what are you doing right now?

[weltz]

I'm going to the pool at 15h00.  When I get back, I'll make a big pot of cream of mushroom soup, with enoki and brown mushrooms. My neighbour who is undergoing chemo said it's the best soup he's ever eaten, and one of the few things he can keep down.

I have a big spider living outside my living room window.  She's been there for about 2 weeks, busy, busy, busy spinning and repairing her web, and hasn't caught a damn thing.  I feel bad for her. I wonder if spiders like soup?

[CCL]

NomoreDramaQ1015 GU may surprise you. I've had family members literally on their death-beds who were able to respond to questions (weak, but they were heard).

Good luck. 

[raeoflyte]

The job stuff is finally coming to a head. Boss told his boss he's leaving so he'll be out probably today, maybe Monday if he's lucky. Grandboss said he'd try to keep me on through next week which would give me a little more time on benefits. daisy's post reminded me I never rescheduled my mammogram so fingers crossed I can do that in October on my current insurance.

I wish I wasn't freaking out. I wish we had made better choices leading up to this not entirely unsurprising development. I really, really hope that I can make this work out and that this isn't a huge period of regret.

[gs11rmb]

NomoreDramaQ1015 I hope you take what I'm about to say with all the kindness that is meant because I truly believe you are trying to do the best you can for your grandma and great uncle.

When I read your posts I get the impression that GU is extremely frail both physically and mentally and that you and your dad are trying to pressure him to sign a will.  I KNOW that you are trying to do that to not mess up your grandma's Medicaid but to an outsider it could look like you're doing so in order to inherit his money.  After the debacle with your dad and grandma, which could have had serious legal consequences, I think you need to proceed with caution.  If a social worker or nurse feels uncomfortable and reports the situation then you could be in a very difficult situation.

Whatever you decide to do, I hope you also try to take care of yourself because I think we can all feel the stress radiating from your posts.

[Pink Cashmere]

Sept 27, 2023 23:49:17 GMT -5 countrygirl2 said:

I'm sorry Pink, but you two are starting to sound like 2 kids spiteing each other and that is not going to end well.  

I mean don't take this wrong, but how is not cooking and letting your kitchen get dirty helping?? I know you have issues with your stomach and the situation.  And I have done some stuff like that in the past and it just makes things worse. I decided to just not do it anymore no matter how aggravated I get. It will than smooth itself out in time.

Kindness always works even when you don't feel like being kind.

I would even give hubs a hug and kiss and cook his favorite food, that always helped.  There is a reason we have been married 55 years.  Sometimes I give when I don't want to, but it works out in the end.  

Well, that is why I was so eager to see my therapist, because I don’t know how to be nice to people when I feel like they are mistreating me. I think I’ve already said that. Maybe you are a better person than me, because I can’t do it. And he doesn’t want a hug and kiss from me, he acts like he doesn’t want me here. I’ve already said that too. 

I understand him not wanting to be bothered, and I’m cool with giving him space to deal with his grief. I don’t think grieving gives him an excuse to treat me like I’m his enemy though. I’m going through shit myself, not nearly the kind of shit he’s going through, but still. When I was willing to put my shit aside and trying to be nice and helpful, he was snapping at me and I couldn’t do anything right. I let it slide for a minute, until he really passed me off.

I am being as nice as I can now, by ignoring how he keeps offending me. I was looking forward to getting guidance from my therapist on how to handle that part with love and compassion instead of responding the anger I feel, like I want to, when he does it. Things like that are what therapy is for, right? What else am I supposed to do?

The kitchen, I’ve been saying I feel like crap physically in various ways, for a few weeks now, and I’m exhausted because I can’t sleep. Tuesday, when he came home early from work, I left the house so he could have a few hours home alone, even though I didn’t feel good then either, and had stuff I needed to be doing at home, like cleaning. When I got back home, after doing all that walking with DS, I didn’t feel like doing it. I was worried about making sure I could go to work yesterday, so I just rested, hoping I would feel better. Yesterday when I got home from work, he was playing his video game. My feet were hurting, my hips were hurting, and I still didn’t feel good, so I sat on my butt instead of cleaning the kitchen. When I feel like crap, most of my focus and what energy I do have, goes toward trying to be able to work. 

