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Post by resolution on Sept 29, 2015 8:51:21 GMT -5
You're all right. It's doing me in and I can see it. It's like a watching a train wreck. You can't turn away. He hated having a stranger in the house. But he may just have to get over that. You need to take care of yourself or he will have nothing but strangers to take care of him in the end.
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Post by taz157 on Sept 29, 2015 9:05:19 GMT -5
You're all right. It's doing me in and I can see it. It's like a watching a train wreck. You can't turn away. He hated having a stranger in the house. But he may just have to get over that. You need to take care of yourself or he will have nothing but strangers to take care of him in the end. Yeah that!
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Post by PK Bucko on Sept 29, 2015 9:14:19 GMT -5
I should just accept the fact that dating is a horrendous process filled with mutes. Had a date that I thought went well, apparently not because not a word since (its been 2.5 weeks). Why can't men just communicate that they aren't interested. Dating does suck. I just can't get into it. Everybody, including me, has a ton of baggage and it all seems like a pain in the ass. Having said that, if the guy didn't call after the first date I would think he'd sent his message. I wouldn't call a woman that I'd been on a date with just to tell her that I didn't want a second date. Seems kind of cruel.
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Post by Plain Old Petunia on Sept 29, 2015 9:20:34 GMT -5
Zib, I watched my Mom live through something similar with my Dad. Dad's cousin did the same for her DH, several of Mom's friends did the same for their husbands. They did not do much to relieve her physical burdens, but they provided a world of emotional and practical advice/relief. Dad Really Loved my Mom, but we watched him demand constant attention as she cared for him. For years if Mom was hosting a holiday (she preferred this to the logistics of transporting Dad) I went the day before and helped her clean. I started doing this because I noticed every time Mom started to do something like sweep or Mop, Dad was hollering he was thirsty or he wanted the channel changed or whatever. (Dad suffered from something similar to ALS). Hugs. My DH is high maintenance. However this relationship ends, I foresee being single to the end of my Days. Sometimes being Alone is attractive. I do wish you (all) the richness of friendships my Mom has. Mom is always going to lunch, a concert, church events and even traveling with her friends. Little by little I'm losing my friendsup here Im not giving up yet but I find it funny-not-that all his doctors are so interested in his physical and mental health but even when I say I'm sad, depressed, even occasionally have thoughts of dioxide, it's met with an "oh well" and a very perfunctory "you're doing such a great job." I've stopped being polite about their stupid comments. I give them the "you're a fucking moron" look and leave their presence. I saw pictures of myself at Princesses wedding and almost died from shock. I've aged 30 years. You can't go on like this. You are a person too; your needs count too. Take care of YOU. I want to read soon what specific steps you are taking to keep Zib happy and healthy.
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Post by Opti on Sept 29, 2015 9:38:03 GMT -5
I'm going to echo everyone else's sentiments zibazinski. You are at least in the fortunate position where there is money to pay for good quality care for your husband. Not only would I recommend going away every month, I think you should hire someone to come in 2 or 3 days a week so that you can get out, relax and interact with friends. There's no reason why a nurse couldn't be with your husband at least one evening a week so that you can dine with friends, go to a movie, join a bookclub, etc. This might even be an incentive for your husband to work at his PT so that he can rejoin the world with you but, if not, you will have an escape. I hope your situation improves. Best wishes! I like the idea of having someone come in three days a week, especially if they can get him to do PT exercises.
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Post by Miss Tequila on Sept 29, 2015 10:19:59 GMT -5
Oh. So last year I had a date with this guy. The date was for Friday and Friday came and went with no word from him. I got a phone call profusely apologizing to me on Monday. Seems he got arrested on Thursday and spent the weekend in jail. We didn't go out again after that. hahahahahaha....<<takes breath>>....hahahahahaha
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Post by HoneyBBQ on Sept 29, 2015 10:21:33 GMT -5
You're all right. It's doing me in and I can see it. It's like a watching a train wreck. You can't turn away. He hated having a stranger in the house. But he may just have to get over that. It's not about him. It's about YOU. You're the only one who can make your feelings a priority to you. Take care of yourself.
