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Post by doxieluvr on May 30, 2013 14:16:03 GMT -5
My DH is not picky, but certainly has his own taste. I would NEVER try to change that. He is a grown man, not my child. My kids eat lots of things that he doesn't - sushi and olives are good examples. He doesn't make a big deal about - just doesn't put any on his plate.Same with certain vegetable - cauliflower or spinach, for example. He knows that he doesn't have a wide range of things that he likes and is very happy that I am exposing kids to various things. I think it's crazy disrespectful to try to change taste of an adult. This. My kids eat tons of things that I won't touch, lobster, deer meat, sushi, tomatoes, etc. I just don't put it on my plate and they do not seem to care.
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Post by Abby Normal on May 30, 2013 14:18:13 GMT -5
My DH is not picky, but certainly has his own taste. I would NEVER try to change that. He is a grown man, not my child. My kids eat lots of things that he doesn't - sushi and olives are good examples. He doesn't make a big deal about - just doesn't put any on his plate. Same with certain vegetable - cauliflower or spinach, for example. He knows that he doesn't have a wide range of things that he likes and is very happy that I am exposing kids to various things. I think it's crazy disrespectful to try to change taste of an adult. I admit- I'm not a huge fan of cauliflower. But is one that my son loves. So we have it a lot. As he gets older, I think he's more understanding of the concept of eating something you don't love.
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Post by thyme4change on May 30, 2013 14:18:38 GMT -5
<br><br>I agree to a point, but I find that my husband's attitude towards so many things is crucial in raising our children. So, when we started feeding the kids, we had a long talk about what I thought was really important, and nutrition was huge for me. After struggling with his weight, and knowing the genetic health problems of his family, he wanted to make sure he was giving our kids the best possible habits for the future. He agreed that he needed to be more open and flexible not only to set a good role model, but also to improve his own health. If we hadn't had that conversation, or if he disagreed that it was important - he could make every one of my efforts futile. <br><br>I wasn't trying to change him - just asking him if he would help me accomplish one of my goals as a parent.
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Post by Chocolate Lover on May 30, 2013 14:18:46 GMT -5
Not the healthiest way to eat something, but a way to get some new tried may be frying it. My younger 2 kids have no interest at all in putting squash/zucchini in their mouths the way I usually cook it. (Sauteed in olive oil with onions) I decided I wanted to fry it last week because I haven't had it that way in ages, and they not only ate it, they loved it. Next time, I'll grill some and let them try it.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on May 30, 2013 14:26:08 GMT -5
After struggling with his weight, and knowing the genetic health problems of his family, he wanted to make sure he was giving our kids the best possible habits for the future
I told DH he needs ot cut it out with the theatrics. #1: it's rude/disrespectul and #2 you're setting a bad example for our kid. I'm never going to make him eat something he doesn't like but when we try new things he has to take at least one bite in front of her. Because she does watch us and copy our rections. I said if he wants to spit it out while her back is turned knock himself out, but keep up the poker face while she's looking. His overall diet I made it clear before we got married that if I was going to be the cook in the family there was no way I was feeding him stereotypical midwesterner fare. There will be no cream of mushroom soup in my house. You don't like it, you cook or find someone else. He's in way better health than he was then and his palette has expanded immensely. He had no idea green beans could come in any other form than gray lifeless mush. I found that kinda sad.
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Post by Deleted on May 30, 2013 14:42:42 GMT -5
DH's family typically has 5-6 2-liter bottles of Coke in their house at any given time. I rarely drink soda. when DH and I moved in together, I would buy 1 2-liter of soda (if it was on sale) per week - when it was gone, that was it. He lost like 15 lbs in like a month or two from just not drinking as much soda. Due to financial reasons, I also cooked a lot of vegetarian meals as well as meals with meat. I also used more fresh ingredients and less cream soups, and guess what? He dropped even more weight and got healthier. He didn't hate all my cooking and he still likes some of the things he used to like. He still likes soda, ice cream, fast food, etc. but he eats it less often and he's come to realize how much salt his mom's cooking really had in it. I wasn't trying to change his palate - I was trying to ensure that we were both healthy and able to raise a healthy family.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on May 30, 2013 14:48:15 GMT -5
If you go to any Iowan church potluck, where it seems to be a law that all foods contain either mayo, cream of mushroom soup or sour cream (including desserts!) and then look at the size of the people eating it. Not a good lifelong dietary habit.
