msventoux
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Post by msventoux on Jul 20, 2014 0:38:27 GMT -5
I like the people. I'm also a massive introvert and people make me anxious, so message boards are nice, because I can get nice, metered doses of human behavior without actually having to expose myself to the uncontrolled environment of being around actual humans. The people, characters, information and drama on here are entertaining and when I have enough I can go to another board or unplug for awhile; it's harder to do that with the people in real life! Though I have managed to get rid of some drama queens in the last few months, of both genders. I mostly lurk, so if I deleted my account I really doubt anyone would notice and my great stand for something would have been for naught. I'm far too lazy to get a post count high enough that people would notice if I left.
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Green Eyed Lady
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Post by Green Eyed Lady on Jul 20, 2014 1:08:34 GMT -5
lol...its' not the quantity of your posts that gets you noticed, msventoux. It's the quality!
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Post by Opti on Jul 20, 2014 9:33:59 GMT -5
Many things can get you noticed, but if you really want to be noticed when you leave it seems you have to delete your account while just recently posting frequently on a thread. It also depends on your posting pattern. If you are sporadic in your posting like I tend to be, no one seems to notice when you are gone for awhile.
Only once was I noticed that I hadn't been posting. It was Virgil who noticed about two months after I had stopped posting.
FWIW, there are many great posters that don't post all that often. I don't remember their back stories as well as frequent posters perhaps because I don't store too much of that info in my head. I think people would only notice if I did like the first paragraph in spite of my larger than average post count.
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Post by zibazinski on Jul 20, 2014 9:36:48 GMT -5
This forum kept me sane while I spent hours in the hospital with DF. It's going to keep me sane during the wedding gimme of his bio brat.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 20, 2014 9:43:00 GMT -5
Many things can get you noticed, but if you really want to be noticed when you leave it seems you have to delete your account while just recently posting frequently on a thread. It also depends on your posting pattern. If you are sporadic in your posting like I tend to be, no one seems to notice when you are gone for awhile.
Only once was I noticed that I hadn't been posting. It was Virgil who noticed about two months after I had stopped posting.
FWIW, there are many great posters that don't post all that often. I don't remember their back stories as well as frequent posters perhaps because I don't store too much of that info in my head. I think people would only notice if I did like the first paragraph in spite of my larger than average post count. I actually noticed when you quit posting for awhile, Optimist. At least one period when you sort of quit for awhile was during Christmas holidays when you were working your regular job plus Macy's. I think most of us just figured you were busy.
Plus, people post all over the place here. Some of you go to EE, for example.
I post here because it's a community. I actually am interested in whether Phoenix outlasts his new boss, how Naz does with her new retirement, if Crone ever breaks down and goes to live with her (I)SO, how Swamp's new practice goes, etc. Likewise, I was curious about Carl's adventures in new homeownership and his new position and MMC's BMW that he is going to pick up in Europe (I think).
If you just want to take a break without tempting yourself to post, LOG OUT. Yep. That's all you have to do. Then if you want to read an occasional thread, no one knows you are here.
It is a whole lot less dramatic than the "I'm quitting forever!" move. Sure, the posters leaving aren't verbally screaming it, but deleting their account has the same effect.
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DVM gone riding
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Post by DVM gone riding on Jul 21, 2014 0:29:08 GMT -5
Other than a few posters that like a good verbal fight you all give good helpful advice with only a smidge of hard core reality. Not that I always listen.
My manufactured home rental is doing good but we never did manage ti get a traditional loan so consider selling it. If it sells for close to what I want n I think it will we have doubled our money in about 5 yrs! Than I will buy a duplex or something. But seriously you guys are awesome. Well most any way!
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Post by muttleynfelix on Jul 21, 2014 11:50:17 GMT -5
I'm here for some social interaction and the community
That said, I did almost delete my account less than a month ago. It had nothing to do with getting mad and leaving or attention whoring or anything like that. It had to do with maybe not being as safe on the internet as I should have been. So, for those who say, I would never...well, just know that when a mod tells you that your IP address has been used to apply for a new account and you think that it might have been a boss or coworker, it seemed like deleting was a good course of action. It turned out that the IP address was an old one, so it wasn't a coworker or boss, but it freaked me out to no end. The thought of leaving felt like cutting off a limb and I'm glad I was able to stay.
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Post by shanendoah on Jul 21, 2014 21:15:09 GMT -5
I wrote out a lovely, long response to this earlier today, and then the public wi-fi I was using decided it needed to re-establish connection when I hit the "post" button and I lost everything.
I can foresee circumstances in which I would leave the board and delete my account. Ex: I suspect someone is Pop Tart's bio-mom or bio-dad C has an issue with what I have posted and asks me to delete the account And without going into specifics (because they aren't my stories) I have seen some things come up where if I were in a particular posters shoes, I would have left for possible stalker issues I don't find either of these scenarios likely, but they are possibilities. And because I know that there are things that would cause me to delete my account that have nothing to do with attention seeking, I assume that others have those reasons, too, even if I don't know exactly what they are or how the button got pushed.
