I didn't mean to be racist, I'm just an idiot

[NomoreDramaQ1015]

May 7, 2021 12:38:02 GMT -5 chiver78 said:

May 7, 2021 11:53:09 GMT -5 NomoreDramaQ1015 said:

I know right?   I lost respect for one of my in laws after the whole pedophile pediatrician thing.  I cannot respect someone who would mouth off like that about a FOUR YEAR OLD CHILD.

Then she's just kept going with the Trumpism and all that.  

DH has a friend I also lost all respect for.  I told DH I don't care if they hang out together but don't expect me to come.   DH tried to say that's not who he is he's probably joking and I said that posting what he posts as a "joke" still makes you an asshole.

On the flip side to my surprise I found out I actually agree with my brother more than I thought I did.  It makes me wonder how my parents have swung so far the opposite direction.  My brother and I must have learned our positions from somewhere. 

perhaps your parents are like my mom - solidly lower middle class as I was growing up, who watched the welfare and (now)SNAP recipients appearing to live large while she meal planned out of necessity and dinner was sometimes a huge pot of 4 boxes of Kraft dinner and a pound of chicken wings....for five of us. I grew up in a solidly "Kennedy Democrat" house, under my grandmother's eye. I always knew Mom was drifting more right, but it took a solid turn after Nana passed in 2004. we were talking this morning about stuff in general, and she told me she left President blank on her ballot in 2016. but I know she told me she voted for Romney the time before. just food for thought.

Possibly and knowing how they were raised.  You should hear my grandmother talk (oh but she has black friends!). A lot of the rhetoric being thrown around nowadays pushes those buttons and my mom sits at home all day having it reinforced by the news.

It's just depressing to see my mom constantly parroting Fox News.   How on earth can you on one hand talk about supporting Stienem and burning your bra then turn around to say TRUMP was a better candidate for president than Clinton?

[TheOtherMe]

My cousins, for the most part, don't claim to have a black friend because they have never met a black person they know well enough to talk to.  They live in their lily white county, not more than 20 miles from the house they grew up in.  Everyone is supposed to be just like them and if you aren't, you are a no good whatever.

They are no more tolerant of any other ethnic group but they will hire Hispanics to work on the farm and call them all Jose.

[thyme4change]

May 7, 2021 12:35:25 GMT -5 swamp said:

May 7, 2021 12:03:43 GMT -5 thyme4change said:

My husband had a policy to keep those of differing opinions in his feed. He says he wants to understand the other side. It was not very healthy for him. After some discussion, he decided to stop Facebook for a while. He would still pop on occasionally, and he recognized that he was searching for anger when he did get on. He is backing off now, and letting go.

After seeing his plight, I paused the worst of my people. It has been glorious.

At first I thought I should not hide or unfriend people because I should hear all view points. After a while I realized life is too short for stupid and hateful people. Bye bye racists. I kept thoughtful people with differing viewpoints because they usually give me a perspective I did not consider.

I'm debating if I should hide my posts from my least favorite. Especially around Christmas - his comments always sidetrack the fun.

[nidena]

May 7, 2021 14:35:43 GMT -5 thyme4change said:

May 7, 2021 12:35:25 GMT -5 swamp said:

At first I thought I should not hide or unfriend people because I should hear all view points. After a while I realized life is too short for stupid and hateful people. Bye bye racists. I kept thoughtful people with differing viewpoints because they usually give me a perspective I did not consider.

I'm debating if I should hide my posts from my least favorite. Especially around Christmas - his comments always sidetrack the fun.

Snooze 'em for 30 days on Dec 2nd and that'll take you into the New Year.

[Deleted]

May 7, 2021 12:35:25 GMT -5 swamp said:

At first I thought I should not hide or unfriend people because I should hear all view points. After a while I realized life is too short for stupid and hateful people. Bye bye racists. I kept thoughtful people with differing viewpoints because they usually give me a perspective I did not consider.

That's my tactic, too. If you're willing to consider my point of view or accept fact-checking something you just mindlessly reposted because it suits your world view, we can have a dialogue. If you just want to spew the same stuff at me because you just KNOW you're 100% right and I'm 100% wrong, we're done.  I don't care what side you're on.  We may even agree on some issues.

And I highly recommend the YMAM Ignore button.