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Post by CarolinaKat on Oct 30, 2014 13:06:15 GMT -5
You kept a baby book, you're way ahead of yours truly. I know Babybird walked/ran before her first birthday but I couldn't tell you the exact month if you had a gun to my head. Shit. I'm supposed to know dates of when stuff happened? I can tell you DS started walking around 1 year. DD, around 9 months. Other than that, I got nothing.
I can no longer call myself "Awesome Mom"
All my parents know is I started walking and talking at 7mo and 9mo, they don't know which one came in which month mark though... They just know I wouldn't slow down or shut up... ![](http://images.proboards.com/new/grin.png) Also, I think my baby book has been lost to the ages, but the horrible VHS that had a bad color correct (I look green about 3/4 of it) is still around.
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Post by CarolinaKat on Oct 30, 2014 13:07:25 GMT -5
I had a neighbor when DS was born who had a daughter born on the exact same day - same doctor, same hospital. It was weird. DS started walking early (can't remember the exact month) but he had no control. We had to put the coffee table in the attic because h e would struggle to his feet and then launch himself across the room, arms pinwheeling, laughing hysterically, and then falling down. Like a little drunk man. So while he was up on his feet lurching around, I wouldn't call that actually 'walking.' The neighbor's girl didn't attempt to walk until a good five months later, but she was a cautious child. She didn't try to walk until she was 100% certain she would not fall on her ass - or her face. So she waited until she could walk daintly all around the room and never fall down. So if you actually compare the dates when both of them could stand up and walk on steady feet in a direction they chose to go in and arrive there still on their feet - it was probably at about the same time. Most other childhood 'goals' are the same way. Yeah a kid might do something earlier than another kid, but does that kid really do it well? So comparing these dates is pointless - but you can't convince the helicopter parents of that. Please tell me there's video!
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Oct 30, 2014 13:14:33 GMT -5
I had a neighbor when DS was born who had a daughter born on the exact same day - same doctor, same hospital. It was weird. DS started walking early (can't remember the exact month) but he had no control. We had to put the coffee table in the attic because h e would struggle to his feet and then launch himself across the room, arms pinwheeling, laughing hysterically, and then falling down. Like a little drunk man. So while he was up on his feet lurching around, I wouldn't call that actually 'walking.' The neighbor's girl didn't attempt to walk until a good five months later, but she was a cautious child. She didn't try to walk until she was 100% certain she would not fall on her ass - or her face. So she waited until she could walk daintly all around the room and never fall down. So if you actually compare the dates when both of them could stand up and walk on steady feet in a direction they chose to go in and arrive there still on their feet - it was probably at about the same time. Most other childhood 'goals' are the same way. Yeah a kid might do something earlier than another kid, but does that kid really do it well? So comparing these dates is pointless - but you can't convince the helicopter parents of that. Please tell me there's video! We got video of most of Cabe's first soccer scrimmage. OMG it's hysterical. The kids are K4 and K5 so range from 4-6. The field is outlined by yellow cones and is maybe 1/3 the size of a real soccer field. And they couldn't stay in it. Someone would kick the ball out of bounds and the whole pack of them, except the goalies, are chasing after it and kicking it further and further out. I think they must have kicked the ball about 2 of their soccer fields BEHIND the goal at one point. One of the kids get bored being goalie and wanders over to the cones and starts tossing them around. I want DH to put it on FB for the family to see. ![](http://syonidv.hodginsmedia.com/vsmileys/rofl.gif) Best soccer scrimmage EVER.
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Post by CarolinaKat on Oct 30, 2014 13:16:59 GMT -5
Please tell me there's video! We got video of most of Cabe's first soccer scrimmage. OMG it's hysterical. The kids are K4 and K5 so range from 4-6. The field is outlined by yellow cones and is maybe 1/3 the size of a real soccer field. And they couldn't stay in it. Someone would kick the ball out of bounds and the whole pack of them, except the goalies, are chasing after it and kicking it further and further out. I think they must have kicked the ball about 2 of their soccer fields BEHIND the goal at one point. One of the kids get bored being goalie and wanders over to the cones and starts tossing them around. I want DH to put it on FB for the family to see. ![](http://syonidv.hodginsmedia.com/vsmileys/rofl.gif) Best soccer scrimmage EVER. Dad calls that 'Gravity Ball' He coached A LOT of youth soccer!
