will mean more than other toy or bauble to both you and the grands down the road.

You have a heart of gold with your family and, IMNSHO, no mom or MIL should have to deal with some of the disrespect that you have endured. The things moms will suffer through for their families is unbelievable. Another reason why I would perfectly fine with never having grandchildren. Well, plus the fact that my children never intend to have any anyway and if they did I have no doubt they'd be way too dependent on me. 😉

[countrygirl2]

Enjoyed the day with the kids. Son came over and put up my patio door rod and curtain, he took down the old vertical blinds, I told him this is the last curtain rod he needs to put up for me. And I have thermal curtains on all the windows now except the bathrooms. These are all newer vinyl dual pane windows but still lets cold air in, maybe not real good quality or something, so I think they help.

I had to fiddle and fiddle with that durn smart thermostat, son showed me some other ways to set things on it and its better now, like I want it pretty consistently.

He also put up the chlorine filters on the shower heads, and yes it made a difference as I'm not itching. I notice grandson is, they used to have a water softener in their other house and DIL and grandson both seem to have drier skin. He took a tub bath tonight, will have him do a shower tomorrow night. I told son I will do the the filters in the water dispenser, he dig put the spigot in though. I need to know how as it needs cleaned monthly. Hope its less work than messing with those big bottles.

They have taken the phone away from him and his Ipad which is fine with me. Son also asked if they could delete Utube, no issue there either. He was addicted to those things and would just set and stare at it until he got antsy and twitchy. He complained some about being bored but not for too long. He drew up a monopoly type game he created along with written rules. He and his dad played for awhile than I did. He is watching DIY science right now and has been playing with toy soldiers he bought from his money. I agree him playing and using his imagination is much better than looking at that stuff.

He wanted to play Monopoly so I thought a good Xmas present. I had to go to Walmart so got him the game, I guess his mom had the same idea as she got it for him before she brought him back from soccer, LOL! He and I spent an hour or more playing a game of it, we will play again tomorrow evening. I sat on the floor tonight  playing and the hips and knees are protesting. We quit at 10, I told him I will play again tomorrow night but sitting in chairs at the kitchen table. I think he is less twitchy and jumpy than before. I agree no electronics sure won't hurt him. And some of the utube stuff was totally dumb. He and his dad still watches it but making it more educational. He likes this DIY Science show, actually I do to. These electronics just aren't good I don't think. He also needs someone to play with like his old grandma. His mom took him to an art class too where he painted a small picture. He said he had a little help, but honestly its very good, but his mom is a real artist too.

Son also went and got a Christmas tree for me. Since I couldn't find one like I wanted and it was going to take till almost Xmas to get one from Wayfair or Amazon, I decided to get the one we saw that is green but had white flocking, I don't think its going to flake off like an old one I had. This one had been over $200 and was reduced to less than $100, so a good deal. It was to heavy for DIL or I to get it. He went to pay for it and it was $50 less than the price we would have paid yesterday so good deal. I put it up and its quite pretty. I bought one package of bulbs, mine I mailed haven't come yet nor my tree skirt but I'm not buying more for it, I also bought a star for it, lovely tree and it has LED lights. Son said he was not doing anything tomorrow as he is watching football all day. He watched an Army/Navy game this afternoon and fell asleep for awhile. I love having the kids here. And they seem quite happy. DIL stayed till 10 tonight and snacked. I always have stuff for them to eat and nibble on. They seem quite happy to come and that makes me feel good. She also brings stuff by too. I think tomorrow night will have them over for fried fish, french fries, and maybe make some cole slaw. Bought some code fillets yesterday.  

I found DD a couple of little things, some fingernail polish and a Starbucks cup for cocoa with a packet. Also bought her an electric blanket. I will look around for some other things for her. She bought herself a merry go round she has wanted for a long time. Grandson has enough and his boxes finally came to day. Still waiting on my Xmas decorations.

[countrygirl2]

I think things like Monopoly helps with grandsons concentration. He is a very good at reading and his math skills are very good too, so lets him practice those. Also patience to wait his turn, wish I were here more to help. DD doesn't care she watches TV or sleeps or whatever. 

