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Post by Peace Of Mind on Sept 25, 2013 13:45:33 GMT -5
Yes. The kids call them "Dad". Man, this thread took forever to get to the "You suck as a parent - NO! YOU suck as a parent!" point. You guys are slacking! Add me to the list that find a screaming out of control kid less annoying when it's obvious that a parent is trying to do all they can and that it's the ones that are in lala land and doing nothing to keep Jr. from snatching food from other people's plates or bringing the cans crashing down in the grocery isle annoying. We always assume that's why the kids are out of control. Crappy parents. The ones who make the efforts? We smile and wink at them to let them know "Hey. Shit happens!" I've also offered to help a few times. DH wanted to help a lady in the parking lot who was trying to get her groceries in the car and keep the kids from being run over but I wasn't with him and he didn't want to worry her that he was trying to steal one of her brats little darlings. As if! I'd rather he come home with a kitten.
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Post by Miss Tequila on Sept 25, 2013 13:46:16 GMT -5
To be fair, there are a lot of people who have something really shitty and overwhelming going on in their life at some point. Are THEY allowed to be annoyed by screaming children when the parents are too tired to give a fuck? I've had some really shitty and overwhelming stuff happen in my life and I don't recall there being a time when a screaming baby in a grocery store being the last straw for me. If anything, I probably was glad that at least I didn't have to deal with THAT too. If I went to a restaurant to escape for a little while and get away from my own kids, yeah I'd be annoyed with someone else's kid hanging out at my table knocking stuff over and asking me a zillion and two questions. I get annoyed at restaurants when someone else's kid is screaming. Taht is a situation I can control so if it were my kid we would be out the door or at least waiting in the lobby until said child calmed down. That is very different from being at a grocery store where you are out of mill/formula or whatever and can't just leave...
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Post by Chocolate Lover on Sept 25, 2013 13:48:21 GMT -5
the kid escalates to screaming and having a tantrum and the parent keeps checking their email. WTF? stop tuning them out... deal with your child.
You clearly are not a parent. It is a life skill to be able to tune out your screaming child. I thought it was more of a "keeping the kid alive" skill
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Post by Miss Tequila on Sept 25, 2013 13:48:55 GMT -5
the kid escalates to screaming and having a tantrum and the parent keeps checking their email. WTF? stop tuning them out... deal with your child.
You clearly are not a parent. It is a life skill to be able to tune out your screaming child. I'm not sure "shots of tequila" qualifies as a life skill :-p
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Post by Pants on Sept 25, 2013 13:51:29 GMT -5
the kid escalates to screaming and having a tantrum and the parent keeps checking their email. WTF? stop tuning them out... deal with your child.
You clearly are not a parent. It is a life skill to be able to tune out your screaming child. I'm not sure "shots of tequila" qualifies as a life skill :-p Yet another place where you and I disagree.
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Post by sarcasticgirl on Sept 25, 2013 13:54:29 GMT -5
the kid escalates to screaming and having a tantrum and the parent keeps checking their email. WTF? stop tuning them out... deal with your child.
You clearly are not a parent. It is a life skill to be able to tune out your screaming child. Nope, I am not... and after reading this thread I'm even more grateful!!! even though it means that I'll never really know how to truly love and I don't have a real marriage.
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Post by sarcasticgirl on Sept 25, 2013 13:56:28 GMT -5
the kid escalates to screaming and having a tantrum and the parent keeps checking their email. WTF? stop tuning them out... deal with your child.
You clearly are not a parent. It is a life skill to be able to tune out your screaming child. I'm not sure "shots of tequila" qualifies as a life skill :-p depends... are the shots for the parent, the child or the judgmental bystanders?
