what are you doing right now?

[empress of self-improvement]

Sadly, I have to wait until Halloween if I need to buy more dishes. Only time I can find them with skulls on them.

[NoNamePerson]

Nov 30, 2023 17:10:20 GMT -5 empress of self-improvement said:

Sadly, I have to wait until Halloween if I need to buy more dishes. Only time I can find them with skulls on them.

OMGosh, I had forgotten that you liked skulls!  

[toomuchreality]

Nov 30, 2023 5:42:15 GMT -5 finnime said:

I'm glad, toomuchreality, that you're on the mend now with antibiotics and cough suppressant. I'm really glad you went to the doctor.

Thanks.
I found out this morning, doctor is concerned about this turning into pneumonia, so trying to fend it off.
I had double pneumonia when I was young and don't want to go through that again. Especially at my age, in my condition. And while both of my daughters are away on a cruise. I'm not sure my heart could take it.
I am being very good about taking my meds, as directed, to give myself the best possible chance of a full recovery.
I feel pretty good in the morning, usually. But by night time, I feel pretty rough.
Hoping for the best!

[NomoreDramaQ1015]

DH asked me to take Abby to gym so he could finish watching a movie.

Joke is on him I wandered into a store next door and came out with a snowman created from a 2x4 and stands up to my knees.

He has a cute stocking hat and a scarf.

That'll teach DH to skip his dance night.🤣

There is a vintage Christmas angel I want Uber bad. She's $45. Not tonight but DH says he owes me...

[Opti]

Nov 30, 2023 17:10:20 GMT -5 empress of self-improvement said:

Sadly, I have to wait until Halloween if I need to buy more dishes. Only time I can find them with skulls on them.

Do you? I got a black bat with purple for 1.29 at CVS. Because it was a Halloween item. 
Maybe there are skulls dishes out there in the wild .. waiting for you to claim them at a discount.

[jerseygirl]

Donated old dishes to good will and bought blue white varied pattern Selamica for every day , set of 6. Enjoying the cheerful patterns
I have beautiful Gorham dishes with navy and gold accents, set of 14. Used these for holidays. Then I inherited my mom’s delicate egg shell China with lovely floral design. Propably about 85 yrs old, set of 12 but one dinner dish missing and one chipped. Very pretty standard dinner dishes, square salad plates, soup bowls and 3 serving dishes one has lid. Never used the cups/saucers
I’ve been using these especially for Easter. But for thanksgiving DIL set table with these.
I’ve always carefully hand washed but after thanksgiving meal someone put them all in the dishwasher. They’re fine!!

[weltz]

I went swimming today.   When it's bitterly cold out out, I REALLY don't want to go, but I make myself do it.

[soupandstew]

I'm trying very, very hard to hold onto my Defcon 1.  I will be calling our future president later tonight for help in dealing with the situation.  I tend to be full frontal, and he is a superb strategist, good at playing the long game.  DH has been briefed and accepts that this may be the time I spend $$ on an attorney to go after someone.  I certainly have my flaws, but I do not lie, I am not corrupt, and I value my reputation above all else.  But I also recognize that sometimes letting a person have enough rope to hang themselves is good too.  Screenshots are our friends.

[NoNamePerson]

Nov 30, 2023 18:24:51 GMT -5 jerseygirl said:

Donated old dishes to good will and bought blue white varied pattern Selamica for every day , set of 6. Enjoying the cheerful patterns
I have beautiful Gorham dishes with navy and gold accents, set of 14. Used these for holidays. Then I inherited my mom’s delicate egg shell China with lovely floral design. Propably about 85 yrs old, set of 12 but one dinner dish missing and one chipped. Very pretty standard dinner dishes, square salad plates, soup bowls and 3 serving dishes one has lid. Never used the cups/saucers
I’ve been using these especially for Easter. But for thanksgiving DIL set table with these.
I’ve always carefully hand washed but after thanksgiving meal someone put them all in the dishwasher. They’re fine!!

I had Gotham sterling silver. Sea Rose pattern. Local jewelry store gave high school seniors choice of piece of sterling. I finally sold it to Replacements years ago. DIL nor her sister wanted it so I got rid of it. Had tons of it plus serving pieces also from wedding gifts. The only pieces I kept were Baby spoon and fork. Geeze, y’all are dredging up my past here. Dull as it is.    

Gorham sterling. Geeze, check before hitting send. 

[Pink Cashmere]

Nov 30, 2023 11:49:27 GMT -5 NomoreDramaQ1015 said:

Nov 30, 2023 11:42:19 GMT -5 lurkyloo said:

JFC.  I knew funerals were a racket but 43K for a coffin?

