what are you doing right now?

[taz157]

Knee Deep in Water Chloe - How did you day go?

[toomuchreality]

Oct 17, 2023 20:15:20 GMT -5 daisylu said:

Oct 17, 2023 18:39:18 GMT -5 toomuchreality said:

My apt maintenance guy was just at my place, checking an electrical issue. He accidentally let a wire hit a metal part of a switch and blew the breaker. Nothing in my living room works, or my kitchen lights. My cable, internet and phone don't work either. Not until they can get an electrician out to fix it, tomorrow at the soonest.
I am not a happy camper! Especially since it was his fault! And they won't pay for an electrician to come after 5pm.
He just said, Oops! Sorry about that. The supervisor said, Yeah, that would suck.

I wish I could afford to move from here.
😫🤬😫🤬

That sucks big time. They made the mistake, they should be doing what needs to be done to fix it. Hopefully it gets fixed early tomorrow!

Thank you. I agree.

They will (fix it)... When it's convenient for them and costs them less.

I thought I found a way around it, temporarily. But I only have lights in my bedroom and bathroom. None in the front room, or kitchen. It's too dark to see which cord goes to what, to try switching things around now. I wish I'd thought of it earlier. Ugh.

And yet they keep asking me to write a positive review for them.
Yeah, right.

[TheOtherMe]

Oct 17, 2023 19:04:25 GMT -5 cooper88 said:

Some assisted livings in my state take Medicaid. They are becoming fewer and further between, though. Also, the monthly copays are going up, and many who qualify for Medicaid don't have enough income to afford the copay.

Since my cousin's highest income per hour was $1.50 per month, she said she receives a small social security check.  She worked on her feet in cafeterias all of her life.  

She has always been poor and knew how to stretch her money.  You can't stretch what you don't have when it comes to an institution like assisted living or a nursing home.  

Knowing what she told me about her income, I can't imagine assisted living taking her social security less $50 for that kind of place.

It's no longer locally owned.  They might have then.  It's a part of a chain of nursing homes and that one has been fined for the quality of care.

[daisylu]

My parents will be married 49 years tomorrow. I'll be 49 in June. Do the math, I have. 🤣

P.S. I asked them years ago about it, and they admitted that they got pregnant on purpose so that their parents would allow them to marry. Dad was 18 but mom was 17, and both from horrible households. They've had a difficult road but are still best friends. ❤️

[steph08]

Oct 17, 2023 20:45:42 GMT -5 daisylu said:

My parents will be married 49 years tomorrow. I'll be 49 in June. Do the math, I have. 🤣

P.S. I asked them years ago about it, and they admitted that they got pregnant on purpose so that their parents would allow them to marry. Dad was 18 but mom was 17, and both from horrible households. They've had a difficult road but are still best friends. ❤️

At least they admitted to it!

I got pregnant with my oldest in October and she's a June baby- she was born 3 weeks early. Also, we had been married 4.5 years by then. 😂

[Pink Cashmere]

Oct 17, 2023 20:45:42 GMT -5 daisylu said:

My parents will be married 49 years tomorrow. I'll be 49 in June. Do the math, I have. 🤣

P.S. I asked them years ago about it, and they admitted that they got pregnant on purpose so that their parents would allow them to marry. Dad was 18 but mom was 17, and both from horrible households. They've had a difficult road but are still best friends. ❤️

My story does not go as well as your parents’ story, but I love it that I know people who were high school sweethearts that are still happily married decades later.

I got pregnant when I was 19yo, and we’d already been talking about getting married, but felt a sense of urgency after I got pregnant.

I was so scared to tell my Mom I was pregnant. She came home one day and I was in my bedroom bawling and she sat on my bed trying to figure out what was wrong with me. She finally asked if I was pregnant and I said yes, and cried even harder. She tried to get me to calm down and I will never forget how, even though I knew that she didn’t want me having a baby so young, she didn’t talk about that. Instead, she told me that she would help me, and when I said we’d talked about getting married, she said that was okay, but insisted that I not get married just because I was pregnant, and that I only get married because that was what I really wanted, and not because I was pregnant, because she would help me raise my baby. I still love her so much for that. 

I was not promiscuous or a wild child, and I imagine that helped her have faith in me that I wasn’t going to keep making babies willy nilly, with any and every man that got my attention. Whatever her thinking was at the time, I have never forgot how the conversation I was terrified to have with her, went so much better than I expected.

