what are you doing right now?

[jerseygirl]

Good for Mister! Hand everything over to brother! Hoping this is start of you Pink and Mister getting to a better time

[minnesotapaintlady]

Sept 25, 2023 14:43:25 GMT -5 NastyWoman said:

Sept 25, 2023 14:30:38 GMT -5 Cookies Galore said:

She's an Eagles. Fan it's all a long con/elaborate revenge plot. 🤣

Am I supposed to understand these posts? I have no clue what the two are talking about. Due to the Eagles reference I suspect it is football related so I don't care to enlighten myself. Just let me know if I am wrong in which case I will call on Google to help me out 

Googling "Taylor Swift's latest fling" should get you what you need.

And I'm tired of it already too.

[daisylu]

Sept 25, 2023 14:43:25 GMT -5 NastyWoman said:

Sept 25, 2023 14:30:38 GMT -5 Cookies Galore said:

She's an Eagles. Fan it's all a long con/elaborate revenge plot. 🤣

Am I supposed to understand these posts? I have no clue what the two are talking about. Due to the Eagles reference I suspect it is football related so I don't care to enlighten myself. Just let me know if I am wrong in which case I will call on Google to help me out 

Taylor Swift (Eagles fan) rumored to be dating Travis Kelce (Chiefs TE), and was sitting with the family at the game yesterday.

ETA: And they left the stadium together. In a convertible with the top down, begging for attention IMO. And yeah, I am over it too.

[wvugurl26]

Sept 25, 2023 14:41:30 GMT -5 daisylu said:

Clicking notifications one by one to delete. Over 2,000 of them. Why is there no way to mass delete?

Are they email notifications? I have outlook rules set up for those and the folder periodically.

[NastyWoman]

Good thing I didn't Google any of that. I counted my toes instead (way more interesting) and discovered I still have ten 

[daisylu]

Sept 25, 2023 15:00:26 GMT -5 wvugurl26 said:

Sept 25, 2023 14:41:30 GMT -5 daisylu said:

Clicking notifications one by one to delete. Over 2,000 of them. Why is there no way to mass delete?

Are they email notifications? I have outlook rules set up for those and the folder periodically.

No, it is an inventory server. I have adjusted the allowed notifications going forward, but that red circle with a number messes with me.

[Pink Cashmere]

Sept 25, 2023 13:38:53 GMT -5 NomoreDramaQ1015 said:

Good for Mister.  Pink give him the phrase "Weaponized incompetence" and have him bring that up with his therapist.  I think he will find that conversation very enlightening and the therapist can help him with coping techniques to avoid rushing in to play the savior as he has been conditioned to do.

Because you are absolutely right that this is not the end and it's quite possibly his brother will sabotage himself on purpose hoping Mister will ride in.  It always escalates when you finally assert your boundaries to someone who is used to you being a doormat.

Mister deserves to be free and live his own life.  His family showed EXACTLY who they are.  He doesn't owe them the time of day anymore let alone what they continue to expect of him.

Mister loves his brother, but he has felt some type of way ever since his brother became dependent on their parents and got comfortable with it. His parents use to call him, to get stuff off their chest about his brother and who he had become. Mister didn’t have much patience for all of that, and just kept telling them to stop babying him because his brother is a grown ass man. Heck, his Mom called me one time for advice and we talked on the phone for a long time, talking about enabling people, something I’m very familiar with. I didn’t know at the time, that she called me because Mister told her too, after she’d called him and he didn’t want to talk about it anymore. Mister ended up buying the book Boundaries and the workbook, for his Mom, and another copy of the book for his brother, and took it all to them when we left the bookstore.

All that to say, Mister has some pretty strong opinions about what men are supposed to do. He has understanding for his brother losing his way after his divorce, because he’s been down before himself, but he also feels like a man, especially a man with a child or children, is supposed to fight to pick themselves back up, for their child(ren), if not for themself. It didn’t and doesn’t  sit well with him that his brother wasn’t even motivated by his child to get his shit together and be a better Dad, Mister had/has no empathy or sympathy for that.

