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Post by Opti on May 16, 2016 22:03:28 GMT -5
Yes I kind of wish I was joking I need suggestions. But I really do. I am going to get a gift of a haircut & color through the beautician who does hair for our patients and residents. I know at least one of the people who is helping paying for it would really like to see something different and much shorter. I've spoken to the beautician and I'll go for longer in front to shorter in back versus my usual preference. However, I'm not going to go shorter than say roughly arm pit length. Shoulder length is too short for me. I can't pull my wavy hair back into a pony tail nor can I afford the regular haircuts a shorter haircut would really need.
Any suggestions? I'm very happy about getting my hair done, and aware longer hair is more expensive to color. But longer hair is the only length I can afford to keep up. I have cut my own hair for free for over a decade now.
Can I make them happy by showing them various pics of me with shorter hair over the years? Wear nail polish? I'd love to do me some purple hair dye, the kind that washes out, but I'm pretty certain that will clash with the new tonal look of our front lobby.
Help!
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Post by tloonya on May 16, 2016 22:28:25 GMT -5
Yes I kind of wish I was joking I need suggestions. But I really do. I am going to get a gift of a haircut & color through the beautician who does hair for our patients and residents. I know at least one of the people who is helping paying for it would really like to see something different and much shorter. I've spoken to the beautician and I'll go for longer in front to shorter in back versus my usual preference. However, I'm not going to go shorter than say roughly arm pit length. Shoulder length is too short for me. I can't pull my wavy hair back into a pony tail nor can I afford the regular haircuts a shorter haircut would really need.
Any suggestions? I'm very happy about getting my hair done, and aware longer hair is more expensive to color. But longer hair is the only length I can afford to keep up. I have cut my own hair for free for over a decade now.
Can I make them happy by showing them various pics of me with shorter hair over the years? Wear nail polish? I'd love to do me some purple hair dye, the kind that washes out, but I'm pretty certain that will clash with the new tonal look of our front lobby.
Help! When your co-workers want to change your hairstyle ... WDYD? I would change shape of their face. Just a little bit...for a first time.
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Post by tloonya on May 16, 2016 22:30:36 GMT -5
On a serious note unless they giving you a gift for carotin treatment around $300...I would change shape of their face. Wait...haven't I said that already?
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Post by Peace Of Mind on May 16, 2016 22:32:28 GMT -5
Do you want to change it or do you feel pressured to change it? Are they trying to help you look the best you can because you could be saying something to give the impression that you are ready for a change? Can you post a picture (or PM it to me) so we can tell you if you need to do that or not because you are stuck in the 60's? If you are happy with your hair tell them, in the most professional way, to pound sand. Remember to say "But thank you for your input." Only whisper or think "Assholes". What would I do? I'd do what I want to do and unless somebody has hair that blows mine away I couldn't care less what they think or want. Mine is long with tons of layers. I have straight thick bleached/colored? hair. I get tons of compliments if you want a picture since we are the same age - or close. Do you have time to style it? Mine can be tied up or back if I want but I rarely do because it gives me headaches it's so heavy.
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Post by tloonya on May 16, 2016 22:50:27 GMT -5
Do you want to change it or do you feel pressured to change it? Are they trying to help you look the best you can because you could be saying something to give the impression that you are ready for a change? Can you post a picture (or PM it to me) so we can tell you if you need to do that or not because you are stuck in the 60's? If you are happy with your hair tell them, in the most professional way, to pound sand. Remember to say "But thank you for your input." Only whisper or think "Assholes". What POM wanted to say...and I am translating because I have certificate of a translator...is: 1. Do you want to change it or do you feel pressured to change it? Are you easy to manipulate? Do they want you to look just like all of them?
2.Are they trying to help you look the best you can because you could be saying something to give the impression that you are ready for a change? You are ugly...
3.Can you post a picture (or PM it to me) so we can tell you if you need to do that or not because you are stuck in the 60's? ...so we can all laugh our asses off because you are stuck in the 60's and we were just born then?
4. If you are happy with your hair tell them, in the most professional way, to pound sand. And bring the sand to work because they would have nothing to pound unless you bring it.
5. Remember to say "But thank you for your input." Only whisper or think "Assholes". I suggest 'thank you for your input assholes'...
