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Post by minnesotapaintlady on Jul 13, 2023 13:40:38 GMT -5
This will be me.
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Post by countrygirl2 on Jul 13, 2023 13:45:36 GMT -5
Ok, finally getting busy, later all.
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Post by giramomma on Jul 13, 2023 13:54:18 GMT -5
We're on a thunderstorm and tornado watch. The local news is telling us to stay away from windows and to go to the basement if a tornado hits. same here. You stay safe too
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Post by Works4me on Jul 13, 2023 13:55:27 GMT -5
I guess I'm going to need a new air cleaner. I hadn't used mine in a couple of years. I dug it out of the basement complete with new filter due to the wildfires. Apparently G type filters no longer exist. I hate this kind of crap. Check on eBay. They are my go-to for anything like that. The other thing that sometimes works is the manufacturers' site. On occasion I have found leftover parts there or even by calling them. Good luck!
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Post by weltschmerz on Jul 13, 2023 15:06:19 GMT -5
The TV keeps warning me about strong thunderstorms and tornados. One aready hit near Ottawa and did quite a bit of danage. It;s all booming thunder and lightnig here. I'm its path and so is DS on the West Island.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 13, 2023 15:37:17 GMT -5
I got an email today from Bank of American telling me a check had been returned for ISF and asking me to click on a link to see an image of the check. Too bad I don't have a BOA account
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Post by The Walk of the Penguin Mich on Jul 13, 2023 16:05:38 GMT -5
Back from Costco and the grocery store. Also stopped to get propane.
Groceries put away, shrimp for salsa thawing and ribs are being smoked. We have dinner plans tonight, then drop off the problem children tomorrow on our way up to Salmon Arm. My sisters going up to Victoria.
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Post by TheOtherMe on Jul 13, 2023 16:37:03 GMT -5
I received a check made out to NIL's first name and a last name that sounds Russian/Ukrainian. She says it isn't her.
It's from a farm co-op, so it made no sense. Of course the co-op acted like I was going to steal $100 when I called to ask what to do with the check.
It's going back to them in tomorrow's mail, per their instructions.
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Post by gacpa on Jul 13, 2023 16:47:04 GMT -5
I sent my Mom the link with the John Deere story. She is 85 and still mows her 10 acres on her John Deere sometimes. She hires it out a lot of the time now, but every once in a while, she will take the tractor out for a spin.
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Post by NastyWoman on Jul 13, 2023 16:51:58 GMT -5
My condo has no A/C so for the few days it is actually hot I use a portable version. Last year, whole putting the unit away for the season the exhaust hose (or whatever that thing is called- the hot air gets blown out through it) detached and I have not been able to re-attach it with my arthritic hands - no strength in your hands sucks big time!. So I went to Costco, saw one on sale and proceeded to buy that one -> online. As a result the nice UPS man was in charge of carrying it upstairs. Today I put the unit with the detached hose on the FB buy nothing site. I disclosed the problem I had so people would know what they were getting. Less than half an hour later it was picked up. Someone is now happy to cool their child's bedroom down and I am rid of the excess unit. I may not be the most handy or tech savvy person but I consider this success all around
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Post by toomuchreality on Jul 13, 2023 16:56:23 GMT -5
This will be me. I thought of you, when I read this yesterday!
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Post by Deleted on Jul 13, 2023 17:05:14 GMT -5
A sort of big issue has blown up in our community, and our association was asked to take a written public stance. So the past 3 hours have seen about 30 group emails as 16 people try to formulate a group response reflecting a diverse community of 6600 homes. And a couple of lengthy text exchanges between some of us as we try to find a palatable solution. I have nothing to lose by staying silent, so I've gone all in. Lots of talk about representation but that's just fancy talk when folks ignore the diversity of interests.
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Post by Pink Cashmere on Jul 13, 2023 17:20:48 GMT -5
Mister’s Aunt is back in the hospital. I’m out of patience with her. I’m out of patience with his Dad. I’m on the verge of having run out of patience with Mister.