[Pink Cashmere]

Oct 17, 2023 21:30:22 GMT -5 Pink Cashmere said:

Oct 17, 2023 20:45:42 GMT -5 daisylu said:

My parents will be married 49 years tomorrow. I'll be 49 in June. Do the math, I have. 🤣

P.S. I asked them years ago about it, and they admitted that they got pregnant on purpose so that their parents would allow them to marry. Dad was 18 but mom was 17, and both from horrible households. They've had a difficult road but are still best friends. ❤️

My story does not go as well as your parents’ story, but I love it that I know people who were high school sweethearts that are still happily married decades later.

I got pregnant when I was 19yo, and we’d already been talking about getting married, but felt a sense of urgency after I got pregnant.

I was so scared to tell my Mom I was pregnant. She came home one day and I was in my bedroom bawling and she sat on my bed trying to figure out what was wrong with me. She finally asked if I was pregnant and I said yes, and cried even harder. She tried to get me to calm down and I will never forget how, even though I knew that she didn’t want me having a baby so young, she didn’t talk about that. Instead, she told me that she would help me, and when I said we’d talked about getting married, she said that was okay, but insisted that I not get married just because I was pregnant, and that I only get married because that was what I really wanted, and not because I was pregnant, because she would help me raise my baby. I still love her so much for that. 

I was not promiscuous or a wild child, and I imagine that helped her have faith in me that I wasn’t going to keep making babies willy nilly, with any and every man that got my attention. Whatever her thinking was at the time, I have never forgot how the conversation I was terrified to have with her, went so much better than I expected.

So because lately I feel like I need to say what’s in my mind, when it’s on my mind, I actually got out of bed and called my Mom after this post to tell her how much that meant to me back then, and how I remember that moment, and appreciate how she was true to her word and helped me so much with raising my children. 

The short conversation we had about it, she remembered that day too. I am very glad that I called her to tell her to tell her how much I appreciated how she handled me and was true to her word whe she said “WE can take care of a baby”.

[daisylu]

Oct 17, 2023 21:30:22 GMT -5 Pink Cashmere said:

Oct 17, 2023 20:45:42 GMT -5 daisylu said:

My parents will be married 49 years tomorrow. I'll be 49 in June. Do the math, I have. 🤣

P.S. I asked them years ago about it, and they admitted that they got pregnant on purpose so that their parents would allow them to marry. Dad was 18 but mom was 17, and both from horrible households. They've had a difficult road but are still best friends. ❤️

My story does not go as well as your parents’ story, but I love it that I know people who were high school sweethearts that are still happily married decades later.

I got pregnant when I was 19yo, and we’d already been talking about getting married, but felt a sense of urgency after I got pregnant.

I was so scared to tell my Mom I was pregnant. She came home one day and I was in my bedroom bawling and she sat on my bed trying to figure out what was wrong with me. She finally asked if I was pregnant and I said yes, and cried even harder. She tried to get me to calm down and I will never forget how, even though I knew that she didn’t want me having a baby so young, she didn’t talk about that. Instead, she told me that she would help me, and when I said we’d talked about getting married, she said that was okay, but insisted that I not get married just because I was pregnant, and that I only get married because that was what I really wanted, and not because I was pregnant, because she would help me raise my baby. I still love her so much for that. 

I was not promiscuous or a wild child, and I imagine that helped her have faith in me that I wasn’t going to keep making babies willy nilly, with any and every man that got my attention. Whatever her thinking was at the time, I have never forgot how the conversation I was terrified to have with her, went so much better than I expected.

I love that your mom supported you back then!

[Knee Deep in Water Chloe]

Oct 17, 2023 20:20:41 GMT -5 taz157 said:

Knee Deep in Water Chloe - How did you day go?

Oh, thank you. I really truly appreciate you checking in me.
It got worse. That third thing that is going to be a tipping point in whether I stay with this employer got really bad this morning. I have cried a lot today.
I’m wallowing tonight. I’m trying to be mature and decide if I’m over reacting. I’m not mature though, so it’s not working.

[daisylu]

I'm grateful for my dad. He taught me independence - although maybe a little too much.
But I'm thankful that I was able to support myself and my kids without a husband until I got the right husband.

