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Post by Miss Tequila on Jan 2, 2014 18:28:56 GMT -5
Oh, one other clarification- I'm not worried about loving a second child as much, it's more that I'm nervous about the possibility of special needs / twins / something else unexpected which could ruin everything. Not that we wouldn't roll with those things, obviously... they just terrify me so much more this time around. I will address this one since my second child is special needs. Never in a million years would i imagine I would have a speical needs child. Pretty arrogant looking back, but special needs didn't happen to people like me. I didn't drink, smoke, eat processed meat, each soft cheese, touch dirt (neighbor had a cat!) and so on and so on...whatever the books said was bad, I avoided. I still wound up iwth a special needs child. My dd is now 12 and I can't imagine my life without her. Knowing what I know now, I would still have had her (I don't mean just that I wouldn't have had an abortion - I would never have done that...but I mean I still would have gotten pregnant knowing that she would be special needs). I also lost a baby in the second trimester and I was very jealous of a co-worker because she was due the same time I was. I was angry and resentful everytime she complained about her pregnancy when I would have done anything to get my baby back. Her son wound up with Down's Syndrome and I was actually relieved that it was her and not me because "I could never handle a baby like that"...guess what, I can and I do (ok, my child isn't quite as impacted as a Down's baby but we are talking MR IQ level). What I'm trying to say is never underestimate what you can handle For me, being a mom was never a question. I was an only child and I hated it. On the other hand, I don't like other kids (I was never one of those "ooh, let me hold your baby" kind of people) but I had a strong need to have my own, feel that life growing inside me, meet my baby for the first time, etc. Follow your heart and you can't go wrong
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Post by Miss Tequila on Jan 2, 2014 18:33:13 GMT -5
We need to post more pictures on Facebook. But I was able to find these. Teenage Years, life is good. OMG!! What the hell did I do Totally worth it!!! They're more fun the older they get, but we've gotten horrible at uploading pictures. Holy crap...I mean, holy crap! You are a baby holding babies!!! I knew you were young, you've told us all that...but until I saw that picture I don't think it hit home HOW young you were...FFS, you look no older than my dd's boyfriend (remembers to have yet another talk with DD!!!)
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Post by Malarky on Jan 2, 2014 18:47:19 GMT -5
Just do it. It'll be fun.
Sometimes....
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Post by Sum Dum Gai on Jan 2, 2014 20:41:36 GMT -5
I met Loop two days after my 18th birthday, and she got pregnant three months later. My baby face doesn't help any, but I was just barely an adult in the legal sense when I became a parent.
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Post by taz157 on Jan 2, 2014 21:31:57 GMT -5
I loved all the cute baby/kid pictures! I had the add to the bunch. Here's my 2 year old on the swings yesterday: FWIW Firebird, I would love to have another kid but I'm not sure if we will. I would like to be done by the time I'm 35, which is this year and I'm not pregnant. Also finances aren't what we would want them to be at the moment due to the relocation and fixing up our house. DH turns 40 this year too so we've got alot of thinking to do. I'm sure we'll talk about it in the next few months and even though I thought I wanted to be done by 35, I doubt we'll let that stop us, unless we are having trouble conceiving. With DD, she was conceived the first month we tried. Also FWIW, I thought I would have our first by 28 or so and I was 32 when she was born so what do I know. Good luck with your/DH's decision!
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Post by thyme4change on Jan 2, 2014 21:41:14 GMT -5
Is this the thread where we are trying to impregnant firebird?
#nocondemsallowed
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Post by Deleted on Jan 2, 2014 21:44:03 GMT -5
Is this the thread where we are trying to impregnant firebird? #nocondemsallowed do it! do it! do it! do it!
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Post by taz157 on Jan 2, 2014 21:46:34 GMT -5
Archie - Cute kiddos! Training them for beer pong?
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Post by flopsy on Jan 2, 2014 21:47:55 GMT -5
Oooh I want one!
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Post by thyme4change on Jan 2, 2014 21:48:27 GMT -5
Those second babies are the best! Well, as much of the best as those first babies are. They are also the best.
It is those third babies that really screw things up.
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Post by Jaguar on Jan 2, 2014 21:53:55 GMT -5
Thank You peeps I love looking at your beautiful kids. Many blessings to you all.
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Post by Timberwolf on Jan 2, 2014 21:54:04 GMT -5
Archie that picture makes me want to have grandkids! Can I use this picture to try and entice my stepson and daughter-in-law to get moving?
Your children are lovely and they look like they're having a great time with their dad!
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Post by quince on Jan 2, 2014 22:03:07 GMT -5
I am having trouble with the same thing. I figure I don't need a final decision for at least another year, so I'm working on not worrying about it until then.
