what are you doing right now?

[susana1954]

May 18, 2023 17:44:27 GMT -5 chiver78 said:

May 18, 2023 16:51:58 GMT -5 susana1954 said:

"Just say no" department:

If someone says, "We aren't going to bake cakes this year for the women's luncheon.  Instead, you will each make 60+ mini-cupcakes because they will look so incredibly cute on these dessert stands that we are going to craft the day before the luncheon . . . "  Never mind that it takes 4x as long.  And that's just the cupcake part.  I am working while they craft, thank the Lord.

Don't say, "Hell, no!" because it's a church function, but God's grace will cover you if you think it.

um, what? I've tried to read this in a few different voices from my childhood, but I'm still not there. 

I doubt if they covered it in your childhood.  I simply meant God will forgive you for thinking it.

[Pink Cashmere]

May 18, 2023 16:24:26 GMT -5 soupandstew said:

May 18, 2023 16:00:34 GMT -5 Pink Cashmere said:

Mister’s uncle (Baby Sister’s husband) called him early yesterday. They are bringing Dad home next week. That immediately stressed Mister out. 

He has been asking for at least a month, for Brother to get some boxes and start boxing up their Mom’s stuff, so that whenever Dad did come home, there wouldn’t be so many reminders. As of today, Brother has not even started on it. Me being bitchy, I said the female that brother let move into the house could’ve been doing that or at least helping him with it.

Mister also told Brother a few weeks ago that him and horseface (the female that’s living there now) needed to at least pay the utility bill. Crickets on that.

So today Mister said again that he feels like his brother is playing with him and taking advantage of him, and it makes him want to fight. We are both too old to be trying to resolve issues by laying hands on people, but I really do understand what he means. What I don’t understand, given everything I’ve been told about Mister’s temper and how he can act sometimes, is why his brother doesn’t seem bothered about incurring Mister’s wrath. Mister is not asking anything of him that’s unreasonable for a good and grown ass man, to contribute SOMETHING to where he lays his head every night. Half the time, Brother’s excuse is that he is so emotional about their Mom dying, as if she wasn’t MISTER’S MOM TOO. But he and their Dad leave everything to Mister to handle, like he didn’t lose his Mom that he was so close to and talked to and joked with almost every single day and many times, several times each day. 

I went on a tangent and forgot what I originally meant to say, so Imma just hush now.

That is absolutely the most worthless piss-poor excuse I've ever heard, like none of us have ever felt loss and pain.  How dare he disrespect the woman who gave him life by laying up there in that house with a friend, not paying a dime, and using her name to justify being a scumbag?  If I'm this mad, I can't even imagine where Mister is.  

I read this post several times before I tried to reply to it.

I really appreciate that you express your thoughts and feelings so that I don't feel so crazy about what I think and feel.

[countrygirl2]

I feel like I have worked hard today, but no I have not. Was just up so darn early getting the bed people here and all. They were fast,  professional, and just nice guys. We chatted while they worked.

I am in my bed, propped up with the massage going. I'm reading and also on the net, this is heaven, and yes, it is comfortable. I hope hubs doesn't find it too soft. The feel is more comfortable than our old one but I think with age the foam material had compressed some. The massage is different, on the others you can have it do different parts of the body. This one only has one massage for the whole body but no issue with it either. Hubs said I would not have paid that much. I said well we would have still paid a lot and not ended up with something as good I fear. I have been dreading buying a new bed. I need to pay it off tonight and get that over with. I hate to see the money go.

[Deleted]

May 18, 2023 18:28:30 GMT -5 Pink Cashmere said:

May 18, 2023 16:24:26 GMT -5 soupandstew said:

That is absolutely the most worthless piss-poor excuse I've ever heard, like none of us have ever felt loss and pain.  How dare he disrespect the woman who gave him life by laying up there in that house with a friend, not paying a dime, and using her name to justify being a scumbag?  If I'm this mad, I can't even imagine where Mister is.  

I read this post several times before I tried to reply to it.

I really appreciate that you express your thoughts and feelings so that I don't feel so crazy about what I think and feel.

