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Post by soupandstew on Nov 26, 2023 18:07:00 GMT -5
DHs dad isn't doing too well after the last fall. Hospice care is being discussed as a possibility. Not sure he has much longer. He gave up after MIL. Which I've said before isn't uncommon. It still sucks though he has a lot to live for. Then his brother is getting divorced. That doesn't really surprise me I had a hunch based on the last time we were together. I was more surprised it took this long. So this could be an interesting holiday season. I'm not going to put the cart too far ahead of the horse regarding FIL but I'm preparing myself. I'm sorry  |
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Post by soupandstew on Nov 26, 2023 18:08:05 GMT -5
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Nov 26, 2023 18:08:46 GMT -5
Unfortunately nothing new. The child tax credit and mortgage credit were designed to incentive white people to settle down and make babies. Abortion used to be actively encouraged to decrease minority and poor populations. Birth control was originally heralded as another means of population control and would hopefully give white married women time to outpace. |
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Post by Anne_in_VA on Nov 26, 2023 18:15:17 GMT -5
Just got home after spending the weekend with the grandkids, DD and DSIL. We had so much fun. Went antiquing, shopping and decided to go out for Mexican food last night. They are growing up so fast; the two oldest boys have their driving permit already and one is going to get his license soon. The other boy won’t be far behind. Spent too much money, but we don’t see them as often as we’d like, so tend to overspend when we do see them. It’s ok to spoil your grandchildren, right?
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Post by busymom on Nov 26, 2023 18:25:22 GMT -5
Not happy with DH's company right now. He was asked to come in to work this past week, to fill in at a different location, but no one mentioned that the person he was filling in for had tested positive for Covid. If he had known, he normally disinfects the entire area, including the telephone. I told him I want him to take a test when he gets home tonight. It's been 4 days, so hopefully if he's caught it, the test will show a positive. Not something I want to be dealing with so close to the Christmas rush.
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Post by soupandstew on Nov 26, 2023 18:28:01 GMT -5
I just got a very sad call from my author guy. He said he got an email or text that the bill for his storage locker wasn't paid. At first I thought it was a mis-dial as we had talked earlier today about the book. But then he asked if I was the one paying the bill and, if not, did I know you did. Many, many years ago I set up the climate-controlled storage locker and supervised placement of furniture in it, but I haven't worked for him as a personal assistant in about 15 years. I suggested it might be his brother's assistant/bookkeeper so he will call her. It breaks my heart because one minute he is so with it, and the next minute he is not.
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Post by giramomma on Nov 26, 2023 18:31:15 GMT -5
Not happy with DH's company right now. He was asked to come in to work this past week, to fill in at a different location, but no one mentioned that the person he was filling in for had tested positive for Covid. If he had known, he normally disinfects the entire area, including the telephone. I told him I want him to take a test when he gets home tonight. It's been 4 days, so hopefully if he's caught it, the test will show a positive. Not something I want to be dealing with so close to the Christmas rush. Is he symptomatic? DD1 was likely exposed on Oct 29. She was symptomatic on Halloween. Tested positive on Nov 3. We tested her before a few times. DH got covid from DD1. He was symptomatic for only 24 hours before he tested positive on Nov 3. |
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Post by countrygirl2 on Nov 26, 2023 18:52:01 GMT -5
Hubs ordered this soap some time ago as an antibacterial soap. It's called Dettol aad costs $13 for 12 bars on Amazon. It's one of the few soaps I have ever been able to use besides Caress or Dove without itching.
It's supposed to clean 99% of bacteria and viruses, don't know about that but it suds well and I like the smell. I believe its made in Indonesia. I'm taking a bar or two to Washington have no idea if it will sud in water not conditioned, guess, I will find out.
I also bought 2 shower cartrigdes to remove chlorine from the shower water as I found it harsh and it did a number on my hair. Hopefully this will help, they filter up to 1000 gallons of water than replace. Also a countertop water filter from Classic Fresh for there so I don't have to buy bottled water. Again purifies water and creates better taste and removes any solids. So kind of a Xmas present to me. I know Berkleys are considered better ones, but I read reviews and the positives were only 67% so not sure that is good enough to pay $500 for one of their. Guess I will find out. Besides its not the receptacle, its the filtering media that makes the difference.