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Post by Miss Tequila on Sept 29, 2015 10:25:14 GMT -5
I've only been single for a short period of time so I am sure I will have some more stories at some point..so far, the only really awful date that I had was with a guy that LOVED cats. This never came up in conversation before so imagine my surprise when we are sitting at the dinner table (a fun, hibachi place!) and he starts showing me his photo album of CATS! And if that wasn't enough, he had video, too! I actually escaped to the bathroom and texted Miss Margarita for advice...she was too busy laughing and asking for video of it all to be of any help
At first I thought maybe he just wasn't into me and that was his way of blowing me off...but nope, he texted me the next day to tell me what a great time he had, if we could do it again...perhaps he is confused and doesn't realize he is actually gay...because straight men don't have 5 freaking cats!lol
I've never ventured into the online dating world so if I ever do, I'm sure I will have some better stories!
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Post by Miss Tequila on Sept 29, 2015 10:35:02 GMT -5
No, I'm not going to leave hm or kill hm off but if I manage to ever get a life again, I'm sure not going to mess with it. I saw someone tonight at dialysis. She was physically in worse shape than me, so far, struggling with a man even in worse shape than DH, so far. Trying to lift his wheelchair into the back of her car after depositing him into the passenger seat where he made sure to let her know that it hurt him getting into it. Like she can help that. DH doesn't suffer in silence either and I'm sick to death of hearing him bitch about the 2 steps from garage into the house. Not my fault he isn't getting stronger but his and his lack of effort. Our in home PTA says he needs to work on it while she isn't here. Yup, she's right. Does he? Nope, he doesn't. My goal is to get him to be fully functional except for dialysis .. Then we can hopefully get on kidney list but if he keeps up with this poor pity me behavior, not going to make it on that list. This is my life and it sucks donkey balls. You think I'd ever willingly go down that road again? Our whole relationship has changed. i raised my children already. Looked forward to an adult/equal relationship. Oh, well. Ladies, the grass is not greener. Be happy and joyful. Zib...you married a man who was on the heart transplant list. He was obviously VERY sick before you married him. I really don't understand why you went through with the marriage if you didn't want to be saddled with someone who is very sick.
I understand that dealing with a very sick spouse is overwhelming. But isn't part of the vows "in sickness and in health"....I am obviously not married now but if I ever remarry I sure hope my spouse wouldn't resent me if I were to get sick.
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Post by Miss Tequila on Sept 29, 2015 10:36:06 GMT -5
I've only been single for a short period of time so I am sure I will have some more stories at some point..so far, the only really awful date that I had was with a guy that LOVED cats. This never came up in conversation before so imagine my surprise when we are sitting at the dinner table (a fun, hibachi place!) and he starts showing me his photo album of CATS! And if that wasn't enough, he had video, too! I actually escaped to the bathroom and texted Miss Margarita for advice...she was too busy laughing and asking for video of it all to be of any help
At first I thought maybe he just wasn't into me and that was his way of blowing me off...but nope, he texted me the next day to tell me what a great time he had, if we could do it again...perhaps he is confused and doesn't realize he is actually gay...because straight men don't have 5 freaking cats!lol
I've never ventured into the online dating world so if I ever do, I'm sure I will have some better stories!
Was he dressed like this? lol! No, but he should have been...or at least sent me a similar picture so I could have realized he is a crazy cat person!
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Post by Cookies Galore on Sept 29, 2015 10:37:43 GMT -5
I've only been single for a short period of time so I am sure I will have some more stories at some point..so far, the only really awful date that I had was with a guy that LOVED cats. This never came up in conversation before so imagine my surprise when we are sitting at the dinner table (a fun, hibachi place!) and he starts showing me his photo album of CATS! And if that wasn't enough, he had video, too! I actually escaped to the bathroom and texted Miss Margarita for advice...she was too busy laughing and asking for video of it all to be of any help
At first I thought maybe he just wasn't into me and that was his way of blowing me off...but nope, he texted me the next day to tell me what a great time he had, if we could do it again...perhaps he is confused and doesn't realize he is actually gay...because straight men don't have 5 freaking cats!lol
I've never ventured into the online dating world so if I ever do, I'm sure I will have some better stories!