And I appreciate you letting me express my thoughts in a very direct way because I value you and Mister.  I hope Mister doesn't go the muscle route with his brother, but I'm definitely up for bail if he does.  It may not be the smart way, but I understand his feelings for sure.  

[CCL]

daisylu

[chiver78]

May 18, 2023 18:07:39 GMT -5 susana1954 said:

May 18, 2023 17:44:27 GMT -5 chiver78 said:

um, what? I've tried to read this in a few different voices from my childhood, but I'm still not there. 

I doubt if they covered it in your childhood.  I simply meant God will forgive you for thinking it.

well, since I've done my best to forget the actual words used in CCD and other religious instruction, that's probably why I don't remember it. I absorbed the gist of being a good person and doing the right thing, while also bristling at the institution best showcased in the movie "Spotlight". 

[andi9899]

Y'all I went to boxing tonight and the instructor hurt himself. I feel so bad for him. He was demonstrating an exercise and I thought he was lifting too much weight. He's pretty fit, so I've seen him lift pretty heavy before. His bicep snapped. I didn't hear it pop, but he did. He left class and went to the hospital. I hope he's OK. I'm pretty sure that if it's torn that's going to be something that's going to take a while to come back from.

[giramomma]

I am having an adult beverage.

I just told DH I may cash in on my "leftovers" from March and April this weekend.

I'm too damn old to be out of the house for 13 hours, straight.

The pressure parents are putting on their kids is unreal.

Dh told me today that the 2nd grade classroom has sign that we're human and not perfect.

I have started being more overt about taking the kids out of their school. When it comes down to it, though. It's not because of the school. It's because of the other parents. And the peanut is going to be way to immature to handle the realities of public middle school. At least at the girls school now, there's no sex and drugs in school and caregivers aren't coming in to call the teachers unsavory names. And I'm not sure she can handle being one of 170 or so. I think she needs to be 1 of 54.

[andi9899]

May 18, 2023 9:53:52 GMT -5 chiver78 said:

sanity check - the 'memo' line on a check is mine to use as I please. as in, if I make myself a 'mental note' that a check is for stupid bullshit fees associated with something I paid already, I can say what I want on that line and they still have to take it. yes? 

oh, and if another check has been endorsed, but then crossed out and never cashed, I can still re-submit to the same recipient? I'm all about fucking up their process this time, even if it makes more work for me in the meantime. 

Yes and no. If you write that something is paid in full or something like that, your check may not be accepted. My mom was making payments on a medical bill and she wrote something like hospital balance or something in the memo line. They wouldn't accept it because the balance wasn't paid in full yet. Otherwise, yes.

[andi9899]

May 18, 2023 16:00:34 GMT -5 Pink Cashmere said:

Mister’s uncle (Baby Sister’s husband) called him early yesterday. They are bringing Dad home next week. That immediately stressed Mister out. 

He has been asking for at least a month, for Brother to get some boxes and start boxing up their Mom’s stuff, so that whenever Dad did come home, there wouldn’t be so many reminders. As of today, Brother has not even started on it. Me being bitchy, I said the female that brother let move into the house could’ve been doing that or at least helping him with it.

Mister also told Brother a few weeks ago that him and horseface (the female that’s living there now) needed to at least pay the utility bill. Crickets on that.

So today Mister said again that he feels like his brother is playing with him and taking advantage of him, and it makes him want to fight. We are both too old to be trying to resolve issues by laying hands on people, but I really do understand what he means. What I don’t understand, given everything I’ve been told about Mister’s temper and how he can act sometimes, is why his brother doesn’t seem bothered about incurring Mister’s wrath. Mister is not asking anything of him that’s unreasonable for a good and grown ass man, to contribute SOMETHING to where he lays his head every night. Half the time, Brother’s excuse is that he is so emotional about their Mom dying, as if she wasn’t MISTER’S MOM TOO. But he and their Dad leave everything to Mister to handle, like he didn’t lose his Mom that he was so close to and talked to and joked with almost every single day and many times, several times each day. 

I went on a tangent and forgot what I originally meant to say, so Imma just hush now.

