what are you doing right now?

[TheOtherMe]

Made it to the hotel.  This is further south than where I live.  It's 99 degrees and that's a record for them.  

I can do all of the courthouse stuff, but I don't know how much time I can  spend in the heat visiting cemeteries

[seriousthistime]

Today I made the rounds of three home improvement stores, looking at combo microwaves/hoods and outdoor plants on clearance. Then went to a big garden center, and then back to the first home improvement store. Then stopped to get canned margaritas and a double cheeseburger which I enjoyed in honor of Jimmy Buffett.  

About husbands: we teach them to rely on us, and then they do and fail to appreciate all we do.  When XH and I spent much of one summer apart, me with the 3 little kids and the dog to fix and sell our out-of-state house, and him at home with no cares in the world except work, he crowed about how he could buy what he wanted at the grocery store and no one else "disappeared" it, he could cook whatever he wanted for dinner, and came home to a clean house every day just the way he left it.  When I got home after 2.5 months, I saw my white kitchen cabinets had black fingerprints from him reading the newspaper and touching the cabinet doors.  He had kept up on his laundry. I'd done the laundry just before I left except for the few pajamas we wore the night before we left.  He thoughtfully left those for me to do when I returned. 

Early on in our marriage, I was sick of all the complaints about how I fell short of expectations.  I told him that just once, just ONCE, it would be nice to hear a compliment.  He thought about that and said very pointedly, "If you only knew how much I could criticize, but don't."  I think every long term relationship has those moments you will never forget, a random comment that cuts to the quick, and that is one of mine.  Had I not been 7 months pregnant, I would have (should have) walked out at that point.

When the marriage finally crumbled 20+ years later, I threw myself into my work.  It was the only thing that kept me sane. When my doctor was concerned about how I was dropping a lot of weight way too quickly, he said he would write a note for me to excuse me from work if I wanted.  I told him work was the only thing that kept me sane. 

And after that, I learned to relax my filter. I had two relationships post-divorce, and both of them wanted to remake me into their desired partner.  I resisted.  I am still single and happily so.  

There are ebbs and flows in any relationship, and some have you with one foot out the door.  I think it was Judith Viorst who said that marriage is what keeps you together until you fall in love again. 

[giramomma]

Sept 4, 2023 14:49:26 GMT -5 andi9899 said:

Sept 4, 2023 14:35:34 GMT -5 daisylu said:

Not quite yet, just starting to look at things in a new light. The current plan is to do me and spend a month or 2 traveling for work and staying away in places that interest me in between. DH sprung on me that maybe we should not stay married, so we will both get a taste of what that looks like. But I think I will enjoy it much more than he will. At that point, it will be up to him to make changes to accommodate me.

I'm sorry. If you ever end up in my area, let me know.

[Pink Cashmere]

One of the things I’ve said to Mister recently, was “while you’ve been so busy focusing on my faults and secretly holding them against me, I’ve been busy overlooking YOUR damn faults, since your ass ain’t perfect either”. 

That makes me mad.

It never feels good for a person to feel like they are being taken for granted when they do a lot to try to help their mate’s life easier. A couple weeks ago, during a serious conversation, Mister said that it pleases him to come home to the way I keep out house. Because that was an aside and not the point of the conversation, I did not go off on a tangent about my own feelings about that.

I think it was easy for him to get used to the benefits of how I run my household. But he doesn’t recognize the work and effort I put into it, or even the money I normally spend to make sure we always have what we need to keep our household functioning. He’s been feeling the pain lately with the money I spend, because I finally ran out of money, and then we ran out of many of the things I normally keep in stock, with some extras, from laundry supplies, to cleaning supplies, to groceries. I always made sure we had at least the basics, and that we could go in the kitchen and put a meal together at any time. He bought groceries too, but that was mostly him buying the stuff his children like to eat when they are here. He started having to buy more stuff a couple weeks ago, and got sticker shock. 

He really has no clue.

[daisylu]

Sept 4, 2023 17:11:48 GMT -5 Pink Cashmere said:

One of the things I’ve said to Mister recently, was “while you’ve been so busy focusing on my faults and secretly holding them against me, I’ve been busy overlooking YOUR damn faults, since your ass ain’t perfect either”. 

That makes me mad.