I didn’t really expect that he would’ve cleaned the kitchen, he stopped doing stuff around the house last year. But it would’ve been nice if he had.

[azucena]

Pink - if it helps, there have been times when DH and I have just called a truce and explicitly ignored each other in order to put on our own oxygen masks. Wasn't ideal but better than continuing to poke at each other when tensions were high.

[chiver78]

I'm feeling better this morning, the fever is down to a slight one and my head doesn't feel like it's stuck in a vise anymore. I still feel some pressure, but nothing like yesterday. I'm now sitting outside, soaking in the vitamin D and fresh air. it's high 60s and sunny. I also opened up the windows to air out the house, b/c it just smelled like a sick house. still haven't eaten anything, but I'm making a serious dent in the Gatorade stash that S dropped for me yesterday. red Gatorade FTW!

I've got a couple more Southwest questions, daisylu wvugurl26 - I cancelled my flight early this morning, and the credit is already in my bank. I never saw a boarding number when I was out of it yesterday, or this am when I cancelled. shouldn't I have by this am? also - does that fee get refunded as well?

[chiver78]

Sept 28, 2023 11:30:27 GMT -5 azucena said:

Pink - if it helps, there have been times when DH and I have just called a truce and explicitly ignored each other in order to put on our own oxygen masks. Wasn't ideal but better than continuing to poke at each other when tensions were high.

there is a lot of truth to this statement here. you can't help anyone else if you don't save yourself first. 

[andi9899]

Sept 28, 2023 10:21:59 GMT -5 lurkyloo said:

FFS.  Just got a call from the school, another department, wanting to know if I was going to file a claim and wanting to talk to me about it.  I’m afraid I wasn’t very nice.  I’m also afraid I’m not sorry about that 

Did you retain an attorney? If so, I'd advise that you will going forward only communicate with them on this matter through your attorney.

[Pink Cashmere]

Sept 28, 2023 8:23:00 GMT -5 giramomma said:

I'm sorry Pink.

It's a hard situation. My dad and I are/were pull-awayers when we are really stressed and/or upset.

Dh is still a work in progress. I think the last time, we talked he got the picture. If I don't want to talk about it, it's because having these feelings once is painful enough. I don't want to go through the feelings again by talking about it. And, if you want to make something more painful for me, I'll be 100% blunt and say things you absolutely don't want to hear, and we'll talk about things that have no resolution, except through divorce.

I think the difference is DH trusts me enough to come back around.

My mom chose not to trust my dad. And that drove so much fear based behavior/lashing out. Still does, actually.

My DH has never been my only source of filling my emotional needs. I don't think it's a bad thing, that I have other things that serve the same purpose. I had no idea DH and I had gotten as bad as we did right before I discovered his addiction because teaching was filling my emotional needs right up. DH learned to understand that I have to teach. Some days, I will be out of sorts, and I come back from teaching a different person. And he will just be like "just go teach."

I think these things are fluid. At one point, my workplace was a great source of support. Now it's not. The issue, isn't that my workplace changed. Well it is,.but the bigger issue is that I failed to change when circumstances changed.

 

That’s the thing though, I’m not trying to get him to talk. I’ve been with him long enough to understand that when stuff is really bothering him, he needs to try to deal with it by himself and he wants to talk about it, he’ll come to me. I’m okay with that, especially now.

I might ask how he’s feeling sometimes. Not throughout the day, or even every day. If he says not good, I ask do you want to talk about it, he says no. I say ok, well do you need anything, is there anything I can do for you right now? He says no and I go on about my business. Is that still me being pushy? To me, that was my way of showing him that I’m here for him, but not trying to make him talk if he didn’t want to.

Thats about the only thing I can say to him without him being an asshole. And now I don’t even want to say that.

If I said the weather is nice, that would probably be a problem too. So I don’t talk to him.

[bookkeeper]

Sept 28, 2023 11:28:14 GMT -5 Pink Cashmere said:

Sept 27, 2023 23:49:17 GMT -5 countrygirl2 said:

I'm sorry Pink, but you two are starting to sound like 2 kids spiteing each other and that is not going to end well.  

I mean don't take this wrong, but how is not cooking and letting your kitchen get dirty helping?? I know you have issues with your stomach and the situation.  And I have done some stuff like that in the past and it just makes things worse. I decided to just not do it anymore no matter how aggravated I get. It will than smooth itself out in time.