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Post by Miss Tequila on Sept 25, 2013 13:57:15 GMT -5
I'm not sure "shots of tequila" qualifies as a life skill :-p depends... are the shots for the parent, the child or the judgmental bystanders? Wow...you can clearly tell YOU aren't a mohter...you can't give tequila shots to kids! They get the shots of Benadryl
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Post by imawino on Sept 25, 2013 13:58:38 GMT -5
To be fair, there are a lot of people who have something really shitty and overwhelming going on in their life at some point. Are THEY allowed to be annoyed by screaming children when the parents are too tired to give a fuck? I've had some really shitty and overwhelming stuff happen in my life and I don't recall there being a time when a screaming baby in a grocery store being the last straw for me. If anything, I probably was glad that at least I didn't have to deal with THAT too. If I went to a restaurant to escape for a little while and get away from my own kids, yeah I'd be annoyed with someone else's kid hanging out at my table knocking stuff over and asking me a zillion and two questions. It doesn't have to be "the last straw". My point is, if we are supposed to always have compassion for everyone whose kid is out of control, we need to always have compassion for everyone. Because just because you don't have a screaming kid attached to you to prove how hard your life is doesn't mean you aren't going through some shit. So maybe the guy who glares at you and your screaming child in the store just got fired. Maybe the pharmacist who was a dreaded 20 minutes (or whatever) late with Angel's meds wife just died. It's very one-sided to assume that a parent who decides they are too tired and stressed to care about the annoyance they are inflicting on those around them shouldn't have the same degree of sympathy for everyone else out there. We don't all wear a sign for what bad shit is going on in our lives that day, nor should we have to. One class of person is not more worthy of consideration, patience and compassion than the rest.
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Post by imawino on Sept 25, 2013 14:00:21 GMT -5
I'm not sure "shots of tequila" qualifies as a life skill :-p depends... are the shots for the parent, the child or the judgmental bystanders? <crosses fingers that they are all for me!>
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Sept 25, 2013 14:05:28 GMT -5
DD and I hit the liquor store last weekend and bought DH a bottle of "Daddy Juice" aka rum.
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Post by sarcasticgirl on Sept 25, 2013 14:06:36 GMT -5
depends... are the shots for the parent, the child or the judgmental bystanders? Wow...you can clearly tell YOU aren't a mohter...you can't give tequila shots to kids! They get the shots of Benadryl gimme a kid and a bottle of tequila and let me prove you wrong!
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Sept 25, 2013 14:08:53 GMT -5
sarcasticgirl, why would you waste tequila on a kid?
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Post by Chocolate Lover on Sept 25, 2013 14:11:06 GMT -5
$20 says she'll drink the whole bottle of tequila and just forget the kid
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Post by Miss Tequila on Sept 25, 2013 14:17:12 GMT -5
$20 says she'll drink the whole bottle of tequila and just forget the kid Sigh...I do that ONE time and you won't let me live it down
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Post by Chocolate Lover on Sept 25, 2013 14:18:07 GMT -5
$20 says she'll drink the whole bottle of tequila and just forget the kid Sigh...I do that ONE time and you won't let me live it down If you had at least SHARED with me but noooooo............ left me sober with a cranky kid. Geez, thanks
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Post by Miss Tequila on Sept 25, 2013 14:20:57 GMT -5
Sigh...I do that ONE time and you won't let me live it down If you had at least SHARED with me but noooooo............ left me sober with a cranky kid. Geez, thanks Well SOMEONE had to take care of the little SOB lest we be judged!
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Post by Chocolate Lover on Sept 25, 2013 14:21:56 GMT -5
If you had at least SHARED with me but noooooo............ left me sober with a cranky kid. Geez, thanks Well SOMEONE had to take care of the little SOB lest we be judged! It was YOUR turn!!!!
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Post by Miss Tequila on Sept 25, 2013 14:22:57 GMT -5
Well SOMEONE had to take care of the little SOB lest we be judged! It was YOUR turn!!!! Snort...that's like making me the DD...either way, you KNOW that ain't happening
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Post by Chocolate Lover on Sept 25, 2013 14:24:33 GMT -5
Snort...that's like making me the DD...either way, you KNOW that ain't happening I know this NOW. You still suck.
