what are you doing right now?

[giramomma]

Work is done for the day. I almost made my lunches. I made a bean salad, and I need to cut up a pepper. Then it is done.

I have been picking away at our dining table, you can see 1/4 of it.

It is apparently also going to be a baking day.

[finnime]

It started to drizzle then out and out rain while we were walking this morning. So, of course, I took DD out for doughnuts, then to run an errand. Planning on chicken piccata for supper with rice and stir-fried broccoli with carrots and onion. Food becomes an obsession during a string of rainy days.

Also tinkering with my website. Did you know that two horizontal short lines indicate a menu on a mobile interface? I did not, but now I do. That is the default for the mobile version of the site. I'm going to assume everyone knows that but me and DH and leave it alone.

Sigh.

Still need to do laundry and go through clothes to put up and put away. Summer's time has gone.

[cooper88]

Even though we are having a hot weekend, summer is definitely over. I just pulled my squash and zucchini plants.

[countrygirl2]

It was 81 here up into the night, our AC is back on.  I'm closing the windows anyway till the harvest is over. The air all around here is full of dirt and dust. Behind the combines doing soy beans is nothing but a huge cloud. Southern western Indiana

I watered my mums yesterday, they are starting to bloom and its going to be a big mass of yellow and wine. I cleared out the back side and planted it full of mums. Hubs said the shorter ones should be in front. They will be fine, they will get as big as the rest by next year.  I'm not doing any seasonal flowers in the planter anymore, just mums, will save me a lot of work.

Today washing clothes and linens, seems like all I ever do. I need to run over to the house and blow off the sidewalks and rake a bit. It's 1 PM already. I was awake earlier but lay in bed with Smokey, he was purring and chirping, till he fell asleep curled up in my arm. Love that little kitty.

Tonight deep fried shrimp and home made french fries. Should fix a salad too.

Hubs is still grumpy.

Our tenant is trying to get us to sell the mobile to him than some of the land to keep it there. This from a guy that saves no money and says he doesn't need much to live on. He buys old rusted out junk cars, put a new motor in one and could never get it running right. He has spent enough on stuff like that to have a decent one. Of course he will want to buy on payments. 

The problem is if we cut the backside off the property would likely lower the price for it $40k or so and its not been surveyed in years. We would likely end up giving it to him and I told hubs no. I feel a bit for him, but no not doing it. Now he is appealing to hubs saying he wishes I would change my mind!! I told hubs why me, we both agree on this. It has a driveway from one road to the next and if its cut in two he could not pull his semi in without driving out the other side on someone elses property. No, we have tried helping people before and I'm through. We told him we will give him 3 months to move when we get ready to sell it.  I'm just through with renters. Hubs is talking about renting out the mobile, I told him forget it. Either use it for our storage or sell it. It's dirty but the guy left it in good shape, let's clean it up and leave it empty.  It's just a problem finding decent tenants for it. And hubs is getting really sloppy in doing repairs and painting, so its time to quit.

[NomoreDramaQ1015]

Cleaning stuff out of great grandma's house again.

Holy fucking afghans Batman. I didn't even come close to getting it all last time.

I know what everyone and my neighbors are getting for Christmas!

[NancysSummerSip]

Alternating between heat and ice on my sore leg, post-race. Ouch.

Of course I mowed the back yard (because I had to), ran the dishwasher and now a load of laundry.

[NomoreDramaQ1015]

Found a vintage stand mixer. It isn't kitchen aid it's Hamilton.

But it works we checked before I took it.

I'm going to offer it to Gwen first it's a workhorse and I'll clean it up.

She dies want it I'll donate it someone will be thrilled with the find.

[NomoreDramaQ1015]

Found a vintage stand mixer. It isn't kitchen aid it's Hamilton.

But it works we checked before I took it.

I'm going to offer it to Gwen first it's a workhorse and I'll clean it up. This is way more powerful than her current cheap one.

She doesn't want it I'll donate it someone will be thrilled with the find.

[giramomma]

Willing myself to take the missy to the park. I don't want to.

[The Walk of the Penguin Mich]

Sept 24, 2023 8:17:33 GMT -5 NomoreDramaQ1015 said:

I am tired. DH was arguing with himself all night.

He'd stop and I would fall back asleep. Then He'd go again. I was going to smother him with my pillow.

Hope whatever the disagreement was about was worth it and he better have won.

Freezer space still available.

[Knee Deep in Water Chloe]

Just worked for 3 hours.
Having an existential meltdown.
I’m feeling incredibly micromanaged at work.
I’m taking everything in a negative way.
Not sure how to move back to a place of equanimity.