Have you seen the Internet lately? Cats are hip and cool! He probably thought love of cats was instant sex magnet. :-p
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Post by Miss Tequila on Sept 29, 2015 10:39:49 GMT -5
I've only been single for a short period of time so I am sure I will have some more stories at some point..so far, the only really awful date that I had was with a guy that LOVED cats. This never came up in conversation before so imagine my surprise when we are sitting at the dinner table (a fun, hibachi place!) and he starts showing me his photo album of CATS! And if that wasn't enough, he had video, too! I actually escaped to the bathroom and texted Miss Margarita for advice...she was too busy laughing and asking for video of it all to be of any help
At first I thought maybe he just wasn't into me and that was his way of blowing me off...but nope, he texted me the next day to tell me what a great time he had, if we could do it again...perhaps he is confused and doesn't realize he is actually gay...because straight men don't have 5 freaking cats!lol
I've never ventured into the online dating world so if I ever do, I'm sure I will have some better stories!
Have you seen the Internet lately? Cats are hip and cool! He probably thought love of cats was instant sex magnet. :-p LOL!!! Maybe for you young'uns....a man in his mid 40s that has never been married and has 5 cats does not scream "hip and cool"...it more screams "I've got chains in my basement and I know how to use them".....lol
We texted quite a bit before we went out and he had a wicked sense of humor...maybe he was having a funny friend do his texting!
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Post by Green Eyed Lady on Sept 29, 2015 10:40:21 GMT -5
I had a couple dates with a really nice guy several years ago. He's still a really nice guy. He is a single father of two young boys. Over dinner, he looked deeply into my eyes and said something along the lines of, "You would be a great mom for my kids." That's a sweet thing to say and I was very flattered that he would trust me to be involved in the lives of his children. It just made me feel he was looking for "help" and not a relationship. Besides....I'd be a shitty mom. That was the end of that. I realized I wasn't looking for a relationship either. Some people are better off by themselves and I think I'm one of them. I don't stress on it. What will be...will be!
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Post by swamp on Sept 29, 2015 10:42:31 GMT -5
Have you seen the Internet lately? Cats are hip and cool! He probably thought love of cats was instant sex magnet. :-p LOL!!! Maybe for you young'uns....a man in his mid 40s that has never been married and has 5 cats does not scream "hip and cool"...it more screams "I've got chains in my basement and I know how to use them".....lol
We texted quite a bit before we went out and he had a wicked sense of humor...maybe he was having a funny friend do his texting!
he practices his jokes on his cats.
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Post by Cookies Galore on Sept 29, 2015 10:44:16 GMT -5
LOL!!! Maybe for you young'uns....a man in his mid 40s that has never been married and has 5 cats does not scream "hip and cool"...it more screams "I've got chains in my basement and I know how to use them".....lol
We texted quite a bit before we went out and he had a wicked sense of humor...maybe he was having a funny friend do his texting!
he practices his jokes on his cats. I practice my songwriting with mine.
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Post by Lizard Queen on Sept 29, 2015 10:47:39 GMT -5
No, I'm not going to leave hm or kill hm off but if I manage to ever get a life again, I'm sure not going to mess with it. I saw someone tonight at dialysis. She was physically in worse shape than me, so far, struggling with a man even in worse shape than DH, so far. Trying to lift his wheelchair into the back of her car after depositing him into the passenger seat where he made sure to let her know that it hurt him getting into it. Like she can help that. DH doesn't suffer in silence either and I'm sick to death of hearing him bitch about the 2 steps from garage into the house. Not my fault he isn't getting stronger but his and his lack of effort. Our in home PTA says he needs to work on it while she isn't here. Yup, she's right. Does he? Nope, he doesn't. My goal is to get him to be fully functional except for dialysis .. Then we can hopefully get on kidney list but if he keeps up with this poor pity me behavior, not going to make it on that list. This is my life and it sucks donkey balls. You think I'd ever willingly go down that road again? Our whole relationship has changed. i raised my children already. Looked forward to an adult/equal relationship. Oh, well. Ladies, the grass is not greener. Be happy and joyful. Zib...you married a man who was on the heart transplant list. He was obviously VERY sick before you married him. I really don't understand why you went through with the marriage if you didn't want to be saddled with someone who is very sick.
I understand that dealing with a very sick spouse is overwhelming. But isn't part of the vows "in sickness and in health"....I am obviously not married now but if I ever remarry I sure hope my spouse wouldn't resent me if I were to get sick.
Sounds like she's frustrated because she's putting in all this effort, and he is not. Plus, care-taking sucks balls. Doesn't matter how much you love and care for the person. People who do it for a living only do it for 40 hours/week. Multiply that 40 by 4 for a live-in situation for a family member.
