Icelandic Woman
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Post by Icelandic Woman on Nov 14, 2014 13:40:31 GMT -5
![](http://syonidv.hodginsmedia.com/vsmileys/yeahthat.gif) Sounds like sour grapes to me! ![](http://images.proboards.com/new/wink.png) Among my friends and female co-workers, a super-good deal on something that earned you a compliment is a very good reason to brag. I assume it's a "girl thing", since my male friends don't seem to feel the need to brag about a super deal on clothing. :-) I think I was meant to be a man. ![](http://syonidv.hodginsmedia.com/vsmileys/yeahright.png) I don't get fashion or clothes snobbishness at all. Clothes are a practical item for me. So much ![](http://syonidv.hodginsmedia.com/vsmileys/yeahthat.gif) And the beauty of that is nobody ever asks me where I got it or how much I paid for it. So no awkward social moments. The only thing I ever get told is a color looks good on me. Which is easily handled with a thank you.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 14, 2014 14:13:33 GMT -5
I think I was meant to be a man. ![](http://syonidv.hodginsmedia.com/vsmileys/yeahright.png) I don't get fashion or clothes snobbishness at all. Clothes are a practical item for me. So much ![](http://syonidv.hodginsmedia.com/vsmileys/yeahthat.gif) And the beauty of that is nobody ever asks me where I got it or how much I paid for it. So no awkward social moments. The only thing I ever get told is a color looks good on me. Which is easily handled with a thank you. There are 2 sides to it for me. One is looking successful and how that helps me work ways. I have better places to put my energies than overcoming people's prejudices just because of how I dress. The other is it being a creative outlet for myself. Colour and jewellery and things make me feel good.
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Icelandic Woman
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Post by Icelandic Woman on Nov 14, 2014 14:19:24 GMT -5
There are 2 sides to it for me. One is looking successful and how that helps me work ways. I have better places to put my energies than overcoming people's prejudices just because of how I dress. The other is it being a creative outlet for myself. Colour and jewellery and things make me feel good.
I absolutely hate shopping and could care less about fashions and such. The great thing is I haven't had to dress up for work since the early 2000's. I wear jeans to work everyday and I order those on line. All my sweaters and tops are still in good shape so I haven't really had to buy clothes except jeans for a long time. I cannot even remember the last time I was actually in a clothing store.
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Post by andi9899 on Nov 14, 2014 16:11:35 GMT -5
I am the complete opposite. I would shop every day if it was in the budget. I absolutely love it! I work an office job and have to dress for work. I probably only repeat an outfit once every other month or so I have so much clothing.
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Post by ZaireinHD on Nov 16, 2014 21:18:40 GMT -5
When I compliment someone, why are they compelled to tell me what they paid for it? For example - Me: "That's a cute scarf." Coworker: "Thanks, it was $3.00." Me: "I like your shirt." Friend: "Thanks, I got it at Goodwill for $3.50. I would never pay full price." Also, why do people ask me what I paid for something? Isn't that sort of a personal question? I total understand why cost for me it's because people will think they are being complimented on something that costs a lot. especially if the person is known for wearing expensive or name brand items. the person with the cute scarf may think others feel the scarf is expensive; when it's really not ![](http://images.proboards.com/new/smiley.png)
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Post by Lizard Queen on Nov 16, 2014 21:23:24 GMT -5
I was thinking about this topic a little. Getting a great deal is a bit like hunting or fishing. There's no challenge in buying something beautiful if it cost a fortune. But, if you got something beautiful for a great deal, now that is something to brag about! ![](http://images.proboards.com/new/grin.png)
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Nov 17, 2014 11:29:34 GMT -5
www.insideoutstyleblog.com/2014/11/7-top-tips-to-what-dates-and-what-becomes-timeless.html/6
Had to share. This one comes complete with a slide show illustrating the point that seems to not be getting across when it comes to clothing. You can be "fashionable" and still end up dated.
I've also been pondering the whole "don't care about clothes" stance. I used to wear it like a badge of pride as well and looking back I realize I really did myself a disservice.
