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Post by Spellbound454 on Jul 21, 2014 17:33:30 GMT -5
I walked in to the living room to find my kids with a box of tampax.......They thought they had found some great little toys for the cat. Try explaining that away.
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Post by mamasita99 on Jul 21, 2014 18:52:37 GMT -5
I am a curvy, feminine woman with kids and work in a female dominated career field. I'm now married to a woman. Sometimes it just doesn't matter what our mothers or society expect from us. We raise our kids the best we know how, and love who they become. With spouses, we can be a bit choosier!
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Post by justme on Jul 21, 2014 20:29:38 GMT -5
From here www.thebhc.org/publications/BEHprint/v023n1/p0241-p0252.pdf So a mere 30 years ago a woman would not have been hired for an accounting job, let alone an executive position. THAT is why everyone is saying accounting is TRADITIONALLY a male's job. And 30 years ago isn't a that far away "tradition" (or whatever a better word would be), I'm almost 30 - so when I was born there were very few females doing to work I do now.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 21, 2014 20:48:19 GMT -5
I walked in to the living room to find my kids with a box of tampax.......They thought they had found some great little toys for the cat. Try explaining that away.
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Post by imanangel on Jul 22, 2014 2:54:31 GMT -5
I have thought about this question for the past several days. I guess my view on the subject is that I like a well rounded and open minded man. I do like my man to be bigger than me, but I am not attracted to the Alpha Male personality types. My husband is in the military, but not at all Alpha Male with me. He lifts weights and does manly things like watching sports and hunting sometimes, but he also does things that some people think are not manly at all. He writes poetry, is an artist, and does yoga. He also likes to do things in the kitchen. He takes care of me when I am sick, helps with the kids and housework, and has no problem going to the store and buying me tampons. I drink way more beer than he does and I am usually the one that grills. The kids (both my sons and daughter) mow the lawn for extra cash. I do most of the laundry, but my husband also does laundry too. If he sees that the laundry is piling up, he will throw in a load of clothes without being asked to do it.
I know he would protect me in any situation, but he also knows that I would do what I needed to do to protect us too. I guess if one of us had to shoot someone, we would both be screwed since we don't own guns. My husband is a lot bigger than I am so he would be better at hand to hand combat, and he is trained in it. I am pretty good aim with pepper spray. He is definitely the breadwinner in our house. That is due to his military career. I cannot make as much as he does with my job. We move a lot as well so it is hard to establish a career. We are at the tail end of his career and the beginning of mine. Neither of us care who makes more money, it all goes into the family pot. It has just always worked out that he has been the one to make more.
We just really aren't into gender stereotypes or roles. We both just do what needs to be done. There are things that I am better at and therefore I take care of, and there are things he is better at, so he does them. We both just do what needs to be done and don't really think about the traditional roles on who should do them. When he is deployed, I take care of everything.
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Post by NancysSummerSip on Jul 22, 2014 8:44:46 GMT -5
I agree and would also go on to say: Also out there are women who are egg donors vs. mothers. Too many baby mamas do the deed and walk away, and not play any role in the lives of their children. But leave them to be raised by the fathers, grandmothers, aunts et al. You're right, skub. I probably should have mentioned both sides in my post. But since Ratchets was inviting us to pick on the guys...
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Post by morrisr2d2 on Jul 22, 2014 14:17:37 GMT -5
It is interesting for me to ponder how my sisters and I have/have not conformed to traditional gender roles. We all turned out to be pretty diverse, different people.
I am the oldest, a gay man that is neither overly masculine or feminine. My always tried to be true to me and what I like - some aspects would be considered masculine (how I dress and act, and my executive career in finance) and some not so much (the music I and sports I like - think The Cure, Depeche Mode, volleyball and running).