Just needed to get that out. Thanks for listening.

I’m going to force myself to go on my recumbent bike and watch Ugly Betty.

[Knee Deep in Water Chloe]

Sept 24, 2023 11:48:25 GMT -5 cooper88 said:

Even though we are having a hot weekend, summer is definitely over. I just pulled my squash and zucchini plants.

I should do this. DH keeps telling me to do this.
I feel guilty doing this. I should do this.

[Knee Deep in Water Chloe]

Sept 23, 2023 23:28:55 GMT -5 giramomma said:

Well, I'm up.

DD1's gentleman caller called.

Well, more like he pounded on our door at 10:30 this evening to ask her to homecoming.

We were alerted as DS came into our room right as we were falling asleep and said there's someone at the door, and he's all freaking out.

<sigh>

ETA: and the darn hot flashes. DH rolled over and put his arm around me. I told him to take it off, lest I chew it off.

AT 10:30 PM???
Well, then the answer is
NO

[Knee Deep in Water Chloe]

Sept 24, 2023 13:29:20 GMT -5 The Walk of the Penguin Mich said:

Sept 24, 2023 8:17:33 GMT -5 NomoreDramaQ1015 said:

I am tired. DH was arguing with himself all night.

He'd stop and I would fall back asleep. Then He'd go again. I was going to smother him with my pillow.

Hope whatever the disagreement was about was worth it and he better have won.

Freezer space still available.

Yes, but which portion goes? The winner side or the losing side??? (I crack myself up)

[The Walk of the Penguin Mich]

We went out to breakfast this morning while DS was at church.  We took Harriet along because…..car ride.  I thought we’d be back before she got home from church.  

Instead, she did a quick panic thinking something happened to Harriet, especially since we took her for a tooth cleaning Friday, and while she was sedated, the vet removed a growth under her chin.  

Nope, just wanted to give the mutt at a chance of her favorite activity since last spring.  She also got the last of my sausage from breakfast.

[taz157]

While DD2 naps, what should I be doing?  Side job #2.

While DD2 naps, what am I actually doing?  Cleaning my desk.

Neither activity is very fun but side job #2 does pay me some income.  I'm just not feeling it for right now.  I didn't do side job #2 yesterday either because I really wanted to read.  I did finish my book this morning though. With not doing side job #2 this week (if I don't when DD2 goes to bed tonight), then I have a few late nights ahead of me when DD2 goes to bed.

Cleaning my desk really needed to happen as it was as it's slowly causing me to go insane!  My desk area is the dumping ground for a whole bunch of stuff and it doesn't make it easy to work sometimes.  I had off on Friday and I almost cleaned my desk this.  Instead, I took DD1 to the local fair.  I'd rather go to the fair with DD1!  

It's been raining all weekend so we are limited to inside activities as it is.  Time to get back to cleaning my desk after I pay bills. 

[daisylu]

I now have 2 very clean bathrooms in the house. My life is so exciting.

[The Walk of the Penguin Mich]

TD just tossed a pork butt into the smoker.  We are going to be eating pork all week.  Now to figure how to repurpose it!

[daisylu]

Experimenting with a new gummie. Going pretty well so far. 😉

[countrygirl2]

I can tell a difference with no ozempic. I am back to the hypoglycemic problem. I am eating like every couple of hours. Had 2 boiled eggs and just ate a can of pears, but like before just little energy. We will be going back to the doc soon so I am going to try and hold off to see if it gets better. I'm trying to remain low calorie options to keep from gaining weight but having trouble trying to eat often and control it.

I will be back to cooking different meals again, food for me and different for hubs and DD.

I need to fix things like baked chicken and some rice to keep me stable or combinations of various foods. Sure I love chili and lasagna and all those things, but just can't do it and keep the weight off. It's very aggravating.

I have 3/4's of the house vacced, still need to do DD's room and the kitty room. This is my monthly thorough cat hair sweep up. I got under the furniture and around with the big sweeper. If I can Tuesday I will mop

I did our sheets and all the throw rugs, DD's needs washed too. But I went to the rent house and raked around everything and filled a trash can with debris and stuff. Blew off the porch, sidewalks and bit of drive, so that is complete.  I just got totally exhausted quickly, but managed to finish and dragged home. The can of pears helped a little. Now I'm getting a bath and fixing my hair shortly.

Hubs is saying 2 or 3 years to move, we don't have 2 or 3 years, I likely won't have the energy in a year.

