what are you doing right now?

[susana1954]

I'm not working today so I thought I might clean house.  That thought lasted about 45 minutes, but I got a lot done.  Now I'm thinking about reading a book.  

[bookkeeper]

Sept 12, 2023 22:48:48 GMT -5 NastyWoman said:

Sept 12, 2023 20:52:39 GMT -5 chiver78 said:

same, MPL. I'm on my phone for the night, without a lot of the mod interface buttons, and another mod yanked the more salty posts tonight. idk what was in the water today, it definitely wasn't a full moon. I'm aware that some posters just don't like other posters. and I'm no different. there's a few I'd love to block, but modding. 🤷‍♀️ I've managed to do my best to scroll on by. I'm sure a few have blocked me, too. but that's why the block option is there. please use it, kids.

-chiver mod

I see that you removed the posts relating to the contentious issue and I am totally fine with that.  without touching on what caused the disagreement I DO  want to bring one comment I made back: we are losing members because there is a tendency here to fall over a member's comment if it does not align with the majority opinion, like a pack of hungry wolves. We try to silence that person.

I think that it is important to realize that everyone has a right to their own opinion and they should be able to voice that opinion. At least one poster reacted to my comment by saying that she at times has an opinion that she does not bring up because it is easier to avoid having to face the backlash.

THINK ABOUT THAT! SHE WAS TALKING ABOUT US! WE ARE THE ONES THAT ARE CHASING POSTERS OUT and that needs to stop. As chiver78 mentions above, if you don't like a poster just block them or scroll past their posts. It really is not that hard. I love this little e-village we have here and it would be sad to loose it just because we feel the need to behave like a high school clique.

After all, this is a money message board.  I learn about how different people from different parts of the country handle their money through the course of their lives.   Each person's money is their own to earn and spend.  Some of the things I post here may sound like a "bragplaint" but these financial situations are where I am at in life.

I learned years ago that you need to get thicker skin if you want to hang here.  

And just my opinion, having a second home is an investment.  Just like a CD or an IRA or a rental property.  Countrygirl and her family are able to have a second home next to their family because they worked and saved for it.  Most importantly, they were able to pull the trigger and purchase the property, rather that just talk about how they want their lives to be. The emotional benefit of being close to family is just the cherry on top.

[cooper88]

Has TheOtherMe posted recently? I hope she's feeling better.

[minnesotapaintlady]

Sept 13, 2023 8:16:46 GMT -5 NomoreDramaQ1015 said:

That being said there is no way on God's green Earth anyone is going to be able to 100% fund their own nursing home care.  Let's say my grandma lives 5 years in the home that is $516,000 and that is just for room/board.  I'm assuming most people are going to live some of their retirement if not a good majority of it outside a nursing home so you're going to have to factor in a bonus $516, 000 into your retirement savings as a "just in case" that you never touch.   Not many people are going to be able to do that.

That's actually what I consider my house to be.  Of course, being single I can do this where as married still has to think about the spouse.

Hopefully I can just avoid the nursing home altogether.  Eight great grandparents, four grandparents, two uncles and an aunt and only two needed LTC and it was a short stay for both of them.  9 months for one and 4 days for the other.

[daisylu]

Trying to find a new bathroom scale. One that uses AA or AAA batteries, since I found a bazillion of each in the pantry.

[flamingo]

My grandparents spent 11 years in some sort of elder home environment - 10 in "independent living" then 1-ish in assisted living before they each moved to full time nursing home care (they have both since passed). My uncler (their oldest) was in charge, so I have no idea the actual cost of things, though I don't think they were on medicaid. My grandma was so distraught that they weren't leaving their kids (my mom and her 2 brothers) much of anything b/c care was so expensive. 

When they moved in back in 2009 things were very different than they are today. Which is sad, because the level of care isn't any better and in most cases much worse than what they had when they first moved in. And I'll never forget when my grandma moved into skilled nursing care a nurse called my mom and was like, "your mother isn't eating, this is the end" and my mom called my grandma to talk about it. Grandma told her she was given yogurt and crackers but no one opened them for her and she wasn't able to open them herself (hence the need for skilled nursing). My mother about hit the roof. I would have hated to be on the receiving end of her phone call to the facility, but from then on, someone opened grandma's food for her at least.

