milee
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Post by milee on May 29, 2014 7:47:50 GMT -5
I needed that laugh! Thanks..DF wanted to know what was so funny. I don't think he'd be as amused right now as I was by this! He might be if you modified the story to tell him you're thinking about including one of the nurses. That way he can spend the rest of his time thinking about which naughty nurse you'd been considering.
Hey, it's boring in the hospital, why not have some more interesting things to focus on than why it smells so funny in there?
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zibazinski
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Post by zibazinski on May 29, 2014 7:49:25 GMT -5
There's a thought.
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michelyn8
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Post by michelyn8 on May 29, 2014 7:58:31 GMT -5
I have a friend who is divorced and has a young child (preschool.) Her ex-husband is a very involved father. I think the reason they divorced was that they did not agree on what was best or appropriate for their child, and guess what - the divorce didn't change that. Her stance is that she has to put her foot down and demand the Dad comply to her way of thinking. My stance is that he is going to do whatever he wants when he has the kid, because he always does whatever he wants, therefore she was making unnecessary strife. (Easy for me to say, as it isn't my kid.) The particular issue at hand is dealing with the new boyfriends and girlfriends of the parents - involvement, sleeping arrangements, etc. Has anyone successfully co-parented with an ex that is probably a good parent, but has a completely different style and moral code than you do? Any advice? I guess my ex and I were as successful as any divorced couple could be but for the most part I called the shots. We were very young when we married and divorced and both had a lot of growing up to do (him more than me though). Because of his immaturity, he was more concerned with living his life than being a father and by the time he realized he needed to be, I had the kids settled and in routines. Since his basic morals match mine, he didn't try to change anything. You mention new partners to the parents and that can be a big issue. With my children, I was insistant that no matter how they felt about their father's girlfriend (first he actually exposed them to and eventually became his 2nd wife and mother of their younger sister), I expected them to be be respectful to her. If she did something out of line, they were to come to me and I'd address it with their father and her. To him, I made clear that under no circumstances was the GF to lay a hand on either of my children. To be honest, I kind of made it clear that he wasn't to do so either because I didn't trust him not to let his temper get the best of him. As for sleeping arrangments, the ex was pretty much living with his second wife by the time the girls met her and she was kind of the reason he realized he needed to be in their lives more than he had been. For us, my rules/standards worked. If it had been a fly by night GF, I wouldn't have been acceptable to her spending the night when the girls were there. There were those after his second marriage ended but he was living with his mother so the GF being there overnight when the kids were was a non-issue due to her house rules. I didn't bring BF's home for the night unless it was a time my girls were with their father and my personal standards are that I won't live with anyone I don't intend to marry so it was a non-issue for my ex to address on my side. In any case, the children need to be taught that just because something is ok at their father's its not going to always be ok at their mother's and vice versa. And both parents need to respect that and reinforce it. As for conflicting morals, they need to talk about it when issues arise without making demands for change from one or the other but also try to reach a middle ground so they aren't constantly butting heads over minor stuff.
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