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Post by sheilaincali on Dec 23, 2013 9:29:19 GMT -5
Thanks Ladies- I am super excited to finally have those cabinets out of my garage. The store owner (who is a very good friend of DH's) asked after we finished moving them "Now can we have a party at your house on X-mas eve?" Of course I said "Absolutely, now that I have the garage back you are welcome to hang out in the house". One of the other guys (a very reserved school principal with a very dry wit) actually cheered. He was quite excited to have something to do during his two week winter break. Counted the cabinets as two items (one per cabinet) and gave away a handful of other things that I found (and tossed a pair of DH's boxers that had holes in them- ) Which brings my current grand total to 1976/2013. So 37 more items to go and one week left of the year. We had thought about hauling some of the crap in the garage that is basically garbage down to the dumpster at work yesterday but it was very cold yesterday and it's even worse today. Ambient of -9 with a windchill temp of -35 to -45 today. So yeah, that's cold. We'll wait until Christmas day to load it up in the afternoon and I can haul it down on Thursday when I come into work. Hoping to take tomorrow and Wednesday to get started on a bit of organizing and see if I can't find a handful of items that can be donated. Stay strong everyone!-- One week left of our 2013 challenge and then we can start to tackle of 2014 goals
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Dec 23, 2013 9:41:24 GMT -5
after work yesterday, I shoveled. And helped push a car out of the alley. And shoveled. Did more laundry. And after the kids were in bed, I wrapped presents. We have 6 more presents to buy. DH is taking care of 3 of them today. And 2 we don't need until the 29th. But I wrapped for 2.5+ hours last night. Sadly, I ran out of wine long before I ran out of presents to wrap...
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Post by Deleted on Dec 23, 2013 10:21:46 GMT -5
Shopped in town with DS3 and his best friend again today. (They helped me choose DD's clothes lol). Finished DD's gifts, got a couple of stocking stuffers for DH and DD, DONE. DD may not like the clothes I got her, but she can return or exchange them. I would have preferred to take her with me but she is away till tonight, and I didn't want to just give her cash, because we already gave her some cash for her weekend away.
Left DS3 and his friend to finish their shopping. Told DS3 I was DONE shopping, I wasn't going back for anything or anybody, not even the zombie apocalypse. That cracked him up lol. Get home and immediately realize I forgot the hay for the rabbit, so I had to go back out to the supermarket.
We STILL need a stocking stuffer or two for DS3 but DH will get that (he started shopping today). Otherwise I may go to the local supermarket (NOT MALL) and / or bookstore tomorrow before picking DS1 up from the airport. DH is doing what's left of the food shopping. And I MUST go to the bank tomorrow to deposit some checks.
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Dec 23, 2013 10:37:08 GMT -5
DH is taking care of 3 gift cards today (his Mom, his brother and his SIL) We got the ok to buy something small for SN#6 last night so I'm going to wander around and see if I can find something. DD got her a pink scarf/boa thing at the craft fair so I'm actually thinking funky socks and/or mittens.
And I need 2 presents for the gift exchange my family does. That's the 29th and my sister said she'd call me tonight to let me know who we've got as I've forgotten. It's likely going to be gift cards with a token object so I'm not stressed out about it.
Funny thing is DH realized last night that I took the kids shopping to buy him token gifts. He's hitting the mall for 2 of the gift cards and just called to ask what from the mall he and DD can buy me as a token gift. I sent him to Godiva or Buddy Squirrel. But he may surprise me (or DD will, as she's with him)
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Post by sheilaincali on Dec 23, 2013 11:47:22 GMT -5
Rukh- If it's nerdy than count me in! I love the new year because you get to start fresh on everything! New file folders at work, new files at home, new calendars, etc.
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Post by startsmart on Dec 23, 2013 13:42:18 GMT -5
Rukh, I'm with Sheila on this one... the fresh start is always fun and I am a huge nerd. Today I'll be cleaning out a bunch of client files too so I can start the new year off right!
Today's agenda:
drop off books for donation at the library drop off items for consignment at store
put the Christmas tubs in the garage Watch Elf put gifts and such in the car change the sheets on my bed put away the ironing board assemble 2 more pieces of my wood project
mail books at the post office and check my box take out all the trash clean up the kitchen and living room finish last 2 loads of laundry replace the slip cover on the sofa
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Post by Saving4Norway on Dec 23, 2013 15:44:51 GMT -5
Whew! I'm not the only fresh start/new year's nerd! So happy to wrap up a satisfying 2013 and embark on a hopeful 2014 with you all!
