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Post by Jaguar on Jul 25, 2013 17:58:37 GMT -5
Jaguar - C lived at home with his mom when we started dating. And his mom lived with us for a little over a year quite some time later (that almost did kill our marriage, but that's because MIL was not a nice person.) So no, that's not on my list. (Which again, makes it feel really odd that I might be pickier than the rest of you.)
So sorry about the MIL though. Is she still a bitch or is she better ?
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Post by shanendoah on Jul 25, 2013 18:10:22 GMT -5
Jaguar - dead actually (so better, I guess), about 16 months ago. And no, she never got better. (But she had suffered a brain injury back in 2000, so her getting better was never actually a possibility.) A C will tell you his mom died in 2000. Her body kept living until 2012, but the woman who raised him had been gone for a long time.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 25, 2013 18:38:06 GMT -5
Guy liner! Or any man interested in Manscaping. ick...one who doesn't manscape is a dealbreaker.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 25, 2013 18:38:09 GMT -5
I read Harry potter as an adult.
I had a friend in college who swore she had net her soul mate... Her words, but he had back hair, so she was conflicted and ultimately broke it off.
My husband likes to get me going. He came friend work one day and said a worker was going in about some Founders Bible he had read, which explained how out government is based on the 10 commandments and things like we have term limits for presidents so we don't start worshiping them as idols, etc... He started presenting it as totally great ideas... How the whole constitution is based on the Ten Commandments.
Deal breaker for me. He eventually laughed it off as just messing with me, but honestly, I'd probably forgive adultery before I'd live with the ideas apparently espoused by that book...
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Post by sarcasticgirl on Jul 25, 2013 18:38:42 GMT -5
I kicked a co-worker out of the office the other day and threatened to fire him (I was joking about firing him). I eat lunch at my desk and watch an episode of tv on Netflix every day. I happened to be watching BSG and told him so when he asked me. He said "that show is stop and I don't know why they keep making movies about it" I told him I think you mean Star Trek. He said "Star Trek, Star Wars, whatever you are watching it's all the same thing". I said "Back slowly out of my office and leave now before I fire you" He just laughed and left. I've said that before. Sent from my Nexus 4 using proboards
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Post by Deleted on Jul 25, 2013 18:42:39 GMT -5
dealbreakers -
facial hair long hair hairy butt or back shorter than 5'10" sandals with socks bad breath smokes or chews bad teeth poor grammar racist/sexist skinny jeans makeup sneakers with dress pants
there's probably a lot more but those come to mind at the moment
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Post by Jaguar on Jul 25, 2013 19:15:04 GMT -5
Jaguar - dead actually (so better, I guess), about 16 months ago. And no, she never got better. (But she had suffered a brain injury back in 2000, so her getting better was never actually a possibility.) A C will tell you his mom died in 2000. Her body kept living until 2012, but the woman who raised him had been gone for a long time.
That is sad that he lost his mum so long ago.
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Post by sheilaincali on Jul 25, 2013 19:47:39 GMT -5
OK- not knowing who Kaiser Soze is really is a sin. The Usual Suspects is an awesome must see movie. Rent it and remedy that shortcoming asap Harry Potter- I read them in my 30's as did my DH. In fact- DH read them first and I was all skeptical. He encouraged me to give them a chance and I'm glad that I did. As the mother of a teenager I have to say that JK Rowling absolutely captured the emotion and angst of a teenage boy. The first two are in my opinion more juvenile then the rest- but that stands to reason since each book is a year of HP's life and the first book starts when he turns 11. Pick them up when you get a chance. Wait to judge them until you've finish book 4. If you are hooked by then you can skip the last three. That reminds me- when I finish the SM Sterling series I am on I may re-read good olde Harry again Not to get all serious- but a big deal breaker for me would be religion. I am an atheist and I couldn't date anyone that was religious. I have friends that are religious and that's fine but I could be married to someone who's beliefs are so vastly different than mine.
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Post by quince on Jul 25, 2013 20:19:00 GMT -5
...I'm sad that I've seen Joe Dirt.
Picky eater wouldn't work for me. Especially if he didn't love garlic.
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Post by Apple on Jul 25, 2013 20:22:21 GMT -5
A guy who has years worth of stories that start with "this one time, in prison"...
Face tattoos. Tattoos are fine, face ones, not-so-much.
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Post by movingforward on Jul 25, 2013 20:37:15 GMT -5
This thread reminds me of something a local radio station does called a "second date update." They talk to people who went on a 1st date with someone and thought it went really well, and can't understand why the other person is ignoring their calls and/or has no interest in a 2nd date. So you get to hear the person describe the date and how smashing it all went. Then the radio station gets the other person on the phone and you hear why they have no interest in a 2nd date with this person. One lady didn't want to go out again because the guy showed up in those toe shoes you run in. The guy was really shocked and asked her if it was a deal breaker and she said yes.