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Post by Peace Of Mind on May 16, 2016 22:53:57 GMT -5
Do you want to change it or do you feel pressured to change it? Are they trying to help you look the best you can because you could be saying something to give the impression that you are ready for a change? Can you post a picture (or PM it to me) so we can tell you if you need to do that or not because you are stuck in the 60's? If you are happy with your hair tell them, in the most professional way, to pound sand. Remember to say "But thank you for your input." Only whisper or think "Assholes". What POM wanted to say...and I am translating because I have certificate of a translator...is: 1. Do you want to change it or do you feel pressured to change it? Are you easy to manipulate? Do they want you to look just like all of them?
2.Are they trying to help you look the best you can because you could be saying something to give the impression that you are ready for a change? You are ugly...
3.Can you post a picture (or PM it to me) so we can tell you if you need to do that or not because you are stuck in the 60's? ...so we can all laugh our asses off because you are stuck in the 60's and we were just born then?
4. If you are happy with your hair tell them, in the most professional way, to pound sand. And bring the sand to work because they would have nothing to pound unless you bring it.
5. Remember to say "But thank you for your input." Only whisper or think "Assholes". I suggest 'thank you for your input assholes'...
You're close! And are you stalking me? P.S. I already know what she looks like - at least a few years ago like in the 80's? - and I didn't laugh once! At her hair. (I'm kidding - didn't laugh!!)
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Post by tloonya on May 16, 2016 23:00:27 GMT -5
What POM wanted to say...and I am translating because I have certificate of a translator...is: 1. Do you want to change it or do you feel pressured to change it? Are you easy to manipulate? Do they want you to look just like all of them?
2.Are they trying to help you look the best you can because you could be saying something to give the impression that you are ready for a change? You are ugly...
3.Can you post a picture (or PM it to me) so we can tell you if you need to do that or not because you are stuck in the 60's? ...so we can all laugh our asses off because you are stuck in the 60's and we were just born then?
4. If you are happy with your hair tell them, in the most professional way, to pound sand. And bring the sand to work because they would have nothing to pound unless you bring it.
5. Remember to say "But thank you for your input." Only whisper or think "Assholes". I suggest 'thank you for your input assholes'...
You're close! And are you stalking me? P.S. I already know what she looks like - at least a few years ago like in the 80's? - and I didn't laugh once! At her hair. First of all you started it! Stalking I mean... Second of all you have to let laughing out otherwise you will burp or fart. Known fact! So laugh on a date...or you will have to search for another date... if you know what I mean. (if I knew what I mean I would be married to different people) Oops!
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Post by CCL on May 17, 2016 4:36:23 GMT -5
Haven't you been looking to change jobs? Maybe they are thinking this will help with that? Sounds like fun to me.
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Post by mamasita99 on May 17, 2016 5:15:40 GMT -5
IMO, it's only hair. Sometimes doing something a bit scary and "unsafe" can be a great way to open doors to new possibilities. Might as well start with something harmless like hair, it will grow back! Good luck, and take before/after pictures!
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Post by Opti on May 17, 2016 5:22:08 GMT -5
Haven't you been looking to change jobs? Maybe they are thinking this will help with that? Sounds like fun to me. I have been looking for a new job and yes I'm sure they are thinking this will help with that. And probably as part of their front desk beautification project. LOL.
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Post by Opti on May 17, 2016 5:28:07 GMT -5
IMO, it's only hair. Sometimes doing something a bit scary and "unsafe" can be a great way to open doors to new possibilities. Might as well start with something harmless like hair, it will grow back! Good luck, and take before/after pictures! My resistance has nothing to do with it being scary. Its simple practical, I know how I look in different lengths of hair, and I don't make the $$ to go short. I'll have to get them to take pics. I never got the pictures from when my hair was colored last year. She blew it out totally straight. It looked good but the beautician thought it was too dark so I said OK, lets try light brown.
(My demi color was done by a salon near my grocery store. We were supposed to have a big grand opening soon and I colored my hair and bought sandals in anticipation of mixing with the higher ups and guests. The grand opening got pushed from fall into December. And I ended up being scheduled to work it in my uniform.
I'm interested to see what the lighter color will look like.
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Post by Works4me on May 17, 2016 5:32:04 GMT -5
Is it possible that your appearance is not up to snuff for a lobby job? Clothes, hair, accessories, even attitude and overall image can be important for jobs where you are facing the public. If you look "dated" or even just "off" that is something you can fix and it could help to explain some of your experiences.