I have a sister where her and her husband are very comfortable in traditional roles, and mold their kids to those. She is matriarchal, takes care of the kids and house and has a lower-level office job. Her husband works nights in a factory, handles all the house repairs and yard work, etc. Their boys are bathed in traditional boy stuff like transformers, Cars, video games and sports. Their daughter in princess and hello kitty stuff, etc. They will always love their kids not matter what, but will have to make mental adjustments if they don't turn to traditional roles like they did. Her DHs family is also very traditional. They invite me over for holidays and are very generous. However, I have to make an effort to connect with them. The men are always separate from the women, talking about sports and women and Obama bashing while grilling and drinking beer. Nice guys but hard for me to relate to. And the women are in the kitchen gossiping, cooking, and talking about the progress and development of their kids and schools. Again, hard for me to relate to. But they are all very welcoming to anyone in their house, so I am very appreciative and love them for that.
Another sister of mine is kinda lesbianish/tomboyish, even though she married a (loser of a) man. Loves the military, softball and is the breadwinner in the family.
Another sister is a sweatheart but total princess. Wants Prince Charming to sweep her off her feet, be wined and dined and romanced and be on a pedastal. She's definitely looks for chivalry.
And my youngest half-sister, more like a niece, just informed us she's transgender - it was kinda like DUH when he told us. I guess I got the brother I never had!
The great thing is we all respect each other as people and accept each other for who we are. We really don't try to change on another, even though inside we may wish each of us was different. For example, traditional sister did confide in me it would have been nice for me to marry a woman have kids and live close by so our families could grow up together. But I didn't have the heart tell her I use to imagine her excelling in school and having a high career me like. But we accept each other and learn from each other. That's all you can ask for at the end of the day.
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Post by NancysSummerSip on Jul 22, 2014 14:49:33 GMT -5
It is interesting for me to ponder how my sisters and I have/have not conformed to traditional gender roles. We all turned out to be pretty diverse, different people. I am the oldest, a gay man that is neither overly masculine or feminine. My always tried to be true to me and what I like - some aspects would be considered masculine (how I dress and act, and my executive career in finance) and some not so much (the music I and sports I like - think The Cure, Depeche Mode, volleyball and running). I have a sister where her and her husband are very comfortable in traditional roles, and mold their kids to those. She is matriarchal, takes care of the kids and house and has a lower-level office job. Her husband works nights in a factory, handles all the house repairs and yard work, etc. Their boys are bathed in traditional boy stuff like transformers, Cars, video games and sports. Their daughter in princess and hello kitty stuff, etc. They will always love their kids not matter what, but will have to make mental adjustments if they don't turn to traditional roles like they did. Her DHs family is also very traditional. They invite me over for holidays and are very generous. However, I have to make an effort to connect with them. The men are always separate from the women, talking about sports and women and Obama bashing while grilling and drinking beer. Nice guys but hard for me to relate to. And the women are in the kitchen gossiping, cooking, and talking about the progress and development of their kids and schools. Again, hard for me to relate to. But they are all very welcoming to anyone in their house, so I am very appreciative and love them for that. Another sister of mine is kinda lesbianish/tomboyish, even though she married a (loser of a) man. Loves the military, softball and is the breadwinner in the family. Another sister is a sweatheart but total princess. Wants Prince Charming to sweep her off her feet, be wined and dined and romanced and be on a pedastal. She's definitely looks for chivalry. And my youngest half-sister, more like a niece, just informed us she's transgender - it was kinda like DUH when he told us. I guess I got the brother I never had! The great thing is we all respect each other as people and accept each other for who we are. We really don't try to change on another, even though inside we may wish each of us was different. For example, traditional sister did confide in me it would have been nice for me to marry a woman have kids and live close by so our families could grow up together. But I didn't have the heart tell her I use to imagine her excelling in school and having a high career me like. But we accept each other and learn from each other. That's all you can ask for at the end of the day. I wanna go to a morrisr2d2 family reunion. The whole bunch just sound interesting. It must be a riot to get them all under one roof.
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Post by morrisr2d2 on Jul 22, 2014 15:11:23 GMT -5
It's a riot for a couple of days. For some reason by the third day we've all had our fill and are ready to part our ways :-)
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Post by Phoenix84 on Jul 22, 2014 22:44:31 GMT -5
I think it depends on the circles you run with.
