what are you doing right now?

[daisylu]

Sept 7, 2023 10:30:19 GMT -5 andi9899 said:

Sept 7, 2023 10:16:23 GMT -5 giramomma said:

I am so jealous.

Me too. I have 20+ years.

Same. 

[andi9899]

Sept 7, 2023 9:00:13 GMT -5 NomoreDramaQ1015 said:

Sept 7, 2023 8:32:44 GMT -5 TheOtherMe said:

There are lots of articles online about what happens if you die intestate in Tennessee.  When someone in the family is up to it, I'd suggest they read up on how it works.  Life insurance goes to the named beneficiary outside of the estate as does the retirement account.

Court appoints an executor and every penny has to be accounted for to the court.  In Mister's dad's case, his heirs are his two songs if there are any assets to distribute.  Says it's about a 12 month process because the court appoints the executor.  

The bank may have frozen his accounts until an estate account is set up.  

Brother better get busy finding a job then.

Seriously why should Mister have to be involved in any of this?  Brother wants the house and the car.  Brother needs money to support himself.  Let brother handle it.  It takes him 12 months to get it sorted and in the meantime the house gets foreclosed and the car repossessed?

Whelp Karm's a bitch dude.

Maybe it's because I am the responsible kid that I am projecting onto Mister more than I should and think he should burn it to ground/salt the Earth.   The only one that benefits from Mister taking over everything is his brother.   Taking care of his parents was one thing.  Shouldering responsibility for the estate so his mooching brother doesn't have to get his shit together is another thing entirely.

His parents are dead all that is left is stuff.  If Mister doesn't want the stuff he shouldn't have to deal with said stuff.  There is another adult, in fact several adults, who could take over doing all that.  Let them.  They were sure quick to criticize Mister and listen to all of Mr. Messy's lies.   Well if they think they can do better have at it!

I feel for Mister. I know this is going to be me should my parents die. I'm going to have to evict my sister or let her figure out how to buy me out. Luckily mom and dad don't owe on anything. Everything they have is free and clear. I'm pretty sure my sister has no plan to move out.

[NoNamePerson]

Sept 6, 2023 21:15:24 GMT -5 The Walk of the Penguin Mich said:

Sept 6, 2023 19:02:26 GMT -5 NoNamePerson said:

I grew up next to really old cemetery! I love old cemeteries. When I was a kid I did rubbings of some of carvings on head stones. #2 pencil and plain paper. We played hide and seek there. But we never stepped on a grave. Somewhere over the years I lost my notebook. To this day when I travel I will hunt out old cemeteries to visit if I can fit it in. Like you said so much history! Ah, down memory lane I go   Although three weeks ago I went on one of “oh sh## I’m lost trips” in south part of county and came up on cemetery that still had some wooden headstones.

One of our last stops on the world cruise was in Halifax, and we went to the cemetery that some of the unclaimed bodies from the Titanic were buried.  Survivors were taken to NY, the deceased Halifax.  There are a couple cemeteries in Halifax that have Titanic deceased, this one had 18 souls.  If they knew the names or could figure them out, they were named.  One of the deceased was identified from a prescription bottle in her pocket, where they needed to go back to the pharmacist in Ireland.  

What an interesting fact. Had no idea about the burials of Titanic passengers. One cemetery that I would like to visit is the Ardennes American Cemetery. It is where my father is "buried" (body never recovered) I know I will not make it there but one of our members here stood in for me and found my father's marker and placed flowers and took pictures for me! I will be forever grateful to her.

[chiver78]

ugh. if it's not one pup, it's the other. daycare called right after I dropped Punk off with an alert, and then again an hour ago to come pick her up - she was passing blood clots when she peed. we are currently in the parking lot at the vet, waiting to head in. please keep your fingers crossed that this isn't anything serious.

