what are you doing right now?

[TheOtherMe]

Sept 28, 2023 12:09:54 GMT -5 NomoreDramaQ1015 said:

Sept 28, 2023 11:27:14 GMT -5 gs11rmb said:

NomoreDramaQ1015 I hope you take what I'm about to say with all the kindness that is meant because I truly believe you are trying to do the best you can for your grandma and great uncle.

When I read your posts I get the impression that GU is extremely frail both physically and mentally and that you and your dad are trying to pressure him to sign a will.  I KNOW that you are trying to do that to not mess up your grandma's Medicaid but to an outsider it could look like you're doing so in order to inherit his money.  After the debacle with your dad and grandma, which could have had serious legal consequences, I think you need to proceed with caution.  If a social worker or nurse feels uncomfortable and reports the situation then you could be in a very difficult situation.

Whatever you decide to do, I hope you also try to take care of yourself because I think we can all feel the stress radiating from your posts.

If he's that frail no we aren't going through with it we'll just yeet the problem down the road till probate finally ends.

And who knows grandma may not be around by then either so it'd be whatever she owed Medicaid by that point.  Or they may rule she doesn't inherit.  Who the hell knows. 

As it stands now legally she will qualify for Medicaid sometime here in the very near future so I am to proceed as planned.

We're acting on the advice of the Medicaid lady and the lawyer who drew up GU's POA.  The Medicaid lady is very familar with all this and has been walking me through it.

They've both said talk to him about it if he says yes and agrees to sign that's it as far as legalities go.  So long as there are two witnesses who sign or a notary on hand.

Iowa can't question it, Nebraska can't, grandma's nursing home can't. 

This is what happens when girls and boys don't make sure their affairs are in order before we get to this point.

Outside of myself or my dad there is no one else we can name as heirs.  That would have been an option if we did. Unless that customer was right and GU really does have a secret twin out there somewhere. 

ETA:  My dad is going out to see him.  This started very suddenly so my dad hasn't had a chance to go see him for himself.  As with my mother he is getting daily opposing opinions. I told him go ahead and take the paperwork out with him.  I trust his judgement.  The explanation is going to be, which is true, that we need him to get his affairs in order to help grandma which is 100% true we wouldn't be doing this otherwise.  Now if he has an actual will lying around somewhere it would make things a PITA if he names grandma but at least we'd know but we haven yet to find one.

Your dad has probably come and gone by now but I would have the social worker as one of the witnesses and have the social worker as a few question to make he sure he comprehends what he is doing.

All the best.   

[chiver78]

Sept 28, 2023 13:24:33 GMT -5 giramomma said:

And also, can I be like Smaug?

I would love to frolic and roll around in gold coins.

I had to look up that character....and it makes sense that I didn't recognize him. I've never read the book or watched the movie. but, reading the 2nd line, my brain went back to the opening theme of Duck Tales and Scrooge McDuck. 

[NomoreDramaQ1015]

Sept 28, 2023 14:41:34 GMT -5 chiver78 said:

Sept 28, 2023 13:24:33 GMT -5 giramomma said:

And also, can I be like Smaug?

I would love to frolic and roll around in gold coins.

I had to look up that character....and it makes sense that I didn't recognize him. I've never read the book or watched the movie. but, reading the 2nd line, my brain went back to the opening theme of Duck Tales and Scrooge McDuck. 

I thought about that and then I thought about this

[giramomma]

Sept 28, 2023 14:41:34 GMT -5 chiver78 said:

Sept 28, 2023 13:24:33 GMT -5 giramomma said:

And also, can I be like Smaug?

I would love to frolic and roll around in gold coins.

I had to look up that character....and it makes sense that I didn't recognize him. I've never read the book or watched the movie. but, reading the 2nd line, my brain went back to the opening theme of Duck Tales and Scrooge McDuck. 

The peanut loves duck tales. That would work, too.

[countrygirl2]

The appointment was ok.

They reiterated all the info they gave us before. He has another appointment after his PMSA on the 13th for the results. It is a week later. Than an appointment for surgery. Of course before that a heart sonogram than back for those results with his new heart doc. The surgeon told him today he did not think it was in his bones, that's reassuring for now, I hope the same. I think they also check his lymph glands when they do surgery, can't remember, but I believe that is what they said.