His Aunt told brother she’s just going to sell the house and move to a retirement home. That’s hilarious. She apparently can’t even afford to live in the modest house she lives in now, that’s been paid for forever, courtesy of her Mother. So how tf can she afford to just move into a retirement community?! And she can’t just sell the house anyway. A few weeks ago Mister and I were talking about the house, and I looked it up online on the tax assessor’s website, and stressed Mister out by telling him that the house is actually owned by Aunt AND his Mom. Which I guess means that Mister’s Dad is a joint owner now, if they ever settle that mess out. Auntie can’t just jump up and sell what she doesn’t own 100%. And the condition the house is in, it’s worth about a negative $50. So even if she could just sell it, it won’t go far to help her pay to live somewhere else.
I’m obviously still rather cranky. I’m not sad or feeling hopeless, my nerves are just really bad. I’ve never been the most patient person, and I’ve never had a lot of tolerance for bullshit. And right now, I’m at an all time low with both.
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Post by toomuchreality on Jul 13, 2023 17:39:57 GMT -5
Mister’s Aunt is back in the hospital. I’m out of patience with her. I’m out of patience with his Dad. I’m on the verge of having run out of patience with Mister. His Aunt told brother she’s just going to sell the house and move to a retirement home. That’s hilarious. She apparently can’t even afford to live in the modest house she lives in now, that’s been paid for forever, courtesy of her Mother. So how tf can she afford to just move into a retirement community?! And she can’t just sell the house anyway. A few weeks ago Mister and I were talking about the house, and I looked it up online on the tax assessor’s website, and stressed Mister out by telling him that the house is actually owned by Aunt AND his Mom. Which I guess means that Mister’s Dad is a joint owner now, if they ever settle that mess out. Auntie can’t just jump up and sell what she doesn’t own 100%. And the condition the house is in, it’s worth about a negative $50. So even if she could just sell it, it won’t go far to help her pay to live somewhere else. I’m obviously still rather cranky. I’m not sad or feeling hopeless, my nerves are just really bad. I’ve never been the most patient person, and I’ve never had a lot of tolerance for bullshit. And right now, I’m at an all time low with both. I fear, I'd be feeling much the same as you, given your situation. These people put you through hell, but then can't even show you basic respect most of the time. Much less the gratitude that they should be showing you and Mister. And then they want and expect more! I'd be over it, to put it mildly. I'd be tempted to walk away and let her figure/find out, for herself. And then deal with it herself. Easier said, than done. I know. But at some point, you have to save yourself. Even if it means that she has to crash and burn. And Mister's dad too. I know this sounds cruel. But how else do you deal with people like this, that always expect others to figure things out for them? They're not being realistic. More hugs for you.
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Post by finnime on Jul 13, 2023 17:42:58 GMT -5
You've been wading through some deep waters of turmoil, Pink Cashmere. Go easy on yourself.
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Post by Pink Cashmere on Jul 13, 2023 18:08:35 GMT -5
Mister’s Aunt is back in the hospital. I’m out of patience with her. I’m out of patience with his Dad. I’m on the verge of having run out of patience with Mister. His Aunt told brother she’s just going to sell the house and move to a retirement home. That’s hilarious. She apparently can’t even afford to live in the modest house she lives in now, that’s been paid for forever, courtesy of her Mother. So how tf can she afford to just move into a retirement community?! And she can’t just sell the house anyway. A few weeks ago Mister and I were talking about the house, and I looked it up online on the tax assessor’s website, and stressed Mister out by telling him that the house is actually owned by Aunt AND his Mom. Which I guess means that Mister’s Dad is a joint owner now, if they ever settle that mess out. Auntie can’t just jump up and sell what she doesn’t own 100%. And the condition the house is in, it’s worth about a negative $50. So even if she could just sell it, it won’t go far to help her pay to live somewhere else. I’m obviously still rather cranky. I’m not sad or feeling hopeless, my nerves are just really bad. I’ve never been the most patient person, and I’ve never had a lot of tolerance for bullshit. And right now, I’m at an all time low with both. I fear, I'd be feeling much the same as you, given your situation. These people put you through hell, but then can't even show you basic respect most of the time. Much less the gratitude that they should be showing you and Mister. And then they want and expect more! I'd be over it, to put it mildly. I'd be tempted to walk away and let her figure/find out, for herself. And then deal with it herself. Easier said, than done. I know. But at some point, you have to save yourself. Even if it means that she has to crash and burn. And Mister's dad too. I know this sounds cruel. But how else do you deal with people like this, that always expect others to figure things out for them? They're not being realistic. More hugs for you. She’s been ducking Mister for a few months now, ever since he loaned her that $1k to get her car fixed. She won’t answer his calls, and won’t call him unless she needs something, like when the folks at the rehab place wanted to talk to her family about her being discharged. She did call him to thank him for “cleaning up” when she came home after we made a path for her to be able to get to the kitchen and bathroom. But she also asked him to bring her a case of Sprites when he came back to work on it some more. And she appreciated our effort so much that apparently the paramedics said they see why she can’t navigate her house this morning when they came to get her. There is no longer even a path. So if she doesn’t care, I don’t care either. I will not help do that again, unless it’s after she’s gone to live somewhere else. I felt like I was disgusting when I left her house that day. If that’s how she wants to live, have at it ma’am. Thank you for the hugs.