As as we get older, not only does our hair lose color and turn gray/white, but it can change texture. The complexion changes and fades plus our skin changes and loses elasticity.
Usng myself elf as an example, I am 54 and I had stick straight hair I had to wash daily. Now I have a lot of white in it but because I am a blonde with highlights, it is hard to see. However, I now have tons of body and even curls. On the negative side, my hair has thinned a bit in the front, so I have Had to change my classic shirt cut to more of a bob. Make up is very different now with lots of brown and black liners, natural toned eye shadows, low impact cheek colors. Right no, lip colors seem to be extreme one way or another, meaning bright and vivid or natural. Finally, fashion is very nerdy, almost grungy. Matching is out and people wear plaids with stripes and patterns so long as the colors work together. Shoes, belts and purses no longer really match but rather need to coordinate and be made of different colors/shades that work together. It's totally crazy but can be fun too.
But I also have to say that I would definitely be qtaken aback and even offended by their offer. Can you try to look at it in a positive light, that maybe they do in fact care about you and want to help you? Please post a pic or PM a few if us if you really want feedback.
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Post by Opti on May 17, 2016 5:35:16 GMT -5
Do you want to change it or do you feel pressured to change it? Are they trying to help you look the best you can because you could be saying something to give the impression that you are ready for a change? Can you post a picture (or PM it to me) so we can tell you if you need to do that or not because you are stuck in the 60's? If you are happy with your hair tell them, in the most professional way, to pound sand. Remember to say "But thank you for your input." Only whisper or think "Assholes". What would I do? I'd do what I want to do and unless somebody has hair that blows mine away I couldn't care less what they think or want. Mine is long with tons of layers. I have straight thick bleached/colored? hair. I get tons of compliments if you want a picture since we are the same age - or close. Do you have time to style it? Mine can be tied up or back if I want but I rarely do because it gives me headaches it's so heavy. Do I want to change the general style of my hair. No. Would I like to get it cut regularly and take off about 4 to 6 inches now, yes. Not straightened out, i.e. its naturally wavy length hits me mid boob. Longer than I'd like especially going into summer.
Do I want it colored? Yes! A whine about not being able to afford to get it colored is why I think my boss came up with this idea in conjunction with a few others. I don't want to piss off my patrons, but I also do not want to get the cut they want only to look like carp in a month and then spend time guessing how to trim my own short hair. My budget does not cover extras like haircuts. The maternity leave girl getting the FT position not only means I won't gain hours. I have been told I will lose them. Somewhere between 3.5 and 7.5/hrs. a week. That's a yuge problem.
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Post by Deleted on May 17, 2016 5:42:17 GMT -5
Haven't you been looking to change jobs? Maybe they are thinking this will help with that? Sounds like fun to me. I have been looking for a new job and yes I'm sure they are thinking this will help with that. And probably as part of their front desk beautification project. LOL. If by this, you mean that they think you look dated and unprofessional, you are probably right. You are too old to wear a ponytail to work and too young to wear a bun. Even cut to armpit length, your hair is too long to be professional. It isn't that expensive to maintain a nice haircut if you keep it simple. A longish reverse bob that falls somewhere between your chin and the top of your shoulders is easy enough. You just keep the ends turned under for a few extra weeks. You have my sympathy. Change is always difficult.
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Post by Opti on May 17, 2016 5:51:15 GMT -5
Is it possible that your appearance is not up to snuff for a lobby job? Clothes, hair, accessories, even attitude and overall image can be important for jobs where you are facing the public. If you look "dated" or even just "off" that is something you can fix and it could help to explain some of your experiences.
As as we get older, not only does our hair lose color and turn gray/white, but it can change texture. The complexion changes and fades plus our skin changes and loses elasticity. Usng myself elf as an example, I am 54 and I had stick straight hair I had to wash daily. Now I have a lot of white in it but because I am a blonde with highlights, it is hard to see. However, I now have tons of body and even curls. On the negative side, my hair has thinned a bit in the front, so I have Had to change my classic shirt cut to more of a bob. Make up is very different now with lots of brown and black liners, natural toned eye shadows, low impact cheek colors. Right no, lip colors seem to be extreme one way or another, meaning bright and vivid or natural. Finally, fashion is very nerdy, almost grungy. Matching is out and people wear plaids with stripes and patterns so long as the colors work together. Shoes, belts and purses no longer really match but rather need to coordinate and be made of different colors/shades that work together. It's totally crazy but can be fun too. But I also have to say that I would definitely be qtaken aback and even offended by their offer. Can you try to look at it in a positive light, that maybe they do in fact care about you and want to help you? Please post a pic or PM a few if us if you really want feedback. I'm sure this is part of it, although, really I'm getting grief about my personality and never anything has been said about my appearance. The FTer who left was one year older than me. Her hair was short, cut & colored. She has a personal friend do it, so she could maintain it. Skinwise, I'm in much better shape than her and our former PT receptionist. That group was the only time at the desk where everyone was over 50. Prior to that usually someone in their twenties possibly going to college cover the desk. The current trend in hiring in that building is - if you are black you are in. Especially if you are a black woman, special points if you are mouthy, aggressive, and ready to run with the black mean girls cabal.
