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Post by tskeeter on Oct 20, 2014 10:44:04 GMT -5
You'd rather be described as a drama queen with lots of baggage? I don't know how you are interpreting low drama, low baggage. But, I consider those to be positive attributes. Along the lines of good partner, financially responsible, etc. 'low drama, low baggage type' along with 'good partner, financially responsible' would give you a foot in your arz! from me that is. Idk maybe some women like it to be described like that As all of us here know, you, Loony, are unique. No two ways about it.
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Post by nutty on Oct 20, 2014 10:44:14 GMT -5
Yep, I hear y'all. I am mostly hanging out with my girls but I won't pass a chance to go on a date if I felt like it. The stories I could tell right now are so funny.
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Post by tloonya on Oct 20, 2014 10:46:09 GMT -5
Yep, I hear y'all. I am mostly hanging out with my girls but I won't pass a chance to go on a date if I felt like it. The stories I could tell right now are so funny. Good, nutty. Don't listen to them. I am all ears...and good luck I feel there is one good rich one out there waiting for you.
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Post by ZaireinHD on Oct 20, 2014 15:26:15 GMT -5
Good, nutty. Don't listen to them. I am all ears...and good luck I feel there is one good rich one out there waiting for you. when you are comfortable then you're good!
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Post by Deleted on Oct 20, 2014 15:32:00 GMT -5
You'd rather be described as a drama queen with lots of baggage? I don't know how you are interpreting low drama, low baggage. But, I consider those to be positive attributes. Along the lines of good partner, financially responsible, etc. 'low drama, low baggage type' along with 'good partner, financially responsible' would give you a foot in your arz! from me that is. Idk maybe some women like it to be described like that If someone called you low drama and financially responsible you'd kick them in the ass? That makes no sense whatsoever.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Oct 20, 2014 15:37:13 GMT -5
Come on Minnesota everyone knows guys love trainwrecks.
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Post by Angel! on Oct 20, 2014 15:42:32 GMT -5
Come on Minnesota everyone knows guys love trainwrecks. Maybe that is why I have had no problem finding dates
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Post by Deleted on Oct 20, 2014 15:44:26 GMT -5
I'm assuming (and lord knows I've screwed up doing that with Loony before ) that she means that she doesn't want that to be the FIRST thing that a guy describes her as. But, you can still be "HOT" without being a HOT MESS.
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Post by TheHaitian on Oct 20, 2014 15:47:46 GMT -5
Come on Minnesota everyone knows guys love trainwrecks. You don't know how true that statement is!!!
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Post by TheHaitian on Oct 20, 2014 15:48:53 GMT -5
Yep, I hear y'all. I am mostly hanging out with my girls but I won't pass a chance to go on a date if I felt like it. The stories I could tell right now are so funny. Good, nutty. Don't listen to them. I am all ears...and good luck I feel there is one good rich one out there waiting for you. Can you send one good rich one my way too? But female please I am black and size 13 shoes *wink *wink
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Post by Pants on Oct 20, 2014 15:51:42 GMT -5
Yup, nutty, take loony's advice. As you can see by her posts, she's got it all together.
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Post by TheHaitian on Oct 20, 2014 15:57:23 GMT -5
Yup, nutty, take loony's advice. As you can see by her posts, she's got it all together. Not that I think loony is a credible source, I have to agree I see no issues with nutty dating right now. I don't say go out and marry the first guy you meet but there is nothing wrong or harmful with going out for drinks, talking to someone, dinner. Actually I would recommend it. Her husband left her, she needs to feel like a woman again. And nothing makes a woman feel more like a woman than to know that you are still seen as a sexual Object, still desirable, still needed/wanted and not just a dried up fruit that your husband kicked to the curb. Get your groove on/back nutty!
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Post by TheHaitian on Oct 20, 2014 15:58:00 GMT -5
And best part she doesn't even have to worry about getting pregnant
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Post by ZaireinHD on Oct 20, 2014 16:00:18 GMT -5
Yup, nutty, take loony's advice. As you can see by her posts, she's got it all together. just reading the screen names is funny! nutty and loony any bat shit crazy giving advise?
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Post by NancysSummerSip on Oct 20, 2014 16:05:27 GMT -5
Yup, nutty, take loony's advice. As you can see by her posts, she's got it all together. Actually I would recommend it. Her husband left her, she needs to feel like a woman again. And nothing makes a woman feel more like a woman than to know that you are still seen as a sexual Object, still desirable, still needed/wanted and not just a dried up fruit that your husband kicked to the curb.OMG. So wrong, but so hilarious! I will never, ever be able to put food into the compost bin again without thinking of Carl!