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Post by ArchietheDragon on Sept 29, 2015 10:50:33 GMT -5
he practices his jokes on his cats. I practice my songwriting with mine. I practice my song singing with mime.
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Post by Cookies Galore on Sept 29, 2015 10:51:56 GMT -5
I practice my songwriting with mine. I practice my song singing with mime. Samesies! By "songwriting" I mean "singing songs about my cats."
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Post by andi9899 on Sept 29, 2015 11:07:46 GMT -5
Oh. So last year I had a date with this guy. The date was for Friday and Friday came and went with no word from him. I got a phone call profusely apologizing to me on Monday. Seems he got arrested on Thursday and spent the weekend in jail. We didn't go out again after that. hahahahahaha....<<takes breath>>....hahahahahaha Oh no. It gets worse. I dated a guy for a while who thought it was funny to fart while we were having sex. He'd be in mid thrust and let one go and then giggle like a little girl. That got old fast. I haven't seen that guy in years!
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Post by swamp on Sept 29, 2015 11:09:29 GMT -5
hahahahahaha....<<takes breath>>....hahahahahaha Oh no. It gets worse. I dated a guy for a while who thought it was funny to fart while we were having sex. He'd be in mid thrust and let one go and then giggle like a little girl. That got old fast. I haven't seen that guy in years!
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Post by andi9899 on Sept 29, 2015 11:11:36 GMT -5
Oh no. It gets worse. I dated a guy for a while who thought it was funny to fart while we were having sex. He'd be in mid thrust and let one go and then giggle like a little girl. That got old fast. I haven't seen that guy in years! Just like that.
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Post by lexxy703 on Sept 29, 2015 11:32:07 GMT -5
After my last attempt at dating I gave up. It was just a lot of effort & no real return. Overall I like being alone. On occasion it would be nice to go out to dinner with someone but generally speaking I'm happy. It has been almost two years since I've dated.
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Post by zibazinski on Sept 29, 2015 11:56:54 GMT -5
No, I'm not going to leave hm or kill hm off but if I manage to ever get a life again, I'm sure not going to mess with it. I saw someone tonight at dialysis. She was physically in worse shape than me, so far, struggling with a man even in worse shape than DH, so far. Trying to lift his wheelchair into the back of her car after depositing him into the passenger seat where he made sure to let her know that it hurt him getting into it. Like she can help that. DH doesn't suffer in silence either and I'm sick to death of hearing him bitch about the 2 steps from garage into the house. Not my fault he isn't getting stronger but his and his lack of effort. Our in home PTA says he needs to work on it while she isn't here. Yup, she's right. Does he? Nope, he doesn't. My goal is to get him to be fully functional except for dialysis .. Then we can hopefully get on kidney list but if he keeps up with this poor pity me behavior, not going to make it on that list. This is my life and it sucks donkey balls. You think I'd ever willingly go down that road again? Our whole relationship has changed. i raised my children already. Looked forward to an adult/equal relationship. Oh, well. Ladies, the grass is not greener. Be happy and joyful. Zib...you married a man who was on the heart transplant list. He was obviously VERY sick before you married him. I really don't understand why you went through with the marriage if you didn't want to be saddled with someone who is very sick.
I understand that dealing with a very sick spouse is overwhelming. But isn't part of the vows "in sickness and in health"....I am obviously not married now but if I ever remarry I sure hope my spouse wouldn't resent me if I were to get sick.
He was doing okay up til and after the transplant. It's just the constant issues. The constant of everything having to revolve around him and his issues. It didn't hit me until I saw those pictures of myself. I can't pretend I'm okay anymore. There's proof in color I'm not. I checked out a book from the library about aging gracefully and I'm looking into some serious "help" with the face that looks like a corpse. I'm sleeping and napping as I can but it doesn't help with the tiredness. I'm always tired. Our weather turned poopy so no riding my bike. A grey day never helps anyone's mood. I'm actually somewhat better today. Cringing at the thought of the prep before my colonoscopy on Thursday. Thinking about my Last Supper for today!!! Do you know they want you to pretty much stop eating everything I eat for 5 days prior? Omg. White bread. That's enough to gag a maggot right there. White rice too. No fruit or veggies.