Elder care in this country is a joke and racket. I hope something takes me out before I need it.

[anciana]

Sept 13, 2023 8:14:53 GMT -5 raeoflyte said:

On Monday I hit myself in the face with a stick while I was training. Nothing terrible but enough to have a good headache for 24 hours but I had my days confused so I didn't take advil. Today's the day I need to stop taking advil. I feel fine now - it really wasnt that bad - but I'm annoyed with myself.

T minus 1 week to surgery. I need to make a list.
Dogs to bathe,
food to cook,
fence off the damn grapes,
I might buy another mattress pad and fitted sheet so I can make my bed like a crib and just strip the top layer, and voila - clean sheets! Buy myself a 2nd week there.
Oh - write out "recipes" for our easy meals like tacos, spaghetti, etc so that the kids can throw those together. I’ll have cooked and frozen ground beef in the freezer to make those go together quickly.

I don't think there is much else I can prep ahead of time. But I do need chores written out to make it easier for helping to get done.

Rae, would buying precooked stuff at Costco or grocery store be an option so you don’t need to cook so much this week? Depending on what your family likes or has tried so far, of course. There are meals that can be frozen or refrigerated so they last for a good while. I remember getting things in place before giving birth years ago and cooking up a storm of lasagnas, meatballs and cooked ground beef, meatloaf, shredded chicken for the freezer for easier meals. It helped a lot. Good luck!

[daisylu]

Sept 13, 2023 8:35:51 GMT -5 cooper88 said:

Has TheOtherMe posted recently? I hope she's feeling better.

Posted a few times yesterday. I also hope Covid isn't hitting her too hard.

[NomoreDramaQ1015]

Sept 13, 2023 8:59:27 GMT -5 flamingo said:

My grandparents spent 11 years in some sort of elder home environment - 10 in "independent living" then 1-ish in assisted living before they each moved to full time nursing home care (they have both since passed). My uncler (their oldest) was in charge, so I have no idea the actual cost of things, though I don't think they were on medicaid. My grandma was so distraught that they weren't leaving their kids (my mom and her 2 brothers) much of anything b/c care was so expensive. 

When they moved in back in 2009 things were very different than they are today. Which is sad, because the level of care isn't any better and in most cases much worse than what they had when they first moved in. And I'll never forget when my grandma moved into skilled nursing care a nurse called my mom and was like, "your mother isn't eating, this is the end" and my mom called my grandma to talk about it. Grandma told her she was given yogurt and crackers but no one opened them for her and she wasn't able to open them herself (hence the need for skilled nursing). My mother about hit the roof. I would have hated to be on the receiving end of her phone call to the facility, but from then on, someone opened grandma's food for her at least.

Elder care in this country is a joke and racket. I hope something takes me out before I need it.

GU fell and they called my dad like "he's agitated" my dad's come back was "#1 what am I supposed to do about it from the phone and #2 what are you doing that made him agitated to begin with?!"

He filed a complaint with the state about that one.

[countrygirl2]

We are a rural area, by the time folks get in a nursing home most all are on medicaid. MIL was in assisted living and we exhausted all her money plus money from VA to keep her there. If not for that, not sure what we would have done. It also allowed her to have a better quality of life for years. She didn't think so, but trust me she did. It was a nice place. Some outfit has now bought it out so not sure if its the same or not.

I don't know if Indiana has become more involved in grabbing assets or not as my mom was in a nursing home for only a few months in Texas. She was only on medicaid there one month, yes, all the money from her house went to it. I do know there she got into a nicer place because she was still paying for those first few months. 

So I managed to help both of them have decent places to go. I know neither of them did without anything they needed and likely got more than they needed. I will never feel guilty of not doing my best by them. Now I'm trying to do the same for DD and if need be I will do the same for my dear hubby. Sadly, DIL, knows nothing of our laws and son has never been involved so knows nothing about the mess you have to navigate, so I can't say how I will end up. We are getting ready to look into Washington for DD. If things aren't good for her there, it will probably stay as it is. But we are still selling rentals. I have an offer on the table for the post office building now. If it's reasonable I will take it.