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Post by sarcasticgirl on Sept 25, 2013 14:29:29 GMT -5
sarcasticgirl, why would you waste tequila on a kid? i spare no expense when trying to get a child to shut up. remember, I don't have that special mommy tune out skill. Give the tequila, I'll take the Vodka. win-win
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Post by Deleted on Sept 25, 2013 14:31:29 GMT -5
I've had some really shitty and overwhelming stuff happen in my life and I don't recall there being a time when a screaming baby in a grocery store being the last straw for me. If anything, I probably was glad that at least I didn't have to deal with THAT too. If I went to a restaurant to escape for a little while and get away from my own kids, yeah I'd be annoyed with someone else's kid hanging out at my table knocking stuff over and asking me a zillion and two questions. It doesn't have to be "the last straw". My point is, if we are supposed to always have compassion for everyone whose kid is out of control, we need to always have compassion for everyone. Because just because you don't have a screaming kid attached to you to prove how hard your life is doesn't mean you aren't going through some shit. So maybe the guy who glares at you and your screaming child in the store just got fired. Maybe the pharmacist who was a dreaded 20 minutes (or whatever) late with Angel's meds wife just died. It's very one-sided to assume that a parent who decides they are too tired and stressed to care about the annoyance they are inflicting on those around them shouldn't have the same degree of sympathy for everyone else out there. We don't all wear a sign for what bad shit is going on in our lives that day, nor should we have to. One class of person is not more worthy of consideration, patience and compassion than the rest. I agree. Compassion and good manners shouldn't only extend to certain groups. I do usually try to give people the benefit of the doubt. I don't always succeed.
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Post by Chocolate Lover on Sept 25, 2013 14:31:49 GMT -5
sarcasticgirl, why would you waste tequila on a kid? i spare no expense when trying to get a child to shut up. remember, I don't have that special mommy tune out skill. Give the tequila, I'll take the Vodka. win-win You can aquire that skill, just like we did. OR you can exercise it by being around annoying people of any size and repeating to yourself "I cannot go to jail, jail sucks, I cannot go to jail, jail sucks" for a couple of years
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Post by sarcasticgirl on Sept 25, 2013 14:33:46 GMT -5
i spare no expense when trying to get a child to shut up. remember, I don't have that special mommy tune out skill. Give the tequila, I'll take the Vodka. win-win You can aquire that skill, just like we did. OR you can exercise it by being around annoying people of any size and repeating to yourself "I cannot go to jail, jail sucks, I cannot go to jail, jail sucks" for a couple of years those are the exact words I chant every day at work.
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Post by Chocolate Lover on Sept 25, 2013 14:35:18 GMT -5
You can aquire that skill, just like we did. OR you can exercise it by being around annoying people of any size and repeating to yourself "I cannot go to jail, jail sucks, I cannot go to jail, jail sucks" for a couple of years those are the exact words I chant every day at work. Then you may be better able to deal with small children than you thought
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Sept 25, 2013 14:36:08 GMT -5
those are the exact words I chant every day at work. Then you may be better able to deal with small children than you thought
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Post by Miss Tequila on Sept 27, 2013 7:44:51 GMT -5
I saw online this morning that the homeowner is now pressing charges. He said he gave the kids and the parents an out by coming forward and helping repair the damages but only 4 of them took responsibility. Police have already charged 6 and are combing through all of the online photos to find out who the rest are. I have no idea if charges will be pressed against the 4 that came forward.
I think this is a great lesson for the kids involved. Had they done the right thing (ok, not doing it in the first place would have been teh right thing!) and come forward and accept responsibility, he would have forgiven them and no charges. They pussied out and now he is pressing charges. I say good for him and shame on the parents who threatened to sue him.
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Post by sarcasticgirl on Sept 27, 2013 8:06:17 GMT -5
Good for him! What a bunch of little asshats
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Post by The Captain on Sept 27, 2013 8:47:53 GMT -5
Yea, and the little helicopter parents whining about pictures harming their snowflakes chances at college will really have something to focus on now.
Maybe the parents will learn a lesson as well.
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Post by bean29 on Sept 27, 2013 9:11:13 GMT -5
This is something I just don't get. I may helicopter sometimes but my helicopter would have dropped my kid off at the cleanup effort and hung around with the rest of the family to help clean up. You have to teach your kids responsibility and a sense of ethics and community. Causing damage to property results in an ethical responsiblity to make the other person whole. I kind of look at it as a due unto others thing.
It dosn't take a rocket scientist to figure out if charges are filed there could be serious consequences.
We have a neighbor kid (19 or 20) that advertised on Craigslist to repair brakes. A young girl took her boyfriends uninsured car there to have the brakes repaired. The house is up on a hill. The car rolled down the hill and up an embankment and knocked down the neighbors fence. You could see the tire marks from the driveway to the neighbor's yard. Police were called. Family denied they were responsible. Police had enough proof. Owner of the car who didn't even know it was there being repaired ended up paying for the damages.
Yeah the family that lives in that house - the police are there all the time. They won't bother to teach their kid any morals or ethics. The other kids will probably never have a garage mechanic work on their cars again.
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