[minnesotapaintlady]

Sept 7, 2023 10:36:37 GMT -5 andi9899 said:

I'm going to look at this today. I'm still leaning towards the KS townhouse, but we'll see.

www.realtor.com/realestateandhomes-detail/M8779315163?identityID=624a68fe-4870-4e12-bf1a-0a9415ed2268&MID=LeadConfirmation_2023_RENTAL_PROD&RID=26214839362&cid=eml_trans_LeadConfirmation_202305_Rentals_cons.16554562_LeadConfirmation_2023_RENTAL_PROD-hero_image-RDC

Interesting setup.  I'm intrigued by the center area.  Is it a big "central park" or another private property?  No address, so it seems like park.

[andi9899]

Sept 7, 2023 10:45:59 GMT -5 minnesotapaintlady said:

Sept 7, 2023 10:36:37 GMT -5 andi9899 said:

I'm going to look at this today. I'm still leaning towards the KS townhouse, but we'll see.

www.realtor.com/realestateandhomes-detail/M8779315163?identityID=624a68fe-4870-4e12-bf1a-0a9415ed2268&MID=LeadConfirmation_2023_RENTAL_PROD&RID=26214839362&cid=eml_trans_LeadConfirmation_202305_Rentals_cons.16554562_LeadConfirmation_2023_RENTAL_PROD-hero_image-RDC

Interesting setup.  I'm intrigued by the center area.  Is it a big "central park" or another private property?  No address, so it seems like park.

I don't know. Probably just woods. There is a park around the corner.

[minnesotapaintlady]

Sept 7, 2023 10:50:54 GMT -5 andi9899 said:

Sept 7, 2023 10:45:59 GMT -5 minnesotapaintlady said:

Interesting setup.  I'm intrigued by the center area.  Is it a big "central park" or another private property?  No address, so it seems like park.

I don't know. Probably just woods. There is a park around the corner.

I've just never seen gaps in property lines like that.  Here the property lines would go all the way back and you'd own the woods too up until you bumped into the neighbors. There isn't "un-owned land" in between.

[bean29]

A few weeks ago, my niece's house burned down.  It was a doublewide in GA that she had just purchased.  They had been collecting $$ to have a Quinceanera for her oldest DD (15).  DH had not sent $$ yet.  The $$ collected did survive the fire, but the family of 8 lost their home, of course no insurance.  DH and I generally don't feel the need to help people who can't be bothered to carry insurance.  They have been living with DH's Brother and SIL.  They also live in a doublewide although I think he owned other homes in the area he lives in.  DH sent about $1500 to cover expenses to his DB a few weeks ago.  Another brother stopped by the office to borrow $700 to pay his "crew" (he does roofing jobs).  He never came back around to pay DH back.  That is unusual for him.  DH had mentioned it to me last weekend b/c he was a bit irked.  So, now his SIL texted us last night that same brother was arrested for OWI.  My DH says he will not help.  I warned DH that we cannot help everyone in our families and still expect to retire.  I have said before I don't go to work to pay other people's bills.  The brother that lives in GA called DH after he got the text.  DH told him their SIL has never felt the need to work Full time and he should not feel that he needs to help them.  

While my DH said he would not help, I am afraid he will turn around and help somehow.  We have way too much cash sitting in our accounts.  It is there as liquid investments b/c we plan to do some remodelling work on the house we live in and DH's office.  I think I am going to some more in the MM at US bank.  It is joint with DH but as long as it is not in the main checking, I think DH will be less willing to borrow it out.  I just am not entirely comfortable with having too much $$ at US bank.  Rn it is about $35,000.  I will probably add $50,000 to that.  The other option is to do a CD ladder of some kind.

[giramomma]

Sept 7, 2023 10:30:19 GMT -5 andi9899 said:

Sept 7, 2023 10:16:23 GMT -5 giramomma said:

I am so jealous.

Me too. I have 20+ years.

I have 7-10, depending.