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Post by cooper88 on Nov 26, 2023 18:55:22 GMT -5
I just got a very sad call from my author guy. He said he got an email or text that the bill for his storage locker wasn't paid. At first I thought it was a mis-dial as we had talked earlier today about the book. But then he asked if I was the one paying the bill and, if not, did I know you did. Many, many years ago I set up the climate-controlled storage locker and supervised placement of furniture in it, but I haven't worked for him as a personal assistant in about 15 years. I suggested it might be his brother's assistant/bookkeeper so he will call her. It breaks my heart because one minute he is so with it, and the next minute he is not. It's heartbreaking to see this happen to someone. |
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Post by lurkyloo on Nov 26, 2023 18:59:23 GMT -5
Not happy with DH's company right now. He was asked to come in to work this past week, to fill in at a different location, but no one mentioned that the person he was filling in for had tested positive for Covid. If he had known, he normally disinfects the entire area, including the telephone. I told him I want him to take a test when he gets home tonight. It's been 4 days, so hopefully if he's caught it, the test will show a positive. Not something I want to be dealing with so close to the Christmas rush. Transmission via surfaces is unusual, despite all the wiping down of groceries. I would also be pretty annoyed, and by all means test him, but if he didn’t breathe the same air as the person he was filling in for he’s probably OK. |
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Post by daisylu on Nov 26, 2023 19:00:02 GMT -5
That is disgusting. And I truly believe that is what was behind reversing RvW. |
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Post by lurkyloo on Nov 26, 2023 19:10:49 GMT -5
Unfortunately nothing new. The child tax credit and mortgage credit were designed to incentive white people to settle down and make babies. Abortion used to be actively encouraged to decrease minority and poor populations. Birth control was originally heralded as another means of population control and would hopefully give white married women time to outpace. Ya, Sanger the feminist hero who championed birth control in NYC and got arrested for it several times? She saw it as a means for eugenics  |
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Post by lurkyloo on Nov 26, 2023 19:14:22 GMT -5
That is disgusting. And I truly believe that is what was behind reversing RvW. Oh come on, the RvW overturning was also about punishing women for having sex and controlling/keeping them in their place because obviously we are inferior and need to be kept down. #onwednesdayswesmashthepatriarchy |
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Post by TheOtherMe on Nov 26, 2023 19:28:40 GMT -5
DHs dad isn't doing too well after the last fall. Hospice care is being discussed as a possibility. Not sure he has much longer. He gave up after MIL. Which I've said before isn't uncommon. It still sucks though he has a lot to live for. Then his brother is getting divorced. That doesn't really surprise me I had a hunch based on the last time we were together. I was more surprised it took this long. So this could be an interesting holiday season. I'm not going to put the cart too far ahead of the horse regarding FIL but I'm preparing myself. I'm sorry. Sadly, it isn't uncommon. |
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Post by TheOtherMe on Nov 26, 2023 19:33:07 GMT -5
That is disgusting. And I truly believe that is what was behind reversing RvW. Oh come on, the RvW overturning was also about punishing women for having sex and controlling/keeping them in their place because obviously we are inferior and need to be kept down. #onwednesdayswesmashthepatriarchy I saw an X thread written by a Mormon woman saying the church and the white race will die out if women don't have more children and not work outside the home. It was long and lots of pushback, even from other Mormon women. |
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Nov 26, 2023 19:36:32 GMT -5
That is disgusting. And I truly believe that is what was behind reversing RvW. Oh come on, the RvW overturning was also about punishing women for having sex and controlling/keeping them in their place because obviously we are inferior and need to be kept down. #onwednesdayswesmashthepatriarchy I imagine it's evolved to be some of both. If I'm kept in my place that's more white babies born to a cis heternormal technically Christian home. All those poor babies are probably now considered a bonus they can be adopted out to the appropriate families who can't have kids. And with us white women at home where we belong and brown people behind a wall someone is going to have to generate the new low wage laborers. A couple generations and we're back to the good old days. |
