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Post by azucena on Aug 16, 2021 10:01:11 GMT -5
Our library just offered subscriptions to the headspace app. Has anyone used it before? I did a black Friday deal for Calm last yr and found it helpful when I took the time to use it. countrygirl2 - hope you're feeling better today. Please come join us in this safe space if you feel overwhelmed in the other threads.
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Post by countrygirl2 on Aug 16, 2021 14:07:46 GMT -5
It's rough trying to deal with all I have to do and still have a positive attitude.
First thing in DD's room and the smell overwhelmed me. Of course she didn't have on her waterproof panties when I came home. I have washed some of it, will have to go back in there and see what else is going on, made her take a bath and change clothes, she does not try to help herself or me at all. She will keep it up till I'm going to have to place her again. Hubs said she can't help it, some of it she can.
I have a urologists appointment for her on Thursday, hope they can help.
I want to wait to have anything done with my foot till the new flooring is in. Can't deal with a mess like that and can't be able to walk. And yes, I will hire someone to clean when it is done if I can find one that will come out here. My neighbor pays $20 an hour for cleaning.
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Post by azucena on Aug 16, 2021 15:09:09 GMT -5
Can you work out a deal to hire the teen daughter that you like of one of your renters? Pay her $15/hour for 2-4 hours per week. She gets an income and the benefit of being around someone like you with a good work ethic. You might have to go pick her up and take her home, but you're not limited in driving. Could be a nice arrangement where you also get some company if you can sort of work alongside her. She'd benefit from your mentorship.
When I was 14, I helped clean the church and that also turned into a job with an older lady who lived nearby. I was happy to earn my own spending money and saving for college.
Your posts about DD made me think to text my sister that I will continue to help with my 10 yo special needs niece even when she's an adult.
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Post by finnime on Aug 16, 2021 15:43:24 GMT -5
It's rough trying to deal with all I have to do and still have a positive attitude. First thing in DD's room and the smell overwhelmed me. Of course she didn't have on her waterproof panties when I came home. I have washed some of it, will have to go back in there and see what else is going on, made her take a bath and change clothes, she does not try to help herself or me at all. She will keep it up till I'm going to have to place her again. Hubs said she can't help it, some of it she can. I have a urologists appointment for her on Thursday, hope they can help. I want to wait to have anything done with my foot till the new flooring is in. Can't deal with a mess like that and can't be able to walk. And yes, I will hire someone to clean when it is done if I can find one that will come out here. My neighbor pays $20 an hour for cleaning. So glad they discharged you, you must be doing better. I agree that help for you is important at this time. You can't be responsible for everyone and everything without it harming you in the long term. And you are important, too important to suffer needless harm.
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Post by finnime on Aug 18, 2021 19:51:38 GMT -5
DH looked haggard to me today, more than 2 weeks into this bout of trochanteric bursitis. He could walk after a fashion with his new walker, the kind that comes with a seat for resting. We made it to an appointment with a pain management doctor but DH has misplaced or lost his wallet. Still haven't found it. And he looks quite worn. I don't know when we'll get to Maine. I do think we both, or all three of us if we count Franklin the Dog, need it. Feeling low.
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Post by buystoys on Aug 19, 2021 5:41:56 GMT -5
Hugs finnime. I know how badly you want to get away.
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Post by finnime on Aug 19, 2021 6:13:40 GMT -5
I really wish that doctor would have seen DH even without his ID.
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Post by anciana on Aug 19, 2021 10:43:58 GMT -5
I am sorry to hear your trip to Maine might be postponed, I know you've all been hoping to get away for a bit. hugs
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Post by finnime on Aug 19, 2021 18:50:53 GMT -5
Still back and forth on when we might go. I so want to just get there I'm ready to leave after DH's rescheduled pain management appointment tomorrow morning. But of course, there is a pending hurricane, Henri, that may or may not make a direct hit on New England Sunday night-Monday. We could go after that, I guess. Struggling to make a reasonable decision here. I don't feel reasonable at all.
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Post by empress of self-improvement on Aug 19, 2021 19:39:30 GMT -5
finnime-does DH want to come up here? If he does, then DO IT! I've learned life is too short so do what you want and what makes you happy. So by that token, I should go play the lottery so I can win and disappear off the face of the Earth. That'll make me happy. Go and create a giant animal haven somewhere. Modeled on the Best Friends Sanctuary in Utah.
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Post by empress of self-improvement on Aug 20, 2021 12:32:45 GMT -5
Alrighty now, Finn, forget coming up here. Apparently Henri is supposed to whack us on Sunday. I'm supposed to go to a combo birthday party/housewarming in NH. I'm just going to have to play it by ear. If my car feels like I'm going to blow away, I ain't going.
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Post by finnime on Aug 20, 2021 12:51:41 GMT -5
Yes, I'm reluctantly putting on my big girl panties and planning on going up on Monday. Basically we shift a week. Hope Henri isn't too damaging. And hope by then the pain doc will have ordered DH some good drugs.
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Post by anciana on Aug 20, 2021 13:48:15 GMT -5
Yes, I'm reluctantly putting on my big girl panties and planning on going up on Monday. Basically we shift a week. Hope Henri isn't too damaging. And hope by then the pain doc will have ordered DH some good drugs. I'll keep my fingers crossed for you to be able to go to Maine some time soon! I'm sure it will do both of you so much good to just get away! We never got to go on our planned vacation this summer after our life imploded in May and we all feel it. Tried patching it up with few little things here and there for everyone and I'm hoping to take few days off next month, not to go anywhere, but to just rest and clean the house which I know will make me feel better. Hang in there, we're all pulling for you and your DH!