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Post by Angel! on Oct 20, 2014 16:09:32 GMT -5
Yup, nutty, take loony's advice. As you can see by her posts, she's got it all together. Not that I think loony is a credible source, I have to agree I see no issues with nutty dating right now. I don't say go out and marry the first guy you meet but there is nothing wrong or harmful with going out for drinks, talking to someone, dinner. Actually I would recommend it. Her husband left her, she needs to feel like a woman again. And nothing makes a woman feel more like a woman than to know that you are still seen as a sexual Object, still desirable, still needed/wanted and not just a dried up fruit that your husband kicked to the curb. Get your groove on/back nutty! I think it really depends on where a person is mentally. You are also the guy that doesn't understand why women end up in abusive relationships or stay in them. So I think it is possible that you may also not understand why sometimes you shouldn't jump right back on the horse, but rather take a time-out for yourself. When we aren't in a good place mentally we make very bad decisions.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 20, 2014 16:14:57 GMT -5
Not that I think loony is a credible source, I have to agree I see no issues with nutty dating right now. I don't say go out and marry the first guy you meet but there is nothing wrong or harmful with going out for drinks, talking to someone, dinner. Actually I would recommend it. Her husband left her, she needs to feel like a woman again. And nothing makes a woman feel more like a woman than to know that you are still seen as a sexual Object, still desirable, still needed/wanted and not just a dried up fruit that your husband kicked to the curb. Get your groove on/back nutty! I think it really depends on where a person is mentally. You are also the guy that doesn't understand why women end up in abusive relationships or stay in them. So I think it is possible that you may also not understand why sometimes you shouldn't jump right back on the horse, but rather take a time-out for yourself. When we aren't in a good place mentally we make very bad decisions. Women aren't usually just out to get sex when they jump into another relationship after 20+ years of marriage. There's a lot more emotional stuff tied up in it than that. I'm speaking as someone who has been there done that.
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Post by TheHaitian on Oct 20, 2014 16:16:07 GMT -5
Not that I think loony is a credible source, I have to agree I see no issues with nutty dating right now. I don't say go out and marry the first guy you meet but there is nothing wrong or harmful with going out for drinks, talking to someone, dinner. Actually I would recommend it. Her husband left her, she needs to feel like a woman again. And nothing makes a woman feel more like a woman than to know that you are still seen as a sexual Object, still desirable, still needed/wanted and not just a dried up fruit that your husband kicked to the curb. Get your groove on/back nutty! I think it really depends on where a person is mentally. You are also the guy that doesn't understand why women end up in abusive relationships or stay in them. So I think it is possible that you may also not understand why sometimes you shouldn't jump right back on the horse, but rather take a time-out for yourself. When we aren't in a good place mentally we make very bad decisions. And anyone here better than nutty knows where she is mentally? This lady is not going to marry the guy, she is going out on a couple of dates. Better than staying at home and staring at the TV screen. Going out, living, seeing what is out there... She is not a kid, she is a grown mature woman that is trying to re-discover herself after a lifetime with the same man. She is not talking marriage, she is talking dating. And the fact that she knew that this guy was not the right fit for her proves that she is not desperate looking to settle with the first person that says "hello"! And " So I think it is possible that you may also not understand why sometimes you shouldn't jump right back on the horse, but rather take a time-out for yourself." Seriously LOL!!!
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Post by TheHaitian on Oct 20, 2014 16:22:39 GMT -5
I think it really depends on where a person is mentally. You are also the guy that doesn't understand why women end up in abusive relationships or stay in them. So I think it is possible that you may also not understand why sometimes you shouldn't jump right back on the horse, but rather take a time-out for yourself. When we aren't in a good place mentally we make very bad decisions. Women aren't usually just out to get sex when they jump into another relationship after 20+ years of marriage. There's a lot more emotional stuff tied up in it than that. I'm speaking as someone who has been there done that. How do you know? Not each case is the same. Not every woman is the same. You might have wanted a time out while she wants a good lay after being with the same guy for 20+ years. I am just saying: no one else better than nutty knows what nutty need or want at this moment. So you go girl... You have locked it down for 20+ years now, time to enjoy yourself and make it about you, not the husband, the kids or grandkid... YOU!
