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Post by swamp on Nov 20, 2012 12:52:44 GMT -5
Do you believe there is one person out there with whom you are destined to spend the rest of your life?
or do you think you could be reasonably happy with one of several persons with whom you are compatible?
I don't believe in soul mates.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 20, 2012 12:53:21 GMT -5
No.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Nov 20, 2012 12:54:20 GMT -5
I don't believe in soul mates either. I've come across several guys I could have been very happy with in another life. I also would have been quite happy being an old maid.
DH and I happened to cross paths at the right place at the right time.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 20, 2012 12:54:30 GMT -5
Of course I beleive in soul mates.
Loony is mine.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 20, 2012 12:56:10 GMT -5
I am sure I could be happy with a bunch of different people. I'm "friendly"!!! ;D
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Post by Deleted on Nov 20, 2012 12:57:27 GMT -5
Hmmm...I always say Goose is my soul mate, but I don't really believe in only ONE soul mate. I have been in love many times and I could have been happy with any of the ones I truly loved. I call Goose my soul mate because he makes me feel at peace (when he isn't pissing me off ) I know he loves me and I feel safe with him always. Feeling safe is very important to me due to things from my past. But I also find him funny, sexy, handsome, kind, sexy...I wouldn't even want to see if someone could make me as happy as he does.
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Post by swamp on Nov 20, 2012 12:57:29 GMT -5
I think the idea of a soul mate sounds nice.. but I don't really believe there is only one person out there for each person. Unless I'm just saying that because I haven't actually found mine yet... when i hear soul mates, i remember something i saw several years ago when I was at a bar. There was a couple there, they just married, they're both a little older than me, they were probably in their early 30's when they married, so we aren't talking about kids. they were both hammered, but they kept going on and on about them being soul mates, and glad they waited this long to find each other. he cheats on her all the time now. some soul mate.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 20, 2012 12:57:54 GMT -5
No, I don't believe in it. I believe that Nick Markakis (baseball player) could make me as happy as my husband does.
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Post by kgb18 on Nov 20, 2012 12:58:07 GMT -5
I think some people have soul mates. I think my grandfather was my grandmother's soul mate. He died relatively young. She never was interested in anyone else after he passed, even many years later. She loved him and him only.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 20, 2012 12:59:32 GMT -5
I think some people have soul mates. I think my grandfather was my grandmother's soul mate. He died relatively young. She never was interested in anyone else after he passed, even many years later. She loved him and him only. I have someone in my family with a similar story. I just think it is the person's choice not to look for love again.
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Post by chiver78 on Nov 20, 2012 12:59:50 GMT -5
I've always thought so, now I'm not so sure. I always thought that you'd just know when you met them. I also always figured that it'd be someone that you'd be all gooey with (your words, swamp) and all that. now I have to wonder, because there's someone in my life that I dearly as a really close friend. we can finish each other's sentences, know what the other is thinking about pretty much anything, and we'll both pretty much drop whatever we're in the middle of if the other calls in need of an ear or whatever. that said, I'm not all gooey over him, I'm not really attracted to him, but at the same time I can't picture my life without him in it. does that make any sort of sense?
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Post by Deleted on Nov 20, 2012 13:01:46 GMT -5
A crazy ass shit of a bitch likes to tell people that my husband is her soul mate...even though they never dated, never had a fling...etc. She is just a shit of a bitch.
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Post by swamp on Nov 20, 2012 13:01:46 GMT -5
Chiver, yes it does.
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Post by thyme4change on Nov 20, 2012 13:02:05 GMT -5
I can't imagine meeting anyone that would put up with me in the way that DH does. I have wondered what I would have to change to be with someone else. Theoretically, I could be happy with someone else. But, realistically, I don't want to take that chance.
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Post by swamp on Nov 20, 2012 13:03:05 GMT -5
I can't imagine meeting anyone that would put up with me in the way that DH does. I have wondered what I would have to change to be with someone else. Theoretically, I could be happy with someone else. But, realistically, I don't want to take that chance.
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Post by midjd on Nov 20, 2012 13:04:42 GMT -5
I don't believe in them. I mean really, isn't it kind of a depressing thought - that of the 6-odd-billion people on the planet, you can only be truly happy with one other person? And what are the odds of your soulmate actually living in the same country, let alone the same town? Or speaking your language? I do believe I'm much happier with DH than I would be with anyone else. But IMO that doesn't make him my soulmate.
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Post by swamp on Nov 20, 2012 13:05:34 GMT -5
my soulmate is living in a nepalese village.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 20, 2012 13:05:34 GMT -5
I do believe I'm much happier with DH than I would be with anyone else. But IMO that doesn't make him my soulmate. How is that not a soulmate?
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Post by Deleted on Nov 20, 2012 13:07:22 GMT -5
7 billion people on this earth, I really doubt that my wife is the only one I could be happy with. Some hypotheses aren't worth testing though.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 20, 2012 13:08:24 GMT -5
Do you believe there is one person out there with whom you are destined to spend the rest of your life? or do you think you could be reasonably happy with one of several persons with whom you are compatible? I don't believe in soul mates. Yes and no. With all my heart, I believe that DH and I were, in our past lives, together and until I found him in this life, I wasn't happy. All my young years (this life) I just kept yearning for something that I couldn't put my finger on. Now I know why and now that feeling is gone. I know many will scoff at this, but I actually remember being with him in a past life. We were in love, but he chose a career in the military over being married to me. I remember dying at a young age, this after hearing he'd been killed in battle. I came into my now marriage with love, but still an underlining resentment toward him. However, it went away as soon as I put it all together. I know... I tell Goose all the time that I think he killed me in a car accident in our past life. I have no proof other than I think I am going to die every single time I am in a car he is driving. I think your explanation is plausible. I like to believe I have had many lives and that is why living in one place makes me really restless and I feel an overwhelming need to move.