I am currently a sporadic poster. Obviously, at one point I was a multiple times a day poster. But because of the way my energy levels work, while I am out of a job, I often don't have the emotional energy to post, despite having tons of time. And then there are weeks like these last couple where my emotional energy is high, so I am participating again. I appreciate that people here are willing to put up with my comings and goings and still show interest in my situation and support me. I appreciate that no one has felt the need to hit me over the head with the "why don't you have a job, any job, how dare you not work at McDs" argument. People may have thought it, but they have been kind enough not to actually say it to me.
Reasons I am still here include: 1) The ability to not read threads I know will drive me crazy a) the ability to stop engaging on threads that have started to drive me crazy 2) The ability to ignore (even without the button) members whose posts are likely to push my buttons 3) The WIR Racers and NS/CS threads provided me with an amazing support group during a very difficult time in our lives. They probably deserve some credit for my marriage not going down the tubes. While I am not active on those threads anymore, I do hope that I can provide some of the same support to other members 4) The world would be a really boring place if everyone agreed with me. And I accept that on this board, people are more likely than not to disagree with me (especially when it comes to taxes/public policy/politics). I respect those that read my posts and ask intelligent questions or come back with counter arguments. I do not expect to change their minds (as I am doubtful my own mind would be changed on many of these issues), but I do hope to give them an understanding of the other perspective as I gain an understanding of theirs. 5) Snow leopards 6) We would not have been able to manage my current period of unemployment (6+ months now) without the skills and tactics I have learned from people here. 7) I like most of you, as you are in my computer. I've liked the few people I've met outside the computer, too. But even if we disagree on things, for the most part, people here are helpful, intelligent, and respectful but have sarcastic senses of humor, which I appreciate.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 21, 2014 23:23:47 GMT -5
I've always been a private person except with a handful of very close friends and select family. It has been often said to me over my life no one knows exactly what the hell I am thinking.
I figured I should actually start posting on some of the message boards I have been lurking on for the last several years. I have learned a lot hearing about the stories of others and how they have handled different situations and thought it was time I actually contributed with some of my own experiences for I feel what I have learned here and on other forums has greatly contributed to where I find myself today.
I figure some will agree with me, some won't. I figure I'll also better learn which hornets nests not to step on as it seems online the flames get out of control more quickly than in person but at the same time it is easier to temporarily walk away when they do.
I do think the majority here are good people who have the best of intentions, so I think I'll try to stay a while. The differences are what makes it interesting, it would be a boring forum if it was line after line of agreements with each OP.
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Cookies Galore
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Post by Cookies Galore on Jul 22, 2014 6:23:53 GMT -5
I can't quit this damn board. If I go a day without even reading it then I waste hours catching up. Damn you all!
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Post by Shooby on Jul 22, 2014 6:37:04 GMT -5
I think online friendships are deeper in many ways than some IRL friendships. Other than my besties, I know people, but not in the depth and detail that I know some of my online friends. It seems that the cloak of avatars and supposed anonymity allow people to remove the mask they wear in IRL and talk about things they may not otherwise disclose. So, those who think internet friendships aren't "real" probably haven't tried being on boards like this.
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giramomma
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Post by giramomma on Jul 22, 2014 6:52:27 GMT -5
I think online friendships are deeper in many ways than some IRL friendships. Other than my besties, I know people, but not in the depth and detail that I know some of my online friends. It seems that the cloak of avatars and supposed anonymity allow people to remove the mask they wear in IRL and talk about things they may not otherwise disclose. So, those who think internet friendships aren't "real" probably haven't tried being on boards like this. I also think, for me, online connections fit my life much better. When the littlest thought sleep was optional her first year, it wasn't like I could hold her (the only way she would sleep) and call up my friends a few times a night from 11pm-4 am for someone to talk to. I can't really process books that I read at night when I am tired. I needed something to do other than staring at the wall.
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chiver78
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Post by chiver78 on Jul 22, 2014 7:02:40 GMT -5
I can't quit this damn board. If I go a day without even reading it then I waste hours catching up. Damn you all! although I will echo those posters that have said you crazy people have kept me sane through some rough patches. my hellish planes, trains and automobiles trip home from DC a couple years ago comes to mind. and I know that while I don't actually know most of you, that this place is a family of sorts, and we do worry about each other. thank you all for that.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 22, 2014 9:22:51 GMT -5
I stay because I like my friends that live in my computer. Like susana, I'm interested in your stories and curious about how certain stories will unfold.
I stay because I'm not sure I'd have changed so many things about my life if I hadn't found this group of people when I did. Maybe that's why I'm so fond of the people here.
I stay because there's a wealth of information here. Whatever the subject, chance are good that someone here knows something about it and can at least point you in the right direction to get whatever information you're looking for.
I stay because I can participate in or observe conversations here that would probably never happen in my real life. I don't think people are so open and honest about their thoughts or even talk about some of the subjects that come up here, IRL.
I stay because I like being part of a community of people that support each other when life gets tough, offer advice and are willing to give a bit of tough love when it's needed.