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Post by Pink Cashmere on Jul 13, 2023 18:09:44 GMT -5
You've been wading through some deep waters of turmoil, Pink Cashmere . Go easy on yourself. Yes ma’am.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 13, 2023 18:13:18 GMT -5
Mister’s Aunt is back in the hospital. I’m out of patience with her. I’m out of patience with his Dad. I’m on the verge of having run out of patience with Mister. His Aunt told brother she’s just going to sell the house and move to a retirement home. That’s hilarious. She apparently can’t even afford to live in the modest house she lives in now, that’s been paid for forever, courtesy of her Mother. So how tf can she afford to just move into a retirement community?! And she can’t just sell the house anyway. A few weeks ago Mister and I were talking about the house, and I looked it up online on the tax assessor’s website, and stressed Mister out by telling him that the house is actually owned by Aunt AND his Mom. Which I guess means that Mister’s Dad is a joint owner now, if they ever settle that mess out. Auntie can’t just jump up and sell what she doesn’t own 100%. And the condition the house is in, it’s worth about a negative $50. So even if she could just sell it, it won’t go far to help her pay to live somewhere else. I’m obviously still rather cranky. I’m not sad or feeling hopeless, my nerves are just really bad. I’ve never been the most patient person, and I’ve never had a lot of tolerance for bullshit. And right now, I’m at an all time low with both. I fear, I'd be feeling much the same as you, given your situation. These people put you through hell, but then can't even show you basic respect most of the time. Much less the gratitude that they should be showing you and Mister. And then they want and expect more! I'd be over it, to put it mildly. I'd be tempted to walk away and let her figure/find out, for herself. And then deal with it herself. Easier said, than done. I know. But at some point, you have to save yourself. Even if it means that she has to crash and burn. And Mister's dad too. I know this sounds cruel. But how else do you deal with people like this, that always expect others to figure things out for them? They're not being realistic. More hugs for you. X 100%
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Post by Pink Cashmere on Jul 13, 2023 18:31:20 GMT -5
When I got home from work today, all I wanted to do was sit on my butt in my happy place, on the deck.
But the bush beans in the planter on the deck were screaming at me that they needed attention. I wanted so badly to ignore them, because they’ve started creeping me out anyway with all the ugly leaves. But I couldn’t do it. So I got my gloves and scissors and groomed them, then watered them and everything else on the deck. It sure is easier to just turn the faucet on and let the drip irrigation system water the tomatoes.
And because I’m a weirdo, I still had a banana plant that I randomly purchased a few weeks ago,inside the house, and I’d noticed when I got home from work, that it wasn’t looking too good. I actually bought 2, and had already planted the other one outside. I wanted to ignore how the one in the house was suddenly looking so pitiful today, but I couldn’t do that either, and I ended up repotting it and bringing it outside. I’m pretty sure that pot isn’t quite big enough and it will probably have to be dealt with again soon but that’s what I had on hand, so oh well. But it should be a lot happier for a little while, than it was.
One of Mister’s best friends has recently gotten into gardening and Mister sends him pics of the beans and tomatoes and his friend oohs and ahhs over them. It kind of irritates me because his friend is the active gardener in his household, and the pictures Mister shows him are not because of any work Mister has done to tend to the plants. He helped me put the elevated bed on the deck together, and he installed the drip irrigation in the container with the tomatoes. That’s IT. I’ve done everything else by myself or with the help of my DS. So I kinda feel like Mister doesn’t get bragging rights to try to show off when he and his friend are talking about gardening.
I am not usually so petty, yet, here I am. And that’s not even the biggest thing I’m feeling petty about.
