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Post by beergut on Jun 23, 2015 11:58:09 GMT -5
Someone made a joke about this on my Gah!!! thread, but I am interested in hearing the female perspective.
Why does sex slow down or stop after marriage?
You got your man, so no need to put out as much?
Fatigue of working and raising kids?
Husband let himself go and isn't as attractive/sexy as he once was?
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MJ2.0
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Post by MJ2.0 on Jun 23, 2015 12:07:21 GMT -5
I suspect it's a combination of all three.
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Post by vonna on Jun 23, 2015 12:09:33 GMT -5
LOL!
Early retirement cures that ailment, though we find the summertime a bit more challenging since the kids are around much more . . .
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Post by Cookies Galore on Jun 23, 2015 12:14:18 GMT -5
Not in my experience. Life is exactly the same as it was before we got married. Aside from the fact that I now carry him on my insurance and do his taxes.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Jun 23, 2015 12:17:28 GMT -5
We have kids so we've had sex at least twice since we got married.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 23, 2015 12:20:05 GMT -5
We have kids so we've had sex at least twice since we got married.
Classic teen version of their parents' sex life: They tried it once and didn't like it. They tried it a second time just to make sure. They still didn't like it.
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Post by Tennesseer on Jun 23, 2015 12:21:20 GMT -5
We have kids so we've had sex at least twice since we got married.
Quite the randy couple!
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Post by muttleynfelix on Jun 23, 2015 12:25:01 GMT -5
Sex slowed down after kids. Not marriage. Lack of sleep, health problems, not finding the time. I'm a morning person, DH is a night owl. Prekids the best time for us to get frisky was mid day on the weekend or early afternoon. That doesn't work with kids (well as well). We managed it this weekend. DS was at a friend's house and DD was napping. We managed to get it done and doom the door slams and DS is suddenly home. Ugh. "Mommy, Daddy why is door locked"?
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Post by NancysSummerSip on Jun 23, 2015 12:43:52 GMT -5
See, that's the problem. You need to come up with some fast and ready answers.
1) "We're building a farm in here, son. We're going to grow...stuff. Good stuff. Stuff that will make us lots of money. We're going to have a grow house a house that grows stuff."
2) "It's Mommy and Daddy's turn to play in the sandbox. But when we're done, we'll play Tag. You're It. Go and hide, no closer than three blocks away."
3) "We're playing doctor. I'm Doctor Dad, and Mommy is my patient. The exam will take another hour, at least."
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Post by MJ2.0 on Jun 23, 2015 12:45:59 GMT -5
my issue was 2 and 3. He thought it was an expectation and didn't really try hard IMO. I'm a firm believer that foreplay begins well before you want to do the actual act - i.e. don't be a lazy bump on a log all day and then expect me to swoon later.
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Post by alabamagal on Jun 23, 2015 12:47:50 GMT -5
I thought statistics show that married people had more sex than single people.
When we had young kids, we added on a separate master suite and told the kids not to open the door. Never had an issue and we took frequent "naps".
Now the problem is that we moved and have all bedrooms on same side of house. Ds20 is home from college, so it is more awkward to go into bedroom and take "naps".
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Post by Deleted on Jun 23, 2015 12:55:47 GMT -5
What's the point in being married if you're not having sex and nobody's sick? I'm not entirely joking.....
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Post by Deleted on Jun 23, 2015 12:55:51 GMT -5
I don't know that that is always true. Sex was one of the few things we didn't have a problem with in our marriage.
However, I can see that after you get to know someone really well, or the focus on Friday nights shifts to more mundane things like yardwork and grocery shopping, the excitement might start to dissipate.
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Post by Peace Of Mind on Jun 23, 2015 12:56:03 GMT -5
When I gotito know him better, he was repulsive
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Post by justme on Jun 23, 2015 13:08:13 GMT -5
I thought statistics show that married people had more sex than single people. When we had young kids, we added on a separate master suite and told the kids not to open the door. Never had an issue and we took frequent "naps". Now the problem is that we moved and have all bedrooms on same side of house. Ds20 is home from college, so it is more awkward to go into bedroom and take "naps". I was trained similarly. We were only allowed to knock if someone was bleeding. They'd actually respond to a knock with are you bleeding? If we said no we were told to go away. I don't ever not remember that rule so they must have drilled it into us young.
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Post by The Captain on Jun 23, 2015 13:10:50 GMT -5
Hmmm. I wasn't aware it was supposed to stop or slow down. DH and I must be doing something wrong . I'm ok with that.