So bailing out his Dad and trying to fix everything for him and keep things together, was one thing, because that was his Dad, who had provided for him as a child and was always there for Mister until he started losing it. Bailing out another grown man, including his brother, is a whole ‘nother thing. He feels like able bodied and minded men have to handle their responsibilities and not depend on anyone else…. that’s just part of being a man, period, end of story. If they suffer a setback, they need to suck it up and find a way to make a comeback. 

He feels very strongly about that kind of stuff, so it would not be wise of his brother to think Mister will save him if he sabotages himself. Mister will move heaven and earth for his children, even though the downside of that is that he has poor boundaries with them, and he was the same in some ways with his parents, and in some ways, with me. But that is because he considered all the people I just named, as his responsibilities and he takes his responsibilities as a man, and as a provider, very seriously. He doesn’t feel responsible for his brother, and doesn’t feel a need to provide for him, rightfully so. He has the same expectations of his brother, as a man, that he has for himself.

If he is really at peace with letting whatever happens with their parents’ house, happen, I honestly don’t see him revisiting all of that, just to try to save his brother. His parents’ house is what had him hung up about his Dad’s estate, not anything to do with trying to help his brother. Everything he’s done this past year, was for his parents, and never about his brother. His brother just happened to benefit from what Mister was trying to do for his parents. He said himself yesterday, that he had to take his emotions out of the equation to make what he felt was the best decision for himself.

[andi9899]

Sept 25, 2023 8:29:49 GMT -5 chiver78 said:

first bus here is 630, that's for the HS senior across the street. not sure when the others are. 

first world problem/question - do I want to spend $50 for "Early Bird Check In" for my Southwest flights next weekend? BOS-BWI on a Thursday midday, BWI-BOS on a Monday afternoon.   I can't remember the last time I flew SW, but I know I don't wanna be stuck in a middle seat. I think I just answered my own question right there. 

I flew SW last year and there weren't any seat assignments. You just boarded by group and picked the seat you wanted when you got on the plane.

[NancysSummerSip]

Sept 25, 2023 13:35:20 GMT -5 chiver78 said:

Sept 25, 2023 13:30:55 GMT -5 andi9899 said:

I swear to God if I have to hear about Travis Kelce one more time today!

for real lol....I hate hearing about the Chiefs so much. Dolphins, too.       (check their final score yesterday, if anyone missed it...)  

now I'll add another name you're probably sick of hearing lol... Bill Belichick cracked a joke during his weekly radio spot to say "I would say, Travis Kelce has had a lot of big catches in his career. This would be the biggest."  

Go 'Fins!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! That was not a game, that was a rampage!

[andi9899]

Sept 25, 2023 14:30:38 GMT -5 Cookies Galore said:

Sept 25, 2023 13:30:55 GMT -5 andi9899 said:

I swear to God if I have to hear about Travis Kelce one more time today!

She's an Eagles. Fan it's all a long con/elaborate revenge plot. 🤣

There was a girl on tik tok that made up some elaborate conspiracy theory about it. It was kinda funny.

[andi9899]

Sept 25, 2023 14:43:25 GMT -5 NastyWoman said:

Sept 25, 2023 14:30:38 GMT -5 Cookies Galore said:

She's an Eagles. Fan it's all a long con/elaborate revenge plot. 🤣

Am I supposed to understand these posts? I have no clue what the two are talking about. Due to the Eagles reference I suspect it is football related so I don't care to enlighten myself. Just let me know if I am wrong in which case I will call on Google to help me out 

Travis Kelce is a Chiefs player. Rumors have been swirling around lately that he is dating Taylor Swift. It was confirmed yesterday when she was spotted at the game yesterday sitting with his mom. The internet lost its mind and it's all everyone is talking about today.

[Pink Cashmere]

Sept 25, 2023 13:41:57 GMT -5 NastyWoman said:

Sept 25, 2023 13:08:05 GMT -5 Pink Cashmere said:

...

Mister told me yesterday that he called his brother and told him he was handing everything concerning his Dad’s estate over to him. He’d made a spreadsheet of his Dad’s bills and accounts, and how much the bills were, and sent it to his brother. He said his brother was shocked at how much it cost to pay the household bills and for the car. How, when Mister had been telling him all along?