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Post by Pink Cashmere on Nov 26, 2023 19:37:27 GMT -5
Yeah, I say that anger is a secondary emotion. It is useful because it points out where we feel there is injustice or whatever, but on a personal level, we are served with rooting out the primary emotions underneath the anger. That’s my opinion anyway, and I’ve never gone to anybody’s school of psychology or human behavior.  But being aware of that, I know what is underneath my anger. It is hurt feelings, sadness, and disappointment. And also, if I’m really honest….. fear. Even though we aren’t married, and I’m the reason we didn’t get married before all this shit happened, I did trust Mister enough to do some things that in hindsight, did not and do not serve me well. I have yet to figure out how I can start over at this point in my life, in a way that I can feel good about. So I’m really just out here looking and feeling, very, very stupid. And that makes me angry more than all the other shit. As I read recently, you're not starting over, you're starting from experience. And I have discovered that is true. When i lost what i thought was my dream job 6 yrs ago i was devastated. It had taken me over 20 years to get to that point in my career. I was picturing it taking another 20 years to get back there. That's not how it worked. I got other jobs based on my experienceand now I'm not only financially ahead of where i was, i'm emotionally and spiritually ahead. And I didn’teven know I needed that. Do you ever watch biographies of famous people? One thing I notice about them is that the rough times the person went through are always presented as something the person overcame to get where they ended up. When I'm getting down on myself, I picture how a biographer would present my story. Somehow, they turn what I think of as the biggest failures into the biggest triumphs. I would feel better if I was younger. For many years now, I have said here that I made choices based in my desire to retire asap, and that was even before my body got so wonky. Specifically, that is how I have battled my love of cars and new car fever, and kept driving my 2003 Honda instead of buying a new car. That is a BFD. It’s also why I’d stopped thinking of my house as a “starter” house and started making it my forever house. A new car until it was a necessity and a more expensive house would’ve derailed my plans to retire asap. I know I’ll have to buy another car eventually, but once I got serious about retiring asap, a big part of my plan included being mortgage free and only paying taxes and insurance after I retire. That is the only way I will be able to retire asap. I will be all kinds of unhappy if I have to keep working into my 60’s. And that is if my body even allows me to do that. A few days ago, my coworker and I saw another employee leaning on a piece of equipment just to be able to walk, and still struggling, and my coworker, who is having some serious issues with her back, said “I hope I can retire before I’m like that”. My thoughts exactly. But the truth is, that I am at risk for being exactly like that in some way, because my body is rebelling already. That truly scares me. I know that the easy answer is to just move back into my house if I have to. But that is also really complicated and I will have to spend a lot of money to make it mine again. And that’s if I can even wrap my mind around living there again, because it has come to symbolize a lot of negative stuff for me, to the point that it kind of feels like a noose around my neck, even on a good day. Trying to fix my emotions if I have to live there again, might be an even higher price to pay than the money I’d have to spend to try to fix the house and make it be somewhere I can be comfortable living again. So even though I acknowledge all the underlying emotions regarding the shit with Mister, I am also just plain angry about having to try to figure certain shit out at this point in my life. |
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Post by susana1954 on Nov 26, 2023 19:38:34 GMT -5
Anyone else have tubs of Christmas decorations spread all over their living area? I gave at least 6 tubs worth to the thrift store before I moved, but I think they reproduced once they got in the dark, humid attic here. That's my excuse, anyway. I have no idea where anything goes yet . . . the joys of a new house.
I hate clutter, and it is driving me nuts.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Nov 26, 2023 19:45:35 GMT -5
I did on Friday. Then six totes at my mom's.
I need command straps for my 1950s bubble lights so I can string them in front of the TV.
Not sure I trust them on the tree. Then there is Wilbur. Pretty sure they are mercury glass so I don't want them breaking.
They are so cool. I tested them they all still bubble.