It was really interesting a couple of weeks ago because one lady went on and on about how great this date went and how baffled she was that he hadn't called her. They got the guy on the phone he said he absolutely had no desire to go out with her again because she made racist comments all through dinner. She didn't say a single word or even try to defend herself. She just hung up which indicates to me that she is a racist and knows it. If the things he was saying about her are true I am surprised he even made it through dinner. I probably would have gotten up and left immediately.
Anyway, it is just interesting to listen to these stories and hear how two individuals had such a different experience on the same date.
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Post by souldoubt on Jul 25, 2013 20:43:21 GMT -5
-A woman who talks in a baby voice around other adults. I'm not talking the mom whose telling a story about her kid I'm talking the girl who I can only assume she does it because she thinks guys like it. -A woman who complains all the time about something but does nothing to improve or fix the situation. Life isn't perfect but I don't want to hear about it non stop. -A woman who never offers to pay. -A woman who turns everything into a pity party about her life. When you're in a group with guys don't turn the topic of conversation to your life and how sad it is. Particularly when you piss and moan about being single. -Women who are horrible drunks. I mean the ones who after a few drinks look like they just ran through a hurricane, have food flying out of their mouth while eating and get ridiculously loud. -That fucking duck face. Whoever started that trend should be euthanized.
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Post by movingforward on Jul 25, 2013 20:49:29 GMT -5
That fucking duck face. Whoever started that trend should be euthanized.
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Post by Peace Of Mind on Jul 25, 2013 21:19:17 GMT -5
-A woman who talks in a baby voice around other adults. I'm not talking the mom whose telling a story about her kid I'm talking the girl who I can only assume she does it because she thinks guys like it. -A woman who complains all the time about something but does nothing to improve or fix the situation. Life isn't perfect but I don't want to hear about it non stop. -A woman who never offers to pay. -A woman who turns everything into a pity party about her life. When you're in a group with guys don't turn the topic of conversation to your life and how sad it is. Particularly when you piss and moan about being single. -Women who are horrible drunks. I mean the ones who after a few drinks look like they just ran through a hurricane, have food flying out of their mouth while eating and get ridiculously loud. -That fucking duck face. Whoever started that trend should be euthanized. LMAO!!! Those are my deal breakers with friends!
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Post by 8 Bit WWBG on Jul 25, 2013 21:52:44 GMT -5
...:::"Anyone who is better dressed than me":::...
Can we have some leeway with this one? Guys that dress like slobs aren't attractive. A guy who puts thought into his appearance (say, wears nice shoes and stuff) is a good thing, right?
...:::"I have no use for people who kill an animal and leave it to rot.":::...
Per the "homeowner horror stories", is there an exception if its a woodpecker or other critter/varmint that causes damage to one's home? Its YM approved if it saves money!
...:::"I do however know the difference between Star Wars and Star Trek. I mean did this guy live under a rock? And not reading Harry Potter? I think I'd have to him for living under a rock and being less than well rounded!":::...
How you doin'! Have a smoothie!
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Post by milee on Jul 26, 2013 5:30:08 GMT -5
Is it still a dealbreaker if they eat the meat? Everyone I know that hunts eats the meat or gives it to someone who needs it. West Virginia has a program where you can donate deer to the food banks. I have no use for people who kill an animal and leave it to rot. Eating the meat makes it better but I am still not a big fan of hunting - probably because I didn't grow up around it. My biggest problem though are these people kill animals just to say they shot X. My friend's brother goes on a hunting trip to Africa every year and has killed giraffe, tigers, and God only knows what else. He isn't eating anything, just wants to say he killed it. You can safely ignore his hunting BS. Since tigers don't live in Africa, he's full of it. It's funny, but I've been having a little of the opposite discussion with DH. He and DS have taken up this competitive form of shooting called "Action Pistol" (I think), where they shoot at a series of targets in various settings and situations. It just seems odd to me, like people who want to play act. I'm not a huge gun fan, but if they're going to spend all this time and energy shooting, I wish they'd bring home some meat. They have no interest in hunting, though, and that's OK.