It never feels good for a person to feel like they are being taken for granted when they do a lot to try to help their mate’s life easier. A couple weeks ago, during a serious conversation, Mister said that it pleases him to come home to the way I keep out house. Because that was an aside and not the point of the conversation, I did not go off on a tangent about my own feelings about that.

I think it was easy for him to get used to the benefits of how I run my household. But he doesn’t recognize the work and effort I put into it, or even the money I normally spend to make sure we always have what we need to keep our household functioning. He’s been feeling the pain lately with the money I spend, because I finally ran out of money, and then we ran out of many of the things I normally keep in stock, with some extras, from laundry supplies, to cleaning supplies, to groceries. I always made sure we had at least the basics, and that we could go in the kitchen and put a meal together at any time. He bought groceries too, but that was mostly him buying the stuff his children like to eat when they are here. He started having to buy more stuff a couple weeks ago, and got sticker shock. 

He really has no clue.

I feel this in soul right now.

[MarionTh230]

Lots of hugs to everyone who needs them 

[Pink Cashmere]

Sept 4, 2023 17:16:50 GMT -5 daisylu said:

Sept 4, 2023 17:11:48 GMT -5 Pink Cashmere said:

One of the things I’ve said to Mister recently, was “while you’ve been so busy focusing on my faults and secretly holding them against me, I’ve been busy overlooking YOUR damn faults, since your ass ain’t perfect either”. 

That makes me mad.

It never feels good for a person to feel like they are being taken for granted when they do a lot to try to help their mate’s life easier. A couple weeks ago, during a serious conversation, Mister said that it pleases him to come home to the way I keep out house. Because that was an aside and not the point of the conversation, I did not go off on a tangent about my own feelings about that.

I think it was easy for him to get used to the benefits of how I run my household. But he doesn’t recognize the work and effort I put into it, or even the money I normally spend to make sure we always have what we need to keep our household functioning. He’s been feeling the pain lately with the money I spend, because I finally ran out of money, and then we ran out of many of the things I normally keep in stock, with some extras, from laundry supplies, to cleaning supplies, to groceries. I always made sure we had at least the basics, and that we could go in the kitchen and put a meal together at any time. He bought groceries too, but that was mostly him buying the stuff his children like to eat when they are here. He started having to buy more stuff a couple weeks ago, and got sticker shock. 

He really has no clue.

I feel this in soul right now.

I have confidence in you as an intelligent, capable woman, and believe that whatever path you choose, you will be good, even if it takes some time. 

I will always be here if you need a friend to hear you if you need to vent, or to reassure you that you can be okay, regardless of what path you choose. And everything in between. 

[giramomma]

I made dinner.

"Grown up" mac and cheese (made with extra sharp cheese and goat cheese), and home made apple pie for desert.

And a few veggies for sides.

I am fat and happy.                 

[MarionTh230]

I took off Friday to have a 4 day weekend and it's been a bit of a bust.  DH was off Friday so I did get a couple of errands complete.  But, he had to work Sat/Sun/Mon so I've been home with Kiddo most of the time.  I wish I could have found an activity or something for us to do to get out of the house.  The problem is there isn't a lot going on this time of the year and the traffic on a holiday weekend is really bad.  So nothing enticed me enough to make it worth the effort.

Weather has been nicer.  Some little amounts of rain and highs of only about 90/92ish.  I still just don't have any motivation to deal with yard or garden chores though.  Just sort of generally in a "blah" mood.  This 2nd grade thing has me stressed out more than I thought it did.  And I feel like we are so behind on both inside and outside work due to the heat this summer I'm getting overwhelmed.  Then when DH has to work dumb schedules and isn't around enough it makes me cranky.  I've also had dead parent grief rearing its ugly head for a couple of months.  Because Kiddo started a new school year.  

Anyways, I need to channel my inner Taylor Swift and shake it off.  My sibling is coming to stay next weekend for a few days.  DH is off Sunday so we'll have all the family in one spot for football Sunday.  Work is actually kind of quiet right now so that should help my mood too.  

Off to do a little meal prep in the kitchen.  And prep school snacks and fruit for lunches for Kiddo for the week.

[MarionTh230]

Sept 4, 2023 17:16:50 GMT -5 daisylu said:

Sept 4, 2023 17:11:48 GMT -5 Pink Cashmere said:

One of the things I’ve said to Mister recently, was “while you’ve been so busy focusing on my faults and secretly holding them against me, I’ve been busy overlooking YOUR damn faults, since your ass ain’t perfect either”. 

