Zaire All About Nothing Journal

[ZaireinHD]

As said

Mar 19, 2012 8:42:09 GMT -5 ZaireinHD said:

Mar 19, 2012 8:33:59 GMT -5 @rj said:

Thanks for bringing this to the front. I hope you now understand

that you're protected, can say what you want, follow me around, being sarcastic as you want towards me?
I sure do! as it was just made clear to me.
I'm wrong for trying to stop it.
It's a public forum and people can say and do as they feel directed towards me.
If I don't want the feedback OR can't handle the feedback

get thicker skin Zaire or don't post or use the ignore.
you're a model member Rick

[ZaireinHD]

Mar 19, 2012 8:52:24 GMT -5 @rj said:

Z you still don't understand do you. What you don't understand is you post your life on here and people comment. If you do not want the comments then quit posting. You have told so many stories even you cant keep them straight. How do you expect anyone else to.

looks to me like you just said for me to stop posting?
I've already been told
BRB.....

[ZaireinHD]

Mar 17, 2012 21:23:48 GMT -5 @rj said:

You seem to be more on top of things than most, Take a look at Zs thread. He ius even told but chooses to ignore

[ZaireinHD]

Dang -IT
can't find the post I'm thinking of ??
I thought it was in this thread?
well ...actually it could be anywhere at this point
I have to think where to find them

[Green Eyed Lady]

Mar 19, 2012 9:08:47 GMT -5 ZaireinHD said:

Mar 19, 2012 8:52:24 GMT -5 @rj said:

Z you still don't understand do you. What you don't understand is you post your life on here and people comment. If you do not want the comments then quit posting. You have told so many stories even you cant keep them straight. How do you expect anyone else to.

looks to me like you just said for me to stop posting?
I've already been told
BRB.....

See, Zaire? You accuse others of not reading/understanding what you are posting but you are deliberating misinterpreting what others post.

Rick did not say you shouldn't post. He said "IF YOU DO NOT WANT COMMENTS then quit posting."

If you wish for people to truly read and try to understand your posts, you are going to have to give others the same consideration. This is about the 10th time I've seen you DELIBERATELY misinterpret someones post and about the 10th time I've seen you say that you've been told to stop posting.

You aren't being honest, Zaire. If this type of dishonestly permeates into the rest of your life, I'm not surprised you are at such an impasse.

[ZaireinHD]

Mar 19, 2012 9:15:48 GMT -5 @rj said:

Mar 19, 2012 9:08:47 GMT -5 ZaireinHD said:

looks to me like you just said for me to stop posting?
I've already been told
BRB.....

You really dont understand what you read do you?

WHAT??
that's what I'm looking for
the post(s) that has already answered your comment.

[ZaireinHD]

I'm having trouble finding the post(s) to answer that GEL

[Green Eyed Lady]

Mar 19, 2012 9:21:16 GMT -5 ZaireinHD said:

I'm having trouble finding the post(s) to answer that GEL

You dont have to find the posts. You have, in the last two days, said at least 10 times (that's an estimate) that someone is telling you to stop posting. And not one of those times have you been told to stop posting. You've been advised that IF YOU DON"T WANT COMMENTS...stop posting. That isn't the same thing and saying you were told to stop posting is dishonest.

I wish you luck, Zaire. Most of all, I wish your gf luck. I hope you do the right thing and let her find a new life and that you do the same. Take care.

[ՏՇԾԵԵʅՏɧ_LԹՏՏʅҼ]

Everybody - and I mean EVERYBODY - stop the madness.

Zaire, you posted some quoted messages last night that are from months ago, from entirely different threads long before this one was even started, and the names of the people you quoted are showing as numbers, so there's no way of een knowing who said it, what thread it came from, or what that thead was even about. They had nothing to do with this thread at all.