This place has always had female marketers prancing around in tight dresses and high heels. Yet they give the front desk a uniform of a white button down shirt and a black blazer. Does not sound that awful, however its the wide cut on all, so it looks awful on a curvy person like me. I can look hot in knits that follow my curves, instead of overweight because my ample bust is crammed into a polyester uniform shirt. I do think that the person on mat leave and the FTer before got some undeserved points simply because they were allowed to wear attractive clothing from their own closet. If I had a big appropriate jewelry collection I could take away the uniformness of it a bit.
I'll see if I can get some to take pics of me on their phone and email it. I take horrible pics due to my light skin, but you could get a general idea. Got to go. I really should call out for my health, but I'll go in and possibly leave early instead.
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Post by Opti on May 17, 2016 6:00:06 GMT -5
If my hair goes as short as what society and some people think is acceptable, it makes me look more masculine not feminine. I'd have to amp up the makeup and I prefer subtle over in your face eye makeup.
If anyone watches the Young and the Restless, I'd so cut it if I had the hair like the character Phyllis has. The Chelesea character IMO they uglified by cutting her hair, but it is a similar length. There's a scene in yesterday's episode where you see them side by side. If it weren't for the fashionable clothes and heavy eye makeup on the Chelsea character she'd look almost plain. Her build and face are closer to mine than the other characters. I have a square strong face and athletic, if well endowed, body type. My youngest sister looks like a good looking boy/man when her hair is short and you miss the boobage. There were a fair amount of comments about her pic from middle sister's friends wondering who that guy was.
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Post by Shooby on May 17, 2016 6:15:25 GMT -5
If you have long hair and want a professional look, why not just put it up in a bun? That looks very professional versus a ponytail.
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Post by Deleted on May 17, 2016 6:47:02 GMT -5
The picture of Barbra Streisand isn't a good one. Her hair is too long and shapeless . . . and it is substantially shorter than the armpit length you mention cutting yours to reach. Plus, her roots are showing.
Jane Seymour's hair looks slightly better, but it is a glamorous look, not a professional one. Her hair is also shorter where it frames her face.
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Post by milee on May 17, 2016 6:49:35 GMT -5
.... A whine about not being able to afford to get it colored is why I think my boss came up with this idea in conjunction with a few others. I don't want to piss off my patrons, but I also do not want to get the cut they want only to look like carp in a month and then spend time guessing how to trim my own short hair. ....
The title of the thread implies that the situation is that some co-workers are pressuring you to try a new hairstyle. The fact that your boss is involved, though, implies that there is more to it. You've repeatedly posted about wanting a promotion, more hours or a whole new job; these things aren't happening - instead your hours are being cut - and it's worth it to you to figure out why. You mentioned earlier that nobody has commented on your hair, but that doesn't necessarily mean that it's not a problem. Personal appearance and grooming issues are the most difficult to discuss with employees and even the most skilled bosses and HR managers struggle with this. In high level corporate situations, I've been involved in discussions where behind the scenes the management felt that the person in question might be good, but that s/he couldn't be hired because their appearance was too unprofessional and there was no good way to address it.
If you've just found out that once again, you're being passed over for a promotion and your boss is now involved in "gifting" you with a makeover... connect the dots. You don't have to get a short cut, but you should think about what type of cut you can get that you can style professionally. It's not really about length as much as it is about how you style it. Very few people have hair that looks fantastic without doing any work in the morning. Most people do some work, whether it's as simple as brushing or as involved as blow outs or flat ironing, on their hair and it sounds like an area where you need to up your game. If you're not sure how or where to start with this, go to YouTube - that has thousands of free tutorials.