[minnesotapaintlady]

I tore apart the plumbing under my laundry room sink to try and figure out why it drains so slow.  It was a little clogged, but not horrible, but it works a lot better now, so I guess that little bit was enough.  I also attacked the tub with a razor blade and magic eraser because it's so filthy looking and there was lots of dried on paint and stains.  I had resigned myself to it needing to be replaced, but I got it to where it doesn't bother me anymore.

Going back to my old barn where I used to board my horses got me feeling pretty miserable about my living situation.  The barn is immaculate.  Clean, no clutter, not so much as a stray piece of hay in the aisle.  I was thinking, damn, it's neater than my house...and that's how I used to exist.  Heck, I used to keep a barn 5X that size looking that nice. I need to get that back.

I blame the kids.

[TheOtherMe]

My friend whose dad had the two strokes last week was at his house yesterday starting to clean it out so it can be sold.  

For his medications, she would do the box with the days of the week and check the pill box daily.  It appeared he was taking his medications.

She pulled out his desk and all of the pills for several months had been thrown on the floor behind the desk.  Not bottles of pills, individual pills.

Like she said, it's no wonder he had the strokes.  He didn't take the medication that was trying to prevent them.

Every day he yells at her to take him home.  She hasn't told him yet, from rehab he is going to a nursing home.  He also yells at all of his caregivers.

She has decided for her mental health, she can not sit with him for the entire day.  He has people taking care of him and she doesn't have to meet his every demand and try to determine if it is a crisis.

[Opti]

Sept 24, 2023 16:11:20 GMT -5 TheOtherMe said:

My friend whose dad had the two strokes last week was at his house yesterday starting to clean it out so it can be sold.  

For his medications, she would do the box with the days of the week and check the pill box daily.  It appeared he was taking his medications.

She pulled out his desk and all of the pills for several months had been thrown on the floor behind the desk.  Not bottles of pills, individual pills.

Like she said, it's no wonder he had the strokes.  He didn't take the medication that was trying to prevent them.

Every day he yells at her to take him home.  She hasn't told him yet, from rehab he is going to a nursing home.  He also yells at all of his caregivers.

She has decided for her mental health, she can not sit with him for the entire day.  He has people taking care of him and she doesn't have to meet his every demand and try to determine if it is a crisis.

I'm sorry so much of her work was undone. I hope things start improving for her and maybe he'll be better with at least the important meds in the future. 

[Pink Cashmere]

Sept 24, 2023 15:40:59 GMT -5 countrygirl2 said:

I can tell a difference with no ozempic. I am back to the hypoglycemic problem. I am eating like every couple of hours. Had 2 boiled eggs and just ate a can of pears, but like before just little energy. We will be going back to the doc soon so I am going to try and hold off to see if it gets better. I'm trying to remain low calorie options to keep from gaining weight but having trouble trying to eat often and control it.

I will be back to cooking different meals again, food for me and different for hubs and DD.

I need to fix things like baked chicken and some rice to keep me stable or combinations of various foods. Sure I love chili and lasagna and all those things, but just can't do it and keep the weight off. It's very aggravating.

I have 3/4's of the house vacced, still need to do DD's room and the kitty room. This is my monthly thorough cat hair sweep up. I got under the furniture and around with the big sweeper. If I can Tuesday I will mop

I did our sheets and all the throw rugs, DD's needs washed too. But I went to the rent house and raked around everything and filled a trash can with debris and stuff. Blew off the porch, sidewalks and bit of drive, so that is complete.  I just got totally exhausted quickly, but managed to finish and dragged home. The can of pears helped a little. Now I'm getting a bath and fixing my hair shortly.

Hubs is saying 2 or 3 years to move, we don't have 2 or 3 years, I likely won't have the energy in a year.

When I was doing well with my healthier eating habits and being consistent with it, the first thing I learned was that eating “clean” and healthier foods, is not at all as filling as eating other types of food. So I had to find some snacks that fit in with my goals of eating better, and I’d never been a snacker. But because I was hungry all the time, snacks (healthy snacks) became part of my plan.

I wasn’t eating like that to lose weight, but I think some of the principles are probably the same, just if the goal is losing weight or maintaining weight loss, one has to be sure to stay on track with the calories too. At the time, I actually gained a few pounds, because I was also doing body weight exercises consistently, and the weight gain was likely due to building muscle, and not fat. I could tell that my body was changing in a good way, by how my clothes fit.