I did get hubs to listen and we are putting the rent house on the market in January because of tax purposes. And selling his folks house the next year. We have a good renter there, I wish he could afford to buy it as he loves it there and takes care of things. He has 2 kids with issues, his DD has been living with him and working at Goodwill. His son has Tourettes I think and I bet the daughter wore out helping with him.  We are thinking of packing the mobile with all the stuff we want to move and the carport with things from the garage if we decide to move. We can come get them later, hubs said he can also drive here and take a load out. He asked dad if he can keep grandpa's old tractor, just thrilled hubs, he was hoping he wanted it. My dad bought it new in the 60's before he retired to use and mom gave it to hubs and we will give it to son. It's a smaller one and very useful.  

It will be difficult and time consuming for us to move, so starting on the process now to see if feasible. We are talking to son about him building a 30 X 40 garage that we will pay for and move the tools and items he wants to keep of dads. Also would be available for dad to use there. He will also pack his tool trailer with a lot of things. He said there is a lot of stuff out there he would not move and either leave or sell off if someone wants it. I too plan on selling or donating a bunch of stuff if we move.  That way we can live in the modular until we find a house or maybe just live there. It isn't big enough but maybe I could have hubs put in a hobby shed or something for my sewing. We would have to get permission. And we could store furniture in the new garage until we moved. Not really that much as we got rid of a lot from the other house to this one. 

So whether we move or not we are going to be downsizing everything the next couple of years. And I have a feeling if we stay here we will likely move to a house in town, maybe build a new one there from the proceeds of this one would be my preference, built entirely on one level for our old age.

Anyway this is the plan for now and should keep hubs busy. He needs projects to do, though like he said he is slowing down. He told me we need to find a house in pretty good shape as he is not up to an extensive remodel anymore, first time he has told me that. He said about 4 hours a day is all he can do. Well I'm down to 2 to 4 a day, so we are both wearing out. I guess being 77 its about time, LOL! I wish we were able to physically help son do what they want to do, but he will have to hire stuff. Hubs and I are getting wore down.

[jerseygirl]

finneme hoping once the peritoneal dialysis starts that you and your DH adjust well and he feels better. Thinking some can arrange for trips even with this . And much easier than going to a dialysis center multiple times week.
Is there a support group that can help you?

[countrygirl2]

Indiana has passed a familial care law sometime ago where they can go after the family to pay for care. But so far I have not heard if its ever been used, but sounds like that may be coming. I think some other states have too. Like hubs said I can see that working with young families barely hanging on.

My mouth on the top is still sore. Had yogurt and luke warm coffee for breakfast trying to keep it comfortable, hope it heals soon.

Ok, off to Pain Management this morning, my poor old body hurts today. My dear little Smoke curled up beside me in my arms this morning when hubs let him out about 5 and snuggled till I got up. Sometimes I wonder if they know we need their comfort and love.

So just now starting my day, hope all of you have a good one. And I do mean everyone!

No matter what I try to stay in a good mood, today is no different.

[NomoreDramaQ1015]

Sept 13, 2023 8:38:34 GMT -5 minnesotapaintlady said:

Sept 13, 2023 8:16:46 GMT -5 NomoreDramaQ1015 said:

That being said there is no way on God's green Earth anyone is going to be able to 100% fund their own nursing home care.  Let's say my grandma lives 5 years in the home that is $516,000 and that is just for room/board.  I'm assuming most people are going to live some of their retirement if not a good majority of it outside a nursing home so you're going to have to factor in a bonus $516, 000 into your retirement savings as a "just in case" that you never touch.   Not many people are going to be able to do that.

That's actually what I consider my house to be.  Of course, being single I can do this where as married still has to think about the spouse.

Hopefully I can just avoid the nursing home altogether.  Eight great grandparents, four grandparents, two uncles and an aunt and only two needed LTC and it was a short stay for both of them.  9 months for one and 4 days for the other.

