High school reunion

[moxie]

We had quite a few who were divorced at the five year reunion.

[swamp]

May 22, 2012 14:52:42 GMT -5 @moneyjenny82 said:

May 22, 2012 14:48:40 GMT -5 swamp said:

All the more reason to go and catch up with them.

"oh, you bartend AND bag groceries? And you and your husband live in a studio?.... Oh, it's really your parents' basement? And you have a 10 and 8 year old? Wow, you are truly blessed!"

And don't snort when you say it and you'll be golden.

[moxie]

We did have one guy though...a total nerd who I wouldn't have looked at twice in hs...he looked like a freakin' male model at the five year! WOW!! I couldn't believe it!

[moxie]

"And don't snort"

<Occasional snorter. Not near as bad as Chrissy on "Three's Company" though.

[Miss Tequila]

"in my class, the people who really loved HS were the people you knew were never going to do any better than that time. And I was right about most of them. "

I disagree wtih this...I LOVED high school...it was one huge party to me. I had a ton of friends and had a blast in school. Granted, after I graduated I did have to get serious about life...and I did and managed to become a fairly successful adult. Life is even better now than it was then....honestly, there isn't one thing I would change about high school or my life since. Maybe I'm the exception??

I didn't go to my 10 year because I had just had a baby and was fat...hey, I admit that I'm shallow!lol I went to my 20th and had an awesome time. I am no longer the mean bitch that I was in high school. One of my good friends now is a girl that I tormented in high school. Hell, maybe she is plotting her revenge on me....

[movingforward]

There was a "mean girl" who was on cheerleading squad with me (yes, I was a cheerleader but not a mean girl ) and she used to make fun of anyone who was overweight behind their backs and to their face. My BFF in HS was overweight so it used to make me extremely mad when she would do this. When I went back to my 10 yr reunion this girl had gained a ton of weight and to make things even better she had dropped out of college her freshman yr and was then working a Bed, Bath and Beyond. Karma really is sweet sometimes. I am not sure what she is doing now as I have not looked her up or have any desire to do so...

[midjd]

It's weird, a friend of mine from a different school district complains about how everyone she went to high school with is having kids, but my class seems relatively low on the kids thus far.

Did a lot of your classmates go to college? I've noticed that most of my HS classmates have 2-3 kids by now, but hardly any of my college classmates have kids yet, and NONE of my law school classmates do (at least the ones with whom I've kept in contact).* I'm thinking it has to have something to do with the years spent in college vs. the work force.

It's been kind of funny to see the progression, though - 6-8 years ago, everyone from HS was getting married, 5 years ago everyone from HS was having kids, and now they're all getting divorced.

*Some of my college/law school classmates already had kids while we were in school, but I don't know of many from college or any from law school who have had their first kid since we graduated.

[Miss Tequila]

"There was a "mean girl" who was on cheerleading squad with me (yes, I was a cheerleader but not a mean girl ) and she used to make fun of anyone who was overweight behind their backs and to their face. My BFF in HS was overweight so it used to make me extremely mad when she would do this. When I went back to my 10 yr reunion this girl had gained a ton of weight and to make things even better she had dropped out of college her freshman yr and was then working a Bed, Bath and Beyond. Karma really is sweet sometimes. I am not sure what she is doing now as I have not looked her up or have any desire to do so... "

That's why I didn't go to my 10 year!lol I had literally just given birth but considering I gained over 40 lbs during my pregnancy it took me a good 6 months to get back to my pre-pregnancy shape...no way was this former "mean girl" showing up looking fat!lol

You also have to realize that just becuase a person was a bitch in high school doesn't mean they still are. I am NOTHING like I was in high school. Just like hte girl I used to tormen is no longer the wall flower with big glasses who used to take my abuse. People do grow up...at least some of us do

[moxie]

I have margarita mix but no tequila in the house...can I get some help here? ;D

[movingforward]

"I disagree wtih this...I LOVED high school...it was one huge party to me. I had a ton of friends and had a blast in school. Granted, after I graduated I did have to get serious about life...and I did and managed to become a fairly successful adult. Life is even better now than it was then....honestly, there isn't one thing I would change about high school or my life since. Maybe I'm the exception??"

I loved high school as well. I have many fond memories of both HS and college. At the same time I was always content to move on though...

