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Post by Lizard Queen on Dec 30, 2015 21:14:36 GMT -5
I may be projecting something, but it would be more my own preferences when traveling and hanging out with family. Honestly, I'd be a little annoyed by the intrusion, or I might overlook the text altogether while everything else is happening.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 30, 2015 21:22:51 GMT -5
Lizard, how many HNY texts do you think you'll get this year?
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Post by Lizard Queen on Dec 30, 2015 21:40:01 GMT -5
Lizard, how many HNY texts do you think you'll get this year? I don't know, I know I'll get at least a couple that will be part of a mass text for which I will receive every reply as well. All will be unnecessary as they could be better handled on Facebook, and I will be sleeping shortly after midnight. If I were out, I'd be busy hanging with whoever I was out with, and it would be rude to ignore them for the sake of replying to texts. If I had some feelings for someone new, then it would be a bad time and place to reply with inquiring friends and or family nearby. (Putting myself in someone else's shoes here, as I've been married since before texting became popular with everyone.). I'd prefer to receive a text when I was less busy socializing (or sleeping).
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Post by alabamagal on Dec 30, 2015 21:43:40 GMT -5
The easy part about receiving texts is that you don't have to answer them right away. If you are so involved in a family gathering (or in the bathroom) you can look at them when you are ready
Of course my kids have to immediately look at the phone every time the text sound goes off.
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Post by swamp on Dec 30, 2015 22:03:22 GMT -5
I'd text HNY.
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Post by honeysalt on Dec 30, 2015 22:29:06 GMT -5
I may be projecting something, but it would be more my own preferences when traveling and hanging out with family. Honestly, I'd be a little annoyed by the intrusion, or I might overlook the text altogether while everything else is happening. I hear you. I do solo international trips at least twice a year. Usually, I am not responding to texts/emails/etc.. with my normal level of diligence during those times. However, in spite of the fact that my current partnership restricts me to monogamy, I can't imagine being annoyed or intruded upon by a HNY text by anyone. Bottom line is that being a single and sexually active woman in today's world puts you at risk for heart ache and HPV (the stats on the latter are alarming). If MJ isn't willing to assume the risk of the latter, she shouldn't assume the risk of a text not being responded to. Since she has given every indication that she is a fully grown woman, willing to assume grown person risks, I'll put a text that-may-or-may-not-be-responded-to in the very minor risk category for the type of life she is willing to take responsibility for. As someone who is willing to assume risks in my thirties (solo travel to economically distressed countries) similar to risks in my twenties (experiences with men I saw fit to experience), I can't fault her for that. In fact, again, I commend her. Your experiences may vary (and likely have).
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Post by Lizard Queen on Dec 30, 2015 23:48:33 GMT -5
I may be projecting something, but it would be more my own preferences when traveling and hanging out with family. Honestly, I'd be a little annoyed by the intrusion, or I might overlook the text altogether while everything else is happening. I hear you. I do solo international trips at least twice a year. Usually, I am not responding to texts/emails/etc.. with my normal level of diligence during those times. However, in spite of the fact that my current partnership restricts me to monogamy, I can't imagine being annoyed or intruded upon by a HNY text by anyone. Bottom line is that being a single and sexually active woman in today's world puts you at risk for heart ache and HPV (the stats on the latter are alarming). If MJ isn't willing to assume the risk of the latter, she shouldn't assume the risk of a text not being responded to. Since she has given every indication that she is a fully grown woman, willing to assume grown person risks, I'll put a text that-may-or-may-not-be-responded-to in the very minor risk category for the type of life she is willing to take responsibility for. As someone who is willing to assume risks in my thirties (solo travel to economically distressed countries) similar to risks in my twenties (experiences with men I saw fit to experience), I can't fault her for that. In fact, again, I commend her. Your experiences may vary (and likely have). Yeah, it's not a big deal. Just trying to help her structure it for the best chance of success. I mean, here's a foreign guy just like she wanted. ;-)
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Post by Peace Of Mind on Dec 31, 2015 0:04:06 GMT -5
MJ - Just text him that you are relaxing and wanting a cock and you were thinking of him. Then blame auto correct and say you meant a coke if he freaks out.
At least you'll hear back from him quickly.
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Post by zibazinski on Dec 31, 2015 1:53:07 GMT -5
POM!!
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Post by MJ2.0 on Dec 31, 2015 2:26:06 GMT -5
I'm pretty sure I came down with something (my left nostril is all clogged and the left side of my throat/inner ear is all itchy and sore) between yesterday morning and now, so at least I have a reason/excuse to sit on my ass and veg. just HNY later in the day might do it. I realize he may not text back and it's cool. I'll probably see him at other group events throughout the year.
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Post by zibazinski on Dec 31, 2015 2:29:32 GMT -5
I think you've made your intentions clear. Time for him to make the next move.
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Post by tloonya on Dec 31, 2015 8:37:49 GMT -5
That's my thought. If he isn't interested/isn't into being pursued I'll know. Sitting around dropping hints waiting for something to happen isn't really my style but I will limit or stop contact if I'm the only one initiating stuff. Isn't it what you doing right now? Sitting around waiting? And then you about to drop a hint by texting? So whats not your style?
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Post by MJ2.0 on Dec 31, 2015 8:52:59 GMT -5
Don't you have some scammers to give your credit card information to?