Kindness always works even when you don't feel like being kind.

I would even give hubs a hug and kiss and cook his favorite food, that always helped.  There is a reason we have been married 55 years.  Sometimes I give when I don't want to, but it works out in the end.  

Well, that is why I was so eager to see my therapist, because I don’t know how to be nice to people when I feel like they are mistreating me. I think I’ve already said that. Maybe you are a better person than me, because I can’t do it. And he doesn’t want a hug and kiss from me, he acts like he doesn’t want me here. I’ve already said that too. 

I understand him not wanting to be bothered, and I’m cool with giving him space to deal with his grief. I don’t think grieving gives him an excuse to treat me like I’m his enemy though. I’m going through shit myself, not nearly the kind of shit he’s going through, but still. When I was willing to put my shit aside and trying to be nice and helpful, he was snapping at me and I couldn’t do anything right. I let it slide for a minute, until he really passed me off.

I am being as nice as I can now, by ignoring how he keeps offending me. I was looking forward to getting guidance from my therapist on how to handle that part with love and compassion instead of responding the anger I feel, like I want to, when he does it. Things like that are what therapy is for, right? What else am I supposed to do?

The kitchen, I’ve been saying I feel like crap physically in various ways, for a few weeks now, and I’m exhausted because I can’t sleep. Tuesday, when he came home early from work, I left the house so he could have a few hours home alone, even though I didn’t feel good then either, and had stuff I needed to be doing at home, like cleaning. When I got back home, after doing all that walking with DS, I didn’t feel like doing it. I was worried about making sure I could go to work yesterday, so I just rested, hoping I would feel better. Yesterday when I got home from work, he was playing his video game. My feet were hurting, my hips were hurting, and I still didn’t feel good, so I sat on my butt instead of cleaning the kitchen. When I feel like crap, most of my focus and what energy I do have, goes toward trying to be able to work. 

I didn’t really expect that he would’ve cleaned the kitchen, he stopped doing stuff around the house last year. But it would’ve been nice if he had.

I too have gone through a period of time where my DH acted like everything I did or said pissed him off.  I had my hands full at that moment with my father's passing and his estate so I could have used some emotional support.  Instead I was berated while performing everyday tasks.  When I pushed back, DH was the victim.  It was not a healthy dynamic.

One day I just had enough.  I got out of the car and went in the house and collected my thoughts for the next few days.  I didn't talk to him and I did no chores on his behalf.  After a few days, I sat him down and informed him that I will not live with someone who acts like they don't want to be with me.  I have other places to live and I wasn't going to be made miserable in my own home.  This was not the last time I drew a line in the sand.  

Things did get better, although it took a very serious car crash for DH to pull his head out of his ass.  After his crash, he was totally dependent on me for a few months at home.  What the crisis did for me, was give me space and time to have a reset of my boundaries. He was stuck, and had to listen to what I had to say.  He also had to accept my way of doing things, because he was unable do for himself due to his own carelessness.  DH got in the habit of being nice again, because the alternative was the local nursing home.

There isn't a point to my story, other than that people can wake up to how good they have it at home.  No one should be taken for granted and treated poorly in their own home.  

[swamp]

Sept 28, 2023 10:31:34 GMT -5 NomoreDramaQ1015 said:

God I am tired.  I forgot my grandma folder at home and had a tantrum in the car.  Then I realized maybe my lizard brain was trying to tell me something.  So I am letting go on most of her crap today.  I have till next Thursday to get it all done.

I did download her current bank statements, a copy of the deposit from the sale of the house and a copy of the original check.  That's simple enough to do online.

I am so done people-ing and being responsible.  I almost punched DH because he was like "You're doing God's work honey".   Gee I don't see anyone else in this clusterf*ck doing things for free out of the goodness of their hearts.    Doing the right thing/the Lord's work is not a reward or any kind of motivation for me anymore.  

We are not sure GU can sign a will.  The nurse leans towards no but said to ask the social worker.  I gave the paperwork to my dad and said we can at least try.   All we need is a yes and a scribble.  If he cannot do even that much then so be it.  We yeet the problem 1-2 years down the road because I ain't got brain space for it at the moment.