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Post by triciacus on Jul 13, 2023 18:41:39 GMT -5
When I got home from work today, all I wanted to do was sit on my butt in my happy place, on the deck. But the bush beans in the planter on the deck were screaming at me that they needed attention. I wanted so badly to ignore them, because they’ve started creeping me out anyway with all the ugly leaves. But I couldn’t do it. So I got my gloves and scissors and groomed them, then watered them and everything else on the deck. It sure is easier to just turn the faucet on and let the drip irrigation system water the tomatoes. And because I’m a weirdo, I still had a banana plant that I randomly purchased a few weeks ago,inside the house, and I’d noticed when I got home from work, that it wasn’t looking too good. I actually bought 2, and had already planted the other one outside. I wanted to ignore how the one in the house was suddenly looking so pitiful today, but I couldn’t do that either, and I ended up repotting it and bringing it outside. I’m pretty sure that pot isn’t quite big enough and it will probably have to be dealt with again soon but that’s what I had on hand, so oh well. But it should be a lot happier for a little while, than it was. One of Mister’s best friends has recently gotten into gardening and Mister sends him pics of the beans and tomatoes and his friend oohs and ahhs over them. It kind of irritates me because his friend is the active gardener in his household, and the pictures Mister shows him are not because of any work Mister has done to tend to the plants. He helped me put the elevated bed on the deck together, and he installed the drip irrigation in the container with the tomatoes. That’s IT. I’ve done everything else by myself or with the help of my DS. So I kinda feel like Mister doesn’t get bragging rights to try to show off when he and his friend are talking about gardening. I am not usually so petty, yet, here I am. And that’s not even the biggest thing I’m feeling petty about. Pink, Maybe Mister is showing the pictures of the garden because of how proud he is of the job you are doing. Hugs to you, hope you start feeling better soon.
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Post by Pink Cashmere on Jul 13, 2023 18:49:27 GMT -5
When I got home from work today, all I wanted to do was sit on my butt in my happy place, on the deck. But the bush beans in the planter on the deck were screaming at me that they needed attention. I wanted so badly to ignore them, because they’ve started creeping me out anyway with all the ugly leaves. But I couldn’t do it. So I got my gloves and scissors and groomed them, then watered them and everything else on the deck. It sure is easier to just turn the faucet on and let the drip irrigation system water the tomatoes. And because I’m a weirdo, I still had a banana plant that I randomly purchased a few weeks ago,inside the house, and I’d noticed when I got home from work, that it wasn’t looking too good. I actually bought 2, and had already planted the other one outside. I wanted to ignore how the one in the house was suddenly looking so pitiful today, but I couldn’t do that either, and I ended up repotting it and bringing it outside. I’m pretty sure that pot isn’t quite big enough and it will probably have to be dealt with again soon but that’s what I had on hand, so oh well. But it should be a lot happier for a little while, than it was. One of Mister’s best friends has recently gotten into gardening and Mister sends him pics of the beans and tomatoes and his friend oohs and ahhs over them. It kind of irritates me because his friend is the active gardener in his household, and the pictures Mister shows him are not because of any work Mister has done to tend to the plants. He helped me put the elevated bed on the deck together, and he installed the drip irrigation in the container with the tomatoes. That’s IT. I’ve done everything else by myself or with the help of my DS. So I kinda feel like Mister doesn’t get bragging rights to try to show off when he and his friend are talking about gardening. I am not usually so petty, yet, here I am. And that’s not even the biggest thing I’m feeling petty about. Pink, Maybe Mister is showing the pictures of the garden because of how proud he is of the job you are doing. Hugs to you, hope you start feeling better soon. If that’s the case, it would be nice if he actually told me he was proud of the job I’m doing. He has said how much he likes the green beans I’m growing when I cook them, but not once has he said anything about anything close to being proud of my gardening efforts. Thank you for the hugs. This is just a season in my life, I will be okay or better, eventually.