I know the situation isn't funny, but my uncle used to have a GF we called horse face so it did make me laugh a little.

ETA: Wait a minute. He's a grown ass man and he's not paying for anything?! I mean, my sister is a grown ass woman and doesn't pay rent, but I'm not paying the bills either. I figure that's between her and my parents. If there ever came a day where I was being asked to pay bills there, you best believe my sister would be helping or we would fight. I don't give a damn how old we are.

[toomuchreality]

May 18, 2023 20:33:55 GMT -5 andi9899 said:

Y'all I went to boxing tonight and the instructor hurt himself. I feel so bad for him. He was demonstrating an exercise and I thought he was lifting too much weight. He's pretty fit, so I've seen him lift pretty heavy before. His bicep snapped. I didn't hear it pop, but he did. He left class and went to the hospital. I hope he's OK. I'm pretty sure that if it's torn that's going to be something that's going to take a while to come back from.

YIKES! That sounds so painful! And I agree, if it's torn or something like that, it's going to take quite awhile and possibly surgery, to heal.
I'm so sorry.

[TheOtherMe]

I did a 2 hour course today. The presenter was based in the UK. At the beginning, she said it was a very intense course with lots of information to process so she would take a break.

About 75 minutes into the class she said we were now going to have a break. The break was from 18 after the hour to 22 minutes after the hour. And it was precisely 4 minutes 😂😂

[andi9899]

May 18, 2023 17:44:27 GMT -5 chiver78 said:

May 18, 2023 16:51:58 GMT -5 susana1954 said:

"Just say no" department:

If someone says, "We aren't going to bake cakes this year for the women's luncheon.  Instead, you will each make 60+ mini-cupcakes because they will look so incredibly cute on these dessert stands that we are going to craft the day before the luncheon . . . "  Never mind that it takes 4x as long.  And that's just the cupcake part.  I am working while they craft, thank the Lord.

Don't say, "Hell, no!" because it's a church function, but God's grace will cover you if you think it.

um, what? I've tried to read this in a few different voices from my childhood, but I'm still not there. 

Not related, but the girls went to catholic school. I once told one of the office ladies to go to hell. My sister thought it was the best thing ever.

[andi9899]

May 18, 2023 17:57:21 GMT -5 daisylu said:

Thanks to everyone for the condolences. I got home around 5pm and got great hugs from DH. Just learned that the funeral is already scheduled for Saturday. That means a day of traveling tomorrow, funeral Saturday, and a day of travel on Sunday. Still need to contact my boss about all of this, but I don't have a lot of pending items until late next week so I'm sure I can take a much time as I need. I am in compartmentalization mode right now, and have yet to deal with actual emotions.

I appreciate the love I've gotten from here. Thank you.

Can you possibly take Monday off too? That's a lot for one weekend.

[toomuchreality]

May 18, 2023 21:01:06 GMT -5 andi9899 said:

May 18, 2023 16:00:34 GMT -5 Pink Cashmere said:

Mister’s uncle (Baby Sister’s husband) called him early yesterday. They are bringing Dad home next week. That immediately stressed Mister out. 

He has been asking for at least a month, for Brother to get some boxes and start boxing up their Mom’s stuff, so that whenever Dad did come home, there wouldn’t be so many reminders. As of today, Brother has not even started on it. Me being bitchy, I said the female that brother let move into the house could’ve been doing that or at least helping him with it.

Mister also told Brother a few weeks ago that him and horseface (the female that’s living there now) needed to at least pay the utility bill. Crickets on that.

So today Mister said again that he feels like his brother is playing with him and taking advantage of him, and it makes him want to fight. We are both too old to be trying to resolve issues by laying hands on people, but I really do understand what he means. What I don’t understand, given everything I’ve been told about Mister’s temper and how he can act sometimes, is why his brother doesn’t seem bothered about incurring Mister’s wrath. Mister is not asking anything of him that’s unreasonable for a good and grown ass man, to contribute SOMETHING to where he lays his head every night. Half the time, Brother’s excuse is that he is so emotional about their Mom dying, as if she wasn’t MISTER’S MOM TOO. But he and their Dad leave everything to Mister to handle, like he didn’t lose his Mom that he was so close to and talked to and joked with almost every single day and many times, several times each day. 