Neither GU or my grandma would have needed a home so soon if they hadn't been so stubborn and/or codependent.  GU wouldn't need one at all if he hadn't gone cuckoo over losing his sight.

The Medicaid lady said unfortunately my situation is usually how it goes with elder care.  It's pretty rare to find a situation where someone has planned and organized going into assisted living.  It's also apparently pretty rare, outside of the YM crowd, to find people who have all their paperwork and stuff organized.

It's a small comfort at least that I am not alone in the sinking ship. 

I know I cannot control fate but at least I can make sure I am not a stubborn old bat who insists it is my girls' duty to take care of me and that's as far as I am going to cooperate and even that I will make their lives a nightmare over.

That alone would have made all this a hell of a lot easier.

[TheOtherMe]

Sept 13, 2023 8:35:51 GMT -5 cooper88 said:

Has TheOtherMe posted recently? I hope she's feeling better.

I'm alive.  Mostly sleeping.  Seems to be the best thing I can do for myself at the moment.

I have no sense of smell and am sleeping probably 75% of the time.  

Got a burst of energy last evening.  Hopefully that happens tonight.

[giramomma]

Sept 13, 2023 8:16:46 GMT -5 NomoreDramaQ1015 said:

That being said there is no way on God's green Earth anyone is going to be able to 100% fund their own nursing home care.  Let's say my grandma lives 5 years in the home that is $516,000 and that is just for room/board.  I'm assuming most people are going to live some of their retirement if not a good majority of it outside a nursing home so you're going to have to factor in a bonus $516, 000 into your retirement savings as a "just in case" that you never touch.   Not many people are going to be able to do that.

And it also doesn't take as much as you think to get there.

When DH and I were first married, making 35K, total a year, 20+ years ago, we still managed to save 10K. If we could have saved 50K over 3 years, and put that into the market, and let it ride for 50 years, between that and home equity, there would be enough.

We were fortunate that DH had generational wealth so we didn't have to do that.

I also know not many 26 year olds say to their spouse " Hey,. spouse, thanks for bringing money into the marriage. We absolutely cannot touch that money, because that's what's going to pay our end of life care."

I mean, I did.  Because I'm like that. Most 25 year olds don't want to prioritize end of life care over things like vacations for a few years.

Youth is wasted on the young...

I also think that folks aren't explicitly taught enough about the beauty of time helping you to achieve your goals.

[giramomma]

Sept 13, 2023 8:26:11 GMT -5 susana1954 said:

I'm not working today so I thought I might clean house.  That thought lasted about 45 minutes, but I got a lot done.  Now I'm thinking about reading a book.  

What are you thinking about reading?

[bean29]

Sept 13, 2023 8:47:50 GMT -5 daisylu said:

Trying to find a new bathroom scale. One that uses AA or AAA batteries, since I found a bazillion of each in the pantry.

Ok, when you find one, let me know.  I am currently using one DD had.  It does not do lbs.  It measures in Kg and then I convert it to lbs.  it is "good enough", but I really should buy a different one.  I looked on Amazon, but everything was a Chinese non-branded name, and I got overwhelmed trying to make a decision.  

I had a work event last night in the Company Suite with our accounting company.  i was out much later than normal, then still had to walk my dogs before bed.  I also must have eaten something that touched off my IBS, so I was up early with gastric issues then took a shower early, and walked the dogs, fed rabbits.  I did not actually have time to go back to bed.  I really feel like I need a nap.  I have not yet taken my Synthroid (which would help energize me).  I sometimes think it makes my IBS worse, so I am holding off a bit yet before I take it.  I so need a nap.

Pink, I hope everything goes ok for you and Mister today.  I would make sure you and Mister each have one set of dress clothes that fits.  