We have posters here that were rep payees or otherwise helped handle the business of life for those who were no longer capable; it sure seems like you ought to be able to hire someone to do this and have it be allowable if you can’t reimburse yourself directly.  But, I am sure you’ve already looked into all this.  

Yeah.  It was the ugliest thing I have ever seen.   I called it the "Fuck you if you think you're getting an inheritance" coffin. 

By law apparently grandma has to have a POA on file.  I could try to abdicate but it would probably come back on me again since dad can't do it.  He got a nice surprise with GU after trying to not be responsible.  The nursing home made him responsible anyhow and sent him the paperwork announcing he was GU's POA.  Since GU consented to it that was that was far as Nebraska was concerned.

I am guessing it would happen to me as well because nursing homes refuse to do anything regarding Medicaid or social work.  There is no profit in it.

So I am stuck until she passes.

Wait, are you saying that your between GU and the nursing home, your Dad was designated as GU’s POA, whether he consented to it or not?

Just go ahead and send me to jail and get that over with.  That’s where I’ll end up anyway, by the time I got being a big dummy. I seriously don’t do well with being “forced” to do things. So just consider me a dummy that doesn’t understand what all that entails, and incompetent to handle it, since it’s not my choice to take in that responsibility. TF?

[soupandstew]

Nov 30, 2023 18:41:00 GMT -5 NoNamePerson said:

Nov 30, 2023 18:24:51 GMT -5 jerseygirl said:

Donated old dishes to good will and bought blue white varied pattern Selamica for every day , set of 6. Enjoying the cheerful patterns
I have beautiful Gorham dishes with navy and gold accents, set of 14. Used these for holidays. Then I inherited my mom’s delicate egg shell China with lovely floral design. Propably about 85 yrs old, set of 12 but one dinner dish missing and one chipped. Very pretty standard dinner dishes, square salad plates, soup bowls and 3 serving dishes one has lid. Never used the cups/saucers
I’ve been using these especially for Easter. But for thanksgiving DIL set table with these.
I’ve always carefully hand washed but after thanksgiving meal someone put them all in the dishwasher. They’re fine!!

I had Gotham sterling silver. Sea Rose pattern. Local jewelry store gave high school seniors choice of piece of sterling. I finally sold it to Replacements years ago. DIL nor her sister wanted it so I got rid of it. Had tons of it plus serving pieces also from wedding gifts. The only pieces I kept were Baby spoon and fork. Geeze, y’all are dredging up my past here. Dull as it is.    

I have sterling flatware, Georgian by Towle, almost a full serve for 12.  I started collecting it back in the 2000's and have pursued it ever since.  It's really funky, super ornate, lots of odd pieces like baked potato forks, gold-bowl salt spoons, and other Victorian-era oddities.  I pull it out and pet it once a year or so.

[Pink Cashmere]

So my brain has been working out how to deal with my current situation.

It is basically telling me to go back to dealing with Mister how I use to deal with men period. 

I understand that it’s not ideal if I hope to ever have a good, healthy relationship with him. But really, whatever. Idek if I really want the relationship anymore. As much as I do love him, my heart is not rebelling against what my brain is telling me to do, so whatever again.

Imma just do me, but not be disrespectful of him or the fact that as long as I live here, I am in a relationship with him. No matter what, I feel like respect is a BFD, so I won’t cross those lines. 

So that is where I am today.

[jerseygirl]

Were in London and walked through the flea market in Nottingham Hill. There were dozens of full sets of sterling in gorgeous wooden cases. Selling for very little
DIL and DGS set table for family Thanksgiving. I was told to just sit this holiday! Anyway DGS used my sterling and noticed it was tarnished. He recommended not cleaning pieces separately but in a pan using aluminum foil and baking soda.
I’ve used this method on 6 elaborate candlesticks given to me by a neighbor. Just wanted them shined up and worked well. I’d like to try selling these on eBay but they’ve disappeared somewhere in the house?

[soupandstew]

Nov 30, 2023 19:11:16 GMT -5 jerseygirl said:

Were in London and walked through the flea market in Nottingham Hill. There were dozens of full sets of sterling in gorgeous wooden cases. Selling for very little
DIL and DGS set table for family Thanksgiving. I was told to just sit this holiday! Anyway DGS used my sterling and noticed it was tarnished. He recommended not cleaning pieces separately but in a pan using aluminum foil and baking soda.
I’ve used this method on 6 elaborate candlesticks given to me by a neighbor. Just wanted them shined up and worked well. I’d like to try selling these on eBay but they’ve disappeared somewhere in the house?

