what are you doing right now?

[busymom]

Well, we WERE planning to try & visit MIL soon, but just found out some residents in her senior complex have tested positive for Covid.  Nope.  We love her, but not going to expose ourselves or DS.  

[daisylu]

Sorry about your planned trips, finnime & busymom .

I don't know anyone who has contacted Covid in the last couple of months, but could just be they aren't testing if symptoms aren't too bad. Makes me want to look up my county.

[cooper88]

It seems like Covid is everywhere again. I know in my county multiple flu cases have already popped up also.

[countrygirl2]

I did well outside today. I only work for 2 or 3 hours anymore, just wear out to easily. I got the weeds out of the circular bed in front. It's half full of mums I planted this spring, they didn't have weeds in them. I told hubs I'm going to fill that bed with them. And every stem has a bud on it, if all those bloom, they are going to be masses of color. I did water them too as they were very dry. The other half of the bed had been lilies and plants, they are done for this year so cut them all down. I filled my big lawn wagon with dead flowers and weeds. Trimmed around a tree and raked it up. I unloaded the wagon of weeds out back and the mower accelerator quit. Something has become disconnected and hubs hasn't found it so far. That Kubota mower is over 10 years old and first time we have had an issue with it. We just use it for the wagon and occasional mowing. But we had to pull it out to the garage. I just took the big mower around and mowed down the mounds of weeds and debris I had pulled. I also cleaned the left side of the landscaping in the front and my roses by the hydrant and on the right side of the house. I'm down to corner in the front which won't take long and my rosebushes in the fence line. I was just to tired to do more. Plus my trimmers need replaced, they are dull, so things look better here, just need to finish.

I was so hungry made me a couple of bratwurst and sauerkraut, not bad. Fixed DD a cheeseburger. Hubs will eat a little later.

I'm thinking of drinking a glass of water and taking a nap, I am beyond tired.

Also ordering me some new shrub trimmers, these will be battery operated.

[finnime]

Made oatmeal cookies with Craisins with DD. They're good.

[NoNamePerson]

Sept 10, 2023 16:13:03 GMT -5 finnime said:

Made oatmeal cookies with Craisins with DD. They're good.

See this board does good! You just reminded me to add Craisins to shopping list. I use them in so many things and saw where not many left in package this morning. 

[andi9899]

The neighbor that the FBI took is back. She has a fancy new ankle monitor too!

[ners]

Sorry about your change in plans finnime and busymom.

Still have not really found my motivation.  Did go grocery shopping now to finish the laundry.  

[jerseygirl]

Sept 10, 2023 16:13:03 GMT -5 finnime said:

Made oatmeal cookies with Craisins with DD. They're good.

LOVE oatmeal cookies with craisins! I also make oatmeal with craisins and brown sugar

[NoNamePerson]

Sept 10, 2023 16:33:47 GMT -5 andi9899 said:

The neighbor that the FBI took is back. She has a fancy new ankle monitor too!

Maybe you can hack into monitor and get her picked up again   Do it enough times and maybe they will jail her! Ok a bit extreme but one can dream. 

[giramomma]

Sept 10, 2023 16:44:42 GMT -5 ners said:

Sorry about your change in plans finnime and busymom .

Still have not really found my motivation.  Did go grocery shopping now to finish the laundry.  

I didn't do much today.

[NomoreDramaQ1015]

Never taking two nine year Olds and a 13 year old to the mall by myself ever again.

Good God. I should have packed purse Tylenol.

I don't care what I have to bribe DH with I'll agree. That's a freaking two parent job.

[Pink Cashmere]

Mister has spent the day playing with the speakers in the Tahoe. I’m glad he found something to do to distract him. 

I have no idea what’s for dinner tonight. DS got some stuff out of the deep freezer for us yesterday, but it all just got moved to the freezer in the house. Nothing is thawed out and we don’t have any vegetables. I really need to go to the grocery store, but my stomach has been acting up to the point I’m back to where I kinda don’t even want to think about food.  But that doesn’t mean Mister doesn’t need to eat. I’ll figure something out.

[NastyWoman]

Did you ever find out why your neighbor was picked up andi9899? Curious mind (aka nosy poster) wants to know and may have missed the relevant update.

In other news, and far less urgent than it is for opti, we are now also waiting for some kind of plumbing service.  There is a leak in the pump house of our pool and water is leaking into ? (not a clue where) but now the pool is closed until the issue is fixed and the water level has been restored -> it is down by 1.5ft right now so I suspect swimming is not happening until the end of the week. Too bad as it is perfect pool weather with temps around 80°. Still.. I have water so not complaining too loudly

[daisylu]

Picked up DD and visited my mom today. I had planned all week to check in on mom and then last night DH was worried about DD's mental health, because she was posting some odd stuff on FB. So I invited her to go see mom, and we got some alone time in the car. DD is ok, just had more time on her hands because her work schedule changed.