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Post by Angel! on Oct 20, 2014 16:27:29 GMT -5
I think it really depends on where a person is mentally. You are also the guy that doesn't understand why women end up in abusive relationships or stay in them. So I think it is possible that you may also not understand why sometimes you shouldn't jump right back on the horse, but rather take a time-out for yourself. When we aren't in a good place mentally we make very bad decisions. And anyone here better than nutty knows where she is mentally? This lady is not going to marry the guy, she is going out on a couple of dates. Better than staying at home and staring at the TV screen. Going out, living, seeing what is out there... She is not a kid, she is a grown mature woman that is trying to re-discover herself after a lifetime with the same man. She is not talking marriage, she is talking dating. And the fact that she knew that this guy was not the right fit for her proves that she is not desperate looking to settle with the first person that says "hello"! And " So I think it is possible that you may also not understand why sometimes you shouldn't jump right back on the horse, but rather take a time-out for yourself." Seriously LOL!!! Have you read through a few of her threads? She is all over the place. She is definitely in a period of grieving and healing. Not a good time to start dating or hopping into bed. You can't get out of 20 years of marriage & just be ok. It takes a long time. And yes, I am absolutely serious. Not sure why you think it is funny. Not taking time-out for yourself is one of the primary reasons women hop from bad relationship from bad relationship. Low self-esteem, fear of being alone, wanting a white knight, etc. You have to learn to love yourself and be happy alone before you are going to do well dating.
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Post by Angel! on Oct 20, 2014 16:29:42 GMT -5
Women aren't usually just out to get sex when they jump into another relationship after 20+ years of marriage. There's a lot more emotional stuff tied up in it than that. I'm speaking as someone who has been there done that. How do you know? Not each case is the same. Not every woman is the same. You might have wanted a time out while she wants a good lay after being with the same guy for 20+ years. I am just saying: no one else better than nutty knows what nutty need or want at this moment. So you go girl... You have locked it down for 20+ years now, time to enjoy yourself and make it about you, not the husband, the kids or grandkid... YOU! Actually, speaking from experience....when you are in that period of grieving & feeling lost, you are the last person that really knows what you need. If women were so good at judging what they need, then why do women stay in abusive relationships? Why do they hop from one loser guy to another? Because for some of us, we are broken & it makes our man-picker broken. Then our mental state is obvious & all we will attract is the crazies.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 20, 2014 16:44:11 GMT -5
Women aren't usually just out to get sex when they jump into another relationship after 20+ years of marriage. There's a lot more emotional stuff tied up in it than that. I'm speaking as someone who has been there done that. How do you know? Not each case is the same. Not every woman is the same. You might have wanted a time out while she wants a good lay after being with the same guy for 20+ years. I am just saying: no one else better than nutty knows what nutty need or want at this moment. So you go girl... You have locked it down for 20+ years now, time to enjoy yourself and make it about you, not the husband, the kids or grandkid... YOU! I didn't want a time out. I jumped on the first guy to come along. I'm trying to warn her of the emotional roller coaster messing with your judgement.
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Post by TheHaitian on Oct 20, 2014 16:50:37 GMT -5
How do you know? Not each case is the same. Not every woman is the same. You might have wanted a time out while she wants a good lay after being with the same guy for 20+ years. I am just saying: no one else better than nutty knows what nutty need or want at this moment. So you go girl... You have locked it down for 20+ years now, time to enjoy yourself and make it about you, not the husband, the kids or grandkid... YOU! Actually, speaking from experience....when you are in that period of grieving & feeling lost, you are the last person that really knows what you need. If women were so good at judging what they need, then why do women stay in abusive relationships? Why do they hop from one loser guy to another? Because for some of us, we are broken & it makes our man-picker broken. Then our mental state is obvious & all we will attract is the crazies. I am sorry but women do not have that market cornered... They just get more publicity for it or complain about it more. I believe it is called being human; has nothing to do with being a woman; all about wanting to feel connected and being in a relationship. Also a small percentage of women stay in abusive relationships and I put them in the same category as men that stay in relationship with toxic women. Again being a woman is not a science; stop making it so complicated. Enjoy life and know it is ok to make some mistakes along the way
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Post by TheHaitian on Oct 20, 2014 16:52:18 GMT -5
How do you know? Not each case is the same. Not every woman is the same. You might have wanted a time out while she wants a good lay after being with the same guy for 20+ years. I am just saying: no one else better than nutty knows what nutty need or want at this moment. So you go girl... You have locked it down for 20+ years now, time to enjoy yourself and make it about you, not the husband, the kids or grandkid... YOU! I didn't want a time out. I jumped on the first guy to come along. I'm trying to warn her of the emotional roller coaster messing with your judgement. No; you jumped on the first guy that came along and decided he was good enough to be your husband. She jumped on the first guy that came along and decided he sucked and dumped him. By your logic, she is already ahead of the game/curve. Again no one is talking marriage now, she is certainly not.