I tried that but didn't like the result on flatware as I like the way hand polishing leaves some oxidation down in the details of ornate pieces to make the details pop.  It does work well on things like silver chains etc

[Opti]

Nov 30, 2023 19:03:12 GMT -5 Pink Cashmere said:

So my brain has been working out how to deal with my current situation.

It is basically telling me to go back to dealing with Mister how I use to deal with men period. 

I understand that it’s not ideal if I hope to ever have a good, healthy relationship with him. But really, whatever. Idek if I really want the relationship anymore. As much as I do love him, my heart is not rebelling against what my brain is telling me to do, so whatever again.

Imma just do me, but not be disrespectful of him or the fact that as long as I live here, I am in a relationship with him. No matter what, I feel like respect is a BFD, so I won’t cross those lines. 

So that is where I am today.

My almost second husband was from a very different culture. It caused many issues. So much that ways upon ways were developed to help bridge the gap.

We had an ever expanding set of magnets we used on the fridge door to help when perhaps one or the other was getting the mental state etc. wrong. So there were magnets to denote anger (red), sad (blue), spiritual (white) yellow (happy) etc. We might have even had one of those poem type magnets on the fridge or nearby to create words if needed.

Every human relationship is unique. 


P.S. The man I would like to become my second husband or at least a notable romance in my life is from a similar culture. Grew up in an adjacent state to my birth state. Much easier though could use magmets or interpretative dance at times ...

[Opti]

Nov 30, 2023 19:42:37 GMT -5 soupandstew said:

Nov 30, 2023 19:11:16 GMT -5 jerseygirl said:

Were in London and walked through the flea market in Nottingham Hill. There were dozens of full sets of sterling in gorgeous wooden cases. Selling for very little
DIL and DGS set table for family Thanksgiving. I was told to just sit this holiday! Anyway DGS used my sterling and noticed it was tarnished. He recommended not cleaning pieces separately but in a pan using aluminum foil and baking soda.
I’ve used this method on 6 elaborate candlesticks given to me by a neighbor. Just wanted them shined up and worked well. I’d like to try selling these on eBay but they’ve disappeared somewhere in the house?

I tried that but didn't like the result on flatware as I like the way hand polishing leaves some oxidation down in the details of ornate pieces to make the details pop.  It does work well on things like silver chains etc

I like basic ish flatware with some flair to it. I learned that brushed stainless steel does not work well over time on flatware or metal rings. YMMV 

[Pink Cashmere]

Nov 30, 2023 19:47:30 GMT -5 Opti said:

Nov 30, 2023 19:03:12 GMT -5 Pink Cashmere said:

So my brain has been working out how to deal with my current situation.

It is basically telling me to go back to dealing with Mister how I use to deal with men period. 

I understand that it’s not ideal if I hope to ever have a good, healthy relationship with him. But really, whatever. Idek if I really want the relationship anymore. As much as I do love him, my heart is not rebelling against what my brain is telling me to do, so whatever again.

Imma just do me, but not be disrespectful of him or the fact that as long as I live here, I am in a relationship with him. No matter what, I feel like respect is a BFD, so I won’t cross those lines. 

So that is where I am today.

My almost second husband was from a very different culture. It caused many issues. So much that ways upon ways were developed to help bridge the gap.

We had an ever expanding set of magnets we used on the fridge door to help when perhaps one or the other was getting the mental state etc. wrong. So there were magnets to denote anger (red), sad (blue), spiritual (white) yellow (happy) etc. We might have even had one of those poem type magnets on the fridge or nearby to create words if needed.

Every human relationship is unique. 


P.S. The man I would like to become my second husband or at least a notable romance in my life is from a similar culture. Grew up in an adjacent state to my birth state. Much easier though could use magmets or interpretative dance at times ...

The magnet thing sounds like more work than I am willing to expend right now. Mister and I are both adults, imo, we should be able to state how we are feeling at any given time. And for me, just saying I’m in a mood and need some time to myself would be enough, without having to describe exactly what the mood entails. 

That is one of the things I liked about this house when we first saw it, it’s not huge, around 2500sf, but the layout is such that we can be in different parts of the house, getting some alone time, without disturbing each other. 

I don’t mean to knock your magnets if that is a solution that works for you, but I prefer my partner to just use his words and tell me what he needs or wants, or what he is feeling, and we can go from there. 

I have started to think that maybe I just expect too much of other people. But that doesn’t really sit well with me, because I don’t expect more than I am willing to give. 