Yesterday she went with us and walked and walked, she was so tired last night and didn't even change her clothes. There is just more for her to do here. She is so excited about going to the ballet next week, she used to enjoy it in Houston.

I checked my mileage this evening and we are only about 2 miles from all the groceries, restaurants and things yet feels like country where we are. This park has 61 mobiles and modulars in it but it is quiet, clean, and friendly, it does not feel like that many people here at all. Hubs just can't get over his aversion to paying rent. And I don't want to move out in the country to find a less expensive house. We are too old to be way out away from things. Son said its only 30 minutes or so. Well I cannot drive at night if I were out that far again. At least if I want to go somewhere DIL does too and I have her drive my car and buy the gas. So she has someone to go with and I do too, so works out nicely. They are just waiting for us to move. I went through this same issue when we moved to Texas, hubs fought it for years, sigh.We just don't have years.

I finally put lotion on grandson, on his arms and torso, he is not itching now, so its just his skin is dry. It's 1 AM so time for us to go to bed. He is still in school so will have to go home Sunday night. We are watching the cartoon Mr Bean, I like the show with him in it or the cartoon.

I am thoroughly enjoying being with the kids. I wish hubs would enjoy it too. But he would be totally antsy if here and not comfortable.  I don't know what his problem is.

Well night all, I wrote a book. It's time we should be in bed and will be shortly.

[finnime]

Good morning, provident invisipeeps, preparing for the days ahead with family and friends or with youself. Welcome to Sunday. I hope this day gives you some joy and satisfying rest, and maybe a cookie or two.

Yesterday went really well. DH and DSis handled the festival here in town and met a large number of people who apparently knew me from my picture posts on FB in the town page. DH sold a LOT, generally cards but also some other pieces. I sold several items and some cards, too, where I was. If I had known our town was going to have a festival the same day I would not have volunteered for the one I went to, but I didn't know at the time.

Need now to get things put away and organized, preparatory for celebrating Christmas. We'll go that day to DSis's home as we always do. I need to get busy baking. I'll start with what my DM called bird's nest cookies and some recipes call jam thumbprint cookies. I have an array of jams to use in them and a large bag of walnuts to toast and chop up.

Yesterday's dawn was nice. The photo I took of the sunset the evening before was good, too. Someone hung ornaments at the ends of the tree branches here:

[soupandstew]

Dec 10, 2023 0:20:58 GMT -5 chiver78 said:

Dec 9, 2023 18:31:10 GMT -5 soupandstew said:

The chicken thigh thing for dinner is simmering on the stove-just need to stir in the spinach when the chicken is tender.  

um, tell me more about this please? 🤤

Okay, here you go.  Season both sides of 4 bone-in, skin-on chicken thighs with salt and pepper, and in a large lidded skillet or Dutch oven, brown both sides in a small amount of neutral oil like olive or canola.  Remove chicken to plate.  If too much fat renders from chicken you can remove some, but leave enough to cook 1 cup diced onion and 3-4 cloves sliced garlic until soft.  Return chicken to pan along with one can diced tomatoes (I use fire-roasted), one can rinsed and drained cannellini beans, and about 1/2 cup water.  Stir in 1/2 tsp dried rosemary and bring to a simmer.  Cover and cook until chicken is tender and liquid is somewhat reduced.  Stir in one bunch of baby spinach, washed and de-stemmed, or one bag of ready-to-use baby spinach and cook a few minutes more, uncovered, until spinach is tender.  Notes:  If you like more seasonings, you could add some dried basil or oregano.  I imagine one package of frozen spinach, thawed and drained, would work too.  Makes 4 nice servings.  

[Tennesseer]

Speaking of skillets, I was watching the Weather Channel's coverage yesterday about the tornadoes in the Mid-South. The maps had one storm going over LickSkillet Road in Kentucky.

An unusual street name for sure.

[minnesotapaintlady]

I'm at work.  Not as early as I wanted to get here, but it will do.  I no longer have pounding sinus headache, but it's moved into my ears so I can't hear worth a damn.  This, however, is more helpful than anything.