We lose nothing if we try.  We stand to gain a lot if we succeed.

I get his frustration though.  He said he supposes it's a small victory that grandma's nursing home wouldn't get it.   Still doesn't make either of us happy to see every thing they ever owed or worked for go to the state.  

We had a long vent session about it.  We don't know what was going through their heads and we likely don't want to know.  All we can do is clean up the mess they have made.

I said at the very least grandma did save which bought her a ticket into a non-shithole nursing home.  Could she have avoided it if she had made better decisions?  Possibly but at least we aren't dealing with two GUs.  She had more common sense than he did in that regard. 

And yeah she made the dumb decision to move to Treynor based solely on cheap property taxes but at least she was in Iowa.  She could ahve stayed in freaking Kansas.  She could have moved out there with or next to GU and then we're having to drive all over the place.   At least she was here in the state that we live in and therefore went to a home close by us.

Things could be a hell of a lot worse. 

I've about had it with doing God's work, and I'm sure you are too.   If he's omnipotent, why can't the lazy ass do his own work? 

[finnime]

I really hope you can each see/talk with your therapists, Pink Cashmere, very soon.

[lurkyloo]

Sept 28, 2023 11:36:16 GMT -5 andi9899 said:

Sept 28, 2023 10:21:59 GMT -5 lurkyloo said:

FFS.  Just got a call from the school, another department, wanting to know if I was going to file a claim and wanting to talk to me about it.  I’m afraid I wasn’t very nice.  I’m also afraid I’m not sorry about that 

Did you retain an attorney? If so, I'd advise that you will going forward only communicate with them on this matter through your attorney.

Not retained yet but I absolutely refused to talk to them without a lawyer about the details.
I told them I hadn’t decided on filing a claim yet…but I’d be pretty concerned if I was them since I understood this wasn’t the first broken bone in the gym teachers class in the recent past.  Which is more than I should have said probably but worth the satisfaction.
I basically cut her off, said I wasn’t talking to her without a lawyer, and hung up on her when she tried to ask about details.
Personal injury atty preliminary discussion is set for Monday. 

[lurkyloo]

Sept 28, 2023 10:31:34 GMT -5 NomoreDramaQ1015 said:

God I am tired.  I forgot my grandma folder at home and had a tantrum in the car.  Then I realized maybe my lizard brain was trying to tell me something.  So I am letting go on most of her crap today.  I have till next Thursday to get it all done.

I did download her current bank statements, a copy of the deposit from the sale of the house and a copy of the original check.  That's simple enough to do online.

I am so done people-ing and being responsible.  I almost punched DH because he was like "You're doing God's work honey".   Gee I don't see anyone else in this clusterf*ck doing things for free out of the goodness of their hearts.    Doing the right thing/the Lord's work is not a reward or any kind of motivation for me anymore.  

We are not sure GU can sign a will.  The nurse leans towards no but said to ask the social worker.  I gave the paperwork to my dad and said we can at least try.   All we need is a yes and a scribble.  If he cannot do even that much then so be it.  We yeet the problem 1-2 years down the road because I ain't got brain space for it at the moment.

We lose nothing if we try.  We stand to gain a lot if we succeed.

I get his frustration though.  He said he supposes it's a small victory that grandma's nursing home wouldn't get it.   Still doesn't make either of us happy to see every thing they ever owed or worked for go to the state.  

We had a long vent session about it.  We don't know what was going through their heads and we likely don't want to know.  All we can do is clean up the mess they have made.

I said at the very least grandma did save which bought her a ticket into a non-shithole nursing home.  Could she have avoided it if she had made better decisions?  Possibly but at least we aren't dealing with two GUs.  She had more common sense than he did in that regard. 

And yeah she made the dumb decision to move to Treynor based solely on cheap property taxes but at least she was in Iowa.  She could ahve stayed in freaking Kansas.  She could have moved out there with or next to GU and then we're having to drive all over the place.   At least she was here in the state that we live in and therefore went to a home close by us.

Things could be a hell of a lot worse. 

Did you inform his that it is the consensus of your online friends that it is also God‘s work to shove your foot up his ass?

Shoving his own foot up his ass would be acceptable and what a loving husband would do to take something off your mental load.