That is one of the reasons I like dogs more than I like most humans. Dogs are simple, and tend to want more than anything else, to please their humans. If they trust their humans and know what is expected of them. Humans are complicated and tend to want to please themselves first and foremost. 

So, since I am a human, imma get back on board with just doing what pleases me, first and foremost. Other humans can like it or leave it. 

[TheOtherMe]

I typed in the wrong address for the Toddler's Christmas present.  It went to a building two blocks from where the Toddler lives.  At least I could track that.  So I have emailed customer service and given them the correct address.  If I have to replace the order at non-Black Friday prices, he won't be getting nearly as much.

Apparently after I emailed what I purchased, NIL ordered what she wanted.  Her order came yesterday, so they asked if I had received a delivery confirmation.  No, I had not so I investigated.

[Artemis Windsong]

I haven't had a problem with Temu until I started ordering for Xmas.  Inexpensive, no ship charge.  Then I had the order canceled to the same address 3 times.  Also it shows pay method as paypal but I can deduct straight from savings. Then after saying order confirmed, payment made, canceled and refund in 1to 7 days.  Frustrated.  I could order multiple packages of colorful socks for a large family that were canceled. They trade socks to mismatch.   I am done with that site after the packages that  did get sent are delivered.

In the past I had mailed checks.  The police said not to mail checks as they are being stolen and washed.

What has worked.  I ordered little prayer boxes from Dollar Tree.  I had to order 24.  This is a small gift for 14 neighbors. I will have a few left over.  The past years I got small fruit cakes from Sam's Club.  Isn't this fun.  I usually miscounted how many I needed and had to go back and get more. 

[giramomma]

Nov 30, 2023 20:14:40 GMT -5 Pink Cashmere said:

I have started to think that maybe I just expect too much of other people. But that doesn’t really sit well with me, because I don’t expect more than I am willing to give. 

I feel the same, alot, actually.

I struggle with it. I don't talk about it much because I don't want to come off as a pompous ass.

It's been on my mind quite a bit.

[Opti]

Nov 30, 2023 18:24:51 GMT -5 jerseygirl said:

Donated old dishes to good will and bought blue white varied pattern Selamica for every day , set of 6. Enjoying the cheerful patterns
I have beautiful Gorham dishes with navy and gold accents, set of 14. Used these for holidays. Then I inherited my mom’s delicate egg shell China with lovely floral design. Propably about 85 yrs old, set of 12 but one dinner dish missing and one chipped. Very pretty standard dinner dishes, square salad plates, soup bowls and 3 serving dishes one has lid. Never used the cups/saucers
I’ve been using these especially for Easter. But for thanksgiving DIL set table with these.
I’ve always carefully hand washed but after thanksgiving meal someone put them all in the dishwasher. They’re fine!!

You got me at blue & white dishes. Cheerful patterns.

Will probably digest your post over the weekend. 

[toomuchreality]

Nov 30, 2023 18:24:51 GMT -5 jerseygirl said:

Donated old dishes to good will and bought blue white varied pattern Selamica for every day , set of 6. Enjoying the cheerful patterns
I have beautiful Gorham dishes with navy and gold accents, set of 14. Used these for holidays. Then I inherited my mom’s delicate egg shell China with lovely floral design. Propably about 85 yrs old, set of 12 but one dinner dish missing and one chipped. Very pretty standard dinner dishes, square salad plates, soup bowls and 3 serving dishes one has lid. Never used the cups/saucers
I’ve been using these especially for Easter. But for thanksgiving DIL set table with these.
I’ve always carefully hand washed but after thanksgiving meal someone put them all in the dishwasher. They’re fine!!

YIKES! I'm glad they're okay.
FYI- If they have a pattern on them, the dishwasher will eventually remove it, so be aware. That, on top of the concern of breaking.

My Corelle dishes are also white, but they have a black ring around the outside edge. Much for the same reason Weltz mentioned. Plus, it makes me crazy to not have the pattern lined up the same, when I put them away, or on the table. Happily, none of mine have ever broken, or chipped. 😊
When I bought mine, I'd been living alone for years. And I prefer eating on the salad size plate ,rather than giant dinner plates. So I bought two dinner plates, just in case and six salad plates and six bowls. I've never used the dinner plates, even though I've owned them 20 years.
I gave my full set of stoneware to someone just starting out. I liked the look of them, but not the weight. And they tend to get chipped. But when I bought them, my cupboards had glass doors, so I wanted dishes that matched and looked nice. I still have the full set of matching blue glasses, I need to find a home for. But I haven't found new glasses to replace them yet, that I like. So I keep them.

