An Anonymous Note

[TheOtherMe]

tractor   Sorry to say I have been there done that.  

If her friends know she has dementia, they know you have talked to her.  

[Artemis Windsong]

I'm listening to an audio book.  H. keeps talking.  Then the TV is up.  I thought I paused it.  Nope.  It kept playing in my ear bud.  Annoyed.

[Artemis Windsong]

A self-esteem ding.  I heard one of the fellow tennis players say I had to have the last word so let her. 

I decided to start tracking conversations to see if this happens across different social settings or just the tennis group.  So far, I have 7 conversations with different people, different settings, where I did not have the last word.  This tracking has helped me feel better.

I realize February is a month of more tender feelings than usual because so much happened in the past. 

[NancysSummerSip]

Aw, just found out we lost one of our oldie but goody swimmers. Eighty-four years young, he was. A very nice man; I saw him at a lot of meets. Very competitive at his age, but always had fun first and foremost. I understand he was in good shape until the end, and the end was swift and hospice was there for him.

We will miss you, Carl. May Heaven's pool temperature be perfect, the lane lines straight, and the chlorine level just right. 

[Artemis Windsong]

My friend just roared with laughter about how direct this was.

We were invited to friends for martinis with the hours 4:30 p.m. to 6:00 p.m. No food provided so bring your own.   A lot of food brought.  Everyone was talking having a good time. Having drinks.  I picked up a martini glass from the floor and set it on the table.  I showed the hostess.  She got a rag and started rubbing like crazy where I placed the glass.  It did not have any moisture on the bottom of it.  If it spilled on the tile floor, it would have been worse with so many guest milling around..

A few minutes before 6:00 p.m.,  Hostess brings my tray of food covered in aluminum foil saying thanks for coming, the party is over.  My friend just went ballistic with laughter about how direct it was.  His comment laughing, thanks for coming, good bye.  LOL.

I was standing there with my food in hand waiting for my H. when she comes back and says did you bring such and such wine so I could take it home.  Nope. I didn't bring it.

Friend was still laughing when he went to retrieve the food he brought.

[Artemis Windsong]

Another odd thing.  My neighbors have frequent overnight company.  Sometimes for longer than they expect.  He has adopted the habit of giving then a roll of toilet paper telling them the visit is over when the toilet paper runs out.  LOL.

[NancysSummerSip]

OK, neighbor. You keep allowing your tree trimmers to stuff in my yard? You will get it back on your lawn before the butt-crack of dawn one morning this week.

Oh, and those "new" rules about not putting out yard waste until Wednesday afternoon (our pickup is Thursdays) don't apply to you, either, I guess. It is Sunday, and there is a six -foot by 10-foot pile at the end of your driveway, spilling onto mine. My DH is disabled, and he still manages to wait until Wednesday. Too much for you to bother with, eh?

[Artemis Windsong]

More on Prima Donna from a couple posts up.  At tennis drills, she skoots in and says I take the last ball.  She also pushes in to take the first ball.

A couple days later, during club play time, the teaching coach comes to play with us.  He took the court, I said I'd go when no one else went on with him.  We rotate clockwise when we have more than 4 people.  We had two courts and 4 extras.  One game ,the coach rotated to the other side.  When it was my turn again to rotate, prima donna jumps in and says I want to play because I have to leave.  She didn't leave but stayed for the next rotation. IDK if someone said something to her. 

Background annoyances are her H. is president of the tennis club.  She asked to be assistant tournament director.  Okay, fine.  The annoyance is the actual tournament director has a big job of making the pairings, posting those along with when do I play list.  Posting scores during the tournament.  Tournament director goes to the tournaments staying all day start to finish whether on our courts or away.  She fills in last minute for those who can't play for some reason.  

Mr. Prez and Asst. Tournament director show up just for their two matches then leave.  Prima complains about who she was paired with every time.  We do have a couple of 80 year olds that are capable of wining their match, which did happen even with Prima.  Prima seldom wins.  What is expected.  BODs attendance, being present start to finish, filling in for the tournament director, if needed.  Posting scores and addressing concerns of players.

A dig was hearing her tell the T.D. that she will help with every tournament next year. Another, I was warming up with self-feeding when those two come on the court I'm on with Prima announcing she and H. were doing such and such drill to warm up.  I said fine, I'll move to the empty court next to the one I was on.  Suddenly, come warm up with us.  I just said I have my own drill I'm working on.

I usually delete these complaints but posting here is like talking to a friend.   

[snapdragon]

Mar 24, 2024 16:34:12 GMT -5 Artemis Windsong said:

More on Prima Donna from a couple posts up.  At tennis drills, she skoots in and says I take the last ball.  She also pushes in to take the first ball.

A couple days later, during club play time, the teaching coach comes to play with us.  He took the court, I said I'd go when no one else went on with him.  We rotate clockwise when we have more than 4 people.  We had two courts and 4 extras.  One game ,the coach rotated to the other side.  When it was my turn again to rotate, prima donna jumps in and says I want to play because I have to leave.  She didn't leave but stayed for the next rotation. IDK if someone said something to her. 