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Post by tloonya on Dec 31, 2015 8:57:53 GMT -5
I just want to be clear that I'm not talking about playing games, but showing others how they are allowed to treat you. (Believe me, I'm no one to ask how to play games--I'm clueless and uninterested in that kind of shit.) This is applicable for any type of relationship: work, friends, family, etc. I get what you're saying and I agree, I just don't know if I'd completely write someone off who I hit it off with right before he left on a 1.5 week long trip home if he didn't text me. Maybe I'm dumb and clueless but that's my thought. If we had gone on an actual date, he said he'd call or text and never did, that would be different. No different, same thing. He hugged you and left without a though on his mind. If he though about you he would find that time to text. TRUST ME! Move on. What do you think will go trough his mind if you text? 'She wants me...I am good!' Don't let his ego blow up!
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Post by swamp on Dec 31, 2015 9:05:17 GMT -5
I don't find texts intrusive at all, especially ones that tell me Happy New Year, Merry Christmas, or some other positive thought. I guess if someone texted me that repeatedly, I'd find it annoying, but it's one text.
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Post by tloonya on Dec 31, 2015 9:16:59 GMT -5
It will sure make him feel like a macho! His heads will grow big(er).
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Post by tloonya on Dec 31, 2015 9:20:43 GMT -5
Don't you have some scammers to give your credit card information to? Noops, no cc anymore. I am all into love stories. So you haven't heard last of me.
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Post by tloonya on Dec 31, 2015 9:40:26 GMT -5
Seriously? You text someone HNY and you are telling them you are saving yourself for them? Ecorrect email to text.
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Post by Lizard Queen on Dec 31, 2015 10:31:55 GMT -5
I don't find texts intrusive at all, especially ones that tell me Happy New Year, Merry Christmas, or some other positive thought. I guess if someone texted me that repeatedly, I'd find it annoying, but it's one text.
You probably have a plan with unlimited texts, too. ;-) All those miscellaneous texts get annoying when you start running out of texts and can't send or receive when it's important.
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Post by Chocolate Lover on Dec 31, 2015 12:16:24 GMT -5
A) It's one text, no big deal. If she sends 50 follow ups on why hasn't he answered, then there's a problem.
B)WHO GOES WITHOUT UNLIMITED TEXTING AT THIS POINT??!??!? (that isn't 80)
<<waits to hear from all cheapskates who never text>>
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Post by Deleted on Dec 31, 2015 12:18:36 GMT -5
I don't know anyone without unlimited texts.
And i I do think it's a different perspective if you aren't someone who texts all the time, who might still consider a text a big deal.
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Post by Lizard Queen on Dec 31, 2015 12:48:48 GMT -5
A) It's one text, no big deal. If she sends 50 follow ups on why hasn't he answered, then there's a problem. B)WHO GOES WITHOUT UNLIMITED TEXTING AT THIS POINT??!??!? (that isn't 80) <<waits to hear from all cheapskates who never text>> Tracfone. It's all I need when people don't go all text happy, which is most of the time. Sorry, I am a cheapskate, except for Christmas gifts, I guess. Spending more than my income as it is, so I should be cutting more, not looking for ways to spend more than I really need to. As for managing incoming texts, there could be something important, so I do need to check. If it's not important , and don't reply relatively soon, i will forget about it completely. I know I'm not the only person like this, but whatever. Not sure why we're even on this subject.
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Post by Chocolate Lover on Dec 31, 2015 12:52:31 GMT -5
We're on the subject of it "wasting" texts because it came up.
I don't blame you for doing it the cheap way in your situation, but for people who use texting to communicate (like MJ clearly does) it's not a big deal or even on their radar.
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Post by andi9899 on Jan 1, 2016 10:49:07 GMT -5
Well, MJ. Did you do it?
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Post by MJ2.0 on Jan 1, 2016 11:38:15 GMT -5
No. I was with DS until 3:30 and then started feeling pretty crappy. I got some HNY texts I didn't reply to until late this morning. I'll just send mine today because I ended up not sending any last night/this morning.
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Post by Green Eyed Lady on Jan 1, 2016 11:47:24 GMT -5
Go for it. You never know till you try. If you see something possible here, don't let it slip away without giving it your best shot. The worst that can happen is he isn't interested. If that's the case, then that's the case. Hope the new year brings you all you wish for.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 1, 2016 13:18:10 GMT -5
No. I was with DS until 3:30 and then started feeling pretty crappy. I got some HNY texts I didn't reply to until late this morning. I'll just send mine today because I ended up not sending any last night/this morning. That sounds good. Hope you feel better.
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Post by wvugurl26 on Jan 1, 2016 13:56:39 GMT -5
Hope you feel better soon! I've had unlimited texting forever. Even in the Dominican incoming ones were only 5 cents.
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Post by mojothehelpermonkey on Jan 1, 2016 15:03:39 GMT -5
I only got one HNY text this year, and it was from my mom. I used to get a bunch from a random assortment of friends and family. I also used to send out a HNY text to some of my friends. I stopped doing that after I accidentally included a very angry stranger's number. That person did not want to have a happy new year.
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Post by MJ2.0 on Jan 1, 2016 15:12:59 GMT -5
Just sent him a HNY text ... and like 5 others that I failed to send earlier.
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