[chiver78]

Dec 10, 2023 9:02:09 GMT -5 soupandstew said:

Dec 10, 2023 0:20:58 GMT -5 chiver78 said:

um, tell me more about this please? 🤤

Okay, here you go.  Season both sides of 4 bone-in, skin-on chicken thighs with salt and pepper, and in a large lidded skillet or Dutch oven, brown both sides in a small amount of neutral oil like olive or canola.  Remove chicken to plate.  If too much fat renders from chicken you can remove some, but leave enough to cook 1 cup diced onion and 3-4 cloves sliced garlic until soft.  Return chicken to pan along with one can diced tomatoes (I use fire-roasted), one can rinsed and drained cannellini beans, and about 1/2 cup water.  Stir in 1/2 tsp dried rosemary and bring to a simmer.  Cover and cook until chicken is tender and liquid is somewhat reduced.  Stir in one bunch of baby spinach, washed and de-stemmed, or one bag of ready-to-use baby spinach and cook a few minutes more, uncovered, until spinach is tender.  Notes:  If you like more seasonings, you could add some dried basil or oregano.  I imagine one package of frozen spinach, thawed and drained, would work too.  Makes 4 nice servings.  

omg, yum. definitely making note of this, thank you!

I've got a package of BSCB for the early half of the week. once it starts raining this afternoon, I'm going to slice up two and do a batch of chicken picatta to last me a couple days.

[chiver78]

I'm almost done with the Sunday paper, having paused to look something up. I cleaned out thee fridge and started the dishwasher, only to discover that my mom forgot her leftover salad when they left last night (they were convinced thehouse was too cold, but didn't bother turning up the heat 🤦‍♀️🙄). she so looks forward to that when she comes down, so I'm sad for her.

we have torrential rain in the forecast here, from mid-afternoon through tomorrow am's commute. this is after the lingering snow finally melted overnight. today's high will hit 60 in Boston. once I'm done reading this last section of the paper, the pups and I will be outside somewhere until the rain starts.

[taz157]

Annoyed with DH. When I got home from the hockey game Thursday night, the sink had dishes in it. I didn’t touch them. I didn’t touch them Friday night and DH said he’d take care of it. It’s Sunday morning and they are still fucking there!!! If he thinks I’m touching them, he’s got another thing coming…. He’s currently out with his best friend. I know he had been working on a woodworking project for our house, but still…

[raeoflyte]

Dec 10, 2023 2:12:08 GMT -5 toomuchreality said:

Dec 9, 2023 11:39:43 GMT -5 jerseygirl said:

Leave the sheets on or just strip them off. Don’t remake bed!
You are SICK!!

I text with DD2 today. Told her what happened last night. She was shocked.
Before they left, I seemed/was okay, just had a cough for a few weeks. Until a few days before they left, none of us had any idea how sick I was, or would become. Even then, the doctor I saw, didn't think is was anything that serious yet and that the antibiotic she prescribed would clear it up in a few days.
It wasn't until about 10 days later, when I wasn't getting better, but getting worse, that I found out I really did have pneumonia. By then, everyone was on the cruise and out of the country. There wasn't really anything they could do for me, at that point.
And to be honest, I didn't say much about feeling worse, because I didn't want to worry them. Although I did tell them that pneumonia, had been confirmed.


I wont be cleaning their bedding, before I leave, tomorrow. I told her and She was fine with that. She asked if there is anything they can do for me. No. Not from FL.
I also told her that I will be gone, before they get home. Which she was also okay with.

I'm past my anger now and she understands better now, how sick I am/have been. So I think we're back in a good place of our relationship , again.
I'm happy about that.

They'll be home tomorrow, after 11PM. I'm glad they've had a good time and been able to relax, without thinking about work issues, for awhile.

I've missed my grands, their parents, and DD1 and her wife. It will be nice to see them again. Hopefully, I'll get to see them all soon (before Christmas eve, when we traditionally get together, to exchange gifts.)

Maybe I'll give DGDs gift cards, for manny/paddies, for Christmas. And I'll go with them. I might invite their mom dad and Aunts (on my side), since DD2 doesn't allow kids to ride in a car, when I'm driving. So we may as well all go.