I have my sewing machine out b/c I was wearing a pair of pants last weekend that was too big.  I have adjusted a few things.  I was trying to take in a pair of jeans this am that is at least one size too big and I think I messed them up.  They don't look right b/c the outer seams were top stitched.  I should have just left them alone.  Now I will have to try to undo what I did.  They are olive green.  I tried to see if I could just buy a pair a size smaller, but they no longer have that color.  They do have "new" colors though.  Maybe I will just buy a pair of the new colors.  I think there is one rust color I could make work with a few blouses I have.  My work is really casual most days, so jeans are ok.  I just try to dress up if I have anyone coming in for a meeting.  I ended up putting on the dress pants I wore to lunch on Sunday with my family.  I took these it too, but I am satisfied with how they look.  I still would like to adjust the crotch which is too low for me.  I am a true Petite, the store I bought them from has both "Short" version of regular sizes and Petites in a more limited selection.  These were not a petite size, and they are less comfortable if the crotch is sitting too low.  It is like you should have a belt on and your pants are a size too big, so they are riding really low and sliding down.  I can't take the seam in the way I want b/c of the way the seams are finished on the inside.  The fit better than they did before though.  

I am embarrassed about losing my temper with my brother-in-law Sunday at lunch and telling him he is a Racist Pig, I am questioning if I should apologize to him, but I really feel that he is a Racist a$$.  I in general agree with not rocking the boat, and just not challenging someone you disagree with, but my BIL just won't leave well enough alone.  Just before I lost it, my DN also lost it on a different issue.  

Have a good day everyone.

[Cookies Galore]

Grandmom's birthday and funeral are tomorrow. I can't get Circle of Life out of my head. I'm cracking myself up, lol.

[Cookies Galore]

Good luck today, Pink!

[raeoflyte]

Sept 13, 2023 8:59:56 GMT -5 anciana said:

Sept 13, 2023 8:14:53 GMT -5 raeoflyte said:

On Monday I hit myself in the face with a stick while I was training. Nothing terrible but enough to have a good headache for 24 hours but I had my days confused so I didn't take advil. Today's the day I need to stop taking advil. I feel fine now - it really wasnt that bad - but I'm annoyed with myself.

T minus 1 week to surgery. I need to make a list.
Dogs to bathe,
food to cook,
fence off the damn grapes,
I might buy another mattress pad and fitted sheet so I can make my bed like a crib and just strip the top layer, and voila - clean sheets! Buy myself a 2nd week there.
Oh - write out "recipes" for our easy meals like tacos, spaghetti, etc so that the kids can throw those together. I’ll have cooked and frozen ground beef in the freezer to make those go together quickly.

I don't think there is much else I can prep ahead of time. But I do need chores written out to make it easier for helping to get done.

Rae, would buying precooked stuff at Costco or grocery store be an option so you don’t need to cook so much this week? Depending on what your family likes or has tried so far, of course. There are meals that can be frozen or refrigerated so they last for a good while. I remember getting things in place before giving birth years ago and cooking up a storm of lasagnas, meatballs and cooked ground beef, meatloaf, shredded chicken for the freezer for easier meals. It helped a lot. Good luck!

Thats a good idea. We'll have ravioli and carnitas from the ready made aisles and lots of pasta in the pantry.

Honestly we eat really basic things. My "cooking" probably doesn't even qualify as that with most people here. I have 6 pounds of ground beef in the crock pot now on low. I just stir it when I walk by that I'll package and freeze in 1 pound bags to make staple meals come together quick. This weekend my mom is coming over and we'll make egg rolls and potato burritos for grab and go options. I might do some lasagna and chicken enchiladas if I have extra time but that's a long shot.

I want to plan like I'll feel like crap and hope I'll feel fine. But if I plan for the former I figure it makes the latter more possible.

[raeoflyte]

Sept 13, 2023 10:13:43 GMT -5 bean29 said:

Sept 13, 2023 8:47:50 GMT -5 daisylu said:

Trying to find a new bathroom scale. One that uses AA or AAA batteries, since I found a bazillion of each in the pantry.

Ok, when you find one, let me know.  I am currently using one DD had.  It does not do lbs.  It measures in Kg and then I convert it to lbs.  it is "good enough", but I really should buy a different one.  I looked on Amazon, but everything was a Chinese non-branded name, and I got overwhelmed trying to make a decision.  