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Post by chiver78 on Nov 26, 2023 19:50:31 GMT -5
As I read recently, you're not starting over, you're starting from experience. And I have discovered that is true. When i lost what i thought was my dream job 6 yrs ago i was devastated. It had taken me over 20 years to get to that point in my career. I was picturing it taking another 20 years to get back there. That's not how it worked. I got other jobs based on my experienceand now I'm not only financially ahead of where i was, i'm emotionally and spiritually ahead. And I didn’teven know I needed that. Do you ever watch biographies of famous people? One thing I notice about them is that the rough times the person went through are always presented as something the person overcame to get where they ended up. When I'm getting down on myself, I picture how a biographer would present my story. Somehow, they turn what I think of as the biggest failures into the biggest triumphs. I would feel better if I was younger. For many years now, I have said here that I made choices based in my desire to retire asap, and that was even before my body got so wonky. Specifically, that is how I have battled my love of cars and new car fever, and kept driving my 2003 Honda instead of buying a new car. That is a BFD. It’s also why I’d stopped thinking of my house as a “starter” house and started making it my forever house. A new car until it was a necessity and a more expensive house would’ve derailed my plans to retire asap. I know I’ll have to buy another car eventually, but once I got serious about retiring asap, a big part of my plan included being mortgage free and only paying taxes and insurance after I retire. That is the only way I will be able to retire asap. I will be all kinds of unhappy if I have to keep working into my 60’s. And that is if my body even allows me to do that. A few days ago, my coworker and I saw another employee leaning on a piece of equipment just to be able to walk, and still struggling, and my coworker, who is having some serious issues with her back, said “I hope I can retire before I’m like that”. My thoughts exactly. But the truth is, that I am at risk for being exactly like that in some way, because my body is rebelling already. That truly scares me. I know that the easy answer is to just move back into my house if I have to. But that is also really complicated and I will have to spend a lot of money to make it mine again. And that’s if I can even wrap my mind around living there again, because it has come to symbolize a lot of negative stuff for me, to the point that it kind of feels like a noose around my neck, even on a good day. Trying to fix my emotions if I have to live there again, might be an even higher price to pay than the money I’d have to spend to try to fix the house and make it be somewhere I can be comfortable living again. So even though I acknowledge all the underlying emotions regarding the shit with Mister, I am also just plain angry about having to try to figure certain shit out at this point in my life.this is a lot of me being all up in my head lately, too. it's def not a fun place to be. 😕 hugs, lady. |
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Post by giramomma on Nov 26, 2023 20:00:07 GMT -5
Oh come on, the RvW overturning was also about punishing women for having sex and controlling/keeping them in their place because obviously we are inferior and need to be kept down. #onwednesdayswesmashthepatriarchy I saw an X thread written by a Mormon woman saying the church and the white race will die out if women don't have more children and not work outside the home. It was long and lots of pushback, even from other Mormon women. My online school was out of Utah. I had to go out before I started. I was pregnant with the missy. The young mormon kids thought I was nuts for having 4.
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Post by giramomma on Nov 26, 2023 20:03:56 GMT -5
Anyone else have tubs of Christmas decorations spread all over their living area? I gave at least 6 tubs worth to the thrift store before I moved, but I think they reproduced once they got in the dark, humid attic here. That's my excuse, anyway. I have no idea where anything goes yet . . . the joys of a new house. I hate clutter, and it is driving me nuts. Usually that's us. Yesterday I decorated the family room before DD1's boyfriend came over. I was careful to only take out what I could put out, and then the tub went into the basement. Now in the living room we have tubs of dolly things out and the dolly things made quite the obstacle course. |
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Post by Pink Cashmere on Nov 26, 2023 20:11:12 GMT -5
My therapy appointment is Tuesday. If she cancels this appointment, I might make another one, just to cuss her out. And imma be done with therapy.
I have been thinking a lot today about how I’d like this appointment to go and what I want to focus on. I know I need to get some shit off my chest regarding Mister, stuff that I haven’t even talked about here. But even though I have a real need to do that, I still want my therapy to be about ME overall, and I don’t want to get sidetracked with relationship shit, or even talking about him all the time. If she asks again about bringing him to one of my sessions, that will be a hard no, and don’t ask me again.
I asked him to clean the shit off his side of the bedroom floor, and his nightstand and dresser this weekend, so I can dust and clean the furniture, and clean the carpet tomorrow or Tuesday. He still has not done it. Tomorrow, I will all of that shit in his wannabe man cave, out of my way, so I can clean the bedroom. I asked him to do it and even told him why I was asking. He didn’t do it, so I don’t care if he gets mad about me dumping all that shit in his other room. I’m mad about some shit too.
The comforter Boy tore up, has been on the floor in our bedroom for some weeks now. Both dogs seem to prefer sleeping on it, over sleeping in their beds. I have been telling Mister for weeks now, that I’m going to throw it away because Boy still keeps pulling the soft shit out of it, and it’s always all over the floor, for me to deal with, since Mister can’t be bothered. Imma follow through and throw that away tomorrow too. I’m not sure why they prefer that over their beds, but I’ve given Mister ample time to try to figure it out and come up with another solution. So if me finally doing what I said I would and throwing it away makes him mad, whatever.