But I'm not inviting his family to join us. So if DD2 can't do it without his family, we won't do it. I get tired of his family always being included in everything I want to do with my side of the family.
I'd rather not do it, if they're coming.
I should be allowed to spend time with my family, occasionally, without having his family there.
That hasn't happened once, since they got married. Because his family doesn't want to miss out. And it's a LOT of people! So my side is overwhelmed by them, every time we get together. I resent that. A LOT. And I hate that EX2 is also invited, to everything. Although Dd1 and I are not invited to all the get togethers, of his side of the family.

Being an introvert, I don't much enjoy large gatherings, like that. Even among my own family.

We'll see what happens! At least I've thought of a gift. Or maybe I'll arrange for just me and the kids to go together. If DD2 doesn't want them riding in my car, she can drop us off and pick us up, afterward. I like that idea even better!

You've done so much for them. I would think your dd2 would want time with just her family sometimes too, but it sounds like her husband can be an ogre (if I'm remembering right) and we all make our choices. I think the mani/pedi just the 3 of you sounds best. And hopefully you get in some time with dd1 too.

[raeoflyte]

Dec 9, 2023 20:10:31 GMT -5 TheOtherMe said:

I still have so much stuff rolling around in my head about my sister.  So much stuff.  I am very happy we talked.  

I think I wrote here years ago that when I got the divorce decree, it didn't say what I had always been told, so my dad lied to me.  Since divorce had to be for fault back then, they were both trying to make the other look like a monster.  As far as I'm  concerned, the truth is somewhere in the middle.

However, he always said, he made his child support payments.  He didn't.  Yes, he went to court to get them stopped and got them stopped but he wasn't current when he went to court.

I hope our Christmas call happens because I need to talk to her more.  

She told me to tell my sister here that she never wants to hear from her again.     For the most part, neither do I.  

We did agree to have the people in charge if we should die contact the other one.  We don't want to not know the other is gone.  

That's big stuff to process about your dad. I'm glad you can forge a path to friendship with your half sister through it.

[NomoreDramaQ1015]

I was looking at the outside job I applied for again. Not only is the pay good but its hybrid. I could work from home.

That is a damn unicorn.

Hope they call. We will see.

I've decided to do what I did at my last job and instead of killing myself to prove them wrong Im channeling that energy into finding a job that values my experience.

I thought I found that but this department has gotten so incredibly toxic at the manager and director level.

We will see.

[azucena]

TMR - love the mani/pedi idea for the grands and they will love it too. Just keep it to girls only and include both DDs but by leaving out the men folk, you get a chance without your son in law.

[andi9899]

Dec 9, 2023 18:35:49 GMT -5 minnesotapaintlady said:

Well, I blew off work today for the birthday party instead, but I wish I would have just gone to work so I wouldn't have to tomorrow.  My head cold is still bad so I didn't have a great time anyhow, might as well been suffering at work and been done.  Maybe tomorrow I'll feel better and be more productive.

Did you get your skittles?

[minnesotapaintlady]

Dec 10, 2023 10:53:42 GMT -5 andi9899 said:

Dec 9, 2023 18:35:49 GMT -5 minnesotapaintlady said:

Well, I blew off work today for the birthday party instead, but I wish I would have just gone to work so I wouldn't have to tomorrow.  My head cold is still bad so I didn't have a great time anyhow, might as well been suffering at work and been done.  Maybe tomorrow I'll feel better and be more productive.

Did you get your skittles?

Yes, I did! 

[NancysSummerSip]

We await storms this afternoon (from the same line as the ones in TN/KY/MS) though of course nowhere near as damaging.

I did get a bike ride in, detailed my car's interior,  cleaned the bathrooms, vacuumed and fixed French toast for breakfast.

Will pay bills and plan the rest of the competition season today.

[azucena]

CG - get some Uno cards. That should be perfect for you, grandson, your DD and DIL. No words to read. Just match colors and numbers. Our family plays it a lot and my special needs niece loves it. She yells Uno the loudest!