[raeoflyte]

Sept 7, 2023 11:08:17 GMT -5 bean29 said:

A few weeks ago, my niece's house burned down.  It was a doublewide in GA that she had just purchased.  They had been collecting $$ to have a Quinceanera for her oldest DD (15).  DH had not sent $$ yet.  The $$ collected did survive the fire, but the family of 8 lost their home, of course no insurance.  DH and I generally don't feel the need to help people who can't be bothered to carry insurance.  They have been living with DH's Brother and SIL.  They also live in a doublewide although I think he owned other homes in the area he lives in.  DH sent about $1500 to cover expenses to his DB a few weeks ago.  Another brother stopped by the office to borrow $700 to pay his "crew" (he does roofing jobs).  He never came back around to pay DH back.  That is unusual for him.  DH had mentioned it to me last weekend b/c he was a bit irked.  So, now his SIL texted us last night that same brother was arrested for OWI.  My DH says he will not help.  I warned DH that we cannot help everyone in our families and still expect to retire.  I have said before I don't go to work to pay other people's bills.  The brother that lives in GA called DH after he got the text.  DH told him their SIL has never felt the need to work Full time and he should not feel that he needs to help them.  

While my DH said he would not help, I am afraid he will turn around and help somehow.  We have way too much cash sitting in our accounts.  It is there as liquid investments b/c we plan to do some remodelling work on the house we live in and DH's office.  I think I am going to some more in the MM at US bank.  It is joint with DH but as long as it is not in the main checking, I think DH will be less willing to borrow it out.  I just am not entirely comfortable with having too much $$ at US bank.  Rn it is about $35,000.  I will probably add $50,000 to that.  The other option is to do a CD ladder of some kind.

I'm so sorry about your niece. I agree about the insurance but I feel for them.

[raeoflyte]

Sept 7, 2023 10:41:53 GMT -5 daisylu said:

Sept 7, 2023 10:30:19 GMT -5 andi9899 said:

Me too. I have 20+ years.

Same. 

I'm planning on 20+ too.

[raeoflyte]

Sept 7, 2023 10:39:32 GMT -5 minnesotapaintlady said:

Sept 7, 2023 10:30:19 GMT -5 andi9899 said:

Me too. I have 20+ years.

If it's any consolation, I'd rather be 40.

That makes me wonder if I'm missing something about being in my 40's...

[Deleted]

When DH went through his prostate challenges, I did not accompany him to any appointments other than the actual surgery, and the first post-op appointment as he was not allowed to drive (I stayed in the waiting room).  He made the decision for surgery on his own.  For some time I was a bit hurt by all that, but if I'm going to support "My Body, My Choice", which I do, I have to recognize that the other side gets to make decisions for their own body as well.  

I think it's often easier for a man to discuss relevant issues such as sexual dysfunction and urinary incontinence with his physician without his intimate partner present.  

[Pink Cashmere]

Sept 7, 2023 10:44:38 GMT -5 chiver78 said:

ugh. if it's not one pup, it's the other. daycare called right after I dropped Punk off with an alert, and then again an hour ago to come pick her up - she was passing blood clots when she peed. we are currently in the parking lot at the vet, waiting to head in. please keep your fingers crossed that this isn't anything serious.

Oh no! Let us know what they say, please.

[Deleted]

Sept 7, 2023 11:08:17 GMT -5 bean29 said:

A few weeks ago, my niece's house burned down.  It was a doublewide in GA that she had just purchased.  They had been collecting $$ to have a Quinceanera for her oldest DD (15).  DH had not sent $$ yet.  The $$ collected did survive the fire, but the family of 8 lost their home, of course no insurance.  DH and I generally don't feel the need to help people who can't be bothered to carry insurance.  They have been living with DH's Brother and SIL.  They also live in a doublewide although I think he owned other homes in the area he lives in.  DH sent about $1500 to cover expenses to his DB a few weeks ago.  Another brother stopped by the office to borrow $700 to pay his "crew" (he does roofing jobs).  He never came back around to pay DH back.  That is unusual for him.  DH had mentioned it to me last weekend b/c he was a bit irked.  So, now his SIL texted us last night that same brother was arrested for OWI.  My DH says he will not help.  I warned DH that we cannot help everyone in our families and still expect to retire.  I have said before I don't go to work to pay other people's bills.  The brother that lives in GA called DH after he got the text.  DH told him their SIL has never felt the need to work Full time and he should not feel that he needs to help them.  