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Post by empress of self-improvement on Aug 20, 2021 14:43:38 GMT -5
Yes, I'm reluctantly putting on my big girl panties and planning on going up on Monday. Basically we shift a week. Hope Henri isn't too damaging. And hope by then the pain doc will have ordered DH some good drugs. Make sure you keep an eye out because they're saying it will go into Monday. Basically he'll whirl in full speed and then take his time getting oout.Joy.
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Post by finnime on Aug 20, 2021 19:23:11 GMT -5
Thank you, anciana. I really appreciate your support.
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Post by anciana on Aug 21, 2021 19:24:06 GMT -5
Thank you, anciana . I really appreciate your support. You have both been through so much and have handled it with such grace. You are amazingly strong and I wish you both all the best. Many, many hugs sent your way. How long do you think the medication might take for your DH to feel well enough to travel? Do you think he will be able to get it as early as Monday? Keeping my fingers crossed
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Post by finnime on Aug 21, 2021 21:04:11 GMT -5
I am really hoping for Monday. It should work quickly and be sufficient to enable him to make the trip and move a bit once we're there. Monday would be great, and we can leave once we have it. I had a sort of nightmarish vision of us there, or en route, and DH writhing in pain, and nothing to do for it.
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Post by azucena on Aug 22, 2021 12:28:01 GMT -5
Do you have a wheelchair? We borrowed one from our church way back when before DHs hip replacements. We cruised thru mall of America with it and stayed at a casino bc it was nice but cheap. Ah those were the days LOL
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Post by finnime on Aug 22, 2021 12:41:55 GMT -5
Do you have a wheelchair? We borrowed one from our church way back when before DHs hip replacements. We cruised thru mall of America with it and stayed at a casino bc it was nice but cheap. Ah those were the days LOL I gave away the one we'd had, when DH was laid up with his left leg for so long. It was unwieldy anyway to wrestle into and out of the car. The walker we got last week has a seat and DH reports that it works well in relieving pressure from his hip. With it he can make it from the house to the car, plus he can sit and take a break every so many feet. One great thing is that my brother's house in Maine has a single floor, unlike our colonial here in Maryland.
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Post by finnime on Aug 24, 2021 5:47:15 GMT -5
The pain management doctor won't prescribe any medications until the initial urinalysis comes back, which I found out yesterday, could be as long as next week. DH's PCP came back from her vacation yesterday and prescribed some pain killers for him.
It turns out (pain management doctor found this) that DH has a tear in the labrum, the tissue that lines the socket of his hip. That explains the terrible pain he is in still when walking. I'm waiting to see how DH is doing today before deciding if we go up to Maine or not. It's a long drive--8 hours or so.
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Post by azucena on Aug 24, 2021 6:21:36 GMT -5
Maybe you should consider some place within an hour or two just to be cautious. It's still a getaway that you need but likely easier on DH. Try airbnb and see what turns up.
Then set up care for DH in oct and fly to Maine by yourself to have another break to look fwd to.
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Post by finnime on Aug 24, 2021 9:07:35 GMT -5
Maybe you should consider some place within an hour or two just to be cautious. It's still a getaway that you need but likely easier on DH. Try airbnb and see what turns up. Then set up care for DH in oct and fly to Maine by yourself to have another break to look fwd to. I don't disagree. But, DH wants to go ahead and get to Maine. He has a plan for how to manage the trip and then, once we're there. The more I questioned him the more adamant he became that going is what he wants to do and he'll be okay. So, we'll give it a go.
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Post by azucena on Aug 24, 2021 9:12:28 GMT -5
Maybe you should consider some place within an hour or two just to be cautious. It's still a getaway that you need but likely easier on DH. Try airbnb and see what turns up. Then set up care for DH in oct and fly to Maine by yourself to have another break to look fwd to. I don't disagree. But, DH wants to go ahead and get to Maine. He has a plan for how to manage the trip and then, once we're there. The more I questioned him the more adamant he became that going is what he wants to do and he'll be okay. So, we'll give it a go. That makes total sense and good for him for having the determination to make it work. That goes a long way toward staving off the isolation, depression, and probably helping with healing to a certain extent. Attitude is everything.
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Post by buystoys on Aug 24, 2021 15:27:35 GMT -5
I've been struggling a bit today. My best friend from high school passed last week. A good friend's son was killed in a car accident two day ago. And my dad is in the hospital with covid. He's doing OK, not on a ventilator or anything, but I just can't shake that "bad things come in threes" thought from my head. DH has been trying to help me stay positive. We're going away tomorrow and I just feel like something is going to happen. I'm not going to cancel our trip, but I wish I could get rid of the nagging in my head.
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Post by CCL on Aug 24, 2021 20:41:40 GMT -5
I'm so sorry buystoys. That's a lot to process in such a short time.
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Post by finnime on Aug 25, 2021 8:16:45 GMT -5
I'm glad you're going (gone?) away, buystoys. Sometimes a getaway is exactly what you need. I'm sorry to hear about your friends' and family's deaths and illness. That's hard.
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Post by TheOtherMe on Aug 25, 2021 8:17:58 GMT -5
Hugs buystoysI've been down, too. I think I am concerned about the trip to Toronto. I know I am freaking out about Delta and how many of my extended family will catch it since they refuse to wear masks. Nothing I can do but sit back and watch and take all of my own precautions.
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Post by finnime on Aug 25, 2021 8:21:04 GMT -5
We did make it up to Maine in the end. DH couldn't get himself ready to go until 4:00, and I was more than ready to call it quits when he rallied. Then en route he got ill, vomiting in the last hour, probably (I suspect) from medications on an empty stomach combined with long travel. Tough night. He's resting right now. Probably should not have come, but I am glad to be here. It seems clear that DH will need surgery once we get back. That could have him laid up for several more weeks. We'll see. I repeat, I am glad to be here.
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