I don't cater to every single fad that comes out, but realizing that my clothes send a message and learning how to dress to my body type, keep the current decade and figure out my individual style has really improved my self esteem.
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Post by muttleynfelix on Nov 17, 2014 15:22:14 GMT -5
I was totally guilty of doing this yesterday. Not with what i was wearing. But for my DD. We had her in these fuzzy boots that my coworker had bought her for $1 at a garage sale and Jocelyn just looked so stinking cute at church with glitter skinny jeans (don't judge, I did no buy them), a black and white striped top and these fuzzy boots and everyone kept commenting on how cute the boots were and I was like thanks, my coworker bought them at a garage sale for like a buck. ![](http://images.proboards.com/new/tongue.png)
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Post by midjd on Nov 17, 2014 15:38:54 GMT -5
I was totally guilty of doing this yesterday. Not with what i was wearing. But for my DD. We had her in these fuzzy boots that my coworker had bought her for $1 at a garage sale and Jocelyn just looked so stinking cute at church with glitter skinny jeans (don't judge, I did no buy them), a black and white striped top and these fuzzy boots and everyone kept commenting on how cute the boots were and I was like thanks, my coworker bought them at a garage sale for like a buck. ![](http://images.proboards.com/new/tongue.png) You monster! ![](http://images.proboards.com/new/tongue.png) I say the same types of things. If people are offended by it, they can stop complimenting me (or DD). Seriously, who has time to get so worked up over such minor comments?
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Post by milee on Nov 17, 2014 16:12:45 GMT -5
I was totally guilty of doing this yesterday. Not with what i was wearing. But for my DD. We had her in these fuzzy boots that my coworker had bought her for $1 at a garage sale and Jocelyn just looked so stinking cute at church with glitter skinny jeans (don't judge, I did no buy them), a black and white striped top and these fuzzy boots and everyone kept commenting on how cute the boots were and I was like thanks, my coworker bought them at a garage sale for like a buck. ![](http://images.proboards.com/new/tongue.png) You monster! ![](http://images.proboards.com/new/tongue.png) I say the same types of things. If people are offended by it, they can stop complimenting me (or DD). Seriously, who has time to get so worked up over such minor comments? I realize I'm guilty, too. ![](http://syonidv.hodginsmedia.com/vsmileys/melancholy.png) It just makes me really happy to have a piece of clothing that I love or that looks great on my kids and that was a bargain to boot! My favorite pair of board shorts (I get lots of compliments on them - shorty short Body Gloves in a fun green with hot pink hibiscus print) were ones that one of my good friends bought at a garage sale for a quarter but didn't fit her... so they're not just a garage sale find, they're hand me downs, too. For some reason, that whole reduce/reuse/recycle thing makes me happiest when it's something that looks great as well as makes $$$ sense. ![](http://syonidv.hodginsmedia.com/vsmileys/shucks2.png)
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Nov 17, 2014 16:28:45 GMT -5
I'm a monster too. ![](http://syonidv.hodginsmedia.com/vsmileys/melancholy.png)
I got a compliment on my "southwestern orange" jean jacket last Friday. I took great delight in saying "Thank you. I dyed it myself".
It's an old jean jacket I forgot in the car and by the time I remembered it the sun had faded the original blue. I'd been oogling an upcycled orange jacket on Etsy for $50. I figured it can't be that hard to create my own for less and decided to re-purpose my jacket. I'd had the jacket for years and the dye packet only cost me $3. Recycled AND thrifty! ![](http://images.proboards.com/new/grin.png)
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Post by midjd on Nov 17, 2014 16:49:23 GMT -5
My issue is that compliments make me uncomfortable (at least on the receiving end) so if I can't make some semi-self-deprecating remark about how little I paid or that I got it at Target or whatever, I'm just going to stammer and say "uh thanks, I like your boots too!" to someone who is not wearing boots.
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Post by Knee Deep in Water Chloe on Nov 17, 2014 17:06:02 GMT -5
My issue is that compliments make me uncomfortable (at least on the receiving end) so if I can't make some semi-self-deprecating remark about how little I paid or that I got it at Target or whatever, I'm just going to stammer and say "uh thanks, I like your boots too!" to someone who is not wearing boots. Seriously, I think we're the same person or twins separated at birth.