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Post by Saving4Norway on Dec 23, 2013 15:49:10 GMT -5
DH has to work today (I forgot) so it's just up to me to be cleaning the house. I've come down with an encore sinus infection so I couldn't be less motivated. The dog loves it, though. I haven't sat still and cuddled with him in weeks.
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Post by startsmart on Dec 23, 2013 16:14:31 GMT -5
Woot woot! Total of 141 books out of my house since thanksgiving 73 through the book exchange and another 68 donated to the library. I have another 100 or so that need to be reviewed and will probably go out in 2014. There are several that I want to read before giving away too.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 23, 2013 19:12:53 GMT -5
Oh Start I AM SO JEALOUS of all your books out!!! I couldn't make it to the last book club meeting but I have about 25 or 30 books in a bag to go to my friend for her next English-speaking church's book sale. Sadly I can never sign up for 2013 or 2014 items out, because only DH has those items, probably several times over. In books, stamps, his mom's collections, etc etc etc. I just try to keep the rest of the house streamlined and clutter-free. But I too am a Nerd and I am very happy to be here again next year! And THANK YOU ALL for putting up with my Marking posts! I know they are a PITA, but they really help me organize myself. DD is home from her weekend. She finally seems to have "turned a corner" with me. Busymom, I envy you your relationship with your DD, it seems so conflict-free. I MUST go to the bank tomorrow to deposit some checks, and I have to leave at 1 pm to pick up DS1. But, the gift shopping is done, DH is doing the food shopping. So, decadence incarnate, I'm setting my alarm for 11 am. That will give me an hour to hang around, then 30 min to get to the bank, then come back and pick up DS3 to go to the airport with me. I KNOW I deserve that LOL.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 23, 2013 19:43:43 GMT -5
Also the cleaner finished the entire house last week, but she came again today. I only gave her 3h today, and told her I'll only give her 3h next Mon too, and the Mon after that.
So I'm definitely cutting down her hours, now that the entire house is done (including baseboards, windows, moving furniture, beams, etc).
I know a lot of people have cleaners every other week, but that doesn't exist here.
I'm starting to worry again about what to tell the old cleaner. I (wrongly) thought she would "fade away" but she has been very diligent and proactive about calling me, and she seems pretty hell-bent on staying for another 3 years. So how do you tell a cleaner, I found a cleaner who actually cleans? That is DH's brilliant and oft-repeated suggestion. He's not wrong, but he's not very helpful either.
I HATE lying but I am thinking about lying and telling her I can't afford a cleaner anymore. I know Start had a great suggestion, I need to look for it (or Start if you would be so kind, could you repost it? I promise this time I will copy and paste it.) Or else I'm considering telling her I had someone in just to clean before Xmas, and we've decided we can't afford a regular cleaner, so we're going to maintain it ourselves.
I HATE lying but I refuse to pay this woman another cent to do a bad job, but I don't want to leave on bad terms with her after all these years. I have had two friends come over and exclaim at how clean the house is (one is the friend who referred the cleaner to me, but still). DS2 did too.
I also know this new cleaner won't be around forever, she is a bailiff / lawyer who doesn't (yet) speak good French.
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Post by startsmart on Dec 23, 2013 21:08:03 GMT -5
No problem debt From pg 129:
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Post by busymom on Dec 23, 2013 22:13:36 GMT -5
Aw, thanks Debt! I don't want you to think DD & my relationship is all rainbows & unicorns, but we do pretty good.
A sNOwstorm is heading here for Christmas Eve & Day. Not happy, as that may change our plans, but we'll take it one day at a time.
Had to postpone the service on DH's car. They were busy & running late, & I didn't want to cancel DS's therapy at the last minute. So, for now, it's scheduled for tomorrow.
The house isn't perfect, but we're basically ready for Christmas. Packages are wrapped. Cards that we deliver in person are all written up. It won't be Currier & Ives, but it will be good enough.