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Post by zibazinski on Sept 29, 2015 11:57:30 GMT -5
After my last attempt at dating I gave up. It was just a lot of effort & no real return. Overall I like being alone. On occasion it would be nice to go out to dinner with someone but generally speaking I'm happy. It has been almost two years since I've dated. That's what girlfriends are for.
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Post by Miss Tequila on Sept 29, 2015 12:08:27 GMT -5
hahahahahaha....<<takes breath>>....hahahahahaha Oh no. It gets worse. I dated a guy for a while who thought it was funny to fart while we were having sex. He'd be in mid thrust and let one go and then giggle like a little girl. That got old fast. I haven't seen that guy in years! OMFG!!!
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Post by souldoubt on Sept 29, 2015 12:18:40 GMT -5
Zib...you married a man who was on the heart transplant list. He was obviously VERY sick before you married him. I really don't understand why you went through with the marriage if you didn't want to be saddled with someone who is very sick.
I understand that dealing with a very sick spouse is overwhelming. But isn't part of the vows "in sickness and in health"....I am obviously not married now but if I ever remarry I sure hope my spouse wouldn't resent me if I were to get sick.
He was doing okay up til and after the transplant. It's just the constant issues. The constant of everything having to revolve around him and his issues. It didn't hit me until I saw those pictures of myself. I can't pretend I'm okay anymore. There's proof in color I'm not. I checked out a book from the library about aging gracefully and I'm looking into some serious "help" with the face that looks like a corpse. I'm sleeping and napping as I can but it doesn't help with the tiredness. I'm always tired. Sorry to hear it. I know it's not as easy as I said but that's why my previous post said you have the power to end it. I get that you don't want to leave someone high and dry but as everyone else said your own sanity and well being comes first. If your partner won't work with you then they're working against you and that isn't fair to you. You're no good to anyone else if you're miserable. Hope things get better.
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Post by lexxy703 on Sept 29, 2015 12:26:50 GMT -5
Zib...you married a man who was on the heart transplant list. He was obviously VERY sick before you married him. I really don't understand why you went through with the marriage if you didn't want to be saddled with someone who is very sick.
I understand that dealing with a very sick spouse is overwhelming. But isn't part of the vows "in sickness and in health"....I am obviously not married now but if I ever remarry I sure hope my spouse wouldn't resent me if I were to get sick.
He was doing okay up til and after the transplant. It's just the constant issues. The constant of everything having to revolve around him and his issues. It didn't hit me until I saw those pictures of myself. I can't pretend I'm okay anymore. There's proof in color I'm not. I checked out a book from the library about aging gracefully and I'm looking into some serious "help" with the face that looks like a corpse. I'm sleeping and napping as I can but it doesn't help with the tiredness. I'm always tired. Our weather turned poopy so no riding my bike. A grey day never helps anyone's mood. I'm actually somewhat better today. Cringing at the thought of the prep before my colonoscopy on Thursday. Thinking about my Last Supper for today!!! Do you know they want you to pretty much stop eating everything I eat for 5 days prior? Omg. White bread. That's enough to gag a maggot right there. White rice too. No fruit or veggies. I don't remember where you live but we are heading into winter. You might want to think of something other than riding your bike to lift your spirits. Lots of people get a little down in the winter but you don't want to go into already feeling tired & down.
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Post by bean29 on Sept 29, 2015 12:51:56 GMT -5
No, I'm not going to leave hm or kill hm off but if I manage to ever get a life again, I'm sure not going to mess with it. I saw someone tonight at dialysis. She was physically in worse shape than me, so far, struggling with a man even in worse shape than DH, so far. Trying to lift his wheelchair into the back of her car after depositing him into the passenger seat where he made sure to let her know that it hurt him getting into it. Like she can help that. DH doesn't suffer in silence either and I'm sick to death of hearing him bitch about the 2 steps from garage into the house. Not my fault he isn't getting stronger but his and his lack of effort. Our in home PTA says he needs to work on it while she isn't here. Yup, she's right. Does he? Nope, he doesn't. My goal is to get him to be fully functional except for dialysis .. Then we can hopefully get on kidney list but if he keeps up with this poor pity me behavior, not going to make it on that list. This is my life and it sucks donkey balls. You think I'd ever willingly go down that road again? Our whole relationship has changed. i raised my children already. Looked forward to an adult/equal relationship. Oh, well. Ladies, the grass is not greener. Be happy and joyful. Zib...you married a man who was on the heart transplant list. He was obviously VERY sick before you married him. I really don't understand why you went through with the marriage if you didn't want to be saddled with someone who is very sick.
