t-dog
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Post by t-dog on Mar 24, 2015 14:46:51 GMT -5
That is all...*slinks off to wallow*
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Post by obelisk on Mar 24, 2015 14:49:41 GMT -5
Yup! so glad I do not date anymore since getting married late in life at 45.
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Artemis Windsong
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Post by Artemis Windsong on Mar 24, 2015 14:54:11 GMT -5
Don't want to try it again so I stay in a marginal marriage.
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justme
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Post by justme on Mar 24, 2015 14:57:40 GMT -5
Here here! Got stood up on a third date after he was all about me on the second one. Oh well.
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t-dog
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Post by t-dog on Mar 24, 2015 14:58:35 GMT -5
Suggestions anyone?
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Post by CarolinaKat on Mar 24, 2015 15:00:16 GMT -5
... I found my DH by losing a bet. So I can only offer support!
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Post by kittensaver on Mar 24, 2015 15:00:29 GMT -5
Sorry no suggestions, just . I know it sucks out there .
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Post by Green Eyed Lady on Mar 24, 2015 15:05:03 GMT -5
Not from me. I don't date and have no interest in doing so right now. I'm still trying to make sure I fix the part of me that obviously chooses poorly. If I did have a suggestion, it would be not to date simply because you don't like being alone...because there are a whole lot of things worse than being alone. It's my firm belief that until people ARE comfortable being alone, they don't make the best decisions when it comes to choosing a partner.
I rarely give relationship advice because the one serious one I did have didn't work out so well. I'm just not equipped to give anything other than to wish you all the best.
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justme
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Post by justme on Mar 24, 2015 15:15:42 GMT -5
If I had suggestions I wouldn't be single!
Though I have gotten more selective as I've gotten older so bad fits fizzle out quicker. Online dating turns into a lot less first dates then it used to. (I tell myself I'm being selective, not that its because I'm older and no one likes me lol).
But I'm also getting closer to being the only cousin that hasn't been married at least once.
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Post by quince on Mar 24, 2015 15:21:30 GMT -5
No idea. I fail at dating. I hope my husband sticks around because I don't know how I managed to establish a relationship with him and certainly have no idea how to repeat it.
Maybe be open to dating without seeking out dating? Hang out with people, meetup groups, and just enjoy people, and be OK with what happens? That is kind of how I got lucky...and then went into the dating with no expectations other than enjoying that date. Enjoy the present and don't worry about that particular aspect of the future.
We can gloss over how I flirted like an out of practice middle schooler, confessed my attraction, cried to our mutual friends over how unlikely it was he would ever be interested in me, was unable to focus at work for weeks, and maybe accidentally-on purpose grabbed his butt.
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Post by Bonny on Mar 24, 2015 15:33:11 GMT -5
quince!
I've heard the direct approach with men is best!
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Post by wyouser on Mar 24, 2015 15:48:37 GMT -5
Ever wonder if it would help for us to coin a new word ?? Date, dating....to give a thing a place and point in time....damn, it just all sounds so OLD.....
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Post by emma1420 on Mar 24, 2015 15:50:56 GMT -5
If I had suggestions I wouldn't be single! Though I have gotten more selective as I've gotten older so bad fits fizzle out quicker. Online dating turns into a lot less first dates then it used to. (I tell myself I'm being selective, not that its because I'm older and no one likes me lol). But I'm also getting closer to being the only cousin that hasn't been married at least once. Honestly, I think you are being more picky. I think once you get over 35 or so, that you get a lot of interest from men who seem to think that you should be grateful that anyone has expressed interest in you. I had one guy who couldn't understand why I wasn't interested in him. Afterall, in my mid-30's I should love the fact, that a guy who's 20 years my senior, weighs at least 400lbs, and who doesn't have a job (but does have two ex-wives) has expressed interest in me.