Mom is not ok. Doctor had her on a high dose of an antidepressant, but she kept falling asleep at odd times of the day. They halfed the dosage, but I still don't think it is right. Encouraged her to ask for something else. Not sure if she will. She is rarely leaving the house now. This is a woman who loves to shop and find deals. She watches sister's kids M-F and Saturday has always been her day out. She mentioned that she could not find her treasured football jersey and then said it had to be in 1 of 2 closets, but one had a couple of cases of soda in front of the door that she didn't feel like messing with. Dad is now doing most of the cooking and housework, which has never been like that in her house. And dad is one of those "just do something to make yourself feel better people". He got mad when she didn't want to go out yesterday and left without her. And he refuses to talk about her issues and leaves the room when we are discussing it. It is really weird though because he has ALWAYS been concerned and supportive of DD and her mental health issues. I am beyond wondered, but other than talking to her everyday and encouraging her to seek other help there isn't much I can do. Sure has also lost about 30 pounds that she didn't need to lose. I just don't know what to do.

And sister, who has the opportunity to see mom everyday is not, won't talk to me about mom which is really pissing me off because mom does so much for her. It feels like she wants to act like nothing is wrong because then she would have to step up take care of her own shit.

[countrygirl2]

I drifted on and off to sleep. Didn't do me any good still had to fix food for DH. I made him 2 cheeseburgers with the last of the ground round, baked a potato, gave him an avocado and cottage cheese. He is happy with a meal like that and its quick so that is done. Now I need to wash the dishes, hubs cleared the table.

I have one bratwurst and polish sauerkraut left. I ate earlier so I had some cottage cheese and watermelon to top it off, not bad. I don't think things sell very fast here so not so fresh as it should be.
 
Done for today as I said. 

I hope to find some fresh green beans this week. I really like them cooked with bacon and small potatoes.

[NancysSummerSip]

Sept 10, 2023 16:33:47 GMT -5 andi9899 said:

The neighbor that the FBI took is back. She has a fancy new ankle monitor too!

Would it be wrong to go over, point at it and say, "OOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOHHHHHHHHHHH SHINY!!!!!!!!!"

[ners]

daisylu Sorry you are having to deal with your mother with no help from your sister.  Glad your daughter is okay and hope she can find something to fill her time now that her work schedule changed.

[Opti]

Sept 10, 2023 17:47:02 GMT -5 NastyWoman said:

Did you ever find out why your neighbor was picked up andi9899 ? Curious mind (aka nosy poster) wants to know and may have missed the relevant update.

In other news, and far less urgent than it is for opti, we are now also waiting for some kind of plumbing service.  There is a leak in the pump house of our pool and water is leaking into ? (not a clue where) but now the pool is closed until the issue is fixed and the water level has been restored -> it is down by 1.5ft right now so I suspect swimming is not happening until the end of the week. Too bad as it is perfect pool weather with temps around 80°. Still.. I have water so not complaining too loudly

I hope your plumbing issue gets fixed soon. Water is back, but I did not see a plumber so I have a feeling the cop had them open up the main water main and it will be shut off again in the morning. Raining again so it might be bad enough to encroach on basement storage. The complex has needed to roto route the drain outside the entrance for several years, but they keep doing nothing. 

I want to know if any more dogs need to be saved from andi's neighbor. I am curious about the why of the ankle monitor too.

[susana1954]

Sept 10, 2023 17:21:13 GMT -5 NomoreDramaQ1015 said:

Never taking two nine year Olds and a 13 year old to the mall by myself ever again.

Good God. I should have packed purse Tylenol.

I don't care what I have to bribe DH with I'll agree. That's a freaking two parent job.

I learned this when I took two granddaughters, aged 14 and 12, to Ultima with my sister to spend the gift cards she gave them.  After 20 minutes, the older one told me they often spend hours there.  This was after spending a couple of hours already in search of the perfect jeans and t-shirts.

I pointed out that it was ok to go home with $$$ left on the gift card, and they had 20 more minutes to shop.

I thought I was generous with my time, but I'm sure they would disagree.

[TheOtherMe]

This covid variant is not fun.  Keep yourselves safe.

[Pink Cashmere]

Sept 10, 2023 17:51:04 GMT -5 daisylu said:

Picked up DD and visited my mom today. I had planned all week to check in on mom and then last night DH was worried about DD's mental health, because she was posting some odd stuff on FB. So I invited her to go see mom, and we got some alone time in the car. DD is ok, just had more time on her hands because her work schedule changed.