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Post by startsmart on Dec 24, 2013 0:04:03 GMT -5
List Update:drop off books for donation at the librarydrop off items for consignment at store put the Christmas tubs in the garage Watch Elfput gifts and such in the car change the sheets on my bed put away the ironing boardassemble 2 more pieces of my wood project mail books at the post office and check my boxtake out all the trash clean up the kitchen and living room finish last 2 loads of laundryreplace the slip cover on the sofa Want to see what I made? (sorry the pic is so huge!) It's a pretty simple shelf for my bathroom and I'm building a second one when I get back from holiday shenanigans. The stain is a really pretty Jacobean and even though it's not perfect it's exactly what I need here for storage It'll look much better when we have the beadboard and trim installed. I am waiting for the couch cover to dry so I can put it back on and I'll load up the car in the morning (since I still have some packing to do). Got a super late delivery today too from Amazon! The boy sent me a really cool present so of course I opened it early
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Post by snapdragon on Dec 24, 2013 11:45:15 GMT -5
I finished everything for Christmas! I got all the cards done and sent. I wrapped and delivered presents for the side of the family that I will not be celebrating with this year. They only thing I am thinking of doing now is making Chai Egg Nog cookies when I get home. Everyone have a great Christmas!
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Post by Saving4Norway on Dec 24, 2013 12:08:30 GMT -5
T minus 4 hours until 24+/- relatives invade. New this year is the presence of our dog. I hope the people behave.
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Post by busymom on Dec 24, 2013 21:29:50 GMT -5
Well, we visited Mom today. Did all the food prep work for the big family get together on DH's side for tomorrow. (But, it's sNOwing like crazy right now, so we're not sure if we're going anywhere.)
Santamom here has to start loading stockings pretty soon... Ah well, I think it's fun.
Merry Christmas to all you Kids here! Enjoy the season!
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Post by sheilaincali on Dec 25, 2013 8:17:28 GMT -5
Merry Christmas to all of your lovely ladies. I hope everyone has a wonderful day today.
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Post by dogmom on Dec 25, 2013 11:28:41 GMT -5
Merry Christmas to ALL of you. Although I don't post much, you all inspire me so much. Thank you. This morning an Elf came by, and organized, sorted, (Yes, recycled) all of Dogmom's DH "stuff" on the kitchen table. (How on earth did that happen ) Must be Christmas . I guess the Elf was bored (or had baking soda attack from a shelf) Counters are cleaned, pantry shelves emptied, cleaned and reorganized and kitchen floor washed). For a healthy, happy and wonderful year.
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Post by mizbear on Dec 25, 2013 15:27:19 GMT -5
MERRY CHRISTMAS! HAPPY CHANAKUH! HAPPY KWANZAA! HAPPY EID!
HAPPY HOLIDAYS!
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Post by Deleted on Dec 25, 2013 16:22:00 GMT -5
Happy holidays ladies.
I'm sure your Christmas was / is better than ours. It is wonderful to have DS1 back but DD was absolutely possessed, totally horrific, and she completely ruined everybody's day. To say she hated ALL her gifts (except for one, but that was supposedly the wrong size) would be a HUGE understatement.
Now all 4 kids are having dinner with their aunt, my ex's sister. (She is Jewish and does not celebrate Christmas, but she works a lot and it's a rare day off for her. The aunt very kindly invited DS3 too, even though he is not technically her nephew.) As soon as they all left, about 8 hours after DD's protracted outburst, DD apologized to me, by text. Her apology was stilted and insincere, and I know her brothers made her do it. I told her I do not accept her apology, she went too far, and DH and I agree that it would be better for everybody if she finds an apt. If I have to pay for it, I have to pay for it, even if I have to take out a loan.
DH and I feel like we've been run over with a truck. There is just no excuse for acting like a monster. DD has always been difficult but she went WAY too far, and right now I'm thinking Hawaii isn't far enough away. I looked on her school's FB page, last week a guy from her school posted that he is subletting his apt starting in Jan. I wrote to him and I'm hoping his apt is still available.
PS There is ONE good thing that came out of all of this ... I was so upset I decided to finally rake the leaves in the garden. One by one all the boys came out to help me, and we raked up 6 huge bags of leaves in a flash.
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Post by constanz22 on Dec 25, 2013 17:18:15 GMT -5
debt- Sorry you had a crummy Christmas. When I start feeling sorry for myself that I generally am alone most holidays, sometime's that isn't such a bad thing...