[raeoflyte]

Meeting a new pet sitting client this morning then mani/pedi with my mom and dc. This was my bday gift to my mom and what dc and I had talked about doing together. Admittedly dc bday this year ended up being bigger then intended. But I really have wanted to get my nails done.

Then this afternoon I'm swapping the dogs and my desk so my desk will be in the kitchen, giving us another surface in there when I'm not working.

Never got around to groceries or meal planning this weekend. Hmmmm.....

Eta - and finishing Christmas cards! Gotta get those out tomorrow. December is nuts.

[Cookies Galore]

Happy Sunday! Doing a couple of loads of unexpected laundry because husband soaked through our sheets and mattress pad with his excessive sweating. Ugh. At least the mattress encasement works, as our topper and mattress are bone dry. Then I'm baking some cookies in advance of our my last borough council meeting of the year on Tuesday. I like to bake for my fellow council members, mayor, police chief, and borough staff and professionals that attend the meetings. Budget for 2024 will be approved and our streak of no municipal tax increases extends to 15 years! Wish the school board and county would stop raising their share of the tax burden...

This is the time of year where our local public radio station WXPN has a countdown for the top 885 songs as voted by listeners. This year's theme is Greatest Songs by Women and I've been loving every minute of it! The music will be a great accompaniment when I'm baking.

[TheOtherMe]

Dec 10, 2023 10:46:29 GMT -5 raeoflyte said:

Dec 9, 2023 20:10:31 GMT -5 TheOtherMe said:

I still have so much stuff rolling around in my head about my sister.  So much stuff.  I am very happy we talked.  

I think I wrote here years ago that when I got the divorce decree, it didn't say what I had always been told, so my dad lied to me.  Since divorce had to be for fault back then, they were both trying to make the other look like a monster.  As far as I'm  concerned, the truth is somewhere in the middle.

However, he always said, he made his child support payments.  He didn't.  Yes, he went to court to get them stopped and got them stopped but he wasn't current when he went to court.

I hope our Christmas call happens because I need to talk to her more.  

She told me to tell my sister here that she never wants to hear from her again.     For the most part, neither do I.  

We did agree to have the people in charge if we should die contact the other one.  We don't want to not know the other is gone.  

That's big stuff to process about your dad. I'm glad you can forge a path to friendship with your half sister through it.

I spent a lot of time on FB last night as my nephews and all of their kids have accounts.  I was able to get see a lot of pictures of them.  I haven't seen the one nephew and his kids for 20 years.  The "bad" nephew I haven't seen since he was a teenager.

The 2nd to last time I saw him, he was in prison.  The last time I was there, he did not show up for the get together that was arranged so I could see everyone.  He does not have a photo on FB, but when you live an illegal life, I imagine you don't put your picture there.

I did contact his daughter on Ancestry last night.  She has responded.  I haven't had the courage just yet to read the message.  Since she was rebuffed by her dad and is married to a police officer, I hope she is receptive to me.  

I have reached out before to the new half sister with no response.  I sent her another message but I don't expect her to respond.  

This is all still a lot to process.  I do agree with my sister than mom wore the pants in my parents relationship.  That is 100% true.  No argument there.  I thought mom didn't treat her right when she lived with us, but I didn't know the extent. 


The one thing she is grateful for when it comes to dad is that he made her finish high school.  She was one credit short and working at Look Magazine.  He took some course and drove her to all of her classes. 


One of the kids had the high school photo of her mother on FB.  She and my mom were in the same class at a very tiny high school.  Maybe 12 in their class.  What are the odds that he would marry two different women from that high school class?  He didn't go to that school. 

The oldest son's both daughter's are pregnant and their due dates are March 31.  That is the same due date as DN3 and his wife.  What are the odds?


Need to eat and get on Ancestry for a while. 

[empress of self-improvement]

I need to do things. Lots of things. I've been hacking up a lung since Thursday night so haven't done a damn thing. I did make it to the store for cough syrup and ginger ale yesterday but forgot the oj and cough drops. I don't want to go out again. Typhoid Mariah decided not to mask up at work and spread her germs. Not happy but I called out Friday and already have tomorrow off due to a cat getting teeth pulled. Joy. I need a nap.