In general, I would say that I don't find men, as a species, lacking. Of course, I am not really old enough to compare it to some bygone era either. In general though, I had good male role models growing up, and most of the men I've known have been hard workers and decent human beings.
Obviously, there are scum of all shapes, sizes, and genders.
I suppose the only "lacking" area that I can readily identify is perhaps the ability to work with your hands and build/fix things seems to be disappearing. I'll admit, I'm not very good at working with my hands, with tools, ect. I think that's increasingly a lost art, but I think that affects both genders.
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Post by Phoenix84 on Jul 22, 2014 22:53:24 GMT -5
Men are doing more now, then they have done in the recent history. Men are not just the breadwinner who come home to a dinner on the table, a wife with a drink her hand and then retreat to the study to read the newspaper. Men take care of kids, cook dinner, run errands, make a living, clean, take kids to soccer, etc, etc, etc.... Men are moving in the right direction. Yes, I agree. I have seen studies that men contribute far more time to household chores and child rearing than men of previous generations. Granted, it's still not as much as women, but still far more than "the good old days." I see men out with their kids at the grocery store trying to sell girl scout cookies. I bet you never would have seen that in the 50's.
I think some of the changes are positive. I'm glad men aren't expected to work 60-80 hour weeks and not see their kids.
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Post by resolution on Jul 23, 2014 6:53:44 GMT -5
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Post by jkapp on Jul 23, 2014 10:37:46 GMT -5
Accounting was traditionally was done by men. You listed your occupation as financial executive. Executive positions were traditionally done by men. Executive positions are still mostly done by men. Traditionally, your occupation is a men's occupation, and is still mostly male. I may be the only one who gets Miss T's point of view but to be honest I can't explain it any better than she has either. I'm not attracted to men who don't fit the traditional mold. I do what needs to be done regardless of the associated gender stereotype and always will but in my relationships, I also expect certain tasks to be done by men and others to be done by me unless we agree to a different division of labor. I've always said if I remarry it will be to someone who makes enough money that I can quit work, be a SAHS (taking care of anything that needs doing at home as well as the traditional female housekeeping role), and spend my spare time on things that truly interest me. If I have to keep working to keep a roof over my head and take care of most things at home, then I may as well stay single. And the men I meet seem to expect that I will work to support the home plus take care of said home too while they spend their off hours pursuing their interests. No thanks. I also get her feelings about her daughter and her husband's feelings about a son that would want to sing showtunes. I doubt they'd kick them to the curb if they were to exhibit non-traditional behavior for their sex. It would just be an adjustment no different than when I had to come to terms with my son confirming he is gay. Plus - I'll concede that in larger cities and companies it has traditionally been men who held jobs such as hers but I also think we need to look back past the Mad Men era and the women's liberation movement. There have always been women working outside the home, women in business, women running things, etc. Those roles just were not always prominent because it was a woman doing what needed to be done and not necessarily looking for validation that they were just as good at it as their male counterparts. BTW Miss Tequila - Hugh Jackman is a rather manly man and he sings showtunes. What say you about that? Gay!! Although I might be hesitant to say that when he is dressed up like the Wolverine
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Post by jkapp on Jul 23, 2014 10:53:34 GMT -5
I'm not sure about men, since I don't date them But what I've noticed as I've gotten older is that it is nearly impossible to find a woman worth dating anymore. I'm 36, and the last time I dated a woman, I was about 24/25. The women field just seemed to dry up, with nothing but weeds left over (a little harsh metaphor, but it's the best I've got) I have met a lot of women that are dating material since then, but they are always already married or in a serious relationship. The ones that are single, tend to be single for a reason: they're f'in crazy! And I'm not talking like "ohhhh, she's just crazy..." No, it's more like "someone call the police because this crazy bitch is about to kill somebody!!!" My brother married a woman 10 years younger than him...so now he's trying to tell me to look at much younger woman - which is a possibility. But then those women tend to be somewhat...daft, I guess is the word I would use. Now, again, I can only talk about the women 10+ years younger than me that I've actually met, and since I'm not actively looking, it's a small number. But it is just difficult to have an adult conversation with many of them (if you can even get their attention at all as their faces are usually glued to their iphones/ipads/ectc) So i've settled on being a lifelong bachelor, much to the disappointement of my six-year-old niece who expects me to get married and have ten babies
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Jul 23, 2014 10:53:40 GMT -5
Gwen came running out of the bathroom with a panty liner over her face like a Hannibal Lector mask. I laughed so hard I cried. I also made sure to get a picture for future blackmail purposes. I've explained it as much as you can to a 4 year old. She wanted to know what that metal box in the Village Inn bathroom was for and why she couldn't play with it so I told her. Then she went out to our table told daddy that boys don't use pads only girls do.