BUT here is the part that will kill this man~~~~he CANNOT lift more than 5 pounds for 6 WEEKS. Dear God how am I going to manage that? I will have to be on top of him for weeks. A catheter for 10 to 14 days, yucky for him but he can handle that. Than in for checks every 3 months for a year. I asked about Christmas, they said oh he will be fine for that, whew!

We will make it, that means me taking out trash, litter boxes, and lifting anything heavy, hopfully no mowing during that time. And hope the house sells before than. It's after mowing season hopefully so really a good time. 

[countrygirl2]

My relations between husbands and wives, loved ones before marrying, or just living together is harder than hell.

Sometimes I wonder how any of us stay together. I had 13 years of bad issues with hubs and his drinking. It was hell, but I felt at that time I had no choice, with a son sick all the time and a DD with all her issues. Somehow we stuck it out and he changed. Now I was not the easiest person to deal with either and I still have my moments. I wish I had an easy answer for folks but I don't. I guess we just like being together and married more than we like being apart, but there are days.

But I try to show him I love him each day and yep, really hard some days, but it helps. If nothing else I wear him down, LOL! I go by, ruffle his hair, give him a kiss. Catch him walking across the room and grab and hug him. I am the more demonstrative one, him not so much. But even if he doesn't act it, I know he likes it. might not works for others but does for us.

Like yesterday I bought him some nuts to eat and some chocolate the other day. And today got him some small turnovers.  Just little things to show him I care. 

And yes, its the responsibility of each of us to try and make our home a pleasant place to live. So I understand what you are saying. Each has to want it to work.

[andi9899]

I went to look at the house by my parent's and it is rented. I found another one that I'm driving by tonight. It's a single family house. It's $200/month cheaper than the townhouse. However, I'd be responsible for the yard, so is it really cheaper by the time I hire a lawn service?

The house is in a better area and is a true month to month lease. The townhouse would charge $2K to break the lease if I found a house a year or two from now if I wasn't at the end of my lease.

The house has a garage, shed, bonus office in addition to the 3 BR. The townhouse doesn't have any of those things. The townhouse has an extra bathroom, but both are upstairs, so my mom couldn't use the bathroom at my house. Also no dishwasher at the house.

What do y'all think? I'm kinda torn.

ETA: Because of the zip code, my car insurance would go down a little bit. Not a lot, but a little bit.

[NastyWoman]

Sept 28, 2023 14:29:14 GMT -5 mollyanna58 said:

Sept 28, 2023 13:24:33 GMT -5 giramomma said:

And also, can I be like Smaug?

I would love to frolic and roll around in gold coins.

Theoretically nice, but probably not very comfortable in reality.  I'd like to try first hand to find out.  

Well, I  have been decluttering the last couple of days and found a boat load of coins. Several hundred dollars worth of coins. I rolled them to take them to the bank. Let me tell you, there is a reason they call money filthy! So no rolling around in money for me but I am not adverse to selling gold coins  

[weltz]

I was so looking forward to swimming today, but left after 15 minutes...too cold. It was like swimming in Lake Baikal in Siberia.  My old bones can't take it, and my muscles start cramping up. I won't be going back until they fix it. Even the showers were either scalding or freezing.

[weltz]

Sept 28, 2023 15:55:08 GMT -5 NastyWoman said:

Sept 28, 2023 14:29:14 GMT -5 mollyanna58 said:

Theoretically nice, but probably not very comfortable in reality.  I'd like to try first hand to find out.  

Well, I  have been decluttering the last couple of days and found a boat load of coins. Several hundred dollars worth of coins. I rolled them to take them to the bank. Let me tell you, there is a reason they call money filthy! So no rolling around in money for me but I am not adverse to selling gold coins  

I have two buckets of pennies.  We don't use pennies anymore. I don't bother with rolling them, just them in the coin machine at the supermarket, little by little.  They're freaking HEAVY!

[finnime]

andi9899, from what you've said it seems the house is the better choice. Better terms (month to month); a garage, shed, office; better area. And it costs less.

[minnesotapaintlady]

Sept 28, 2023 15:52:39 GMT -5 andi9899 said:

I went to look at the house by my parent's and it is rented. I found another one that I'm driving by tonight. It's a single family house. It's $200/month cheaper than the townhouse. However, I'd be responsible for the yard, so is it really cheaper by the time I hire a lawn service?

The house is in a better area and is a true month to month lease. The townhouse would charge $2K to break the lease if I found a house a year or two from now if I wasn't at the end of my lease.