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Post by CCL on Jul 13, 2023 19:10:47 GMT -5
When I got home from work today, all I wanted to do was sit on my butt in my happy place, on the deck. But the bush beans in the planter on the deck were screaming at me that they needed attention. I wanted so badly to ignore them, because they’ve started creeping me out anyway with all the ugly leaves. But I couldn’t do it. So I got my gloves and scissors and groomed them, then watered them and everything else on the deck. It sure is easier to just turn the faucet on and let the drip irrigation system water the tomatoes. And because I’m a weirdo, I still had a banana plant that I randomly purchased a few weeks ago,inside the house, and I’d noticed when I got home from work, that it wasn’t looking too good. I actually bought 2, and had already planted the other one outside. I wanted to ignore how the one in the house was suddenly looking so pitiful today, but I couldn’t do that either, and I ended up repotting it and bringing it outside. I’m pretty sure that pot isn’t quite big enough and it will probably have to be dealt with again soon but that’s what I had on hand, so oh well. But it should be a lot happier for a little while, than it was. One of Mister’s best friends has recently gotten into gardening and Mister sends him pics of the beans and tomatoes and his friend oohs and ahhs over them. It kind of irritates me because his friend is the active gardener in his household, and the pictures Mister shows him are not because of any work Mister has done to tend to the plants. He helped me put the elevated bed on the deck together, and he installed the drip irrigation in the container with the tomatoes. That’s IT. I’ve done everything else by myself or with the help of my DS. So I kinda feel like Mister doesn’t get bragging rights to try to show off when he and his friend are talking about gardening. I am not usually so petty, yet, here I am. And that’s not even the biggest thing I’m feeling petty about. I dont blame you for being irritated, but maybe he's bragging about you, not himself? Are you still picking beans? Bush beans usually mature over a couple of weeks (determinate). You can check your seed packet to see. The plants may be done and ready to pull out.
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Post by countrygirl2 on Jul 13, 2023 19:28:59 GMT -5
I guess I need to slow down more. I think I am certified old, sigh. Yesterday we walked a lot and I was pooped, still am.
Didn't do anything this morning. Then stained the front porch again after it got hot. I washed half the windows in and out, figured out how to get the screens out. But I have 3 huge windows in the living room. I see I missed some fly spots inside and didn't scrape all the paint spots off outside. So will hit them again tomorrow. There was black paint spatter all over the front ones when we bought it so hubs didn't do it. This is the first time I got to it. I will wash them in and out again tomorrow. Since there is no black paint anywhere else I don't know how I have black out there.
I didn't wash the bedroom or bathroom windows yet.
But I think I've over done it, I must have let my blood sugar get low?? I went to the little store by my place and got orange juice and chugged some, I already feel better. I just don't realize its happened till it has if that makes sense. Sometimes I can eat and it does it, sometimes I don't and it does.
Oh well, starting dinner, the kids will be over soon. Son will grill the burgers, DIL the fries and me make deviled eggs and maybe slaw.
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Post by MarionTh230 on Jul 13, 2023 19:39:27 GMT -5
I just finished my work day 15 minutes ago. They fixed the problem today, only, they did their own half-assed version of a fix. It's better than it was, but it's still not right. And it won't be right until they do what I told them to do a week ago. Which resulted in another phone call with my boss where I word vomited all the 4 letter words again. Only today, DH was still here because he hadn't left for work yet. When I finished the call he looked at me and said, I didn't realize you could say the f-word that many times in a single sentence.
Well dude, you can. You totally can. Welcome to my job! I just gathered another set of data and sent it off. Tomorrow will not be an easy lazy Friday. I already know that.