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Post by thyme4change on Nov 20, 2012 13:08:40 GMT -5
Pretty good - given that people are drawn to others that are usually more similiar than different from them.
I'd be pretty unhappy living with a husband that only spoke swahili, and wore a sheet for pants and only ate corn mush.
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Post by Tennesseer on Nov 20, 2012 13:09:34 GMT -5
I believe there are hundreds of people around the world who could be one's 'soul mate'. Other than that, you simply met someone who is/who was a good match with you.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 20, 2012 13:10:39 GMT -5
Hmmm...I always say Goose is my soul mate, but I don't really believe in only ONE soul mate. I have been in love many times and I could have been happy with any of the ones I truly loved. I call Goose my soul mate because he makes me feel at peace (when he isn't pissing me off ) I know he loves me and I feel safe with him always. Feeling safe is very important to me due to things from my past. But I also find him funny, sexy, handsome, kind, sexy...I wouldn't even want to see if someone could make me as happy as he does. Having been married to someone who are so happy with, do you think you'd every get married again, heaven forbid anything should happen to Goose? I honestly can't imagine getting married again. Just the thought of NOT being with him for some reason can make me curl up into a ball and cry. We do not have a perfect marriage, but he is honestly the only person I can see myself ever being married to.
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Post by whoisjohngalt on Nov 20, 2012 13:13:22 GMT -5
My mom says that she couldn't be married to anyone but my Dad. They just fit together. Soulmates? I don't know, but 40 yrs together and they seem to be doing quite well. I am pretty sure it would be super hard for me to find another guy that could tolerate my crap the way my DH does. again, soulmates? I don't know, but something is working between us. Now, if you ask my DH, who is much more romantic and sentimental than me - yeah, he'd tell you we are soulmates
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Post by midjd on Nov 20, 2012 13:14:20 GMT -5
So your soulmate isn't some random person chosen by a higher power before your birth, but someone with whom you interact and eventually grow to love?
Maybe I'm defining it differently from you guys.
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Post by Miss Tequila on Nov 20, 2012 13:15:39 GMT -5
When I was younger I bought into the "soul mate" bs...I met my husband when I was very young an it just seemed that we were meant to be...I honestly could never imagine being married to anyone else.
Fast forward 10 years to when I wanted to smother him in his sleep....it took a lot of work on both our parts to save our marriage. There were many months when I easily could have seen myself with someone else and if not for my children, I probably would have moved on for good.
Now our marriage is back on firm ground but I am not naive enough to think we are soul mates. I do love him a LOT but I know that if something happened to our marriage, I would be fine.
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Post by chiver78 on Nov 20, 2012 13:16:49 GMT -5
Do you believe there is one person out there with whom you are destined to spend the rest of your life? or do you think you could be reasonably happy with one of several persons with whom you are compatible? I don't believe in soul mates. Yes and no. With all my heart, I believe that DH and I were, in our past lives, together and until I found him in this life, I wasn't happy. All my young years (this life) I just kept yearning for something that I couldn't put my finger on. Now I know why and now that feeling is gone. I know many will scoff at this, but I actually remember being with him in a past life. We were in love, but he chose a career in the military over being married to me. I remember dying at a young age, this after hearing he'd been killed in battle. I came into my now marriage with love, but still an underlining resentment toward him. However, it went away as soon as I put it all together. I know... makes perfect sense to me, lone. but I believe in past lives and our souls moving on to other bodies. I've gotta wonder what my close friend's role was in our past lives. maybe that will help me figure out what's wrong with my head lately.
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Post by thyme4change on Nov 20, 2012 13:17:30 GMT -5
I don't believe in God, destiny or a higher power. So, maybe, by definition I don't believe in soul mates.
I do believe in "the one" - which may or may not be a soulmate, but is "the one" you are going to marry and be happy with. Technically, there might be many people who could be "the one" but you take the one that shows up in the right place at the right time.
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Post by midjd on Nov 20, 2012 13:20:59 GMT -5
Ah, gotcha. Well by those standards I guess our beliefs are pretty close. Words like "soulmate" to me imply pre-destination... could be the ex-Mormonism talking. They also believe that infant souls float around in heaven until they pick their parents, so maybe there are "soul kids" too.
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Post by Opti on Nov 20, 2012 13:22:57 GMT -5
I believe in soul mates but not how popular culture has defined them, i.e. just one person you'll be happy with for the rest of your life in a romantic relationship.
I think soul mates are more about personal growth and may be romantic or just a family or friend relationship. I think I did have one in my life but it wasn't easy and I didn't have gooey feelings from the start either.
I think there are probably many people I could be happy with but it would be different with each of them because the relationship is unique to the two people involved. If I found someone I was happy with now I wouldn't want to look for anyone else. Relationships can be hard but rewarding. I'd love to find someone to live with for the rest of my or their life.
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