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Post by happyhoix on Oct 30, 2014 13:18:42 GMT -5
I had a neighbor when DS was born who had a daughter born on the exact same day - same doctor, same hospital. It was weird. DS started walking early (can't remember the exact month) but he had no control. We had to put the coffee table in the attic because h e would struggle to his feet and then launch himself across the room, arms pinwheeling, laughing hysterically, and then falling down. Like a little drunk man. So while he was up on his feet lurching around, I wouldn't call that actually 'walking.' The neighbor's girl didn't attempt to walk until a good five months later, but she was a cautious child. She didn't try to walk until she was 100% certain she would not fall on her ass - or her face. So she waited until she could walk daintly all around the room and never fall down. So if you actually compare the dates when both of them could stand up and walk on steady feet in a direction they chose to go in and arrive there still on their feet - it was probably at about the same time. Most other childhood 'goals' are the same way. Yeah a kid might do something earlier than another kid, but does that kid really do it well? So comparing these dates is pointless - but you can't convince the helicopter parents of that. Please tell me there's video! Sure enough there is. ![](http://images.proboards.com/new/grin.png) He also has a scar still from where he fell onto one of his toys and got a gash right at the corner of his eye on Christmas Eve one year (which features in all the Christmas pictures and video) and then the next year, he tried to swing as hard as he could and then launched himself off it at the height of the arc when he was at day care, (apparently thinking he could fly that way) and broke his nose, which featured prominantly in that year's Christmas video and pictures. I was very glad when he got old enough to explain to the ER people that mommy and daddy weren't beating him, he was just very reckless - broke his arm in kindergarden tripping on a concrete sidewalk at school, sledded into a tree and broke his ankle, rode his bike into a rocky culvert and had to have both arms in slings for two weeks - not really sure how he made it to age 27, frankly. I'm sure our nice delicate neighbor's daughter never got a scratch LOL.
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Post by Phoenix84 on Oct 30, 2014 21:37:05 GMT -5
Seems like an odd way to put it... "professional mom."
That makes me think of those articles that come out that show how SAHM's are "worth" like 100k/year or whatever. Which are totally ridiculous.
I agree with Swamp, if you want to stay home for your family that's fine, but it seems strange that some of them feel the need to justify their choice to the world.
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Post by Peace Of Mind on Oct 30, 2014 23:38:54 GMT -5
So I'm not really a Domestic Engineer or CFO because I handle our family finances? I've been putting that title next to my name when I sign documents and checks!
Now I think I'm having an identity crisis. Somebody hold me!
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Post by saveinla on Oct 30, 2014 23:47:31 GMT -5
During a conversation with a SAHM, she mentioned "now that I've quit my job to become a professional mom."
If someone told me that they were a professional mom , I would think that they are a fan of the "In Death" series of books by J.D.Robb.
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Post by mmhmm on Oct 30, 2014 23:56:25 GMT -5
#yeahthat For the mom's own peace of mind and mental health, she may want to find more constructive ways to handle comments about her child's death (it can't be good to be so upset over something fairly innocuous), but there is no way in hell I would ever call someone "too sensitive" for being upset over a comment made after s/he lost a child less than a year ago. Especially when so many people say really IMO dumb things in those situations, like "God needed another angel." I never know what to say to people that bring up their child's death. I want to acknowledge what they just said, but I don't want to say anything that might upset them. I was in a room with a group of coworkers, we were doing something for our employer. The lady that was explaining what needed to be done mentioned that her son had recently died. She got visibly upset when she mentioned it, nobody said anything and she kept talking. I don't know her well, but every time I've talked to her, she's always come across as a very pleasant, genuinely nice person. I felt awful, like one of us should have said something when we got a glimpse of her pain. But what? I went to her after the meeting and told her I hadn't heard about her son and I was very sorry. She got teary eyed again and hugged me and whispered thank you. Then I felt horrible all over again for making her cry. I just didn't want it to seem like nobody heard her or nobody cared. I don't know if it was the right thing to do, but she hugged me so tight, I think it meant something to her. Rest assured, you did exactly the right thing. Sometimes, tears of sorrow are also tears of release. It's good to have someone to hold onto, someone whose shoulder you can cry on, and someone you know honestly cares. You're darned right it meant something to her! Thanks for having the heart to reach out and to be there for her. ![](http://syonidv.hodginsmedia.com/vsmileys/rose.gif)
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Post by Jaguar on Oct 31, 2014 0:01:42 GMT -5
So I'm not really a Domestic Engineer or CFO because I handle our family finances? I've been putting that title next to my name when I sign documents and checks! Now I think I'm having an identity crisis. Somebody hold me!