I do find that a lot of people didn't care for HS though so maybe we are the exception.

[Deleted]

I went to my 5th because I was 5 hours away, and then didn't return till last year, which was our 30th. What motivated me to go, even though it was a 2-hour flight from here, was the FaceBook page- I got a good idea of what a lot of people were up to. HS was not the best part of my life; I was the last person picked for teams in gym class, I couldn't flirt, and I had very geeky interests. I could see from FB that some of the really popular people in HS had done well, some hadn't done well, and the same for those of us who blended into the woodwork.

I had a great time. Really. Some of the women who had been popular turned out to be really nice and I had a great time catching up with them. The Class President, a lawyer, was between jobs and had a faded-beauty wife who was sullen and appeared to be drinking too much. I felt sorry for him- he's a nice guy. The woman who ALWAYS wanted to be a doctor- is a doctor. I found it interesting that quite a few local people didn't make it, but then the crowd that shows up are usually the ones who feel good about where they are in life.

The rental car assigned to me was a lime-green Ford Fiesta- probably the punishment for refusing to upgrade to a convertible when I picked the car up at the airport. I made sure to point it out to everyone when we gathered in the parking lot of the local winery and we had a good laugh.

We had such a great time that someone suggested a 60th birthday blast next year. I'll be there.

[moxie]

I wonder if my husband would be as bored at mine as I was at his. I knew maybe two or three people at his...a few guys who were in/at our wedding, but that's it. The last one, I told him to go without me and have FUN! So, that is what he did. Few turned up anyways.

[movingforward]

May 22, 2012 15:08:53 GMT -5 @moxie said:

I wonder if my husband would be as bored at mine as I was at his. I knew maybe two or three people at his...a few guys who were in/at our wedding, but that's it. The last one, I told him to go without me and have FUN! So, that is what he did. Few turned up anyways.

Yeah, I felt kind of bad for the spouses that were at my 10 yr. They looked bored out of their minds.

[moxie]

It really is more fun to go alone cuz I would feel bad if I left hubby sitting alone at a table while I mingled with peeps. I think he said he would probably skip mine...I would probably try to go with an old girlfriend...I wouldn't want to go solo...awkward.

[sheilaincali]

I skipped my 10 year and 15 year- no one I liked was attending either one. My 20 year is in 2014 so I might go to that. DH's 20 year was last year and he didn't go to it.
Facebook ruined the urge to go to the reunions- like others have said- I already know what's going on in most everyone's life anyway.

My DS is in the same grade/school as the kids of 5 or 6 other people I graduated with. Several are in my same basic industry and we all work for our dads so I deal with them during the work week. I meet a few others for lunch regularily so that's about all the "catching up" I feel have any real desire to do.

[moxie]

My hs reunions amount to meeting at a bar/club for drinks/dinner and a DJ playing songs from back in the day. Nothing special... I think they ask for like $40.

[muttleynfelix]

I do find that a lot of people didn't care for HS though so maybe we are the exception.

I didn't necessarily like high school, but i didn't hate it either. I just didn't really fit in. THat said, anyone who says high school is the best days of their life is missing out. There are good parts about it, but to me all the good parts were even better in college (plus being able to legally drink). But their are good parts about being a grown up too. The hard part for me was that I had known about a 1/3 of our class since we were 3 years old. I knew 90% of my class from 5th grade. If you peed your pants during 3rd grade (yes Mark, I am talking about you), everyone remembered. If you didn't have a pad for your first period in 8th grade, everyone knew and remembered (yeah, that was me).

[moxie]

"Facebook ruined the urge to go to the reunions"

^You mean because you can look up those old classmates you are interested in chatting with/catching up with? I don't do Facebook...never have.

[zibazinski]

;D

[midjd]

Yeah, I was surprised that ours seems to be free - of course, the guy who is organizing it is the son of the person who organizes the festival we're attending, so that probably helps. Gate entry is usually $20 for the weekend. They're asking for donations for the tent rental, and I think we're on our own for food/booze, but it should be pretty cheap. And my whole family goes to the festival every year, so if the reunion is too awful we can just move a few trees over.

I was expecting the worst, considering the afterparty for our prom cost something like $80pp back in 2002!

[moxie]

"I didn't necessarily like high school, but i didn't hate it either."