Mom is not ok. Doctor had her on a high dose of an antidepressant, but she kept falling asleep at odd times of the day. They halfed the dosage, but I still don't think it is right. Encouraged her to ask for something else. Not sure if she will. She is rarely leaving the house now. This is a woman who loves to shop and find deals. She watches sister's kids M-F and Saturday has always been her day out. She mentioned that she could not find her treasured football jersey and then said it had to be in 1 of 2 closets, but one had a couple of cases of soda in front of the door that she didn't feel like messing with. Dad is now doing most of the cooking and housework, which has never been like that in her house. And dad is one of those "just do something to make yourself feel better people". He got mad when she didn't want to go out yesterday and left without her. And he refuses to talk about her issues and leaves the room when we are discussing it. It is really weird though because he has ALWAYS been concerned and supportive of DD and her mental health issues. I am beyond wondered, but other than talking to her everyday and encouraging her to seek other help there isn't much I can do. Sure has also lost about 30 pounds that she didn't need to lose. I just don't know what to do.

And sister, who has the opportunity to see mom everyday is not, won't talk to me about mom which is really pissing me off because mom does so much for her. It feels like she wants to act like nothing is wrong because then she would have to step up take care of her own shit.

Do you think maybe your Dad is afraid to acknowledge that whatever is going on with your Mom isn’t as simple as just doing something to make herself feel better?

I would be pissed at your sister too. If Mom isn’t doing all that well physically or mentally, that means sister needs to find someone else to care for her children while she’s working or whatever. It is easier to just pretend nothing is going on with Mom, and maintain the status quo. 

I am sorry about your Mom not being okay.

[daisylu]

Sept 10, 2023 18:29:14 GMT -5 TheOtherMe said:

This covid variant is not fun.  Keep yourselves safe.

Oh no. Sending positive vibes your way.

[weltschmerz]

I went grocery shopping because toilet paper is $3,99 if you're a member.
On the way home, a beautiful caramel colored man with dreadlocks stopped me and asked "Do you need any help carrying your bags, ma'am? "
Oh, he was gorgeous! If only I was 50 years younger.....

[Pink Cashmere]

Sept 10, 2023 18:28:28 GMT -5 susana1954 said:

Sept 10, 2023 17:21:13 GMT -5 NomoreDramaQ1015 said:

Never taking two nine year Olds and a 13 year old to the mall by myself ever again.

Good God. I should have packed purse Tylenol.

I don't care what I have to bribe DH with I'll agree. That's a freaking two parent job.

I learned this when I took two granddaughters, aged 14 and 12, to Ultima with my sister to spend the gift cards she gave them.  After 20 minutes, the older one told me they often spend hours there.  This was after spending a couple of hours already in search of the perfect jeans and t-shirts.

I pointed out that it was ok to go home with $$$ left on the gift card, and they had 20 more minutes to shop.

I thought I was generous with my time, but I'm sure they would disagree.

I remember a couple years ago, going into Claire’s to get some nose rings. There was a man in there with a couple of tweens who were obviously spending their own money, and didn’t have enough and had to make some decisions and put stuff back, and so on and so forth lol. They took forever, and the man apologized to me. I smiled and told him it was fine, and I meant it.

[daisylu]

Sept 10, 2023 18:35:29 GMT -5 Pink Cashmere said:

Sept 10, 2023 17:51:04 GMT -5 daisylu said:

Picked up DD and visited my mom today. I had planned all week to check in on mom and then last night DH was worried about DD's mental health, because she was posting some odd stuff on FB. So I invited her to go see mom, and we got some alone time in the car. DD is ok, just had more time on her hands because her work schedule changed.

Mom is not ok. Doctor had her on a high dose of an antidepressant, but she kept falling asleep at odd times of the day. They halfed the dosage, but I still don't think it is right. Encouraged her to ask for something else. Not sure if she will. She is rarely leaving the house now. This is a woman who loves to shop and find deals. She watches sister's kids M-F and Saturday has always been her day out. She mentioned that she could not find her treasured football jersey and then said it had to be in 1 of 2 closets, but one had a couple of cases of soda in front of the door that she didn't feel like messing with. Dad is now doing most of the cooking and housework, which has never been like that in her house. And dad is one of those "just do something to make yourself feel better people". He got mad when she didn't want to go out yesterday and left without her. And he refuses to talk about her issues and leaves the room when we are discussing it. It is really weird though because he has ALWAYS been concerned and supportive of DD and her mental health issues. I am beyond wondered, but other than talking to her everyday and encouraging her to seek other help there isn't much I can do. Sure has also lost about 30 pounds that she didn't need to lose. I just don't know what to do.