I'm going to say this once more. Read carefully:

When you put your personal life on here, it becomes public business. People are going to comment. You said a few times yesterday you want feeback. It isn't always going to be pretty or what YOU want to hear. Some people have told you several times that what you're doing (relationship wise) is wrong. Since you asked for comments, they're telling you what they think. You change your story from day to day. Months ago you said it was over and you're getting your own place when the lease is up. Then you say she's moving with you. Then a month later, you're going to live for YOU and make yourself happy. Then you're back talking about your live-in while also asking about how to meet women.

The same with your job. You come here to complain about every little thing, and when people tell you how to make it more easy and organized , you get upset and ignore their suggestions.

As long as you make your life an open book here, you're going to get comments. You cannot dictate that everybody only say nice things. That's not going to happen.

If you don't want to read someone's comments either don't share so much personal info, or put them on IGNORE, then you won't have to see what they're saying.

And Rick, I'm going to also ask you to back off too. It's not helping.

If this thread gets much more heated, it may have to be locked, and there won't be a new one started - and some people might need a cooling off period.


Is everyone clear?

SL ~ Mod EE

[ZaireinHD]

Mar 19, 2012 10:45:49 GMT -5 ՏՇԾԵԵʅՏɧ_LԹՏՏʅҼ said:

Everybody - and I mean EVERYBODY - stop the madness.
SL ~ Mod EE

Thanks ;D
Let's see who starts back the trouble first?
I can guarantee I will not be me SL!

[weltschmerz]

Mar 19, 2012 6:50:08 GMT -5 @rj said:

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[ Exalt ] Re: Long Term to Dating Again
« Reply #331 on Sept 29, 2011, 10:35am »

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Sept 28, 2011, 7:29am, zibazinski wrote:ONCE you have your own place and are truly single, women will come out of the woodwork.



I've finally learned my expensive lesson about statements like this are NOT to be taken at face value.

2009 I went on vacation to Rio De Janerio on ONLY statements like similar.
"it's a mans paradise"
"ALL the women are beautiful"
"there are...it's difficult to find any fat women"
"US currency is treated like gold"
"because I'm a tall black guy Everyone will think I'm a Rapper or basketball player"
"our 3 star hotel costs the same as there 5 star hotel"
"spending American money women will be all over me"
pfft yea right!
I didn't tell too many people where I was going, so 3 days before I left I found out Portuguese is there language. The Travel agency I went to didn't tell me that!

THANK YOU!!
"Everyone will think I'm a rapper, American money is like gold, and the beautiful women will be all over me."
Yet he denied posting it. I knew I wasn't hallucinating or dreaming.
He even denied bemoaning the fact they speak Portugese there.
I couldn't be bothered to look for the post but I'm glad you did.

[Green Eyed Lady]

Mar 19, 2012 10:45:49 GMT -5 ՏՇԾԵԵʅՏɧ_LԹՏՏʅҼ said:

Everybody - and I mean EVERYBODY - stop the madness.

Zaire, you posted some quoted messages last night that are from months ago, from entirely different threads long before this one was even started, and the names of the people you quoted are showing as numbers, so there's no way of een knowing who said it, what thread it came from, or what that thead was even about. They had nothing to do with this thread at all.

I'm going to say this once more. Read carefully:

When you put your personal life on here, it becomes public business. People are going to comment. You said a few times yesterday you want feeback. It isn't always going to be pretty or what YOU want to hear. Some people have told you several times that what you're doing (relationship wise) is wrong. Since you asked for comments, they're telling you what they think. You change your story from day to day. Months ago you said it was over and you're getting your own place when the lease is up. Then you say she's moving with you. Then a month later, you're going to live for YOU and make yourself happy. Then you're back talking about your live-in while also asking about how to meet women.

The same with your job. You come here to complain about every little thing, and when people tell you how to make it more easy and organized , you get upset and ignore their suggestions.

As long as you make your life an open book here, you're going to get comments. You cannot dictate that everybody only say nice things. That's not going to happen.