I hope what I’m about to say comes across in the spirit I intend it to, as trying to be helpful and not offensive. I have noticed over the years that you have struggled with your weight and your diet, that you tend to have a lot of “oops” regarding what you eat, saying you ate something you know you shouldn’t have. I get it, because I love good food too. But maybe that’s something you can try to be more mindful about, so it doesn’t happen as often. The way my brain works, it was better for me to not try to convince myself that I “couldn’t” eat something. I took the approach that planning and making sure I had “good” stuff easily available, allowed me to CHOOSE to eat the good stuff, and as I added more and more “good” stuff, it left less and less room for processed or “unhealthy” food. 

So even though it wasn’t a conscious decision, I ended up not eating out anymore, because I had something better for me at home, that I could prepare easily and quickly. Easily and quickly was important, because I don’t like to cook. After a few months, I realized that I hadn’t even eaten any pork or steaks, and I love both. I was eating chicken, turkey and fish. Again, it wasn’t intentional, it just worked out that way because I was so focused on planning my meals and eating better.

After a few months, I met a friend for breakfast on my day off work. I ordered the stuff I would always order for breakfast, before I started eating better. First of all, I couldn’t even eat all of it, and second of all, it made me feel so bad that I had to go home and take a nap. The first time I ate some pizza, I couldn’t eat even a whole slice, because it was so salty. But it was the exact same pizza I’d eaten for years.

Your brain may not work like mine, so you might have to figure out different methods to help change your habits. I am just sharing my experience and what worked for me, and encouraging you to try to be more aware of how often you say (or even just know it, even if you don’t say it) you ate something that you know won’t help you meet your goals. I am guessing that it happens much more often than you think it does. If me saying that offends you, I apologize, and I won’t say anything else about it.

[Pink Cashmere]

Sept 24, 2023 16:11:20 GMT -5 TheOtherMe said:

My friend whose dad had the two strokes last week was at his house yesterday starting to clean it out so it can be sold.  

For his medications, she would do the box with the days of the week and check the pill box daily.  It appeared he was taking his medications.

She pulled out his desk and all of the pills for several months had been thrown on the floor behind the desk.  Not bottles of pills, individual pills.

Like she said, it's no wonder he had the strokes.  He didn't take the medication that was trying to prevent them.

Every day he yells at her to take him home.  She hasn't told him yet, from rehab he is going to a nursing home.  He also yells at all of his caregivers.

She has decided for her mental health, she can not sit with him for the entire day.  He has people taking care of him and she doesn't have to meet his every demand and try to determine if it is a crisis.

She has made a good decision. I am glad for her that she realized that having other people taking care of him gives her a chance to still see about him, but also step back and take care of herself.

Mister’s Dad was a huge learning experience. When my Grandmother started needing a lot of help, at least she was cooperative. Well, mostly cooperative, my Mom was the only person she was mean to sometimes. But I’ve always said that my Grandmother had been mad at my Mom for years before she died, and when she got dementia, with all the things she did forget, apparently she didn’t forget that she was mad at my Mom. I use to tell my Mom not to take it personal, that was the dementia, not my real Grandmother acting like that. But in some ways, it was my Grandmother, because she was fed up with my Mom for some years before she even got dementia. I didn’t feel like it would be helpful to point that out though.

My Aunt would take my Grandmother home with her, and tend to her until my Grandmother insisted she wanted to go back to her own house, where my Mom lived. She just wanted to go to her own home, not necessarily be with my Mom. My Aunt would visit her, then when my Grandmother agreed, take her back home with her for as long as my Grandmother was willing to stay. Rinse and repeat, until my Grandmother died. My Grandmother was better off being with my Aunt, but at least the times my Grandmother insisted on going home, my Aunt could get a break, knowing my Grandmother wasn’t home alone, and was at least safe.

And at least my Grandmother wasn’t ornery and/or uncooperative with my Aunt, which I’ve seen firsthand now, makes the already difficult task of caregiving, even more difficult.

[Opti]

Need to put laundry away. Wish the rain would stop soon but it looks per the forecast it will continue through Monday into Tuesday morning. Hope this weekend at least one of the days is dry.

Outside looks like we got more than just an inch or so of rain over the weekend. 

[Pink Cashmere]

After Mr. Messy’s funeral, I asked his older sister that I’d bonded with, if she wanted at least 1 of the Peace Lillies I had from his funeral. She said yes. I’ve been warning her that she needed to get it sooner rather than later, before it became a victim of my black thumb.

She came over today. She had bought a pot for me to repot one in, to keep for myself, and some potting soil, plant food and leaf gloss, and some comfortable shoes to change into, and some gloves, so she could help me repot it. I didn’t expect her to do all of that, and I thought it was SO sweet. She said nobody was going to be able to say her niece had a black thumb lol. But when she saw I already had some houseplants and bags of soil, and I showed her my little vegetable gardening beds outside, she said “Girl, I thought this was an emergency! You don’t need my help”. She still doesn’t believe me when I kept telling her that the plants she saw were just a small fraction of all the plants I’ve bought and killed lol. She walked out to my tomato plants (that I don’t even tend to anymore) and saw all the green tomatoes still growing even though the plants look horrible, and declared that I do NOT have a black thumb.