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Post by Pants on Jan 2, 2014 22:18:51 GMT -5
Firebird - count me in on this waffling as well. I told DH like 6 months ago we needed to table the discussion until 2014 - he asked me about having another one at 7:14 am on January 1st.
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Post by taz157 on Jan 2, 2014 22:51:47 GMT -5
Well bsb, it was 2014 at the time he asked.
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Post by Sam_2.0 on Jan 2, 2014 23:24:49 GMT -5
I want to play! This is what happens when you are an only child on Christmas: And this is the only way to get her to stand still for a pic is to do a selfie-shot: And this one I just love!!
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Post by sunshinegal1981 on Jan 2, 2014 23:27:09 GMT -5
This thread just made me ovulate.
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Post by Jaguar on Jan 2, 2014 23:28:06 GMT -5
Oh Sam she is so dang adorable like all the others.
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Post by Sam_2.0 on Jan 2, 2014 23:33:47 GMT -5
And this is what happens when you tell her bath time is over and she doesn't want to hear what mommy is saying (and yes, I grabbed the camera instead of getting her out of the tub, lol!)
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Post by Jaguar on Jan 2, 2014 23:34:56 GMT -5
Oh what a princess she is, dang.
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Post by whoisjohngalt on Jan 2, 2014 23:41:55 GMT -5
Only children are weird and usually can't relate to people their own age. Like home schooled kids but not as creepy. You need to have at least one more. Once again I would like to say how much I appreciate YM for letting me know how weird I am and how doomed my kids are
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Post by Sum Dum Gai on Jan 2, 2014 23:43:39 GMT -5
Don't mention it.
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Post by Sam_2.0 on Jan 2, 2014 23:46:38 GMT -5
Ok, Firebird, I think you owe the thread a pic of Firechicklet. She is way too precious!!
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Post by whoisjohngalt on Jan 3, 2014 0:00:13 GMT -5
Today is not a good day for me to reply to this thread bc I am completely burned out.
For some unknown reason I always wanted 3. I actually changed my mind on that but it's too late to do anything about it. I think even number of kids is better, but I am too old and too tired to have another and am not willing to sell any of the ones I have.
One thing I know FOR SURE is that if I waited too long between kids, we would only have one. I don't want to go back to stages. I want to have it, as long as it takes, and be done with it. That's another reason I know *I* am done. My husband might think otherwise, but I am done
And btw, I know EXACTLY how you feel as far as freaking about certain unknowns. I had picture perfect 1st pregnancy and birth (Swamp - I hope you are not reading this again) and was very nervous that it won't happen again. So, I was VERY nervous with my 2nd and 3rd, although still had perfect pregnancies and perfect deliveries and fairly OK kids.
Our whole lives are nothing but unknown. If you want to have a baby, have a baby. Don't make the decision purely on fear of the unknown.
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Post by Firebird on Jan 3, 2014 6:21:42 GMT -5
Only children are weird and usually can't relate to people their own age. Like home schooled kids but not as creepy. You need to have at least one more. This after I drive all over hell's half acre to give you the exclusive YM privilege of meeting Babybird in person. You think you know a person... More responses when I'm in the office.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 3, 2014 7:14:41 GMT -5
The idealistic side of me wants DS to have a sibling, but the realist side knows that having another child would be a really REALLY bad idea. Considering my feelings about my marriage alone makes it unwise to bring another kid into the fold, but I'm realizing that the person I once was - the "I do what I want and answer to no one" career woman - is now back in full force.... at least emotionally. Don't get me wrong, I LOVE my son, but I need too much "me time" to have another kid - especially another baby. Yes, I know how effed up that sounds but it's the truth. I am now used to having 7+ hours sleep, I like not preparing bottles/pumping/nursing and that he basically eats what we eat. I like that we can roughhouse with him and I ADORE his laugh - it's a real, hearty belly laugh. I like not getting puke/pee/poop on my clothes on a daily basis. And most of all, I like feeling like an attractive, fun woman again. So those are my messed up/sad/pathetic reasons for stopping at one. If you hear I'm pregnant again, start stockpiling for the Apocalypse.
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Post by NoNamePerson on Jan 3, 2014 8:10:22 GMT -5
Only children are weird and usually can't relate to people their own age. Like home schooled kids but not as creepy. You need to have at least one more. Once again I would like to say how much I appreciate YM for letting me know how weird I am and how doomed my kids are
Same here but then I saw who posted and thought, is this the same person who opens a toy store for children. Makes one wonder doesn't it
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Post by Firebird on Jan 3, 2014 9:12:33 GMT -5
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Post by NoNamePerson on Jan 3, 2014 9:14:29 GMT -5
This thread just made me ovulate. If I start ovulating HEADS ARE GONNA ROLL But really cute pictures of all the kiddos!!!!!
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