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Post by Miss Tequila on Jul 9, 2014 19:09:23 GMT -5
Miss Tequila, everybody already knows you're mean...... You get me, you really get me :-p
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Post by Miss Tequila on Jul 9, 2014 19:10:24 GMT -5
Oh, one thing I've learned to NEVER ask is "when are you due"....twice I've done that and the women were just obese with skinny legs (skinned legs).... It took making that mistake TWICE to learn your lesson! LOL Lol...in my defense, i drank a LOT in my youth :-p
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Post by truthbound on Jul 10, 2014 3:48:44 GMT -5
Well they have fallen into the Medicare gap and can't afford any insurance thanks to Obammycare. But I am talking about a completely different screwjob. No point in going into it. No one here would or could help anyway. I'm way behind in this thread, but is this about not having children because of bad insurance?. I hope those who have fallen into the Medicare Gap aren't having children at all cause they have to at least be 65 or older with some exceptions. Maybe I am missing something though. Ooh I said Medicaid instead of Medicare. You know what I meant. But if you really want to talk about why people who are 65 are required to have maternity coverage we can. ----------------------------------------- Jul 9, 2014 10:58:27 GMT -5 The Walk of the Penguin Mich said: Very few 65+ year old women need to access either prenatal care or contraception. ------------------------------------------ Yet they are required to carry insurance for it. Weird huh?
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Post by NoNamePerson on Jul 10, 2014 6:46:52 GMT -5
I'm way behind in this thread, but is this about not having children because of bad insurance?. I hope those who have fallen into the Medicare Gap aren't having children at all cause they have to at least be 65 or older with some exceptions. Maybe I am missing something though. Ooh I said Medicaid instead of Medicare. You know what I meant. But if you really want to talk about why people who are 65 are required to have maternity coverage we can. ----------------------------------------- Jul 9, 2014 10:58:27 GMT -5 The Walk of the Penguin Mich said: Very few 65+ year old women need to access either prenatal care or contraception. ------------------------------------------ Yet they are required to carry insurance for it. Weird huh? I am unfamiliar with MEDICAID so don't know if it has a gap or not. I guess I should research Medicare to see if I am covered if I get pregnant anytime soon. Sorry but I didn't take Mind Reading 101 in school and I'm pretty sure The Walk of the Penguin Mich probably didn't either so thanks for clearing up the misunderstanding about difference between medicaid and medicare I think....
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Post by Blonde Granny on Jul 10, 2014 7:00:43 GMT -5
The gap in Medicare is with the Part D drug coverage....how do I know? Because I'm in that gap right now and having to pay full price for every Rx that I fill.
If Medicare covers maternity care I'm not aware of it as I've never bothered to read the thousands of pages of regulations to find out, and I'm certainly not going to get pregnant at age 70. As for Medicaid, I only have limited knowledge so I won't voice any opinions or thoughts about how it works.
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Post by NoNamePerson on Jul 10, 2014 7:06:28 GMT -5
The gap in Medicare is with the Part D drug coverage....how do I know? Because I'm in that gap right now and having to pay full price for every Rx that I fill.
If Medicare covers maternity care I'm not aware of it as I've never bothered to read the thousands of pages of regulations to find out, and I'm certainly not going to get pregnant at age 70. As for Medicaid, I only have limited knowledge so I won't voice any opinions or thoughts about how it works. I know what the gap in Medicare is about. He originally said gap in MediCAID. And his post was in reference to people not being able to afford having a child because of the MEDI CARE GAP. I googled Medi CARE and pregnancy just in case I found myself pregnant and need to know my coverage
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Post by midjd on Jul 10, 2014 7:43:46 GMT -5
So Truthbound is complaining because people on Medicaid can't afford to have children? He does know where he's posting, right?
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Post by zibazinski on Jul 10, 2014 7:48:52 GMT -5
I'm thinking he's a former poster who is coming in as a new poster. Yup, if you're on Medicaid, you sure as hell shouldn't be reproducing or adopting until you get your shit together and can take care of yourself first.
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Post by NoNamePerson on Jul 10, 2014 8:05:17 GMT -5
So sorry for posting this, but when I saw it I knew my evil twin was going to rear her ugly head and post anyway
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Post by goldensam on Jul 10, 2014 8:31:56 GMT -5
I get asked often when I am having kids and when I said I'm not, I always get asked why. I have a former coworker who even asked me on a conference call when I was going to have kids already. People seriously ask all the time.
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Post by whoisjohngalt on Jul 10, 2014 8:36:06 GMT -5
Whenever people, who have no business asking me anything, ask me "why", I ask them "why not". Let THEM go into long useless explanations
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Post by Deleted on Jul 10, 2014 8:40:22 GMT -5
Whenever Grandma would ask me when I was going to have kids because everyone else my age was doing it, I asked her when she was going to break a hip.