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Post by justme on Mar 24, 2015 15:55:03 GMT -5
If I had suggestions I wouldn't be single! Though I have gotten more selective as I've gotten older so bad fits fizzle out quicker. Online dating turns into a lot less first dates then it used to. (I tell myself I'm being selective, not that its because I'm older and no one likes me lol). But I'm also getting closer to being the only cousin that hasn't been married at least once. Honestly, I think you are being more picky. I think once you get over 35 or so, that you get a lot of interest from men who seem to think that you should be grateful that anyone has expressed interest in you. I had one guy who couldn't understand why I wasn't interested in him. Afterall, in my mid-30's I should love the fact, that a guy who's 20 years my senior, weighs at least 400lbs, and who doesn't have a job (but does have two ex-wives) has expressed interest in me. Gah! It gets worse? <rushes to find husband in the 11 months before I 30> (I don't think I'm old, just feel old when I hear my friends that 25 lament about everyone marrying and always being single)
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Post by CarolinaKat on Mar 24, 2015 15:56:20 GMT -5
Honestly, I think you are being more picky. I think once you get over 35 or so, that you get a lot of interest from men who seem to think that you should be grateful that anyone has expressed interest in you. I had one guy who couldn't understand why I wasn't interested in him. Afterall, in my mid-30's I should love the fact, that a guy who's 20 years my senior, weighs at least 400lbs, and who doesn't have a job (but does have two ex-wives) has expressed interest in me. Gah! It gets worse? <rushes to find husband in the 11 months before I 30> (I don't think I'm old, just feel old when I hear my friends that 25 lament about everyone marrying and always being single) DH has a brother
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Post by Robert not Bobby on Mar 24, 2015 15:58:55 GMT -5
That is all...*slinks off to wallow* No it doesn't...not sure if you are a man or a woman...probably a guy. Listen, I'm in my 40s, with two sons and a failed marriage, but I still get exited about meeting a new lady. Sure, at first you think, "what am I doing and why am I here"? Relax, have fun and just don't end up with self obsessed princesses. There are some incredible down to earth, beautiful ladies out there who just want to make a connection, with you, and not your wallet. Stop over thinking it.
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Post by billisonboard on Mar 24, 2015 15:59:44 GMT -5
Damn... that's harsh. Does your husband ever read the boards? My guess would be he knows and is doing the same thing.
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Post by justme on Mar 24, 2015 16:00:11 GMT -5
Gah! It gets worse? <rushes to find husband in the 11 months before I 30> (I don't think I'm old, just feel old when I hear my friends that 25 lament about everyone marrying and always being single) DH has a brother If he lived in Florida that would be a funny origin of a set up! My cousins husband mentions his bro sometimes when I lament to her. I keep telling him to tell him to move to Florida. (Though I think he was at their wedding and I don't remember talking to him. Could have been because I think the guy is a year or two younger and I was like 21)
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Post by mmhmm on Mar 24, 2015 16:00:52 GMT -5
Lawdy, chile! Not from me! I'm content with my three cats, thank you very much!
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Post by Green Eyed Lady on Mar 24, 2015 16:01:09 GMT -5
That was a nice thing to say.
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Post by Green Eyed Lady on Mar 24, 2015 16:02:38 GMT -5
Lawdy, chile! Not from me! I'm content with my three cats, thank you very much! I was thinking about getting a cat. Only thinking, mind you, because I'm not sure how the dog-man of the house would handle it. The thread about pissed off kitties changed my mind.
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Post by midjd on Mar 24, 2015 16:02:49 GMT -5
Ever wonder if it would help for us to coin a new word ?? Date, dating....to give a thing a place and point in time....damn, it just all sounds so OLD..... When I was in middle/HS, the expression was "going out with ____." My mom always asked "Going WHERE?" "Nowhere, we're just going out." "I heard you, you're going out WHERE?" It would drive her crazy. There's probably a new term for it now.
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Post by Jaguar on Mar 24, 2015 16:05:39 GMT -5
Ever wonder if it would help for us to coin a new word ?? Date, dating....to give a thing a place and point in time....damn, it just all sounds so OLD..... When I was in middle/HS, the expression was "going out with ____." My mom always asked "Going WHERE?" "Nowhere, we're just going out." "I heard you, you're going out WHERE?" It would drive her crazy. There's probably a new term for it now. Yeah there is, he's/she's just a friend.