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Post by zibazinski on Jul 23, 2014 10:53:43 GMT -5
For some girl children it could be frightening. Some children don't know enough to not talk about it with other children. All sorts of reasons.
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Post by yogiii on Jul 23, 2014 11:03:07 GMT -5
I'm not sure about men, since I don't date them But what I've noticed as I've gotten older is that it is nearly impossible to find a woman worth dating anymore. I'm 36, and the last time I dated a woman, I was about 24/25. The women field just seemed to dry up, with nothing but weeds left over (a little harsh metaphor, but it's the best I've got) I have met a lot of women that are dating material since then, but they are always already married or in a serious relationship. The ones that are single, tend to be single for a reason: they're f'in crazy! And I'm not talking like "ohhhh, she's just crazy..." No, it's more like "someone call the police because this crazy bitch is about to kill somebody!!!" My brother married a woman 10 years younger than him...so now he's trying to tell me to look at much younger woman - which is a possibility. But then those women tend to be somewhat...daft, I guess is the word I would use. Now, again, I can only talk about the women 10+ years younger than me that I've actually met, and since I'm not actively looking, it's a small number. But it is just difficult to have an adult conversation with many of them (if you can even get their attention at all as their faces are usually glued to their iphones/ipads/ectc) So i've settled on being a lifelong bachelor, much to the disappointement of my six-year-old niece who expects me to get married and have ten babies That story made me sad, I hope you bump into someone good (not crazy) soon!
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Jul 23, 2014 11:03:46 GMT -5
Some children don't know enough to not talk about it with other childrenYep. I talked about it with a friend of mine who was the same age. Her mother came storming over to our house demanding to know why I was saying such things to her child. I considered it a simple fact of life and the girl had been spouting off all sorts of incorrect information to the other girls in the neighborhood. I felt she needed to be corrected. I was already a budding scientist. So I know now that there are some mothers who absolutely do not want their kids knowing anything and I need to make sure my kid understands not to share. Just because we're open/frank about it doesn't mean everyone else wants to. At the same time though I also don't care what people think. My MIL is all freaked out because my daughter knows the proper terms for male and female anatomy. Sorry but I think it's important she know the right terminology, especially in light of the pediatrician scandal. I I'm not going to NOT teach my kid just because other people are horrified at the idea. I'll do my best to advise her to be discreet with other people but I'm not going to make up cutesy names and avoid certain subjects because of other people either.
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Post by zibazinski on Jul 23, 2014 11:06:01 GMT -5
I learned the hard way myself.
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Post by zibazinski on Jul 23, 2014 11:13:45 GMT -5
Every situation just like every child is different.