[toomuchreality]

Oct 17, 2023 23:04:49 GMT -5 Knee Deep in Water Chloe said:

Oct 17, 2023 20:20:41 GMT -5 taz157 said:

Knee Deep in Water Chloe - How did you day go?

Oh, thank you. I really truly appreciate you checking in me.
It got worse. That third thing that is going to be a tipping point in whether I stay with this employer got really bad this morning. I have cried a lot today.
I’m wallowing tonight. I’m trying to be mature and decide if I’m over reacting. I’m not mature though, so it’s not working.

I'm so sorry your day did not go well. I hope things improve for you.
Hugs ♡

[weltz]

Oct 17, 2023 17:05:48 GMT -5 NomoreDramaQ1015 said:

Oct 17, 2023 11:59:29 GMT -5 weltz said:

He has absolutely nowhere to go.  No friends, no contact with his dad, and no money.  He'd be living on the streets. Melody would never do that. She loves her son, despite all his crap.

It sucks for Melody it really does but after a point your son needs to ask himself if this relationship is worth getting killed over.

Or having a heart attack due to stress.

Your son has been hiding in his freaking car to avoid the cross fire.

It may make me selfish but self preservation should kick in eventually.

It's understandable for Melody to not want him on the streets and is apparently willing to endure abuse to prevent it.

He's not your son's kid. You can be compatible in a lot of ways and still discover a giant red flag. It's okay to say it's too much.

They've been together 17 years.  He's not going to leave her.

[finnime]

Good morning, invisible pillars of strength, standing up beneath the weight of heavy burdens. I hope your Wednesday proves to lighten your load and offers something truly pleasurable.

I hope today goes well for you each and all.

We're back from New Hampshire as of 7 last evening. So glad we went, and that DH was able to do the things he wanted with minimal assistance on hills and bankings as he took pictures. The White Mountains were beautiful. It was mostly cloudy with some occasional rain but no problems. We stopped in the lakes region yesterday and I saw where I and my sibs had brought our families for a week every August for 10 years as the kids grew up. They all have great memories of those days. So do I. My ex never went with us, and it was just perfect.

Today DSis may come visit, or maybe tomorrow.

I've taken notes on cleanliness before surgery. DH has an appointment with his nephrologist on 10/31, then he'll be scheduled for the port surgery for dialysis.

This picture I took of the mountains in the mist with the richness of autumn leaves in front. It was so lovely.

[taz157]

Oct 17, 2023 23:04:49 GMT -5 Knee Deep in Water Chloe said:

Oct 17, 2023 20:20:41 GMT -5 taz157 said:

Knee Deep in Water Chloe - How did you day go?

Oh, thank you. I really truly appreciate you checking in me.
It got worse. That third thing that is going to be a tipping point in whether I stay with this employer got really bad this morning. I have cried a lot today.
I’m wallowing tonight. I’m trying to be mature and decide if I’m over reacting. I’m not mature though, so it’s not working.

I’m sorry to read this. ((((Hugs))))

[Opti]

Oct 17, 2023 23:04:49 GMT -5 Knee Deep in Water Chloe said:

Oct 17, 2023 20:20:41 GMT -5 taz157 said:

Knee Deep in Water Chloe - How did you day go?

Oh, thank you. I really truly appreciate you checking in me.
It got worse. That third thing that is going to be a tipping point in whether I stay with this employer got really bad this morning. I have cried a lot today.
I’m wallowing tonight. I’m trying to be mature and decide if I’m over reacting. I’m not mature though, so it’s not working.

If you need to cry it out to get through the emotions of it all, that's OK. Better than being fake mature and holding it in. I hope you can find your way forward with a clear mind.

[giramomma]

Oct 17, 2023 23:04:49 GMT -5 Knee Deep in Water Chloe said:

Oct 17, 2023 20:20:41 GMT -5 taz157 said:

Knee Deep in Water Chloe - How did you day go?

Oh, thank you. I really truly appreciate you checking in me.
It got worse. That third thing that is going to be a tipping point in whether I stay with this employer got really bad this morning. I have cried a lot today.
I’m wallowing tonight. I’m trying to be mature and decide if I’m over reacting. I’m not mature though, so it’s not working.

I am sorry. Can you take a day off to give yourself some space? I know that's hard in education. 