If you don't want to read someone's comments either don't share so much personal info, or put them on IGNORE, then you won't have to see what they're saying.

And Rick, I'm going to also ask you to back off too. It's not helping.

If this thread gets much more heated, it may have to be locked, and there won't be a new one started - and some people might need a cooling off period.


Is everyone clear?

SL ~ Mod EE

No. I'm not clear. "Everybody" includes me since I am posting in this thread. Please advise me of which of my posts are "heated" or have violated any of the items in the COC. I will gladly delete them. I was attempting an honest, open and non-confrontive discussion with Zaire. On my part, that was accomplished. I thought that was allowed here.

If there aren't any posts of mine that violate, than I would appreciate an apology and would appreciate it if you not include "everybody" in your arm-sweeping reprimands.

You were in this thread 2 or 3 times last evening, telling people to stop wasting their breath and you were posting emoticons indicating people hitting their heads against a brick wall. That comes much closer to violating the Code of Conduct than anything I have posted as it was a personal attack on another poster. I suspect you are peeved because we didn't stop conversing when you wished us to. To my knowledge, we aren't required to do that as long as we aren't violating any rules.

[ZaireinHD]

See SL?
IMO I shouldn't beeee......punished with a locked thread due ....
well locked tread and can't start a new one....

[Deleted]

I got nothing.

[Green Eyed Lady]

I don't know. I'd like to hear from SL. I don't mind being called on the carpet when I say things I shouldn't and I will glady apologize, delete and graciously accept any time-out decided on. But I didn't do anything wrong and this pisses me off.

[Green Eyed Lady]

Wait...you were wrong once?

[Green Eyed Lady]

Gotta love a man who can admit it!!

[Green Eyed Lady]

Ok then!

[ՏՇԾԵԵʅՏɧ_LԹՏՏʅҼ]

No, GEL - you don't have to delete anything, and you haven't done anything wrong.

All I'm saying is, Zaire's been posting about the same things for months on end. He says he wants to hear other people's comments, but the trouble is, he only wants to hear the nice.

He has to understand that some of the things he's talking about (relationship wise) go against other people's views of what a healthy relationship is. And a lot of you feel the way he views/treats women is wrong, and you're telling him. Then HE gets upset that he's misunderstood (again).

Things are being dragged up from months ago, from entirely different threads, just to prove he said something he's now denying. Some of the quoted text that Zaire posted last night doesn't even have the author's name - just a "Member Number" (whatever that is) - because he's edited it out - so there's no way of knowing who said it, or what thread it even came from.

People's emotions are getting in the way because they think some of the things Zaire is doing are wrong and they're telling him so - and then he's getting defensive, because he thinks what he's doing is perfectly ok.

I suggested to him a couple of times that he write his journal into a document on his computer (like a PRIVATE diary). That way he could get his thoughts out and update it as needed, without having people critique him, and the rest of you wouldn't have to be reading it and getting upset with what he's doing.

But as long as he's going to put it here, he can't complain that some people are going to be upset with what he's doing and tell him so. The trouble is, things will get heated, and then someone has to come and babysit the thread.

I just don't see the point of digging up old crap from other threads just to prove a point - especially when you can't tell where or when that quoted text was posted.

And I'll also add that I think you're just beating a dead horse now.

[ZaireinHD]

ok - I get it
how about I abandon this thread and start a new from scratch SL?

please add your moderator signature to previous post.

Thanks

[ՏՇԾԵԵʅՏɧ_LԹՏՏʅҼ]

It was a personal comment, Zaire, not a moderator directive - GEL asked a question - I answered.

You don't need another thread - you already have this one.

[Deleted]

:(poor horse.

[Green Eyed Lady]

Mar 19, 2012 12:25:49 GMT -5 ՏՇԾԵԵʅՏɧ_LԹՏՏʅҼ said:

No, GEL - you don't have to delete anything, and you haven't done anything wrong.

