what are you doing right now?

[countrygirl2]

Someone asked about how hubs is taking this. I think like me he was surprised because he was being tested for this, so kind of got us. But hubs is laid back, he takes everything in stride. I will never know what he feels inside but outside no difference at all. We were talking about it out loud, not thinking, but so far DD has asked nothing about it. She hears everything and I figure one day she will ask me.

All hubs has said is we need to start decluttering and getting rid of stuff. We were going to do that anyway. But it will push us toward selling out, made that decision for us, so will go forward with that.

Son said once the garage is done, he can come down and help haul things up we want to keep for a house and get the tools he wants. Hubs has a lot and son will use them. That way living up there if hubs is able they both can use them.  I asked if DIL was upset a garage is being built and not the kitchen she wants, he said no, that will help them declutter and move things into the garage they want to keep but really have no place to store except their current garage and 3rd bedroom, so will help us both.

I know if we need help when we get up there DIL and son will help, but I hope I don't have to ask. I can still drive and get around, just not so good at night, but son doesn't either. He is fortunate to work from home a lot and has over a month a year of paid time off, so if I need help he can and will do it. That flexible job is worth a million for sure. 

We are fortunate and I know it, so not complaining, just planning.

Better go to bed, almost 2:30 and I'm tired. Been doing laundry, washed the dishes and put away, now I have my greasy stove top grills in the dishwasher and cleaned the top of my stove.

[finnime]

Good morning, industrious invisipeeps, opening the presents that are your lives. Welcome to Saturday. I hope you find today absorbing and rewarding and ultimately peaceful.

This day we are getting Lee, at least the edge of it. Right now it's raining. The wind hasn't really started in yet. Then on Monday we'll get more Lee coming back down south from Canada, I believe. There's something raw and exciting about a good storm. I don't know if this one will live up to predictions or not.

Looking back I see I really didn't do much in the past week. I did get the car inspected. It passed with no issues although I really need to replace the two front tires which are showing I desperately need an alignment. Maybe I can do that this week to come.

Although it was quickly eclipsed by cloud cover, I did get this shot from the cove. Also as of yesterday dogs are allowed again on the beach, not just the cove, until May I think. That was a fast summer.

[Opti]

Sept 15, 2023 21:12:26 GMT -5 Pink Cashmere said:

Sept 15, 2023 19:46:31 GMT -5 Opti said:

Pink I am really surprised Mister is having people over after not wanting to have a repast. I think he's made the wrong decision and should have had baby Sis or whomever whined him into this, to do it instead. It seems unplanned and an emotional choice that is making it harder on both of you. I thought the whole reason to skip the repast was to rest and not have everyone at your home. 

I'm stressed reading about it and I would be not happy at all if this was happening to me. 

I was caught by surprise too. And yes, the whole reason for not having a repast was to not have to deal with feeding a bunch of people and not having guests in our home. 

Idk where this idea came from yesterday. But since it’s what he wants, Imma roll with it as much as I can. And if I have to, I will remind him that this was solely his idea, he didn’t ask how I felt about it, he just told me he was doing it. In my mind, that means it’s his “baby” since it’s not something we talked about and agreed to do,  and I get to pick and choose where and how much effort I put into it. 

One of the bonuses about trying to keep my house clean period, even though it’s a constant battle, is that I don’t have to do a whole lot of work to make it presentable for guests.

I’m not really happy about it, but I am trying to be a team player. If I can’t get my mind right to try to be a good hostess, I will excuse myself and let him handle his guests. I still haven’t eaten anything today, so my stomach is probably done rebelling for now, because it’s empty. But if it still causes me problems tomorrow, it will be a valid reason to excuse myself and retreat to the private part of the house if I don’t feel well. I’m not saying I want my stomach to act up and give me reason to not be a good hostess, I’m just saying that if it does, I probably won’t be willing to try to push through it and entertain guests anyway.

I agree his idea, his circus. It was nice of you to help with the pork and the cleaning. I hope its short and easy but I suspect drama lurks in the wings. Eat carefully and stay well.