That makes me mad.

It never feels good for a person to feel like they are being taken for granted when they do a lot to try to help their mate’s life easier. A couple weeks ago, during a serious conversation, Mister said that it pleases him to come home to the way I keep out house. Because that was an aside and not the point of the conversation, I did not go off on a tangent about my own feelings about that.

I think it was easy for him to get used to the benefits of how I run my household. But he doesn’t recognize the work and effort I put into it, or even the money I normally spend to make sure we always have what we need to keep our household functioning. He’s been feeling the pain lately with the money I spend, because I finally ran out of money, and then we ran out of many of the things I normally keep in stock, with some extras, from laundry supplies, to cleaning supplies, to groceries. I always made sure we had at least the basics, and that we could go in the kitchen and put a meal together at any time. He bought groceries too, but that was mostly him buying the stuff his children like to eat when they are here. He started having to buy more stuff a couple weeks ago, and got sticker shock. 

He really has no clue.

I feel this in soul right now.

You'll be fine.  No matter how this thing goes, you will be fine.  

Sometimes, space between partners is not a bad idea.  It can help everyone see more clearly.  The day-to-day routine and daily grind can just leave us with so much pent up stuff.  Taking a step back and some time apart isn't a bad idea.  

We are all here for you for whatever you need.  

[Pink Cashmere]

I just saw a tiny lizard in my garage. I saw a few very small lizards our 2nd summer here, around the driveway and garage, and on the deck. But I haven’t seen any since then. My irrational fears of insects and critters, do not include a fear of them, SURPRISE! lol, even though they do move super fast.

If the tiny lizard wants to hang out in my garage, I don’t care, especially since IIRC, they eat insects. So cool, as long as it doesn’t insist on getting too close to me and doesn’t get inside my house. 

[daisylu]

One of the worst things is that DH mentioned that he "tested" me on having a conversation after he came from work several times.
1. I'm not a small talk person.
2. I am an early morning person, which means I was likely awake by 3am and he gets home work around 8pm.
3. I don't appreciated being "tested", but if you did and did not bring it up for many months I am beyond GAF and you succeeded in pissing me off.

[Pink Cashmere]

I was right, Mister is planning to go to work tomorrow and leave early to go to the funeral home for the appointment to make arrangements for his Dad. He told me something about a conference call he has tomorrow, and I asked if there was not someone else that could handle that. I’m sure it is, but I got crickets.

Then he asked “if I don’t go to work, what am I gonna do tomorrow”, and I didn’t know how to answer that without giving him a “Honey Do” list, full of things I’m sure he’s rather go to work than do. 

I asked him if his mentor knows he’s planning to go to work tomorrow. He said no. 

I left it alone.

[Deleted]

Sept 4, 2023 17:11:48 GMT -5 Pink Cashmere said:

One of the things I’ve said to Mister recently, was “while you’ve been so busy focusing on my faults and secretly holding them against me, I’ve been busy overlooking YOUR damn faults, since your ass ain’t perfect either”. 

That makes me mad.

It never feels good for a person to feel like they are being taken for granted when they do a lot to try to help their mate’s life easier. A couple weeks ago, during a serious conversation, Mister said that it pleases him to come home to the way I keep out house. Because that was an aside and not the point of the conversation, I did not go off on a tangent about my own feelings about that.

I think it was easy for him to get used to the benefits of how I run my household. But he doesn’t recognize the work and effort I put into it, or even the money I normally spend to make sure we always have what we need to keep our household functioning. He’s been feeling the pain lately with the money I spend, because I finally ran out of money, and then we ran out of many of the things I normally keep in stock, with some extras, from laundry supplies, to cleaning supplies, to groceries. I always made sure we had at least the basics, and that we could go in the kitchen and put a meal together at any time. He bought groceries too, but that was mostly him buying the stuff his children like to eat when they are here. He started having to buy more stuff a couple weeks ago, and got sticker shock. 

He really has no clue.

This perfectly says what I have been most deeply wounded by.  I've never claimed to be perfect - I surely am not.  But to have DH bring up his crazy complaints about something I supposedly did 20-30 years ago as an example of how bad I am, while denying that he is less than perfect totally sucks.  