The house has a garage, shed, bonus office in addition to the 3 BR. The townhouse doesn't have any of those things. The townhouse has an extra bathroom, but both are upstairs, so my mom couldn't use the bathroom at my house. Also no dishwasher at the house.

What do y'all think? I'm kinda torn.

ETA: Because of the zip code, my car insurance would go down a little bit. Not a lot, but a little bit.

Do you have to hire a lawn service?  Just mow it yourself.  I'm assuming it's not real big if in town.

[NastyWoman]

Sept 28, 2023 16:02:14 GMT -5 weltz said:

Sept 28, 2023 15:55:08 GMT -5 NastyWoman said:

Well, I  have been decluttering the last couple of days and found a boat load of coins. Several hundred dollars worth of coins. I rolled them to take them to the bank. Let me tell you, there is a reason they call money filthy! So no rolling around in money for me but I am not adverse to selling gold coins  

I have two buckets of pennies.  We don't use pennies anymore. I don't bother with rolling them, just them in the coin machine at the supermarket, little by little.  They're freaking HEAVY!

A lot of quarters. Still heavy though and I had started on the rolling a long time ago so I had the cardboard tubes available

[Pink Cashmere]

Sept 28, 2023 12:39:55 GMT -5 andi9899 said:

Sept 28, 2023 11:28:14 GMT -5 Pink Cashmere said:

Well, that is why I was so eager to see my therapist, because I don’t know how to be nice to people when I feel like they are mistreating me. I think I’ve already said that. Maybe you are a better person than me, because I can’t do it. And he doesn’t want a hug and kiss from me, he acts like he doesn’t want me here. I’ve already said that too. 

I understand him not wanting to be bothered, and I’m cool with giving him space to deal with his grief. I don’t think grieving gives him an excuse to treat me like I’m his enemy though. I’m going through shit myself, not nearly the kind of shit he’s going through, but still. When I was willing to put my shit aside and trying to be nice and helpful, he was snapping at me and I couldn’t do anything right. I let it slide for a minute, until he really passed me off.

I am being as nice as I can now, by ignoring how he keeps offending me. I was looking forward to getting guidance from my therapist on how to handle that part with love and compassion instead of responding the anger I feel, like I want to, when he does it. Things like that are what therapy is for, right? What else am I supposed to do?

The kitchen, I’ve been saying I feel like crap physically in various ways, for a few weeks now, and I’m exhausted because I can’t sleep. Tuesday, when he came home early from work, I left the house so he could have a few hours home alone, even though I didn’t feel good then either, and had stuff I needed to be doing at home, like cleaning. When I got back home, after doing all that walking with DS, I didn’t feel like doing it. I was worried about making sure I could go to work yesterday, so I just rested, hoping I would feel better. Yesterday when I got home from work, he was playing his video game. My feet were hurting, my hips were hurting, and I still didn’t feel good, so I sat on my butt instead of cleaning the kitchen. When I feel like crap, most of my focus and what energy I do have, goes toward trying to be able to work. 

I didn’t really expect that he would’ve cleaned the kitchen, he stopped doing stuff around the house last year. But it would’ve been nice if he had.

Can you spend a fee days in a hotel? I don't think you should have to, but you need to get away from what is stressing you. When you get stressed your body rebels against you and you can't afford to miss work with health issues. Just an idea.

Unfortunately, my money is really funny because all the work I missed got me wayyy off track. I can’t afford a few days at a hotel, and I’m not about to ask him for a dime.

Ironically, out of all the situations I’ve talked about here over the last few years, where one poster or a few suggested I go stay at a hotel for a couple of days, this is the one time that I think I really would if I could. 

So I’ve just decided to focus on me and my own issues, and keep that as my priority for now. There is nothing I can do to help him, and he doesn’t want my help anyway, so focusing on me is all there is to do anyway.

In my reading about partners pushing away their spouse or SO when they are grieving, it seems like it’s not uncommon for the relationship or marriage to end, often because that’s what the grieving partner says they want. So I guess I need to prepare myself for that possibility too, which is even more reason for me to focus on myself right now.

So I will continue with my efforts to try to soothe myself in the ways I remember I use to, and whatever new ways I discover, that feel right to me. For the first time since we moved here, I don’t want to even be at home anymore, so I will figure that out too. Right now I don’t have money to take myself out to dinner or whatever, or meet family and friends for dinner and/or drinks, so I’ll have to get creative on where to go and what to do until I can afford to do stuff like that.