I've never eaten that way, my mom refuses to cook that stuff after being forced to eat it as a kid. I refused to eat that crap and become as overweight as DH was at the time.
DH's doctor was ready to put him on cholesterol meds when we were first together. After changing his diet DH now has perfect numbers.
We go to MIL's house on Sundays for dinner, so he still gets to eat that stuff, just not every day.
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Post by whoisjohngalt on May 30, 2013 15:13:22 GMT -5
DH's family typically has 5-6 2-liter bottles of Coke in their house at any given time. I rarely drink soda. when DH and I moved in together, I would buy 1 2-liter of soda (if it was on sale) per week - when it was gone, that was it. He lost like 15 lbs in like a month or two from just not drinking as much soda. Due to financial reasons, I also cooked a lot of vegetarian meals as well as meals with meat. I also used more fresh ingredients and less cream soups, and guess what? He dropped even more weight and got healthier. He didn't hate all my cooking and he still likes some of the things he used to like. He still likes soda, ice cream, fast food, etc. but he eats it less often and he's come to realize how much salt his mom's cooking really had in it. I wasn't trying to change his palate - I was trying to ensure that we were both healthy and able to raise a healthy family. I should have worded it differently - and I wasn't talking about health reasons I was just saying that while I want my kids to try to eat as many different things as possible, including various vegetables and fish and chicken and beef - if my DH doesn't like something in particular, I am not going to try to make him eat it and to the best of my abilities will try to accommodate his taste.
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Post by Deleted on May 30, 2013 15:16:08 GMT -5
DH's family typically has 5-6 2-liter bottles of Coke in their house at any given time. I rarely drink soda. when DH and I moved in together, I would buy 1 2-liter of soda (if it was on sale) per week - when it was gone, that was it. He lost like 15 lbs in like a month or two from just not drinking as much soda. Due to financial reasons, I also cooked a lot of vegetarian meals as well as meals with meat. I also used more fresh ingredients and less cream soups, and guess what? He dropped even more weight and got healthier. He didn't hate all my cooking and he still likes some of the things he used to like. He still likes soda, ice cream, fast food, etc. but he eats it less often and he's come to realize how much salt his mom's cooking really had in it. I wasn't trying to change his palate - I was trying to ensure that we were both healthy and able to raise a healthy family. I should have worded it differently - and I wasn't talking about health reasons I was just saying that while I want my kids to try to eat as many different things as possible, including various vegetables and fish and chicken and beef - if my DH doesn't like something in particular, I am not going to try to make him eat it and to the best of my abilities will try to accommodate his taste. oh, well yeah - I agree with that. I still don't think it hurts to ask him to try something new.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on May 30, 2013 15:18:16 GMT -5
if my DH doesn't like something in particular, I am not going to try to make him eat it and to the best of my abilities will try to accommodate his taste
Oh that makes sense. No if I know DH actually dislikes something I don't cook with it. New things he has to be part of the three bite club like the rest of us. Those Chow mein noodles that come in a can and break your teeth are ubiquitous in Iowan church cooking as well. I don't get it.
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Post by Deleted on May 30, 2013 15:19:27 GMT -5
I bet a lot of people on this thread won't even try boiled cicadas when they start emerging en masse in a few weeks. Talk about picky.
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Post by whoisjohngalt on May 30, 2013 15:21:38 GMT -5
When we first started dating he told me he doesn't eat fish except for tuna salad. Well, I said that I make this salmon recipe that he is going to LOVE and it doesn't smell like salmon and doesn't take like salmon. Well, I made it, he ate it at my house and he said he liked it. He never asked me to make it again. I think I am going to ask him to try it again <img src="http://images.proboards.com/new/wink.png" alt=" " text=" "> <br>
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Post by Deleted on May 30, 2013 15:21:38 GMT -5
I wasn't in Jersey for the first round of cicadas and I'm not real eager to see them.
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Post by whoisjohngalt on May 30, 2013 15:23:17 GMT -5
I was still in MD and they weren't bad, just annoying.
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Post by ՏՇԾԵԵʅՏɧ_LԹՏՏʅҼ on May 30, 2013 15:45:08 GMT -5
That's quite a waste of food! Why not serve the kids smaller portions - use a salad plate for their food instead of a dinner plate. That way they'd be able to eat what's on the plate and if still hungry, could have a bit more once the plate's clean.