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Post by Jaguar on Mar 24, 2015 16:06:52 GMT -5
That is all...*slinks off to wallow* No it doesn't...not sure if you are a man or a woman...probably a guy. Listen, I'm in my 40s, with two sons and a failed marriage, but I still get exited about meeting a new lady. Sure, at first you think, "what am I doing and why am I here"? Relax, have fun and just don't end up with self obsessed princesses. There are some incredible down to earth, beautiful ladies out there who just want to make a connection, with you, and not your wallet. Stop over thinking it. t-dog is a female.
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Post by mmhmm on Mar 24, 2015 16:09:41 GMT -5
Lawdy, chile! Not from me! I'm content with my three cats, thank you very much! I was thinking about getting a cat. Only thinking, mind you, because I'm not sure how the dog-man of the house would handle it. The thread about pissed off kitties changed my mind. LOL! Some cats and dogs get along beautifully but it so much depends on the animal. The pit bull next door has a kitty of his own. It's a stuffed kitty but he takes it wherever he goes in the house and washes it faithfully. He is the cutest dog! He often comes to the back door to say hello to my cats. They've all gotten used to seeing each other through the windows, so nobody panics - even if I open the door. The cats don't try to run out and the dog doesn't try to run in but there's a lot of excited barking and meowring. All and all, the whole crew is pretty well-behaved.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 24, 2015 16:11:35 GMT -5
When I was in middle/HS, the expression was "going out with ____." My mom always asked "Going WHERE?" "Nowhere, we're just going out." "I heard you, you're going out WHERE?" It would drive her crazy. There's probably a new term for it now. Yeah there is, he's/she's just a friend. I do believe now it's called hooking up. Or hanging out. I'll have to ask my 15 year old whore in training niece what it is. OMG! The kid wears enough eyeliner to put Tammy Faye Bakker to shame!!! (There, have I dated myself enough? )
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Post by t-dog on Mar 24, 2015 16:13:41 GMT -5
I don't think I'm over thinking it. I just don't seem to move in the same circles as single guys do.
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Post by tskeeter on Mar 24, 2015 16:16:53 GMT -5
If I had suggestions I wouldn't be single! Though I have gotten more selective as I've gotten older so bad fits fizzle out quicker. Online dating turns into a lot less first dates then it used to. (I tell myself I'm being selective, not that its because I'm older and no one likes me lol). But I'm also getting closer to being the only cousin that hasn't been married at least once. I think dating as you get older gets more challenging. Often there is a reason (or a whole bunch of reasons) why the single folks in your age group have remained single. I think the trick when you get a bit older is to find the person who has been a bit socially retarded, but is now ready for a serious relationship. The socially retarded are a much smaller group than the self absorbed wack jobs.
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Post by emma1420 on Mar 24, 2015 16:17:05 GMT -5
Honestly, I think you are being more picky. I think once you get over 35 or so, that you get a lot of interest from men who seem to think that you should be grateful that anyone has expressed interest in you. I had one guy who couldn't understand why I wasn't interested in him. Afterall, in my mid-30's I should love the fact, that a guy who's 20 years my senior, weighs at least 400lbs, and who doesn't have a job (but does have two ex-wives) has expressed interest in me. Gah! It gets worse? <rushes to find husband in the 11 months before I 30> (I don't think I'm old, just feel old when I hear my friends that 25 lament about everyone marrying and always being single) I think it gets a lot worse after you are 35. So you've got plenty of time yet! And there are some good guys out there, even when you are over 35. You just have to wade through a lot more crap to find them, and I think they are fewer and further between.
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Post by Robert not Bobby on Mar 24, 2015 16:17:56 GMT -5
That was a nice thing to say. Thank you. And it's true...last time I was looking. But I get it (I didn't read the entire thread, so forgive me)...people can get discouraged. Look, I'm one of those slightly hopeless romantics, who believes there is some lasting love for everyone. I am a sucker for the underdog...I want all people to be happy, in their own way and in their own time. I think I remember your green eyes...I have green eyes too. Be well.
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