If I don’t get to have anything else, I WILL have a bedroom that suits my needs. It will be clean and it will not be full, of shit that I am allergic to….. like dust and dander. I don’t see how that should be a problem, since it’s a real need for my physical health, and even he should want me to have what I need so I can go to work and make some money so I’m not using him for money. Right? Right!
Yes, I am still in a pissy mood.
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Post by Pink Cashmere on Nov 26, 2023 20:22:49 GMT -5
I would feel better if I was younger. For many years now, I have said here that I made choices based in my desire to retire asap, and that was even before my body got so wonky. Specifically, that is how I have battled my love of cars and new car fever, and kept driving my 2003 Honda instead of buying a new car. That is a BFD. It’s also why I’d stopped thinking of my house as a “starter” house and started making it my forever house. A new car until it was a necessity and a more expensive house would’ve derailed my plans to retire asap. I know I’ll have to buy another car eventually, but once I got serious about retiring asap, a big part of my plan included being mortgage free and only paying taxes and insurance after I retire. That is the only way I will be able to retire asap. I will be all kinds of unhappy if I have to keep working into my 60’s. And that is if my body even allows me to do that. A few days ago, my coworker and I saw another employee leaning on a piece of equipment just to be able to walk, and still struggling, and my coworker, who is having some serious issues with her back, said “I hope I can retire before I’m like that”. My thoughts exactly. But the truth is, that I am at risk for being exactly like that in some way, because my body is rebelling already. That truly scares me. I know that the easy answer is to just move back into my house if I have to. But that is also really complicated and I will have to spend a lot of money to make it mine again. And that’s if I can even wrap my mind around living there again, because it has come to symbolize a lot of negative stuff for me, to the point that it kind of feels like a noose around my neck, even on a good day. Trying to fix my emotions if I have to live there again, might be an even higher price to pay than the money I’d have to spend to try to fix the house and make it be somewhere I can be comfortable living again. So even though I acknowledge all the underlying emotions regarding the shit with Mister, I am also just plain angry about having to try to figure certain shit out at this point in my life.this is a lot of me being all up in my head lately, too. it's def not a fun place to be. 😕 hugs, lady. Wait, I know I have been self absorbed lately, did I miss something? I am pretty sure you are unattached as far as having a SO, and you have a career, instead of just a job, AND you are younger than I am…… so what did I miss? I mean, I know you have been bucking the system about your job wanting your ass in a seat they can see, but in my mind, having a career, with the credentials you have, means you can find another job if you want or need to, or even reinvent yourself professionally, if you need to. Is that what you are referring to? I’m not trying to minimize anything, even if your job is what’s bothering you. I’m just trying to figure out what I missed, so I know how I can support and encourage you, with whatever has you in your head lately. |
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Nov 26, 2023 20:40:25 GMT -5
I made a cake with a can of fried apples from Aldi and leftover homemade cranberry sauce.
Had two servings topped with whipped cream.
Holy cow its good.
I got enough leftover sauce to make another one later in the week.
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Post by chiver78 on Nov 26, 2023 21:07:03 GMT -5
this is a lot of me being all up in my head lately, too. it's def not a fun place to be. 😕 hugs, lady. Wait, I know I have been self absorbed lately, did I miss something? I am pretty sure you are unattached as far as having a SO, and you have a career, instead of just a job, AND you are younger than I am…… so what did I miss? I mean, I know you have been bucking the system about your job wanting your ass in a seat they can see, but in my mind, having a career, with the credentials you have, means you can find another job if you want or need to, or even reinvent yourself professionally, if you need to. Is that what you are referring to? I’m not trying to minimize anything, even if your job is what’s bothering you. I’m just trying to figure out what I missed, so I know how I can support and encourage you, with whatever has you in your head lately. you're entirely fine, you haven't missed anything. I've kinda ranted here and there, mostly about work recently. but this is kinda mid-life crisis sort of shit in my head lately. I didn't think I'd be living in a busted house in the woods, next to yet another fucking crazy neighbor (see also: Mr Congeniality, ~10y ago) at 45yo. I know COVID threw a wrench in this game called life, but I think the spinner may have gotten stuck for me. thanks for the hugs. ❤️ |
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Post by countrygirl2 on Nov 26, 2023 21:22:54 GMT -5
I am working on books. If I had been on a job and the "workers" did not make sure their stuff was in so I can use it, I would have been on a rampage. I always kept after hubs giving me all the receipts, but I was gone 2 months, than have been procrastinating on bringing stuff up to date. I would ask him do I have the receipts, yeah, , but I don't think he was listening.