[Pink Cashmere]

In other news, Boy had a coat last winter, because he really does not do well with cold weather. The coat he had, he loved it, and didn’t really like for us to take it off of him. 

Mister said he wanted to get Boy another coat, and today, I found one similar to the one he had last winter (and got too big for), by the same brand. I sent the link to Mister to buy it. I actually found the same exact coat he had last winter, but it is $55, and I found the similar one that is just a different color, with different pockets, on sale for $32, somewhere that we can return it locally if it doesn’t fit. 

If I wasn’t rebelling, I would’ve just bought it myself. Because I really want Boy to have it, because he really seemed to like wearing the one he had last winter. But imma let Mister buy it, and if he doesn’t go ahead and order it, and it ends up selling out, imma be mad lol.

[giramomma]

It appears that I am back right where I was when I found out I was pregnant with the missy,

I have choices, and they are all undesirable. The best I can do is pick the least worst of all the bad options.

It's getting old.

[Pink Cashmere]

Nov 30, 2023 20:37:32 GMT -5 giramomma said:

Nov 30, 2023 20:14:40 GMT -5 Pink Cashmere said:

I have started to think that maybe I just expect too much of other people. But that doesn’t really sit well with me, because I don’t expect more than I am willing to give. 

I feel the same, alot, actually.

I struggle with it. I don't talk about it much because I don't want to come off as a pompous ass.

It's been on my mind quite a bit.

You can tell me all about it, since we seem to have similar thought processes.

I will probably tell you that you aren’t being a pompous ass, even though I often feel like that’s what people in my real life try to make me feel like. I’m not that. I just have a very strong sense of what’s right and what’s wrong, as a baseline, and gray areas in life have to do with other things besides being a honest, decent human being.

[Opti]

Nov 30, 2023 20:37:32 GMT -5 giramomma said:

Nov 30, 2023 20:14:40 GMT -5 Pink Cashmere said:

I have started to think that maybe I just expect too much of other people. But that doesn’t really sit well with me, because I don’t expect more than I am willing to give. 

I feel the same, alot, actually.

I struggle with it. I don't talk about it much because I don't want to come off as a pompous ass.

It's been on my mind quite a bit.

But you actively chose Pink's plan of life. Maybe no one in your life except your kids are grounded in it and want to abide by it.

IMO.. there is no perfect way to live life. People will tell you the right way to do finances. How to have the perfect relationship etc. But in the end, its all BS if it does not fit you or your life. 

I am extreme with myself as my parents expected much, being midwestern kids born in a certain time and place. I strive to be more graceful with myself and others. In breakdown mode, my mantra, is what is the least I can do. In general I strive for optimism, but situations sometimes crush my soul and even my hope.

So I do my best to remember, tomorrow is another day. Pray, ask the universe for help and try not to outrun help, finances, or love coming my way. Be patient, if only a touch more.

[Opti]

Nov 30, 2023 20:42:00 GMT -5 giramomma said:

It appears that I am back right where I was when I found out I was pregnant with the missy,

I have choices, and they are all undesirable. The best I can do is pick the least worst of all the bad options.

It's getting old.

Agreed. 

[NoNamePerson]

Nov 30, 2023 20:42:00 GMT -5 giramomma said:

It appears that I am back right where I was when I found out I was pregnant with the missy,

I have choices, and they are all undesirable. The best I can do is pick the least worst of all the bad options.

It's getting old.

[Opti]

Nov 30, 2023 20:40:29 GMT -5 Pink Cashmere said:

In other news, Boy had a coat last winter, because he really does not do well with cold weather. The coat he had, he loved it, and didn’t really like for us to take it off of him. 

Mister said he wanted to get Boy another coat, and today, I found one similar to the one he had last winter (and got too big for), by the same brand. I sent the link to Mister to buy it. I actually found the same exact coat he had last winter, but it is $55, and I found the similar one that is just a different color, with different pockets, on sale for $32, somewhere that we can return it locally if it doesn’t fit. 

If I wasn’t rebelling, I would’ve just bought it myself. Because I really want Boy to have it, because he really seemed to like wearing the one he had last winter. But imma let Mister buy it, and if he doesn’t go ahead and order it, and it ends up selling out, imma be mad lol.

Or,

you put it under the Xmas tree and label it for Boy from Pink

Just a thought. 

[giramomma]

Nov 30, 2023 20:42:00 GMT -5 giramomma said:

It appears that I am back right where I was when I found out I was pregnant with the missy,

I have choices, and they are all undesirable. The best I can do is pick the least worst of all the bad options.

It's getting old.

And at least I know there's no way in hell i can be pregnant.

Just want to clarify