He tried to slide it in the conversation that he’d get a checking account (whyyyyy does he not have one?) and give Mister the account info so Mister can pay the bills. Mister said no, you’re on your own, I’m trying to clear up some headspace, I’m not dealing with anything over there. I told Mister his brother’s wife must have paid all the bills when they were married, because Brother does not seem to know how to function as an adult. I knew he was “different”, in the way that very creative or geeky people can be different, and when he had money, it was like a buffer that kept him from having to live in the real world, but good grief.

Anyway, I told Mister I felt like he was doing the best thing for himself, giving it all to his brother for him to deal with. Mister has been holding everything together for over a year now, which his brother benefitted from, and it was very stressful for Mister to basically have to take over his Dad’s whole life, so it’s okay for his brother to have his turn now. Especially since it’s his brother that actually needs the house if it can be kept, for him to have somewhere to live, and because of his business space in the back. And since both parents are gone now, Mister doesn’t have to try to protect them or look out for them. The only person that will suffer if his brother doesn’t do what needs to be done and screws everything up, is his brother.

His brother tried the excuse again that everything is just so hard because he is grieving, Mister said it was hard on him to handle his parents business this whole time, but he did it. And Brother is just going to have to do it, and grieve later or something.

I am proud of him for sticking to his guns during the conversation, I just hope his resolve holds, because I know that’s not the end of it. His brother is going to try to rope him back in and get him to concern himself with all of it again. I’m willing to bet money on that. But since Mister didn’t make the decision out of anger or frustration, or on the spur of the moment, I think he may be done for real, and just ready to free himself and try to move on. 

so now I am steaming (like smoke coming out of my ears) on behalf of Mister.  So brother is grieving? Sure, I do believe that. But what does he think Mister is doing? He too lost his parents. How dare he expect Mister to put his own grief aside so he can have it easier! Brother is lucky there isn't a sister named NastyWoman in that family. I would tear him a new one ... and keep going if I heard just a single "yes but" from him   The self-centered such and so!

We can always say you are MY sister, and let you give him hell.

[chiver78]

Sept 25, 2023 15:15:21 GMT -5 andi9899 said:

Sept 25, 2023 8:29:49 GMT -5 chiver78 said:

first bus here is 630, that's for the HS senior across the street. not sure when the others are. 

first world problem/question - do I want to spend $50 for "Early Bird Check In" for my Southwest flights next weekend? BOS-BWI on a Thursday midday, BWI-BOS on a Monday afternoon.   I can't remember the last time I flew SW, but I know I don't wanna be stuck in a middle seat. I think I just answered my own question right there. 

I flew SW last year and there weren't any seat assignments. You just boarded by group and picked the seat you wanted when you got on the plane.

yup, it wasn't a seat assignment question, but how do I not get #C50 or whatever is last to board, where I get stuck in a middle seat. b/c while I'm generally pretty low maintenance, I've been ponying up for the extra legroom seats on JB where I'm usually also treated to an empty middle seat beside me. because, I hate people, and I also hate sitting down for extended periods of time. so my extra fidgety self is going to be that much more obnoxious in a "regular" seat. so it's probably in the public's best interest, as well as my AAA membership and its bail offering, that I just pay the premium and be done with it. lol... 

[minnesotapaintlady]

Sept 25, 2023 15:30:28 GMT -5 andi9899 said:

Sept 25, 2023 14:43:25 GMT -5 NastyWoman said:

Am I supposed to understand these posts? I have no clue what the two are talking about. Due to the Eagles reference I suspect it is football related so I don't care to enlighten myself. Just let me know if I am wrong in which case I will call on Google to help me out 

Travis Kelce is a Chiefs player. Rumors have been swirling around lately that he is dating Taylor Swift. It was confirmed yesterday when she was spotted at the game yesterday sitting with his mom. The internet lost its mind and it's all everyone is talking about today.

Which I don't get at all since she's kind of a revolving door when it comes to celebrity boyfriends.  I mean, that's fine, more power to her, but why is this like on the front page of CNN? 

[chiver78]

Sept 25, 2023 15:36:35 GMT -5 minnesotapaintlady said:

Sept 25, 2023 15:30:28 GMT -5 andi9899 said:

Travis Kelce is a Chiefs player. Rumors have been swirling around lately that he is dating Taylor Swift. It was confirmed yesterday when she was spotted at the game yesterday sitting with his mom. The internet lost its mind and it's all everyone is talking about today.