[giramomma]

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Sept 16, 2023 3:38:28 GMT -5 finnime said:

Good morning, industrious invisipeeps, opening the presents that are your lives. Welcome to Saturday. I hope you find today absorbing and rewarding and ultimately peaceful.

This day we are getting Lee, at least the edge of it. Right now it's raining. The wind hasn't really started in yet. Then on Monday we'll get more Lee coming back down south from Canada, I believe. There's something raw and exciting about a good storm. I don't know if this one will live up to predictions or not.

Looking back I see I really didn't do much in the past week. I did get the car inspected. It passed with no issues although I really need to replace the two front tires which are showing I desperately need an alignment. Maybe I can do that this week to come.

Although it was quickly eclipsed by cloud cover, I did get this shot from the cove. Also as of yesterday dogs are allowed again on the beach, not just the cove, until May I think. That was a fast summer.

I think this is one of my favs, finn.

[andi9899]

It's Mexican independence day! We're going to the Fiesta today. I used to be in dance and performed in them. I danced these same dances back in the day.

www.tiktok.com/t/ZT8jQJhYd/

[giramomma]

We've got a weekend. It's all good, and I wish these sorts of weekends came with an extra weekend. I suppose, that's why PTO exists.

It's a mixed bag today. I'm really determined to find a new place to work. I was thinking about things more last night, and my supervisor gave me quite a long list (over 10 points) of areas where I did not perform well, from their perspective. A good portion of it (at least 25%) has to do with the fact they don't like how another colleague works, and they could take it out on me.

I remember when I realized that about my dad. The night he took took out whatever frustration he had on me. I think my mom was extra, and I was there.  That's when I started realizing that my dad wasn't all that, and he absolutely came down from that pedestal.

I just don''t know why people think this sort of behavior is appropriate and acceptable. I mean, someone who has belching contests with their teens and taught their 3 year old the f-word by modeling that language isn't the best judge of acceptable and appropriate behavior.

And there's still no excuse.

DH just helped me with some technology things I had to address, which was good. That's off the list. And my patience are still in tact.

I'm back to working 7 days a week. We'll see how I feel about that in another 2 months.

My carpal tunnel is acting up. Which is an issue that I need to figure out.

I should shove off.

[daisylu]

Did a lot of walking at the ballpark last night and definitely feeling it today. More evidence that I need to make time for more activity.

[raeoflyte]

azucena - recommendations for a starter model 3d printer? Ds has asked for 1 for printing minis which I can get behind. I think he could print some for friends to cover costs/make money.

[raeoflyte]

Cleaning, cooking, and working the 2nd job today. Hoping it'll be a slow day on that front.

I'm so frustrated with dh. I know he wants to help, but the few things I ask him to do he waits so long to do that I end up doing myself. He's not thinking things through. Washer broken = laundromat = household laundry not individual. I've stated this explicitly. But he didn't put his stuff with the loads I took last night. When I called him he was already leaving the house and said he did it on purpose- he didn't want me to have to do his laundry. But it doesn't actually help me for him to spend 2 hours at the laundromat today when I just spent 2 hours there last night. If he had said - he'd do everyone's laundry today - that would fucking help.

He has grand ideas that he's actually going to overhaul his entire side of the bedroom that is threatening to take over, buy a recliner, rearrange and set up the bedroom so that I can choose between the bed or recliner but he literally has today, and I just don't see that it's possible.

He's a smart guy. He has a hard job that requires critical thinking skills and hes the go-to guy for how to do the really hard stuff of his hard stuff. So I can't figure out why he can't see this really obvious stuff. And unfortunately I'm out of patience to even try.

[chiver78]

I woke up this morning to the sounds of heavy machinery taking down trees, ever closer to my house so they can build more McMansion condos. it was well before the weekend noise ordinance of 8am, too. ugh. at least it's bettering my property valued for when I do find my way out. but come on, it's the weekend!