I went on a tangent and forgot what I originally meant to say, so Imma just hush now.

I know the situation isn't funny, but my uncle used to have a GF we called horse face so it did make me laugh a little.

ETA: Wait a minute. He's a grown ass man and he's not paying for anything?! I mean, my sister is a grown ass woman and doesn't pay rent, but I'm not paying the bills either. I figure that's between her and my parents. If there ever came a day where I was being asked to pay bills there, you best believe my sister would be helping or we would fight. I don't give a damn how old we are.

Yeah. That's how I'd feel too. But I think after growing up together, there are some traits in people that they just don't care, or something. Maybe they only deal with what they have to. And as an adult, Mister hasn't gotten physical with him, so he hopes it stays that way. I don't know.

Years ago, my adult brother, invited me to move into his house with him. I did, but it didn't last long. The whole time he used my stuff without asking, then would deny it. When I'd go to use it, I couldn't find it. Then I'd see it sitting on the front seat of his truck. When I confronted him, he denied taking, or using it. When I went out and got it from his truck, he just shrugged his shoulders. He didn't care. Yet he'd come unglued on me, for something I had nothing to do with. He blamed me for a missing CD of his exwife's, when I already owned the same CD and he'd taken mine too (1 for him and 1 for his girlfriend). After a few months, I moved. Some people just don't grow up. He was always the golden child and still acts like he is.

I have to stay away from people who take advantage. I can't deal with them.

Pink and Mister are in a hard place right now. I feel bad for them.

[toomuchreality]

May 18, 2023 21:21:20 GMT -5 TheOtherMe said:

I did a 2 hour course today. The presenter was based in the UK. At the beginning, she said it was a very intense course with lots of information to process so she would take a break.

About 75 minutes into the class she said we were now going to have a break. The break was from 18 after the hour to 22 minutes after the hour. And it was precisely 4 minutes 😂😂

Wow. It's a good thing you got that break! 😳

[Works4me]

May 18, 2023 14:18:05 GMT -5 NomoreDramaQ1015 said:

Andrew Llyod Weber is a mixed bag.   I LOVED my VHS of the Broadway Production of CATS and actually watched a few clips on Youtube recently.   When I went to see the Broadway tour?  I wanted to stab my brain it was awful and boring.

I have seen Phantom three times, own the soundtrack and I also have the movie version.  Never get sick of it.

Jesus Christ Superstar ranks a very close number two for me.   I went to see it twice at the Omaha Community Playhouse.   I watched the NYC Broadway cast on TV. 

Did not care for the version with John Legend he felt very flat to me and IMO his vocal range wasn't right for a lot of the songs.

The guy that played Jesus at the Playhouse was fantastic.  My mom developed a major crush on him. 

The actor that played Judas was also phenomenal.  He played Lola in Kinky Boots recently.  I could listen to him sing me the phone book. 

Gethsemane is my favorite song from JCS.  I listen to Steve Balsamo sing it all the time.




I watched Joseph and the Amazing Technicolor Dream Coat with Donny Osmond when it was free on Youtube during the pandemic.  I had no idea Donny could be that hot.     There were a couple really good songs in it but otherwise it was a miss for me.  I wanted to see it locally but it was supposed to show during 2020 so never happened.  I am okay now with passing if it comes around again.

I'll take one, please!

[busymom]

Well, the smoke-filled air that has arrived from Canada is kicking my butt today.  I've been coughing enough that even DS keeps asking me if I'm ok.  It's supposed to clear out in the next day or two, or at least be less bothersome, but I can't spend any serious time outside.  Even inside the house it smells like one of the neighbors has a bonfire going.  Ugh!  

[Opti]

May 18, 2023 23:34:16 GMT -5 busymom said:

Well, the smoke-filled air that has arrived from Canada is kicking my butt today.  I've been coughing enough that even DS keeps asking me if I'm ok.  It's supposed to clear out in the next day or two, or at least be less bothersome, but I can't spend any serious time outside.  Even inside the house it smells like one of the neighbors has a bonfire going.  Ugh!  