[lurkyloo]

Sept 28, 2023 11:06:25 GMT -5 raeoflyte said:

The job stuff is finally coming to a head. Boss told his boss he's leaving so he'll be out probably today, maybe Monday if he's lucky. Grandboss said he'd try to keep me on through next week which would give me a little more time on benefits. daisy 's post reminded me I never rescheduled my mammogram so fingers crossed I can do that in October on my current insurance.

I wish I wasn't freaking out. I wish we had made better choices leading up to this not entirely unsurprising development. I really, really hope that I can make this work out and that this isn't a huge period of regret.

Hugs rae.  
There is no shame in unbending enough to enjoy your life rather than living in constant fear of the worst case.  You’ve been doing your best and it will be enough 

[wvugurl26]

Is there a park or something you could go to pink? That won't take up all the time but maybe just sitting or taking a walk would help.

It's been a really hard year. It's no excuse to be mean to your partner but it seems like Mister is just in a bad spot and angry at the world. Regulating emotions takes work.

As azucena suggested all you can do is focus on you. I'm sure I have been less than kind to DH at points this year. I try but sometimes I'm just angry and over it all.

[swamp]

My dumb dog rolled in something dead.  2 baths later she still stinks. 

[NomoreDramaQ1015]

Sept 28, 2023 16:58:50 GMT -5 swamp said:

My dumb dog rolled in something dead.  2 baths later she still stinks. 

PetSmart sells deodorizing spray. I forgot the brands. We got some when Midnight and Sabah rolled in dead garter snake.

[giramomma]

Sept 28, 2023 15:58:45 GMT -5 weltz said:

I was so looking forward to swimming today, but left after 15 minutes...too cold. It was like swimming in Lake Baikal in Siberia.  My old bones can't take it, and my muscles start cramping up. I won't be going back until they fix it. Even the showers were either scalding or freezing.

I'm sorry. I can imagine you might be disappointed.

[NomoreDramaQ1015]

I bought a soap at the CB Farmers Market called Unicorn Farts.

Good marketing they had my attention.

It's psychedelic tie dye and smells like strawberry.

I'm giving it to Abby she'll love it.

[giramomma]

I just have to get through the next 25 hours.

And then I am gloriously responsible for three older children who want nothing to do with me. I am going to have to get some work done over the weekend.

I even get the whole bed to myself for two nights.

25 hours folks. I cannot wait.

[daisylu]

Garage looked at DD's car. As I suspected, shifting cable broke. Part only available through dealers and hard to find with strike. He did locate 1, but likely won't have it until the end of next week.

DD was confident on phone, but I could tell by the end that she was going to cry when we hung up. She lives about 5 minutes from work and can take a cab or Uber, which I reminded her.

I will pay for the repair and she will pay me back from her next 3 paychecks. And her inspection died 4/2022. 😡

[andi9899]

Sept 28, 2023 16:11:36 GMT -5 minnesotapaintlady said:

Sept 28, 2023 15:52:39 GMT -5 andi9899 said:

I went to look at the house by my parent's and it is rented. I found another one that I'm driving by tonight. It's a single family house. It's $200/month cheaper than the townhouse. However, I'd be responsible for the yard, so is it really cheaper by the time I hire a lawn service?

The house is in a better area and is a true month to month lease. The townhouse would charge $2K to break the lease if I found a house a year or two from now if I wasn't at the end of my lease.

The house has a garage, shed, bonus office in addition to the 3 BR. The townhouse doesn't have any of those things. The townhouse has an extra bathroom, but both are upstairs, so my mom couldn't use the bathroom at my house. Also no dishwasher at the house.

What do y'all think? I'm kinda torn.

ETA: Because of the zip code, my car insurance would go down a little bit. Not a lot, but a little bit.

Do you have to hire a lawn service?  Just mow it yourself.  I'm assuming it's not real big if in town.

I've never pushed a lawnmower in my life. I wouldn't even know what to do, nor would I want to learn.

[Pink Cashmere]

Sept 28, 2023 15:36:45 GMT -5 countrygirl2 said:

My relations between husbands and wives, loved ones before marrying, or just living together is harder than hell.