Which I don't get at all since she's kind of a revolving door when it comes to celebrity boyfriends.  I mean, that's fine, more power to her, but why is this like on the front page of CNN? 

b/c pop culture is breaking news these days.     

I'm with you, just pointing it out. 

[NastyWoman]

Sept 25, 2023 15:33:23 GMT -5 Pink Cashmere said:

Sept 25, 2023 13:41:57 GMT -5 NastyWoman said:

so now I am steaming (like smoke coming out of my ears) on behalf of Mister.  So brother is grieving? Sure, I do believe that. But what does he think Mister is doing? He too lost his parents. How dare he expect Mister to put his own grief aside so he can have it easier! Brother is lucky there isn't a sister named NastyWoman in that family. I would tear him a new one ... and keep going if I heard just a single "yes but" from him   The self-centered such and so!

We can always say you are MY sister, and let you give him hell.

Sure. But let's make it aunt since I am old enough to be your mom 

Added bonus: he might think I'll be easier on him with my white hair - he could not be more mistaken. I've left more than my share of macho men quaking in their boots

[Pink Cashmere]

Sept 25, 2023 14:20:14 GMT -5 andi9899 said:

Sept 24, 2023 18:50:33 GMT -5 Pink Cashmere said:

I can imagine that she was shocked when she found the pills.

But it’s not much different from how Mr. Messy use to get mad at Mister for trying to make him take the prescribed meds for his heart condition, the blood clot in his lungs, and his high blood pressure. Never mind the meds for diabetes, and Mister trying to feed him heart healthy foods and food that wouldn’t make his diabetes worse.

And it didn’t matter at all when Mister would tell Mr. Messy that it was not fair to him for Mr. Messy to not take the meds and risk ending up in even worse shape, with even more serious health issues that he assumed Mister would take care of him with. 

Mr. Messy didn’t care. He didn’t want to take his meds and he wanted to eat whatever he wanted to eat, period. And regardless of the consequences. And even if that meant an immediate consequence was that he shit on himself and made a mess for Mister to clean up. 

I hope and pray that I am not EVER that selfish and uncaring with my own children.

I am not saying your friend’s Dad is totally like Mr. Messy either, I’m just saying that there are similarities in them not taking their meds properly and there being consequences due to that.

This is my grandma. She does what she wants and lets others deal with the fallout. She's diabetic, but her diet mainly consists of sweets. She just takes a hit of her insulin and eats whatever she wants. She takes her pills and goes to her doctor's appointments, but she still does mostly what she wants. She's also lactose intolerant but has a milkshake every day and then someone else can clean the shit.

Same with refusing to sell her house. She just lets her kids take turns staying the night with her instead of moving in with one of them. She has two of them ready to move her in at any time, but she won't do it.

I have always been fond of “old people”. Maybe because for the first 7 years of my life, my Mom and I lived with my great grandmother, and she was alive until I was in my mid 20’s. Then I was around my Grandmother a lot as a child, and was often with her when she socialized with other people her age. So I was use to being around elders, and actually enjoyed spending time with them and talking to them.

I didn’t even mind the cranky ones, I felt like if a person had taken care of their responsibilities and been a good person their whole life, at some point, they got to say what exactly what was on their mind and be a bit grumpy sometimes if that’s how they felt. But what I mean by cranky and grumpy does not include being mean or an asshole. 

But now I am seeing the other side and learning that they can be “more than a notion” (my Grandmother use to say that) to deal with sometimes.

[andi9899]

Sept 25, 2023 15:33:23 GMT -5 Pink Cashmere said:

Sept 25, 2023 13:41:57 GMT -5 NastyWoman said:

so now I am steaming (like smoke coming out of my ears) on behalf of Mister.  So brother is grieving? Sure, I do believe that. But what does he think Mister is doing? He too lost his parents. How dare he expect Mister to put his own grief aside so he can have it easier! Brother is lucky there isn't a sister named NastyWoman in that family. I would tear him a new one ... and keep going if I heard just a single "yes but" from him   The self-centered such and so!

We can always say you are MY sister, and let you give him hell.