And whatever wasn't served, could be sved and re-heated for leftovers instead of just tossing it out. What a waste of food (and money).
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Post by Deleted on May 30, 2013 15:46:38 GMT -5
That's quite a waste of food! Why not serve the kids smaller portions - use a salad plate for their food instead of a dinner plate. That way they'd be able to eat what's on the plate and if still hungry, could have a bit more once the plate's clean.
And whatever wasn't served, could be sved and re-heated for leftovers instead of just tossing it out. What a waste of food (and money). I'm not saving what is left on my kid's plates. It is gross and slimy and manhandled when they are done with it.
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Post by ՏՇԾԵԵʅՏɧ_LԹՏՏʅҼ on May 30, 2013 15:52:15 GMT -5
Not what's on their plates, Arch - read my post again. Just don't serve them more than they're going to eat and use a smaller plate for their food - that way less will be thrown out if they don't eat what they've been served, rather than if the plate's loaded and they only eat a few bites of it. It's better to give smaller portions and then they can have seconds if they still feel hungry - rather than filling up a big plate and then having to toss half of it into the trash.
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Post by Chocolate Lover on May 30, 2013 15:53:58 GMT -5
I figured out how to serve my kids smaller portions on a big plate. Even made it look like I didn't give them that much
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Post by Deleted on May 30, 2013 15:54:16 GMT -5
Not what's on their plates, Arch - read my post again. Just don't serve them more than they're going to eat and use a smaller plate for their food - that way less will be thrown out if they don't eat what they've been served, rather than if the plate's loaded and they only eat a few bites of it. It's better to give smaller portions and then they can have seconds if they still feel hungry - rather than filling up a big plate and then having to toss half of it into the trash. I prefer giving them more than they can eat. I have a feeling they would eat half of however much we give them.
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Post by NancysSummerSip on May 30, 2013 16:04:35 GMT -5
Not what's on their plates, Arch - read my post again. Just don't serve them more than they're going to eat and use a smaller plate for their food - that way less will be thrown out if they don't eat what they've been served, rather than if the plate's loaded and they only eat a few bites of it. It's better to give smaller portions and then they can have seconds if they still feel hungry - rather than filling up a big plate and then having to toss half of it into the trash. There's another good point of logic to doing this. A smaller plate, with less food, is less overwhelming to kids. We tend to think of "growing" children as nonstop eating machines, I suppose, who never get filled up. Fact is, with a smaller plate, and smaller portions, aside from less waste, they have more control over what is on that plate, even if it is a "yucky" food. A small amount of something they don't like is possibly more manageable than a large portion. I think the variety needs to be there, and all the grownups need to be on board. And by "all the grownups," I include both parents and anyone who babysits the kids. It seems pretty pointless for mom and dad to teach good nutrition, only to have Granny sabotage it. Yes, I know...Granny just wants to spoil 'em a bit. But been there, seen that warfare waged. Food should not be a battlefield, but without question, teaching kids about eating well and eating right is something worth the hard work.
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Post by Green Eyed Lady on May 30, 2013 16:19:36 GMT -5
I've never been a picky eater - mostly because I wasn't allowed to become one. At least I think that's why. As an adult, there are a few things I absolutely will not eat, but there are few. I'm wondering. Is a person born picky or are they raised in a way that allows them to become so?
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Post by Shooby on May 30, 2013 16:46:35 GMT -5
liver and onions is one of those meals I have absolutely zero desire to try. I refuse to eat "organs of excretion". The liver is the filter of the body. Why would anyone want to eat that? Bleecchh.
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Post by doxieluvr on May 30, 2013 16:53:16 GMT -5
That's quite a waste of food! Why not serve the kids smaller portions - use a salad plate for their food instead of a dinner plate. That way they'd be able to eat what's on the plate and if still hungry, could have a bit more once the plate's clean.
And whatever wasn't served, could be sved and re-heated for leftovers instead of just tossing it out. What a waste of food (and money).
I do serve my toddler small portions on a toddler size plate, but I am not saving anything for consumption, that has been kid handled. No thank you. I do not cook for leftovers, so the bits that are left do get thrown. I don't do leftovers. Dh used to always make me take leftovers from a restaurant. They either got forgotten in the car, or if they made it to the fridge, we were pitching them a week later. I finally got him out of that habit. He only takes what he wants to eat for lunch the next day.