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Post by zibazinski on Jul 10, 2014 9:26:18 GMT -5
Oh, shit. That IS funny!!
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Post by kittensaver on Jul 10, 2014 9:31:44 GMT -5
My SIL (the one I like ) kept asking/teasing me when I was going to get married. I kept looking at her and saying, "when you have a baby." Fast forward five years: the week after I got engaged, she got an early-early positive pregnancy test. Her daughter/my niece was born 6 weeks after my wedding . But back to the topic . . . lots of people are nosy and rude and inappropriate and have no boundaries. Always have and always will.
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Post by Angel! on Jul 10, 2014 9:56:47 GMT -5
I'm way behind in this thread, but is this about not having children because of bad insurance?. I hope those who have fallen into the Medicare Gap aren't having children at all cause they have to at least be 65 or older with some exceptions. Maybe I am missing something though. Ooh I said Medicaid instead of Medicare. You know what I meant. But if you really want to talk about why people who are 65 are required to have maternity coverage we can. ----------------------------------------- Jul 9, 2014 10:58:27 GMT -5 The Walk of the Penguin Mich said: Very few 65+ year old women need to access either prenatal care or contraception. ------------------------------------------ Yet they are required to carry insurance for it. Weird huh? Still not following how this is the fault of the administration. It isn't like they had insurance before Obamacare. So your post still doesn't make sense IMO. And not that it really matters, but if they fall into the gap, that is the fault of the state & if they opted to move to another state, they could get coverage. Or opting to improve their lives & find a better paying job (or working 2 jobs) is also an option. And if you are under 133% of poverty, can you really afford to be having children? Even if insurance pays for the birth, who is paying for the food, diapers, daycare, etc?
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Post by AgeOfEnlightenmentSCP on Jul 10, 2014 10:35:53 GMT -5
Do you feel sorry for people that don't have kids? Do you think they are missing out on something? No. I feel sorry for the kids of people who didn't want kids but who felt pressured into it by people who told them they were going to "miss out" on something.
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Post by AgeOfEnlightenmentSCP on Jul 10, 2014 10:42:22 GMT -5
I just cannot imagine the Quiet. I can. Some days I tune them out and daydream about the quiet. The glorious quiet. Then I think how rotten I would feel if something were to happen to one of my kids and how I would long to hear them make all the noise they wanted if I could just spend one more second with them. Yes, there is protestant guilt, and I was raised in a midwestern home with plenty of it.
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Post by AgeOfEnlightenmentSCP on Jul 10, 2014 10:45:57 GMT -5
The U.S. military in Florida thanks you for your service. LOL! You do what you have to do for your country. I'm like McDonald's! I really should have a lit sign saying "Served 1,000,000,000".
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Post by Peace Of Mind on Jul 10, 2014 12:55:26 GMT -5
LOL! You do what you have to do for your country. I'm like McDonald's! I really should have a lit sign saying "Served 1,000,000,000". Hey! Don't be hatin' on McDonalds!
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Post by Firebird on Jul 10, 2014 14:00:08 GMT -5
Um, no. I don't feel sorry for people without kids. I have to be very conscientious about not indulging in ENVY for them.
Being a mom is very hard for me. It's not something that comes naturally. In a lot of ways, it's not something I enjoy - and I really thought I would so this realization squashes me up inside.
I struggle every day with the fact that Babybird will likely be an only child. Every.damn.day. I can honestly say that had I known that in advance I would have skipped having kids altogether. Now, yes, part of me is glad I DIDN'T know that in advance because I do love her as a person and I'm glad she's here.
But I believe there are people who aren't well suited for parenthood and unfortunately, I believe I'm probably one of those people. I'm bound and determined to do my absolute very best with Babybird in spite of that, though, which is why I don't think there are any more children in my future.
As much as the thought of her never having a sibling absolutely butchers me inside (and it does even though I KNOW there is nothing wrong with it), I believe that she deserves a mom who is doing the absolute best she can to do right by her. If I'm not well suited to parenting the wonderful, amazing child I have now, then I have no business bringing another into the world.
I always believed I'd have two children and that I would love being a mom. It's looking like neither are true and there are days when that's incredibly tough for me to stomach. It's a huge blow to my self-image. But we all try to do the best we can with where we are in life, and all I can do is move forward as best I can and be the best mom I know how to be.