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Post by greeniis10 on Jul 23, 2014 11:15:02 GMT -5
I'm not sure about men, since I don't date them But what I've noticed as I've gotten older is that it is nearly impossible to find a woman worth dating anymore. I'm 36, and the last time I dated a woman, I was about 24/25. The women field just seemed to dry up, with nothing but weeds left over (a little harsh metaphor, but it's the best I've got) I have met a lot of women that are dating material since then, but they are always already married or in a serious relationship. The ones that are single, tend to be single for a reason: they're f'in crazy! And I'm not talking like "ohhhh, she's just crazy..." No, it's more like "someone call the police because this crazy bitch is about to kill somebody!!!" My brother married a woman 10 years younger than him...so now he's trying to tell me to look at much younger woman - which is a possibility. But then those women tend to be somewhat...daft, I guess is the word I would use. Now, again, I can only talk about the women 10+ years younger than me that I've actually met, and since I'm not actively looking, it's a small number. But it is just difficult to have an adult conversation with many of them (if you can even get their attention at all as their faces are usually glued to their iphones/ipads/ectc) So i've settled on being a lifelong bachelor, much to the disappointement of my six-year-old niece who expects me to get married and have ten babies That story made me sad, I hope you bump into someone good (not crazy) soon! There's certainly nothing wrong with being single, either. The grass isn't always greener on the other side! I have to be careful though, because what jkapp describes is what I fear for my boys. DS1 is super busy finishing his doctorate (and he already has an 8 yr. old son; joint custody with the mother; never married, but they get along fine) so he's not actively looking. DS2 is only 22 yrs. old and has said many of the things jkapp said word-for-word. At 22! Either the girls already have a kid (or kids, along w/ multiple baby daddies and their drama) or they are sheltered by their parents and are looking for a man to support them. I'm in NO hurry for him to find anyone. That sounds terrible, but the choices of girlfriends/boyfriends/spouses your kids make are HUGE and I worry excessively about it. (and there is nothing wrong with dating someone with kids, but at this point in time DS2 does NOT want to have children)
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Post by zibazinski on Jul 23, 2014 11:18:51 GMT -5
Whenever I fret about DS, DF reminds me of who he got saddled with because he felt he couldn't do any better and simply gave up the search. Even though he knew not to marry her, he did anyway. Not good.
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Post by yogiii on Jul 23, 2014 11:20:47 GMT -5
No nothing wrong with being single at all. I felt similar to jkapp also, before DH and I started dating when I was 24. At 23 I had already come to terms with the fact that I would probably never marry, which seems so silly now. Ah to be young and know it all!
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Jul 23, 2014 11:24:17 GMT -5
My brother married a woman 10 years younger than him...so now he's trying to tell me to look at much younger woman - which is a possibility. But then those women tend to be somewhat...daft,
I'm 10 years younger than DH. Far from daft thank you very much.
But he might be extremely immature for his age.
Are you deliberately picking out women 10 years younger? DH and I met when we were both in college and we were the same major so we had a starting point in common. The fact that we are 10 years apart wasn't intentional.
If he had been cruising around campus looking for 18-19 year olds to date it probably wouldn't have worked out very well. Not going to find a lot of women you have things in common with that way.
I don't think your brother literally meant you need to search out women 10 years younger than you. He probably meant keep an open mind, if you meet a great girl don't automatically dismiss her because she isn't the same age as you. Widen your net a bit.
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Post by jkapp on Jul 23, 2014 11:32:59 GMT -5
No nothing wrong with being single at all. I felt similar to jkapp also, before DH and I started dating when I was 24. At 23 I had already come to terms with the fact that I would probably never marry, which seems so silly now. Ah to be young and know it all! Yeah, i get a lot of people who ask, "Don't you get lonely?" Well...no, not really By now I've gotten pretty used to being alone and know how to fill my time. And I just had to watch a program like "Bridezillas" to know that there are a hell of a lot worse things than being alone! My brother, who now has three kids and his wife, probably ends up envying my life more than I would envy his. He used to love watching movies, and has a large collection still, but rarely ever gets to watch one (at least not without interruption). So I'll tell him I just watched a movie and it was great (or sucked) and he just says, "yeah i might watch it someday..." I think the only time I envy my brother is around the holidays...I think i would like to see the kids' faces on christmas morning and things like that. But otherwise, I'm good as is
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Post by jkapp on Jul 23, 2014 11:39:27 GMT -5
My brother married a woman 10 years younger than him...so now he's trying to tell me to look at much younger woman - which is a possibility. But then those women tend to be somewhat...daft,
I'm 10 years younger than DH. Far from daft thank you very much.
But he might be extremely immature for his age.
