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Post by Deleted on Jul 23, 2014 18:50:50 GMT -5
Five words to live by. I know, I know...I took them out of context. But the mental picture that presents is priceless. When you take them out of context like that... I agree it does create an... ummm... "interesting" mental image.
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Post by truthbound on Jul 24, 2014 5:00:28 GMT -5
Agreed. Now if MB could just get everything running flawlessly we shouldn't have anymore leaving. And MSN wasn't rude. They just weren't making money off their forums. Making money is the sole reason they exist. Nope. you're not going to put it all on me. a message board isn't like a machine that you can tweak so that it runs consistently with no problems. there are humans here. there are hundreds of different personalities interacting with one another, and it's ridiculous to think that one person can prevent the inevitable arguments that result from that. and even if it were possible, it's not going to stop people from leaving. they have lives, and stress, and other things to deal with. sometimes you have to make choices.
Man talk about arguing with someone who is agreeing with you. Of course people leave because they have lives. You cannot control that and I made no such assertions. I said forums are profit driven sites run by software on the internets. If the cost of running that forum exceeds the cost you have to decide whether you want to invest the extra money. Considering the forum here is free I said I would.
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Post by moon/Laura on Jul 24, 2014 7:58:17 GMT -5
That's not how your post 'read' to me, truthbound. You stated that "if MB could just get everything running flawlessly we shouldn't have anymore leaving." I assumed that "MB" was me. And I didn't see how you expected that to happen.
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Post by NancysSummerSip on Jul 24, 2014 8:22:46 GMT -5
Five words to live by. I know, I know...I took them out of context. But the mental picture that presents is priceless. When you take them out of context like that... I agree it does create an... ummm... "interesting" mental image. Especially with Shaun/Dark involved, given what we know about him. Yanno, the mannequin, the lingerie and all.
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Post by damnotagain on Jul 24, 2014 8:23:44 GMT -5
Morning Moon , thanks for the boards. I really don't know where else in the virtual world I can be such a pain in the a$$ ! In the real world I am a pain in the a$$ too . PS... sending something special your way in a few weeks.
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Post by Opti on Jul 24, 2014 8:24:01 GMT -5
FWIW, I saw truthbound's post as facetious, basically implying it couldn't or shouldn't be done.
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Post by greeniis10 on Jul 24, 2014 11:01:10 GMT -5
Yeah, I thought truthbound was being sarcastic. Then again, I've been on this board for years and read almost every day and I miss almost all of the emotional drama, fights, and flounces. Guess since it's written-word only the emotional nuances go right over my head. Sometimes I've had to read the "beef with the admins" thread just to figure out who is arguing with whom and over what.
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Post by Firebird on Jul 24, 2014 11:21:34 GMT -5
Okay, which posters left? I've only seen a couple mentioned in passing and wasn't sure if they were the ones the OP was referring to or not. I love this board... I've been part of it since circa 2006 and that makes it by far my longest lasting online community. I stay for the lively conversation, the learning, the friends, and the personal assholes Long live YM and the mods who make it happen!
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Post by Deleted on Jul 24, 2014 11:37:24 GMT -5
Yeah, I thought truthbound was being sarcastic. Then again, I've been on this board for years and read almost every day and I miss almost all of the emotional drama, fights, and flounces. Guess since it's written-word only the emotional nuances go right over my head. Sometimes I've had to read the "beef with the admins" thread just to figure out who is arguing with whom and over what. I don't catch on to the unrest either. I've been on this or the old YM since 2001 and just bounce around happily oblivious. Where else is an introvert from farm country in MN ever going to be able to hang out with such a diverse group of people with an incredible knowledge base and even consider them friends? (Seriously, you're practically my only friends )
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Post by Sunnyday on Jul 24, 2014 12:00:05 GMT -5
This is a great time waster. for sure!!
But I stay because... I don't know... even though I haven't been posting for long, less than a year I think. I've been reading since 2003 or so. Commitment? perhaps?