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Post by MJ2.0 on Jun 23, 2015 13:14:36 GMT -5
I thought statistics show that married people had more sex than single people. When we had young kids, we added on a separate master suite and told the kids not to open the door. Never had an issue and we took frequent "naps". Now the problem is that we moved and have all bedrooms on same side of house. Ds20 is home from college, so it is more awkward to go into bedroom and take "naps". I was trained similarly. We were only allowed to knock if someone was bleeding. They'd actually respond to a knock with are you bleeding? If we said no we were told to go away. I don't ever not remember that rule so they must have drilled it into us young. maybe there's something wrong with me but the thought of DS possibly knocking or just hearing his voice makes me lose my "mojo" instantly.
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Post by ken a.k.a OMK on Jun 23, 2015 13:14:53 GMT -5
Sex in the 60's is great. Ok 1960's was, but I mean 60+ years old.
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ken a.k.a OMK
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Post by ken a.k.a OMK on Jun 23, 2015 13:16:07 GMT -5
MJ, nothing wrong with you. Hearing the kids ruined it for my wife too.
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Post by andreawick on Jun 23, 2015 13:16:53 GMT -5
See, that's the problem. You need to come up with some fast and ready answers. 1) "We're building a farm in here, son. We're going to grow...stuff. Good stuff. Stuff that will make us lots of money. We're going to have a grow house a house that grows stuff." 2) "It's Mommy and Daddy's turn to play in the sandbox. But when we're done, we'll play Tag. You're It. Go and hide, no closer than three blocks away." 3) "We're playing doctor. I'm Doctor Dad, and Mommy is my patient. The exam will take another hour 36 seconds, at least."
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Post by ArchietheDragon on Jun 23, 2015 13:18:00 GMT -5
I was trained similarly. We were only allowed to knock if someone was bleeding. They'd actually respond to a knock with are you bleeding? If we said no we were told to go away. I don't ever not remember that rule so they must have drilled it into us young. maybe there's something wrong with me but the thought of DS possibly knocking or just hearing his voice makes me lose my "mojo" instantly. Our bedroom door doesn't even close. The house must have settled over the years. But the kids sleep pretty soundly. We have finally gotten back into the swing a year after #3.
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Post by justme on Jun 23, 2015 13:18:46 GMT -5
I was trained similarly. We were only allowed to knock if someone was bleeding. They'd actually respond to a knock with are you bleeding? If we said no we were told to go away. I don't ever not remember that rule so they must have drilled it into us young. maybe there's something wrong with me but the thought of DS possibly knocking or just hearing his voice makes me lose my "mojo" instantly. Well probably from 7 yo on we only knocked to complain about the sibling or ask to go to someone's place. They were usually in there for a while so I don't think they were always occupied and were just trying to get away from us. Lol! Since their room was on the other end of the house and the rule stood at night but we didn't bother them then. Don't know how well it worked when we were young?
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Post by vonna on Jun 23, 2015 13:22:00 GMT -5
maybe there's something wrong with me but the thought of DS possibly knocking or just hearing his voice makes me lose my "mojo" instantly. Our bedroom door doesn't even close. The house must have settled over the years. But the kids sleep pretty soundly. We have finally gotten back into the swing a year after #3. Until the night they don't . . .
Just think of what your unsuspecting child could walk in on!!
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ken a.k.a OMK
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Post by ken a.k.a OMK on Jun 23, 2015 13:28:20 GMT -5
<<Daddy and mommy are fighting. He's on top and she's screaming>>
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Post by ArchietheDragon on Jun 23, 2015 13:28:36 GMT -5
Archie, sheesh. Fix the door! That one is waaaay down on the project list.
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Post by vonna on Jun 23, 2015 13:29:52 GMT -5
Archie, sheesh. Fix the door! That one is waaaay down on the project list. Perhaps you should re-evaluate your priorities!!
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Post by midjd on Jun 23, 2015 13:30:21 GMT -5
I think a lot of times, it's more of a function of the length of the relationship and increasing responsibilities rather than the marriage certificate, especially if people cohabitated before marriage.
Although it's a common joke that getting the ring means women don't have to perform certain marital tasks anymore, I don't know anyone who actually feels that way (and my friends are pretty open about their sex lives).
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Post by ArchietheDragon on Jun 23, 2015 13:32:01 GMT -5
That one is waaaay down on the project list. Perhaps you should re-evaluate your priorities!! Maybe if the kids get scarred for life it will teach them to stay out of my room at night. And it is nothing they haven't seen at the goat farm a time or two.
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Post by vonna on Jun 23, 2015 13:35:22 GMT -5
Perhaps you should re-evaluate your priorities!! Maybe if the kids get scarred for life it will teach them to stay out of my room at night. And it is nothing they haven't seen at the goat farm a time or two. Okay, I didn't need the visual of you and your wife getting it on like goats . . .
I'm sure you enjoy more variety. And, I'm pretty sure you don't want to be observed by your "kids." LOL
FIX YOUR BEDROOM DOOR!!
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Post by MJ2.0 on Jun 23, 2015 13:36:58 GMT -5
first, life insurance... then stop bleeding money... then fix the door!
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