[MarionTh230]

Sept 4, 2023 18:15:09 GMT -5 daisylu said:

One of the worst things is that DH mentioned that he "tested" me on having a conversation after he came from work several times.
1. I'm not a small talk person.
2. I am an early morning person, which means I was likely awake by 3am and he gets home work around 8pm.
3. I don't appreciated being "tested", but if you did and did not bring it up for many months I am beyond GAF and you succeeded in pissing me off.

I was about to make jello cups and saw this after I updated the gardening thread.  And I just kind of stared at it and said WTF?

I don't know if you are in a place where you need validation, but if you are I'll give you all the validation you need, WTF dude?  You aren't a seeing eye dog.  A test is nothing more than a game.  An emotionally mature, semi-intelligent partner who has committed their life to another due to love and deep caring for each other doesn't make "tests" for their spouses to fail.

I'm down here clutching my pearls in horror right now.  I can certainly understand why you are way past GAF at this point.

I am so sorry.  That is not ok.  You didn't do anything to deserve that.  Your head must be spinning.  That's insane.

[MarionTh230]

Sept 4, 2023 18:16:27 GMT -5 soupandstew said:

Sept 4, 2023 17:11:48 GMT -5 Pink Cashmere said:

One of the things I’ve said to Mister recently, was “while you’ve been so busy focusing on my faults and secretly holding them against me, I’ve been busy overlooking YOUR damn faults, since your ass ain’t perfect either”. 

That makes me mad.

It never feels good for a person to feel like they are being taken for granted when they do a lot to try to help their mate’s life easier. A couple weeks ago, during a serious conversation, Mister said that it pleases him to come home to the way I keep out house. Because that was an aside and not the point of the conversation, I did not go off on a tangent about my own feelings about that.

I think it was easy for him to get used to the benefits of how I run my household. But he doesn’t recognize the work and effort I put into it, or even the money I normally spend to make sure we always have what we need to keep our household functioning. He’s been feeling the pain lately with the money I spend, because I finally ran out of money, and then we ran out of many of the things I normally keep in stock, with some extras, from laundry supplies, to cleaning supplies, to groceries. I always made sure we had at least the basics, and that we could go in the kitchen and put a meal together at any time. He bought groceries too, but that was mostly him buying the stuff his children like to eat when they are here. He started having to buy more stuff a couple weeks ago, and got sticker shock. 

He really has no clue.

This perfectly says what I have been most deeply wounded by.  I've never claimed to be perfect - I surely am not.  But to have DH bring up his crazy complaints about something I supposedly did 20-30 years ago as an example of how bad I am, while denying that he is less than perfect totally sucks.  

I enjoy your imperfections.  The imperfections are what make us unique. 

Not every person in our lives is able to love our imperfections.  When the most special people in our lives view our imperfections as faults or problems and are not able to love us unconditionally in spite of them, it does indeed hurt.  

[Pink Cashmere]

Sept 4, 2023 18:15:09 GMT -5 daisylu said:

One of the worst things is that DH mentioned that he "tested" me on having a conversation after he came from work several times.
1. I'm not a small talk person.
2. I am an early morning person, which means I was likely awake by 3am and he gets home work around 8pm.
3. I don't appreciated being "tested", but if you did and did not bring it up for many months I am beyond GAF and you succeeded in pissing me off.

My ex husband’s parent had been married for years before he and I got married. I remember one time we went to them for advice, and I admitted that I had done small things to “test” him and his love for me. 

My MIL made it very clear after I said that, that marriage was not a game, and “testing” one another had no place in a marriage. She was not ugly about it, and she wasn’t taking sides (she never took sides, and tried to just mind her own business and not ours…. she was an awesome MIL) but she WAS very clear, since we were asking for advice. I understood what she was saying, and respected her advice, so that was never a thing anymore, in my marriage to her son, and not even after that. 

[cooper88]

So today our router got fried when the power came back on after being out for a couple of minutes. We live in a small town. We don't shop at Walmart (kind of a long running boycott). That pretty much leaves Target. So I think no problem, I'll just put in for a curbside pickup. DH is mad at Target for some reason right now, I don't remember but he had a bad experience last time he shopped there. He didn't want to get the router from Target. I looked and was surprised to find out they actually have some routers at Home Depot. That MF wants me to call and see if they are actually in stock. He has obviously never tried to call there. They are seriously understaffed. I just looked at him as this is now his problem and handed him the phone. He just drove there and picked one up.

There seriously must be something in the water today.