Unless you can afford to maintain it, don't get color. Nicely groomed hair looks professional and attractive, it doesn't have to be a particular color - grey is fine. But the skunk look - a line of uncolored hair that slowly gets longer every day - is not professional and not attractive so again, if you can't maintain it, don't get color.
This is a hard topic because it skirts dangerously close to telling people they don't look good, which is not nice and can hurt feelings. If you can get past that gut reaction and instead use this as a chance to get some tough love job help, it could be very positive.
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Post by raeoflyte on May 17, 2016 7:49:50 GMT -5
I agree with Sarah and with Milee. Personally I would be frustrated and probably offended--and I could definitely see this happening to me.
What do you currently do with your hair? If you really don't want to go through with it, can you try to style your hair differently and see what people's reactions are? It sounds like you let it go natural most days. I wouldn't go out and buy anything, but heat is heat. Blow dryer and/or any type of curling/straightening iron or even hot rollers would work. Check out pinterest for ideas and then see what you can do.
Since you said you really do want a cut though, why not take advantage of the opportunity and also get bangs. Face framing bangs that are styled can blend into longer hair imo and still give an updated look. They're cheap to maintain.
I don't know the market where you live, but our economy here has recovered. You need a better job, and I'd grab onto anything I could to make that happen even if it feels really far out of your comfort zone. I'm not all talk--I'd much prefer natural hair and no makeup, but I looked around at my coworkers and the people who made the money I wanted to make and realized that my look didn't fit with where I wanted to be career wise. So I put on a costume everyday to go to work, and honestly...it worked.
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Post by swamp on May 17, 2016 8:05:06 GMT -5
I'd ask the hairdresser and go with what she says.
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Post by GRG a/k/a goldenrulegirl on May 17, 2016 8:28:55 GMT -5
If your hair is long and all one length, you don't necessarily have to go very short to change it.
Maybe cut some length off and then add some long layers to give it enough texture and movement to update your look.
As for the cost of maintaining a new look, find a beauty school -- either for profit or at a local vocational high school.
As for accessories, check out your town's Facebook sale site, wander through garage and church rummage sales, and visit some thrift shops. You don't need to spend a ton and you don't need the latest designer jewelry and scarves, just aim for classic pieces that will brighten your uniform: pearls, a nice gold or silver chain, a scarf that complements your skin tone yet ties into the uniform, etc.
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Post by mmhmm on May 17, 2016 8:29:07 GMT -5
How do you wear you hair now? What's your hair regimen? How do you care for your hair and what do you do with it before work in the morning? A square face looks best with hair length at least three inches below the chin but armpit length is probably too long for a professional look on a woman over 50. A good stylist can cut in layers that will allow more freedom with styling but a lot depends on the texture and thickness of your hair. I can understand the concern with cost as it can get expensive! If you, or someone you know, knows a really good salon/stylist, ask there what would be most appropriate. What color is your natural hair? As another has said, I'd avoid color if at all possible. That's an ongoing cost you don't want if it's to be kept properly.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on May 17, 2016 8:50:39 GMT -5
If I have co-workers spending money for me to fix my hair. .. I am going to start wondering if there is something I am not seeing. I do not think it's they want to see you with short hair. They are trying as nicely as possible to tell you that your look isn't professional enough for the setting you are in. If you want more hours at this job then I suggest swallowing the hurt feelings and take them up on their offer. There are thousands of pictures online and every salon has books full of different hair cuts at various lengths. Go thru them and pick out your favorites. A good stylist will tell you which ones would work with your hair/facial structure and which ones won't. My hair rests at chin level in an angled bob. I don't need to be in the salon "constantly". I try to get in every 6-8 weeks but the style is forgiving enough that if I go 10-12 it's not the end of the world. I let a stylist talk me into a shag once that was a BAD idea. That is a hair cut that requires I get it trimmed on a strict schedule otherwise it ends up turning into a mullet. Letting that sucker grow out so I could go back to a bob was a bitch. A good stylist can help you pick a cut that is shorter than armpit length but not so unforgiving that you have to be in her chair constantly. Even just having a couple inches removed can make a world of difference in how your hair looks. Even when I have longer hair I have to get regular hair cuts even if it's just a simple trim, my ends start looking really crappy and my hair so so thick it starts to knot. Just an inch or two off to get rid of dead hair does wonders.