I'm currently taking a minute to enjoy a little coffee in between some deep cleaning. I've gone through all of the small mail piles around the kitchen, and found the letter from the DMV saying my car registration is expiring this month. I've got that on my keyboard to take care of later on. I have some work I need to crank out at some point, that I didn't get to yesterday.

no wind damage here, just a bunch of leaves down and everything is wet. once it all dries out, I'll take the leaf blower outside and blow it all out of the yard.

happy Saturday, kids!

[cooper88]

I was looking forward to tackling some long overdue yard work. We have had rain off and on for three days, with more forecast for today. Woohoo rain! However, the yard is too wet to work in. Guess I'll find an audiobook and pull some weeds, at least.

[TheOtherMe]

Sept 15, 2023 21:19:54 GMT -5 CCL said:

How are you feeling TheOtherMe ? Hopefully the worst of it is behind you and you're doing better now.

I can smell again, so I think the worst is behind me after a week.  

Definitely not well and recovery is not linear.  

[jerseygirl]

Grandson and his bride here for the weekend. They had dinner at club, we haven’t used minimum so they’ll maybe be here another Friday in September . They went to buy some groceries for us that didn’t make the online order. Then they’ll play pickleball.
I had a post surgery visit Thursday. He said I’ll be able to drive in about 3 weeks.
Chilly this morning but bright and sunny, a nice day

[countrygirl2]

Some appointments next week. DD in for a filling at 9AM Monday. Than a meeting at the house with her caseworker. That's all the doc appointments for us.

Dear old hubs is going to fix the hookup on my mower, he said for the life of him he can't find where it hooks in. He is taking the deck off to check it. He has a motor lift so not a lot of lifting for him.

He is heading to town today, he wants to get the RSV shot, flu, and new covid if he can. I don't know if he needs pneumonia again or not. He said he wants to get all that before this other starts. So he is moving ahead with it all. He gets a hug almost everytime he walks by. Yes, I know a bit excessive, but I have always been a big hugger anyway. I like to hub my big tall son and when I leave the house kiss him on the top of his head. I noticed I've been getting hubs back. And my DIL will come up and hug me at times. She is wanting us to move up now. But I told her its going to take awhile, she said yeah, probably 2 years, sigh.
I think we can shrink that down.

I looked up about medicaid in Washington state last night. It's called Apple Care, the requirements sound the same as Indiana. It did caution to get it in place before moving to make sure you qualify. It sid it can take up to 80 days to get it.  I went through the form to see if you qualify but didn't send it. They have waiver lists like here but I doubt she can get on it, it said they likely have waiting lists. She has a really great waiver here that is open ended on cost. No more are being given out so a big loss, when we might need it.  But they also have people you can work with and I will do that when we are ready so we can coordinate it. You cannot be on medicaid in 2 states at once. Like they said don't drop it till you have it in the other one for sure.

Next I need to check on our supplements, medicare itself of course, is universal in the US. But supplements vary from state to state, I have an excellent one and hubs has one the next step down so his is very good too.
I don't know yet, with hubs issues what we should do. DD is allowed to leave the state 180 days a years but not pushing it that close, I think that could get iffy. I can prove it by saving plane tickets in her file.

So those are the only real concerns. Once we do relocate we will have to redo our wills too. We will have to see what the results of the tests on the 13th of October, wish they could have done it before than, waiting is the worst part.

I am so thankful that we both went ahead and bought a place up there. I wonder if hubs had an idea about it then.

We have always been able to coordinate and work through things easily. I'm also thinking if he doesn't feel like moving stuff to get a Pod or two to pack furniture in. And I can hire the guys at the furniture store to move things or pack them in a trailer. They are allowed to hire out for people here.

[Opti]

Sept 16, 2023 9:53:27 GMT -5 TheOtherMe said:

Sept 15, 2023 21:19:54 GMT -5 CCL said:

How are you feeling TheOtherMe ? Hopefully the worst of it is behind you and you're doing better now.

I can smell again, so I think the worst is behind me after a week.  

Definitely not well and recovery is not linear.  