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Post by TheHaitian on Oct 20, 2014 16:56:58 GMT -5
And anyone here better than nutty knows where she is mentally? This lady is not going to marry the guy, she is going out on a couple of dates. Better than staying at home and staring at the TV screen. Going out, living, seeing what is out there... She is not a kid, she is a grown mature woman that is trying to re-discover herself after a lifetime with the same man. She is not talking marriage, she is talking dating. And the fact that she knew that this guy was not the right fit for her proves that she is not desperate looking to settle with the first person that says "hello"! And " So I think it is possible that you may also not understand why sometimes you shouldn't jump right back on the horse, but rather take a time-out for yourself." Seriously LOL!!! Have you read through a few of her threads? She is all over the place. She is definitely in a period of grieving and healing. Not a good time to start dating or hopping into bed. You can't get out of 20 years of marriage & just be ok. It takes a long time. And yes, I am absolutely serious. Not sure why you think it is funny. Not taking time-out for yourself is one of the primary reasons women hop from bad relationship from bad relationship. Low self-esteem, fear of being alone, wanting a white knight, etc. You have to learn to love yourself and be happy alone before you are going to do well dating. Really!!! Lord! The woman went on a couple of dates, she is not signing on a marriage license. That is why men will never ever get women, you turn everything into a BIG deal!
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Post by mmhmm on Oct 20, 2014 16:57:03 GMT -5
Okay, the old lady is gonna speak (is that something like the fat lady singing?). Dating is just fine provided you know for sure and certain you've got your issues sorted and your head together. It's not about complicated and it's not about gender. It's about knowing yourself and fixing what's broke before you re-enter the race. If nutty's most recent posts are any indication, she's not quite there yet. Much better to spend this time hanging out with friends and not thinking about any sort of romantic (or sexual) connection. If you'll do that and make sure you've got it together in all aspects of your life, you'll find you'll do a lot better when you do step out again. MOO
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Post by Deleted on Oct 20, 2014 16:59:29 GMT -5
I didn't want a time out. I jumped on the first guy to come along. I'm trying to warn her of the emotional roller coaster messing with your judgement. No; you jumped on the first guy that came along and decided he was good enough to be your husband. She jumped on the first guy that came along and decided he sucked and dumped him. By your logic, she is already ahead of the game/curve. Again no one is talking marriage now, she is certainly not. Um. No. WTH are you talking about? I didnt marry the first guy to come along. I didnt meet second husband for years after my divorce. I said I was lucky I didnt marry that first guy since I was so vulnerable. But my life was not made better by dating losers either.
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Post by Angel! on Oct 20, 2014 17:00:56 GMT -5
Actually, speaking from experience....when you are in that period of grieving & feeling lost, you are the last person that really knows what you need. If women were so good at judging what they need, then why do women stay in abusive relationships? Why do they hop from one loser guy to another? Because for some of us, we are broken & it makes our man-picker broken. Then our mental state is obvious & all we will attract is the crazies. I am sorry but women do not have that market cornered... They just get more publicity for it or complain about it more. I believe it is called being human; has nothing to do with being a woman; all about wanting to feel connected and being in a relationship. Also a small percentage of women stay in abusive relationships and I put them in the same category as men that stay in relationship with toxic women. Again being a woman is not a science; stop making it so complicated. Enjoy life and know it is ok to make some mistakes along the way Maybe you should tell that to all your crazy family. You certainly seem to love to judge others when they make what you deem are mistakes. Not sure why you feel so free in criticizing someone after the mistake, but not for giving advice that might prevent mistakes.
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Post by TheHaitian on Oct 20, 2014 17:04:45 GMT -5
No; you jumped on the first guy that came along and decided he was good enough to be your husband. She jumped on the first guy that came along and decided he sucked and dumped him. By your logic, she is already ahead of the game/curve. Again no one is talking marriage now, she is certainly not. Um. No. WTH are you talking about? I didnt marry the first guy to come along. I didnt meet second husband for years after my divorce. I said I was lucky I didnt marry that first guy since I was so vulnerable. But my life was not made better by dating losers either. Ok, Sorry thought that was what you meant. Seriously, how will a few dates change your life for the worse? How is meeting someone for dinner ruin you? How is meeting someone for a movie bad? A round of golf? When did dating mean marriage? Does the priest meet you at the end of the dinner and make you sign the marriage license. When did dating become so serious and life changing that you needed a therapy session before hand?
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Post by Angel! on Oct 20, 2014 17:05:54 GMT -5
Have you read through a few of her threads? She is all over the place. She is definitely in a period of grieving and healing. Not a good time to start dating or hopping into bed. You can't get out of 20 years of marriage & just be ok. It takes a long time. And yes, I am absolutely serious. Not sure why you think it is funny. Not taking time-out for yourself is one of the primary reasons women hop from bad relationship from bad relationship. Low self-esteem, fear of being alone, wanting a white knight, etc. You have to learn to love yourself and be happy alone before you are going to do well dating. Really!!! Lord! The woman went on a couple of dates, she is not signing on a marriage license. That is why men will never ever get women, you turn everything into a BIG deal! When you are grieving, everything is a big deal. You are a rollercoaster of emotions. I do find it amusing that you admit you don't get women, but then feel free to criticize those of us that have BTDT as giving bad advice.
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