[NomoreDramaQ1015]

Oct 17, 2023 23:04:49 GMT -5 Knee Deep in Water Chloe said:

Oct 17, 2023 20:20:41 GMT -5 taz157 said:

Knee Deep in Water Chloe - How did you day go?

Oh, thank you. I really truly appreciate you checking in me.
It got worse. That third thing that is going to be a tipping point in whether I stay with this employer got really bad this morning. I have cried a lot today.
I’m wallowing tonight. I’m trying to be mature and decide if I’m over reacting. I’m not mature though, so it’s not working.

Oh dear I'm sorry! That is such a crappy position to be in. It's not immature to cry.

::hugs:::

[giramomma]

Damn. I am really old.

And tired of privilege.

I will slink off and shake my fist at hooligans now.

[finnime]

I wish things were different for you, Knee Deep in Water Chloe. I'm sorry you're in such a place.

[NoNamePerson]

Oct 18, 2023 3:33:45 GMT -5 finnime said:

I just wanted to say that I first saw this on ipad earlier and it was beautiful. Just got on PC with large monitor and it absolutely takes my breath away!!  Ok folks carry on with regularly scheduled program. 

[giramomma]

Also, I am thankful that I'm seeing more older people die (ie, 80/90) than younger people die (ie, 30-50). 

(I read the obits now. I imagine I'll stop at some point again.)

[swamp]

Oct 17, 2023 18:47:56 GMT -5 Pink Cashmere said:

Mister has applied for another promotion at his job, and is in the process of applying for 2 more. Sunday I proofread the part of his application for one job, that asks questions about KSA’s. His real job is a supervisor in the maintenance department, but he has not worked his real job in over a year now, and has been filling in for higher level managers in the maintenance department. Those are the kind of jobs he is applying for now. When I was proofreading the KSA’s for the one job, I didn’t know what the hell he was talking about in some of his answers, because the answers boiled down to his knowledge of mechanical type shit. 

But regardless of how I “talk” here, I actually am very good at writing, and also good at proofreading, so I was able to help him with things from that angle. And because I asked for clarity on some stuff, because I didn’t even know what he was talking about in a few answers and I needed clarity to make certain things make sense, he said that my ignorance about mechanical type stuff was actually useful in that instance, because his applications for promotions go beyond the maintenance department and are read by people that don’t have knowledge about mechanical type stuff like I don’t, so it needs to make sense to them too. 

So he was notified today that he has an interview tomorrow, for a job that he isn’t even sure he wants. It would be a promotion, but since he works for the federal government too, promotions do not always mean a lot more money. Any of these jobs will be a little more money if he gets one of them, but he’s not really chasing money anymore. His income is already more than he ever imagined was possible for him, and is more than enough for him to take care of his responsibilities and still have some money to have fun with. He doesn’t like having to deal with employees though, especially the ones that just like to talk, and go on and on about their personal lives, instead of just telling him what they need from him. If an employee says they need a day off work, he doesn’t care to hear why, he will give it to them. If they need some time off work during a time that makes things complicated, a brief explanation of why they really need it, is good enough for him to try to do everything he can to accommodate them and give them that time, even if there is some backlash, but he is still not interested in all the details and long stories.

I guess his thing now, is that if he works in upper management, there will be a buffer between him and employees, because there is a chain of command, they will need to go through their supervisor before coming to him. 

Whatever the reasons, I support him in chasing whatever promotions he wants. And it felt good to me, to come through when he asked, and help him with his KSA’s on an application. 

It is very obvious from what you "say" on here that you are a fabulous writer. 

I think you're awesome. 

[swamp]

Oct 18, 2023 8:44:03 GMT -5 giramomma said:

Also, I am thankful that I'm seeing more older people die (ie, 80/90) than younger people die (ie, 30-50). 

(I read the obits now. I imagine I'll stop at some point again.)

I read the obits too.   But probably for a different reason than you. 

When I had my law firm, I would read them because I had prepared a boat load (technical legal terminology) of wills and would get a heads up if i needed to get a will out. 

I still read them.  Old habits die hard, but i still get some work related information from them. 

[raeoflyte]

7 days in a row at my 2nd job is too much.