I understand that dealing with a very sick spouse is overwhelming. But isn't part of the vows "in sickness and in health"....I am obviously not married now but if I ever remarry I sure hope my spouse wouldn't resent me if I were to get sick.
MT, I say this very respectfully, and even I don't know what Zib is going through - but loosen up. Unless you have personally lived through this, I think you should withhold judgment. Dialysis is supposed to be the worst. The PT stuff - Mom lived through that too. Some of it is a judgment call. Mom and Dad lived in a cape cod. You had to do about 5 steps to get in the door. Mom patiently worked with Dad helping him maneuver the steps b/c the PT people said it was better if he kept moving rather than give up and use a wheelchair. Thankfully my Oldest nephew and my DB made the call that it was time to put in a wheelchair ramp the summer before my Dad completely lost the ability to walk. As we live in the Midwest DN raised the issue to DB and Mom that he thought it was time to install before the snow flew and they couldn't break ground. They agreed, finished the ramp in fall, and by that Thanksgiving Dad could not walk at all anymore. it was literally that he lost the ability to walk overnight.
Providing 24/7 care for someone is a huge responsibility. On top of that patients often feel free to take out their frustrations on their loved ones where they would not behave that way in-front of a care giver. If Zib's husband was getting care in a rehab place there would be shift changes - she is never off duty. Zib is your DH on Medicare yet? Maybe you could at least get the one day a week care. Mom had the caregivers come one day a week and help with Dad's shower. My Dad bragged to my DH that he had a "Shower Girl" . My DH didn't miss a beat, he asked Dad, How do I get one too?
My Mom had a standing Thursday AM Stained Glass Class at the senior center, which was part of her respite. IDK if you can get caregivers in 3 days a week, but do lean on his kids to help you more, and schedule some time off/out for yourself.
I also want to tell you all that shortly before Dad died, My Husband, My Brother, and My DN looked at their wives at a family event and said "Don't get any ideas - Bean's Mom is a saint, but I am never going to do this. If you need this level of care-you are going to a nursing home." Even my Mom says she does not expect us to care for her to that extent at home. If Mom needs that level of care, I will make my decisions at that time, but she lived it- and knows it is a nearly impossible feat to accomplish.
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PK Bucko
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Post by PK Bucko on Sept 29, 2015 12:56:39 GMT -5
I've only been single for a short period of time so I am sure I will have some more stories at some point..so far, the only really awful date that I had was with a guy that LOVED cats. This never came up in conversation before so imagine my surprise when we are sitting at the dinner table (a fun, hibachi place!) and he starts showing me his photo album of CATS! And if that wasn't enough, he had video, too! I actually escaped to the bathroom and texted Miss Margarita for advice...she was too busy laughing and asking for video of it all to be of any help
At first I thought maybe he just wasn't into me and that was his way of blowing me off...but nope, he texted me the next day to tell me what a great time he had, if we could do it again...perhaps he is confused and doesn't realize he is actually gay...because straight men don't have 5 freaking cats!lol
I've never ventured into the online dating world so if I ever do, I'm sure I will have some better stories!
ROFLMAO That's fucking hilarious!
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lexxy703
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Post by lexxy703 on Sept 29, 2015 13:13:14 GMT -5
I've only been single for a short period of time so I am sure I will have some more stories at some point..so far, the only really awful date that I had was with a guy that LOVED cats. This never came up in conversation before so imagine my surprise when we are sitting at the dinner table (a fun, hibachi place!) and he starts showing me his photo album of CATS! And if that wasn't enough, he had video, too! I actually escaped to the bathroom and texted Miss Margarita for advice...she was too busy laughing and asking for video of it all to be of any help
At first I thought maybe he just wasn't into me and that was his way of blowing me off...but nope, he texted me the next day to tell me what a great time he had, if we could do it again...perhaps he is confused and doesn't realize he is actually gay...because straight men don't have 5 freaking cats!lol
I've never ventured into the online dating world so if I ever do, I'm sure I will have some better stories!
ROFLMAO That's fucking hilarious! I think he sounds like a catch!!
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