She has NO idea.😂😂😂

So I still have one Peace Lily that’s just barely holding on, from Mister’s Mom’s funeral. I had 2 originally, I finally threw the other one away, because it was half dead. I kept 1 from his Dad’s funeral, and she took the other 3. I was really happy she took all of them, because I’d rather they go to a good home than suffer with me.

When she and her husband got here, I was sitting at the entrance to the garage with the door up, and walked out in the driveway to greet them when I heard them come down the driveway. Her husband saw my chair, sat down, and said he’d just stay there, because it was so peaceful. And that’s what he did. Him feeling like it was peaceful to sit down at the entrance to my garage, made me feel good, for whatever reason. During one of me and Aunt D’s trips outside, after she had ventured out in the back yard to get a closer look at the tomato plants, he asked me who cut what on our side yard, where our property meets the T’s property. I showed them the line where you can tell the properties are separate, and said Mister cuts our side, and they cut their side. Aunt D asked him why he asked that, and he said “that looks like a lot to cut”. She told him “you haven’t even seen the back yard, it’s way more than ‘a lot’”. 

She decided I didn’t need any help repotting the plant, and I accepted the pot, fertilizer and leaf gloss, but told her I have so much potting soil already, that I’d rather she keep what she bought to repot the plants she took with her. I told her I will send her a picture when I repot the plant into the planter she brought me.

Anyway, I am still smiling on the inside about how she came prepared to help “her niece” out.

[susana1954]

Right after I moved into my new house in the senior living community, I had a storm door installed.  The way that area is designed is that the doorway is recessed on one side . . . not a lot but enough so that the installer (Home Depot) had to install a strip of wood to make the two sides even.  The strip was, of course, raw wood although he did caulk.  The next step was to paint the strip.

The complex is responsible for painting, but they said that this strip was installed by me so I am responsible.  When they repaint the houses (no idea when that is), they will have to paint it because it is now part of the front door.  But not now.  I didn't like that position, but whatever.  I just needed the paint color to do what is a 20-minute job.  Oh, but they have no idea what the paint color is.  Their suggestion was that I find a sample somewhere and do a color match.  What  If my paint was peeling (it isn't), I'd be having a different conversation with them!  I ended up taking part of the gutter downspout to be matched.  And Home Depot did it.  I only had to buy a sample size . . . we are talking about a single strip of wood, remember.  It was quick and easy, but I didn't like having to stand on the step ladder once more.

I love the community itself . . . one of my neighbors plays the HARP so beautifully . . . but something tells me that I set my expectations too high when it comes to HOAs.

[TheOtherMe]

Pink Cashmere   Like my friend said, her dad may not be in a rehab center with both sides paralyzed, not able to use either hand, etc. if he had taken those medications instead of playing games with them and hiding them.  She was shocked when she found the pills on the floor.  

[countrygirl2]

Yeah, Pink I know. I have been eating pretty healthy as with the med you just didn't crave that stuff. And I eat fast food once in awhile but not often. Just like yesterday, I bought cheese burgers for hubs and DD, she only ate half and salad for me. It doesn't bother me at all. The pears today were packed in their own juice and I didn't drink it. But everything I have read says without the meds you will regain the weight. Since my feet won't take it, I will likely be back on it. But I think the lowest dose will work and also giving my body a break will help. 

Also dumped stuff from the fridge, so its in good shape now.

We quit way early today, but I have been doing back to back laundry. Now I will need to clear the table, everyone is fed.

Hubs gave a neighbor guy a whole bunch of scrap metal he had. He said I have been saving that stuff but don't need it. He is even giving him an old plow and going to give him metal from an area that was a before we moved here. There is an old frame of something, a roller and other stuff in the holler. So I know he would only be doing this if he is thinking ahead. He said he filled the back of his pickup truck full. That will get the guy a few dollars when he sells it. I told hubs I need to start letting go also. But I am going to have a sale, I won't make much, and what is left I will donate. They are starting to rebuild Our Fathers Arms that the tornado destroyed. They give everything free to people plus had the food bank there. 

I pulled out Halloween decorations the other day. I hope to get them out before the week is over. I also bought 2 rotating lights for the house, one of ghosts and the other various Halloween images, think they will be neat.

I need to clear the table before I start reading.