Ooh! Me too!

[chiver78]

Sept 25, 2023 15:49:52 GMT -5 Pink Cashmere said:

Sept 25, 2023 14:20:14 GMT -5 andi9899 said:

This is my grandma. She does what she wants and lets others deal with the fallout. She's diabetic, but her diet mainly consists of sweets. She just takes a hit of her insulin and eats whatever she wants. She takes her pills and goes to her doctor's appointments, but she still does mostly what she wants. She's also lactose intolerant but has a milkshake every day and then someone else can clean the shit.

Same with refusing to sell her house. She just lets her kids take turns staying the night with her instead of moving in with one of them. She has two of them ready to move her in at any time, but she won't do it.

I have always been fond of “old people”. Maybe because for the first 7 years of my life, my Mom and I lived with my great grandmother, and she was alive until I was in my mid 20’s. Then I was around my Grandmother a lot as a child, and was often with her when she socialized with other people her age. So I was use to being around elders, and actually enjoyed spending time with them and talking to them.

I didn’t even mind the cranky ones, I felt like if a person had taken care of their responsibilities and been a good person their whole life, at some point, they got to say what exactly what was on their mind and be a bit grumpy sometimes if that’s how they felt. But what I mean by cranky and grumpy does not include being mean or an asshole. 

But now I am seeing the other side and learning that they can be “more than a notion” (my Grandmother use to say that) to deal with sometimes.

whoo...... I have very similar feelings about my Nana! 

[Pink Cashmere]

Sept 25, 2023 15:38:21 GMT -5 NastyWoman said:

Sept 25, 2023 15:33:23 GMT -5 Pink Cashmere said:

We can always say you are MY sister, and let you give him hell.

Sure. But let's make it aunt since I am old enough to be your mom 

Added bonus: he might think I'll be easier on him with my white hair - he could not be more mistaken. I've left more than my share of macho men quaking in their boots

As you wish, Aunt it is.

Ime, a smart person is not fooled by sliver or white hair. Where I’m from, women that are seasoned enough to have a head of white hair, are to be respected, and not trifled with. Because they can be the sweetest, most loving person ever, but they will also set you straight in no uncertain terms if you get out of line and say or do something stupid. Those women hold a special place as family members and members of our communities.

[andi9899]

Sept 25, 2023 15:36:35 GMT -5 minnesotapaintlady said:

Sept 25, 2023 15:30:28 GMT -5 andi9899 said:

Travis Kelce is a Chiefs player. Rumors have been swirling around lately that he is dating Taylor Swift. It was confirmed yesterday when she was spotted at the game yesterday sitting with his mom. The internet lost its mind and it's all everyone is talking about today.

Which I don't get at all since she's kind of a revolving door when it comes to celebrity boyfriends.  I mean, that's fine, more power to her, but why is this like on the front page of CNN? 

I think there are a few reasons. Here it's because he's one of our football players.


Elsewhere I think it's because they are so not each others type. Look at Jon Mayer or whatever Jonus brother she dated and then compare them to Travis Kelce. Not even just looks wise. Kelce has serious charisma (or "rizz" as the kids call it). Kelce also usually dates black women which Taylor is most definitely not. His last GF was a fitness model, so also a very different lifestyle that what Taylor lives.

I think also the way he went about it was interesting and made for a bigger story. Also the fact that they both are celebrities who both played at Arrowhead stadium has a bunch of people taking note.

I'm just kinda tired of hearing about it. I know since the rumors have been confirmed, it's all over the place. I'm just ready for it to die down.

ETA: A lot of us are also waiting on the breakup album.

[Cookies Galore]

Sept 25, 2023 15:27:40 GMT -5 andi9899 said:

Sept 25, 2023 14:30:38 GMT -5 Cookies Galore said:

She's an Eagles. Fan it's all a long con/elaborate revenge plot. 🤣

There was a girl on tik tok that made up some elaborate conspiracy theory about it. It was kinda funny.

lol, yeah. It was funny. A little long and kind of nuts, but points for creativity!

[Pink Cashmere]

Sept 25, 2023 15:59:39 GMT -5 andi9899 said:

Sept 25, 2023 15:33:23 GMT -5 Pink Cashmere said:

We can always say you are MY sister, and let you give him hell.