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Post by shanendoah on Nov 17, 2014 19:21:57 GMT -5
I've been thinking about this, and I think some of it (talking about the deal you got on a piece of clothing) comes from caring what other people think about you. Often, we don't want others (and perhaps especially our co-workers) to think we have more money than sense, so when we're complimented on an item of clothing, we feel the need to let them know that we're still practical, or something.
I don't think I do this much with clothing. Unless someone has specifically asked, I think I'm pretty good at just saying "thank you" to the compliment and moving on.
HOWEVER, I totally do this with one of my dogs.
I have a pure bred Beagle. Most people find Beagles incredibly cute in general, and mine happens to be an extra cute representative of the breed. (Yes, I am very biased.) People often compliment me on her adorableness (as if I had anything to do with that), and then often follow up with questions like "Is she a pure bred Beagle" or "Did you get her from a local breeder". I often feel like people are judging me regarding how I got my dog - is she actually a "pure bred", as if that would make her any less darling, or did I "buy" my dog. People within dog communities tend to feel very strongly one way or the other about these things, so I often try to prevent those comments (and feeling judged by them) by sharing her "adoption" story when people ask about her. "Thank you, she is very sweet. We were very lucky that we were the first people to see her at the Humane Society. Sadly, her first family had three kids under five, and unsurprisingly, a puppy, especially a Beagle puppy, turned out to be too much work for them." Do people need to know this? Of course not. Should I care what random people at the dog park think of me? Of course not. But sometimes, it's just easier to answer the questions before they are asked.![](http://erinshanendoah.com/lifebypets/wordpress/wp-content/uploads/2014/02/IMG_0347-e1393439386354-224x300.jpg)
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Post by thyme4change on Nov 18, 2014 9:01:53 GMT -5
I don't like to shop. But I love to look good.
My husband is fashionable, mixing "classic" and "current." Not a big deal since he wears most of his clothes out in the time it takes for a style to come and go. I think it makes him appear younger. All of his middle-aged, fat friends look like they don't care - even when they are wearing nice stuff. My Dh has a little style. If I ever die - he will totally get a young hottie.
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Post by ArchietheDragon on Nov 18, 2014 9:05:46 GMT -5
I don't like to shop. But I love to look good. My husband is fashionable, mixing "classic" and "current." Not a big deal since he wears most of his clothes out in the time it takes for a style to come and go. I think it makes him appear younger. All of his middle-aged, fat friends look like they don't care - even when they are wearing nice stuff. My Dh has a little style. If I ever die - he will totally get a young hottie. That bastard even looks good in a bowtie.
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Post by thyme4change on Nov 18, 2014 9:06:55 GMT -5
I don't like to shop. But I love to look good. My husband is fashionable, mixing "classic" and "current." Not a big deal since he wears most of his clothes out in the time it takes for a style to come and go. I think it makes him appear younger. All of his middle-aged, fat friends look like they don't care - even when they are wearing nice stuff. My Dh has a little style. If I ever die - he will totally get a young hottie. That bastard even looks good in a bowtie. Hellz ya he does!
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Post by swamp on Nov 18, 2014 10:18:24 GMT -5
I don't like to shop. But I love to look good. My husband is fashionable, mixing "classic" and "current." Not a big deal since he wears most of his clothes out in the time it takes for a style to come and go. I think it makes him appear younger. All of his middle-aged, fat friends look like they don't care - even when they are wearing nice stuff. My Dh has a little style. If I ever die - he will totally get a young hottie. Would he consider a middle age former hottie? ![:P](//storage.proboards.com/forum/images/smiley/tongue.png)
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Post by ❤ mollymouser ❤ on Nov 18, 2014 16:48:59 GMT -5
I was thinking about this topic a little. Getting a great deal is a bit like hunting or fishing. There's no challenge in buying something beautiful if it cost a fortune. But, if you got something beautiful for a great deal, now that is something to brag about! ![](http://images.proboards.com/new/grin.png) ![](http://syonidv.hodginsmedia.com/vsmileys/yeahthat.gif)
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