While my DH said he would not help, I am afraid he will turn around and help somehow.  We have way too much cash sitting in our accounts.  It is there as liquid investments b/c we plan to do some remodelling work on the house we live in and DH's office.  I think I am going to some more in the MM at US bank.  It is joint with DH but as long as it is not in the main checking, I think DH will be less willing to borrow it out.  I just am not entirely comfortable with having too much $$ at US bank.  Rn it is about $35,000.  I will probably add $50,000 to that.  The other option is to do a CD ladder of some kind.

I'm sorry for your family members losses and problems, but those came from choices they made that you and your DH aren't responsible for.  

[minnesotapaintlady]

Sept 7, 2023 11:16:54 GMT -5 giramomma said:

Sept 7, 2023 10:30:19 GMT -5 andi9899 said:

Me too. I have 20+ years.

I have 7-10, depending.

I have a lot of "depending" too.  Mainly on Carrot.  If he goes to school and stays a dependent, the tax perks of keeping an earned income might be too hard to pass up. Of course, I don't have to do THIS and I don't have to work 40 hours either.

[minnesotapaintlady]

Sept 7, 2023 11:28:41 GMT -5 raeoflyte said:

Sept 7, 2023 10:39:32 GMT -5 minnesotapaintlady said:

If it's any consolation, I'd rather be 40.

That makes me wonder if I'm missing something about being in my 40's...

You'll figure it out when you're 54. 

[daisylu]

Sept 7, 2023 10:44:38 GMT -5 chiver78 said:

ugh. if it's not one pup, it's the other. daycare called right after I dropped Punk off with an alert, and then again an hour ago to come pick her up - she was passing blood clots when she peed. we are currently in the parking lot at the vet, waiting to head in. please keep your fingers crossed that this isn't anything serious.

That sucks. Hope Punk is ok.

[NoNamePerson]

Sept 7, 2023 11:39:34 GMT -5 minnesotapaintlady said:

Sept 7, 2023 11:28:41 GMT -5 raeoflyte said:

That makes me wonder if I'm missing something about being in my 40's...

You'll figure it out when you're 54. 

 Wait till you're 80     54 is a mere baby!!!!!

[raeoflyte]

Sept 7, 2023 11:39:34 GMT -5 minnesotapaintlady said:

Sept 7, 2023 11:28:41 GMT -5 raeoflyte said:

That makes me wonder if I'm missing something about being in my 40's...

You'll figure it out when you're 54. 

Isn't that how it always works. Lol.

[giramomma]

Sept 7, 2023 11:39:34 GMT -5 minnesotapaintlady said:

Sept 7, 2023 11:28:41 GMT -5 raeoflyte said:

That makes me wonder if I'm missing something about being in my 40's...

You'll figure it out when you're 54. 

I dunno. I'm almost 48, so not that far off from 50s.

My 40's sucked. My 30's weren't good, either. Didn't quite suck like my 40s.  My 20's were fine only because i was naive and dumb. Once you factor in me being naive and dumb, they weren't all that good, either.

I hope to god I get cut a break and can enjoy my 50s. Honestly, I'd even settle for decent experience for my 50s.

[Cookies Galore]

Sept 7, 2023 10:39:32 GMT -5 minnesotapaintlady said:

Sept 7, 2023 10:30:19 GMT -5 andi9899 said:

Me too. I have 20+ years.

If it's any consolation, I'd rather be 40.

Gotta say, being a childfree DINK in my early 40s has been fanfuckingtastic! Do recommend.

[minnesotapaintlady]

Sept 7, 2023 12:10:31 GMT -5 giramomma said:

Sept 7, 2023 11:39:34 GMT -5 minnesotapaintlady said:

You'll figure it out when you're 54. 

I dunno. I'm almost 48, so not that far off from 50s.

My 40's sucked. My 30's weren't good, either. Didn't quite suck like my 40s.  My 20's were fine only because i was naive and dumb. Once you factor in me being naive and dumb, they weren't all that good, either.

I hope to god I get cut a break and can enjoy my 50s. Honestly, I'd even settle for decent experience for my 50s.

Well, here's hoping you're one of those "I feel better in my 70's then I did in my 30's!" people.

I seem to be following the natural physical decline.  Eyes going, hair going, weight gaining, knees aching...