Glad the worst is behind you and sorry that recovery sounds slow for you. Hopefully it will get better soon.

[giramomma]

I think I found our bedroom paint.

[andi9899]

Thinking about getting off my lazy arse and getting in the shower so I can go to the Fiesta and get tacos.

[andi9899]

Sept 16, 2023 9:53:27 GMT -5 TheOtherMe said:

Sept 15, 2023 21:19:54 GMT -5 CCL said:

How are you feeling TheOtherMe ? Hopefully the worst of it is behind you and you're doing better now.

I can smell again, so I think the worst is behind me after a week.  

Definitely not well and recovery is not linear.  

At least you're going uphill. Hopefully you're fully recovered soon. When I had it, it hit me like a ton of bricks and then just went away.

[snapdragon]

I spent about 2 hours on the computer and am now signing off so I can pick up and get a few things done today. 

Everyone take care.

[weltz]

Sept 15, 2023 19:22:46 GMT -5 Pink Cashmere said:

Mister’s friend D is Muslim. But he is a Black Muslim, which I think is a bit different from Muslims from other parts of the world. I feel like I am showing some ignorance by saying that, but with the little knowledge I have, I think it’s true.

Anyway, D was not in town when Mister’s Mom was laid to rest because he was in another part of the country providing service for his brethren. He is out of town now, helping tend to the acres of farmland that they have in another state. 

I knew D years before I even met Mister, and we use to talk about his faith and his beliefs, just because I was curious. I think that the Black Muslims in the US follow Louis Farrakhan’s teachings. Dr. Farrakhan is seen as controversial by many people, but the times I’ve listened to him speak, he was encouraging Black people to own their power and take care of themselves, their families, and their communities. I didn’t have a problem with what I heard. Maybe he’s said some more controversial stuff at other times besides the (admittedly few) times I’ve listened to him, but I haven’t heard any of it with my own ears.

I’ve had a close friend that was a Jehovah’s Witness, and I was curious and had conversations about their beliefs too. 

Whatever my own personal beliefs are, I enjoy having conversations with people whose religion is different from mine, as long as we can have a respectful conversation despite our differences.

What I’ve learned from talking to people of different faiths, is that when you subtract all the nonsense, the bottom line for most major religions, before the extremist kind of shit, is…. Try to be a good, loving person, and take care of your responsibilities.

I'm a secular humanist. There's only 'commandment". Don't be a dick.

[anciana]

Sept 16, 2023 9:53:27 GMT -5 TheOtherMe said:

Sept 15, 2023 21:19:54 GMT -5 CCL said:

How are you feeling TheOtherMe ? Hopefully the worst of it is behind you and you're doing better now.

I can smell again, so I think the worst is behind me after a week.  

Definitely not well and recovery is not linear.  

I am so glad to hear that the worst seems to be behind you, even if recovery is not linear. Hope you start feeling better little by little every day and it doesn’t slide back. Please, take it easy.

[anciana]

Sept 15, 2023 20:36:20 GMT -5 weltz said:

Sept 15, 2023 19:43:57 GMT -5 finnime said:

Good to see you, weltschmerz . I mean, weltz .

Wait a minute, you have two names?

No, I'm on a new laptop and had to start over.

So very good to hear from you again! I wonder if the moderators might be able to help you get access to your old account if you’d like that.

[weltz]

Sept 16, 2023 11:17:32 GMT -5 anciana said:

Sept 15, 2023 20:36:20 GMT -5 weltz said:

No, I'm on a new laptop and had to start over.

So very good to hear from you again! I wonder if the moderators might be able to help you get access to your old account if you’d like that.

No, this is fine. No worries.

[anciana]

Sept 16, 2023 10:15:51 GMT -5 jerseygirl said:

Grandson and his bride here for the weekend. They had dinner at club, we haven’t used minimum so they’ll maybe be here another Friday in September . They went to buy some groceries for us that didn’t make the online order. Then they’ll play pickleball.
I had a post surgery visit Thursday. He said I’ll be able to drive in about 3 weeks.
Chilly this morning but bright and sunny, a nice day

That’s fantastic news! Being able to drive hopefully means you are recovering right on schedule and are feeling stronger every day. Seems like whatever you’re doing is working! Nice!