[NomoreDramaQ1015]

Sept 28, 2023 11:27:14 GMT -5 gs11rmb said:

NomoreDramaQ1015 I hope you take what I'm about to say with all the kindness that is meant because I truly believe you are trying to do the best you can for your grandma and great uncle.

When I read your posts I get the impression that GU is extremely frail both physically and mentally and that you and your dad are trying to pressure him to sign a will.  I KNOW that you are trying to do that to not mess up your grandma's Medicaid but to an outsider it could look like you're doing so in order to inherit his money.  After the debacle with your dad and grandma, which could have had serious legal consequences, I think you need to proceed with caution.  If a social worker or nurse feels uncomfortable and reports the situation then you could be in a very difficult situation.

Whatever you decide to do, I hope you also try to take care of yourself because I think we can all feel the stress radiating from your posts.

If he's that frail no we aren't going through with it we'll just yeet the problem down the road till probate finally ends.

And who knows grandma may not be around by then either so it'd be whatever she owed Medicaid by that point.  Or they may rule she doesn't inherit.  Who the hell knows. 

As it stands now legally she will qualify for Medicaid sometime here in the very near future so I am to proceed as planned.

We're acting on the advice of the Medicaid lady and the lawyer who drew up GU's POA.  The Medicaid lady is very familar with all this and has been walking me through it.

They've both said talk to him about it if he says yes and agrees to sign that's it as far as legalities go.  So long as there are two witnesses who sign or a notary on hand.

Iowa can't question it, Nebraska can't, grandma's nursing home can't. 

This is what happens when girls and boys don't make sure their affairs are in order before we get to this point.

Outside of myself or my dad there is no one else we can name as heirs.  That would have been an option if we did. Unless that customer was right and GU really does have a secret twin out there somewhere. 

ETA:  My dad is going out to see him.  This started very suddenly so my dad hasn't had a chance to go see him for himself.  As with my mother he is getting daily opposing opinions. I told him go ahead and take the paperwork out with him.  I trust his judgement.  The explanation is going to be, which is true, that we need him to get his affairs in order to help grandma which is 100% true we wouldn't be doing this otherwise.  Now if he has an actual will lying around somewhere it would make things a PITA if he names grandma but at least we'd know but we haven yet to find one.

[andi9899]

Great! The plastic bar that holds the stuff on your refrigerator door just broke. As I was opening the door. A jar of pickled jalapeños fell onto the floor and broke. I didn't realize that it broke, so I picked it up and put it on a shelf in the fridge. It then collapsed and peppers and juice went everywhere! F my life! It took forever to clean up. I washed my hands like 5 times and I'm aiming to not touch my face for the rest of the day just in case.

[raeoflyte]

Sept 28, 2023 12:28:23 GMT -5 andi9899 said:

Great! The plastic bar that holds the stuff on your refrigerator door just broke. As I was opening the door. A jar of pickled jalapeños fell onto the floor and broke. I didn't realize that it broke, so I picked it up and put it on a shelf in the fridge. It then collapsed and peppers and juice went everywhere! F my life! It took forever to clean up. I washed my hands like 5 times and I'm aiming to not touch my face for the rest of the day just in case.

Oh - try to rub your hands in your hair like your washing your hair/scalp (but in dry hair). That's how I get rid of jalapeño oils on my hands.

[wvugurl26]

chiver78 the early bird fee should be refunded although it would be done separately. I've had it on a few flights they canceled and it has always been refunded in a few days without me having to do anything.

[andi9899]

Sept 28, 2023 11:28:14 GMT -5 Pink Cashmere said:

Sept 27, 2023 23:49:17 GMT -5 countrygirl2 said:

I'm sorry Pink, but you two are starting to sound like 2 kids spiteing each other and that is not going to end well.  

I mean don't take this wrong, but how is not cooking and letting your kitchen get dirty helping?? I know you have issues with your stomach and the situation.  And I have done some stuff like that in the past and it just makes things worse. I decided to just not do it anymore no matter how aggravated I get. It will than smooth itself out in time.

Kindness always works even when you don't feel like being kind.

I would even give hubs a hug and kiss and cook his favorite food, that always helped.  There is a reason we have been married 55 years.  Sometimes I give when I don't want to, but it works out in the end.  