Sometimes I wonder how any of us stay together. I had 13 years of bad issues with hubs and his drinking. It was hell, but I felt at that time I had no choice, with a son sick all the time and a DD with all her issues. Somehow we stuck it out and he changed. Now I was not the easiest person to deal with either and I still have my moments. I wish I had an easy answer for folks but I don't. I guess we just like being together and married more than we like being apart, but there are days.

But I try to show him I love him each day and yep, really hard some days, but it helps. If nothing else I wear him down, LOL! I go by, ruffle his hair, give him a kiss. Catch him walking across the room and grab and hug him. I am the more demonstrative one, him not so much. But even if he doesn't act it, I know he likes it. might not works for others but does for us.

Like yesterday I bought him some nuts to eat and some chocolate the other day. And today got him some small turnovers.  Just little things to show him I care. 

And yes, it’s the responsibility of each of us to try and make our home a pleasant place to live. So I understand what you are saying. Each has to want it to work.

I think that is something that can make a very big difference. We don’t have children together, which can be a valid reason for most people to hang in there and try to make things work. We have been together for several years, just because we wanted to be together. We don’t “need” each other for financial reasons, even though our combined income makes life a lot easier, and I admit that his income being a lot more than mine certainly makes my life a lot easier. But that’s not why I’m with him. His income was much less than mine when we first got serious, so in my mind, it’s clear that it’s never been about money for me. And even with how the tables have turned over the years, with his income being a lot more than mine now, I still handle myself in a way so that I know I can be okay on my own.

We also don’t have little people to consider, as far as them being better off with us being motivated to work out our shit because we have children, to provide a stable, healthy home for them. Kiddo is the only minor child, and Mister would continue to provide for him and be a good Dad even if I wasn’t around anymore, and Kiddo would still have his Mom as a mother figure. I’m not saying I wouldn’t be interested in still being a part of Kiddo’s life whether Mister and I are together or not, I’m just saying that it’s not like he would lose his only mother figure if Mister and I ended our relationship and it ended up that I couldn’t spend time with Kiddo anymore. Which I seriously doubt his Mom would allow, since she still tries to pretend I don’t exist and refuses to even let me do simple things like pick Kiddo up when Mister legit can’t be on time because he’s running late at work, but that kind of shit is on her, and not me. Because I’m willing to do whatever I can do to help them parent Kiddo, even when it means me running around to help out with logistics of getting him where he needs to be when he needs to be there, if Mister can’t do it.

She is silly enough that she still doesn’t see me as a potential ally and someone willing to be part of her son’s village. If I am persona non grata now, I know it will definitely be set in stone if Mister and I aren’t actually together anymore, regardless of the relationship I have with Kiddo. Because if we break up, that will be her chance to try to get Mister to be with her, and for them to be a family, raising their son together. I am 100% positive that if I wasn’t “in the way”, she would really try to make that happen, because she’s tried to make it happen while I’ve been with Mister, and I know that she still hasn’t given up on it. And I am 100% positive that that would be a big NOPE for Mister, period, lol.

That will NEVER happen, them being together, whether I’m with Mister or not. And I probably shouldn’t laugh about her still thinking that is a possibility, but I can’t help it because she is so silly.

Kiddo is more than a handful, but I do love him. But at the end of the day, he’s not my biological child, and he has both biological parents in his life, so my love for him is not enough to motivate me to stay with Mister regardless of what our relationship is like. Mister’s daughters don’t like me anyway, so they are definitely not motivation to try to stay in Mister’s life, to keep having a relationship with them. So it all boils down to the only reason for Mister and I to stay together, is still, just because that’s what we both want. 

[busymom]

Sept 28, 2023 15:52:39 GMT -5 andi9899 said:

I went to look at the house by my parent's and it is rented. I found another one that I'm driving by tonight. It's a single family house. It's $200/month cheaper than the townhouse. However, I'd be responsible for the yard, so is it really cheaper by the time I hire a lawn service?

The house is in a better area and is a true month to month lease. The townhouse would charge $2K to break the lease if I found a house a year or two from now if I wasn't at the end of my lease.

The house has a garage, shed, bonus office in addition to the 3 BR. The townhouse doesn't have any of those things. The townhouse has an extra bathroom, but both are upstairs, so my mom couldn't use the bathroom at my house. Also no dishwasher at the house.

What do y'all think? I'm kinda torn.

ETA: Because of the zip code, my car insurance would go down a little bit. Not a lot, but a little bit.