Are you deliberately picking out women 10 years younger? DH and I met when we were both in college and we were the same major so we had a starting point in common. The fact that we are 10 years apart wasn't intentional.
If he had been cruising around campus looking for 18-19 year olds to date it probably wouldn't have worked out very well. Not going to find a lot of women you have things in common with that way.
I don't think your brother literally meant you need to search out women 10 years younger than you. He probably meant keep an open mind, if you meet a great girl don't automatically dismiss her because she isn't the same age as you. Give it a shot. No, I think he just meant not to rule out women who are much younger. He was my age when he married his wife (he was 36 and she was 26). I never ruled out someone that young, but haven't really been searching for one either. There was a girl that worked at the local grocery store that I liked a lot, but I knew she was only about 19/20 and I just figured that was way too young. Maybe not - love knows no age, i suppose. But I know I would just feel like a pedophile for asking her out In my case, I don't like sports, I don't drink, and I don't really seek out social interaction (parties, clubs, etc). I'm a home body that likes to work on the lawn or around the house, listen to music, watch a movie, play a game, take a walk, that sort of thing (I prefer activities that don't involve spending money, since I've seen that become a financial trap for people - and I've found spending money isn't necessary to enjoy yourself). So for me to actually meet someone new is rare. My brother met his wife at work...I have yet to be lucky in that way.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Jul 23, 2014 11:41:00 GMT -5
DH jokes that now that I am 30 he has to trade me for a younger model. I told him I hope he likes jail.
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Post by yogiii on Jul 23, 2014 11:44:01 GMT -5
No nothing wrong with being single at all. I felt similar to jkapp also, before DH and I started dating when I was 24. At 23 I had already come to terms with the fact that I would probably never marry, which seems so silly now. Ah to be young and know it all! Yeah, i get a lot of people who ask, "Don't you get lonely?" Well...no, not really By now I've gotten pretty used to being alone and know how to fill my time. And I just had to watch a program like "Bridezillas" to know that there are a hell of a lot worse things than being alone! My brother, who now has three kids and his wife, probably ends up envying my life more than I would envy his. He used to love watching movies, and has a large collection still, but rarely ever gets to watch one (at least not without interruption). So I'll tell him I just watched a movie and it was great (or sucked) and he just says, "yeah i might watch it someday..." I think the only time I envy my brother is around the holidays...I think i would like to see the kids' faces on christmas morning and things like that. But otherwise, I'm good as is As somone with two small kids, yes!, he is jealous of you
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Post by jkapp on Jul 23, 2014 11:47:44 GMT -5
DH jokes that now that I am 30 he has to trade me for a younger model. I told him I hope he likes jail. Or just tell him, "that's ok, I've been hoping to upgrade to a new model with better equipment"
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Post by The Captain on Jul 23, 2014 12:11:19 GMT -5
I'm not sure about men, since I don't date them But what I've noticed as I've gotten older is that it is nearly impossible to find a woman worth dating anymore. I'm 36, and the last time I dated a woman, I was about 24/25. The women field just seemed to dry up, with nothing but weeds left over (a little harsh metaphor, but it's the best I've got) I have met a lot of women that are dating material since then, but they are always already married or in a serious relationship. The ones that are single, tend to be single for a reason: they're f'in crazy! And I'm not talking like "ohhhh, she's just crazy..." No, it's more like "someone call the police because this crazy bitch is about to kill somebody!!!" My brother married a woman 10 years younger than him...so now he's trying to tell me to look at much younger woman - which is a possibility. But then those women tend to be somewhat...daft, I guess is the word I would use. Now, again, I can only talk about the women 10+ years younger than me that I've actually met, and since I'm not actively looking, it's a small number. But it is just difficult to have an adult conversation with many of them (if you can even get their attention at all as their faces are usually glued to their iphones/ipads/ectc) So i've settled on being a lifelong bachelor, much to the disappointement of my six-year-old niece who expects me to get married and have ten babies JK - I'm going to kindly suggest you go back and re-read your post. Consider how such a view may come accross to someone whom you may consider a "catch" then ask yourself, would you want to date someone who thinks this way?
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