[empress of self-improvement]

Pink, my condolences for you and Mister🥀

[daisylu]

Sept 4, 2023 18:27:43 GMT -5 MarionTh230 said:

Sept 4, 2023 18:15:09 GMT -5 daisylu said:

One of the worst things is that DH mentioned that he "tested" me on having a conversation after he came from work several times.
1. I'm not a small talk person.
2. I am an early morning person, which means I was likely awake by 3am and he gets home work around 8pm.
3. I don't appreciated being "tested", but if you did and did not bring it up for many months I am beyond GAF and you succeeded in pissing me off.

I was about to make jello cups and saw this after I updated the gardening thread.  And I just kind of stared at it and said WTF?

I don't know if you are in a place where you need validation, but if you are I'll give you all the validation you need, WTF dude?  You aren't a seeing eye dog.  A test is nothing more than a game.  An emotionally mature, semi-intelligent partner who has committed their life to another due to love and deep caring for each other doesn't make "tests" for their spouses to fail.

I'm down here clutching my pearls in horror right now.  I can certainly understand why you are way past GAF at this point.

I am so sorry.  That is not ok.  You didn't do anything to deserve that.  Your head must be spinning.  That's insane.

I don't need validation, but thank you. And yes, I agree it's a game at this point. I don't want to let go, but it seems like he is looking for reasons. I'm at the point that I will walk away for a bit and let him realize what he will be losing. Of course once he realizes it, it might be too late on my part.

[toomuchreality]

Sept 4, 2023 19:06:36 GMT -5 daisylu said:

Sept 4, 2023 18:27:43 GMT -5 MarionTh230 said:

I was about to make jello cups and saw this after I updated the gardening thread.  And I just kind of stared at it and said WTF?

I don't know if you are in a place where you need validation, but if you are I'll give you all the validation you need, WTF dude?  You aren't a seeing eye dog.  A test is nothing more than a game.  An emotionally mature, semi-intelligent partner who has committed their life to another due to love and deep caring for each other doesn't make "tests" for their spouses to fail.

I'm down here clutching my pearls in horror right now.  I can certainly understand why you are way past GAF at this point.

I am so sorry.  That is not ok.  You didn't do anything to deserve that.  Your head must be spinning.  That's insane.

I don't need validation, but thank you. And yes, I agree it's a game at this point. I don't want to let go, but it seems like he is looking for reasons. I'm at the point that I will walk away for a bit and let him realize what he will be losing. Of course once he realizes it, it might be too late on my part.

I'm so sorry you're going through this. It's so hard to what to do and what not to do. If you do too much, you get taken advantage of. If you don't do enough, they get pissed. It's so frustrating. I hope everything works out, the way you'd like it to, once you decide what that is.
I hope you enjoy yourself, in the meantime.

[Pink Cashmere]

Sept 4, 2023 19:06:36 GMT -5 daisylu said:

Sept 4, 2023 18:27:43 GMT -5 MarionTh230 said:

I was about to make jello cups and saw this after I updated the gardening thread.  And I just kind of stared at it and said WTF?

I don't know if you are in a place where you need validation, but if you are I'll give you all the validation you need, WTF dude?  You aren't a seeing eye dog.  A test is nothing more than a game.  An emotionally mature, semi-intelligent partner who has committed their life to another due to love and deep caring for each other doesn't make "tests" for their spouses to fail.

I'm down here clutching my pearls in horror right now.  I can certainly understand why you are way past GAF at this point.

I am so sorry.  That is not ok.  You didn't do anything to deserve that.  Your head must be spinning.  That's insane.

I don't need validation, but thank you. And yes, I agree it's a game at this point. I don't want to let go, but it seems like he is looking for reasons. I'm at the point that I will walk away for a bit and let him realize what he will be losing. Of course once he realizes it, it might be too late on my part.

Do you have any idea why he said that? Has he given any kind of indication that he had thoughts about whether you should stay married?

I will risk being flamed for stereotyping and being sexist or whatever and say that ime, it is often true that when a woman is well and truly fed up, there’s nothing you can do about it. By then, trying to fix the shit she’s been trying to get you to fix for a long time, doesn’t even matter anymore. 

I hope you aren’t at that point, but I understand if you are, or getting close. I’m about to head to bed, so more  for tonight. 

[minnesotapaintlady]

Ok, I'm up to 6 bags for Goodwill, not counting 3 winter coats, a snowmobile suit and a pack and play (I might try to sell those last two things).  My room is now a huge disaster but I can walk in the closet and there's nothing on the bed.