I had a work event last night in the Company Suite with our accounting company.  i was out much later than normal, then still had to walk my dogs before bed.  I also must have eaten something that touched off my IBS, so I was up early with gastric issues then took a shower early, and walked the dogs, fed rabbits.  I did not actually have time to go back to bed.  I really feel like I need a nap.  I have not yet taken my Synthroid (which would help energize me).  I sometimes think it makes my IBS worse, so I am holding off a bit yet before I take it.  I so need a nap.

Pink, I hope everything goes ok for you and Mister today.  I would make sure you and Mister each have one set of dress clothes that fits.  

I have my sewing machine out b/c I was wearing a pair of pants last weekend that was too big.  I have adjusted a few things.  I was trying to take in a pair of jeans this am that is at least one size too big and I think I messed them up.  They don't look right b/c the outer seams were top stitched.  I should have just left them alone.  Now I will have to try to undo what I did.  They are olive green.  I tried to see if I could just buy a pair a size smaller, but they no longer have that color.  They do have "new" colors though.  Maybe I will just buy a pair of the new colors.  I think there is one rust color I could make work with a few blouses I have.  My work is really casual most days, so jeans are ok.  I just try to dress up if I have anyone coming in for a meeting.  I ended up putting on the dress pants I wore to lunch on Sunday with my family.  I took these it too, but I am satisfied with how they look.  I still would like to adjust the crotch which is too low for me.  I am a true Petite, the store I bought them from has both "Short" version of regular sizes and Petites in a more limited selection.  These were not a petite size, and they are less comfortable if the crotch is sitting too low.  It is like you should have a belt on and your pants are a size too big, so they are riding really low and sliding down.  I can't take the seam in the way I want b/c of the way the seams are finished on the inside.  The fit better than they did before though.  

I am embarrassed about losing my temper with my brother-in-law Sunday at lunch and telling him he is a Racist Pig, I am questioning if I should apologize to him, but I really feel that he is a Racist a$$.  I in general agree with not rocking the boat, and just not challenging someone you disagree with, but my BIL just won't leave well enough alone.  Just before I lost it, my DN also lost it on a different issue.  

Have a good day everyone.

I kind of think we need to call out racist assholes more often. The awkward is on them for being a racist asshole in the first place.

[NomoreDramaQ1015]

When reading How to be An Anti-racist he said that racism relies heavily on being propped up by people feeling too uncomfortable to say anything.  We don't want to make a scene, be a party pooper, be left out, "ruin a man's career".  etc.

To end racism we need to shine a light on it and call it out.  The person being a racist asshat should be made uncomfortable.  Should be called to the carpet and asked to explain why they think they are right or why that particular comment/joke was funny.  

Judgement of our peers is one of the strongest motivators for humans.  If you know being a racist ass hat is going to get you shunned and ridiculed by the group you're probably going to be less likely to be a racist ass hat in the future.

Also speaking up gives others the courage to do so.  It makes people who may have considered siding with the racist ass hat think twice about sharing those views and change their own minds. 

The status quo cannot exist without enforcers. That includes those that choose to stay silent.  Don't be an enforcer.

[minnesotapaintlady]

Sept 13, 2023 10:11:30 GMT -5 giramomma said:

I also know not many 26 year olds say to their spouse " Hey,. spouse, thanks for bringing money into the marriage. We absolutely cannot touch that money, because that's what's going to pay our end of life care."

I'm 54 and STILL wouldn't say that! 

[seriousthistime]

Sept 13, 2023 10:13:43 GMT -5 bean29 said:

I am embarrassed about losing my temper with my brother-in-law Sunday at lunch and telling him he is a Racist Pig, I am questioning if I should apologize to him, but I really feel that he is a Racist a$$.  I in general agree with not rocking the boat, and just not challenging someone you disagree with, but my BIL just won't leave well enough alone.  Just before I lost it, my DN also lost it on a different issue.  

Have a good day everyone.

You were caught between a rock and a hard place.  It sounds like he likes to push people's buttons.  How did he take to your comments? He provoked you, so if I were you I would not apologize. 