[Opti]

Dec 10, 2023 12:55:13 GMT -5 empress of self-improvement said:

I need to do things. Lots of things. I've been hacking up a lung since Thursday night so haven't done a damn thing. I did make it to the store for cough syrup and ginger ale yesterday but forgot the oj and cough drops. I don't want to go out again. Typhoid Mariah decided not to mask up at work and spread her germs. Not happy but I called out Friday and already have tomorrow off due to a cat getting teeth pulled. Joy. I need a nap.

Sorry, there are things I need too, but am not physically strong enough to carry them.     I need one of my preferred gingerales. Have not bought one at the closest pharmacy because the walk back is slight uphill and even walking there is too much. I'm going thru 4 pk gingerale mixers because they weight less, 7.5 oz vs 12 oz per can.

[giramomma]

We had a "light" weekend.

Only real commitments were volunteering yesterday for 3 hours and making apps for a party tonight we were invited to.

I have no idea how we ended up so busy. And I still have a good chunk of things to do today. Mondays are also my long day....12 hours of work, and then I pick up the kids. I don't like going into Monday tired. Then I'm toast for the rest of the week.

[Opti]

Dec 10, 2023 2:12:08 GMT -5 toomuchreality said:

Dec 9, 2023 11:39:43 GMT -5 jerseygirl said:

Leave the sheets on or just strip them off. Don’t remake bed!
You are SICK!!

I text with DD2 today. Told her what happened last night. She was shocked.
Before they left, I seemed/was okay, just had a cough for a few weeks. Until a few days before they left, none of us had any idea how sick I was, or would become. Even then, the doctor I saw, didn't think is was anything that serious yet and that the antibiotic she prescribed would clear it up in a few days.
It wasn't until about 10 days later, when I wasn't getting better, but getting worse, that I found out I really did have pneumonia. By then, everyone was on the cruise and out of the country. There wasn't really anything they could do for me, at that point.
And to be honest, I didn't say much about feeling worse, because I didn't want to worry them. Although I did tell them that pneumonia, had been confirmed.


I wont be cleaning their bedding, before I leave, tomorrow. I told her and She was fine with that. She asked if there is anything they can do for me. No. Not from FL.
I also told her that I will be gone, before they get home. Which she was also okay with.

I'm past my anger now and she understands better now, how sick I am/have been. So I think we're back in a good place of our relationship , again.
I'm happy about that.

They'll be home tomorrow, after 11PM. I'm glad they've had a good time and been able to relax, without thinking about work issues, for awhile.

I've missed my grands, their parents, and DD1 and her wife. It will be nice to see them again. Hopefully, I'll get to see them all soon (before Christmas eve, when we traditionally get together, to exchange gifts.)

Maybe I'll give DGDs gift cards, for manny/paddies, for Christmas. And I'll go with them. I might invite their mom dad and Aunts (on my side), since DD2 doesn't allow kids to ride in a car, when I'm driving. So we may as well all go.


But I'm not inviting his family to join us. So if DD2 can't do it without his family, we won't do it. I get tired of his family always being included in everything I want to do with my side of the family.
I'd rather not do it, if they're coming.
I should be allowed to spend time with my family, occasionally, without having his family there.
That hasn't happened once, since they got married. Because his family doesn't want to miss out. And it's a LOT of people! So my side is overwhelmed by them, every time we get together. I resent that. A LOT. And I hate that EX2 is also invited, to everything. Although Dd1 and I are not invited to all the get togethers, of his side of the family.

Being an introvert, I don't much enjoy large gatherings, like that. Even among my own family.

We'll see what happens! At least I've thought of a gift. Or maybe I'll arrange for just me and the kids to go together. If DD2 doesn't want them riding in my car, she can drop us off and pick us up, afterward. I like that idea even better!

TMR, sometimes you don't know until you do. I'm glad things worked out. I'll put my current medical journey in another post. 

[Opti]

My new stronger med is doing things however my left sinus is not draining and that's a big problem. So I'm going to neti pot as soon as the boiled water gets cool enough to do so. I also made some tea, so that should help too.

More later, but today's to do list is set up telehealth visit since its obvious I am not better enough to work.