MJ2.0
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Post by MJ2.0 on Dec 21, 2015 16:05:15 GMT -5
You know, because I'm apparently 16 years old and STILL seem to not know how to interpret stuff. I met someone briefly at a meetup in October. He was nice, funny, and adorbs. (and tall.... and French ) I was bored at the actual event and left pretty early. I saw him again on Saturday night at another meetup event (same group). I had a great time talking to lots of different people but ended up talking to this guy a lot toward the end. Conversation was easy and fun... lots of smiling and laughing and I could definitely feel some chemistry. I got not one but TWO long full body hugs when I left and we exchanged numbers. I swear, the butterflies are the only good part of meeting and clicking with people. I hate the rest, lol!
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Post by lexxy703 on Dec 21, 2015 16:07:24 GMT -5
It sounds like he is interested so hopefully he will call.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 21, 2015 16:08:15 GMT -5
So have you not seen him since October? Or wait, the second time was this past Saturday, yes... I took a nap, still groggy. It it sounds good to me but then I really suck at that stuff... will you call him? Or wait? Im so excited for this thread !
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Post by HoneyBBQ on Dec 21, 2015 16:14:04 GMT -5
It sounds like he is interested so hopefully he will call. Agreed.
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Post by Cookies Galore on Dec 21, 2015 16:14:27 GMT -5
You know, because I'm apparently 16 years old and STILL seem to not know how to interpret stuff. I met someone briefly at a meetup in October. He was nice, funny, and adorbs. (and tall.... and French ) I was bored at the actual event and left pretty early. I saw him again on Saturday night at another meetup event (same group). I had a great time talking to lots of different people but ended up talking to this guy a lot toward the end. Conversation was easy and fun... lots of smiling and laughing and I could definitely feel some chemistry. I got not one but TWO long full body hugs when I left and we exchanged numbers.I swear, the butterflies are the only good part of meeting and clicking with people. I hate the rest, lol! There's you answer, fishbulb.
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Post by andi9899 on Dec 21, 2015 16:16:38 GMT -5
I think it seems positive. You should probably get a call within the next few days.
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Post by MJ2.0 on Dec 21, 2015 16:17:53 GMT -5
well I texted yesterday to ask him how the rest of the night went when I left - one guy said we could all go back to his place and he'd order pizza (there were like 7 or 8 of us left at that point). Turns out he lived about 45 mins south of me and it was close to 1:30am by that point so I just called it a night. Frenchie kept asking me if I was coming and I told him I was going home since it was too far for me at that time of night/morning. He texted back and said people fell asleep pretty quickly and that's when he left. He came with some blond German guy who wasn't bad on the eyes either. I did say I wanted a European guy.....
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Post by Robert not Bobby on Dec 21, 2015 16:22:31 GMT -5
OK, I don't want to be rude and graphic...just touch, and mean it.
A kiss is the gateway drug.
Are you a good kisser...I'm sure you are.
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Post by Plain Old Petunia on Dec 21, 2015 16:35:09 GMT -5
He asked for your number and hugged you twice. He's interested.
Let him do the asking. Men love that whole pursuing thing.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 21, 2015 17:57:17 GMT -5
Well, you texted him already, so he knows you're interested. If he's interested, you'll hear from him soon.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 21, 2015 18:05:39 GMT -5
He asked for your number and hugged you twice. He's interested. Let him do the asking. Men love that whole pursuing thing. Maybe some of them. A lot of us find the whole does she like me or not game just as frustrating and confusing as women do. It's a lot easier when both sides are pretty up front and honest about how they feel. Playing games is pretty annoying honestly. I think women can let a man know she's interested in him without actually pursuing him. I don't know how dating got so complicated. Maybe we need to go back to elementary school days with the notes that say "I like you. Do you like me?" with yes and no check boxes. Simple and straight to the point.
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Post by MJ2.0 on Dec 21, 2015 18:11:04 GMT -5
Well, you texted him already, so he knows you're interested. If he's interested, you'll hear from him soon. He did respond late yesterday. He also thanked me for suggesting butterscotch krimpets to take back to France for Christmas (his family asked him to bring back a good and he was gonna go with Twinkies... Blech!).
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Post by MJ2.0 on Dec 21, 2015 18:11:34 GMT -5
Lmao, good = food
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Post by Cookies Galore on Dec 21, 2015 18:22:16 GMT -5
Well, you texted him already, so he knows you're interested. If he's interested, you'll hear from him soon. He did respond late yesterday. He also thanked me for suggesting butterscotch krimpets to take back to France for Christmas (his family asked him to bring back a good and he was gonna go with Twinkies... Blech!). Krimpets for the win!
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Post by taz157 on Dec 21, 2015 18:36:25 GMT -5
It sounds like he is interested so hopefully he will call. Yeah that!
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Post by Plain Old Petunia on Dec 21, 2015 18:48:54 GMT -5
He asked for your number and hugged you twice. He's interested. Let him do the asking. Men love that whole pursuing thing. Maybe some of them. A lot of us find the whole does she like me or not game just as frustrating and confusing as women do. It's a lot easier when both sides are pretty up front and honest about how they feel. Playing games is pretty annoying honestly. Letting him ask her for the first date is "playing games"? Don't agree at all. She's hugged him twice. She gave him her number. She texted him first. I think she's indicated her interest rather clearly.