How old is your DD now? Her behavior is totally unacceptable, and a little (a lot) extreme. Any chance she has an un diagnosed mental health issue? I work in the mental health field and some of the behavior you describe really sends up red flags to me. I don't know what the mental health system is like in France, or community support VS stigma, but may be something you could encourage her to look into, since I am pretty sure she is legally an adult now. It definitely seems more extreme than "teenage girl angst".
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Post by sheilaincali on Dec 25, 2013 17:20:27 GMT -5
Debt-- I am so very sorry that DD behaved the way that she did. Unacceptable I think her living somewhere else would be a good idea. I hate the idea of you footing the entire bill but I am a big fan of reducing your stress level.
We got all of the Christmas stuff taken down and put away. I have to work Thursday and Friday and we are having Christmas at my mom's this weekend so I figured taking it down while I had the time today was the way to go.
We had a pretty mellow Christmas. Just the three of us. Presents, normal breakfast, went to see the Hobbit and then came home and packed up the Christmas stuff. That necessitated the cleaning/organizing of the under-stairs storage room so we could pack the Christmas stuff away. Which brings me to my update:
In my car and ready to go to goodwill and the dumpster tomorrow are several bags or items. We are over our goal so far!!!!!
At 2017/2013 items so far. I only counted all the golf balls DH threw out as one item so that tells you how many other things we have going out. Crazy. But super stoked that I made my goal
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Post by busymom on Dec 25, 2013 18:09:43 GMT -5
<HUGS> for Debt! If people are not happy within themselves, nothing they are given will make them happy. I'm so sorry she made things difficult for your family. If some distance would help your relationship, don't feel guilty about letting her go away. I hope someday she will figure out how to be a happier person.
The weather was a bit iffy, with snow falling off & on, but we made a long drive to one of DH's relatives. The kids had a GREAT time. This relative owns several snowmobiles, & with all of the fresh snow on the ground, even if the kids took a tumble off a "sled", they just got up with big grins on their faces. It was too cold out (the kids had rosy cheeks), but no complaints about the weather from them. They were too busy having fun. Nobody got any expensive presents, but it was just nice to eat, play & visit.
I'm going to be fat & sassy for a week or two, until we eat through all of this holiday food. C'mon over. We've got plenty to share!
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Post by Deleted on Dec 25, 2013 19:01:41 GMT -5
Thank you all ladies.
Constanz, DD is 21. And yes, I DO think she has undiagnosed mental health issues. But she is 21 now, legally an adult, and (as Rukh says) she has had several bouts of therapy since she was a young child, and is not open to any more, at least not at this time. But I'm not sure either. She has also had a very rough time of it, with the crap from her dad. But as others have said, that's not an excuse for today's level of behavior.
The boys' came home from their dad's with very expensive gifts, and as you know, she was not invited. She DOES have a relationship with him now, but his wife doesn't know, and she is still not welcome at their family gatherings. I GET that it is AWFUL for her ... but I refuse to have her take it out on US anymore.
I hate the idea of you footing the entire bill but I am a big fan of reducing your stress level.
Sheila, this is exactly how I (and now DH) feel. If it costs (me) 5K in rent and living expenses for 6 months, so be it.
Also -as a general rule - always accept an apology. Even if you don't forgive - just say - I appreciate the apology. Maybe add - we need to talk at some point but not right now - or some such - if things need to be cleared up at a later date.
Rukh, I agree. This is the first time I have EVER said that to any of my kids, EVER. I agree with you. But she just went too far, and at this point, I just need her out of my house. The fact that DH does too at this point is very telling.
If people are not happy within themselves, nothing they are given will make them happy.
Busy, you are right yet again. I think that she was suffering because it was the first Xmas in 4 years that her BF wasn't here, and because ironically, now that she finally has a vague relationship with her bio-dad, I'm guessing that being excluded from Xmas there was even worse. But, actions have consequences.
Thankfully, the evening ended well (not between DD and I, but in general). On their way back from dinner with their aunt, they stopped to pick up DS2's girlfriend. She loved her present (a bathrobe but she honestly seemed thrilled, both with the gift and the fact that we got her one). We all stayed together for about 1.5h and it took away some of the bad feelings from earlier today.
Tomorrow I need to go to the mall to change the bathrobe I got for DS1's girlfriend, because although DS1 was very sweet about it, apparently his GF will never wear leopard print. So I'm going to try to change it for light grey, which is what I gave DS2's GF. Then we are invited to our best friends' house for Boxing Day. I REALLY don't feel like going anywhere or seeing anyone, but it's out of the question to cancel.