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Post by Chocolate Lover on Jul 10, 2014 14:04:01 GMT -5
Maybe you just don't love babies and toddlers as much as the world says you should Firebird, my kids got much easier past around 3 or 4. It took 2 of them for me to realize that though.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 10, 2014 14:10:39 GMT -5
Maybe you just don't love babies and toddlers as much as the world says you should Firebird, my kids got much easier past around 3 or 4. It took 2 of them for me to realize that though. I loved the baby stage. After that my love enjoyment of parenting changes with different ages. My 4 year old skipped the terrible twos, but now he's very clingy and overwhelmingly needy sometimes. If I was younger and still considering more kids, I would be changing my mind right now. But then they get better and you forget. LOL
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Post by NoNamePerson on Jul 10, 2014 14:13:16 GMT -5
Maybe you just don't love babies and toddlers as much as the world says you should Firebird, my kids got much easier past around 3 or 4. It took 2 of them for me to realize that though. This was so me about baby stage. It was when mine hit around 2 and "developed" a personality (yeah I know they have one when they come out of the womb blah blah) that I felt like a mom and very comfortable with the whole thing. But I was not and still aren't a baby person so to speak. I have friends who just love the baby stage but hated their teenagers
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Post by Chocolate Lover on Jul 10, 2014 14:13:28 GMT -5
Maybe you just don't love babies and toddlers as much as the world says you should Firebird, my kids got much easier past around 3 or 4. It took 2 of them for me to realize that though. I loved the baby stage. After that my love enjoyment of parenting changes with different ages. My 4 year old skipped the terrible twos, but now he's very clingy and overwhelmingly needy sometimes. If I was younger and still considering more kids, I would be changing my mind right now. But then they get better and you forget. LOL I'd rather jump out of a plane without a parachute than do the first four or so years again. Yeah, they were cute and adorable and fun but not enough to make up for the utter exhaustion and the inability to sit still for 3 minutes in peace without having someone want/need something.
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Post by Angel! on Jul 10, 2014 14:13:52 GMT -5
Firebird, I am guessing more women feel that way than would admit it. I think you are an awesome mom & better than most for recognizing your strengths & weaknesses. I also agree with CCL that you might find your feelings change with age. In some ways I am a really bad mom. I have no interest in being a SAHM, ever. I couldn't do it, I would suck at it, I would be miserable, and in turn I would make my children miserable. I don't have enough patience & my daughter has ended up being a really difficult child as a toddler. But, at least I recognize this about myself & try to work to my strengths & I think that makes me a good mom in some ways. I work hard so that I have a decent income so I can send my kids to good schools that provide them with a great environment & great opportunities that I wouldn't give them if I was home with them. So that is something at least.
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Post by Chocolate Lover on Jul 10, 2014 14:14:15 GMT -5
Maybe you just don't love babies and toddlers as much as the world says you should Firebird, my kids got much easier past around 3 or 4. It took 2 of them for me to realize that though. This was so me about baby stage. It was when mine hit around 2 and "developed" a personality (yeah I know they have one when they come out of the womb blah blah). But I was not and still aren't a baby person so to speak. I have friends who just love the baby stage but hated their teenagers I'll let you know how the teens are when I'm done with all 3, the first one hasn't been too bad, I think he's broken.
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Post by Firebird on Jul 10, 2014 14:15:25 GMT -5
Part of me is seriously hoping that I'm just not a baby/toddler person because if that's all it is, I'm pretty sure I could deal with that one more time in exchange for getting a cool kid after that.
I really like older kids - spending time with them, living with them. So yeah, hopefully I'm just not a baby type person.
But I feel like I need to know that for sure before having another baby. If I simply lack parenting instincts, then I'll probably screw up Babybird and I wouldn't want to do that to another kid.
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Post by Chocolate Lover on Jul 10, 2014 14:16:23 GMT -5
Part of me is seriously hoping that I'm just not a baby/toddler person because if that's all it is, I'm pretty sure I could deal with that one more time in exchange for getting a cool kid after that. I really like older kids - spending time with them, living with them. So yeah, hopefully I'm just not a baby type person. But I feel like I need to know that for sure before having another baby. If I simply lack parenting instincts, then I'll probably screw up Babybird and I wouldn't want to do that to another kid. If you lacked parenting instincts, you wouldn't care at all about the job you're doing as a mom.
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Post by Firebird on Jul 10, 2014 14:17:15 GMT -5
Firebird, I am guessing more women feel that way than would admit it. I think you are an awesome mom & better than most for recognizing your strengths & weaknesses.Thanks, Angel That's really nice of you to say. I know there's nothing wrong with having an only child. Believe me. But having two children is so deeply ingrained into my image of myself and my life that it feels like a major personal failure to admit that I may not be equipped for another kid.
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Post by NoNamePerson on Jul 10, 2014 14:19:41 GMT -5
Firebird, I am guessing more women feel that way than would admit it. I think you are an awesome mom & better than most for recognizing your strengths & weaknesses.Thanks, Angel That's really nice of you to say. I know there's nothing wrong with having an only child. Believe me. But having two children is so deeply ingrained into my image of myself and my life that it feels like a major personal failure to admit that I may not be equipped for another kid. I quit at one but then I didn't have any ingrained preconceived notions about having children period. I just forgot to take a birth control pill
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