Can I take a wedding dress to Goodwill?  Kind of makes me ill to think of dumping a $1000 dress, but it's been taking up a lot of space hanging in my closet.

It also makes me ill that I just packed up 6 pairs of black dress pants and I'm on JCPenny.com trying to find another pair because none of the ones we had fit Carrot and he needs at least one pair.

[NoNamePerson]

Sept 4, 2023 19:30:36 GMT -5 minnesotapaintlady said:

Ok, I'm up to 6 bags for Goodwill, not counting 3 winter coats, a snowmobile suit and a pack and play (I might try to sell those last two things).  My room is now a huge disaster but I can walk in the closet and there's nothing on the bed.

Can I take a wedding dress to Goodwill?  Kind of makes me ill to think of dumping a $1000 dress, but it's been taking up a lot of space hanging in my closet.

It also makes me ill that I just packed up 6 pairs of black dress pants and I'm on JCPenny.com trying to find another pair because none of the ones we had fit Carrot and he needs at least one pair.

Mine went into a dumpster     So I think goodwill is acceptable!!

[daisylu]

Sept 4, 2023 19:28:14 GMT -5 Pink Cashmere said:

Sept 4, 2023 19:06:36 GMT -5 daisylu said:

I don't need validation, but thank you. And yes, I agree it's a game at this point. I don't want to let go, but it seems like he is looking for reasons. I'm at the point that I will walk away for a bit and let him realize what he will be losing. Of course once he realizes it, it might be too late on my part.

Do you have any idea why he said that? Has he given any kind of indication that he had thoughts about whether you should stay married?

I will risk being flamed for stereotyping and being sexist or whatever and say that ime, it is often true that when a woman is well and truly fed up, there’s nothing you can do about it. By then, trying to fix the shit she’s been trying to get you to fix for a long time, doesn’t even matter anymore. 

I hope you aren’t at that point, but I understand if you are, or getting close. I’m about to head to bed, so more  for tonight. 

No idea. I think a lot of this goes back to the friend that I do not like. IMO, DH is entering a mid life crisis. So I might let him do him for a while, and let him realize how much I actually do for him and the house.

I don't think you are being sexist at all. IME, it does take women a LOT to be done and once they reach that point there is nothing that can change her mind. I'm not there, YET. But I will only be pushed so far until I reach that point.

[Deleted]

daisylu  I hope whatever path you choose brings you peace and fulfillment, and I'm sorry you and your DH are at this juncture.  The path to finding one self is not a smooth one and I respect you for exploring it 

[Deleted]

countrygirl2  Best wishes to you and your husband for his biopsy tomorrow.  

[Peace77]

Sept 4, 2023 19:30:36 GMT -5 minnesotapaintlady said:

Ok, I'm up to 6 bags for Goodwill, not counting 3 winter coats, a snowmobile suit and a pack and play (I might try to sell those last two things).  My room is now a huge disaster but I can walk in the closet and there's nothing on the bed.

Can I take a wedding dress to Goodwill?  Kind of makes me ill to think of dumping a $1000 dress, but it's been taking up a lot of space hanging in my closet. 

You can sell the wedding dress too.  Best place is a consignment shop.

If you want to donate clothes, I would choose any thrift store besides Goodwill.  Salvation Army or St. Vincent de Paul are good.  Goodwill pays its CEO millions, pays its employees next to nothing and charges way too much for what they sell.

[cooper88]

Sept 4, 2023 19:30:36 GMT -5 minnesotapaintlady said:

Ok, I'm up to 6 bags for Goodwill, not counting 3 winter coats, a snowmobile suit and a pack and play (I might try to sell those last two things).  My room is now a huge disaster but I can walk in the closet and there's nothing on the bed.

Can I take a wedding dress to Goodwill?  Kind of makes me ill to think of dumping a $1000 dress, but it's been taking up a lot of space hanging in my closet.

It also makes me ill that I just packed up 6 pairs of black dress pants and I'm on JCPenny.com trying to find another pair because none of the ones we had fit Carrot and he needs at least one pair.

I've been decluttering lately also. It just feels good to see it go out the door!

[andi9899]

Sept 4, 2023 19:04:50 GMT -5 empress of self-improvement said:

Pink, my condolences for you and Mister🥀

Where have you been young lady?! I haven't seen you in forever!