I want to say that I stay because of the good advice, but it's not true. I only had a handful of threads that truly helped me. It widens my world perspective, but knowing that some people think the way they do saddens and angers me at times, so I'm not sure that it's a good thing.
Really, I'm at a loss. I get better info on money matters on bogleheads, and I prefer to not know that people think it would be okay to shoot people dead if they crossed into our country illegally.
You people are truly not real to me! You are just screen names with stories, but as a lover of literature, you guys are compelling and interesting characters that I have become somewhat attached to. I think that my lack of ability to get emotionally invested in people IRL has something to do with it. You guys are like my human interaction porn. I get what I need, then I turn you off.
I know this post is meant to be positive, but this post is one of my most honest ones and probably doesn't paint me in the most flattering light.
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Post by Sum Dum Gai on Jul 24, 2014 12:12:17 GMT -5
Dress form! Mannequins are creepy. Staring at you with their dead eyes... *shudder*
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Post by Deleted on Jul 24, 2014 12:12:36 GMT -5
This is a great time waster. for sure!! But I stay because... I don't know... even though I haven't been posting for long, less than a year I think. I've been reading since 2003 or so. Commitment? perhaps? I want to say that I stay because of the good advice, but it's not true. I only had a handful of threads that truly helped me. It widens my world perspective, but knowing that some people think the way they do saddens and angers me at times, so I'm not sure that it's a good thing. Really, I'm at a loss. I get better info on money matters on bogleheads, and I prefer to not know that people think it would be okay to shoot people dead if they crossed into our country illegally. You people are truly not real to me! You are just screen names with stories, but as a lover of literature, you guys are compelling and interesting characters that I have become somewhat attached to. I think that my lack of ability to get emotionally invested in people IRL has something to do with it. You guys are like my human interaction porn. I get what I need, then I turn you off. I know this post is meant to be positive, but this post is one of my most honest ones and probably doesn't paint me in the most flattering light.eh. You've said worse.
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Post by greeniis10 on Jul 24, 2014 12:16:53 GMT -5
Yeah, I thought truthbound was being sarcastic. Then again, I've been on this board for years and read almost every day and I miss almost all of the emotional drama, fights, and flounces. Guess since it's written-word only the emotional nuances go right over my head. Sometimes I've had to read the "beef with the admins" thread just to figure out who is arguing with whom and over what. I don't catch on to the unrest either. I've been on this or the old YM since 2001 and just bounce around happily oblivious. Where else is an introvert from farm country in MN ever going to be able to hang out with such a diverse group of people with an incredible knowledge base and even consider them friends? (Seriously, you're practically my only friends ) Yes, me too! I really do enjoy the diversity here and learning about all the different opinions. Some I don't agree with but it doesn't upset me or affect me emotionally. I also have no friends IRL because IRL I am incapable of being happily oblivious. I notice everything and get annoyed way too easily. It's a burden and one I work on, but clearly have not tackled yet. However, I'm happy with the way things are so I guess that's ok, too.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Jul 24, 2014 12:33:20 GMT -5
I like it on here because I can talk about things that get rather charged in real life. If someone's opinion pisses me off or surprises me on here I can ignore it.
I talked quite a bit about the molestation charges against our former pediatrician on here and it was a lot easier than in real life. I can't unlearn some of the things I found out about people I know and it's definitely changed how I view them.
Who cares what my opinion is of an internet stranger? My SIL on the other hand that I have to see every holiday...that's more of a problem.
I can also say what I'm actually thinking on here. You need to edit yourself in real life especially when it's with people you care about and are in your life long term. I learned that the hard way talking too much about DH's flaws in front of my parents. It took a long time to undo the damage.
I don't give two toots what anybody here really thinks of my marriage, if I get pissed off enough I can just click the X and the opinion is gone. Wait long enough and some new drama comes around and it's all forgotten. No so when it involves people in real life.