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Post by wvugurl26 on Jul 26, 2013 6:04:26 GMT -5
...:::"Anyone who is better dressed than me":::... Can we have some leeway with this one? Guys that dress like slobs aren't attractive. A guy who puts thought into his appearance (say, wears nice shoes and stuff) is a good thing, right? ...:::"I have no use for people who kill an animal and leave it to rot.":::... Per the "homeowner horror stories", is there an exception if its a woodpecker or other critter/varmint that causes damage to one's home? Its YM approved if it saves money! ...:::"I do however know the difference between Star Wars and Star Trek. I mean did this guy live under a rock? And not reading Harry Potter? I think I'd have to him for living under a rock and being less than well rounded!":::... How you doin'! Have a smoothie! The guys who made me think of that were accessorized to the nines for a trip to the mall on a Saturday. Varmints are a whole different story. I'm talking about people who kill the deer and just slice the head off as a trophy and leave the rest. Eating the meat makes it better but I am still not a big fan of hunting - probably because I didn't grow up around it. My biggest problem though are these people kill animals just to say they shot X. My friend's brother goes on a hunting trip to Africa every year and has killed giraffe, tigers, and God only knows what else. He isn't eating anything, just wants to say he killed it. You can safely ignore his hunting BS. Since tigers don't live in Africa, he's full of it. It's funny, but I've been having a little of the opposite discussion with DH. He and DS have taken up this competitive form of shooting called "Action Pistol" (I think), where they shoot at a series of targets in various settings and situations. It just seems odd to me, like people who want to play act. I'm not a huge gun fan, but if they're going to spend all this time and energy shooting, I wish they'd bring home some meat. They have no interest in hunting, though, and that's OK. I think they'd have to do a whole lot of hunting to get you much meat milee. Deer down in Georgia and Florida are about the size of a large dog up north. I'm always amazed at how scrawny and small they look compared to northern ones.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 26, 2013 7:14:03 GMT -5
You know, I used to have the deal breaker of height (I'm fairly tall), but ended up with an awesome DH who is shorter than me.
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Post by swamp on Jul 26, 2013 7:52:13 GMT -5
You know, I used to have the deal breaker of height (I'm fairly tall), but ended up with an awesome DH who is shorter than me. Yeah that. DH is 5'6"
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Jul 26, 2013 7:55:44 GMT -5
Ok I am in no way geeky and I make fun of my coworker for his geekiness sometimes. I do however know the difference between Star Wars and Star Trek. I mean did this guy live under a rock? And not reading Harry Potter? I think I'd have to him for living under a rock and being less than well rounded! I admit, I've not seen most of the Harry Potter movies but I've read the books, repeatedly.
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Post by sarcasticgirl on Jul 26, 2013 7:58:30 GMT -5
My bf before dh was 6'5" so when I started dating dh he seemed rather short. I once asked if I could measure to make sure he really was 6' like he claimed. He wasn't amused. Sent from my Nexus 4 using proboards
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Post by Deleted on Jul 26, 2013 8:13:44 GMT -5
My bf before dh was 6'5" so when I started dating dh he seemed rather short. I once asked if I could measure to make sure he really was 6' like he claimed. He wasn't amused. Sent from my Nexus 4 using proboards I think DH adds an extra inch to his height when asked....but I have never tried to measure him!
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Jul 26, 2013 8:18:47 GMT -5
He said "Star Trek, Star Wars, whatever you are watching it's all the same thing
Ack! I would have started throwing things at him. Do not put me in the same category as a Trekkie!
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Post by Deleted on Jul 26, 2013 8:20:54 GMT -5
My deal breakers: -Crocs -Shoes shaped like feet (seriously freak me the f out)! -Rude/Racist/Sexist -Conservative Republican -Super Religious -Obese (I know it is vain...but I am attracted to the runner types). -No sense of humor. I LOVE to laugh. -A "stick in the mud". I love to travel and experience new things I would be miserable married to someone who just wanted to sit home and watch tv.
-a guy that does zero manscaping. I am sorry but if I can't see your ding dong because you look like you are smuggling Chewbacca...it is over. -a selfish lover.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 26, 2013 8:26:29 GMT -5
POTD
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Post by violagirl on Jul 26, 2013 8:29:28 GMT -5
I guess I'm the only woman who thinks back hair is cute. Dealbreakers would be: - not nice to his mother - no chest hair - lack of curiosity about the world - not like animals
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Post by Miss Tequila on Jul 26, 2013 8:31:42 GMT -5
Someone that voted for Obama.
Jehova's Witness...not because I am deeply devoted to my religion but dammit, I like birthday and Christmas presents!
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Post by Miss Tequila on Jul 26, 2013 8:32:30 GMT -5
POTD I'm thinking if you couldn't see his ding dong because of hair his ding dong must be pretty small...still a deal breaker
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Post by Miss Tequila on Jul 26, 2013 8:34:17 GMT -5
You know, I used to have the deal breaker of height (I'm fairly tall), but ended up with an awesome DH who is shorter than me. That is a deal breaker for me...I'm 5'8" and close to 6' in my shoes....I can't have a man shorter than me. The shortest guy I ever dated is my dh and he is 6'...
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