It is getting to a point where I have to tell people I am not up for discussing or listening to their political viewpoints.  I have a friend who is very very far left, and she grates on my more center-left views.  We will be spending a lot of time together in the next few months and I think the only way to get through it is to just impose a no-politics zone around myself.  

[chiver78]

ohhh.....this meeting is painful.     it sounds like they are breaking for lunch soon on-site, though. woo hoo! 

[seriousthistime]

Tanita makes a good bathroom scale. Weight Watchers used to use Tanita scales in their studios, and maybe still do.  I know I could weigh myself at home, go to a meeting, and weigh within 0.2 pounds of my weight at home.  Some are quite fancy. 

Mine is similar to this one.  Pretty basic digital scale.

www.amazon.com/Tanita-UM-081-Scale-Water-Monitor/dp/B003VW1MEW/ref=sr_1_2?crid=3AANF4YKGW9E9&keywords=tanita+HD3183501%282%29&qid=1694622169&sprefix=tanita+hd3183501+2+%2Caps%2C131&sr=8-2

[toomuchreality]

Sept 13, 2023 10:01:02 GMT -5 TheOtherMe said:

Sept 13, 2023 8:35:51 GMT -5 cooper88 said:

Has TheOtherMe posted recently? I hope she's feeling better.

I'm alive.  Mostly sleeping.  Seems to be the best thing I can do for myself at the moment.

I have no sense of smell and am sleeping probably 75% of the time.  

Got a burst of energy last evening.  Hopefully that happens tonight.

Thinking of you and hoping you feel better soon!

[toomuchreality]

Sept 13, 2023 10:53:54 GMT -5 Cookies Galore said:

Grandmom's birthday and funeral are tomorrow. I can't get Circle of Life out of my head. I'm cracking myself up, lol.

Hugs ♡

[azucena]

Sept 13, 2023 10:01:02 GMT -5 TheOtherMe said:

Sept 13, 2023 8:35:51 GMT -5 cooper88 said:

Has TheOtherMe posted recently? I hope she's feeling better.

I'm alive.  Mostly sleeping.  Seems to be the best thing I can do for myself at the moment.

I have no sense of smell and am sleeping probably 75% of the time.  

Got a burst of energy last evening.  Hopefully that happens tonight.

I'm betting there are at least a couple of us checking your online activity each morning 


Somehow got myself roped into being asst coach for 5/6th vball. Got our first win last night. They finally stopped letting the serves splat next to them (mostly).

Then, went to play my own softball games at 830 and 930. My brain was all confused like isn't this pj and bedtime?! Hit a triple and played a decent hot corner 3rd base including a tag on a slider. Didn't get home until 1130 and my entire body is squawking bout it.

[seriousthistime]

All this talk of nursing homes and such is hitting home here. 

I have a friend, a year older than me, whose father had early onset Alzheimer's and passed in his 60s.  Her mother had cognition issues and went to assisted living and then into a skilled nursing facility in her 80s.  My friend has always been spacey, and would ask us to remind her to do such and such.  She would pay bills late.  She would send in CC payments that exceeded the balance and then work off a credit for a few months to minimize late payment fees.  She felt the insurance company and storage facility should not just send her a notice that she was late with a payment but should actually pick up the phone and call her. She came from a privileged upbringing and we thought it was her expectation that people should do things for her. She was very disorganized and had multiple notebooks in her purse to write things down and then would forget where she wrote it.   That kind of thing. 

So because she has always been this way, we didn't recognize that she was showing signs of cognitive decline. But lately there have been glaring instances where it seems there really is an issue beyond normal aging.  None of her kids live close by, but one is starting to spend more time here with her as she has been working hybrid/remote.  My friend said that her kids have concerns and want her to get checked out. But knowing her kids, they will rely on friends to do some of the heavy lifting to watch over their mom and keep her entertained. This would be quite fine with my friend because she's very extroverted and social and is unhappy to stay home without social interaction.  

Seeing this with the older generation was different than seeing it in your peers.