There's also little things that drive me nuts with it. It's a shared inbox. A shared one! Not individual with 1 shared team box, just 1 big shared email for the owner, schedulers, trainers, etc. My brain doesn't work well with that.

Biggest thing though is it's paying just under $600 a month. Which is nice, but it's not worth a lot of head space.

A new scheduler is starting. I'm curious how many days she wants. I'm hoping 4 and I'll cut back to 3. And then we should have a back up person. So I won't ever volunteer to do this many days in a row again.

[notagain]

Happy birthday theo!🎂 🥳 🎉 🎈 🎁 🎊

[TheOtherMe]

I have always read the obits.  I lived in Boulder long enough that I wanted to know who had died.  

I read the obits when I took the paper here.  Now I don't take the paper so I don't read them.  

I definitely watch the ages.  

Because of genealogy, I read a lot of obits from 100-150 years ago where they talked about the great suffering of a god fearing woman.  They also list all of the out of town guests and note if an out of town relative was unable to attend because of illness.

Wedding write ups are the same way.  The couple is well liked in the community.  

[minnesotapaintlady]

For some reason a few months ago our local newspaper started emailing me the obituaries every day.   Not sure how to take that. 

[Pink Cashmere]

Oct 18, 2023 9:17:40 GMT -5 swamp said:

Oct 17, 2023 18:47:56 GMT -5 Pink Cashmere said:

Mister has applied for another promotion at his job, and is in the process of applying for 2 more. Sunday I proofread the part of his application for one job, that asks questions about KSA’s. His real job is a supervisor in the maintenance department, but he has not worked his real job in over a year now, and has been filling in for higher level managers in the maintenance department. Those are the kind of jobs he is applying for now. When I was proofreading the KSA’s for the one job, I didn’t know what the hell he was talking about in some of his answers, because the answers boiled down to his knowledge of mechanical type shit. 

But regardless of how I “talk” here, I actually am very good at writing, and also good at proofreading, so I was able to help him with things from that angle. And because I asked for clarity on some stuff, because I didn’t even know what he was talking about in a few answers and I needed clarity to make certain things make sense, he said that my ignorance about mechanical type stuff was actually useful in that instance, because his applications for promotions go beyond the maintenance department and are read by people that don’t have knowledge about mechanical type stuff like I don’t, so it needs to make sense to them too. 

So he was notified today that he has an interview tomorrow, for a job that he isn’t even sure he wants. It would be a promotion, but since he works for the federal government too, promotions do not always mean a lot more money. Any of these jobs will be a little more money if he gets one of them, but he’s not really chasing money anymore. His income is already more than he ever imagined was possible for him, and is more than enough for him to take care of his responsibilities and still have some money to have fun with. He doesn’t like having to deal with employees though, especially the ones that just like to talk, and go on and on about their personal lives, instead of just telling him what they need from him. If an employee says they need a day off work, he doesn’t care to hear why, he will give it to them. If they need some time off work during a time that makes things complicated, a brief explanation of why they really need it, is good enough for him to try to do everything he can to accommodate them and give them that time, even if there is some backlash, but he is still not interested in all the details and long stories.

I guess his thing now, is that if he works in upper management, there will be a buffer between him and employees, because there is a chain of command, they will need to go through their supervisor before coming to him. 

Whatever the reasons, I support him in chasing whatever promotions he wants. And it felt good to me, to come through when he asked, and help him with his KSA’s on an application. 

It is very obvious from what you "say" on here that you are a fabulous writer. 

I think you're awesome. 

[Pink Cashmere]

Oct 17, 2023 23:04:49 GMT -5 Knee Deep in Water Chloe said:

Oct 17, 2023 20:20:41 GMT -5 taz157 said:

Knee Deep in Water Chloe - How did you day go?

Oh, thank you. I really truly appreciate you checking in me.
It got worse. That third thing that is going to be a tipping point in whether I stay with this employer got really bad this morning. I have cried a lot today.
I’m wallowing tonight. I’m trying to be mature and decide if I’m over reacting. I’m not mature though, so it’s not working.

I’m sorry you are having a rough time at work. I hope today is better.

[mollyanna58]

Oct 18, 2023 10:11:56 GMT -5 minnesotapaintlady said:

For some reason a few months ago our local newspaper started emailing me the obituaries every day.   Not sure how to take that. 

Rejoice because your name isn't there.