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Post by ArchietheDragon on Dec 21, 2015 19:07:50 GMT -5
Maybe some of them. A lot of us find the whole does she like me or not game just as frustrating and confusing as women do. It's a lot easier when both sides are pretty up front and honest about how they feel. Playing games is pretty annoying honestly. Letting him ask her for the first date is "playing games"? Don't agree at all. She's hugged him twice. She gave him her number. She texted him first. I think she's indicated her interest rather clearly. She played the first move well.
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Post by MJ2.0 on Dec 21, 2015 19:40:20 GMT -5
OK, I don't want to be rude and graphic...just touch, and mean it. A kiss is the gateway drug. Are you a good kisser...I'm sure you are. I have nothing but rave reviews.
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Post by Robert not Bobby on Dec 21, 2015 19:58:19 GMT -5
OK, I don't want to be rude and graphic...just touch, and mean it. A kiss is the gateway drug. Are you a good kisser...I'm sure you are. I have nothing but rave reviews. Then what are you doing here? Get out there and work your magic . Tongue, mouth and lips are always in demand...but a well put together brain is so much more sexier.
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Post by ZaireinHD on Dec 21, 2015 22:18:19 GMT -5
being that I will start meeting people and meeting people soon - I've been thinking of the same (or similar) question
I find you question on the easier side of answering
1- he is trying to keep you interested in him 2- he wants to keep talking to you 3- he wants to impress you 4- he wants you to find him funny 5- he speaks to you with respect 6- he gives you compliments 7- he wants to find out your common interests 8- he appears to be nervous at times 9- he wants to help or be helpful
NOW WITH THAT SAID that's the nice guy!
women do tend to have a 'better' reaction towards the asshole guy! that guy that talks down to her that guy that insults her that guy that embarrasses her - points, laugh, and embarrasses her that guy that yells at her that guy that goes after her friends, mom, and sister that guy that just makes her so upset that guy that keep apologizing and asking for another chance
it's the nice guy that women admit to and Say they want - AWH!!! but that's such bullshit! it's the asshole guy that keeps on her mind, the asshole that excites her, that asshole that runs her emotions all over the place she really can't stop thinking about him. it's the asshole guy that she will not admit to.
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Post by zibazinski on Dec 21, 2015 22:20:30 GMT -5
You are so very wrong.
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Post by gooddecisions on Dec 22, 2015 2:00:44 GMT -5
He likes you. If he doesn't call you, do not take it personally, assume he is already seeing someone and move onto the next. I've had "innocent" moments like this and have ignored the phone call or said no to the date because I started seeing someone else. That's probably a little shady of me, but it is what it is. And, I've been on the opposite end and hit it off with someone in a group setting and never got a phone call. People can put out single vibes, not actually be 100% single and not want to cheat either. Timing is always the hidden factor when it comes to dating.
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Post by weltschmerz on Dec 22, 2015 3:20:36 GMT -5
He's French. He's used to being asked. French women don't play games.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 22, 2015 5:24:18 GMT -5
It sounds like he'll be out of town for a bit?
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Post by zibazinski on Dec 22, 2015 6:16:59 GMT -5
Yup, things are on hold until after the holidays. If he brings you something back even as a thank you for you steering him away from twinkles , you're on.
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Post by OldCoyote on Dec 22, 2015 7:09:04 GMT -5
No he is not Zib, Women are always attracted to the bad guy, They think they can change them, they can't, but they will try.
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Post by gooddecisions on Dec 22, 2015 7:39:44 GMT -5
No he is not Zib, Women are always attracted to the bad guy, They think they can change them, they can't, but they will try. Not exactly, women are attracted to attractive men. Same as men are attracted to attractive woman. Unfortunately some of those attractive men aren't always the nicest. They want to fix it because they've already fallen. It's really no different for men than women. But, since men need a reason if women aren't flocking to them, they just blame it on women not wanting a "nice" guy. That's really not it.
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Post by MJ2.0 on Dec 22, 2015 8:01:31 GMT -5
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Post by MJ2.0 on Dec 22, 2015 8:04:53 GMT -5
He's French. He's used to being asked. French women don't play games. in the dating culture, women are the pursuers? or how does it work?
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Post by geenamercile on Dec 22, 2015 8:22:39 GMT -5
Not always, but it can be. Depends on how clear she's been prior to that point in expressing her interest. And not in female language, because guys don't speak that. I was talking more in general than the specifics in the OP. In their case two long hugs and exchanging numbers is pretty clear. Or at the very very least enough of a hint that any sane guy should be willing to take the risk and ask her out. Not that it has to happen that way . I don't know any guys that would say no to a date offer from somebody they're interested in just because she asked him out first. Always being the one who has to ask first and get rejected isn't actually fun. We don't do it because the process is enjoyable, we do it because we'd like to get laid at some point between puberty and death. I think if I guy said no in that case he would be doing me a favor since I really wouldn't want to date someone who would do that.
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