Same here. I liked everyone and got along with everyone, but I can't say as I was devastated to be graduating and moving on. I worked in hs and college and studied, so I was plenty busy. I loved high school football and boys basketball though. Good times, good parties, and GUYS.

[michelyn8]

May 22, 2012 14:31:54 GMT -5 swamp said:

I went to both my 10 year and 20 year reunions, and I was on the planning committees. I was in charge of tracking people down.

Both were entertaining, I like catching up with people.

Two years ago, there was an 80's group reunion and everyone who graduated in the 1980's was invited. I liked that even better because I got to see people that were not in my class but I haven't seen in ages.

I skipped my 10th but helped organize and attended my 20th. We didn't have a 25th because no one was really willing to step forward to be responsible for it. There is a group of gals from the reunion committee who get together whenever the one who lives out of state comes home for visits but its always so last minute I either don't feel like going or just plain can't.

There are two FB groups I'm part of - one is for those who graduated during the 80's and another that is one of those You know you are from Whoville if groups. Between those and being FB friends with most of my class, I'm able to keep up with who is doing what.

There is one mega reunion planned that I'm a bit peeved about simply because of the cutoff for attendance. Its for graduates who attended from when our high school was first started (Class of 1961) to those who were in Class of 1985. I was Class of 1986 but all my siblings graduated in the 1970's. I don't know who chose the cutoff but I just feel they should have carried it through 1989, especially since there was just a decade reunion for the classes of the 1970's a year or two ago. Its not like everyone who ever graduated would attend so I would think the venue they chose to hold it at would still accomodate those few extra years of classmates. But I'm assuming whoever chose the cutoff did so because the class of 1985 were freshman the year they were seniors and they don't really know anyone beyond that.

ETA: yes, I'm being whiny. Its not like my HS years were all that great anyway.

[moxie]

Hi zib.

[moxie]

College was fun...disco dancing and all. ;D

[The J]

I didn't go to my 10th. It wasn't anything formal -- people were really lax about planning it. My close friends from high school I'm still in touch with and see pretty regularly. There were a few people I would've like to see at the reunion to catch up with, but they weren't going, so I had no incentive whatsoever to go.

[Firebird]

Did you go to yours? What type of event? Fun, boring, awful?

Aw HELL TO THE NO. I have zero plans of attending my reunion; I went to school with way too many overachievers who are now doing amazing and fascinating things with their lives (thanks to the miracle of Facebook, I know this for a fact and I can't just attend on the blind hope that maybe things didn't work out for them after all*) whereas I'm settling into my boring old predictable life.

Don't get me wrong, I LIKE my boring old predictable life but it's just not as exciting as "Oh I'm the editor of a magazine in NYC" or "Yeah, Wicked is still in pre-production but I'll be playing Elphaba."

*Hmm... that perhaps sounded a tad bitchy.

[Deleted]

May 22, 2012 15:13:14 GMT -5 @moxie said:

It really is more fun to go alone cuz I would feel bad if I left hubby sitting alone at a table while I mingled with peeps. I think he said he would probably skip mine...I would probably try to go with an old girlfriend...I wouldn't want to go solo...awkward.

I left DH at home with his blessings. He had no ties to the area at all. I didn't find it the least bit awkward to be there on my own- quite a few people were, either because they were single or widowed, or for the same reason I did.

As For the FaceBook impact, I was actually more interested in going after I got a better idea of how everyone turned out. If the popular girls had all grown up into snarky Real Housewives types, I probably would have stayed home.

[Firebird]

I disagree wtih this...I LOVED high school...it was one huge party to me. I had a ton of friends and had a blast in school. Granted, after I graduated I did have to get serious about life...and I did and managed to become a fairly successful adult. Life is even better now than it was then....honestly, there isn't one thing I would change about high school or my life since. Maybe I'm the exception??

I hate you Okay not really (this IS a thread about high school, you know!) but I'm very jealous. I had a godawful high school experience for the most part. I would have loved to have one like you describe.

[Miss Tequila]

Aww, I'm sorry FB It's unfortunate that not everyone has a good high school experience.

[Firebird]

Like muttley, it was mostly because I didn't fit in. I did well academically and I had a decent number of friends but I felt like I was suffocating the entire time. The idea of going away to college helped me get up in the morning.

In retrospect, I think the problem was that I didn't drink enough