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Post by michelyn8 on Nov 20, 2012 13:23:07 GMT -5
Sometimes I wonder if me and my BF are. Other times, I think I'm just a masochist.
ETA: I do believe we live more than one life and that the same souls are with us in each life. I've always felt connected to my BF and him to me - we feel safe with each. There are also others I've met that I have an intense dislike for as soon as I see them and the only reason I can find for those feelings is that we had dealings in a previous life that weren't good.
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Post by chiver78 on Nov 20, 2012 13:23:28 GMT -5
makes perfect sense to me, lone. but I believe in past lives and our souls moving on to other bodies. I've gotta wonder what my close friend's role was in our past lives. maybe that will help me figure out what's wrong with my head lately. Close friend's role? Have you found it to be interfering with your life now? I had no idea you also believed in this. I think I remember my mother in this life being my father in my last. She was just as cold in this life as my father was in my last. I so firmly believe that we travel together. only in that he's recently expressed an interest in more than just being friends, and I'm not. as far as your mom, I think that the spirits and souls closest to us do definitely travel through time closely. hopefully her spirit is learning from this life and she won't be so cold the next time around.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 20, 2012 13:44:50 GMT -5
Would someone here like to be my soul mate?
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Post by swamp on Nov 20, 2012 13:45:35 GMT -5
Would someone here like to be my soul mate? would your wife beat me up?
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Post by Deleted on Nov 20, 2012 13:46:48 GMT -5
Would someone here like to be my soul mate? Are soul mates like jeans? Do you have to try a bunch on for size before finding just the right fit?
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Post by Deleted on Nov 20, 2012 13:51:14 GMT -5
Would someone here like to be my soul mate? would your wife beat me up? I'm going to adapt a quote from The Departed: "You know, if my wife was here, and saw you here sitting with me, let's say she would have a word with me about this. In fact, she'd kill seven guys just to cut your throat, and she could do it. That's maybe something you don't know about Mrs MMC. "
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Post by Deleted on Nov 20, 2012 14:13:34 GMT -5
would your wife beat me up? I'm going to adapt a quote from The Departed: "You know, if my wife was here, and saw you here sitting with me, let's say she would have a word with me about this. In fact, she'd kill seven guys just to cut your throat, and she could do it. That's maybe something you don't know about Mrs MMC. " She sounds lovely.
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Post by raeoflyte on Nov 20, 2012 14:13:51 GMT -5
Yes and no. I don't think soul mates are the one and only person you can ever be happy with, or are necessarily romantic in nature. I also believe in past lives and that we work on issues with certain people in different relationship dynamics in different lives. My sister drives me nucking futs, but there is no denying that she is in my life for a reason.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 20, 2012 14:13:55 GMT -5
Are soul mates like jeans? Do you have to try a bunch on for size before finding just the right fit? LOL! ;D Well, if that's the case, the first pair I tried on fit. They are very loose, soft, well-worn and comfortable. Aww..see they got better with age eh?
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Post by Deleted on Nov 20, 2012 14:15:21 GMT -5
I think that the term Soul Mates implies that you are perfectly mated and everything in your relationship is perfect. In reality all relationships require work and are never without their issues.
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Post by movingforward on Nov 20, 2012 14:21:15 GMT -5
I don't really believe in soul mates; however, my parents seemed to be a perfect match for one another. They often said they wanted to make it to their 60th anniversary and then go out of this world together. My father was completely devastated when mom passed away and seeing how he was without her was almost unbearable. They met when they were 15 and my dad claims it was love at first sight.
Personally, I couldn't imagine being attached to another person the way they were attached to one another but I guess it worked for them.
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Post by Opti on Nov 20, 2012 14:21:51 GMT -5
I think that the term Soul Mates implies that you are perfectly mated and everything in your relationship is perfect. In reality all relationships require work and are never without their issues. If you read any of the decent books on it the consenus is this will never ever happen with a true Soul Mate. A true Soul Mate pairing is about both people learning and growing. Because of that it may be messier and bumpier than most love matches implied in books, movies, and even RL.
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Post by swamp on Nov 20, 2012 14:24:02 GMT -5
Are soul mates like jeans? Do you have to try a bunch on for size before finding just the right fit? LOL! ;D Well, if that's the case, the first pair I tried on fit. They are very loose, soft, well-worn and comfortable. I don't think I'd be real happy if DH called me loose.........
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Post by shanendoah on Nov 20, 2012 14:25:21 GMT -5
I believe in soul mates, but not in the traditional definition. I believe that some couples relationships grow into them being soul mates. By the time my Nana died (after 65+ years of marriage) she and Papa were definitely soul mates. But I don't think there is one person, pre-destined, out there that you will have no choice but to love and you won't really be happy if you don't find them. But then, I'm married to a man who won't say "forever", so obviously, traditional romance isn't high on my list. (Instead of saying he'll love me forever, he says he'll love me for the forseeable future.)