All I'm saying is, Zaire's been posting about the same things for months on end. He says he wants to hear other people's comments, but the trouble is, he only wants to hear the nice.

He has to understand that some of the things he's talking about (relationship wise) go against other people's views of what a healthy relationship is. And a lot of you feel the way he views/treats women is wrong, and you're telling him. Then HE gets upset that he's misunderstood (again).

Things are being dragged up from months ago, from entirely different threads, just to prove he said something he's now denying. Some of the quoted text that Zaire posted last night doesn't even have the author's name - just a "Member Number" (whatever that is) - because he's edited it out - so there's no way of knowing who said it, or what thread it even came from.

People's emotions are getting in the way because they think some of the things Zaire is doing are wrong and they're telling him so - and then he's getting defensive, because he thinks what he's doing is perfectly ok.

I suggested to him a couple of times that he write his journal into a document on his computer (like a PRIVATE diary). That way he could get his thoughts out and update it as needed, without having people critique him, and the rest of you wouldn't have to be reading it and getting upset with what he's doing.

But as long as he's going to put it here, he can't complain that some people are going to be upset with what he's doing and tell him so. The trouble is, things will get heated, and then someone has to come and babysit the thread.

I just don't see the point of digging up old crap from other threads just to prove a point - especially when you can't tell where or when that quoted text was posted.

And I'll also add that I think you're just beating a dead horse now.

I understand, SL. But that ISN'T all you were saying. What you were saying was that "everybody stop the madness" when not "everybody" was participating in any "madness". You implied you were going to lock the thread and "some people" were going to get a time out.

See, SL? When you make a sweeping comment including "everybody", everybody in the thread feels that it's aimed at them and that isn't fair. I would suggest, in the future, that you out and out name the people you are talking to so there are no misunderstandings.

And YOU may not see the point of digging up old crap from other threads to prove a point, but there is a very important point. I was late to this thread. Zaire was telling me he had never posted the things I was referring to. Those posts were drug up so that I and others could see the descrepancies in what was being posted. To intelligently discuss something, a person needs to know the history. There was a very valid point to bringing up those old posts.

I may be beating a dead horse, SL. I've done it before. But I'm very very concerned with the mistreatment of women and if I have to beat 100 dead horses to get a man to understand he is not treating his lady right, then I'll beat the living hell out of 100 dead horses.

[ՏՇԾԵԵʅՏɧ_LԹՏՏʅҼ]

You can try, GEL, but you probably won't have any luck getting though. You're not alone in thinking what he's doing is wrong.

[ZaireinHD]

Well then again I shouldn't have to ask to start a new thread - other members don't have to ask permission.
But I think I have to ask to start a new journal because IMO of the warning I just received.
But then Ill probably be told no body is saying I can't start a new thread
I agree with you SL and shouldn't have to baby sit threads.
but if I start a new thread follow the COC and don't personal attack in defensive to only what I see as an attack
starting a new Journal with a team of members that should have me on ignore I'll be followed so there is no need to start a new thread
Whew - this is confusing

[femmefatale]

Does a person have a minimium of thread they can start now? I see lots of the same peeps starting new ones daily, all the time.

[ՏՇԾԵԵʅՏɧ_LԹՏՏʅҼ]

Just keep using this one, Zaire. Everything's here in one place. If you start yet another one, you're just going to be jumping back and forth and it's going to be almost identical.

It's all right here already - including what other people have said.

[ZaireinHD]

question:
if I am sitting in person talking to another person telling them a story at work.
The sales guy that was looking for a bigger envelop.
I get a response of
DAM Zaire you're such a jerk you should have just handed him the envelop and not have left it on his desk.

Am I expected to
1 -not reply
2- only say thank you that would have been a good idea if this happens again
3- get defensive reply and say it already happened there is nothing for me to do now
4-something else beyond my comprehension

[ZaireinHD]

Oh Rick - you are sooo funny!!!

;D

[Deleted]

Its not really confusing, I see exactly what is going on here.