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Post by The Walk of the Penguin Mich on May 17, 2016 9:16:39 GMT -5
If someone tried to gift me a haircut and color, I'd consider that they are trying to tell me that I do not look professional - or that I need help.
I wear my hair in a long bob that is angled around the face. I've worn variations of this style for years, sometimes longer....sometimes shorter. It is long enough to pull up off my neck if it is too warm or if I am exercising, can be easily maintained, and growing it out it simply becomes a variation of the style that I have to manipulate differently. I went through a plethora of them, and keep coming back to the classic style as it works well with my hair. I probably get my hair cut every 5-6 months - usually when it reaches a critical mass (when it takes too long to dry) - and I wear wispy bangs which are very easy to keep trimmed up myself. My hair has not been down to my armpit since I was 30 or so, it drags down my face and it makes it appear that I am trying to be younger than I am.
My hairdresser also showed me how to use a dye off the shelf in order to get a decent dye job. $7 and an hour of my time, and it looks as good as if it's been done professionally (so my hairdresser tells me). It is a shade brighter than my normal hair color and even that small difference makes a HUGE difference in my skin tone.
Between dye and haircuts, I doubt if I spend $150/year on my hair.
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GRG a/k/a goldenrulegirl
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Post by GRG a/k/a goldenrulegirl on May 17, 2016 9:23:00 GMT -5
Based upon your comments about the appearance of the marketing folks and the diminishing age of the reception staff, it appears your employer is in the lifestyle business, not the assisted living business. There are no nursing homes anymore. No baby boomer wants to move into death's waiting room. Instead, to lure those wealthy baby boomers in, the facilities emphasize vibrant, active, lifestyles with nursing care IF and when needed. So, the marketing staff will be younger and attractive and the reception staff (the first face a potential resident sees upon entering the door) needs to reflect the same vibe. Heck, even the simple existence of a marketing staff speaks to this -- long gone are the social workers and the intake coordinators of yesterday guiding families into making difficult placement decisions for their loved ones. Now, it's about on-site amenities and day trips and a myriad of clubs and activities and staying young and active. What used to be a simple room with nursing care now must reflect the way boomers see themselves if sales goals are to be met. So, based upon what you have said about the new wing and the staff, everyone needs to reflect the culture the facility is marketing. You can make some inexpensive changes in hairstyle and accessories to update your look...if you want to. Or, you can see if there is a back office clerical position open. Or, you can find a different job. Whichever you choose, it sounds like the proverbial writing is on the wall.
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Post by MJ2.0 on May 17, 2016 9:41:15 GMT -5
I would love to only spend $150 per year on my hair. It's cheaper now, but this "natural" shit is too much work.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on May 17, 2016 9:45:54 GMT -5
can make some inexpensive changes in hairstyle and accessories to update your look...if you want to.
Right now is a great time to hit thrift stores. People are dumping old summer wardrobes in order to purchase newer items. We've had this discussion multiple times already on this board but being stylish does not have to equate spending a ton of money or buying the latest stuff on the racks.
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Post by Green Eyed Lady on May 17, 2016 10:48:04 GMT -5
I feel your pain about salon visits. My hair is very long and it grows like 2 feet a month! If I went with a cut I had to maintain, I'd be the salon every three weeks. That being said, very long hair like mine is not for people my age. It looks dumb and I know it. It looks like I'm trying to be 15 again. Long hair is (with a few exceptions) for the young. That doesn't mean you have to get a short cut - just something not so long. I hate sitting in a salon. I HATE it. Therefore, I do nothing but let it grow. I also do not blow dry, flat iron or any of that other stuff. I call pull it back with combs, pull it up into a high bun...lots of things. I still look like I'm trying to be 15 again even though I wouldn't go back there for anything! One of these days soon, I'm going to bite the bullet and get it chopped off.
As far as color? I also color my own hair. Or I did. I'm seeing some strands of gray so I stopped. I'm not going to fight coloring roots every three weeks. And if you don't keep it up - it looks horrible. I think you were kidding about the "purple" hair or at least I hope so. If you are going to color, please go with something that actually occurs in nature...on a person's head. Again - you aren't 15. Keep in mind that going lighter is going to cause damage - even when done by a professional. Multiple instances of damage is going to make your hair brittle, dry and will break easily. I always go darker. It still does damage because it is chemicals but it isn't so bad as going lighter.
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