Ooh! Me too!

You can be my sister too, but I kinda feel like you and I together might be a bit much and could potentially get into a lot of trouble without someone else to rein us in.

A feisty peer that also likes to fight, is very different energy than an elder setting somebody straight lol. Because Imma fight too, if it comes to that, but an elder handling a situation, Imma let them handle it and just say yes ma’am as needed.

If we lived close enough to run together, we would most definitely need some lawyer friends on speed dial. I don’t think the world is ready for us to be a team IRL.

[saveinla]

Sept 25, 2023 11:07:20 GMT -5 NancysSummerSip said:

Alternating between heat and ice on the leg, taking extra C, zinc and magnesium, and drinking green tea. It is getting better, though sleep was somewhat elusive last night, trying to find a comfortable position.

Missed the news about your injury. Hope you feel better soon.

[TheOtherMe]

Sept 25, 2023 10:31:54 GMT -5 jerseygirl said:

Sept 25, 2023 10:28:39 GMT -5 TheOtherMe said:

My Covid seems to be worse today.  I hope it's a blip in recovery.  I have a fever again and the coughing is worse.  

I have a feeling today will end up being wasted.

Sorry it’s lasting so long and making you miserable. How long did you take paclovid?

Never took it.  

[TheOtherMe]

Sept 25, 2023 13:26:12 GMT -5 finnime said:

I'm sorry you're under the weather again, TheOtherMe .

It's not again.  It's still Covid.  Day 17 or 18.  Today I feel worse than yesterday and I don't like that.  So I slept.

[lurkyloo]

Lurky   NastyWoman.  WTF Mister’s brother.

[Opti]

Sept 25, 2023 16:47:26 GMT -5 TheOtherMe said:

Sept 25, 2023 13:26:12 GMT -5 finnime said:

I'm sorry you're under the weather again, TheOtherMe .

It's not again.  It's still Covid.  Day 17 or 18.  Today I feel worse than yesterday and I don't like that.  So I slept.

Not good. Has it improved at all from week one? Have you seen a doctor about it in the last two weeks?

[bookkeeper]

Sept 25, 2023 12:43:33 GMT -5 giramomma said:

I'm working on digesting lunch and digesting the fact that all the moms I saw at lunch today looked the same (down to the same blond hair dye job on the same length hair, parted the same way. I wish I were kidding).

I've started casually talking to DH about being done when the peanut gets through 8th grade.

Usually it's when the Bishop does something questionable, and we hold our breaths about how that gets funneled down to the kids.

So far, it's been fine.

And the church is not what it was 15 years ago, and I am not the same person I was 15 years ago.

I know when we leave there will be someone else there just to fill our spot.

And I'm still not inclined to keep spending money in an area that I increasingly don''t agree with/

We saw this in school moms too when our kids were younger.  We called it "the uniform". Right down to the rhinestones on the back pockets of their blue jeans.  Their topics of conversation always seemed to be the same as well.

One day I was at a football game and sat on the top bleacher.  All those school moms needed an inch of their hair color touched up.  Modern problems.

[lurkyloo]

I like Taylor Swift’s music but I just don’t get all the hype.     To each their own.

DS was off today (and getting him exercise has been both super necessary and really hard with his favorites all off the table.). So I drove him over to a shopping area with a nice level paved trail around a lake.  It was a nice day    Lunch at an Asian noodle place, to indulge his taste for ramen, stopped at Barnes & Noble and Target, followed up with a trip to Ikea bc he absolutely loves running around that place.  I think it might actually have been cheaper to pay a babysitter than go to Ikea  but it was a fun day and good bonding time.

Talked to the advocate-style lawyer today, who pointed me at the appropriate complaint form that I will fill out tonight.  The personal injury lawyers office called and we set up a time to talk…not sure if that’s quite necessary since again not really motivated by money.  I did email the principal stating that we wanted a second adult present whenever DS is in that class. Haven’t heard back yet.

Oh, and check from tax loss harvest/divesting obnoxious mutual fund arrived safely and is deposited.  Good if accidental timing on that; I cashed it in a little over a week ago, right before the market went down like 5% and now I get to buy stocks on sale.