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Post by Pink Cashmere on Jul 13, 2023 19:42:57 GMT -5
When I got home from work today, all I wanted to do was sit on my butt in my happy place, on the deck. But the bush beans in the planter on the deck were screaming at me that they needed attention. I wanted so badly to ignore them, because they’ve started creeping me out anyway with all the ugly leaves. But I couldn’t do it. So I got my gloves and scissors and groomed them, then watered them and everything else on the deck. It sure is easier to just turn the faucet on and let the drip irrigation system water the tomatoes. And because I’m a weirdo, I still had a banana plant that I randomly purchased a few weeks ago,inside the house, and I’d noticed when I got home from work, that it wasn’t looking too good. I actually bought 2, and had already planted the other one outside. I wanted to ignore how the one in the house was suddenly looking so pitiful today, but I couldn’t do that either, and I ended up repotting it and bringing it outside. I’m pretty sure that pot isn’t quite big enough and it will probably have to be dealt with again soon but that’s what I had on hand, so oh well. But it should be a lot happier for a little while, than it was. One of Mister’s best friends has recently gotten into gardening and Mister sends him pics of the beans and tomatoes and his friend oohs and ahhs over them. It kind of irritates me because his friend is the active gardener in his household, and the pictures Mister shows him are not because of any work Mister has done to tend to the plants. He helped me put the elevated bed on the deck together, and he installed the drip irrigation in the container with the tomatoes. That’s IT. I’ve done everything else by myself or with the help of my DS. So I kinda feel like Mister doesn’t get bragging rights to try to show off when he and his friend are talking about gardening. I am not usually so petty, yet, here I am. And that’s not even the biggest thing I’m feeling petty about. I dont blame you for being irritated, but maybe he's bragging about you, not himself? Are you still picking beans? Bush beans usually mature over a couple of weeks (determinate). You can check your seed packet to see. The plants may be done and ready to pull out. Well, I half heartedly tried succession planting, so I would have beans throughout the season. They are bush beans, that as far as I know, are determinate, and had mostly stopped producing, maybe because of the darn heat, but now I have a lot of flower buds again, even on the first ones I planted. So I kinda feel like I’m stuck with them if they are still giving me beans, even though they’ve started to creep me out. LOL! The leaves just started looking crazy a couple weeks ago, and before that, Mister told me that his friend commented on one of the pictures he sent him, that the plants and leaves looked so healthy. Mister asked me for the info on the moisture meter I bought last year, because his friend felt like his wife was overwatering their plants. I gave him the link to the one I bought. It just kinda bugs me that Mister does not help at all with the maintenance of my efforts to grow vegetables and maybe that is exacerbated by the fact that he hasn’t even done what he promised many times to do, to do something try to protect my tomato plants from pests like he said he would do. I wasn’t even going to try to grow vegetables this year, except he kept promising he would enclose my plants to protect them from pests. That is why I got a late start this year. I was so discouraged from last year that I wasn’t trying to grow anything this year, until he started making those promises that I didn’t even ask for. Even after all the stuff started happening with his family, he kept talking about it, and I kept asking him if he was sure he was up to it. He kept saying yes. But it was my son that helped me get the container situated on the ground, where my tomatoes are, not Mister. And my tomato plants are still vulnerable to whatever insects, rodents and birds that want to have their way with them, and I am kind of upset about that, because I asked Mister many, many times if he was sure. He is not telling his friend “look what Pink is doing”. He is saying this is what our stuff looks like right now. And yes, that irritates me, because it’s not really “our” and “we”, it is “ME”.
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Post by MarionTh230 on Jul 13, 2023 19:43:02 GMT -5
I guess I need to slow down more. I think I am certified old, sigh. Yesterday we walked a lot and I was pooped, still am. Didn't do anything this morning. Then stained the front porch again after it got hot. I washed half the windows in and out, figured out how to get the screens out. Put I have 3 huge windows in the living room. I see I missed some fly spots inside and didn't scrape all the paint spots off outside. So will hit them again tomorrow. There were black paint spatter all over the front ones when we bought it so hubs didn't do it. This is the first time I got to it. I will wash them in and out again tomorrow. Since there is no black paint anywhere I don't know how I have black out there. I didn't wash the bedroom or bathroom windows yet. But I think I've over done it, I must have let my blood sugar get low?? I went to the little store by my place and got orange juice and chugged some, I already feel better. I just don't realize its happened till it has if that makes sense. Sometimes I can eat and it does it, sometimes I don't and it does. Oh well, starting dinner, the kids will be over soon. Son will grill the burgers, DIL the fries and me make deviled eggs and maybe slaw. You may be old. But, you know what? I'm probably half your age and I stay tired trying to keep up with a 7 year old. I think you're doing much better than you give yourself credit for! Are you sure it's blood sugar? Have you checked your sugar when this happens? Have you checked your BP when this happens? Just be careful out there CG. I'm assuming the slaw has raw cabbage in it. If it does, go easy. Cabbage is also a cruciferous vegetable. Grilled burgers sure does sound yummy though. Summer is always too hot to grill down here. I do a little bit of grilling in the summer mostly just for the holidays/special occasions. But I grill a lot in the winter. Enjoy your dinner and your rest!