Well, that is why I was so eager to see my therapist, because I don’t know how to be nice to people when I feel like they are mistreating me. I think I’ve already said that. Maybe you are a better person than me, because I can’t do it. And he doesn’t want a hug and kiss from me, he acts like he doesn’t want me here. I’ve already said that too. 

I understand him not wanting to be bothered, and I’m cool with giving him space to deal with his grief. I don’t think grieving gives him an excuse to treat me like I’m his enemy though. I’m going through shit myself, not nearly the kind of shit he’s going through, but still. When I was willing to put my shit aside and trying to be nice and helpful, he was snapping at me and I couldn’t do anything right. I let it slide for a minute, until he really passed me off.

I am being as nice as I can now, by ignoring how he keeps offending me. I was looking forward to getting guidance from my therapist on how to handle that part with love and compassion instead of responding the anger I feel, like I want to, when he does it. Things like that are what therapy is for, right? What else am I supposed to do?

The kitchen, I’ve been saying I feel like crap physically in various ways, for a few weeks now, and I’m exhausted because I can’t sleep. Tuesday, when he came home early from work, I left the house so he could have a few hours home alone, even though I didn’t feel good then either, and had stuff I needed to be doing at home, like cleaning. When I got back home, after doing all that walking with DS, I didn’t feel like doing it. I was worried about making sure I could go to work yesterday, so I just rested, hoping I would feel better. Yesterday when I got home from work, he was playing his video game. My feet were hurting, my hips were hurting, and I still didn’t feel good, so I sat on my butt instead of cleaning the kitchen. When I feel like crap, most of my focus and what energy I do have, goes toward trying to be able to work. 

I didn’t really expect that he would’ve cleaned the kitchen, he stopped doing stuff around the house last year. But it would’ve been nice if he had.

Can you spend a fee days in a hotel? I don't think you should have to, but you need to get away from what is stressing you. When you get stressed your body rebels against you and you can't afford to miss work with health issues. Just an idea.

[andi9899]

Sept 28, 2023 12:04:27 GMT -5 lurkyloo said:

Sept 28, 2023 10:31:34 GMT -5 NomoreDramaQ1015 said:

God I am tired.  I forgot my grandma folder at home and had a tantrum in the car.  Then I realized maybe my lizard brain was trying to tell me something.  So I am letting go on most of her crap today.  I have till next Thursday to get it all done.

I did download her current bank statements, a copy of the deposit from the sale of the house and a copy of the original check.  That's simple enough to do online.

I am so done people-ing and being responsible.  I almost punched DH because he was like "You're doing God's work honey".   Gee I don't see anyone else in this clusterf*ck doing things for free out of the goodness of their hearts.    Doing the right thing/the Lord's work is not a reward or any kind of motivation for me anymore.  

We are not sure GU can sign a will.  The nurse leans towards no but said to ask the social worker.  I gave the paperwork to my dad and said we can at least try.   All we need is a yes and a scribble.  If he cannot do even that much then so be it.  We yeet the problem 1-2 years down the road because I ain't got brain space for it at the moment.

We lose nothing if we try.  We stand to gain a lot if we succeed.

I get his frustration though.  He said he supposes it's a small victory that grandma's nursing home wouldn't get it.   Still doesn't make either of us happy to see every thing they ever owed or worked for go to the state.  

We had a long vent session about it.  We don't know what was going through their heads and we likely don't want to know.  All we can do is clean up the mess they have made.

I said at the very least grandma did save which bought her a ticket into a non-shithole nursing home.  Could she have avoided it if she had made better decisions?  Possibly but at least we aren't dealing with two GUs.  She had more common sense than he did in that regard. 

And yeah she made the dumb decision to move to Treynor based solely on cheap property taxes but at least she was in Iowa.  She could ahve stayed in freaking Kansas.  She could have moved out there with or next to GU and then we're having to drive all over the place.   At least she was here in the state that we live in and therefore went to a home close by us.

Things could be a hell of a lot worse. 

Did you inform his that it is the consensus of your online friends that it is also God‘s work to shove your foot up his ass?

Shoving his own foot up his ass would be acceptable and what a loving husband would do to take something off your mental load.

Ooh! Let me do it! I go to boxing classes and I've been working out.

[giramomma]

So. I feel bad, again.