Sorry to read about the smoke. Have your weather peeps given you any idea how long you will have to deal with it? I know that affects people's health and I would probably be masking as I have enough issues with spring allergies and my sinuses right now.

[Opti]

Up because my stomach is a bit unhappy with me and also because I fell asleep briefly with the bright light in my bedroom on instead of the smaller lamp I leave on in case I fall asleep but still have things to do. So, I have left the cricket and egg crate alone in the bathtub as something to be dealt with in the monrning. Oh yeah, my friend was very generous and we popped into TJ Joes and I got a few things and also popped by the Petsmart or whatever it is, and I got double the crickets I usually get for Crestie in a week. So I put together the small cricket keeper thing. Should not have put the big piece of egg crate in there as well. Turns out they will actually hide in the tubes or in this case rectangular "tubes" that you use to shake some crickets into the cage. I asked for 10. Not sure how many there actually were in the original bag as I wasn't up to counting them. I did not bring any bags to the doctor's with me for shopping as I had no idea if R had cleared more of his schedule for me or whether he had work queued up at local homes he had to start on shortly after 9AM.

So spent some money along the way to hold stuff including the crickets, and only because my tote and the other bags were already jam packed. Anyway, without his daily apple piece for now, the quality of Moon Shadow's poop is not as good, so I just washed his all purpose dish as he managed to squash some on the rim of it. (Yuck!) So vinegar and water to the rescue. Just looked at the time, and if I am up right now I like to try to go back to sleep in time to possibly get 4 hours in a row. So sorry in advance for this ramble, need to have some gingerale for my stomach and get back to bed. Moon shadow got his morning pellets early and I will top off his dish with a handful of hay soon. Did the usual spot cleaning of Moon Shadow output pellets so for now the area around his food dish is clear of waste.

[finnime]

Good morning, invisipeeps under pressure along with your children, SOs, gym compatriots and coworkers and even the air. Happy Friday to you. I hope your day offers easy clarity and an opportunity for joy. And, if you like, a jelly donut.

We're diligently preparing for our trip now. Last minute planned purchases include a passport cover for DH and a small wallet for me to carry change and two types of currency along with a credit card.We leave in 5 days! We'll be in London in 6.

Franklin the Dog will stay with ODB, I think for the duration of our trip. He may wind up at DSis's, too. He's a very chill dog. He'll be happy, I think. It will be strange to be without him in our current consiousness at all times. There's a constant awareness of him and where he is that will go unanswered. But we'll be very busy.

After seeing the concert the night before I oveslept yesterday, not waking until 5:00, so missed sunrise. I did get the sunset, and a shot or two of a ferry returning to harbor:

[Opti]

May 18, 2023 18:43:28 GMT -5 countrygirl2 said:

I feel like I have worked hard today, but no I have not. Was just up so darn early getting the bed people here and all. They were fast,  professional, and just nice guys. We chatted while they worked.

I am in my bed, propped up with the massage going. I'm reading and also on the net, this is heaven, and yes, it is comfortable. I hope hubs doesn't find it too soft. The feel is more comfortable than our old one but I think with age the foam material had compressed some. The massage is different, on the others you can have it do different parts of the body. This one only has one massage for the whole body but no issue with it either. Hubs said I would not have paid that much. I said well we would have still paid a lot and not ended up with something as good I fear. I have been dreading buying a new bed. I need to pay it off tonight and get that over with. I hate to see the money go.

If you got a good bed and it will last years, think of it as good mattress cost per year for so many years versus a lesser mattress you would have to buy more often and probably be less happy with.

The kicker for me being underfunded, is coming up with enough money to pay for one as payment plans would not help me all that much. I think they are only for a couple years anyway. Mine was a good purchase for me, but it should have been replaced 5 or more years ago. Part of the many reasons I don't sleep that well at night like I would like to.