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Post by MarionTh230 on Jul 13, 2023 19:44:52 GMT -5
When I got home from work today, all I wanted to do was sit on my butt in my happy place, on the deck. But the bush beans in the planter on the deck were screaming at me that they needed attention. I wanted so badly to ignore them, because they’ve started creeping me out anyway with all the ugly leaves. But I couldn’t do it. So I got my gloves and scissors and groomed them, then watered them and everything else on the deck. It sure is easier to just turn the faucet on and let the drip irrigation system water the tomatoes. And because I’m a weirdo, I still had a banana plant that I randomly purchased a few weeks ago,inside the house, and I’d noticed when I got home from work, that it wasn’t looking too good. I actually bought 2, and had already planted the other one outside. I wanted to ignore how the one in the house was suddenly looking so pitiful today, but I couldn’t do that either, and I ended up repotting it and bringing it outside. I’m pretty sure that pot isn’t quite big enough and it will probably have to be dealt with again soon but that’s what I had on hand, so oh well. But it should be a lot happier for a little while, than it was. One of Mister’s best friends has recently gotten into gardening and Mister sends him pics of the beans and tomatoes and his friend oohs and ahhs over them. It kind of irritates me because his friend is the active gardener in his household, and the pictures Mister shows him are not because of any work Mister has done to tend to the plants. He helped me put the elevated bed on the deck together, and he installed the drip irrigation in the container with the tomatoes. That’s IT. I’ve done everything else by myself or with the help of my DS. So I kinda feel like Mister doesn’t get bragging rights to try to show off when he and his friend are talking about gardening. I am not usually so petty, yet, here I am. And that’s not even the biggest thing I’m feeling petty about. I'm going to be honest and tell you, I read this and laughed. You really do have a gardener's spirit. Let me know when the plants start talking to you though. I have plenty of stories and lullabies you can use to soothe them
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Post by MarionTh230 on Jul 13, 2023 19:47:18 GMT -5
Mister’s Aunt is back in the hospital. I’m out of patience with her. I’m out of patience with his Dad. I’m on the verge of having run out of patience with Mister. His Aunt told brother she’s just going to sell the house and move to a retirement home. That’s hilarious. She apparently can’t even afford to live in the modest house she lives in now, that’s been paid for forever, courtesy of her Mother. So how tf can she afford to just move into a retirement community?! And she can’t just sell the house anyway. A few weeks ago Mister and I were talking about the house, and I looked it up online on the tax assessor’s website, and stressed Mister out by telling him that the house is actually owned by Aunt AND his Mom. Which I guess means that Mister’s Dad is a joint owner now, if they ever settle that mess out. Auntie can’t just jump up and sell what she doesn’t own 100%. And the condition the house is in, it’s worth about a negative $50. So even if she could just sell it, it won’t go far to help her pay to live somewhere else. I’m obviously still rather cranky. I’m not sad or feeling hopeless, my nerves are just really bad. I’ve never been the most patient person, and I’ve never had a lot of tolerance for bullshit. And right now, I’m at an all time low with both. I fear, I'd be feeling much the same as you, given your situation. These people put you through hell, but then can't even show you basic respect most of the time. Much less the gratitude that they should be showing you and Mister. And then they want and expect more! I'd be over it, to put it mildly. I'd be tempted to walk away and let her figure/find out, for herself. And then deal with it herself. Easier said, than done. I know. But at some point, you have to save yourself. Even if it means that she has to crash and burn. And Mister's dad too. I know this sounds cruel. But how else do you deal with people like this, that always expect others to figure things out for them? They're not being realistic. More hugs for you. Yeah, you nailed it. It doesn't sound cruel at all.