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Post by movingforward on Jul 24, 2014 13:10:40 GMT -5
This is actually the only internet forum I frequently visit/post. It seems that MOST people on this board are logic driven people like myself. I love the people I interact with IRL dearly but most of the time I want to tell them to take their head out of their ass and put a plan in place. If I have a problem I typically come up with a logical plan in order to solve it. If it can't be solved then I learn to accept it and move on. Many of the people I know in real life don't deal with any of their issues logically. They either just ignore them (because if you don't think about it then it doesn't exist ) and then freak out when the shit really hits the fan or they make all their decisions based on their feelings and/or wants at the time. I realize that not all decisions can or even should be based on logic (I realize not all of my decisions have been logical in the past) but probably 95% of the issues I see people with IRL have happened because they can't think past tomorrow. It is just nice to come here and interact with a group of individuals who are able to make a plan of action for themselves and when crap happens they seek out logical answers to solve the issue.
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Post by Blonde Granny on Jul 24, 2014 13:39:18 GMT -5
I agree with both almost 40 and DramaQ1015. I have a lot of unhappy and disturbing things going on in my life right now, and I really don't want any of my neighbors to know our personal life. I told my best friend something a few days ago and her response made me want to choke her. I've asked her before to just listen to me and be my friend, not my shrink or Dr. or pharmacist. Her knowledge means squat, I just sometimes need someone to talk to. And here, if I choose I can do so with all the other nonsense tossed in. I listened and cried with her during her breast cancer diagnosis, surgery and treatment, could she at least do the same? Nope....just nothing but opinions on what I should do.
This is my little corner of the world, and for all the squabbles we have here, this is still a place for venting, crying and screaming. It's a place to get investment information, budget help, or discuss student loans. We have more knowledge in this place than we will find anywhere else, it's free and it's offered only with good intentions.
What a great place Moonbeam started for us, and I'll happy I'm here.
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Post by Jaguar on Jul 24, 2014 13:42:32 GMT -5
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Jul 24, 2014 13:44:43 GMT -5
I have a lot of unhappy and disturbing things going on in my life right nowThat sucks Blond Granny. I hope things get better for you.
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Post by chiver78 on Jul 24, 2014 13:48:04 GMT -5
BG,
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Post by sapphire12 on Jul 24, 2014 13:50:33 GMT -5
Almost40 -- I agree completely. I don't get how it's possible for not to know if you do x, it will affect y. It's all you. Blonde Granny --
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Post by ՏՇԾԵԵʅՏɧ_LԹՏՏʅҼ on Jul 24, 2014 18:27:07 GMT -5
I read and get a lot of helpful information here - as well as support (from the majority).
I take pieces of different threads and things that have been posted, and apply them to myself if I feel they'll be of help to me.
I stopped posting too much about myself or my private (real) life or situations I might be going through, family or friend deaths, illnesses, successes or failures/struggles and triumphs, because although I know I can find helpful advice or criticisms here, there have been situations where some were only reading to gloat in my unhappiness or struggle. I keep a lot of information about my real life close to the vest now.
But I still love and appreciate this community and most of its members - it's provided me with a wealth of information, and several gained real friendships that I cherish. It's also provided me with a lot of smiles and laughter at just the right times too, along the way.
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Post by Nazgul Girl on Jul 24, 2014 20:55:54 GMT -5
Hang in there, Blonde Granny. Hugs to you.
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Post by taz157 on Jul 24, 2014 21:53:14 GMT -5
I have a lot of unhappy and disturbing things going on in my life right nowThat sucks Blond Granny. I hope things get better for you. Yeah that. ((((Hugs))))
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Post by truthbound on Jul 25, 2014 4:33:08 GMT -5
That's not how your post 'read' to me, truthbound. You stated that "if MB could just get everything running flawlessly we shouldn't have anymore leaving." I assumed that "MB" was me. And I didn't see how you expected that to happen. Agreed it came out wrong. I was not being sarcastic. I meant to say if everything was running flawlessly it would greatly reduce the number of people who leave. Free forums will not allow that. If it was me I would move us into paid software at my expense.