It seemed like an awful lot of stuff was being ordered from amazon and I had no receipts?? For some reason on this last house he started ordering more and more stuff from them well on the credit card you have no way of knowing what it is unless you can match it up. Now I'm finding out he can't get the printer to work on his Ipad so I'm reconciling accounts and there are tons of receipts I don't have. I have our credit card broken down so I can charge to the property acct, mine, his, or DD's when I make payments on it. Used to be MIL's had an acct too. It works well if you have everything. So now I'm here and going to have to get all the invoices printed out and journal them in. I have paid a lot of this out of our personal account. Now I'm going to have months of items to print out and match up, damn. Not only that he has paid out of our regular acct with a debit card, his acct with a debit card, and cash. I'm trying to match to the credit card and realize its debit so sort those down. This is a small business should not be this much work, now almost none, yet here I am. I'm far from perfect because I haven't been to school for what 50 years and haven't work in over 20 so I too have forgotten things. I'm sitting here hoping we don't get audited. I don't like doing stuff this way.
I only have a couple more months to bring up to date, but I think I have missed a lot of charges. I will get it, but not wanting to deal with it isn't helping me either. I am leaving the 7th and hope to get it in better order before I leave, will only have 2 more recons to do and they should be simple. Hope to finish this part before I go, review my depn schedules and just go back over everything.
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Post by The Walk of the Penguin Mich on Nov 26, 2023 21:36:44 GMT -5
Just threw the turkey pot pies in the oven. This meal used up a good chunk of turkey, the gravy, the stock, the few mushrooms left, the leftover green beans and the chunk of pie crust TD had left after baking pies.
TD got a quote for medical insurance, but he’s waiting for the company who covered us on the world cruise. Better insurance, for comparable price. I still have not heard back from the TA who booked our Singapore Air flights that are in question. I need this info soon as I need to get this package in the mail like yesterday.
Oh, and my passenger rear tire has a slow leak. I have an appt tomorrow, but if I’m going to have to get new tires, prefer from Costco, so am planning on dropping in on them tomorrow morning at opening and hoping that they can either fix my tire or replace them.
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countrygirl2
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Post by countrygirl2 on Nov 26, 2023 21:40:21 GMT -5
I'm also having trouble giving up a beautiful, energy efficient home that really needs nothing. I'm worried he will decide we just need to live in the trailer instead of a nice home. I have lived in under construction places a lot and I don't mind that but will he be able to do it again? That is the only way we can get a nice house there, I agree with him on spending a ton of money on one. Having the work done up there I think would be prohibitive and hubs would balk at paying what it costs anyway. And he isn't going to be happy. I asked him what he will do there, he said probably take a lot of long drives. He doesn't want to do anything just drive, so its not pleasurable to me either to just do that.
I don't know, just worries me. I thought we would be all set by now and didn't expect son to be about as far away from us as he is and still be in the US.If it weren't for DD none of this would be necessary, I don't blame her in anyway. But I'm not even sure this is the answer for her either, she has open ended benefits here. I wonder how much interest son will take in her. I just don't want this to end up being a big mistake. I have even talked to hubs about buying a smaller, new home in town with a nice garage and splitting time between the two where we don't have much outside work to do. There are no easy answers. I'm ready to scale down and just enjoy life, his enjoyment in life is working on stuff. He said I guess I will start working on the motorhome again to get things fixed so it will sell better. I only need to put new backsplash stuff behind the sink in the kitchen in it and clean. He has other things he wants to fix. Perhaps to him not working on stuff equates being ready to die or something. I just don't know.
For us both this is a huge, huge decision. We likely could leave a house here in son's name and let her live in it with state supplied help and another resident for the rest of her life. She likely has enough benefits to do that too.
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