No you got the bottle of whine for your comfort.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 31, 2014 7:01:43 GMT -5
During a conversation with a SAHM, she mentioned "now that I've quit my job to become a professional mom."
If someone told me that they were a professional mom , I would think that they are a fan of the "In Death" series of books by J.D.Robb. yup, that's exactly what popped into my mind!
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Post by Apple on Nov 1, 2014 0:36:41 GMT -5
And you find that the older the mother gets the younger the child did all of these things. Some babies popped out walking and talking by the time the mother is 45 ![](http://syonidv.hodginsmedia.com/vsmileys/tongue2.png) That is if she had kiddo in her 20's. If she waited till 40's then the kiddo was doing all this before birth ![](http://syonidv.hodginsmedia.com/vsmileys/faint.gif) I have been surprised by the number of people that have told me their kid took his first steps on their first birthday. Apparently it doesn't happen the day before or the day after very often, but very commonly the kid chooses their bday to start walking.
I had to laugh though. My coworker has a baby 6 weeks older than DS2. They started walking at the same time, within just a few days of each other - DS2 was 10 months, their kid was 11.5. I could care less because my other 2 didn't start until 14 months. But, the look on this guys face when he learned that my kid was also walking & was 6 weeks ahead was priceless. He is kind of a self-centered douche, so I found it hilarious that this bothered him.
I only remember the day my son took his first step, and that's because it was the day after his first birthday. I was most happy that he started sleeping through the night at four months, and would still take two naps a day, and sleep all night, until he was almost three! Except the night he learned to climb out of his crib... I had to be at work early in the morning, and had decided that there really wasn't much he could do to himself, the house was so small that if he got hurt, we'd hear him. Got up to go to work the next morning and he had a sucker in one hand, a half melted chocolate bar in the other, and he was completely wired! Turns out, his dad had left a tin of Halloween candy on the pool table, and DS was able to move stuff/stack stuff high enough to get up there and get into it. For days I found small pieces of foil wrapped candy--must have been kisses, or similar--that had a bite taken out of them all over the house. He would bite into the foil and not be able to get it off. Anything with a wrapper he had eaten. Put him back to bed, woke up then-husband to tell him what had happened. I guess he slept about half an hour and spent the rest of the day on a complete sugar high. So glad ex-h was the one laid-off and watching him, I would have gone crazy!
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Post by zibazinski on Nov 1, 2014 9:18:57 GMT -5
DD started around 9 months because her dad was so proud he was bragging to everyone. Then she got an ear infection and didn't walk again until maybe around 13 months. He kept THAT quiet! DS? Pretty much at 12 months. I remember because he didn't crawl and my family and his Dad's were having a cow because he didn't crawl first and this would make him uncoordinated. Thankfully his pediatrician said to tell family to myob. I mean, seriously, what could I have done to force him to crawl anyway? Lowered the ceilings?
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Post by whoami on Nov 1, 2014 10:38:01 GMT -5
I quit my part time job when my last kid graduated high school. I am rarely home, spending lots of time traveling all over the country. I guess I could call myself retired if someone wants to label as something, but I dont think of myself as old enough to be retired....not sure why that is more palatable to some than a SAHM or SAHW. I want to do my running around when Im still youngish...I dont see myself doing this when I get older. I'm sure lots of us would like to do that but not everyone can save enough money by age 50 to pay all their bills plus have money for travel....and some of us believe we should also help our kids with college. I don't know that retired is more palatable. if someone told me they were retired in their 40s and 50s I would think there was something wrong that they couldn't work a regular job. as far as the OP, since none of us were there, only the OP would know if she was joking around and it sounds like she wasn't. LOL....you always seem to have something snotty to say.
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