[daisylu]

May 18, 2023 21:24:06 GMT -5 andi9899 said:

May 18, 2023 17:57:21 GMT -5 daisylu said:

Thanks to everyone for the condolences. I got home around 5pm and got great hugs from DH. Just learned that the funeral is already scheduled for Saturday. That means a day of traveling tomorrow, funeral Saturday, and a day of travel on Sunday. Still need to contact my boss about all of this, but I don't have a lot of pending items until late next week so I'm sure I can take a much time as I need. I am in compartmentalization mode right now, and have yet to deal with actual emotions.

I appreciate the love I've gotten from here. Thank you.

Can you possibly take Monday off too? That's a lot for one weekend.

I likely will. After driving 5 hours home yesterday and looking at about 17 hours of driving over the next 3 days, I am going to need a break.

[daisylu]

All packed up, mostly just removed dirt clothes and added clean. Waiting on Enterprise to open at 730 to drop off the rental. Hoping they can drop me at work where I left my car this week. If not, it is only about a half a mile walk. I will pass by home on my way out, so will stop and grab my stuff then.

[giramomma]

Oh, look. SSDD.

There's a shocker.

[NoNamePerson]

May 19, 2023 7:26:35 GMT -5 giramomma said:

Oh, look. SSDD.

There's a shocker.

Had to google SSDD!! Well DUDH - I use SOSDD so lack of O threw me off!! Sorry your day is starting off SHI##Y    Hopefully things will be looking up soon!! That's all  

[Deleted]

May 19, 2023 7:26:35 GMT -5 giramomma said:

Oh, look. SSDD.

There's a shocker.

Yes, it's SSDD but it's also TGIF 

[chiver78]

May 18, 2023 20:33:55 GMT -5 andi9899 said:

Y'all I went to boxing tonight and the instructor hurt himself. I feel so bad for him. He was demonstrating an exercise and I thought he was lifting too much weight. He's pretty fit, so I've seen him lift pretty heavy before. His bicep snapped. I didn't hear it pop, but he did. He left class and went to the hospital. I hope he's OK. I'm pretty sure that if it's torn that's going to be something that's going to take a while to come back from.

ooh....I saw something similar in a boot camp workout 10-12 years ago. our instructor was trying to show us how to do a new drill, except she was cold. she was halfway across the field and we all heard this loud POP! when her calf muscle tore mid-step. it was horrible, and it did take her a long time to come back from. I hope your instructor pulls through okay. 

[NomoreDramaQ1015]

So I was reading about how a teacher in Florida is under investigation because a parent complained that she showed Disney's Strange World to the students.   Strange World has an openly gay character.

Meanwhile when I was in daycare they showed us The Dark Crystal.  That movie still takes up free space in my brain.  Scared the ever loving crap out of me.

Then I remember being shown The Peanut Butter Solution in school during a free day.  Talk about an acid trip of a movie.  It's also been living rent free in my head but anytime I'd talk about it try to Google it it was like it didn't exist.  Facebook finally confirmed I wasn't insane about this at least. 

Another movie popped up today which was the one with all the popular cartoon characters of that era teaching a kid to Just Say No to Drugs in partnership with DARE.  Also an acid trip of a movie that I was starting to convince myself I made up.
 
The 80s/90s were wild in terms of kids' movies.  This woman must have been extremely sheltered as a kid that she draws the line at Strange World. 

[giramomma]

May 19, 2023 8:38:06 GMT -5 NomoreDramaQ1015 said:

 This woman must have been extremely sheltered as a kid that she draws the line at Strange World. 

Or she's just doing it because she can. Or maybe she was feeling pressure to? Maybe the mom feels like she has to prove something by behaving like that.

I will admit, when we watched the first part, I did a double take, and then I was like ...cool...moving on.

Yesterday, the kids' school had a meeting. Part of it was a discussion to the changes in curriculum. One parent repeatedly asked questions about testing and placement. It wasn't a need. Administrators and teachers amply addressed the concern.

That caused our meeting to go over by a half hour.

 

Think about that. Feeling that you are so important that your issues (which really aren't even issues, because folks spent a lot of time explaining that your kids will be accommodated) entitle you to waste waste other people's time.

This parent behaved like that because they can, not because they should. It has nothing to do about the kids. Or being sheltered or not. It's about the selfishness of the parent.