I did have a friend say once, when we were in our early 20s, that he was considering going bi-sexual, because if there really was only one person out there for you, why would you ignore half the planet in looking for that person?
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Post by Opti on Nov 20, 2012 14:25:40 GMT -5
They have surgery for that.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 20, 2012 14:26:16 GMT -5
LOL! ;D Well, if that's the case, the first pair I tried on fit. They are very loose, soft, well-worn and comfortable. I don't think I'd be real happy if DH called me loose......... It is his problem, not yours.
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Post by Reckless Roselia on Nov 20, 2012 14:26:49 GMT -5
Do you believe there is one person out there with whom you are destined to spend the rest of your life? or do you think you could be reasonably happy with one of several persons with whom you are compatible? I don't believe in soul mates. Yes, till death do us apart...rare it is but there are couples that believe they are meant for one another. It's very romantic...they call themselves 'soul mates'.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 20, 2012 14:28:47 GMT -5
I don't think I'd be real happy if DH called me loose......... It is his problem, not yours.
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Post by thyme4change on Nov 20, 2012 14:29:02 GMT -5
Have you read the book "My name is memory" by Ann Brashares? I liked the book, but I wasn't happy with the ending. But, it might be a fun read for you.
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Post by Reckless Roselia on Nov 20, 2012 14:29:32 GMT -5
Yeh, that is indeed one way to look at it.
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Post by raeoflyte on Nov 20, 2012 14:30:26 GMT -5
Personally, I couldn't imagine being attached to another person the way they were attached to one another but I guess it worked for them. My grandmother is going through this now, and while I give her a complete pass because of her upbringing and generation (and really grandpa *was* a totally awesome guy), I have thought of it as a wake up call to have a life outside of my spouse. You will always grieve, but I hope that if that happens to me that I will be able to move forward and live the rest of my life to its fullest.
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Post by thyme4change on Nov 20, 2012 14:30:40 GMT -5
I tried on a few before I found that ones that fit just right.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 20, 2012 14:32:32 GMT -5
I tried on a few before I found that ones that fit just right.
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Post by swamp on Nov 20, 2012 14:34:33 GMT -5
I tried on a few before I found that ones that fit just right. I think i tried on the whole store
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Post by movingforward on Nov 20, 2012 14:36:41 GMT -5
I still have dreams sometimes about a guy I dated in high school. I don't believe he is my soul mate but he sure does pop in and out of my subconscious mind. I will go many months without thinking about him once and then all of the sudden I will have a dream about him and he will stay on my mind for a few days. He lives thousands of miles away from me and the last I knew he was engaged. I don't see us ever being together but I find it really odd that after 20 yrs he is still in my brain.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 20, 2012 14:37:55 GMT -5
DH is my best friend. I don't believe in soul mates because that implies a lack of work or compromise on characteristics, that it's just fate or something. At the same time I can't imagine someone more perfect for me.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 20, 2012 14:38:20 GMT -5
I tried on a few before I found that ones that fit just right. I think i tried on the whole store Did you shop at White House Black Market?
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Post by Tiny on Nov 20, 2012 14:38:59 GMT -5
I don't believe in 'soul mates' - someone I'm destined to be with. I've also never managed to coordinate being in love with someone at the same time they were in love with me Now that I'm older and have seen lots of couples getting thru life - I find that the couples that are committed to each other - well it's alot more than 'love' that gets them thru it and keeps them together. I think there's alot of different facets to the 'love' we feel for other people-- even our one and only. I don't think any of the long term couples (some married 25 plus years) were 'destined' to be together. I do think that some of the couples are still truely in love (and I envy them quietly - and have observed that they put alot of 'work' into their marriage/continuing love) while some of the couples are simply "comfortable" (seem to get by and tolerate each other). There's also two or three couples that seem to be "doing it for the Gipper" = for the kids, because they can't think of something better to do, out of obligation and duty, there's a hint of resentment in these relationships.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 20, 2012 14:40:10 GMT -5
I still have dreams sometimes about a guy I dated in high school. I don't believe he is my soul mate but he sure does pop in and out of my subconscious mind. I will go many months without thinking about him once and then all of the sudden I will have a dream about him and he will stay on my mind for a few days. He lives thousands of miles away from me and the last I knew he was engaged. I don't see us ever being together but I find it really odd that after 20 yrs he is still in my brain. Hum. Have you ever thought of trying to contact him? Isn't that what FB is for?
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Post by Opti on Nov 20, 2012 14:42:46 GMT -5
Almost40, according to dream interpretation theory very often when you dream of someone it is about what they represent to you. The basic theory is most of your dreams are simply about different aspects of yourself and that the people we see in the dream represent those aspects. He could represent almost anything like a path not taken that shouldn't be or whatever.
FWIW.
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