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Post by doxieluvr on May 30, 2013 16:58:24 GMT -5
I've never been a picky eater - mostly because I wasn't allowed to become one. At least I think that's why. As an adult, there are a few things I absolutely will not eat, but there are few. I'm wondering. Is a person born picky or are they raised in a way that allows them to become so? You are born that way. My kids are great eaters. I offer them things I won't touch, and they devour them. My whole family eats everything or close to everything. My mother does not eat wild game. My brother will eat everything. I on the other hand, have had the same limited diet since I was a toddler. My mom offered us both the same foods in the same manner.
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Post by thyme4change on May 30, 2013 17:36:00 GMT -5
Easier said than done. Some days my son will eat twice what I eat - some days he eats almost nothing. The purpose of letting a child learn to self-regulate is that when they grow up and go to friggin' Claim Jumpers where the portion sizes are enough to feed a family for a week - then they know to stop eating when they are full. If, however, I dictate to them that they must clean their plate because I only put a little on there - how will they know not to clean their plate and eat a 3800 calorie plate, because that is what Mama taught them? I do give them smaller portions and let them have seconds, but if they aren't hungry, I'm not going to force them to eat, and I usually toss what they have already touched on their plate - just in case they aren't hungry because they have a stomach bug.
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Post by Deleted on May 31, 2013 6:58:36 GMT -5
I do not cook for leftovers, so the bits that are left do get thrown. I don't do leftovers. Dh used to always make me take leftovers from a restaurant. They either got forgotten in the car, or if they made it to the fridge, we were pitching them a week later. I finally got him out of that habit. He only takes what he wants to eat for lunch the next day. You must be doing well if you can afford to throw away food like that, especially if you've paid restaurant prices for it. While I agree that uneaten food on kids' plates may be too gross to rescue and that some restaurant foods (mostly the fried stuff) doesn't reheat well, DH and I are very creative with leftovers. I'll chop up what's left of a steak or chicken and put it in salad and that's another dinner. I really hate throwing food away and am also careful about not overeating and, between the refrigerator, the freezer and the microwave, we throw out very little.
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Post by Shooby on May 31, 2013 7:08:36 GMT -5
Well, we are not big of leftovers. DH will take them in his lunch but in general nobody really cares for them so much. So, if not, then you just learn to cook in a way to minimize leftovers. I am pretty good now about knowing how much to cook. There is no sense in boiling 2lbs of spaghetti if everyone is going to only eat one meal of it. So, with trial and error i have been able to cut way back on what i cook to compensate for that.
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Post by Shooby on May 31, 2013 7:09:42 GMT -5
BTW, doxie what is it that you actually LIKE to do? I mean, you don't like to cook, clean, do home repairs, etc. What do you actually like to do and what is it you do while being a SAHM?
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Post by zibazinski on May 31, 2013 7:11:18 GMT -5
I'm so glad my kids never pulled this and that their father didn't either. No way would I put up with it from either corner. It's okay that my kids don't like certain foods, they're adults and can do for themselves but as kids, they ate what I put out in front of them. There's things they don't like, I am sure, but I'm unaware of them. In fact one likes corn and the other hates it. I'm not sure which but if I put it out, and at holidays I do, they are free not to eat it because theres lots of other stuff. DD used to hate ham and turkey so along with those I made a Cornish game hen but that was when she became an adult, as a child she "suffered" through it.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on May 31, 2013 8:10:34 GMT -5
Is a person born picky or are they raised in a way that allows them to become so?
I think a combo of both. There are things that I just don't plain like and no amount of force feeding is going to change that, same with DH.
How we behave about it is learned I think. You can be picky and still be polite. Which is what I told DH. He used to make a huge production over stuff he wasn't familar with. I told him it's rude to make noises and faces at something someone else made. You don't have to eat it but at least keep a poker face.
I was pretty picky as a kid and honestly still can't really stomach a lot of my MIL's cooking. When we go down there on Sunday I eat Itake a small portion if it's something I don't like. I can choke down a couple of bites to be polite.
That's how I was raised. I'm pretty sure that's how DH was raised too, so where the meleodrama came from I have no idea. He's stopped it since I started getting on his case about it.
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