I stay because I like the variety of opinions. As has been said, it would be boring if nobody ever had different views. Sometimes differing points of view have made me seriously think about why my position on a subject is what it is. I may not have changed my mind in the end, but it did give me something to think about. Disagreements aren't always bad, sometimes you can learn from them.
My feathers haven't gotten ruffled very often here. I've learned what personal subjects I'm likely to be prickly about, so I rarely talk about them. It doesn't upset me to have people disagree with me, especailly on random subjects that don't personally affect me.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 22, 2014 9:30:24 GMT -5
The only time I deleted my account is when admin stuck a warning bar on my account that constantly said I was 25% towards being banned. It sat next to my avatar all the time. This with never once having broken the COC or TOS. I won't post like that. It was a difficult decision to make because I too am interested in Swamp's practice and how zib's DF is doing etc etc. It takes a long time to get to know people's stories. I came back, sans warning bar.
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jkapp
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Post by jkapp on Jul 22, 2014 9:38:26 GMT -5
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Sum Dum Gai
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Post by Sum Dum Gai on Jul 22, 2014 12:45:17 GMT -5
I've thought about leaving over the last few months, and my posting has seriously slowed down. The board just seems a LOT slower than it used to. I log in Monday morning and hit New Topics and 90% of the threads are the ones we were discussing last week. Half of them are spinoff threads of other threads. When the board first started if you hadn't read anything since Friday and hit New Topics on a Monday morning the first couple pages would all be new.
I love you guys, but reading the same people posting the exact same responses in mommy wars threads and whatnot gets old after a while. We need some new blood up in this bitch, and more lurkers need to start threads.
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hurley1980
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Post by hurley1980 on Jul 22, 2014 13:26:18 GMT -5
I like to lurk....its like stalking without the inevitable restraining order.
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Sum Dum Gai
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Post by Sum Dum Gai on Jul 22, 2014 13:31:23 GMT -5
I do more reading than posting lately too, but without more people posting stuff there will be nothing to lurk on.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 22, 2014 13:59:15 GMT -5
Dark that isn't a problem. We have 400 members posting a day. We are one of the busiest boards out there. (said in Stepford Wife voice)
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Sum Dum Gai
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Post by Sum Dum Gai on Jul 22, 2014 14:06:06 GMT -5
Uh huh.
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Ryan
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Post by Ryan on Jul 22, 2014 14:09:01 GMT -5
The moderators should just close that "Beef with admin" thread. I was browsing through it today and it just seems like it just makes things worse. It's like having a guy threatening to jump off the golden gate bridge and then having a guy stuck in traffic be the one to try and talk him off the ledge. "Maybe the world would be better without you so just jump so I could get home to eat my chicken pot pie!"
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Sum Dum Gai
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Post by Sum Dum Gai on Jul 22, 2014 14:10:55 GMT -5
Damnit, now I want pot pie. We haven't made one in ages.
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Sum Dum Gai
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Post by Sum Dum Gai on Jul 22, 2014 15:21:09 GMT -5
The beef with the admins thread was started to keep complaints about admins from popping up across multiple threads. At the time there was something going on that had several people riled up, and the thread was a good solution to the issue. Or that's how I remember it now, but I can't for the life of me remember what prompted the whole thing. Should it stay now? I dunno. At the time it seemed like a good call though.
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Chocolate Lover
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Post by Chocolate Lover on Jul 22, 2014 15:39:53 GMT -5
The reason I stay? I'm interested in the people here and the knowledge they share. Even when they annoy the crap out of me. Just see my prayers/good juju for some of the good parts of this community.
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Post by Blonde Granny on Jul 22, 2014 15:53:51 GMT -5
We're having chicken pot pie for dinner tonight....
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chiver78
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Post by chiver78 on Jul 22, 2014 15:59:57 GMT -5
Dark that isn't a problem. We have 400 members posting a day. We are one of the busiest boards out there. (said in Stepford Wife voice) do you ever have anything constructive to add, or is your sole purpose on this board to stir the pot? asked as a poster, not a mod. you've driven me nuts since back on MSN.
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ArchietheDragon
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Post by ArchietheDragon on Jul 22, 2014 16:07:29 GMT -5
Dark that isn't a problem. We have 400 members posting a day. We are one of the busiest boards out there. (said in Stepford Wife voice) do you ever have anything constructive to add, or is your sole purpose on this board to stir the pot? asked as a poster, not a mod. you've driven me nuts since back on MSN. As a regular poster, you should know that it is against the COC to make posts that "are deliberately inflammatory towards another poster." A mod may delete your post.
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chiver78
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Post by chiver78 on Jul 22, 2014 16:12:40 GMT -5
it was an honest question. just know that if another mod pulls my post, that yours will be edited as well.
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ArchietheDragon
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Post by ArchietheDragon on Jul 22, 2014 16:14:14 GMT -5
it was an honest question. just know that if another mod pulls my post, that yours will be edited as well. An honest question is not asked in an inflammatory way. Plus adding that she has always annoyed you is not a question.
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