Experience-wise my 50's are just as enjoyable as my 40's and 30's.  It's just lots more aches and pains and less motivation.

[chiver78]

Sept 7, 2023 12:21:01 GMT -5 Cookies Galore said:

Sept 7, 2023 10:39:32 GMT -5 minnesotapaintlady said:

If it's any consolation, I'd rather be 40.

Gotta say, being a childfree DINK in my early 40s has been fanfuckingtastic! Do recommend.

I would be living quite large with a 2nd income like mine. very jealous over here. 

[chiver78]

we are back from the vet, with a load of antibiotics for Punk. vet says two reasons for peeing blood - UTI, or bladder tumors. so, out comes the ultrasound cart.....beautiful clear image of a healthy and tumor-free bladder. without a urine sample to test, we're just going to douse her with meds and test the urine afterward. phew.

she just doesn't exhibit symptoms much, and with keeping LD contained for recovery, I just open the deck gate and just let her go. I'm not seeing her pee when she goes.    so now I just need to update the daycare, since they were all worried as well. 

[The Walk of the Penguin Mich]

Sept 7, 2023 10:50:54 GMT -5 andi9899 said:

Sept 7, 2023 10:45:59 GMT -5 minnesotapaintlady said:

Interesting setup.  I'm intrigued by the center area.  Is it a big "central park" or another private property?  No address, so it seems like park.

I don't know. Probably just woods. There is a park around the corner.

We have a lot of green belts like this.  Some are privately owned, some are owned by the city.  
In our development, one of the green belts like this (which would probably be large enough for 6 good sized houses) is owned by our neighbor, where she inherited it from her dad.  The other one is owned by TD.  I don’t know how many offers Chris has gotten for her property, but we have gotten a lot over the years.  

[Peace77]

Sept 7, 2023 10:36:37 GMT -5 andi9899 said:

I'm going to look at this today. I'm still leaning towards the KS townhouse, but we'll see.

www.realtor.com/realestateandhomes-detail/M8779315163?identityID=624a68fe-4870-4e12-bf1a-0a9415ed2268&MID=LeadConfirmation_2023_RENTAL_PROD&RID=26214839362&cid=eml_trans_LeadConfirmation_202305_Rentals_cons.16554562_LeadConfirmation_2023_RENTAL_PROD-hero_image-RDC

Very strange that there are no pictures of a kitchen.

[NoNamePerson]

Sept 7, 2023 13:17:20 GMT -5 Peace77 said:

Sept 7, 2023 10:36:37 GMT -5 andi9899 said:

I'm going to look at this today. I'm still leaning towards the KS townhouse, but we'll see.

www.realtor.com/realestateandhomes-detail/M8779315163?identityID=624a68fe-4870-4e12-bf1a-0a9415ed2268&MID=LeadConfirmation_2023_RENTAL_PROD&RID=26214839362&cid=eml_trans_LeadConfirmation_202305_Rentals_cons.16554562_LeadConfirmation_2023_RENTAL_PROD-hero_image-RDC

Very strange that there are no pictures of a kitchen.

No kitchen would be my dream house. 

[weltschmerz]

Sept 6, 2023 13:55:51 GMT -5 daisylu said:

Although I know nothing about them I am currently obsessed with the Joe Jonas/Sophie Turner divorce. So many different stories. They got married when she was 20 he was 27, she had not lived a lot of life. He was grooming her IMO. But it is coming off like he is the wronged one.

I don't even know who those people are.

[andi9899]

Sept 7, 2023 10:57:17 GMT -5 minnesotapaintlady said:

Sept 7, 2023 10:50:54 GMT -5 andi9899 said:

I don't know. Probably just woods. There is a park around the corner.

I've just never seen gaps in property lines like that.  Here the property lines would go all the way back and you'd own the woods too up until you bumped into the neighbors. There isn't "un-owned land" in between.

I just left there and it's wooded area. It's also a no. As soon as you walk in, there are 15 stairs to get to the main living area. That would mean that my mom could never come over. The bedrooms are tiny so my king size bed wouldn't fit. It does have a huge yard that would have been perfect for the twins.