   I'd take the house, and do the mowing myself.  Mowing isn't all that bad, unless the lawn is huge.  JMHO.  When house shopping, the right house has NEVER popped up at the "perfect" time for us, so I'd take the month to month deal.

[swamp]

Sept 28, 2023 17:23:20 GMT -5 NomoreDramaQ1015 said:

Sept 28, 2023 16:58:50 GMT -5 swamp said:

My dumb dog rolled in something dead.  2 baths later she still stinks. 

PetSmart sells deodorizing spray. I forgot the brands. We got some when Midnight and Sabah rolled in dead garter snake.

Tractor supply has a “stop the stink” shampoo.  Now she smells like floral dead fish. 

[countrygirl2]

Hubs is always telling me when I fix him kielbasa and cabbage put everything in it, so tonight I did, LOL!

I put in the usual kielbasa, cabbage, then chopped up carrots, hatch peppers, bell peppers, leeks, corn, celery, and mushrooms. It smells really good, I need to taste some of it.

I had one crunchy taco, DD had a chicken soft taco, and chips. We talked about eating out when we went to the city, but hubs wasn't hungry and I just wanted a little bit of something to eat, so we didn't.

I have a chicken breast I can bake with a vinegarette dressing, I bought some raspberry today. Also bought fresh green beans, I need to break them and start them cooking, just thawed out some bacon to season them with and some tiny potatoes.

I have been wanting soup beans for awhile with cornbread, but I need a good ham bone to make them taste good, haven't seen a small enough one for awhile.

[Peace77]

Sept 28, 2023 16:47:13 GMT -5 Pink Cashmere said:

Sept 28, 2023 12:39:55 GMT -5 andi9899 said:

Can you spend a fee days in a hotel? I don't think you should have to, but you need to get away from what is stressing you. When you get stressed your body rebels against you and you can't afford to miss work with health issues. Just an idea.

Unfortunately, my money is really funny because all the work I missed got me wayyy off track. I can’t afford a few days at a hotel, and I’m not about to ask him for a dime.

Ironically, out of all the situations I’ve talked about here over the last few years, where one poster or a few suggested I go stay at a hotel for a couple of days, this is the one time that I think I really would if I could. 

So I’ve just decided to focus on me and my own issues, and keep that as my priority for now. There is nothing I can do to help him, and he doesn’t want my help anyway, so focusing on me is all there is to do anyway.

In my reading about partners pushing away their spouse or SO when they are grieving, it seems like it’s not uncommon for the relationship or marriage to end, often because that’s what the grieving partner says they want. So I guess I need to prepare myself for that possibility too, which is even more reason for me to focus on myself right now.

So I will continue with my efforts to try to soothe myself in the ways I remember I use to, and whatever new ways I discover, that feel right to me. For the first time since we moved here, I don’t want to even be at home anymore, so I will figure that out too. Right now I don’t have money to take myself out to dinner or whatever, or meet family and friends for dinner and/or drinks, so I’ll have to get creative on where to go and what to do until I can afford to do stuff like that.

The library is free.   They often close early on Friday but otherwise are a great place to hang out.

[minnesotapaintlady]

Sept 28, 2023 17:37:19 GMT -5 andi9899 said:

Sept 28, 2023 16:11:36 GMT -5 minnesotapaintlady said:

Do you have to hire a lawn service?  Just mow it yourself.  I'm assuming it's not real big if in town.

I've never pushed a lawnmower in my life. I wouldn't even know what to do, nor would I want to learn.

Its really not much more complicated than vacuuming.

[giramomma]

Sept 28, 2023 17:48:39 GMT -5 countrygirl2 said:

Hubs is always telling me when I fix him kielbasa and cabbage put everything in it, so tonight I did, LOL!

I put in the usual kielbasa, cabbage, then chopped up carrots, hatch peppers, bell peppers, leeks, corn, celery, and mushrooms. It smells really good, I need to taste some of it.

I had one crunchy taco, DD had a chicken soft taco, and chips. We talked about eating out when we went to the city, but hubs wasn't hungry and I just wanted a little bit of something to eat, so we didn't.

I have a chicken breast I can bake with a vinegarette dressing, I bought some raspberry today. Also bought fresh green beans, I need to break them and start them cooking, just thawed out some bacon to season them with and some tiny potatoes.

I have been wanting soup beans for awhile with cornbread, but I need a good ham bone to make them taste good, haven't seen a small enough one for awhile.

Man. I haven't had kilbasa in a long time. That sounds yummy,