[countrygirl2]

Whoa, not happy with that, the outfit purchasing my PO is chinese. But its pending inspection and who knows may not pass. It's too much money for it, but guess they will either lower it or whatever. But than  there is nowhere else in town they could buy or rent a building for a post office, so there is that.

I want to research the company a bit before I sign off on it.  

But right now finally need to get to work at the house.

Later all

[countrygirl2]

Ok, its in Taiwan, will read more about it.

[The Walk of the Penguin Mich]

Sept 16, 2023 10:19:00 GMT -5 countrygirl2 said:

Some appointments next week. DD in for a filling at 9AM Monday. Than a meeting at the house with her caseworker. That's all the doc appointments for us.

Dear old hubs is going to fix the hookup on my mower, he said for the life of him he can't find where it hooks in. He is taking the deck off to check it. He has a motor lift so not a lot of lifting for him.

He is heading to town today, he wants to get the RSV shot, flu, and new covid if he can. I don't know if he needs pneumonia again or not. He said he wants to get all that before this other starts. So he is moving ahead with it all. He gets a hug almost everytime he walks by. Yes, I know a bit excessive, but I have always been a big hugger anyway. I like to hub my big tall son and when I leave the house kiss him on the top of his head. I noticed I've been getting hubs back. And my DIL will come up and hug me at times. She is wanting us to move up now. But I told her its going to take awhile, she said yeah, probably 2 years, sigh.
I think we can shrink that down.

I looked up about medicaid in Washington state last night. It's called Apple Care, the requirements sound the same as Indiana. It did caution to get it in place before moving to make sure you qualify. It sid it can take up to 80 days to get it.  I went through the form to see if you qualify but didn't send it. They have waiver lists like here but I doubt she can get on it, it said they likely have waiting lists. She has a really great waiver here that is open ended on cost. No more are being given out so a big loss, when we might need it.  But they also have people you can work with and I will do that when we are ready so we can coordinate it. You cannot be on medicaid in 2 states at once. Like they said don't drop it till you have it in the other one for sure.

Next I need to check on our supplements, medicare itself of course, is universal in the US. But supplements vary from state to state, I have an excellent one and hubs has one the next step down so his is very good too.
I don't know yet, with hubs issues what we should do. DD is allowed to leave the state 180 days a years but not pushing it that close, I think that could get iffy. I can prove it by saving plane tickets in her file.

So those are the only real concerns. Once we do relocate we will have to redo our wills too. We will have to see what the results of the tests on the 13th of October, wish they could have done it before than, waiting is the worst part.

I am so thankful that we both went ahead and bought a place up there. I wonder if hubs had an idea about it then.

We have always been able to coordinate and work through things easily. I'm also thinking if he doesn't feel like moving stuff to get a Pod or two to pack furniture in. And I can hire the guys at the furniture store to move things or pack them in a trailer. They are allowed to hire out for people here.

Call and ask to be put on a cancellation list.

[NancysSummerSip]

Watching the thunderstorms blow up just north and drop some much needed rain. I do need to wash my car, though.

[Knee Deep in Water Chloe]

Sept 16, 2023 10:57:25 GMT -5 andi9899 said:

Thinking about getting off my lazy arse and getting in the shower so I can go to the Fiesta and get tacos.

The tacos will be worth it, I'm sure!
Per your previous post, we have a Ballet Folklorico (sp?) after school club at my school. I love watching them dance. We only had one boy last year. We're hoping for more this year. 

[Knee Deep in Water Chloe]

countrygirl2, my DH was diagnosed with prostate cancer in 2011. However, he was only 48yo then. He had his removed completely, and he chose the robotic surgery. He had his done at OHSU, which is two hours south of Olympia.  He did not have to do radiation. Everything went well, and every "thing" still works. I'm sure there've been many advances in the last decade. Big hugs.