Background annoyances are her H. is president of the tennis club.  She asked to be assistant tournament director.  Okay, fine.  The annoyance is the actual tournament director has a big job of making the pairings, posting those along with when do I play list.  Posting scores during the tournament.  Tournament director goes to the tournaments staying all day start to finish whether on our courts or away.  She fills in last minute for those who can't play for some reason.  

Mr. Prez and Asst. Tournament director show up just for their two matches then leave.  Prima complains about who she was paired with every time.  We do have a couple of 80 year olds that are capable of wining their match, which did happen even with Prima.  Prima seldom wins.  What is expected.  BODs attendance, being present start to finish, filling in for the tournament director, if needed.  Posting scores and addressing concerns of players.

A dig was hearing her tell the T.D. that she will help with every tournament next year. Another, I was warming up with self-feeding when those two come on the court I'm on with Prima announcing she and H. were doing such and such drill to warm up.  I said fine, I'll move to the empty court next to the one I was on.  Suddenly, come warm up with us.  I just said I have my own drill I'm working on.

I usually delete these complaints but posting here is like talking to a friend.   

 Sounds as though she has a version of "Pick Me!" That sounds very tiring.

[Artemis Windsong]

I do think someone said something as a lot more people showed up for drills last night.  Probably to check it out!

[mollyanna58]

Dear friend,

While I am sure that you were a good tenant and your former landlord gave you a good reference when you moved out, that was 30 years ago. Even if the same guy still owns that apartment complex, he is not going to let you move in without paying a deposit and the first month’s rent. 

signed,
Seriously?

[snapdragon]

Apr 13, 2024 9:55:19 GMT -5 mollyanna58 said:

Dear friend,

While I am sure that you were a good tenant and your former landlord gave you a good reference when you moved out, that was 30 years ago. Even if the same guy still owns that apartment complex, he is not going to let you move in without paying a deposit and the first month’s rent. 

signed,
Seriously?

OMG!     

[snapdragon]

Note to self --

Make sure you DON'T drop your box of grape nuts cereal! This time really hurt and they felt like mini LEGO and went everywhere.

[NoNamePerson]

Sept 19, 2024 19:41:10 GMT -5 snapdragon said:

Note to self --

Make sure you DON'T drop your box of grape nuts cereal! This time really hurt and they felt like mini LEGO and went everywhere.

Or a bag of raw rice. Not as painful but you will be finding grains 5 years down the road when you swear you got them all with broom/vacuum. 

[tractor]

Dad,

Please learn to drink water. This 2:30am run to the ER because you're constipated really makes it hard for me to function at work...

[NancysSummerSip]

OK. we have a storm out there....

[snapdragon]

I am amazed by how Oversight People don't just grab a bunch of duct tape and pin children to a wall so they are not rowdy. 

I have to give major props to my BFF on dealing with her GS and having to deal with a memorial service of someone she really cared about. 

Fingers crossed that I keep being fairly chill. There is just kids stuff that is scattered around everywhere.

I am amazed with my past self wanting lots of kids. I don't know if they would have made it to the age of 10. Or I would be a raging b*tch or alcoholic. 

[TheOtherMe]

One of the reasons I decided not to go to Toronto.  J is not a bad kid, but he is 4 years old.  He is active and noisy.  He wants attention from his parents and it never stops from what I observe and hear them say.  It only stops when he is at school or an activity or asleep.  Otherwise he wants his parents with him and to be actively with him.  

He doesn't understand the difference between indoor voice and outdoor voice.  Yes, he scatters toys everywhere.  

Niece's husband would take their kids to the car when they misbehaved in restaurants--even places like McDonalds.  I preferred going with them if it was just my sister.  They behaved when she was in charge.

I never wanted kids.  I didn't know this was the reason.

[Artemis Windsong]

I wore a mask into my medical procedure to cauterize my nose so it won't do surprise bleeds.

The wind is terrible.  I went to a veterans honor service and wore the mask.  I did get some looks. 

There is a virus going around that causes a terrible head ache and body aches for 3 or more days.  Debilitating.

In Minneapolis the pd caught a 10 year old driving through a park at high rate of speed.  Driving around a play ground area.  He's been caught 3 other times stealing cars.  Prison isn't an option for 10 y.o.  No idea what his home life looks like.

[azucena]

I've discovered a new pet peeve of mine. People who can't keep track of their passwords.

DH is forever forgetting them for our streaming accounts and then he just changes them and doesn't bother to write them down or use password app. So annoying when he does that because each tv and phone needs to be reset with new one.

Apparently DD16 inherited this gene because I went to sign her up for AP test which requires college board account. I started to set one up and it says she already has one. Great so I try her favorite password, nope. Text and ask her and she says it's that. Nope. Oh will add four 0s. Nope. It says we have two more tries. I hit the button to have it text her security code...yeah, she didn't plug in her cell number when she registered. So I hit email me password reset. Yeah, she didn't fill in that field either.

And from the school's email it sounds like getting password reset for this is akin to working with the credit bureaus.

[mollyanna58]

Dear 1-800-Flowers.com:

Your customer service stinks. I have had three reps offer a solution to the problem they caused, and each time I say yes, that's acceptable, they say "I haven't heard from you in a while. I guess we got disconnected. Please start a new chat if you still have a problem"