Thanks to all of you for being there. You are kind, lovely, funny ladies, and you rock. I am thankful to all of you for being in my life.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 25, 2013 19:14:28 GMT -5
It was just DD downstairs, so I said to her, you need to spend some time this holiday trying to find an apt. She said, I don't have time, I have too much to do. I said, very quietly, then I'm afraid you're going to have to make the time. Because both of us agree it's better for all of us to find another place to live for now. You're not on the street, and obviously nobody is throwing you out, but you need to find a place, it's better for everyone. She said "yeah right" and rushed upstairs.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 25, 2013 19:16:20 GMT -5
Congrats Sheila!!! You have all worked so hard for this!
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Post by constanz22 on Dec 25, 2013 19:20:47 GMT -5
Debt- I think you are going to need to set some really firm boundaries with DD and be prepared to follow through with whatever consequences you set, otherwise, she is just learning how to bully and manipulate you. Set a date for her to be out and stick to it, even if you have to pay the security deposit and a couple months rent. I don't think you should continue to support her in an apartment. She is 21, time to learn that actions have consequences and if she doesn't have to figure out how to make it on her own, why would she even try?
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Post by Deleted on Dec 25, 2013 19:28:08 GMT -5
Rukh, I'm coming back to what you said. I KNEW there was a chance that DD wouldn't like the purchases. But to say my taste was in the toilet, that DS1 and DS2 get everything they want from their dad, that she's stuck living with a psychopathic mother who never has any money, the freaking HOWLING, was more than I could bear. She could have been the TINIEST BIT gracious about it!!!
Basta. We all have our limits. Today, I finally hit mine.
And one more thing. At Christmas lunch (which DH spent HOURS preparing), she announced, in two years you sell the house, and move to CA to be near me. All five of us looked at her like she had two heads.
HOURS later, I said to her, if you think I am moving to CA, or anywhere else, to be near you with the way you treat us, you are even more clueless than I realized. (I DO realize she said that in an effort to compensate for her attitude.) She was shocked, she said, But we even talked about it, when I was far away. I said, I think that "far away" is the key word here. Because the only time we seem to get along, is when you are "far away".
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Post by Deleted on Dec 25, 2013 19:31:31 GMT -5
Constanz I agree on the first part. But I am prepared to support her financially for six months, until she gets her Bachelor's degree. Partly for her, and partly for me.
I also agree on the idea of the deadline, but that means that *I* have to find her an apt, if she doesn't, because I'm not going to just throw her out, as tempting as it is.
I am PRAYING that this apt is still available. And if it isn't, I will put a post up on that school FB page. And pay the deposit, and the rent, and take her there myself.
I want, I NEED her out, for my own sanity. But, I am willing to pony up financially until she gets her Bachelors degree in June. It's just 6 months. At this point, I am probably doing it more for me, to be honest.
Then, she has 3 options (not mine, but per her school). That letter from her school arrived last Sat, she was away until Monday night. I didn't post about it but we talked about it after she got home Monday night.
The 3 options (again, per her school) are:
- it turns out she is actually in a 5Y Master's program, so the school's assumption is she continues for another 2 years. (I knew it was a 5Y Master's, but I wrongly assumed she'd have to reapply to get into the Master's part of it). She also needs to be accepted based on current grades, and at this point, frankly, I have no idea if she will be or not, since she's only been back at school for one month.
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- if she doesn't want to continue for her Master's (and she doesn't): she stops in June, hopefully gets her Bachelor's, and goes on her merry way
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- (again, if she doesn't want to do a Master's) she stops school in June, but accepts a school placement for a 6-mo MANAGEMENT (as opposed to OPERATIONAL) internship from July to Dec.
She wants to do option 3 (finish school in June hopefully with her Bachelor's, do school Management placement from July through Dec.) In which case she will earn a salary from July to Dec, so I will still only need to support her through June.
All this to say, whatever our relationship, I'm not willing to cut her loose financially 2.5 years into a 3-year degree. Whether she goes to Hawaii, Australia, Timbuktu, or to the moon, and even if she decides she will never speak to me or see me again, *I* need to do what *I* feel is right, so I can sleep at night. And that means paying for her for the next 6 months.
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