And sister, who has the opportunity to see mom everyday is not, won't talk to me about mom which is really pissing me off because mom does so much for her. It feels like she wants to act like nothing is wrong because then she would have to step up take care of her own shit.

Do you think maybe your Dad is afraid to acknowledge that whatever is going on with your Mom isn’t as simple as just doing something to make herself feel better?

I would be pissed at your sister too. If Mom isn’t doing all that well physically or mentally, that means sister needs to find someone else to care for her children while she’s working or whatever. It is easier to just pretend nothing is going on with Mom, and maintain the status quo. 

I am sorry about your Mom not being okay.

I do think that about dad. Like I said, he had been concerned and supportive of DD seeking help for her mental issues - while making sure that I was on top of it. I think mom's situation is a little more difficult for him. My mom has always had her ways, but was mostly healthy. I think it is more an issue of this person that you have married to 49 years is now having issues with mental health, and he doesn't know how to deal with it. And my dad is a "fixer" and he can't fix this, as much as he might try.

I appreciate all good thoughts and prayers as I try to navigate this.

[NomoreDramaQ1015]

Sept 10, 2023 18:28:28 GMT -5 susana1954 said:

Sept 10, 2023 17:21:13 GMT -5 NomoreDramaQ1015 said:

Never taking two nine year Olds and a 13 year old to the mall by myself ever again.

Good God. I should have packed purse Tylenol.

I don't care what I have to bribe DH with I'll agree. That's a freaking two parent job.

I learned this when I took two granddaughters, aged 14 and 12, to Ultima with my sister to spend the gift cards she gave them.  After 20 minutes, the older one told me they often spend hours there.  This was after spending a couple of hours already in search of the perfect jeans and t-shirts.

I pointed out that it was ok to go home with $$$ left on the gift card, and they had 20 more minutes to shop.

I thought I was generous with my time, but I'm sure they would disagree.

I mean I used to spend time at the mall but by then we were driving ourselves and could wander around unsupervised and without each other then meet up.

I'm not letting two nine year olds wander around without me.

It was like corraling cats. I got to where if I left with three it was good enough. Did not care if it was the three I came in with.

Plus the mall sucks anymore they are shells compared to what they once were.

Jordan Creek in Des Moines was pretty nice.

[giramomma]

Sept 10, 2023 18:44:51 GMT -5 daisylu said:

I do think that about dad. Like I said, he had been concerned and supportive of DD seeking help for her mental issues - while making sure that I was on top of it. I think mom's situation is a little more difficult for him. My mom has always had her ways, but was mostly healthy. I think it is more an issue of this person that you have married to 49 years is now having issues with mental health, and he doesn't know how to deal with it. And my dad is a "fixer" and he can't fix this, as much as he might try.

I appreciate all good thoughts and prayers as I try to navigate this.

Could you get your parents plugged into jewish social services?

They have services in my neck of the woods, they have folks that drive folks to appointments, help with errands/grocery shopping, etc.

I don't know how old your parents are, i'm guessing at least mid 70s. It's not unreasonable.

Jewish Social services also offers mental health care.

Another adult agency told my mom to get help through them.

[andi9899]

Sept 10, 2023 17:03:21 GMT -5 NoNamePerson said:

Sept 10, 2023 16:33:47 GMT -5 andi9899 said:

The neighbor that the FBI took is back. She has a fancy new ankle monitor too!

Maybe you can hack into monitor and get her picked up again   Do it enough times and maybe they will jail her! Ok a bit extreme but one can dream. 

I told T2 she (neighbor) better not get mouthy with me. I'll straight up tell her "at least I don't have a curfew, bitch!"

[andi9899]

Sept 10, 2023 17:47:02 GMT -5 NastyWoman said:

Did you ever find out why your neighbor was picked up andi9899? Curious mind (aka nosy poster) wants to know and may have missed the relevant update.

In other news, and far less urgent than it is for opti, we are now also waiting for some kind of plumbing service.  There is a leak in the pump house of our pool and water is leaking into ? (not a clue where) but now the pool is closed until the issue is fixed and the water level has been restored -> it is down by 1.5ft right now so I suspect swimming is not happening until the end of the week. Too bad as it is perfect pool weather with temps around 80°. Still.. I have water so not complaining too loudly

No. I looked everywhere! I asked family in law enforcement. Nothing. I was basically internet stalking the FBI. Then I was worried that they'd start wondering why so I stopped.