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Post by MarionTh230 on Jul 13, 2023 19:53:37 GMT -5
I dont blame you for being irritated, but maybe he's bragging about you, not himself? Are you still picking beans? Bush beans usually mature over a couple of weeks (determinate). You can check your seed packet to see. The plants may be done and ready to pull out. Well, I half heartedly tried succession planting, so I would have beans throughout the season. They are bush beans, that as far as I know, are determinate, and had mostly stopped producing, maybe because of the darn heat, but now I have a lot of flower buds again, even on the first ones I planted. So I kinda feel like I’m stuck with them if they are still giving me beans, even though they’ve started to creep me out. LOL! The leaves just started looking crazy a couple weeks ago, and before that, Mister told me that his friend commented on one of the pictures he sent him, that the plants and leaves looked so healthy. Mister asked me for the info on the moisture meter I bought last year, because his friend felt like his wife was overwatering their plants. I gave him the link to the one I bought. It just kinda bugs me that Mister does not help at all with the maintenance of my efforts to grow vegetables and maybe that is exacerbated by the fact that he hasn’t even done what he promised many times to do, to do something try to protect my tomato plants from pests like he said he would do. I wasn’t even going to try to grow vegetables this year, except he kept promising he would enclose my plants to protect them from pests. That is why I got a late start this year. I was so discouraged from last year that I wasn’t trying to grow anything this year, until he started making those promises that I didn’t even ask for. Even after all the stuff started happening with his family, he kept talking about it, and I kept asking him if he was sure he was up to it. He kept saying yes. But it was my son that helped me get the container situated on the ground, where my tomatoes are, not Mister. And my tomato plants are still vulnerable to whatever insects, rodents and birds that want to have their way with them, and I am kind of upset about that, because I asked Mister many, many times if he was sure. He is not telling his friend “look what Pink is doing”. He is saying this is what our stuff looks like right now. And yes, that irritates me, because it’s not really “our” and “we”, it is “ME”. Ouch. That hurts. No, this isn't a case of you just being petty. I think anybody who gardens would feel hurt by what you described. Look, I know I've complained in the Gardening thread about DH and his visions of grandeur or whatever he has going on. But, he always helps me with the gardening whenever I ask. He is also very excited about any fruit, vegetable, or flower I grow. When he sends pictures to his friends or family he always says "look what MY wife did". He never tries to take credit for my hard work, and he does genuinely show both pride and praise for my efforts. If DH went about things the way you have described here, I would be hurt as well. I mean, maybe gardening isn't the most important thing in the world in the grand scheme of things, but, I don't think any of the feelings you are having would constitute pettiness either. You can have legitimate emotional pain from seemingly small things without crossing into the petty territory.
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Post by seriousthistime on Jul 13, 2023 19:57:17 GMT -5
Mister’s Aunt is back in the hospital. I’m out of patience with her. I’m out of patience with his Dad. I’m on the verge of having run out of patience with Mister. His Aunt told brother she’s just going to sell the house and move to a retirement home. That’s hilarious. She apparently can’t even afford to live in the modest house she lives in now, that’s been paid for forever, courtesy of her Mother. So how tf can she afford to just move into a retirement community?! And she can’t just sell the house anyway. A few weeks ago Mister and I were talking about the house, and I looked it up online on the tax assessor’s website, and stressed Mister out by telling him that the house is actually owned by Aunt AND his Mom. Which I guess means that Mister’s Dad is a joint owner now, if they ever settle that mess out. Auntie can’t just jump up and sell what she doesn’t own 100%. And the condition the house is in, it’s worth about a negative $50. So even if she could just sell it, it won’t go far to help her pay to live somewhere else. I’m obviously still rather cranky. I’m not sad or feeling hopeless, my nerves are just really bad. I’ve never been the most patient person, and I’ve never had a lot of tolerance for bullshit. And right now, I’m at an all time low with both. Don't jump to conclusions on Aunt's house. Tax records indicate WHO the owners are, but they usually don't indicate HOW the owners took title to the property, and it makes a big difference. Quick research tells me that your state has four ways that real estate owners can hold title (as a single person, a married couple, as joint tenants with rights of survivorship, and as tenants in common). This is specified on the deed. Aunt's situation involves two owners, not a married couple, so that crosses off the first two. The difference between joint tenants and tenants in common is this. blueprinttitle.com/tennessee-deeds-and-vesting/#:~:text=Tennessee%20recognizes%20four%20basic%20types,tenants%2C%20and%20tenants%20in%20common.&text=In%20this%20type%20of%20ownership,homestead%2C%20or%20dower%20and%20curtesy.
Joint Tenants in TennesseeTennessee recognizes joint tenancy with right of survivorship as a common form of joint ownership for non-spouses. This form allows multiple people or entities to own a title interest to the property, and comes with various rights and responsibilities. In particular, joint tenancies with right of survivorship involve all parties having equal ownership and the right to assume another owner’s interest in the event the other owner dies. Tenancy in Common in TennesseeTennessee also recognizes tenancy in common as a form of co-ownership for non-spouses. Tenancy in common allows multiple owners to own title in a property, but rather than owning equally, the owners can set varying ownership percentages. For example, one owner could own 51% of the property, with the other owning 49%. Additionally, an owner’s share would pass to the owner’s heirs upon death, rather than passing to the other tenants in common.
So only if Aunt and Mister's Mom took title as tenants in common would Mister's Dad inherit Mom's share when she passed.
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