It's work stress, bad headache on one side, teeth hurt yada yada.

I grabbed taco bell from lunch. (I know. I had bean burritos). I also wanted cinnamon twists.

The person doing orders tried to make a d*ck joke out of me ordering cinnamon twists.

And then they didn't even put them in my bag.

I'm really too old for this.

[bean29]

Sept 28, 2023 12:28:23 GMT -5 andi9899 said:

Great! The plastic bar that holds the stuff on your refrigerator door just broke. As I was opening the door. A jar of pickled jalapeños fell onto the floor and broke. I didn't realize that it broke, so I picked it up and put it on a shelf in the fridge. It then collapsed and peppers and juice went everywhere! F my life! It took forever to clean up. I washed my hands like 5 times and I'm aiming to not touch my face for the rest of the day just in case.

Oh NO!  You need a pair of those white gloves ladies wore in the 50's or 60's.  It is so hard not to touch your face.

I am so sorry that happened to you.

[andi9899]

Sept 28, 2023 12:50:50 GMT -5 giramomma said:

So. I feel bad, again.

It's work stress, bad headache on one side, teeth hurt yada yada.

I grabbed taco bell from lunch. (I know. I had bean burritos). I also wanted cinnamon twists.

The person doing orders tried to make a d*ck joke out of me ordering cinnamon twists.

And then they didn't even put them in my bag.

I'm really too old for this.

This reminded me of this. You have to read the comments! It's hilarious!

www.tiktok.com/t/ZPR7hMmXm/

[bean29]

Sept 28, 2023 12:50:50 GMT -5 giramomma said:

So. I feel bad, again.

It's work stress, bad headache on one side, teeth hurt yada yada.

I grabbed taco bell from lunch. (I know. I had bean burritos). I also wanted cinnamon twists.

The person doing orders tried to make a d*ck joke out of me ordering cinnamon twists.

And then they didn't even put them in my bag.

I'm really too old for this.

Wtf.  Call and complain.  That is F'd up.  

Do you clench your teeth when you are under stress/when you are asleep (I do both, but mostly at night).  If so, I would get one of those OTC kits to make a mouth guard for when you are sleeping.  I bought a self molding kit a few months ago and I really find it helps.  

[andi9899]

Sept 28, 2023 12:56:06 GMT -5 bean29 said:

Sept 28, 2023 12:28:23 GMT -5 andi9899 said:

Great! The plastic bar that holds the stuff on your refrigerator door just broke. As I was opening the door. A jar of pickled jalapeños fell onto the floor and broke. I didn't realize that it broke, so I picked it up and put it on a shelf in the fridge. It then collapsed and peppers and juice went everywhere! F my life! It took forever to clean up. I washed my hands like 5 times and I'm aiming to not touch my face for the rest of the day just in case.

Oh NO!  You need a pair of those white gloves ladies wore in the 50's or 60's.  It is so hard not to touch your face.

I am so sorry that happened to you.

I know! So naturally one of my eyes started to water. Luckily I didn't rub it. Hope I can get through the day without messing with it.

[NomoreDramaQ1015]

Sept 28, 2023 12:50:50 GMT -5 giramomma said:

So. I feel bad, again.

It's work stress, bad headache on one side, teeth hurt yada yada.

I grabbed taco bell from lunch. (I know. I had bean burritos). I also wanted cinnamon twists.

The person doing orders tried to make a d*ck joke out of me ordering cinnamon twists.

And then they didn't even put them in my bag.

I'm really too old for this.

WTF how old are they 12?

I'd complain that is insanely inappropriate.

[giramomma]

And also, can I be like Smaug?

I would love to frolic and roll around in gold coins.

[Works4me]

CountryGirl2 - sending positive thoughts and prayers for your DH's medical appointment today. May the physicians be kind and compassionate as they present the findings and treatment options. May there be good treatment options that give your DH both quality and quantity of life. Most of all, may all of you, your DH, you, DD, DS, DDIL and DGS, have peace, joy and love, both today and going forward.

[mollyanna58]

Sept 28, 2023 13:24:33 GMT -5 giramomma said:

And also, can I be like Smaug?

I would love to frolic and roll around in gold coins.

Theoretically nice, but probably not very comfortable in reality.  I'd like to try first hand to find out.