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Post by Opti on Jul 25, 2014 8:53:05 GMT -5
That's not how your post 'read' to me, truthbound. You stated that "if MB could just get everything running flawlessly we shouldn't have anymore leaving." I assumed that "MB" was me. And I didn't see how you expected that to happen. Agreed it came out wrong. I was not being sarcastic. I meant to say if everything was running flawlessly it would greatly reduce the number of people who leave. Free forums will not allow that. If it was me I would move us into paid software at my expense. That confuses me. Posters are leaving because of personality or belief clashes with other posters and over moderator behavior. Same things that made most posters leave MSN from time to time. Except for the annoying server timeouts I get sometimes, how would paid software fix any of that?
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Post by Icelandic Woman on Jul 25, 2014 16:02:38 GMT -5
NG this thread was a great idea!
I read a lot more than I post but I do learn a lot from you all. Thanks!
As Moonie can attest to I am not really a talker, whether it be IRL or on a board. I don't have as much time to post as I used to and sometimes when I find a thread I really want to post on it is days old by the time I read it so I don't bother. I have also come to realize that the peeps I have met over the last 5 years on these boards I am closer to than friends I have known IRL for years.
I also don't understand deleting your account vs just not coming to the board anymore. That way if you ever change your mind your account will always be there.
Oh and I just have to say in case she is lurking somewhere I really miss seeing Beerwench posting. She is someone that frequently made me laugh out loud and that doesn't happen often. I hope she is well.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 25, 2014 17:38:00 GMT -5
Agreed it came out wrong. I was not being sarcastic. I meant to say if everything was running flawlessly it would greatly reduce the number of people who leave. Free forums will not allow that. If it was me I would move us into paid software at my expense. That confuses me. Posters are leaving because of personality or belief clashes with other posters and over moderator behavior. Same things that made most posters leave MSN from time to time. Except for the annoying server timeouts I get sometimes, how would paid software fix any of that?
Posters also leave because of things they have going on in their personal lives. There's nothing any of us can do about that. I completely understand posters that have to go "cold turkey" because they need to spend more time going about their business IRL. It's easy to spend a lot of time doing nothing but hanging out here, time one could instead spend interacting with their family or real life friends, or just taking care of things IRL that need to be taken care of. I've been guilty of that myself. Nobody probably noticed, but when I quit smoking last year, I had to stay away from the boards for a while. For one thing, I was trying to keep myself moving and busy to help avoid temptation. The other thing was that smoking while I cruised the boards was a habit and I was avoiding a lot of the things that seemed to go hand-in-hand with smoking for me. It had nothing to do with the posters, moderators, or how the board functioned, and everything to do with me. Maybe I don't know any better because this is the only message board I frequent, but I don't find the way the board is set up to be frustrating. My internet service provider is a major corporation and their website has glitches sometimes. The occasional hiccup here might irritate me at that moment, but in the grand scheme of things, it's not a big deal and it's not like it happens all the time. Imo, hiccups and glitches are just part of using computers and the internet. I'm not arguing with the poster I quoted, that post just sparked the train of thought and I quoted her.
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Post by sapphire12 on Jul 25, 2014 20:18:59 GMT -5
Glad you conquered your smoking habit Pink.
The Boards are sort of addicting for some of us. Nothing along the lines of smoking, but can still be detrimental to dealing with real life.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 25, 2014 20:42:52 GMT -5
Glad you conquered your smoking habit Pink. The Boards are sort of addicting for some of us. Nothing along the lines of smoking, but can still be detrimental to dealing with real life. Thank you sapphire. I have to be honest and admit that unfortunately it didn't "stick" for more than a few months. I have to do it again. Sigh.
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Post by Jaguar on Jul 25, 2014 20:50:56 GMT -5
Glad you conquered your smoking habit Pink. The Boards are sort of addicting for some of us. Nothing along the lines of smoking, but can still be detrimental to dealing with real life. Thank you sapphire. I have to be honest and admit that unfortunately it didn't "stick" for more than a few months. I have to do it again. Sigh.
I quit 3 times BEFORE I actually quit for good. You can do it, I did, cold turkey.
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